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DIET HORROR STORIES #1 | I Asked For Women's Worst Diets & Nutrition Tips And Was SHOCKED · Fit Womens Weekly Podcast

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  (Transcribed by TurboScribe. Go Unlimited to remove this message.) What's up guys?
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  Welcome to a brand new episode of the fit ones weekly podcast.
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  I'm excited We're gonna dive into something new today a couple of weeks ago I
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  did a brand new series called horror stories with fitness advice that people
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  had received that kind of made you go what the heck?
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  Well, we're gonna continue that I got some really great feedback on it and
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  today we're gonna dive into Nutrition horror stories that have been submitted
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  by listeners and friends and clients that will make you also go What now before
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  we jump into this episode, I want to start off by saying I Brought the question
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  up.
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  Literally.
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  I said what is the worst diet slash nutrition advice?
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  You've been given or have seen given to somebody.
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  I thought that was a pretty open-ended question I didn't think there was a lot
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  of controversy involved in the way that I asked that question But I should have
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  anticipated the fact that any time you bring up diet and nutrition It's going
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  to ruffle feathers and it absolutely did just that so before I jump into
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  reading these stories I want to preface this one by saying if food talk and
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  diet and restriction is something that's triggering to you This probably isn't
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  the podcast episode that you should be listening to or watching too It's not
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  gonna hurt my feelings.
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  Go ahead and make sure to tune in for next week's episode But I also want to
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  say that when I am sharing someone's stories about their nutrition Just because
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  it doesn't work for one person doesn't mean that that is a blanket statement
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  that it is a terrible way To do your nutrition somebody's horror stories might
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  be another person's saving grace and there's a couple of examples in this
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  however, there's also some great examples of just bad nutrition advice in
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  General that most people I'm gonna be pick my words very carefully Should stay
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  away from and then the last thing that I want to say before jumping into this
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  episode is That yes, I am very aware that the advice that was given in the 60s
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  and the 50s at that time was based off of the information that they had and
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  same with 70s 80s 90s and even today and we're Continuously learning more and
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  more nutrition and the scheme of science and health It's still a very brand new
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  field and we are always learning and always trying to bring the most up-to-date
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  information But we've taken some turns along the way and there's been some bad
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  episodes So I absolutely acknowledge that that I'm not saying that the advice
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  given in the past was quote-unquote Terrible advice at that time, but now we
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  are able to look at it from a different perspective and say oh That wasn't
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  great advice.
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  Here's what we can learn from that So go into this episode with an open mind.
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  Hopefully you'll be able to learn something from this talk that we're gonna
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  give and Yeah Make sure that you watch the full episodes before you say I can't
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  believe that you're talking about horror stories about nutrition I think that
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  there's a lot for us to be able to share from our own experiences And there's
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  gonna be a lot that we can break down and learn as we move forward with
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  nutrition Cool.
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  Okay.
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  So with that being said, let's jump into this episode of the worst diet
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  nutrition advice That you've been given or seen given to somebody and I
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  received Probably close to a hundred different submissions on this topic Which
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  it's a lot more than came in when I was just asking for fitness advice that you
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  had received So if you don't hear your story submitted or your little statement
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  Just know I will probably get to it in a future episode And if you have a
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  horror story that you'd like to submit I'll share down in the show notes how
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  you can get that to me and it will make it onto the next episode Alright first
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  one First off.
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  I love this concept.
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  I've enjoyed watching Hannah Alonzo I mentioned she's the person that inspired
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  this series a channel for over a year now And I find it so fascinating trigger
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  warning for eating disorders and disordered eating habits as a horror story
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  perpetuates the type of extremism within the fitness and dieting culture I
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  wanted to share my own fitness horror story since I've been in the military the
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  job advice given talks and relationships and my own struggles with self-esteem
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  and body image that led to my 13 year struggle with an ED and the disordered
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  eating habits that I adopted because I Thought they were healthy for me and
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  finding that balance of what is healthy and what is controlling Some of the
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  perpetrated tips and tricks I was told used and still see being given a solid
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  advice to others who are at a vulnerable state include Extreme or fad dieting
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  low calorie low carb keto the military diet I never personally used this one
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  limiting water intake in the days leading up to a height weight or a tape test
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  if you're To get over the authorized weight, which I think that limiting water
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  intake has just been a really prevalent form of weight loss for Sports for
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  military where basically you're trying to dehydrate yourself to lose as much
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  water weight as possible You know we've all heard of people going and sitting
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  in the sauna or seam room for extended amount of time to try to sweat out as
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  Much water weight as you can which obviously can lead to dehydration and lead
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  to other issues Especially if not only are you doing a weight test?
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  But you also have some sort of fitness performance test that you have to go
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  into after that So you're already not feeling great because you're dehydrated
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  now.
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  You're also expected to perform which just blows my mind See using a lax of the
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  night before to ensure body was as light as possible or that the stomach didn't
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  have any extra bloat using hemorrhoid cream on the stomach or wrapping plastic
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  and a waste trainer to go to sleep wearing all of that just Crazy to me and the
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  cycle usually led up to those who participate in this This method in a few
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  weeks or days leading up to the height weight to restrict themselves with what
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  they consume using copious amounts of exercise To burn off extra calories and
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  then binge on food after the test was done as a reward for passing now
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  Remember, this is all from a military perspective.
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  I can remember when I was younger We had a waste trimmer where it was basically
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  a piece of rubber that would wrap around with a zipper When my brother before
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  he went through like puberty He was on the shorter and stockier side and very
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  self-conscious of it.
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  A lot of people made fun of his weight So that's what he I remember him using
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  and he would wear this waste trimmer for Mowing the grass or doing yard work
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  and I'm thinking he was maybe 13 14 years old at the time So yeah Those are
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  around for a long time and it breaks my heart that obviously a teenager a young
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  kid was using it But the fact that adults feel so pressured in order to be able
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  to stay Where they are in this healthy range going through such extreme
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  measures as far as using the waste trimmer or using hemorrhoid cream and
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  laxatives it's really really sad the pressures that they put on in the military
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  and I Realized it's like they have to hit these numbers But how about we relax
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  off of hitting specific numbers and instead of doing these tests?
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  I don't remember what it is like once a year once every two years Let's have
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  consistent lessons so that we teach the military to maintain their fitness
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  Versus that one test then they let go and then they're like, oh my god I have
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  my fitness test in a month I got to make sure that I hit it and then these
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  extreme methods come back into play So it's just this continual cycle where I
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  was like what would happen if we did Fitness tests that didn't rely so much on
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  weight and fitness and like size But you tested your fitness levels Let's say
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  every two months or so so they actually had to maintain Fitness in order to
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  stay at the military level that they are trying to maintain I feel like that
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  would probably a lot be a lot healthier method versus these extreme ways Where
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  did we leave off?
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  Or been binging as a reward for passing It became a cycle that many people use
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  and still do Because life and work get in the way and oftentimes Getting to the
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  root cause of the issue is still stigmatized amongst service members, which
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  yeah kind of covers what we were just talking about Thank you for taking the
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  time to share these horror stories I hope that it helps others find a better
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  and healthier method to fitness Absolutely.
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  I think that the key takeaway to all to this particular story is extreme diets
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  are still very persistent even in Military life.
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  I think that it's very important to remember that fitness is a lifestyle And
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  isn't something should be tested every just once or twice a year But we should
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  be teaching how to maintain something and not just trying to do this big dump
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  Right.
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  It's doing so much more harm to their body than it is good Let's see Next
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  story.
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  I've always had the desire to lose weight.
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  It was crying in my doctor's office when I was much younger He said, you know
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  what?
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  Just puree all your food liquefy your diet And it's inevitable that you're
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  gonna drop some weight.
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  I said, are you kidding me and nervously laughed?
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  He said look you need to do something and this seems plausible I told him don't
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  tell a woman to do that ever again and walked out never walked back in.
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  Thank goodness I am so proud that you learned from that and you did not take
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  their advice And we're gonna see this happen a couple of times in these stories
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  that I'm gonna share where the advice is coming from a doctor and I'm not
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  saying that Doctors don't know what they're talking about.
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  There are some amazing doctors out there but a Good amount of doctors.
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  Unfortunately aren't well educated and fitness and or nutrition and they're
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  spewing also the trends that they see So it's like hey, I saw someone drop a
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  ton of weight for from doing this Why don't you try it and so offering again
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  another unhealthy?
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  Really extreme diet method.
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  Are you gonna lose weight?
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  Well, yeah, but are you going to severely?
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  Cut your calories and feel like crap and not get as much nutrients as you need
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  as well Yeah, so any sort of big Intense diet like this, please second-guess if
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  your doctor has ever told you.
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  Oh Just chop up all your food and make a smoothie out of every single meal
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  Probably is not gonna help you create a healthy lifestyle.
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  That's the key word that I want everyone to always remember If you are trying
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  some sort of diet However, you want to phrase that if it's not something that
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  you can see yourself keeping up with for months if not years Should be years
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  Then that's probably not the diet for you any time that you're doing some sort
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  of extreme diet It is something that's going to help you lose weight and the
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  immediate present But you're not gonna be able to maintain those eating habits
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  and when you come off of that diet You start going right back into your old
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  habits and that's where you gain the weight back and then on that time where
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  you are on The extreme diet you're most likely not going to be living the
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  lifestyle that you're used to you're gonna feel very sluggish You're gonna feel
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  very lethargic You're gonna feel very weak and that just plays into this fact
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  where you end up going.
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  I can't do this Once again, I have failed another diet.
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  You didn't feel the diet that diet failed you moving on I Started at 320 pounds
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  and was on a 1,000 calorie diet full of shakes and bars for a year and a half
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  This was from an MLM that they were talking about.
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  I'm not I'm gonna leave my MLM talks to Hannah Alonzo go check out her channel,
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  but it was an obviously very extreme diet I dropped 135 pounds according to the
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  scale.
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  I could no longer do a body weight squat They call me their biggest success
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  story and praise the better version of myself It took a long time to build back
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  strength and all the weight came back My metabolism still fights me to this day
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  every attempt to reduce calories makes my stress response go Very high and
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  causes issues Yeah, so I see this a lot where people lose a significant amount
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  of body weight And then the people that have put them on that particular
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  nutrition plan go.
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  Oh my god.
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  Look at you.
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  You feel amazing But at what cost yeah the scale went down But you weren't able
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  to live life you were in pain you lost all of your strength and all of your
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  fitness and then like we just talked about because it is such an extreme diet
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  at Just a thousand calories of shakes and bars.
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  You can't maintain that and so of course once you get off of it You don't have
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  some sort of plan of like, okay Well, what's a healthy nutrition plan for where
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  I am with my weight So eventually all of that weight that you just lost Comes
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  back and unfortunately for most people not only does the weight that you lost
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  comes back you end up gaining even more weight in the process So I'm so sorry
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  that you had to go through that.
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  I can't imagine Actually, I can't imagine because I have been there and I know
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  that it sucks It sucks a lot But I'm so proud of you for coming back and
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  working on rebuilding your strength and not fighting to stay at that very
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  unhealthy weight You may have been a better version of yourself in their eyes
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  But that's because they are using you as a marketing tool to say hey this
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  person was 320 pounds and now she's a hundred and seventy five pounds or
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  whatever it ended up being if you do the math with that So yeah, it's great for
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  their marketing tools.
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  Not great for your overall health and fitness and well-being This lady I used
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  to work with was very into keto.
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  I have nothing against it And it's just not the diet for me.
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  Anyways, one day I was eating a small pack of baby carrots She walked by my
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  desk and said to me, you know, those are just sugar, right?
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  It's just so absurd that all I could do is laugh a handful of baby carrots
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  never made anyone fat JFC yeah, and I'm gonna Actually support you 100% in that
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  first statement that there are some people that keto works amazing for I've
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  experimented with the keto diet And for a short period of time it did it worked
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  great.
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  I felt energized I felt brain fog go away over time for me personally It did
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  not work out But I know some people that with keto and carnivore because
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  carnivore is going to come up here, too It works great for keto was actually
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  created for people that had some mental illness or Suffered from seizures.
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  So it actually does have a place in the medical world but for a majority of
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  people Overall it does not to do so well with and any time that you're trying
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  to cut out an entire nutritional group Like carbohydrates in the keto and the
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  carnivore diet.
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  There's gonna be some side effects to that but that's because it had clay
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  includes Micronutrients and fiber in those foods and healthy carbs, right?
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  We need sugar our brain really enjoy sugar at least for most of us now Yeah,
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  I'm gonna agree with you eating a handful of carrots is never gonna make
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  anybody Significantly gain weight.
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  It is very hard if you're eating nothing but carrots to gain weight out of that
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  Let's go take a whole bunch of carrots to meet your daily calorie surplus to
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  see weight gain happen from that and I'm gonna say that eating baby carrots is
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  gonna be a lot healthier as an afternoon noon snack Excuse me, then eating a
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  processed protein bar or a Snicker bar Eat the carrots that is that blows my
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  mind Eating only 1200 calories a day or some guy at my cousin's wedding told me
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  to cut out all vegetables I understand people that Again going back to like,
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  you know what you know at that time So I understand that people saying like oh
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  if you're trying to lose weight cut back on sugar Which means cut back on fruit
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  that used to be advice.
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  Heck I remember giving that kind of advice to my to my clients earlier on in my
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  training career But now we know fruit.
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  Yes, it is sugar and is something like you shouldn't be eating 50 bananas in a
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  day but Fruit also has micronutrients.
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  It has fiber.
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  It's a filling alternative.
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  It is a great pre and post workout snack There's nothing wrong with fruit, but
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  the idea of being told to cut out vegetables, which we know are very good for
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  you They're very rich in vitamins and minerals that your body requires.
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  It is a great carbohydrate source some of them some don't really have a lot of
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  carbohydrates That's why I say that and obviously a great source of fiber that
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  blows my mind that someone would say that Oh you want to lose weight?
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  Just cut out vegetables when vegetables are the lowest calorie food and we know
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  that in order to lose weight you need to eat Less calories than what you are
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  burning and expending And so one great way to do that is to actually eat more
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  vegetables because vegetables are very satiating They take up a lot of space in
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  your gut per meal And so yeah terrible advice and on top of that the extreme
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  1200 calorie diet now I also want to preface this does that mean that nobody
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  should be eating 1200 calories?
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  No, there are a slight amount of people your calorie needs depend on a lot of
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  different factors your height your age your daily Movement patterns, so I'm not
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  gonna say that no one should be eating 1200 calories a day because if you're 4
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  foot 11 Then yeah, maybe you will be eating 200 calories however for 90% of the
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  population 1200 calories is going to be extremely low anything under and people
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  always use the idea that a toddler should be taking in 1200 calories So I
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  always like to put that out there that that's very true And I as a 42 year old
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  woman do not want to eat like a toddler Another person don't eat vegetables,
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  but this time because they're covered in pesticides So she said so wash it then
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  that crow worker wasn't very bright.
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  Y'all eat your vegetables I recently came across a YouTube video of someone who
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  claims to only eat fruit.
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  So a fruititarian On the opposite side.
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  We have carnivores on this side Fruititarians on this side see a guy once tried
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  to tell me that my unsweetened iced tea was worse than my health Worse for my
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  health than his soda Unsweetened iced tea.
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  Yeah, you're gonna get a little bit of caffeine in that but it unsweetened iced
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  tea is a zero calorie drink It's a great way to get some hydration in and I
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  don't think we need to really argue about the whole soda thing another person
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  said explaining how my Drink coke was gonna kill me while they are rolling and
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  smoking a cigarette.
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  Yes I know coke and sugary drinks are bad for you But compared to smoking at
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  that point, I'd be like, that's a little hypocritical Sir before I take fitness
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  advice or nutrition advice from you.
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  Let's take a look internally At least don't sit there smoking a cigarette while
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  you're trying to tell me the best and the healthiest way to live Just stop
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  eating carbs.
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  Like somehow an entire entire food group was the problem Very very true the
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  whole anti-seed oil thing drives me crazy There's people yet to prove anything
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  a lot of science has shown that it is fine to incorporate seed oils into your
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  diet they are not as Inflammatory as people like are pushing them to be there's
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  just this big world.
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  Everyone's trying to create a Controversy, right?
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  This should be an episode for a whole nother day I will definitely try to get
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  someone who is more familiar with the whole seed oil Idea and get them on so
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  that we can have some real science-based conversation about that But I think
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  that is a great topic The raw food diet sounds good in theory, but often leads
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  to nutrient deficiency unhealthy weight loss lower bone density menstrual cycle
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  irregularities And don't forget food-borne illnesses and parasites people
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  really love feeding their pets raw food But somebody in a sub I was reading was
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  generally surprised their cat got sick from it And yeah, so another fun fact
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  going back to the beginning if you're ever interested in some like something
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  Says you know what?
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  I kind of be interested to try.
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  I am never going to say don't do it My thing is yeah, give it a shot But learn
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  how to listen to your body so that you know when something is working and when
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  something isn't working for you It's very Important that you say true to
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  yourself and listen to those little cues and don't try to push them off longer
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  I say that because I actually did experiment with a raw food diet years ago
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  I've pretty much experimented with every diet just so that when people say hey,
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  how does this make you feel?
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  I can give an honest review on that so I did the raw food diet for think about
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  two to three weeks and One it was very boring because I am someone who loves
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  the process of actually cooking a meal and love sitting down to a warm meal,
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  but This is so true part of cooking any sort of food is it actually makes the
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  nutrients easier to be absorbed by our body So if you're on something for too
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  long at a time, then yeah, you could be experiencing these things So if you're
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  interested in it, I'm not gonna poo-poo on you.
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  It might work great There are people that it works great for but make sure that
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  you are paying attention to how your body is running and feeling Model slash
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  actress gave me dieting tip once don't eat for two days and just drink a lot of
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  water Then eat a bag of oranges on the third day drink black coffee and smoke
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  cigarettes to help with energy and hunger Rinse and repeat until you get the
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  results that you want.
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  Please you guys this is why I gave That disclaimer at the beginning that said
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  like if you are triggered by diet talk might not be the episode to listen to
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  you That is not diet advice.
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  That is make yourself feel like crap advice and severely Take your nutrition to
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  the highest extreme possible.
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  Will you lose weight?
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  Yeah Is that weight gonna be body fat?
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  Not not 99% of that because you're gonna wait lose weight So rapidly that first
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  weight that you lose is going to be water weight and you cannot keep this up
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  Especially if you live a healthy lifestyle where you're expected to get out of
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  bed and do any sort of movement that Once you get back into your daily routine,
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  you're just gonna gain it.
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  All right back You're the first time you take a big sip of water all the weight
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  that you just lost you're gonna gain it back Someone told me that being hungry
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  and feeling faint or weak is a mind over matter issue I don't have a large
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  intestine Whether you have a large intestine or not You are in if you're in a
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  calorie deficit.
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  Let's talk about this for a second.
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  If you're in a calorie deficit Chances are you're going to be hungry sometimes
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  during that especially at the start because your body is let's say you're used
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  to eating 2200 calories a day and now you're in a 500 cap calorie deficit.
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  We're eating 1700 calories a day Your body is adjusted to those 2200 calories
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  So yeah at the start you're probably going to be a little hungry but that's why
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  it's also so important to make sure that you're eating a balanced diet of
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  Protein carbs and fats if you were to eat just 1700 calories focusing on
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  carbohydrates mostly you're gonna be Starving by the end of day one because
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  carbohydrates are digested very slowly That is why a calorie is really not a
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  calorie anymore Yes, it is a unit of measure and 1200 calories as 1200 calories
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  or for this example 1700 calories is 1700 calories.
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  However, we can make it so that if you are in a deficit to try to lose weight I
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  want those 1700 calories to be as satiating as possible so that you are not
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  Starving so that you are not feeling faint and weak My job as a trainer is to
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  help you with your fitness and your overall goals to be able to hit your goals
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  While feeling the best you possibly can so that's why when you hear trainers
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  say you need to eat 0.8 to 1 gram of protein per pound of body weight that you
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  weigh and Making sure that you are also hitting your fat goals for the day are
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  just as important as your calorie numbers because doing those Things are going
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  to make it a lot easier to hit your calories and stay there while feeling Full
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  and feeling satisfied does that make sense?
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  I've talked about that a couple of different times on previous episodes so you
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  can always go back and listen But if you have a follow-up question, let me know
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  Next one my sister-in-law.
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  She limited the amount of berries and fruit My niece could have but allowed
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  unlimited milk which then of itself.
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  Okay, I guess you we were a milk house We could drink milk as much as we
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  wanted.
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  I think it was the idea especially when I was growing up It's like drink your
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  milk get your calcium She yelled at my niece for taking a piece of candy Which
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  her and my brother were sharing the entire bag of candy on her front seat She
• 24:55
  made her eat a bag of cheese curds instead talk about setting your child up to
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  have a Mind f of themselves at such a young age.
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  She yelled at my Parents for this so the sister-in-law She yelled at my parents
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  for giving her and my son a piece of angel food cake with strawberries and
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  whipped cream for my dad's Birthday made her eat special squares instead cheese
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  and pepperoni.
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  I Did show her the nutritional information of an angel food cake and as kindly
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  as I could but now we do not talk Sounds like going on contact with somebody
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  like that is probably the best idea because it doesn't sound like she's really
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  Wanting to hear any sort of parenting advice.
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  That's really really sad I actually just had a fantastic talk to with my dad As
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  many of you guys know my dad just went through a hip replacement.
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  I've kind of talked about it on here He's doing great, by the way, but I was
• 25:49
  over at their house and we're just having a heart-to-heart and we were talking
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  about some family members and stuff and I made the comment of you have got to
• 25:58
  choose your words so carefully because Whether you realize it or not the words
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  that you tell somebody especially somebody that is younger are going to stick
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  with them and could lead to such Bigger issues in the future and I know this
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  first hand because it happened with me and I love my parents She's often very
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  close.
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  They did the absolute best that they could with the cards that they were dealt
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  From their own childhood growing up.
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  My dad didn't exactly have the best childhood.
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  So I've never faulted him for I shouldn't say that I've had to work through a
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  lot of things but I know that he was trying to be the best dad that he could I
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  think that being a father to a Girl was very hard, especially as a rough and
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  tough kind of guy and at first he was like, what are you talking about?
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  I would never have hurt your feelings intentionally and I started saying like
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  hey remember when I was a kid that you would tease me about This this and this
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  so why are you surprised that now as an adult?
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  I feel self-conscious about this this and this and his eyes started to like
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  tear up because he had never really thought about the Impact that it will truly
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  have he thought just when I was a kid that it was funny You know that the
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  little jokes that he made about my blonde hair or for example my nose.
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  That's what I'm talking about I won't sugarcoat it.
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  I'll be honest He thought that he was just making jokes and that it would roll
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  off of my back and it didn't to this day I am still very self-conscious about
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  my body and I'm very self-conscious about my nose just to put it out there I
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  have broken my nose twice.
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  So it's a very sensitive subject to me and Yeah, so by yelling at her daughter
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  your niece Telling her what she can and can't eat.
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  I really hope that she doesn't carry that with her as she gets older But
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  unfortunately, especially in today's times.
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  She probably is and that absolutely breaks my heart We're almost done you guys,
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  but I would love to hear how are you liking this sort of series so far?
• 27:57
  And again, if you have horror stories that you want to share make sure that you
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  share them with me See I was told not to eat fruits Fruits you're supposed to
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  eat meat the same guy told a co-worker Who would sometimes share dishes don't
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  give them talking about me any fish?
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  He would then eat those small bumblebee tuna packs of crackers.
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  So that's really weird.
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  Sounds like one He's a hypocrite too.
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  He doesn't know what he's talking about three.
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  We've already had the fruit talk You guys eat fruit.
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  It is good carbohydrate.
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  Your body needs carbohydrates and it tastes good.
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  It's a great alternative to Like sugary sweet processed foods at age 18 I was
• 28:36
  told that coffee chocolate and black pepper were dangerous Stimulants for my
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  heart at 74 waiting for the big one to take me home.
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  Oh my gosh If someone took away coffee chocolate, I would be heartbroken
• 28:51
  Actually, I like pepper for a really long time I've just gotten into putting
• 28:54
  pepper on my food the past couple of years surprisingly but yeah, I'm glad that
• 28:59
  that like obviously we know that chocolate or that well chocolate too does have
• 29:03
  a little bit of caffeine, but Coffee is the most overused stimulant in the
• 29:08
  world but man, there's nothing like a good cup of coffee in the morning and
• 29:14
  Luckily research has shown that coffee actually has a ton of health benefits as
• 29:19
  well Specifically for things like dementia and liver health Dan likes to remind
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  me every day because the man can drink like five cups of coffee My mom
• 29:29
  generally believing that detox is actually work aka drinking protein shakes and
• 29:33
  not any eating anything for two weeks No, thank you.
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  And this goes back again to the what we talked about in the beginning how what
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  we were told at a certain time wasn't necessarily Given to us like bad advice
• 29:46
  wasn't given on purpose It was just what was going on then what we knew then
• 29:50
  and so I feel like our moms Especially in like the 80s and the 90s Really fell
• 29:55
  for a lot of things that looking back now.
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  I'm like man.
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  I'm really sorry that you