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Hypnosis to Heal from Emotional Abuse and Restore Self Love, Self Respect and Worthiness · The Hypnotist

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  Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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  access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing
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  genuine. Issues.
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  Brought to you by The Hypnotherapist, demanded by
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  celebrities, CEOs and even royalty, Adam Cox.
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  These recordings took place live from Adam's clinic in London's
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  world famous Harley Street. So get yourself comfortable and
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  enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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  Hi, it's Adam here Now if you've ever had the.
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  Experience of being. In a relationship where you were
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  giving a lot more than you were getting back, it was very one
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  sided, or perhaps even worse, it was abusive that you were on the
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  receiving end of verbal, emotional, psychological or even
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  physical abuse. You might resonate with this
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  particular hypnosis session. It was created for a.
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  Client that. Because their parents were in a
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  very abusive relationship, The father being abusive to the
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  mother, that's what they. Saw growing up.
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  And to use the words of the. Client, they felt.
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  That they were living their mother's life and they wanted to
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  break that generational cycle so it didn't pass down to their
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  daughter in another generation. And they had four different
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  relationships that followed a similar pattern.
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  The people were different, but the dynamics were very similar.
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  And what it came down to was a feeling of low self worth.
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  That they weren't worthy of a better relationship.
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  And more importantly, if they try to leave one of these
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  relationships, they would feel a really intense cutting pain
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  right there in the chest. And you'll hear the analogy that
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  I used to. Deal with that.
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  But at its core, there is a fundamental belief, which I
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  think is so important. Good people experience bad
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  things all the time. This idea that you know if
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  you're good and good things happen to you.
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  This comic idea, I wish it was true.
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  It should be true. It isn't.
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  And the belief that I have is that you don't get what you
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  deserve. You get what you tolerate.
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  Now, tolerating means that you have to have.
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  Either boundaries to protect. Or consequences if those
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  boundaries are violated. And what this client knew is
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  that they were tolerating things that they would not like to see
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  happening into those people that they love.
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  And the only reason they were doing that is because over time,
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  their confidence. Their self.
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  Worth their self esteem had been eroded, so they were now
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  accepting the crumbs, the scraps, rather than what they
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  really deserved. And you'll hear an analogy that
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  I use. About hunger just.
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  Imagine if you are absolutely starving.
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  You might accept rotting food, dirty food.
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  You know. Even things that aren't healthy
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  at all, you might accept that if you were on the brink of
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  starvation. If you were well fed and
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  healthy, you would not accept those same things.
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  That also applies to relationship.
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  If you are filled with high confidence, high self esteem and
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  self love, huge. Amounts of self respect.
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  If someone treats you badly, you do not tolerate it at all.
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  You make a hard line and if they don't apologize or change their
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  behaviors, you're out of there. It's nice and simple, but if you
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  don't have that self respect, that self love, that self esteem
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  and confidence, you might accept that because there might be a
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  tiny bit of good things that are in there.
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  And sometimes very caring, giving people are normally
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  described as empaths, and they tend to attract quite often
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  people with narcissistic tendencies.
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  Narcissists are very good at manipulating emotions in the
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  early stages of a relationship. They can make you feel.
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  Like the most important. Person on the planet, but that
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  doesn't last very long, and when the mask slips, what you're left
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  with is someone that can be abusive.
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  That can gaslight. That can do all these kind of
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  things and it's designed to chisel away at yourself worth so
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  you accept more and more and more and this was the kind of
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  things happening with this client.
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  So if you can resonate with any of these ideas, you might get
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  some value from this session. Please be aware though that it
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  was created for an individual. Some of the suggestions would
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  have been ideal for this particular client and not quite
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  right for you because it's always done for the clients that
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  I'm working with. The audience is just hopefully a
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  positive side effect of me doing something that's useful for the
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  original client. So if you do like the idea of
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  something bespoke and tailored to you and your circumstances,
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  there will be a link in the description, but also on my
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  website, adamcox.co.uk and you can book a free consultation
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  call with me over Zoom, we'll chat and who knows, we might end
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  up working together, me as your hypnotherapist rather than a guy
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  that you listen to on a podcast or YouTube.
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  But now though. Find a.
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  Quiet, comfortable place where you're not going to be
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  distracted or disturbed because you might get some value from
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  this session. So relax and enjoy the session.
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  Take a deep breath in and as you breathe in, breathe in a feeling
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  of calm relaxation going in through your nose, filling your
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  lungs. And as you exhale, feel a
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  sensation of release, letting go of any tension, any stress, any
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  worries. And as you breathe in and
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  breathe out, just feel your eyelids getting heavier and
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  heavier. Just imagine your jaw loosening
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  and just focus. Focus immediately behind your
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  eyeballs, creating a sense of temporary strain.
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  And on the next inward breath, intensify that sensation behind
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  your eyes. And then as you exhale, just
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  release it all and just feel your eyes completely relaxed.
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  That's in almost feel like your eyelids are so heavy that even
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  if you try to open them they would just feel so heavy, feel
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  so relaxed. And I want you to breathe in a
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  colour that your unconscious mind links to the idea of
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  worthiness. Some people think of worthiness
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  as just self worth. Whatever colour comes to mind
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  that represents that self worth and worthiness is exactly the
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  colour it should be. And imagine breathing in that
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  colour of worthiness. And as you exhale, I want you to
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  breathe out any feelings of shame, regret, or dependency.
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  Imagine it leaving your body as something dark grey, like a
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  shadow. When you fully exhale, then
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  breathe in more of that worthiness.
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  Each breath is like a transfusion, giving you
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  emotionally what you need and exhaling all of those unpleasant
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  emotions that tend to happen when you stop respecting
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  yourself. That's it.
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  Fear it being released because it was never yours.
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  Some people benefit. They benefit by getting more of
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  what they want. If they can make someone else
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  reduce their self worth. That's how people get broken.
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  That's how people get manipulated.
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  I want you to get a feeling manipulation is thousands of
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  years old. I want you to get a feeling that
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  if you wanted someone else to do something that benefited you,
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  then it makes sense for them to question whether their life has
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  any value at all. And how do you do that?
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  You see what you get away with and the more they tolerate the
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  lower their self worth is until it's so low that you can do
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  anything. I want you to consider low self
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  worth like someone starving almost dying of hunger.
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  What food would someone eat if they were starving?
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  They might eat food that is rotten.
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  They might eat food that is infected with parasites like
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  worms or maggots. They might eat something
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  infected or putrid. Because if someone is such in
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  need of eating anything, their standards are low.
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  But imagine if someone had had healthy meals consistently.
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  They would not tolerate the scraps, the rotten food.
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  They simply wouldn't entertain the idea.
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  As you breathe in and breathe out, entertain a thought that if
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  you've been starved of real respect, real love, real
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  consideration, maybe it would increase the probability that
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  you would settle for the scraps. If your unconscious agrees, let
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  me know by nodding your head. And I have a feeling there is a
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  strong, powerful part within you that is no longer willing to
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  tolerate to be second best, to be the Plan B or the Plan C, to
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  be the afterthought. I think there's a part within
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  you that knows, knows you are worthy, knows you are valuable,
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  knows knows that if in order to attract the relationship that
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  you desire, you must first have that same relationship with
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  yourself. That without self respect you
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  will tolerate no respect, and without self love you would
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  accept something that isn't love, but it's just a poor
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  quality substitute. Continue to breathe in that
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  feeling of worthiness and keep exhaling.
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  Any shame, any frustrations, any resentment.
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  That's it. Keep it leaving your body and
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  then breathe in more of that worthiness.
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  The deeper you breathe, the more relaxed you feel, and the more
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  relaxed you feel, the deeper you breathe.
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  As your body relaxes, your imagination awakens.
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  And I want you to imagine a beautiful garden.
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  Not just any garden, a paradise garden.
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  I want you to see tropical flowers.
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  I want you to see wonderful trees bearing fruit.
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  And there in the middle of the garden is a rose Bush.
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  Beautiful, delicate roses, petals of different colours like
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  white, red, pink and purple. I don't want you to notice
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  something that you always knew logically but didn't realise why
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  they were there. Every stem on a rose has thorns
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  because without the thorns, the parasites of the garden would
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  consume the petals. But for something delicate and
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  beautiful, it needs something to protect it.
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  I want you to feel that in your past, you were the Rose, but
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  without the thorns. I want you to feel that in your
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  past, by being a giver, A caretaker, a pleaser, you were
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  putting the needs of others before your own.
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  And in doing so, month by month, year by year, yourself worth was
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  chipped away brick by brick until there was a version of you
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  that would tolerate something that you never thought you
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  would. But I want you to feel that now
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  yourself worth is recharging. I want you to feel that you are
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  a rose with sharp thorns. These thorns are there to
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  protect, to protect yourself, worth yourself respect, to
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  ensure you arrive at a higher standard and.
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  Stay there. This version of you is no longer
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  willing to accept the scraps. It's either a delicious meal or
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  nothing at all. If you're unconscious can
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  connect with these themes and metaphors, let me know by
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  nodding your head. That's it, feel, feel that you
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  have been a wilted rose with no thorns and then imagine it
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  changing. Beautiful, elegant, strong and
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  protected. I want you to get a feeling that
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  every decision you make, it becomes a choice, a vote as to
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  which version of you you will become and remain.
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  And every time you decide to give yourself respect, I want
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  you to feel that is who you become.
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  And every time you make a decision that is an indication
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  of low worthiness or low respect, you become more like
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  that person. Not your intentions, but your
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  actions, your decisions, what you actually do.
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  You get what you tolerate, not what you deserve.
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  You already know you deserve love, connection, respect,
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  consideration. You haven't been getting it.
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  Not because you don't deserve it, but because you were willing
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  to tolerate all of those things with substitutes or opposites.
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  And I want you to feel that you're reaching that point.
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  The straw that breaks the camel's back.
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  Enough is enough. No more.
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  You're done. But let's first go back in time.
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  I want you to go back to an early childhood memory.
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  Of seeing what your mother tolerated that led to her losing
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  more of who she really was. There was a time when she was
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  strong, full of self love and self respect, but it got eroded
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  every time she forgave the unforgivable, every time she
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  looked the other way, every time she accepted something that was
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  not justified until there was nothing left of her.
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  And I want you to imagine knowing everything you know
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  about your mother and going back in time, maybe to the very
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  beginning of that relationship. I want you to imagine a version
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  of you filled with self love, self respect, high standards,
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  and imagine what it would be like to be your mother for a day
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  early on in that relationship, perhaps before you were born.
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  She would have to be strong. She would have to refuse to
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  accept or tolerate disrespect, abuse, lies or manipulation.
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  And if you could imagine what it would be like to have those
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  qualities in you being her, let me know by nodding your head.
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  And I want you to get a feeling that there is only two options.
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  To change the dynamics so that that love and respect is there,
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  or to walk away from a relationship where it's no
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  longer possible and maybe never was.
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  So as you breathe in and breathe out, feel, feel that sense that
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  enough is enough. And I want you to imagine seeing
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  your daughter 20 years from now, at your age.
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  I want you to imagine witnessing her tolerating something that
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  you expect and accept but you would never want for her.
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  And allow that to feel sad, angry, frustrated.
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  Whenever emotions come up, allow them.
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  This is your leverage and if you can see your daughter at the age
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  where you are now tolerating something you would never want
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  her to tolerate, let me know by nodding your head.
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  And I want you to get a feeling that you can change this future
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  by changing yourself now, because enough is enough.
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  Imagine yourself back in that beautiful garden.
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  And I want you to imagine that when you were a child, watching
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  all of that abuse from your father to your mother when you
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  were young, a small bit of metal got launched in your chest.
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  Think of it as shrapnel. And you learned something.
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  You learned that something could be dramatic, even exciting, but
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  not necessarily love, not necessarily respect.
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  I want you to get a feeling then.
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  Those early role models taught you not the way, just a way.
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  And that way is not the only way.
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  And every time you thought about leaving something toxic or
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  abusive, you felt that pain in your chest.
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  Not because it was the right relationship, but because it
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  meant that you had to hold yourself to a higher standard.
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  I want you to imagine that you have now 2 choices.
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  You can spend the rest of your life with this dependency on
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  living on the scraps, the emotional leftovers, or you can
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  remove this shrapnel from your chest and you can give yourself
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  the love, the respect that you will always do.
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  Because when you fill your own cup, when you've got so much
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  self love and so much self respect, so much time and
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  attention for yourself, you don't need it from others.
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  You don't need a project to fix, someone to mend.
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  You want a partnership, harmony, something fulfilling.
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  What if you've got what you tolerated for so long that it is
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  now time to get what you truly deserve, love, connection and
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  happiness? But in doing so, you need to
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  remove that shrapnel there in your chest.
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  And I want you to imagine ending something toxic, and by ending
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  it, you finally remove that shrapnel from your chest.
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  And maybe it's through a message, maybe a voicemail,
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  maybe something not seeking more effort.
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  Definitive, followed by blocked numbers, drawing a line in the
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  sand that anything other than what you truly desire is no
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  longer desirable. And I want you to imagine
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  yourself ending that abusive, toxic relationship in a
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  definitive way. And as you imagine doing that,
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  feel like that sharp metal is being extracted from your chest.
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  That the pain doesn't mean you have to go back.
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  The pain is a signal that you're doing what needs to be done to
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  never go back. Do this in your mind 1st and
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  then when you do it in reality, even if that feeling comes back,
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  it's just. Evidence that you.
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  Are extracting something that has been contributing to your
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  low self worth and when you could imagine ending it
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  definitively and feeling that pain in your chest alleviate not
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  through validation but through self respect for you.
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  Let me know by nodding your head.
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  That's it. You are one definitive decision
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  away from freedom. But that's not the end of the
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  journey, that's the beginning of the journey.
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  The journey of self love and self respect of high standards
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  want you to imagine what that future looks like.
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  What kind of relationships do you have?
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  What kind of person do you attract when you change?
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  The empath and the narcissist is like a moth to a flame, a key to
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  a lock. When you become the evolved
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  empath, you no longer attract the narcissist.
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  When you heal yourself, you attract those that are equally
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  healed. I want you to get a feeling that
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  when you change, who you attract also changes.
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  And I want you to imagine that future, a future where you're
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  discerning but also open, but you know the red flags and you
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  know when to walk away. Not through manipulation, not
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  through game playing, but because anything less than what
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  you truly deserve, you don't want it.
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  And if you could imagine that future, the future where you're
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  finally getting the love, recognition and value that
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  you've always deserved, let me know by nodding your head.
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  That's it. And I want you to get a feeling
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  then it's time to leave this garden.
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  But you leave this garden full of high self worth, of high self
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  respect, and you could lose it. You could lose that self respect
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  and self love by making decisions that the old you would
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  have made. That's not you anymore.
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  If it doesn't fill you up with alignment, empowerment, self
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  love and self respect. You simply don't want it.
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  And you don't need a relationship to feel valued.
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  You will give that value to yourself and you can be open to
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  a relationship without needing one.
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  And by having that sense of security, it means you become
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  immune to games and manipulation that in the past became alluring
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  for you. So as you leave that garden,
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  imagine floating all the way back to your present.
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  Take a deep breath in through your nose and out through your
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  nose. Just wiggle your fingers and
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  wiggle your toes. Start to connect and calibrate
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  into the here and the now. And when I count from 1:00 to
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  10:00 you will awaken. But you will awaken feeling
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  filled with self love, self respect, worthiness, and a
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  desire to make a decision that removes the pain of your past
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  and sets a precedent of your high standards moving forward.
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  Starting to count to awaken you 123 Waking up 456 More alert 7-8
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  Open your eyes, open your eyes. 910 Wide awake, wide awake, wide
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  awake. Thank you so much for joining me
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  on today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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