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S2 E2 Choose One Change; · Get It Got It Girl: Midlife Rebuild

• 0:38
  SPEAKER_00: Welcome back.
• 0:42
  SPEAKER_01: Now, if you listen to the last couple episodes, you would know that we have been trying to let go of our pain story, try to figure out who we are.
• 0:54
  SPEAKER_01: And then after that, after you know who you are, now what do you do?
• 1:02
  SPEAKER_01: Knowing yourself is just the beginning.
• 1:05
  SPEAKER_01: Choosing what you do next is where your life starts changing.
• 1:13
  SPEAKER_01: I went over some questions last week.
• 1:16
  SPEAKER_01: And here's some more that I went through.
• 1:19
  SPEAKER_01: What needs to change in your life every day?
• 1:25
  SPEAKER_00: What do you want your life to look like now?
• 1:33
  SPEAKER_00: What are you no longer willing to participate in?
• 1:37
  SPEAKER_01: These are just some questions that helped me to get to where I needed to go.
• 1:44
  SPEAKER_01: What habits are keeping me stuck in my old life?
• 1:50
  SPEAKER_00: I'll offer one up.
• 1:55
  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes looking at old pictures.
• 2:01
  SPEAKER_00: Now I've taken care of that.
• 2:09
  SPEAKER_01: What's one decision that I can make this week that moves my life forward?
• 2:16
  SPEAKER_01: I've been continuing to work on organization.
• 2:20
  SPEAKER_01: It's helping much better.
• 2:22
  SPEAKER_01: I still have a long way to go.
• 2:26
  SPEAKER_01: You know, I'm not asking you to change your whole life this week.
• 2:30
  SPEAKER_01: I'm just asking you to change one thing, one boundary, a habit or a decision.
• 2:40
  SPEAKER_01: One conversation.
• 2:46
  SPEAKER_01: Some of the things that I decided is I want quiet over chaos.
• 2:52
  SPEAKER_01: I'm no willing, I'm not willing to have petty arguments over things that really don't matter in life.
• 3:08
  SPEAKER_00: I want to have fun again.
• 3:11
  SPEAKER_01: And I had so much fun when I went to Wisconsin with my other family.
• 3:19
  SPEAKER_01: I want to have fun again.
• 3:21
  SPEAKER_01: I want to bring back the fun.
• 3:25
  SPEAKER_01: I'm not even asking you to come up with a complete life plan.
• 3:28
  SPEAKER_01: Just have some movement.
• 3:31
  SPEAKER_01: I know we all get stuck.
• 3:36
  SPEAKER_01: But movement is what helped me.
• 3:42
  SPEAKER_01: You figured out who you are, or maybe you're still doing that.
• 3:47
  SPEAKER_01: And once you do figure that out, it's time to start living like that person.
• 3:51
  SPEAKER_01: Her.
• 3:51
  SPEAKER_01: Who are you?
• 3:55
  SPEAKER_01: Don't be fake.
• 3:57
  SPEAKER_01: Be more real.
• 4:00
  SPEAKER_01: Just letting you know.
• 4:02
  SPEAKER_01: Don't be surprised if some people look at you like, who the heck are you?
• 4:07
  SPEAKER_01: Remember, you've been hiding that person.
• 4:10
  SPEAKER_01: You've been hiding the fun sides of you just to fit in or please other people.
• 4:18
  SPEAKER_01: Bring you back out again.
• 4:21
  SPEAKER_01: Whoever likes it, those are your people.
• 4:26
  SPEAKER_01: They don't like it, that's okay.
• 4:36
  SPEAKER_01: And what was the other thing I chose that I am?
• 4:38
  SPEAKER_01: I've chosen quite a few things.
• 4:40
  SPEAKER_01: I'm just sharing a few off of my list.
• 4:46
  SPEAKER_01: The number one thing that I decided for myself.
• 4:50
  SPEAKER_01: I don't want to explain the rest of my life about my past.
• 4:55
  SPEAKER_01: I don't want to keep talking about it.
• 4:57
  SPEAKER_01: Not because I'm in denial, but because I've already gone through that.
• 5:01
  SPEAKER_01: I've already shared my story.
• 5:03
  SPEAKER_01: The only thing is, I would share a book about all the podcasts that I've done so far, and that would include my story.
• 5:11
  SPEAKER_01: And then I would like to write a book about right now, like what it's like to be in the thick of it.
• 5:18
  SPEAKER_01: Because I almost found myself pretending, oh, I'm on the other side now.
• 5:22
  SPEAKER_01: I'm ASS, ready to go.
• 5:25
  SPEAKER_01: Let's go.
• 5:27
  SPEAKER_01: And that wasn't a hundred percent true.
• 5:30
  SPEAKER_01: Like she's in there.
• 5:31
  SPEAKER_01: Oh, she's coming back.
• 5:33
  SPEAKER_01: I feel 50 to 75%.
• 5:36
  SPEAKER_01: I'm still not a hundred yet.
• 5:38
  SPEAKER_01: I'll get there.
• 5:41
  SPEAKER_01: And the way I started getting there was by letting go of the pain.
• 5:48
  SPEAKER_01: And I started with counseling, therapy.
• 5:51
  SPEAKER_01: I'm not a therapist.
• 5:52
  SPEAKER_01: So if you need a therapist, it's okay.
• 5:55
  SPEAKER_01: I even had to fire my first therapist because she did not allow me to be honest.
• 6:01
  SPEAKER_01: If I was honest, I could feel the judging, I could see her face.
• 6:07
  SPEAKER_01: And that's okay.
• 6:09
  SPEAKER_01: And I have no shame about going there.
• 6:13
  SPEAKER_01: We do the hard work to get to the other side.
• 6:18
  SPEAKER_01: I did also include any of the crisis numbers that you might need on the bottom of my podcast.
• 6:28
  SPEAKER_01: So who are you?
• 6:30
  SPEAKER_01: And now that you know who you are, what are some of the things you're gonna do?
• 6:37
  SPEAKER_00: What is the one thing that you can do?
• 6:45
  SPEAKER_01: You can do you can know what you're done doing.
• 6:49
  SPEAKER_01: But it's more important to know what you want more of.
• 6:59
  SPEAKER_00: And if you don't have it figured out, that's okay.
• 7:02
  SPEAKER_00: We're figuring it out together.
• 7:05
  SPEAKER_00: Come figure yours out with me.
• 7:13
  SPEAKER_00: Thank you, and you have a great week.
• 7:15
  SPEAKER_00: This is get it got it, girl.