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The Elephant’s Pace - Hypnosis to Let Go of Pressure and Feel Proud of Your Progress · The Hypnotist

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  Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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  access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing
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  genuine. Issues.
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  Brought to you by The Hypnotherapist, demanded by
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  celebrities, CEOs and even royalty, Adam Cox.
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  These recordings took place live from Evans Clinic in London's
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  world famous Harley Street. So get yourself comfortable and
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  enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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  Do you ever? Find yourself.
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  Rushing certain decisions like you just can't get it done
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  quickly enough, and other things you tend to overthink,
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  overanalyse, procrastinate, and perhaps never even get done at
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  all. Adam here and I was working with
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  a. Client that had.
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  Both of those qualities they would overanalyze big decisions,
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  but things that felt boring or mundane they would almost do too
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  quickly. Even.
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  If it meant sometimes making mistakes that they then had to
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  correct later. So this hypnosis session
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  actually uses that children's tail of the hare, hare and the
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  tortoise as a metaphor. And actually this particular
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  client when I asked the question what animal would represent.
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  Thoughtful. Decision making and action
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  taking in the middle so not overthinking to paralysis
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  analysis but not rushing to get something done even if it makes
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  mistakes. And this particular client said
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  an elephant. So this is an animal that can't
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  be rushed. It's known for having a good
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  memory, high levels of intelligence.
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  So this uses almost an element of parts therapy, but also
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  metaphor of a resource state to find the right balance so that
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  they could make adjustments, take a bit more time when they
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  needed to, but also not take too long if that would impede their
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  ability to make progress. So if you can resonate with this
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  idea of either rushing or taking too long, I think you'll get
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  some value from this. It may be, though, that a an
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  elephant is not the animal that represents the middle ground for
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  you. In which case, although an
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  elephant is used in this particular hypnosis session, you
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  can just replace it with whatever animal would be the
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  middle ground for you. And that might be a lion or a
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  tiger, or it might be a dolphin, something like that.
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  But you get to decide what that animal would be and if you like
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  the idea of working with me directly so we can actually.
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  Work on. Something that is specific to
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  you in a way that is calibrated to your resource States and your
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  outcomes. There will be a link in the show
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  notes where you can schedule a completely free consultation
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  call to explore us working together for now though.
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  Find a quiet. Comfortable place where you
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  won't be disturbed. Relax and enjoy the session.
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  Take a deep breath in and as you breathe in, breathe in that
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  feeling of resourceful relaxation.
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  And as you exhale, just allow your eyes to fully relax.
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  And with your eyes closed, just focus on the sound of my voice
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  breathing in relaxation, and exhale that tension.
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  And just imagine that you're breathing in a feeling of
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  patience and worthiness. And just imagine you're
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  releasing any feelings of pressure, of what you should do,
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  have to do, must do. Just feel that pressure leave
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  your body as it now feels that it's about what you choose to
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  do, what you get to do. And I wonder if you could feel
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  what it would feel like to feel a sense of alignment.
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  No one is forcing you to take a shower, change your clothes,
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  brush your hair, and some people don't.
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  Therefore it's a choice. No obligation, no pressure, just
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  things that you can do if you choose to do them.
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  And if you choose to do them, why not go about those things
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  that aren't particularly interesting in a more pragmatic
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  way? So as you settle in and relax,
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  take an even deeper, comfortable breath in.
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  And as you breathe out, just allow more of that pressure to
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  be released. And as you breathe in and
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  breathe out, I wonder if you could imagine your mind
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  beginning to shift gears from doing to being.
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  And as you relax, you might begin to notice just how safe it
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  feels to let go. Because this time here isn't
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  about racing ahead or achieving anything.
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  It's simply about feeling good where you are right now.
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  And I wonder if each breath takes you a little deeper, if
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  each exhale unwinds a little more tension, as if your body
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  and mind are learning a new rhythm, a steady, calm,
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  confident rhythm. And as you breathe in and
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  breathe out, I want you to imagine a forest.
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  Perhaps a forest from your childhood, or maybe a different
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  forest. And I wonder if you could
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  imagine walking through that peaceful forest on a sunny day,
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  with the ground feels firm yet soft beneath your feet and the
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  sunlight filtering gradually through the leaves of the trees.
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  And I want you to imagine in this forest that you can hear
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  the distant sound of water, perhaps the trickles of a slow
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  moving stream, and the air feels fresh and clean.
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  And with every step, you feel more grounded, more present, and
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  more like yourself. But let's introduce something
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  fun here in this thought, in this forest.
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  As you walk through the forest towards that trickling stream, I
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  want you to notice 3 animals along the path, each
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  representing a different part of your personality or your mind.
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  And the first animal you notice is the hare.
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  Fast, impulsive, full of urgency and pressure, always running,
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  always racing. And perhaps that hare has a
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  voice inside that says you have to do more, you have to go
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  faster, you have to get it right now.
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  And you can see the hair looking stressed, no time for anything
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  that might be boring or mundane. And you can see how that part
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  once tried to help. And maybe that part believed
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  that pressure creates progress, that urgency equals importance.
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  And sometimes it's good to get things done decisively and
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  quickly, but sometimes that can lead to problems in the future.
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  So I want you to come to the conclusion that pressure doesn't
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  make things faster. Pressure makes things harder.
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  It can cloud the mind and shake their hands, turn creativity
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  into tension, and increase the likelihood of mistakes.
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  So take a moment to thank the hare for caring, for trying to
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  help, and imagine gently explaining to the hare that
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  there's a better way now that the pressure can relax, and that
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  positive intention to get things done and do them well can be met
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  through calm enthusiasm and focus, not by rushing.
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  And I want you to see the expression of the hair changing,
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  realizing like the penny drops. Rushing doesn't mean winning.
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  Then say goodbye to the hare. It's just nearby you notice the
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  tortoise. Slow, thoughtful, methodical,
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  but sometimes just too cautious over analysing the same thing
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  again and again. Hesitating sometimes for days,
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  weeks, months, even years. And I want you to get a sense
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  that that tortoise also has a good intention to avoid
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  mistakes, to avoid taking on too much risk.
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  But sometimes it's just too cautious.
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  The tortoise can fall into the trap of analysis paralysis.
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  Every shadow is a threat. Every clause in a contract is a
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  trap. And you can thank that part too,
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  because the intention of the tortoise is to be careful,
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  precise and thorough. Too much thinking slows
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  progress. Months or even years can just
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  create missed opportunities. So just as too much speed causes
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  chaos, sometimes too much analysis can actually create
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  more risk than avoid it. And yet you can accept that both
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  parts are valuable, but what's missing is the ability to find
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  balance or to play each part to its strengths.
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  And I want you to thank the tortoise, because you still need
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  the tortoise, but not quite as tortoise as the tortoises.
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  And then, from between the trees, you notice a third animal
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  approaching, an elephant. Calm, powerful, steady.
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  It doesn't rush like the hare, although it can run if needed,
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  or retreat like the tortoise, although the elephant can remain
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  slow and steady if needed. It moves forward with calm
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  confidence, aware, deliberate, unstoppable.
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  And as you watch the elephant, I wonder if you can feel something
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  inside you realigning a New Balance between energy and ease,
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  speed and steadiness, effort and enjoyment.
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  I want you to get a sense that the elephant can run fast and
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  get things done. And the elephant can discern the
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  risks and make great decisions. And I wonder if this feels like
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  a more useful way of being. The elephant becomes the symbol
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  of your inner peace, calm, powerful, productive and
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  content. In fact, see the expression of
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  satisfaction because the elephant gets more done than the
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  tortoise or the hare, the elephant can't feel the
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  pressure. And I want you to say that the
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  elephant is also wise. And I think the elephant has an
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  inner voice that is useful. But for now, let's turn your
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  attention to your inner voice. The inner voice that when things
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  went wrong would tell you it's not good enough, you should have
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  done better, why can't you just get it right?
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  Or words to that effect. And that voice was never trying
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  to hurt you. It was trying to help, trying to
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  keep you to. High standards.
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  Trying to protect you from disappointment, but that voice,
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  although it had a good intention, was just using the
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  wrong strategy. And you can thank that voice for
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  caring and let it evolve to something more useful.
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  I want to awaken the voice of your inner elephant, a wise old
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  soul with a photographic memory. And what if that voice becomes
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  your inner coach? That when things don't go right,
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  but when mistakes are made, instead of blame and criticism,
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  that voice, the evolved voice, offers constructive feedback.
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  What can I learn from this? What would make it even better
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  next time? What went well that I can build
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  on. Some people believe you either
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  win or you learn. But you don't truly learn if
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  it's linked to blame and shame, guilt and judgement.
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  You learn when it comes from a place of refinement and feedback
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  and adjustment. So with that simple shift, from
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  now on, mistakes become feedback loops, not failures, and every
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  outcome becomes information fuel for improvement, not proof of
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  failure or inadequacy. And you begin to realise that
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  satisfaction isn't a reward you earn, it's a permission that you
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  give yourself, that you can feel good about what you accomplish,
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  not because it's perfect, but because it's honest, real, and
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  yours. And maybe that voice that
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  criticizes is the same voice that made you feel pressure, but
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  maybe it's a different part. And I want you to feel that
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  whether that part is the voice or the hair, ask it what it
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  really wanted for you, the part that was pressuring you to get
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  it done, to get it done fast, to get it done now.
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  And maybe maybe it wanted you to achieve, wanted you to have
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  respect. It wanted you to progress.
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  I wanted you to accomplish things, and I want you to
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  imagine smiling at that part because you know, and now the
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  part knows too, that those things don't come from rushing,
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  they come from rhythm. I want you to get a sense that
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  with the right balance, enough urgency, but enough analysis,
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  you can accomplish more in a year than you can accomplish in
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  five, with mistakes and rushing and over analysis.
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  And I want you to feel that you now have permission to do things
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  at your pace, in your way, as you trust your intuition to get
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  the balance just right and learn from it.
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  If you don't, that part now understands it can get what it
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  wants by becoming enthusiastic instead of urgent, and pragmatic
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  instead of pressured, so that you can move forward at your
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  pace and in your way and still accomplish more.
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  Because what if that calm pragmatism is efficiency in
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  disguise from now on? Maybe you could imagine
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  approaching tasks, big or small, from that place of calm
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  confidence, where you can feel satisfied with the effort and
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  care you bring, and curiosity about what you can improve next
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  time. That when things go well, you'll
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  celebrate them, and when things don't, you'll learn from them.
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  And each moment becomes a stepping stone, not a judgement,
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  but a journey. And I want you to think of that
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  elephant when that feeling of pressure starts to come.
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  Because you can pause, take a breath and ask yourself with the
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  elephant rush. And instantly you'll remember
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  that power and patience can coexist.
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  And I want you to think of yourself in the days and weeks
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  ahead, perhaps working on something important, a project,
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  to plan a goal, but see that version of you with the same
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  qualities and mannerisms that you admired in the Elephant.
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  Calm but engaged, focused but relaxed and looking satisfied
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  with the process. And if a mistake happens, see
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  yourself smiling and learning from it.
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  And if things go well, see yourself enjoying that too,
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  because your satisfaction becomes sustainable, like a
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  steady heartbeat of pride and peace.
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  And see yourself completing that project, that goal, knowing that
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  you did enough and that you are enough.
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  And when you see that future version of you with the balance
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  just right, step into that future version of you and feel
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  how you would feel in advance. No pressure, no blame, no
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  criticism. And notice how much easier it is
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  to make decisions, to get things done, to research, or even the
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  things that seem benign and mundane.
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  Just enough time and attention to mitigate risk without feeling
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  like you're rushing or going too slow.
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  And whenever you see an elephant, either real a picture,
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  a model, this point onwards, this will be an anchor to remind
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  you. But neither the hare nor the
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  tortoise are optimal for you. It becomes a way to instantly
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  ground you into that place that is perfectly balanced for you
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  and your life. But it's time to leave this
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  forest. But before you leave, the
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  elephant is handing you something by its trunk, a ball
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  of glowing energy. And you can take it, place it on
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  your chest, knowing that this inoculates you from future
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  pressure, because this is the resource of self belief and self
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  trust, that you can trust yourself to do things in a way
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  best suited to you. You give the elephant a hug, say
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  goodbye as you take a deep breath in through your nose and
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  out through your nose. Just wiggle your fingers and
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  wiggle your toes as I now count from 1:00 to 10:00 to awaken you
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  Starting to count 123 Waking up 456 More alert 7-8 open your
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  eyes, open your eyes 910. Wide awake, wide awake, wide
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  awake. Thank you so much for joining me
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