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The Marble Jar - Hypnosis to Break Habits Like Alcohol or Sugar and Replace with Healthy Habits · The Hypnotist

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  Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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  access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing
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  genuine. Issues.
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  Brought to you by The Hypnotherapist, demanded by
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  celebrities, CEOs and even royalty, Adam Cox.
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  These recordings took place live from Adam's clinic in London's
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  world famous Harley Street. So get yourself comfortable and
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  enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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  Hi, it's Adam here. Now.
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  I'm going to guess this is a guest because I don't know you
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  personally. You've got at least one bad
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  habit. Something isn't that healthy and
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  something that if you did less of that and more of something
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  else, actually it would improve the quality of your life.
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  You would feel better about yourself.
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  You might have more energy, more health, more confidence,
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  something. Like that?
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  Well, you've come to the right place because.
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  This hypnosis session. Is all about reducing unhealthy
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  habits and increasing healthy habits.
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  And there was a client that I was working with that used to
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  drink alcohol on their own and then they stopped drinking
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  alcohol and they started having sugary sweets and they didn't
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  want to replace one with the other.
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  So you might be familiar with the game called Whack A Mole,
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  where in these kind of arcades a little animal would pop up, you
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  hit it with a little hammer and then another one pops up
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  somewhere else. That can happen with habits that
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  actually you break one habit and then another unhealthy habit
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  just replaces it. So we don't want this
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  psychological whack a mole taking place.
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  What we want is to be intentional.
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  That is one habit reduces, a healthy habit replaces it and
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  it's good to have behavioural psychology alongside the
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  hypnosis within this. And I make reference to a marble
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  jar. So if you just think of a big
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  vase, a glass vase or a big one of those big jars, the the kind
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  of Mason jars. Now just imagine that you've got
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  lots of marbles and every time you did something healthy.
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  Instead of something. Unhealthy.
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  You put one of those marbles and you put it in the jar and you
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  could probably imagine what that would sound like, the rattling
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  around the glass on glass kind of sound that becomes an anchor.
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  It becomes a trigger. That actually means that you get
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  to feel good whenever you do the healthy thing.
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  And then you get to feel good by rewarding yourself by putting
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  the marble in the jar. And you also get to feel good
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  whenever you see that jar filling up with marbles to say,
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  oh, I'm, I've got lots and lots of healthy habits that I'm
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  building in my life. So that's a, it's a metaphor
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  within the hypnosis, but I would encourage you to buy that big
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  jar, buy the pack of marbles and then give yourself a rule that
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  says when you do something healthy or you do the habit that
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  you want to cultivate more of, put a marble in the jar.
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  And then that creates a wonderful self fulfilling
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  prophecy and positive reinforcement, which is part of
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  behavioural psychology. Now this session is about wine
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  and sugar. That's the habits that this
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  client wanted to change and be more active and do things like
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  more yoga and walking and things like that.
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  It might be different for you. So if you like the idea of a
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  bespoke session, something crafted specifically for you,
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  have a look in the show notes because there's a suitability
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  test and there's a webinar and there's various downloads and
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  courses all there in the show notes.
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  So check those out. For now, though, find a quiet,
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  comfortable place where you won't be distracted or
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  disturbed. Relax and enjoy.
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  The session Take a deep breath in and as you
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  breathe in, breathe in that slow, long, relaxing breath.
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  And as you exhale, allow your eyes to close and position your
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  body in such a way where you can really feel comfortable and
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  relaxed. That's it.
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  Breathing and relaxation and exhaling tension.
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  Each breath facilitates a release.
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  A release of any stress and worries.
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  A release of any frustration or annoyance.
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  A release of anything that has been contributing to anything
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  other than calm, peace, tranquility, and acceptance.
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  And when you breathe in, breathe in slightly deeper than you
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  normally would. And as you exhale, allow the
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  outward breath to continue the longer than it normally would.
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  And the deeper you breathe, the more relaxed you feel and the
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  more relaxed you feel. The deeper you.
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  Breathe and just scan your body for any clues of tension,
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  stress, any echoes of emotions that aren't needed right now,
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  and every exhale. Allow yourself give permission
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  to just let go and feel the release of that unnecessary
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  emotion there in the outward breath that's in, and there may
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  be sensations, tingles, twitches, lightness or heaviness
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  that lets you know that this release is happening.
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  And every time you notice something, you allow your
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  unconscious mind to facilitate more of that release.
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  Because there is nothing that needs to be done.
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  Nothing to manage, nothing to figure out.
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  Just this, just now. Just the simple permission to
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  arrive somewhere quieter than outside.
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  Noise doesn't just come from building work and the external
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  environment. Sometimes noise happens inside
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  your own mind. The nervous system sometimes
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  forgets. 1 Stillness feels like until it remembers.
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  Notice the weight of your body, the places of contact and
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  support, the breath moving on its own without instruction.
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  Reliable, constant, always there, even when everything else
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  felt uncertain. Your unconscious mind is
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  incredibly resourceful. It's been working on your
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  behalf, even in the hardest weeks.
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  It's been finding clarity in places you didn't expect it.
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  And here, now, today, you get to let that clarity settle, to
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  deepen, to become something that lives in the body and not just
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  the mind. I want you to remember a place.
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  A place, perhaps, that only you know, A place from childhood, A
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  place in nature, perhaps a place outside that felt yours.
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  Maybe it was surrounded by trees or water or open sky.
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  It doesn't even have to be a real place.
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  It could be just within your imagination, a place the mind
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  goes when it needs to find itself again.
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  And in this place there is a particular quality of light, the
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  kind that makes everything feel truthful, the kind that doesn't
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  allow shadows to be confused for solid things.
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  And with each breath, you can go deeper into this place.
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  As I count down from 12:50, give permission to go deeper 10/9 the
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  ordinary noise of the day receding. 876 arms and legs
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  becoming heavier and more relaxed, more at ease. 543 A
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  deep, comfortable stillness. 2 and then one.
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  And what if here, in this space of deep knowing, your
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  unconscious is listening, ready to receive what is true, what is
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  real, what you have already decided at a level far deeper
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  than words You already know that there is a particular kind of
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  freedom that doesn't need to announce itself loudly.
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  It arrives quietly in the gap between the old habit and the
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  new decision, and sometimes a person doesn't fully recognize
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  it for what it is. Think of a realization where you
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  have arrived at something important, not through willpower
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  and not through struggle or white knuckling your way through
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  a craving, but through genuine clarity.
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  The kind that comes when the body and mind and all of your
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  history and experience all speak at once and say no, not this,
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  not anymore. I want you to think of that
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  recent moment where it made sense.
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  You introduced A boundary and felt No Fear of loss, but a
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  sense of liberation. You escaped the issue.
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  You weren't running away from it.
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  A direct message from your own intuition, your own experience,
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  saying I don't want to drink alcohol at all.
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  You don't want it. And that is not a limitation,
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  not a sacrifice. That is simply a fact about who
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  you are. You don't want it anymore.
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  You are not someone who wants to drink but is trying not to
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  drink. You are someone who simply does
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  not drink because you simply do not want to.
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  And you can notice the difference between those two
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  identities. The person trying not to do
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  something is always in a mild state of resistance, still
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  attached to the thing, a constant struggle, second
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  guessing. But the person who simply does
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  not want to do it and does not do it has stepped outside the
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  equation entirely. They are not at war with
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  alcohol. They are indifferent to it in
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  the same way then nonsmoker that would never want to smoke does
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  not need willpower to not pick up a cigarette.
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  It's just background noise. It exists, it's there, but they
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  do not want it. And your unconscious mind can
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  make this shift not as an instruction to be enforced, but
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  as a recognition of what is already true.
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  You've already crossed the threshold, the decision has
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  already been made. This is just enabling all parts
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  of your unconscious to recalibrate, to synthesize, to
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  integrate. And whenever you think about a
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  future where alcohol might be present, you already know in
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  advance you don't want it. Alcohol is not in your future,
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  but it was in your past. It belongs to a version of you
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  that you have already outgrown. And every social situation that
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  once felt like it required willpower or negotiation, every
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  offer of a drink, every moment with the old habit would have
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  reached for something in a glass.
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  We can now carry a different feeling.
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  Not deprivation, not discipline, Simply the quiet satisfaction of
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  someone who knows exactly who they are.
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  You fully integrated that realization now, so let's turn
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  your attention to something else, something that where is a
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  more innocent disguise your body has been sending equally clear
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  signals about. And there is a substance, an
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  addictive substance, a poisonous substance responsible for
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  killing millions each year, that is added to almost everything
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  that has been normalized so completely that the food
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  industry has made billions ensuring people never stop to
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  question it. It hides in birthday cakes and
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  office biscuits and sauces and condiments, and the body
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  experiences not as a food but as a drug.
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  Some people call it the most deadly of the white poisons,
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  refined sugar, not the natural sugars in an apple or a banana
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  or dried fruit like a fig. These things come packaged with
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  fibre. A grape has sugar, but has water
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  to carry and dilute that sugar. Fruits have micronutrients.
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  They work with the body's enzymes.
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  But the white crystalline substance that has been stripped
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  of everything except it's hit. When refined sugar enters the
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  bloodstream in a drink or a sweet or a piece of chocolate,
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  it does not behave like food. It creates a spike, a rapid
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  elevation of dopamine and blood glucose that feels briefly like
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  relief, like reward, like pleasure, distilled,
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  crystallized gratification. And then, like all drug hits, it
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  drops rapidly and the drop creates the craving for the next
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  hit. This isn't a metaphor, this is
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  real biochemistry. The reward pathway activated by
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  refined sugar. Is the same reward pathway
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  activated by cocaine. The mechanisms of craving is
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  chemically identical, the withdrawal is real, the
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  tolerance builds, and the dose required to get the same effect
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  increases over time, affecting the blood, the body, the brain.
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  Refined sugar is not a treat, even if it's hidden in colorful
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  packaging. It is a drug.
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  And if you see it clearly now for what it is, let me know
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  about nodding your head. That's it.
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  And sometimes it's sneaky. Those fruit juices come from
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  concentrate that has sugar. The syrups, the jams.
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  It's obvious when it's a sugar cube, it's obvious when it's a
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  can of fizzy drink. But I want you to imagine being
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  able to look at something that you know contains sugar the way
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  you might look at a line of cocaine on a table with clear
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  eyes. Nobody sees cocaine and think,
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  oh, that's harmless. They know it's corrosive,
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  addictive. But a drug user does it anyway.
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  Once you see sugar for what it really is, you don't want it in
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  refined form, you only want it in natural form.
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  Something that is wonderful in nature is toxic when it's gone
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  through that process of refinement, taking everything
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  good, nutrients, water, fiber out.
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  That's what makes it dangerous. You see sugar with the knowledge
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  of what it actually is and what it actually does.
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  Not with fear or craving, but with the calm recognition of
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  someone who has decided that this is not for me anymore.
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  Not because I cannot, but because I know what it is and I
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  don't want that. Sugar withdrawal is real.
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  It feels like it can cause tiredness, cloudiness, fatigue,
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  irritability. But your unconscious mind is
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  already prepared for it, considering it a tunnel, short
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  or long, with a clear light at the end of that tunnel.
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  And when you get to the other side, you're free of it.
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  And any inner dialogue that says it's harmless is like bait on a
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  hook. If you nibble at the bait, it
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  pulls you back in. If a fish knew the bait had a
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  hook, of course they'd never eat it.
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  But they don't, and that's what leads to their demise.
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  Some people believe that when you know better, you do better.
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  When you see refined sugar for what it really is, even a
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  commercial of a soft drink of ice cream takes on a sinister
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  connotation. These companies know it's
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  addictive. It kills people. 100 years from
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  now they will look at adverts, the high sugar products, in the
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  same way that we look at adverts for cigarette companies in the
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  1950s. They knew and yet they did them
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  anyway. You are out or soon to be out of
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  that tunnel, already free of it, with no desire to nibble at the
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  bait. The food industry has little
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  interest in you, discovering an energy that is steady rather
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  than spiked. Your unconscious will crave real
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  natural foods while your blood sugar levels rise slowly and
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  fall slowly, not spike and crash.
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  Your body runs clean. You choose food that nourishes,
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  not substances that spike and crash.
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  It's interesting how the mind works when a habit is removed.
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  Something important that your unconscious can hold onto as a
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  piece of protective wisdom. The human mind, the reward
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  system, is ancient. It is wired not for health or
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  longevity or spiritual growth, but for immediate relief from
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  discomfort, for the quickest available dopamine to the
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  nearest exit from an uncomfortable feeling.
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  And when one door is closed, the mind, with its remarkable
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  efficiency, immediately begin searching for the nearest open
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  door. And This is why people stop
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  smoking and then start snacking, stop drinking and begin
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  compulsive online shopping, leave one difficult relationship
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  and unconsciously find their way into a structurally identical 1.
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  This is not weakness, it's engineering the internal reward
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  system doing exactly what it was designed to do.
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  And because you see the mechanism clearly, you can work
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  with it rather than being worked buy it.
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  You do not replace 1 crutch with another, one destructive habit
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  with another. You get to choose where your
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  dopamine comes from. Consciously, deliberately, with
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  full awareness. And the question your
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  unconscious can sit with is, what do you want to be addicted
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  to? That drive to seek reward and
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  pleasure is not going away, nor would you want it to.
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  It's what gets you out of bed, what draws you towards beauty
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  and connection and craft. The question is only ever toward
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  what shall this drive be aimed? Your body has its own
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  intelligence about this. It already knows what it means
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  to feel genuinely well, genuinely alive.
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  And there are activities that produce the same neurochemicals
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  as substances, but without the consequence and the debt,
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  without the withdrawal, without the morning after.
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  The best example is movement, exertion, the physical world
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  meeting the body with real resistance and real reward.
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  That also produces dopamine, but also endorphins and serotonin in
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  a form the body recognizes as earned, as real, as sustainable.
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  The accomplishment, the particular satisfaction of
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  making that important decision, learning that new thing, making
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  something with your hands, getting something done that
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  you've been putting off, all of that also releases that
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  dopamine. What if you were addicted
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  Movement, exercise, walking, or accomplishment.
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  This is not a substitute for the thing you are leaving behind.
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  It is something of an entirely different order because a
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  substance gives the feeling of reward without the underlying
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  reality, whereas accomplishment gives the feeling of reward
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  because of the underlying reality.
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  The reward and the achievement are proportionate.
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  And what if you are building a life where your dopamine is real
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  with a feeling of reward and the thing you have done are
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  connected? I want you to create an image in
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  your mind. A big jar made of glass, maybe a
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  glass of ours. Just imagine every time you do
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  something that required effort, a difficult decision, you solved
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  a problem, you did that thing you wanted to do.
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  Just imagine placing a marble in a box next to it into the jar.
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  Hear it clink. Maybe it spirals round.
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  Maybe it has that bouncing sound of a glass, marble and glass.
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  When you do the thing, you feel good.
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  When you put the marble in the jar, you feel good.
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  And every time you see the marbles in the jar accumulating,
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  you feel good. And I wonder if you could
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  imagine six months from now, six months of being free of alcohol
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  and refined sugar. But I want you to see that jar
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  or that big vase filled with marbles and then look at clues.
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  Maybe it's a dog that's smiling and happy.
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  Maybe it's more energy levels and better sleep.
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  Maybe you feel better in your own body.
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  Almost like every marble is proof.
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  Proof of who you are choosing to be.
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  Proof that you can be addicted to things that enhance your life
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  rather than destroy it. Choosing to do difficult things.
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  And there's every reason not to. I encourage you to put 2 marbles
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  in the jar for something particularly difficult.
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  And I want you to assess how you would feel about your life six
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  months from now. What trajectory are you on?
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  Where is your life taking you? Is it better or worse than when
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  evenings were filled? Drinking wine?
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  If you're unconscious, is now willing to shut one door and be
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  very intentional as to the new door you're opening, let me know
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  by nodding your head. That's it.
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  And so it's time to return. You return with clarity.
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  You return with synergy, alignment, an identity that
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  feels exciting, positive. It feels like possibility.
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  So take a deep breath in through your nose and out through your
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  nose and wiggle your fingers and wiggle your toes.
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  Connect and calibrate into the here and the now as I now count
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  from 1:00 to 10:00 to awaken you.
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  Starting to count 123 waking up 456 more alert. 7-8.
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  Open your eyes. Open your eyes, 910.
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  Wide awake, wide awake, wide awake.
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