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134. From Fun & Flirty… to Heartbreak: Should I Text Him Back? · She Rises with Ashy & Tijana

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  Speaker 1: we came in with the same situation.
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  Speaker 1: that we would just be your bestie.
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  Speaker 2: Absolutely get retarted. Yeah shit, I can't even believe I'm
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  Speaker 2: asking this. I was basically friends with benefits with this
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  Speaker 2: guy for six months. First time getting close with a
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  Speaker 2: guy like this. It was basically a relationship and best friends,
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  Speaker 2: but we both agreed that we weren't wanting anything serious,
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  Speaker 2: so it was perfect. We were talking every day, super fun, flirtatious,
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  Speaker 2: very friendly and kind a super comfortable relationship, movies and
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  Speaker 2: cuddles at his going out for dinners, river days, cooking
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  Speaker 2: dinner together, walks, runs. Sex was the main ground of
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  Speaker 2: it all, if we're being honest, but both crazying physical
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  Speaker 2: connection which we could give each other through sex, cuddles, massages,
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  Speaker 2: teasing throughout the day, fun only like one a fortnight.
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  Speaker 2: Even when we would hang out, it got progressively more
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  Speaker 2: and more flirtatious and fun, and it was just such
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  Speaker 2: a good time for us to not have that commitment,
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  Speaker 2: but to have that little crush and tea throughout the weeks,
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  Speaker 2: and honestly just finding confident in each other. We genuinely
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  Speaker 2: both not minding that it wouldn't progress, and honestly that
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  Speaker 2: was kind of the good thing about it. Keep in mind,
• 2:01
  Speaker 2: I went to school with his ex, I knew her,
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  Speaker 2: was in classes with her, and have we're on social
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  Speaker 2: media etc. She's a lovely girl, and I noticed that
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  Speaker 2: they have each other on social media and seemed to
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  Speaker 2: still be in a bit of contact through random comments, likes,
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  Speaker 2: and etc. She has a different boyfriend now, but also
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  Speaker 2: keep in mind he has been sober for ages when
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  Speaker 2: we met. He's such a lovely guy and I only
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  Speaker 2: ever have nice things to.
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  Speaker 1: Say about him.
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  Speaker 2: We would go periods where we would lose contact for
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  Speaker 2: a while on his behalf, and it would get me
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  Speaker 2: down a little, but there's no expectation and he'd always
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  Speaker 2: come back. I genuinely don't think he was seeing others
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  Speaker 2: in this time, but he's kind of strange and goes
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  Speaker 2: on and off. We went about six weeks not talking,
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  Speaker 2: and then he comes crawling back. We had a super
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  Speaker 2: flirtatious night texting, and the next day we went to
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  Speaker 2: his and the usual whole day spent together because it
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  Speaker 2: was so long a party was great. He got progressively
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  Speaker 2: more interested and I think realized how good it is.
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  Speaker 2: One night, I was out with my girlfriends and I
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  Speaker 2: messaged him asking what he was doing, and he replied
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  Speaker 2: back with a drink in his hand, and I was shocked,
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  Speaker 2: as I'd never known him to be a drinker. Long
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  Speaker 2: story short, when I ended up going out with one
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  Speaker 2: of the friends I was with, we met up with
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  Speaker 2: him and we spent the night out drinking together. Although
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  Speaker 2: it was so much fun, me and him my friend,
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  Speaker 2: just drinking having fun. We were super flirtatious together and everything,
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  Speaker 2: even cuddling in public affection. It was a different side
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  Speaker 2: for both of us as we were tipsy but had
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  Speaker 2: so much fun. I stay to his house, great sex,
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  Speaker 2: like from a movie. Then from there he was even
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  Speaker 2: more eager and keen, but still not any kind of
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  Speaker 2: relationship terms.
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  Speaker 1: I was just as keen.
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  Speaker 2: The week after, we ended up going out for drinks again.
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  Speaker 2: It was just me and him. He had been sober
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  Speaker 2: for so long, and we ended up getting pretty drunk.
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  Speaker 2: We went back to his sexual chemistry was so strong
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  Speaker 2: and we were having so much fun. He was planning
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  Speaker 2: our day for the next day as a hungover day.
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  Speaker 2: We were even going to go out and get sushi.
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  Speaker 2: Weeks leading up to this, we'd also planned to go
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  Speaker 2: to a rodeo together as well as a camping trip. Anyway,
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  Speaker 2: we were out drinking, We go back to his tensions
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  Speaker 2: are high movie scenes, shower sex, We go to sleep
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  Speaker 2: he wakes me up hours after ready for round two.
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  Speaker 1: In the middle of it, he calls me by his
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  Speaker 1: ex's name.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, my heart drops, and I feel sick to my stomach,
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  Speaker 2: but I just don't do anything. Ten seconds later he
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  Speaker 2: says it again. My stomach flips. I sit up and
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  Speaker 2: I just can't help her cry. I've never been one
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  Speaker 2: to put myself in positions like this. I've never been
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  Speaker 2: in a relationship. I've always been the type of person
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  Speaker 2: that sticks to myself, and I was not expecting that
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  Speaker 2: it really rattled me. It was such an intimate moment
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  Speaker 2: and had gotten to the point where we felt comfortable
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  Speaker 2: with each other. We really got to know each other
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  Speaker 2: and had such damn good times together, and it just
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  Speaker 2: felt like a slap in the face. If you said
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  Speaker 2: it in the casual situation, in a conversation or anything else,
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  Speaker 2: it might have felt different. But it was so intimate,
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  Speaker 2: and just the fact that I know her and everything
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  Speaker 2: just hurts so much more. He was so confused, he
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  Speaker 2: didn't know what was wrong. He was drunk, sleepy, and
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  Speaker 2: genuinely didn't know that he did it. I just sat
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  Speaker 2: there crying, and I was like, what the fuck do
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  Speaker 2: you mean? What's wrong? You just called me by your
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  Speaker 2: ex's name twice, and the shock on his face was unbelievable.
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  Speaker 2: I know it was an accident, and I know it
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  Speaker 2: didn't have any meaning, but it was just the most
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  Speaker 2: sickening feeling.
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  Speaker 1: I didn't have my car.
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  Speaker 2: It was in the middle of the night and my
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  Speaker 2: car was at the club, so we all had his car,
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  Speaker 2: so I couldn't drive home. I couldn't get an uber
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  Speaker 2: to my car because I was over the limit. So
• 5:02
  Speaker 2: he looked distraught. He slept on the lounge loved in
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  Speaker 2: his room. We woke up the next day and he
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  Speaker 2: was the most regretful. I've never seen someone so distraught,
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  Speaker 2: Like he knew how much he had hurt me, and
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  Speaker 2: I know that he didn't mean to do it, but
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  Speaker 2: he did anyway to wrap this story up, He was
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  Speaker 2: so truly apologetic. He didn't really make excuses for it.
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  Speaker 2: He knew it was wrong, and I just told him, like,
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  Speaker 2: this is fucked up. He tried everything to make me
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  Speaker 2: feel better, but I couldn't talk, and instead I used humor.
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  Speaker 2: But in saying this, I truly cannot describe to you
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  Speaker 2: the relationship we had. I was more upset over the
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  Speaker 2: fact that we lost each other from this instance and
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  Speaker 2: that things would never really be the same. I knew
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  Speaker 2: to me it was not forgivable due to the way
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  Speaker 2: it made me feel. He knew as well, and said
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  Speaker 2: he wouldn't know what to do if I thought that
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  Speaker 2: was okay. From that day on, we exchanged messages regarding
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  Speaker 2: in saying our stories and goodbye. He said he will
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  Speaker 2: leave me be, but he is truly sorry. He said
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  Speaker 2: he won't reach out to me and will give me
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  Speaker 2: this space and respect that I need if we ever
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  Speaker 2: want to talk again, But it's up to me. Daily
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  Speaker 2: I think about him, I think about how much I
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  Speaker 2: miss what we had. I know he'd be missing it too,
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  Speaker 2: But I'm scared to message him. I've made limits for
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  Speaker 2: myself to stop thinking about him. I say, if I'm
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  Speaker 2: still thinking about it within two months, maybe I should
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  Speaker 2: just message him. I'm like waiting for signs from the
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  Speaker 2: universe to message him, and I don't know if it's
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  Speaker 2: weird for me to forgive him, because I'm at the
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  Speaker 2: point where I want to. I told my friends, and
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  Speaker 2: they understand where I'm coming from and why I'm so sad.
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  Speaker 2: I told my best friend and she laughed at me,
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  Speaker 2: telling me that's funny as and what else would I
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  Speaker 2: expect from him? She says that I knew he was
• 6:27
  Speaker 2: still hooked on his ex, so of course something like
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  Speaker 2: that would happen. But I really miss him. I miss
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  Speaker 2: having a crush and I miss the flirt. I hate
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  Speaker 2: having bad blood with anybody, and I want to be
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  Speaker 2: able to forgive him. He's such a good guy, regardless
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  Speaker 2: of what he's done, and I'm torn between reaching out
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  Speaker 2: and seeing how he's doing and seeing if anything blossoms again.
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  Speaker 2: But doing so could hurt me even more, And what
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  Speaker 2: if he rejects me? What if even then I feel worse.
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  Speaker 2: I wouldn't ask this, but it's just lingering on my
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  Speaker 2: mind consistently, and I'm like, is it really that big
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  Speaker 2: of a deal.
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  Speaker 1: Should I just send a text? Wow? What a story.
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  Speaker 1: It's our longest submission yet, big story.
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  Speaker 2: Yell. Oh.
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  Speaker 1: There's so many layers to all of that. So the
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  Speaker 1: first thing I want to ask is, if you were
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  Speaker 1: to reach out again, are you entertaining and wanting to
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  Speaker 1: pursue a relationship with this man or are you just
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  Speaker 1: wanting to go back to being the flirty, fun thrill
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  Speaker 1: of friends with benefits. If that is the case, I
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  Speaker 1: wouldn't because you're going to get hurt. There's feelings there
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  Speaker 1: to be spending that much time together and to be
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  Speaker 1: having sex that often, you both have feelings for each other. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: it can't not grow. Yeah, I don't think. And if
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  Speaker 1: you're not wanting to have a relationship, why you both
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  Speaker 1: resistant to have a relationship saying you're not ready at
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  Speaker 1: first if you've just broken up with someone, sure, but
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  Speaker 1: if it's like eight months on now, is that something
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  Speaker 1: you both would explore?
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  Speaker 2: Well. The first thing that I thought of as I
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  Speaker 2: was reading this was this isn't friends with benefits. No,
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  Speaker 2: you are basically in a relationship without a label friends
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  Speaker 2: with benefits. To my understanding is from what I have
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  Speaker 2: had girlfriends tell me, is that you go and you're
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  Speaker 2: just there for sex. You're there for the intimate act.
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  Speaker 2: You don't go on dates, so you don't spend time
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  Speaker 2: together through the day. You're just there for the physical act.
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  Speaker 1: And that is that.
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  Speaker 2: That's my understanding friends with benefits just that physical act.
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  Speaker 2: Whereas what you're doing is you're going on dates, you're
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  Speaker 2: spending quality time together. There is no way that you
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  Speaker 2: could do that without building a relationship, and it makes
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  Speaker 2: sense that you're so upset by it because you have
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  Speaker 2: feelings for this past the back. Your upset shows how
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  Speaker 2: much absolutely for him you absolutely do, and how could
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  Speaker 2: you not when you spend that much time with somebody
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  Speaker 2: you know, it's clear that you speak of this man
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  Speaker 2: in a high regard, which is great because you've obviously
• 8:27
  Speaker 2: had a great relationship, But also, like what Ashley said,
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  Speaker 2: like what's stopping you from having a relationship if you
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  Speaker 2: both are spending this much time together.
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  Speaker 1: I honestly I think I would reach out and I
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  Speaker 1: would want a conversation, but I wouldn't want to go
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  Speaker 1: back to doing what I was doing. I would say
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  Speaker 1: this is how I feel. I'm assuming you feel similar
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  Speaker 1: because we spend so much time together. Is this something
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  Speaker 1: you are interested in or not? Like, where are you at?
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  Speaker 1: And if he blatantly says I'm still in love with
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  Speaker 1: my ex so I just want to be friends with benefits,
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  Speaker 1: I think you should have a boundary of like not anymore. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I'm going to keep putting myself through this and be
• 9:01
  Speaker 1: hurt because you're already hurt. I think it's a recipe
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  Speaker 1: for disaster. If he's not ready to commit to you
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  Speaker 1: after all this time, that's telling you he's not going
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  Speaker 1: to commit to you. Yeah, I don't think.
• 9:10
  Speaker 2: I think it's so beautiful to wear your heart on
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  Speaker 2: your sleeve and may be vulnerable to just send the
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  Speaker 2: message and if it's what you want, that's amazing. But
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  Speaker 2: also taking into consideration that like he did say his
• 9:18
  Speaker 2: ex's name, which means from a deep rooted level, like
• 9:21
  Speaker 2: he is probably still hung up on her, and that's
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  Speaker 2: also a conversation that you get to have with him
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  Speaker 2: and trust that he'll tell you the truth with that,
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  Speaker 2: because like what you said, it will either be I'm
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  Speaker 2: still hung up on my ex or I want to
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  Speaker 2: explore this with you because I love spending time with you,
• 9:34
  Speaker 2: you know, and I'm actively choosing to leave that relationship
• 9:37
  Speaker 2: in the past. That's a different story, you know. So
• 9:40
  Speaker 2: it's just be brave. We're you're hard on your sleeve,
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  Speaker 2: Like there's no wrong that you can do if this
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  Speaker 2: feels right for you to do it, but you have
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  Speaker 2: to be willing to forgive what he did. And by
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  Speaker 2: the sounds of it, it wasn't intentional, No, to do
• 9:51
  Speaker 2: it in ol that alcohol, all that sort of stuff,
• 9:54
  Speaker 2: like things always get messy after twelve o'clock and there's
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  Speaker 2: our cohol involved.
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  Speaker 1: Definitely, not it happens after midnight.
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  Speaker 2: You're walking into it. Yeah, if you feel ready to
• 10:01
  Speaker 2: forgive that, I think it was a mistake. I think
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  Speaker 2: it was an axe.
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  Speaker 1: I think you should reach out, but I don't think
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  Speaker 1: you should go back to just being friends with benefits
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  Speaker 1: because I think it's way beyond that.
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  Speaker 2: Make that very clear, and I think having an honest
• 10:12
  Speaker 2: conversation with yourself around what you want, because maybe you
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  Speaker 2: haven't given yourself permission.
• 10:17
  Speaker 1: Actually said this to me the other day.
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  Speaker 2: Maybe you haven't given yourself permission to feel how you
• 10:23
  Speaker 2: actually feel.
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  Speaker 1: Actually acknowledge how deeply you feel for this person.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I think life is way too short to feel
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  Speaker 2: the way that you do for somebody, or to have
• 10:31
  Speaker 2: strong feelings for somebody and.
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  Speaker 1: Not try not send the message, at least.
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  Speaker 2: Not send the message, not try not put your feelers
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  Speaker 2: out there because you miss one hundred percent of the
• 10:41
  Speaker 2: shots that you don't take, and like, we only get
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  Speaker 2: one life.
• 10:43
  Speaker 1: If you want this person, just go for it.
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  Speaker 2: And at least that way you'll know even if he
• 10:47
  Speaker 2: does say, hey, this isn't for me, you will know
• 10:49
  Speaker 2: and that will give you closure. And the moment you
• 10:52
  Speaker 2: have closure, you can move on with your life. But
• 10:54
  Speaker 2: for as long as you stay in limbo and questioning
• 10:56
  Speaker 2: and wondering, Sae me, I've been there before and it
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  Speaker 2: will eat you up. So just be willing to be
• 11:02
  Speaker 2: brave and like, be okay whether it goes.
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  Speaker 1: Your way or you get rejected, because and what how
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  Speaker 1: do be worth it?
• 11:07
  Speaker 2: Yeah?
• 11:07
  Speaker 1: What happens if you get rejected, what happens nothing? You
• 11:10
  Speaker 1: will survive, you will be okay. I'm going to die.
• 11:12
  Speaker 1: It'll hurt for that moment. And also the name calling thing.
• 11:15
  Speaker 1: I just had a flashback when I first got with Steve.
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  Speaker 1: It wasn't when we were intimate. It was in passing conversation.
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  Speaker 1: I did call him by my ex. It just came out.
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  Speaker 1: I'd been with my ex for three and a half years,
• 11:24
  Speaker 1: I was newly with Steve. It just I don't know
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  Speaker 1: how to have it. It meant nothing. I broke up
• 11:27
  Speaker 1: with my ex. I did not want to be with him.
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  Speaker 1: I was so certain on that it literally meant nothing
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  Speaker 1: and Steve laughed it off. It never happened again. So
• 11:33
  Speaker 1: this could be an alcohol infused thing that was just
• 11:35
  Speaker 1: a mistake and like they're being sloppy and messy as
• 11:38
  Speaker 1: you do with alcohol. Or he could still be attached.
• 11:40
  Speaker 1: I'm not quite sure, but sometimes it does slip out.
• 11:42
  Speaker 1: It doesn't have to mean anything. So but that's once
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  Speaker 1: again you won't know until you have a conversation. So
• 11:48
  Speaker 1: if this is on your heart, on your mind, I
• 11:49
  Speaker 1: would send the text, check in and say can we
• 11:51
  Speaker 1: catch up for a conversation and see how he responds.
• 11:54
  Speaker 1: That'll tell you a lot. See what happens in that conversation,
• 11:56
  Speaker 1: that will give you all the answers you need. You
• 11:58
  Speaker 1: just have to be really clear and direct. Doesn't mean
• 12:01
  Speaker 1: you can't do it kindly and softly. You can still
• 12:03
  Speaker 1: do that and honor your And if you're not clear
• 12:06
  Speaker 1: on what you want, he's just going to keep playing
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  Speaker 1: this role as well. You can invite and to come
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  Speaker 1: forward and meet you there and you guys start to
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  Speaker 1: build something or not. I don't think i'd want to
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  Speaker 1: be in the limbo playing the friends with benefit now
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  Speaker 1: no label because I get hurt. Yeah, even then, no
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  Speaker 1: label thing? Are you guys sleeping with other people? And
• 12:23
  Speaker 1: you might say, oh my gosh, no, I'm not and
• 12:25
  Speaker 1: he isn't either. How do you know? Yeah, you didn't
• 12:27
  Speaker 1: have a label in a relationship. You're not in a relationship.
• 12:29
  Speaker 1: You guys are free to do whatever you want. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: you might be fucking four other girls and you don't
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  Speaker 1: know about it, and that's okay. You doesn't have to
• 12:34
  Speaker 1: tell you because you're not in a relationship. That's right. How
• 12:36
  Speaker 1: do you feel being that person on the side that
• 12:38
  Speaker 1: has all this fun and does all these things, but
• 12:40
  Speaker 1: he's also leaking his energy to four other women and
• 12:43
  Speaker 1: also as.
• 12:43
  Speaker 2: Well, like if you do decide to do something like
• 12:45
  Speaker 2: this in the future, it's like knowing your boundaries around
• 12:47
  Speaker 2: that because you are giving somebody relationship benefits and you
• 12:51
  Speaker 2: are receiving relationship benefits by not having to be in
• 12:53
  Speaker 2: a relationship. That's what gets people into this situation is
• 12:57
  Speaker 2: like now if the line's a blurred and it's like, oh,
• 12:59
  Speaker 2: what are we? Where does this leave us? Like where
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  Speaker 2: does this give me? And that's like so confusing to
• 13:04
  Speaker 2: put yourself in uncertainty. If you just want the physical act,
• 13:07
  Speaker 2: make sure that you're clear about what that looks like
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  Speaker 2: for you so that you can protect your heart moving forward.
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  Speaker 2: And then if you do again with this man won
• 13:14
  Speaker 2: a relationship. Just own it, Yeah, just own it.
• 13:17
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I think so. And the X thing true. We've
• 13:21
  Speaker 1: spoken about this my first partner. I feel like I'll
• 13:24
  Speaker 1: always hold a special place for him in my heart period. Yeah,
• 13:28
  Speaker 1: he was such a beautiful man. He treated me so well,
• 13:30
  Speaker 1: he did so much for me. I got nothing bad
• 13:33
  Speaker 1: to say about that man. So like, maybe with his ex,
• 13:36
  Speaker 1: the whole is he still hung up on it. Maybe
• 13:38
  Speaker 1: he's still just like has a space for her and
• 13:40
  Speaker 1: in his heart, and that's okay as well. Once again,
• 13:43
  Speaker 1: the conversation you need to have for them to get
• 13:44
  Speaker 1: clarity on that. That's true. Communication, communication, communication. Yeah, that's
• 13:48
  Speaker 1: what you said is so true.
• 13:49
  Speaker 2: At the end of the day, if you shared time
• 13:50
  Speaker 2: with somebody, there's always going to be love for them.
• 13:52
  Speaker 1: It doesn't matter, it doesn't matter. It's a beautiful thing. Yeah,
• 13:55
  Speaker 1: it doesn't have to take away from what you might have.
• 13:57
  Speaker 2: But it's different from like, oh, I have love for
• 13:59
  Speaker 2: this person or I'm still in love with this person. Definitely,
• 14:01
  Speaker 2: totally different conversations. Definitely, And that's why you have to
• 14:04
  Speaker 2: have the comment.
• 14:05
  Speaker 1: Have to ask the hard question. That's otherwise you're going
• 14:07
  Speaker 1: to be doing this dance for a little while, and
• 14:08
  Speaker 1: you're gonna get hurt when he meets someone else that
• 14:10
  Speaker 1: is the one. Yes, yes, girl, you got to give
• 14:13
  Speaker 1: us an update. We would love to about it. Love
• 14:15
  Speaker 1: an update. I saw someone that in our shee rises
• 14:17
  Speaker 1: for him and said, Hey, is there any other updates
• 14:19
  Speaker 1: of these Best of Advice segments to get sent them?
• 14:21
  Speaker 1: I said, We've been sent to, but they want to
• 14:23
  Speaker 1: stay anonymous and they didn't want us to do an
• 14:25
  Speaker 1: episode update. But if anyone who has an update on
• 14:27
  Speaker 1: any episodes that we've done, that we've given advice for
• 14:30
  Speaker 1: and you've done the thing, please bring it in. We
• 14:32
  Speaker 1: would love to hear about it. We'd love to hear
• 14:34
  Speaker 1: a happy ending or a big breakthrough that you had,
• 14:37
  Speaker 1: or decision that you made, the conversation that you were
• 14:39
  Speaker 1: brad to have. Yes, we'd love to know the details
• 14:42
  Speaker 1: of that'd be cool. You're right. Otherwise, we'll see tomorrow.
• 14:44
  Speaker 1: Bye bye,