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Episode 673: This Always Happens Just Before Your Ex Comes Back · The Art of Love With Lucia

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  You're in no contact. You want your ex back.
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  Are there any signs or clues that your ex is starting to
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  change their mind and might be back?
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  Well, I am so glad you asked because the answer is yes.
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  What happens just before your ex comes back?
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  Well, stay tuned and you'll find out.
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  Hi, this is Lucia with the Art of Love.
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  I'm a deity and relationship expert specializing, helping you
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  get your ex back or to get over your ex.
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  And if you are in no contact, make sure you download my apps
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  Silencio to help you stay in no contact.
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  And the link for that is underneath every single video
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  and podcast. And if you too would like to
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  join our wonderful no contact army, all you have to do is hit
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  the subscribe button and the bell notification and you're in.
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  And to read our manual, go to nocontactsecrets.com, where you
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  can read 2 free chapters before you purchase the book.
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  OK, so the version of you that your ex has in mind is someone
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  that they're no longer attracted to, someone that they do not see
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  as high value, thus the reason for the breakup.
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  And one of the reasons we do know contact is to show them
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  that no, they're wrong and you are someone who's attractive and
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  high value and they're missing out.
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  You need to show them that you're not the same person.
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  And you do that with no contact. So it's confusing now because
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  they thought you were one way, but suddenly you appear to be
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  another way. They didn't expect this.
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  And this will cause them to get curious, as I've mentioned in
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  many other videos, and either reach out or start orbiting.
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  And when you ignore their bread crumbs, as I say to do, the
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  silent message you're sending is that you respect yourself and
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  that raises your value. And it also shows that you have
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  options. And you're not going to
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  entertain someone who who's low effort, even if it is your ex.
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  And this is when they start to test you.
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  If you want them to come back, they need to know it's safe and
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  that they can trust you. And this always happens before
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  an X comes back. So what are some of the tests
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  they'll use? Well, one test is when they try
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  to put you in the friend zone. And I say try because of course
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  we're too smart for that in the no contact army.
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  Or they may try to keep you on the back burner without a title.
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  Again, a big no no, something that a lot of XS do and it
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  drives everyone nuts because they're like, why are they doing
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  this? And that is watching your
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  stories, liking your posts, but not saying anything.
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  So are you going to watch the stories of the person who dumped
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  you? No.
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  Are you going to be low value and break no contact?
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  No. But they're hoping you will.
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  They're testing you. Another test could be to ask you
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  to do a favor, ask a question. And this is an easy one to see
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  through because they'll either ask you to do something that
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  someone else could easily have done for them, or they could
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  have found out the answer by asking Google or ChatGPT.
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  But what they want to do is to test to see if you still have
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  feelings for them or they stand with you if you're even speaking
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  to them. And one of my clients is going
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  through this right now. Her ex asked her to do him a
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  favor. I know I told her to say no and
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  she's been freaking out ever since, thinking that she did the
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  wrong thing by not being compliant and doing the XA favor
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  after she was dumped. And I have to keep reassuring
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  her that no was the right thing to do.
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  But I know that when you're in no contact, the right thing
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  often feels like the wrong thing and vice versa.
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  You're in an upside down world and another test might be
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  disrespecting your boundaries. So this is when they call you 10
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  times in a row or they may contact you late at night and
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  you know what? They're no longer your partner.
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  And so they no longer have the privilege of having access to
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  you at night. So again, they're trying to test
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  you and see, are you weak? Are you going to respond?
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  What's going on? They may try to make you
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  jealous, but again, we're too smart for that.
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  If anything, we're going to make them jealous.
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  OK. And in fact, I made a whole
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  video on jealousy and on why you should never act jealous.
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  And I'll put the link in the right and corner on YouTube.
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  So the important thing to keep in mind is that if you're
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  passing their tests and behaving high value, then things are
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  moving in the right direction. They're testing to see if you've
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  changed, if your value has gone up.
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  And remember though that if you took them for granted, meaning
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  that they didn't feel like they were a priority for you or you
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  cheated, then after a short period of no contact, usually
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  about 30 days, you need to respond to the bread crumbs.
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  Unfortunately I know and show that indeed you are interested.
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  And when they reach out, unless you cheated or took them for
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  granted, then they are the ones who need to make the move, even
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  if you're a male. So do not ask to meet up.
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  And I know I said differently in a previous video, but that was
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  like 7 years ago and I've since changed my mind.
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  People are allowed to change their mind once they have more
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  information. Because sometimes your ex may
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  reach out but they're not ready to get back together.
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  Or maybe they were just temporarily missing you.
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  Or even worse, they may say they want to meet up but then they
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  cancel. So that means they're still
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  unsure, they're still not ready, and chasing after them is not
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  going to do anything. So if you're a guy, even if your
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  ex contacts you do not ask them to get together OK, despite what
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  everyone else is saying. So just remain high value and
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  let them do what they're going to do.
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  They got to get to a place where they feel safe with you and when
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  they do then they will want to come back.
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  And finally, the good news is that if your ex isn't having
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  second thoughts and isn't possibly reconsidering, then
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  they wouldn't be testing you. So be happy when they test you
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  because now you are prepared to pass the tests with flying
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  colors. OK, so now I want to hear from
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  you. Has your ex done any of these
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  tests and how did it go or have they done another test?
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  And what test was it and how did it go?
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  And in the meantime, if you'd like my help to get your ex
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  back, you can contact me at theartoflove.net and we will
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  send you the rates. They are not on the website and
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  the direct link is underneath every single video and podcast.
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