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139. Waiting to Exhale · Your Enriched Self

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It's so easy when life gets busy to miss opportunities to be grateful. I
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believe that gratitude is the ultimate life hack. I heard a quote a few
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years ago by Michael Beckwith that says, nothing new comes into your life until
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you are grateful for what you have now. That quote changed my life.
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It changed how I viewed the things that were happening around me. Even when
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things were bad, there was something in my life that I could be grateful
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for in the moment, from the yesterday, from the yesterdays. There is
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something. There are people, there are circumstances, there are situations in which
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you did not take a moment to pause and be grateful. And I remind
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myself, especially in the middle of my turmoil, especially in the middle of
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my crisis, that I am still here and that gift of life is something
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I can be grateful for. I remind myself of the people, the teachers,
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the mentors, the friendships that have cultivated parts of me and help me
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introduce and unearthed parts of myself that I would never get had I've been walking
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alone in this world. I'm grateful for those friendships, those mentors, and
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those people who are brought in my life on purpose, for a purpose.
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So I challenge you today and really every day to look for moments of gratitude.
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There are situations you didn't think you could get through and hear you stand
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here, you sit, here, you walk, That's a moment of gratitude.
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That's what I'm talking about. I want you to get connected to gratitude.
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I wanted to be part of your DNA that you are just a grateful
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being and it starts with you recognize in those moments early and often. Hello
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my friends from all across the globe, and welcome to the Urine rid Cell
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Podcast. I am your host, Mi len Noir. I am a mindset
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coach and your mindset advocate and what that means in this world, in this
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very very very busy world with so much happening at every turn of the way.
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This space was curated for you to give you a space to breathe,
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a space to listen to your thoughts, a space to just be because I
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know if you're listening, you feel crowded, you feel overwhelmed, you don't
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have enough time to just be with yourself. And so that's why this time
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is important for me each and every week to curate so that you can be
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here and find your space to become more enriched. So, if you're listening
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to this podcast for the first time, I want to welcome you, and
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I want to thank you for being here. I know that you are brought
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I thank you and thank you. Because of you, this podcast continues to
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thrive, continues to grow and build, and it's because of you showing up,
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participating, joining the conversation, leaving your feedback, all of the things.
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I appreciate you more than you will ever know. Now, before we
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get into this week's episode, if you know you know, one of the
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things I do on this podcast is I make a deposit in the bank of
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you, because first of all, I don't want you walking out here bankrupt,
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and so it's important for me to make that deposit. And I do
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that by way of affirmations. Affirmations are a great way to start your day
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and to command your morning. And this week's affirmation is Calmness washes over me
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with every breath I take. Calmness washes over me with every breath I take.
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Calmness washes over me with every breath I take. Now, let's get
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ready for this week's episode of the Your Enriched Self podcast. Have you ever
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seen someone in distress, someone just on the brink of breakdown, on the
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brink of not sure which way to turn in the situation that they're in.
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What do you think should be the best advice you give that person? It
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should be for them to breathe. We often neglect this very pragmatic, very
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basic part of living, which is breathing. It's an essential part of our
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lives, but we tend to forget to do that, and we do that
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typically in moments of stress. Well, I want to remind you today that
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there is such an important process when you breathe, when you allow yourself to
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breathe. And I recently put myself in a situation where I had to take
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a step back to breathe, to exhale. And all this started because I,
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of course do these intense morning workouts. I had finished my workout.
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Hours later, I'm sitting at my desk at work. I looked down on
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my watch and my resting beats per minute seemed slightly elevated for me, and
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I thought, wait a minute, why is my resting beats per minute that
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high? So in that moment, I decided to do some voluntary breathing exercises.
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You heard me, right, And I had recently heard about a breathing
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exercise called four seven eight and four seven eight is a method that's used to
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help diminish anxiety and stress, and we are going to do it before seven
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eight. Basically is you take a breath in a deep breath in four seconds,
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You hold that breath for seven seconds, and then you take a deep
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exhale for eight seconds. And so I want to make sure you know how
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to do this because I want to make sure that you are prepared in your
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next moment and you know how to decompress the stress that's rolling through your body.
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So we're gonna do it now. Okay, We're gonna hold our breath
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or take a deep breath for four seconds, hold it for seven an exhale
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on eight. Let's try it again, deep breath in for seconds, hold
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it for seven seconds. Now, let go with that exhale on eight,
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and let's try it one more time. Let's bring in that deep breath.
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Let's take that in for four seconds, hold it now for seven seconds,
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and exhale for eight seconds. I hope you felt that cleansing. I hope
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you feel a sense of calm because I know, if you're listening to this
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podcast, you are running on high octane, much like I do. And
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there are rare occasions where you are being intentional about pausing to do this exercise.
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So let that be your homework this week. Take a moment to breathe.
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So when I was doing the study, I realized there was some research
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done back in twenty twenty one that stated eighty percent of Americans reported feeling anxiety
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and stress more than ever before. Keep in mind, around that time,
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we were on the heels of the pandemic, there was a lot of uproar
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in the political scene, and there's still a lot of upper on the political
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scene. There's a lot of uncertainty with the economy. There's still a lot
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of uncertainty with the economy, a lot of turmoil, Like I said,
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the ongoing pandemic. And listen, we may not be dealing with COVID.
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Well, COVID is kind of here and there, but we all have our
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own type of pandemics. Some people are dealing with a financial pandemic. Some
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people are dealing with a corporate pandemic. Corporate culture is different than it's ever
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been before. There's so many layoffs, there's so much organizational changes happening all
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around the way. There are people dealing with relational pandemics. There's so many
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different things that each and every one of you are dealing with, and whatever
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it is, regardless of that trigger, one thing is for certain. You
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may not be feeling your best self right now. You may not be able
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to truly be enriched right now because of the level of stress, the level
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of overwhelm that you have been dealing with. Some of you are emotionally exhausted.
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The things that used to be handled with ease and grace seem to be
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taking more effort to handle. Some of you are dealing with challenges that are
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external, like weight gain and some of the unhealthy decisions you've made. And
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now you're in this climate into space, and you want to just and I'm
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gonna encourage you right now, just breathe, take in that deep in heale,
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and don't wait for the exhale, let it go. Some of you
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have forgotten your self care. We talk a lot about self care on this
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podcast, not from the external perspective, but all the internal work that you
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must do to become more enriched to show up as the best version of yourself
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in this world. Soul care is important. Listen, some of you have
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let your boundaries down. You establish some very intricate, detailed boundaries that were
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necessary, that were required for you to maintain your peace, and then you
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just let it down, You let it go, and you allow people to
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breach that contract. When you set up a boundary, you have the responsibility
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to respect that boundary yourself. It's easy to point the finger at the person
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that's breaking the boundary and coming across uninvited, but you, in fact are
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being disrespectful to the boundaries that you set and it's time to uphold that.
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I'm gonna ask you to breathe and let it go. You're trying to hold
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everybody up and you aren't even standing up. You aren't even able to get
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up some mornings because you are still holding on to a pass, to a
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situation, to a person, to a place. It's time to let it
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go. Stop waiting to exhale. You've forgotten your boundaries, You've forgotten your
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self care routine. You've forgotten how to take care of your soul. And
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the people around you are watching you. They're watching how you care for you.
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And if you're not caring for you doing the absolute most so that you
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can show up your absolute best, the people around you are going to take
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a page from your book, and that's how they're going to show up for
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you in your life. My sister once said something to me, and it
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has stuck with me. She said, when you do you, you let
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the other people around you fall in line. And what that reminded me of
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is how I take care of me is going to impress upon people how I
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see myself and how I value myself, and they too will fall in line.
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You know what. She always goes for a walk at three o'clock every
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day. We're not going to go to her desk. You know what.
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She steps away for lunch. She doesn't sit at her desk and have lunch.
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Let people see who you are. You don't have to make an announcement,
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you don't have to post it on social media. You don't need a
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big production. All you need to do is be you and the rest will
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fall in line. I have a question for you if you look at your
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life right now, and I'm not talking about the two week trajectory. I'm
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not talking about the five week plan and the four months down the road and
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the end of year. I'm talking about now, based on where you are
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now, can you afford to allow your energy to be depleted the way it
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has been? Can you afford to allow those energy suckers? You know,
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the person I'm talking about, or the people I'm talking about who drain your
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energy. Can you afford with where you are now to allow this to continue?
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If you want to live with peace, if you want to experience joy,
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if you want to take everything out of this year, it's going to
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be critical for you, for your well being, for you to become more
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enriched, that you make the time to embrace the opportunity to let go.
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There are some old conversations that you are still having about situations that have moved
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on decades old situations. I'm asking you stop waiting to exhale and let it
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go. It is no longer serving you, it is no longer serving where
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you are going. And the truth is it never served you. It was
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served to you, but it was never serving where you were And what you
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needed and how you would grow in this life. One of the biggest issues,
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which is what I'm trying to tell you right now that we are facing,
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that you are facing, is that you have forgotten the value in taking
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a moment to breathe. You are all finding yourself in situations right now where
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you are waiting. You are holding your breath, waiting to see what's going
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to happen next. Am I going to get the job? Is this going
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to happen? What's going to happen with the economy? How is this all
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going to end? You are forgetting the most essential part of your living,
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of your survival, of you being here, which is breathing. So my
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question again is what are you holding on to? Now is the time and
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this is the day for you to let go and exhale. Exhaling is such
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a great practice. We just practice the four seven eight method, but ultimately
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exhale is an opportunity for your body to rid itself of the old ideas and
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thoughts and habits, emotions, relationships, whatever it is that are of the
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past that no longer serve you. I don't think you can wait. I
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don't think this is something you can procrastinate about you cannot procrastinate the activity of
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breathing, of letting go, of exhaling. It becomes a burden. It
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will be your burden, and it's going to be increasingly difficult for you to
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manage yourself, for you to handle yourself, for you to show up as
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yourself, your genuine self, authentic self. If you are holding on to
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identities and things that have defined you, defined your path, define your destiny,
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you can't afford that right now. You could never afford that. But
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it's time to look it in the eye. It's time to face this difficulty
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and recognize that you have been holding your breath for far too long, and
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for some of you, it has caused you discomfort. It has caused you
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even harm. You are stifling your destiny, You are stifling your very existence
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by holding on to your past. It's time to exhale. I want you
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to embrace this power. This power. I've been talking a lot this year
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about the power within and the greatness within and all the things that within.
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And I say that for a reason, because you have already been identified.
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God has already identified his people. You don't need the world to give you
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identity. When you have identity from your creator. When you embrace this power
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you are you're essentially practicing the growth, the personal growth that you need to
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transform. And I tell you what this journey of life, this letting go.
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It is courageous. It is hard when you think about something that forever
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has been your identity and forever you have accepted and forever people have known you
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to be, and then all of a sudden you say, I'm not that
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thing. I've let that go. That doesn't define me, no longer has
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it defined, does it define me? And it's okay, it's okay to
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tell people I don't do this anymore and put that boundary up that does not
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define me anymore. That is not who I am anymore. You can let
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go of that. It is not a sign of weakness. It is not
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a sign of weakness to let go. I always think about letting go.
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It's giving my energy from the thing that no longer serves and putting my energy
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directly on the path of where I want to go. That's how I see
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letting go. I see it as a courageous act to do that. It
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is strength. It is finally giving love back, giving love back to self.
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I encourage you to exhale regularly, do it early, do it often.
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It is so essential to you being in this life, to you opening
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and up yourself to possibility, to renewal, to rejuvenation, to this unfolding,
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this unearthing of becoming your highest self. Listen, I don't know what
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you've been holding onto when I'm gonna encourage you to be intentional this week,
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to be intentional with this coming month, to be intentional with the rest of
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the year, and let go so you can grow, because ultimately, when
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we exhale, we embrace the power of letting go. I hope you enjoyed
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