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169. Revisit the Check-In · Your Enriched Self

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  Speaker 1: Hello, my friends from all across the globe, and welcome
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  Speaker 1: to the Your and rich Self Podcast. I am your host,
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  Speaker 1: Miilee Noir. I am an emotional wellness and empowerment coach,
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  Speaker 1: and all that means is I show up each and
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  Speaker 1: every week on this platform to talk about the things
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  Speaker 1: to help you manage your wellness and empower you to
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  Speaker 1: become more of your enriched self. Whether you are a
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  Speaker 1: new listener or a repeat listener, a returning listener, I
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  Speaker 1: want to thank you for tuning in to this podcast.
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  Speaker 1: I know that you are brought here on purpose, for
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  Speaker 1: a purpose, and I want to thank you for being here.
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  Speaker 1: So this week I'm excited to share an oldie but goodie.
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  Speaker 1: I'm calling it a throwback Thursday episode. This is one
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  Speaker 1: of my favorites. It's called check In Account and it's
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  Speaker 1: an opportunity for you to check in with yourself. This
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  Speaker 1: is the perfect time of year, as we are wrapping
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  Speaker 1: up twenty twenty four, to do some check in and
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  Speaker 1: that requires you to hit pause, do some reflection and
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  Speaker 1: check in on your progress. So that's what this episode
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  Speaker 1: is all about. Now, before we get started, if you
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  Speaker 1: know you know, one of the things that I do
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  Speaker 1: each and every week is I make a deposit into
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  Speaker 1: the bank of you. And I do that by way
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  Speaker 1: of affirmations. Affirmations are a great way to start your
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  Speaker 1: day and to command your morning. And this week's affirmation
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  Speaker 1: is I am grateful for this day and it's opportunities.
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  Speaker 1: I am grateful for this day and its opportunities. I
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  Speaker 1: am grateful for this day and its opportunities. Now let's
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  Speaker 1: get ready for this week's episode of the Your Enriched
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  Speaker 1: Self podcast. If you're lucky enough in your life, you've
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  Speaker 1: been blessed to receive gifts in which others have made
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  Speaker 1: deposits into the bank of you. It could be or
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  Speaker 1: could have been a family member, your parents, you're a friend,
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  Speaker 1: community that you grew up around, or that you're in now,
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  Speaker 1: a mentor, and the list goes on. But the person
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  Speaker 1: that's primarily responsible for growing your account and growing the
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  Speaker 1: account of you in your life is you. So every
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  Speaker 1: single day that puts you in the position, and you
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  Speaker 1: should want to be in a position of making regular
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  Speaker 1: deposits into the bank of you. And I say this
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  Speaker 1: all the time. Everything counts small, medium, large. All those
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  Speaker 1: deposits add up, and I encourage you every day. Again,
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  Speaker 1: if you're on my Instagram stories, whether you're making a
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  Speaker 1: five minute deposit or twenty five minute, all of those
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  Speaker 1: minutes moments add up to the momentum that you need
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  Speaker 1: to create in your life. Because as you create momentum
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  Speaker 1: and motion, you're gonna start making this deposit into the
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  Speaker 1: bank of you a regular thing, and you're gonna start
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  Speaker 1: to fill up that check in account checking in on you. Now,
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  Speaker 1: I'm gonna speak for myself and say this, I've been
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  Speaker 1: personally personally okay, transparent moment here. I've overdrafted my checking
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  Speaker 1: account and I know we know about overdraft. I can
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  Speaker 1: tell you I know about overdraft, and that means that
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  Speaker 1: I put a certain amount in my account, but I
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  Speaker 1: wasn't able to retrieve that amount when it was time
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  Speaker 1: for me to go, you know, do a withdrawal. Well,
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  Speaker 1: if you're not careful, your checking account of life can
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  Speaker 1: fall into overdraft. You can fall into the overdraft of
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  Speaker 1: your plans, your dreams, your goals, and your purpose. And
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  Speaker 1: so that is why those regular deposits and the regular
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  Speaker 1: maintenance checking in with your check in account is important.
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  Speaker 1: And if you're one of those wonderful people who have
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  Speaker 1: never bounced a check or overdrafted your account. Congratulation, Unicorn,
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  Speaker 1: you are just awesome. But the reality is you've probably
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  Speaker 1: overdrafted the bank of you. And so today I want
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  Speaker 1: to talk about your check in account. And again I'm
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  Speaker 1: not talking about the things that are easy, right, the
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  Speaker 1: maintenance things that you check in on on yourself, Like
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  Speaker 1: you look in the mirror and you go, in a minute,
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  Speaker 1: my hair, my hair needs a refresh. Or you look
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  Speaker 1: down on your nails and you go, in a minute,
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  Speaker 1: this polish. It's starting to get a little old, starting
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  Speaker 1: to get a little ratchet. It's time to change things
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  Speaker 1: up a little bit. I really challenge you today to
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  Speaker 1: dig a little bit deeper than the things that you
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  Speaker 1: can see. And as you go through your life every
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  Speaker 1: single day, I bet if you're like me, there are
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  Speaker 1: emotions and there are thoughts that you have not processed.
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  Speaker 1: And that's why it's easy for me, and again I'm
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  Speaker 1: being transparent sometimes to just have a glass of wine
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  Speaker 1: at the end of the day and send in front
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  Speaker 1: of the TV and watch Netflix and chew, because what
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  Speaker 1: that is doing is that it's just suppressing those emotions
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  Speaker 1: that you have avoided all throughout the day. And I
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  Speaker 1: get it. Throughout the day, you're working, you're managing, you're
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  Speaker 1: doing all these things, and you may just say to yourself,
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  Speaker 1: I don't have time to walk all the way through
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  Speaker 1: this thing. But if you're being honest with yourself, you
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  Speaker 1: need to make time to walk through this thing. And again,
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  Speaker 1: if you're being honest with yourself, you're probably spending your
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  Speaker 1: day abandoning those things because it's going to require again
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  Speaker 1: those moments to reconcile the feelings, to reconcile the thoughts.
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  Speaker 1: I remember years ago, I was an area manager and
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  Speaker 1: I had seven locations that I was responsible for. I
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  Speaker 1: was an area sales manager, and so part of my
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  Speaker 1: job responsibility was to drive for a living and so
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  Speaker 1: I did that, you know, every day, and so that
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  Speaker 1: required regular visits to my locations. And along with that
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  Speaker 1: responsibility came the responsibility at the end of the month
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  Speaker 1: to reconcile all the expenses I had accumulated in miles
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  Speaker 1: from day to day, from location to location. And although
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  Speaker 1: it was not a brand new activity, it was it
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  Speaker 1: was a regular monthly task that I had to perform.
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  Speaker 1: At the end of the month, I felt like I
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  Speaker 1: was struggling to reconcile all the activity I had created
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  Speaker 1: throughout the month. And that's because I waited till the
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  Speaker 1: end of the month, the last two or three days,
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  Speaker 1: to start doing that work. In other words, I had
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  Speaker 1: created a whole bunch of stress and unnecessary chaos in
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  Speaker 1: my life waiting till these last few days to do
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  Speaker 1: this check in to reconcile those activities, and it made
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  Speaker 1: my life stressful, and just like your life, just like
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  Speaker 1: how it's important for you to do those check ins
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  Speaker 1: and not wait until the end of the month, or
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  Speaker 1: not wait until all your red flags are going up.
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  Speaker 1: It's very important that you began to manage those thoughts
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  Speaker 1: and feelings because in essence, just like me, you're gonna
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  Speaker 1: be going around with folders of unreconciled files, feelings, emotions, etc.
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  Speaker 1: And because I don't want you to get into this
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  Speaker 1: space of chaos like I did, I recommend that you
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  Speaker 1: make regular check ins as part of your daily activity.
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  Speaker 1: So what does it mean to have a regular check in?
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  Speaker 1: What does that look like? The way I frame that
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  Speaker 1: is the approach is, at the end of the day,
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  Speaker 1: take moments of reconciliation. I know we're on this topic
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  Speaker 1: of checking account and balancing. But we do have each
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  Speaker 1: of us have a responsibility to maintain a monthly budget,
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  Speaker 1: and as part of that, there are things you need
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  Speaker 1: to do every day or every week or whatever cadence
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  Speaker 1: that you set up to help you stay on top
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  Speaker 1: of it. And so similarly, I want to give you
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  Speaker 1: some tools and some ways to help you contribute to
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  Speaker 1: balancing your check in account. One such thing is self
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  Speaker 1: reflection exercises, and in self reflection exercises, I'm talking about
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  Speaker 1: those empowering, empowering self talk perspectives. Right. One of the
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  Speaker 1: things I learned from my coach, Patrise Washington is to
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  Speaker 1: focus on the what if and not the what is,
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  Speaker 1: because what is keeps you in the here and now,
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  Speaker 1: and what if takes you beyond. It helps you ask
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  Speaker 1: the question what can this become? And some of the
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  Speaker 1: ways that I found to help me in the what
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  Speaker 1: if and go beyond where things are now is to journal.
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  Speaker 1: I like to journal. Journalism is a way for me
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  Speaker 1: to pour in and put down some of the things
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  Speaker 1: that again I'm trying to reconcile in my mind. And
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  Speaker 1: the great thing about journaling, it's a good point of
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  Speaker 1: reference because you can always go back to it and
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  Speaker 1: see where and what you were thinking of at the
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  Speaker 1: time in which you journal. And always put the on
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  Speaker 1: the journals because I've put journal entries in and I'm like,
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  Speaker 1: when did I write this? So I always make sure
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  Speaker 1: you start with the date. The other thing is meditation,
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  Speaker 1: and meditation is just a simple way of saying quieting
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  Speaker 1: the mind, giving yourself a chance to unplug from everything
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  Speaker 1: that's gone on. That's going on, you know, turning the
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  Speaker 1: TV off again. You're feeding yourself and bringing things in
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  Speaker 1: and you haven't even allowed things to go out yet.
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  Speaker 1: So meditation is a way to quiet your mind, quiet
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  Speaker 1: your space, and just get into your thoughts. And one
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  Speaker 1: of the things I like to do is just take
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  Speaker 1: a walk in nature, I mean walking outdoors. Really you're
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  Speaker 1: just focused on everything around you, all the beauty that
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  Speaker 1: surround you, and it really gives you a moment to
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  Speaker 1: take time to really just focus on the here and
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  Speaker 1: now and just be present in the moment. That goes
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  Speaker 1: a long way. But what the question what this can
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  Speaker 1: become or what if? What that does is it helps
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  Speaker 1: you go beyond the right now and move towards what
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  Speaker 1: can become in the future. It allows you to take
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  Speaker 1: time to discover what can be and it gives you
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  Speaker 1: direction on your movement forward. The next thing I like
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  Speaker 1: to recommend here is to find life in balance. Find
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  Speaker 1: your life in balance. Not necessarily balance in life, but
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  Speaker 1: your life in a balance. And one of the questions
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  Speaker 1: that you want to ask yourself in this time is
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  Speaker 1: how are you spending your time? At the end of
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  Speaker 1: every podcast, one of the things I ask, or I
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  Speaker 1: challenge you is to manage how you're going to spend
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  Speaker 1: the next one hundred and sixty eight hours before we
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  Speaker 1: meet for the next episode. It's a serious question, and
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  Speaker 1: I hope that you've been putting time into it. And
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  Speaker 1: today's a great way to find balance or life in
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  Speaker 1: that balance. Of course, we know one hundred and sixty
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  Speaker 1: eight hours represents the number of hours in a week.
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  Speaker 1: And guess what, We all get the same number of
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  Speaker 1: hours each week to spend. So how much time are
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  Speaker 1: you dedicated with those hours to deposit into the bank
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  Speaker 1: of you? How much time are you dedicating to invest
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  Speaker 1: in your family? What about how much time do you
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  Speaker 1: get or where do you go to get your soul sharpened?
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  Speaker 1: And the list will go on and on as you
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  Speaker 1: ask yourself these questions to really understand your life in balance,
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  Speaker 1: and it helps you to hold yourself accountable. You may
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  Speaker 1: almost have to aren't out these hours to really understand
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  Speaker 1: where's my time being spent? And as you balance your
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  Speaker 1: time week over week, it will help you to make
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  Speaker 1: those meaningful changes and the tweaks that you need to
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  Speaker 1: make so you can make the positive impact on the
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  Speaker 1: quality of your life and the relationships that you're in
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  Speaker 1: or want to be in. So, yeah, you may have
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  Speaker 1: to break up pen and pad and capture some of
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  Speaker 1: those hours and really start to move things around. Much
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  Speaker 1: like we do our checking account. We're really taking that
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  Speaker 1: ledger of life and making those changes as necessary to
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  Speaker 1: get the right life in balance. And finally, go get
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  Speaker 1: your healing. Go get your healing. What do I need
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  Speaker 1: to heal? Here's the thing about life. These emotional experience
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  Speaker 1: that we have every day. If we don't finish them,
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  Speaker 1: if we don't reconcile them, they stay with us. We
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  Speaker 1: talked about those unreconciled files that we carry around with us,
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  Speaker 1: and you become the bad lady of your life. Right.
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  Speaker 1: A lot of times those files have stories that we
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  Speaker 1: keep telling and retelling ourselves. Those limiting beliefs, the fair stories, right,
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  Speaker 1: the grimlins, which we'll talk about in another podcast. Those
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  Speaker 1: are the things that are holding us back in the
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  Speaker 1: past and that makes it difficult for us to land
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  Speaker 1: in our future. And if you're not careful, you're gonna
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  Speaker 1: carry those stories. Not just day to day and week
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  Speaker 1: to week and even year to year, it can carry
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  Speaker 1: you across all of your time. I heard this quote,
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  Speaker 1: the pain we don't process can follow us for a lifetime.
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  Speaker 1: In other words, go get healed so you can get free.
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  Speaker 1: And one thing about healing work, I will never take
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  Speaker 1: for granted that some of that work can be done alone,
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  Speaker 1: meaning you can sit there and walk through that question,
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  Speaker 1: what do I need to be healed? But there are
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  Speaker 1: other times that work is going to require you to
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  Speaker 1: get professional help. To get professional support so you can
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  Speaker 1: work through all of the things. So those are the
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  Speaker 1: things that I want to leave you with today. Right
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  Speaker 1: to contribute to getting your check in your checking account
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  Speaker 1: of life balanced self reflection exercises part of your end
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  Speaker 1: of day find life in balance by looking at your hours,
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  Speaker 1: your one hundred and sixty eight hours a week and
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  Speaker 1: making that ledger makes sense for what your life needs
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  Speaker 1: to get to the quality you want and finally getting
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  Speaker 1: your healing. Stop telling the stories that are holding you
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  Speaker 1: back in the past and start moving into the future.
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  Speaker 1: And that may require you to work through some of
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  Speaker 1: those healing things on your own or get additional professional
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  Speaker 1: support and help. One thing I will leave in the
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  Speaker 1: show notes at the end. At the end of the
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  Speaker 1: show I will leave in the show notes are some
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  Speaker 1: other self taught questions, empowering questions that you can ask
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  Speaker 1: yourself to help get your life in balance and really
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  Speaker 1: work on that check in account. I hope you enjoyed
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