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Journaling your way to peace when dealing with change · I Care About You

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  Hello beautiful souls, and welcome back to I Care about yout,
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  the podcast where we really think about
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  who we are and how we can live life more fully and more
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  present. And how can we move through the things that
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  happen in our lives that we're not so excited about
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  or that are really challenging or devastating or hard?
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  How can we move through those things, flow through them fully,
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  experiencing them as we should, not bypassing them, but exploring
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  them and using them as tools for
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  self growth. We do journaling here on this channel
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  and the journal prompt today is really interesting. It's from my
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  new book which is due to come out next year, called the Authentic
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  Self Project. And this is from month four.
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  And it's how can I find stability in my life when
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  things feel unstable? How can I find stability in
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  my life when things feel unstable? I think
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  that this unstable energy of the universe is so
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  present for us right now. People are feeling it everywhere
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  and it's coming out in all different kinds of ways.
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  People who aren't recognizing it as the energy of the
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  universe right now or the energy in their community or
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  in their environment, it's coming
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  out kind of sideways, right? So this energy is kind of coming out
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  as like for example, recently at work somebody threw
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  me under the bus for something that was so weird and
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  I was really pissed at them. But I started thinking about
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  like they're grappling with this unstable energy that
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  they have and they're not aware enough to see that it's that.
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  And instead they are lashing out in all
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  these different ways. And I know this is true a lot for parents.
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  I know right now their kids are kind of lashing out and the
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  parents are just totally perplexed as to why that's even happening.
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  And people are getting in arguments that don't make sense.
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  And then they're thinking, why is this happening? Why is this person being this way
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  or acting like this? And a lot of it just has to do
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  with the energy that's around us that's unstable, that's kind
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  of intransient, that's in a shift into the next thing.
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  I know a lot of you out there feel
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  this, myself included in that. There's a shift happening
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  in a lot of ways. Sometimes the energy comes out
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  for me in complete frustration of a tool that
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  I use gets a brand new dashboard, and now I have to learn
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  that. And I'm at capacity with learning things about the
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  computer because so much of what I do evolves
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  around all of these different platforms. And it gets
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  frustrating to have to constantly be Learning something that
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  I'm not psyched about, but yet I have
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  to use for whatever it is that I'm doing. And I
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  find that frustration kind of comes out sideways for me during that time.
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  And really, all this change with what's happening
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  in the world is mirroring. It's being mirrored in
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  our technology. I don't know if you've noticed,
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  but since the new year, this was a big frustration for me. Since the new
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  year, I have noticed that there's so much more
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  double authentication going on. There's so much
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  more changing of everything. My password protector, some of
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  the passwords don't work anymore. And since I don't
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  know what the passwords are, it's creating a lot of frustration just to sign
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  into things. And there's just so much
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  like, oh, then I have to create a pin, and now I have to do
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  this. And, oh, I need to get this app where I can authenticate everything
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  which I have for work, but I've never had to do for myself. And so.
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  And all these platforms changed within the new year.
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  Just the look, the visuals and what they offer and what they don't. And it
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  was even having challenges with the recording
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  video for this podcast. When I do it exactly
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  the same every time, all of a sudden, there was shifts.
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  The. The platform that I used to record this program was not recording
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  the video for whatever reason, just so much. And I realized
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  that the Internet and all the things I use associated
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  with the web are just mirroring this chaos
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  that we're feeling in the world. This shift, this change, this energy
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  unstability that's happening. And that's what kind of brought me to
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  bring this particular prompt to
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  all of you today. Because if you're tuning into this,
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  you are part of the community that's feeling the energy.
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  You might not have tapped into. Like, yes, okay, there's a lot
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  of change going on right now, and I feel
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  it. You might have just been feeling frustration in so many ways and
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  so many things. And, yeah, it's here.
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  It's presenting itself. You're feeling it. There's a lot of
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  change. Life is really fast right now, and it requires
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  change all the time, consistently,
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  everywhere. Where we felt like once we could count on
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  a certain stability in life, like, a certain things.
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  I was talking to friends of mine. I'm in a Dharma
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  group of Dharma sisters, and we were meeting and talking
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  about just a lot of these things,
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  and this came up for people.
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  And one person commented on, I felt this way
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  since COVID Covid turned everything upside down. And we never processed
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  it globally and nationally and personally.
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  We just kind of went on and worked really hard to get back to how
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  things were pre Covid. But we never mourned
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  everything that really happened in Covid. We never addressed
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  it and came to conclusions and
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  found peace with this just
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  crazy thing that happened that we thought would never happen, that turn
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  our lives upside down, that has created now holes and
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  pockets in our lives as we move through life that will
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  appear and reappear again, especially for anyone that was
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  in school during COVID or in anything like that.
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  That this, those Covid years where
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  we were online learning has, it's,
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  it's going to follow with us as we move through our lives.
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  And that's not something we're talking about. And we've adopted
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  a lot of COVID strategies and brought them
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  into the in person classrooms. And what's that going to be like for
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  folks? There's been just this huge upheaval with COVID that
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  we didn't talk about as a nation, as a community,
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  as a group, we didn't respond to in
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  a way that was healthy for people.
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  And now we've found that since we started
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  running to get back to our old lifestyle, once Covid
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  ended, or I shouldn't say ended, it's still around,
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  it's still there. But once the threat became less
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  apparent, here we are just running,
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  running. We've been running since COVID started. You know,
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  when Covid first started, I was working at a university system
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  and we had to pivot to online education in a matter of days.
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  We had 72 hours to the campus closed.
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  We were preparing ahead of time and we had to really prepare
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  for what was going to happen. Not knowing if it would be
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  two months, four months, six months, a quarter.
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  We had no idea it would be as long as it was.
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  And it created this running, this running all the time
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  at work, like doing so much more than normal just to
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  make new different systems work, just to piece together how are
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  we going to educate in a framework that
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  we don't do right now, something totally different, a complete
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  180. And we all started running. Right. I know you
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  probably felt the pressure too at work, like just to keep
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  your job because so many people were losing their jobs. How are you,
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  you know, you're just running fast to keep your job. If you
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  were laid off during COVID you were running to find
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  some stability with that. And a lot of people were laid off of long term
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  jobs that they felt were stable and then all of a sudden were not stable.
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  Everything we knew that was stable became
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  unstable in a matter of hours.
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  And we started running, and we haven't stopped.
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  We're still running, we're still going. We set
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  up an energy of running, and now we can't
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  get out of it. It's like a very strong current that we
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  can't get out of, and we're just trying to stay above water.
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  So many people are doing that right now, and it's become really
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  hard to just find some
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  space, right, to go back to how it was when you used
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  to sit in the backyard for a couple hours on a Saturday, or you had
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  time to garden, or you had time to do a
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  drawing or relax or spend time with friends. And everything's
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  become so expensive and so fast and so much.
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  It's all so much, so much change in this small period
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  of time that we have not stopped to process,
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  both mentally, physically,
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  and also emotionally. We have not stopped to process
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  any of that. We're just running. We're just running and running
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  and running and running and trying to get back to a
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  space that was. That's in the past that we can't get
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  back to or is going to be a huge challenge to really get
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  back to. The only way we as a society can get
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  back to that now is to collectively decide
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  to go back to that, and we're not there yet.
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  And it's creating just a slot of shift where you feel
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  unsteady on the ground, you feel unsteady
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  in things, unsteady in your job, unsteady in what will happen
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  next, unsteady into what to invest in,
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  unsteady into what to let go of. It's a lot,
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  and that's why this prompt is so important.
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  How can I find stability in my life when things feel unstable?
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  This is a way to
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  develop some tools for this chaotic
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  life that we found ourselves in, for this unstable
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  energy that we're experiencing right now. How can I
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  find stability when I feel unstable? What are
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  some things that I can cling to that I can
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  look for, that I can pull into my life that will help
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  me find some stability? Is it taking some
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  time to be with people? Is it long walks
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  in nature? Is it making time to sit in the backyard?
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  Is it volunteering to walk dogs?
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  Is it a change in what you do for a living, in your
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  job? Is it a shift in how you organize
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  your family life? What is necessary to
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  bring you some stability when life is unstable?
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  What is it? A talk with a good friend?
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  A cup of tea? Some small tangible things?
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  It can also Be bigger things. What can I do to find
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  stability when I feel unstable? It could be, maybe it's now
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  time to go to therapy, or maybe I need to go to acupuncture, or maybe
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  I need to get rebalanced, or maybe I need to kick
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  back up my meditation practice. What is it that
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  you need to be able to find some stability? Where does
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  stable life exist right now for
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  you? For me, some stability is
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  in things I do that are off the
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  screen because I spend so much time on screen.
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  Things like I can find stability in
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  my yoga practice, my meditation practice.
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  I can find stability in searching out
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  people who feel the same as I do. Even if you found
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  a group that feels like the world is unstable,
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  like my Dharma group,
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  if we all feel the same way, there's some stability in that,
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  right? Because I'm not alone wondering if I'm
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  blowing things out of proportion or if I'm feeling like I'm
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  the only one that thinks this way. That creates its own instability in
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  itself. Because we all want to be part of a group. That's just human
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  nature, right? We all want to have the same. Find a pocket
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  of people who feel like we do, and that creates some stability.
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  When you're grappling with things on your own,
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  often it creates more instability because this
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  whole other internal dialogue comes into play. Like, you know,
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  you are crazy that you think this. You're the only one
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  that thinks this. It's silly. People are gonna think there's something wrong with you if
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  you think this. Just keep going with your life. Things are
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  stable. Look at you. You're stable. You know, you.
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  You just. Are you feeling sorry for yourself? You know, all this negative self
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  talk comes up when you're dealing with stuff by yourself because
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  the instability of dealing with it by yourself is
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  in itself creating a bit of chaos for you.
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  So perhaps it's finding like minded folks
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  or having a conversation with a friend you think might feel
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  the same way or might
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  be journaling about it to figure out exactly what are the tools that
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  you already have that you can use to find stability.
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  And what are some tools you might not have used before
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  that might help you find stability? It might be therapy.
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  It might be tuning into other groups
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  or people on YouTube or somewhere
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  else who feel the same way that you do and can find some
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  sense of stability there. It's also coming to
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  terms with the fact that life is about change.
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  Things don't say the same. When you think about yesterday,
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  you're older today. It's not the same. You're not the
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  same. You're not exactly the same. Maybe yesterday
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  you felt good right now. And maybe right
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  now in this moment, you're starving, you're hungry.
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  Things change. Everything changes throughout
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  the day, throughout the seasons, throughout the time. The days are
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  getting darker now, earlier. Things change, everything changes.
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  And finding some stability with the fact
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  that things will change and how do I flow through change when it happens,
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  but also how do I recognize something
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  that's really stable in my life right now? I don't have
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  to think, oh, this is going to be stable for a lifetime, is it stable
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  right now? What is stable right now in your life today
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  that you can rest in?
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  And what is not that
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  you need to find some support with what instability is
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  really making your stomach turn, your heart race,
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  butterflies, all those things,
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  you know, your shortness of breath. What are those instable
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  things that are happening right now that are causing this reaction in your
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  body, in your mind, in your thoughts, in your emotions?
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  And how can you find something that's stable
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  to rest in? Because we all have to move through the
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  instability. You can't ignore it. It's not going to go away.
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  But you can find tools to help you deal with instability
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  when it happens. Because believe me, it will come back around because
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  life is about change. So this
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  prompt, how do I find stability when my life
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  feels unstable? When things feel unstable is
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  so important because here
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  you are exploring what tools you have
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  and what tools can you go get to
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  create stability in a moment for you?
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  Mindfulness is a huge thing with that because it's
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  all about being here now. As Ram Dass has
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  coined be here now in that moment.
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  You can find stability. If you can do that. If meditation is
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  not your jam and mindfulness is not your jam, there are so many other tools
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  at play where you can find stability in the moment. Even when you
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  feel like everything is crumbling down.
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  Finding that anchor of stability is important
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  as we move through life. It's life saving
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  tool. So I hope you'll give this prompt some deep
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  thought and let me know what you come up with. I would love to know.
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  You know, as you know, many of you can interact with me online,
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  on my website, on Instagram,
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  you can leave comments, whatever. If you're listening
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  or watching on a platform that allows whatever you
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  need to do, tell me how you find stability. Because your,
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  your anchors can help somebody else
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  that doesn't realize that could be an anchor. You know, it's really,
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  really important to share these things with each other because that's
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  how we start the energy of stability by
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  all coming together and creating a space where
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  we're helping one another, we're being kind to one another,
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  and we're blossoming into
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  something that is more stable,
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  more quiet, more kind. We all
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  have to take part in that movement, whatever it is.
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  So, dear friend, I can't wait to hear how this prompt
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  works for you again. As I say, it's from my new book that's
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  coming out next year, which is the Authentic
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  Life Project. My current book,
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  Reasons to Live, is out now. You can buy it anywhere
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  that you like. This has a lot of practices for
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  dealing with when you find yourself in really dark
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  times and you need help and when you are
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  helping others others through dark times. That's the book.
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  So thank you, thank you, thank you so much for being here, for making the
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  time for yourself, for supporting me and
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  my podcast. I so, so appreciate each and every
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  one of you. I wish you all the best today and beyond.
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  So please take good care my friends and know that I love you and
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  I can care about you and I support you and we can
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  get through this instability together. So take good care.