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5 Ways Social Media Is Ruining Your Life and What You Can Do Right Now · Motivation study

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  Speaker 1: If you want to be a master, don't be limited
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  Speaker 1: the Being a Remarkable Student series. And today I'm not
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  Speaker 1: gonna talk about a technique. I'm not going to talk
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  Speaker 1: just about a scientific study that helps you to boost
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  Speaker 1: your intelligence or why you need to focus on your
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  Speaker 1: why or anything like that. Because before any of those things,
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  Speaker 1: we need to take a good hard look at one
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  Speaker 1: of the main blocks that most of us have when
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  Speaker 1: it comes to achieving our true potential in life. And
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  Speaker 1: it's not just about how we revise or the specific
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  Speaker 1: ways we learn or anything like that. It's far more simple.
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  Speaker 1: And that thing is social media addiction. Let's be honest.
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  Speaker 1: Many of you are addicted. If you want to be motivated,
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  Speaker 1: if you want to make a difference to the world,
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  Speaker 1: if you want to be a remarkable student, just remove
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  Speaker 1: the obstacles and distractions from your path. So let's understand
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  Speaker 1: together what are five ways that social media addiction is
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  Speaker 1: slowly ruining your life. And the first thing I want
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  Speaker 1: you to realize is the most important. Studies show numerous
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  Speaker 1: times a link between loneliness, anxiety, depression and social media.
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  Speaker 1: As human beings we have fundamental needs to relate and
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  Speaker 1: to belong. And in recent decades with the development of
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  Speaker 1: all these technologies, all of these apps, all of these smartphones,
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  Speaker 1: there is a rapid rise of being able to access
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  Speaker 1: the internet at any given moment, of being able to
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  Speaker 1: communicate at any given moment. And so the way that
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  Speaker 1: we use social media, the way we use the internet
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  Speaker 1: is dramatically changed. And with it, our primal brains They haven't.
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  Speaker 1: Social media platforms are everywhere and they're so, so easy
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  Speaker 1: to access. But staying focused, doing that essay or assignment
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  Speaker 1: you're supposed to do, getting that work done that you're
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  Speaker 1: supposed to do, that stays hard. So let me be clear.
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  Speaker 1: If you have any doubt in your mind, how easy
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  Speaker 1: addiction can be. And I quote this from a study
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  Speaker 1: you can access in the description below. Social media addiction
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  Speaker 1: has been found to be associated with a host of emotional, relational,
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  Speaker 1: health and performance problems. And there's not just one study
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  Speaker 1: I found. There are numerous studies. Studies in 2010, 2011, 2017, 2018.
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  Speaker 1: But I want you to understand the causes, the consequences
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  Speaker 1: of being addicted. And before we move into the remedies,
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  Speaker 1: it's of critical importance that in your quest to being
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  Speaker 1: a remarkable student, you understand you can't minimize this problem.
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  Speaker 1: You cannot heal what you continue to deny. So let's
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  Speaker 1: be honest about our addictions. How often are you using
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  Speaker 1: social media? How often do you unlock your phone to
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  Speaker 1: see if there's a new notification? How often do you
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  Speaker 1: stop yourself from doing that focus task to see what's
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  Speaker 1: going on on your phone? Number two, it's changing your
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  Speaker 1: brain structure quite literally. The way the internet itself and
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  Speaker 1: social media works, it hacks into a bug in your
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  Speaker 1: brain that loves getting short bursts of dopamine, which is
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  Speaker 1: released every time you check a notification, every time you
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  Speaker 1: open the app. And there is a great book called
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  Speaker 1: The Shallows, which shows us exactly how this works. We
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  Speaker 1: are being conditioned to always be reactive, always be waiting
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  Speaker 1: for the next ding, ping or notification from our mobile phones.
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  Speaker 1: There are studies that have been shown, there are programmers
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  Speaker 1: who have openly admitted these apps have been designed by
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  Speaker 1: the same people who design gambling machines in your local casino.
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  Speaker 1: Every time you play on a slot machine, you're waiting
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  Speaker 1: for the next novelty, you're waiting for the next hit
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  Speaker 1: of dopamine. And when you flick your phone down to
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  Speaker 1: refresh your feed, to see the latest post, the latest video.
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  Speaker 1: It is the same thing at play. And over time,
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  Speaker 1: what happens is we lose the ability to develop what
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  Speaker 1: Cal Newport in his book talks about as deep work,
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  Speaker 1: deep focus, where we're spending hours lost in the assignment,
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  Speaker 1: the task that we need to get done. So be
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  Speaker 1: careful the way you use these apps because it's changing
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  Speaker 1: the structure of your brain. Number three, is what Mel
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  Speaker 1: Robbins talks about in her book, The Five Second Rule,
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  Speaker 1: that every time we hesitate on doing something we know
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  Speaker 1: we should get done, we move into what's known as
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  Speaker 1: a spotlight effect, where we hesitate and our brain believes
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  Speaker 1: that there's more of a threat than there actually is.
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  Speaker 1: And so the more we train ourselves to hesitate, the
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  Speaker 1: longer we hesitate for. And if you throw digital media,
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  Speaker 1: social media into this mix, where when you hesitate for
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  Speaker 1: five seconds or more, And you're supposed to sit down
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  Speaker 1: and focus for the next two hours. But you look
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  Speaker 1: at Instagram, YouTube, Facebook, TikTok, whatever your app is. And
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  Speaker 1: then you're lost for half an hour looking at what
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  Speaker 1: other people are doing. And this brings me to point
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  Speaker 1: number four. Unreal expectations of real life. Understand that what
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  Speaker 1: we are getting when we look at people's feeds, when
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  Speaker 1: we look at people's lives... We're getting a perfect filtered
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  Speaker 1: version of somebody else's life, but not the messy behind
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  Speaker 1: the scenes because not everybody is sharing vulnerably and authentically,
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  Speaker 1: but also realize that there are many accounts on social
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  Speaker 1: media that their company's looking to make a profit. Their
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  Speaker 1: company's looking to get paid off of your views and likes.
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  Speaker 1: And so when you judge your own life against the
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  Speaker 1: friend in your class or the colleague at work, How
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  Speaker 1: is that making you feel? Become more aware of how
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  Speaker 1: you talk to yourself, how you react when you're feeding
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  Speaker 1: your mind and your heart with all of these things.
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  Speaker 1: And let's move now to the final point, digital minimalism.
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  Speaker 1: Another great book by one of my favorite authors, Cal Newport.
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  Speaker 1: He says in his book, the more you seek that validation,
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  Speaker 1: the more masters you serve. And that dopamine It messes
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  Speaker 1: with your mind. You seek interaction, but a digital like,
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  Speaker 1: it gives you nothing. You can't compare 30 likes to
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  Speaker 1: 30 seconds of a warm hug from your favorite person
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  Speaker 1: in this world. So you feel empty and you end
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  Speaker 1: up chasing more and more hits. And studies show that
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  Speaker 1: there are links to the brains of drug addicts. and
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  Speaker 1: social media addicts, similar pathways light up in the brain.
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  Speaker 1: And that link alone is enough to warrant a degree
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  Speaker 1: of worry. And so let's talk about where we go
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  Speaker 1: from here. What are the final things that we can
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  Speaker 1: do to ensure that we manage our addiction and we
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  Speaker 1: use it for the greatest good with the most minimal use?
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  Speaker 1: And the first thing that I've done is disable all
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  Speaker 1: notifications so I'm less distracted. I'm less likely to check
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  Speaker 1: When my phone tells me I want to check, tailor
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  Speaker 1: your feeds. This is my favorite tool of all. Follow
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  Speaker 1: uplifting and positive people. You don't have to get rid
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  Speaker 1: of social media. It's not a negative thing, but you
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  Speaker 1: need to be aware of its dangers. Don't follow negative
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  Speaker 1: people or unrealistic lifestyles and celebrities that are posting stuff
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  Speaker 1: that's going to get you distracted in any way, shape
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  Speaker 1: or form. Find people who give you nutrition and not addiction.
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  Speaker 1: On iPhones, you can now set timers to restrict the
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  Speaker 1: amount you look at certain apps per day. One of
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  Speaker 1: the things I also like to do when you're working,
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  Speaker 1: always put your phone out of sight in another room.
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  Speaker 1: That way, you're not going to look at your phone.
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  Speaker 1: You're not going to see the light flashing that there's
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  Speaker 1: another notification working for you. ask yourself, why do I
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  Speaker 1: use social media? Is it because everyone else is using it?
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  Speaker 1: Or is it because it helps me to achieve my goals?
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  Speaker 1: Be intentional. Be a cause, not an effect. So let's
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  Speaker 1: recap on what we've learned in today's video. Number one,
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  Speaker 1: studies show there is a link between social media usage
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  Speaker 1: and depression, anxiety, and loneliness. Number two, every time you
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  Speaker 1: use it, The way your brain works is changing. Number three,
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  Speaker 1: the spotlight effect. It creates hesitation and can feed your
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  Speaker 1: ego in an unhealthy way. where it creates number four
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  Speaker 1: unreal expectations of your life we don't need to look
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  Speaker 1: a certain way we don't need a perfect body like
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  Speaker 1: we may see on our instagram feeds and number five
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  Speaker 1: practice digital minimalism look for the greatest return you can
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  Speaker 1: get for the most minimal use Special thank you to
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