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178. It's All About the Recovery · Impact Ready

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  Welcome to Impact Ready, a show dedicated to helping you elevate
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  your impact in the world. I'm Steph Safra, your host.
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  Let's explore the power of showing up with intention and
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  energy each day. This is for those who seek to
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  make life truly meaningful. Get ready for impact.
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  Hi, team, welcome to the show. So glad you're here.
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  I can't believe it, but we're almost to the end of January.
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  We're almost through month 1 of 2026 and I will never understand
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  time. I will never understand how
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  quickly and also slowly time can move, especially as we get
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  older. It just it, it confuses my
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  brain. My family and I just got back
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  from a vacation together. We were gone all last week and
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  we we typically try to get away in January because it's the
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  coldest, rainiest, grayest, darkest time in Portland.
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  And so it felt really good to be away and we're back.
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  I'm fired up to get back into the routine of things.
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  I always love coming back and, and feeling creative and excited
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  and inspired again. But being gone, it's easy for
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  habits and routines to slip a little bit as they do.
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  I'm sure you've experienced that.
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  It happens to me sometimes too and I don't get too worried
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  about it honestly. I think it's good for us to get
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  out of the structure sometimes, get out of the, the, the
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  routine. I think it creates space for new
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  thinking and new perspectives, some creativity.
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  I always come back with different ideas about stuff that
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  I probably would have never come to had I just been in my my
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  day-to-day. But I will be honest with you, I
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  slipped into an old habit of mine recently, which is to
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  scroll on social media at night before bed.
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  Now you guys know how I feel about screen time, how I feel
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  about doom scrolling especially before bed, how it impacts sleep
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  hygiene, blue light for their impact on your brain, etcetera
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  etcetera. I've talked about it so many
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  times, but here I am being transparent about the fact that
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  I'm just a normal human who falls into bad habits just like
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  everybody else. And this is one that really gets
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  me. Sometimes it's easy for me to
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  fall back into it especially happens when there are big
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  events happening in the world. I get sucked into reading news
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  and looking at articles. I get sucked into looking at
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  posts about what's happening around the globe.
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  And I'll be straight up, and I will say that it's absolutely
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  not helpful for me. It goes against a lot of the
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  things that I coach on, a lot of the things that I talk about on
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  this podcast. But I thought I would share this
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  example with you first, to be really honest about the fact
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  that I screw up with my routine and my habits just like everyone
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  else. But also to talk about the
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  importance of how you recover, how you reset after missing a
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  day or blowing up a routine or going back to an old habit.
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  How you get back on track with your system.
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  The recovery, the reset is almost as important as the
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  system itself. Now, I'll describe to you the
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  way that this went down last night.
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  My wife was looking at me. We were laying in bed and she
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  was looking at me. And she said, hey, you've been
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  scrolling a lot before bed. You've been on your phone a lot
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  at night. And I said, yeah, I have been.
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  And she goes every night. You have this alarm that goes
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  off at 9:00 that says put your phone away.
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  And almost every night you ignore the alarm.
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  And I said, yeah, I, I am. I'm ignoring it almost every
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  night. And I could feel the urge to
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  tense up as she was talking to me.
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  I I could feel the old desire and urge to sort of shut down to
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  what she was saying to me. Normally, these kinds of
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  comments would have annoyed me. I would have gotten offensive.
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  I would have started making excuses and blaming other things
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  for what I was doing. But I held and I was listening.
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  And she said to me, you know, that's not helpful to you.
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  You talk about it all the time, how this is not helpful for you
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  to be looking at social media before bed.
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  We ended this short conversation with an agreement to put our
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  phones away at 8:30 at night and focus on other things before we
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  go to bed. And I agreed to that because I
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  knew she was right and I knew that I was doing something that
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  was not helpful and was probably harmful to me.
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  Now, I recognize that this is just a silly example about too
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  much screen time, but I've been thinking about this today and it
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  really has me thinking a lot about the recovery, what
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  somebody does when they need to recalibrate or reset from
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  something that is off or taking them away from their alignment
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  or their forward momentum. Like I said, the old me would
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  have been pissed about that conversation.
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  I would have been annoyed. I would have probably gotten
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  offensive. But last night I didn't want to
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  do that because I was very aware of something in that moment.
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  I asked for this. I asked for a partner who would
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  call me out on my bullshit. I wanted a partner who wants the
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  best for me, who will hold me accountable to the things that I
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  say that I'm going to do, who will hold me accountable to my
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  dreams and my own growth. And in that moment, I realized
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  that's exactly what I was getting.
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  When I think about recovery, I know that that perspective.
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  I asked for This is always very level setting for me to remember
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  that I can't begrudge the things that I've said yes to in the
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  past. And what I've said yes to is a
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  partner who is going to push me and challenge me when it comes
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  to recovery. I also recognize that I have to
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  stay open. Instead of being defensive in
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  the situation, I want to be open minded and open hearted.
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  I want to assume the best of my partner, to assume that she is
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  speaking to me in my best interest.
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  And in truth, she's holding me accountable to something that I
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  have said in the past that I really want to prioritize, which
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  is putting the phone away and eliminating the social media in
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  the mornings and in the evenings.
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  But how often do we assume the worst of somebody when they call
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  us out on something or when they hold us accountable to something
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  that we have said that we've wanted?
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  How often do we get defensive and put our walls up?
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  I mean, it happens all the time. We often talk about surrounding
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  ourselves with the people who will lift us up, who will
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  promote our growth, who will challenge us and ask more of us.
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  I want that as part of my scaffolding in my life.
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  So I can't begrudge when somebody's calling me out on
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  that. I asked for this.
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  When I think about recovery, it makes me think about how I need
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  to take radical ownership of the circumstances.
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  So I did a little audit today and I thought, OK, what is this
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  all about? Why was I letting this boundary
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  for myself slide? And so I looked at all the
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  different parts of it. Part of it is that I just got
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  LAX. I've been traveling a lot.
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  My routine has been off. I've been more tired.
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  And every time I get tired, I get a little bit off my game.
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  I know this about myself. So there's that piece of it.
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  I also know that I can get pretty worked up about things
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  that are going on in the world. It's very easy for the heaviness
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  of things happening to impact me.
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  And I know that this is very common.
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  I'm sure you've been feeling something similar in your own
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  life. But something I know about
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  myself, something I became aware of, especially God, it really
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  started in 2020 with the onset of the pandemic.
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  I realized that putting all of my attention and focus on the
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  outer world, consuming all this information and being so trauma
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  exposed was really detrimental to my energy, my frequency.
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  And it it very much impacted the way that I was showing up for my
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  people in my own life. And I don't say any of this
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  lightly or in a cavalier way because I am an advocate of
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  being informed. I strongly believe that it is
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  very important to be educated and informed about what's going
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  on in the world. I think we can all agree on
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  that, but not at the expense of our own personal Wellness.
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  It's easy for our nervous system to become overwhelmed with the
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  amount of information that we're taking in, and as a byproduct,
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  it lowers our frequency so much so that we can't be the light in
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  our family or our community. We can't be the light that is
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  needed. When we are consumed with fear
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  and worry and grief and trauma and we are constantly exposing
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  ourselves to information that adds to that.
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  Guess what? We can't be of service.
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  I know that I can't. I can't serve in the way that I
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  know I should be or could be because of the way that my
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  nervous system feels and is responding.
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  We're not able to have the positive impact that we need to
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  have. We're not able to share our
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  gifts with the world. We're not able to lift people up
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  the way that we could. And it's so serious.
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  It's such a powerful thing. The power of the media today,
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  the power of the images and the videos and the algorithms, it's
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  so incredibly strong. It's designed to be that way.
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  And I've seen it take down some really brilliant people, people
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  that I know and I love and I respect.
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  I've watched them have to go dark for weeks at a time to
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  recover from the state of mind that they experienced because
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  they were over consuming news and articles and social media.
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  I've seen this happen and I felt this happened myself.
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  So again, I don't say any of this lightly, but I do have a
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  keen awareness of how important it is to protect your energy and
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  protect your frequency, that energy that you broadcast into
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  the world in difficult times. We want to be a light to others,
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  not a drain to others. And so I recognize that it's my
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  job to be very vigilant about this.
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  So taking radical ownership of all of that is something that I
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  have to do. Ownership of my boundaries, my
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  energy, my frequency, the way that I'm showing up, all of it.
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  The last thing I really thought about with recovery is this.
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  I don't want to spend time in the shame, blame, guilt pattern.
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  I don't want to spend time making excuses about why I got
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  back into the bad routine or why I'm doing it.
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  I want to acknowledge it, but I don't want to sit in it.
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  That's problem energy. What I really want to do is get
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  back on track with keeping the promises that I make to myself.
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  I want to shorten the amount of time that it takes for me to
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  have the idea and take the action.
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  I want to do what I say I'm going to do because that
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  directly impacts confidence. It directly effects my sense of
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  personal integrity. If I want to find solution to
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  this be in solution energy, I want to get clear on why this
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  habit, this routine matters to me and take action on it.
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  I want to reconnect to the mission or the vision for who I
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  want to be and how I want to feel.
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  Because when I do that, when I can see it all really clearly,
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  it makes it so much easier to actually decide and do the
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  things that are aligned with that.
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  So all is to say, this is all part of the game.
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  You know, me sharing this story with you, breaking down what I'm
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  thinking about the recovery process, It's all because
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  practice doesn't make perfect. It makes progress.
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  And when it comes to making even better progress, you think about
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  how well you can recover when things don't go your way or when
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  you screw up a little bit in life.
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  It's all about the recovery, baby.
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  So I hope this helps. This week, I hope that you go
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  easy on yourself. I hope that you feel like you
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  can take ownership of the things that are happening in your own
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  sphere. And remember that you are always
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  broadcasting a frequency out into the world.
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  People can feel your energy and you are a light in your
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  community, in your family. And we need that light more than
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  ever right now. We need your light.
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  So don't get caught up in the perfection.
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  Get obsessed with the progress and remember there's always
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  space for recovery. I'm glad you're here.
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  I'm glad you're listening. Thank you for being incredible.
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  And as always, team, thank you for being ready to Impact.
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  Thanks for listening to Impact Ready.
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  I hope today's episode inspired you to own your impact and
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  recognize that you are powerful. By elevating our energy and
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  awareness, we can create exponential change in this life.
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  Thanks again for being here.