Latest / Tom's Hirschsprung's Podcast / Episode 146 - With Tiffany Dwyer
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- 0:02Speaker 1: You are listening to Tom's Hirschsprungs podcast, a space where
- 0:05Speaker 1: we talk openly about living with Hirschsprungs disease. Whether you
- 0:09Speaker 1: live with it, care for someone who has it, or
- 0:12Speaker 1: just want to understand more, this podcast is for you.
- 0:15Speaker 1: Each episode we will explore real stories and honest conversations
- 0:19Speaker 1: about a condition that often goes unheard. Thank you for
- 0:22Speaker 1: tuning in. Hello and welcome to episode 146 of Tom's
- 0:49Speaker 1: Hirschsprung's podcast. I am delighted to be joined by this morning,
- 0:53Speaker 1: or this evening, where you are, by Tiffany. Welcome to
- 0:58Speaker 1: the podcast.
- 0:59Speaker 2: Hello.
- 1:01Speaker 1: Thanks so much for coming on. Now, we are here
- 1:04Speaker 1: to talk about another Hirschsprung story, Your Child, who has
- 1:10Speaker 1: long segment Hirschsprungs. And what's been quite a journey so far.
- 1:19Speaker 1: Please start from wherever you feel comfortable.
- 1:24Speaker 2: Okay, well, we'll start from birth.
- 1:26Speaker 3: So Arlo, he was born at the Gold Coast University
- 1:30Speaker 3: Hospital on the 25th of April, 2025. He arrived by
- 1:36Speaker 3: emergency C-section at 36 weeks and five days.
- 1:41Speaker 2: So he was slightly premmy, but very borderline. We had
- 1:47Speaker 2: a pretty easy first 20 hours.
- 1:51Speaker 3: Everything seemed pretty normal. He was feeding well. but he
- 1:55Speaker 3: made this constant grunting noise. And I was my third child,
- 2:00Speaker 3: so I knew in my mum's mind that this was
- 2:05Speaker 3: not the norm. They kept reassuring, they'd come in, they'd
- 2:09Speaker 3: do his obs, they kept reassuring us, everything's fine, his
- 2:13Speaker 3: obs look great. We hit about that 20-hour mark and
- 2:16Speaker 3: all of a sudden everything went downhill.
- 2:19Speaker 1: He....
- 2:23Speaker 3: His obs had started to drop. His oxygen levels had dropped.
- 2:26Speaker 3: His grunting hadn't stopped. For the full 20 hours, he
- 2:30Speaker 3: grunted the entire time. And so he was rushed over
- 2:34Speaker 3: into special care with metabolic acidosis and respiratory distress. While
- 2:41Speaker 3: in the kerfuffle of all of that, he passed his meconium,
- 2:46Speaker 3: which obviously kind of deterred everyone from any real issues
- 2:51Speaker 3: there at the time.
- 2:53Speaker 2: So we stayed in special care for a few weeks.
- 2:56Speaker 2: He was diagnosed with a congenital heart condition. So he's
- 3:02Speaker 2: got both ASD and VSD. While we were in.
- 3:06Speaker 3: Special care, our feeding journey just became next level. They
- 3:12Speaker 3: put a lot of it back to he had quite
- 3:14Speaker 3: an immature jaw.
- 3:15Speaker 2: Around just being preemie.
- 3:18Speaker 3: He presented like a normal premature baby, even though he
- 3:21Speaker 3: was right on the cusp of preemie.
- 3:24Speaker 2: So our feeding journey continued for a few weeks. While
- 3:28Speaker 2: we were in special care, we had a few episodes where.
- 3:32Speaker 3: I mean, he never opened his bowels after the meconium.
- 3:35Speaker 2: So from there on.
- 3:38Speaker 3: It was only through digital stimulation that we could get
- 3:42Speaker 3: anything out of him. Um, and like, I kept saying
- 3:46Speaker 3: that this isn't normal. Like I've got two other kids,
- 3:48Speaker 3: they poo fine. We've never had these issues before. Um,
- 3:52Speaker 3: but they all just kept reassuring me. Some breastfed babies
- 3:55Speaker 3: just take, they just don't poo as often. Um, so
- 3:59Speaker 3: we went home on a hospital in the home program
- 4:03Speaker 3: around his feeding. And the goal was that we'd probably
- 4:06Speaker 3: do two weeks and we'd hopefully get his feeding tube
- 4:09Speaker 3: out and we'd be all in our way. Well, the
- 4:12Speaker 3: journey just rollercoasted from there. We'd get really well with
- 4:18Speaker 3: the feeding.
- 4:19Speaker 2: He'd do great. And then a couple of days later,
- 4:21Speaker 2: he'd drop back off again.
- 4:22Speaker 3: And it all kind of circulated around that he wasn't
- 4:26Speaker 3: passing any stool. And so as soon as we'd get
- 4:29Speaker 3: some stool out of him, he'd be feeding again.
- 4:32Speaker 2: He'd be doing great. And so this circle went on for,
- 4:37Speaker 2: I think it was about six weeks. And we got...
- 4:40Speaker 2: for the six week mark.
- 4:41Speaker 3: And I just knew in my mum gut that this
- 4:45Speaker 3: is not normal.
- 4:47Speaker 2: Like he should be able to go.
- 4:48Speaker 3: We shouldn't have to do any digital stimulation to get
- 4:52Speaker 3: these poos out. We were getting to like 10 and
- 4:53Speaker 3: 12 days before we would be doing these digital stimulations.
- 4:57Speaker 3: So we knew that we were right on that borderline
- 5:00Speaker 3: of why are.
- 5:01Speaker 2: We not pooing? So we just decided it's time to
- 5:06Speaker 2: head in. Time for a proper check. Let's go in.
- 5:09Speaker 3: So we went into the emergency and the doctor that
- 5:12Speaker 3: saw us there, he heard our story. And as soon
- 5:15Speaker 3: as he saw us, he said, I think it sounds
- 5:18Speaker 3: like Hirschbrand's disease. And we'd never, ever heard of Hirschbrand's
- 5:22Speaker 3: disease before. It was something brand new to us. We
- 5:24Speaker 3: both looked at each other, me and my partner like this,
- 5:27Speaker 3: what is he talking about? Anyway, the surgical team had
- 5:30Speaker 3: come and reviewed and they were on the cusp. They said,
- 5:33Speaker 3: oh no, we don't think it's anything serious. And we'd
- 5:36Speaker 3: also just given a suppository before going into the hospital.
- 5:39Speaker 3: So He'd passed his bowels. Everything looked normal on their x-rays.
- 5:44Speaker 3: So they kind of sent us on our way. And
- 5:48Speaker 3: then a few days later, he was vomiting really bad.
- 5:51Speaker 3: His feeding had dropped right off. And we just said, no,
- 5:54Speaker 3: let's go back in. So we went back into emergency.
- 5:57Speaker 3: We were admitted there and then. And we started our
- 6:00Speaker 3: journey with biopsies and things like that. Arlo's first biopsy
- 6:07Speaker 3: came back inconclusive. So a second one was done a
- 6:11Speaker 3: couple of days later, and that one came back with
- 6:16Speaker 3: that he had Hirschbrands.
- 6:19Speaker 2: From there, it's a bit of a blur.
- 6:23Speaker 3: That next month is a real blur of us learning
- 6:26Speaker 3: how to do bowel irrigations and things like that to
- 6:29Speaker 3: just keep him safe.
- 6:31Speaker 2: And we did so. We came home.
- 6:34Speaker 3: Our team was absolutely amazing with the way that they
- 6:38Speaker 3: trained us. Even our seven-year-old daughter got in and learned
- 6:41Speaker 3: how to do it because dad works long hours to
- 6:44Speaker 3: make sure that somebody else could help me if need be.
- 6:47Speaker 3: Something we never wanted to ask of her, but she
- 6:49Speaker 3: was quite happy to jump in and learn. And so
- 6:54Speaker 3: we then discussed the pull through. It was going to
- 6:58Speaker 3: happen at three months, but unfortunately Arlo caught some virus
- 7:04Speaker 3: at the time. that pushed that back. So we were
- 7:06Speaker 3: six weeks back and we got to four months when
- 7:09Speaker 3: we had the pull-through. Arlo had the Swenson pull-through procedure performed.
- 7:18Speaker 2: It went for between nine and ten hours, I believe.
- 7:23Speaker 3: It was the worst time of our life. Time stood still. I, yeah,
- 7:30Speaker 3: cannot believe it. Everything went really well, though, surgery-wise. We
- 7:35Speaker 3: came out without a stoma, which we were really excited about.
- 7:40Speaker 2: We were really worried.
- 7:41Speaker 3: They'd said if we got over about a six-hour mark,
- 7:43Speaker 3: potentially that's going to mean a stoma. But our surgeon
- 7:46Speaker 3: was really, really happy. Surgery went really well. Within 36 hours,
- 7:51Speaker 3: he was pooing.
- 7:52Speaker 1: On his own.
- 7:54Speaker 3: It was the biggest milestone we never thought we'd have
- 7:57Speaker 3: to be jumping up with joy for. Not long after
- 8:03Speaker 3: his pull through, Arlo just ran into all sorts of complications.
- 8:09Speaker 3: We had so many viral illnesses. He had intercolitis. We
- 8:16Speaker 3: ended up with, he kept getting reoccurring abscesses on his bottom, which.
- 8:22Speaker 2: We later had to have fistula surgery to improve.
- 8:28Speaker 3: Then we went down the Botox fast because he was
- 8:32Speaker 3: not stooling successfully anymore again. We were getting up to
- 8:35Speaker 3: about five or six days without passing stools on his own.
- 8:39Speaker 3: When he was passing, it was very hard. It was
- 8:42Speaker 3: not easy for him to do. So we found ourselves
- 8:44Speaker 3: back at bowel irrigations probably about two months in after
- 8:48Speaker 3: the pull through.
- 8:50Speaker 2: So we've now done five rounds of Botox.
- 8:54Speaker 3: We've just done our fifth round now. I think three
- 8:59Speaker 3: weeks in from our fifth round of Botox. Unfortunately for Arlo,
- 9:03Speaker 3: we're not seeing the results that we would want from Botox.
- 9:08Speaker 3: You know, the goal is to hopefully push it out
- 9:10Speaker 3: to six to nine months before having to do it again.
- 9:13Speaker 3: We're not even getting to that three month mark, unfortunately,
- 9:17Speaker 3: without us being back to enemas and irrigations and things
- 9:21Speaker 3: like that again. So, um, We have just discussed with
- 9:26Speaker 3: our surgical team a few new options that we're in
- 9:31Speaker 3: the plans for. So we've discussed maybe looking at Botox
- 9:36Speaker 3: B injections because he maybe had that rare part where
- 9:42Speaker 3: he can know it can't seem to work properly for
- 9:46Speaker 3: the Botox A injections. Um, we're also talking about a stoma, um,
- 9:51Speaker 3: things like that just for, to give his bowel some break.
- 9:54Speaker 3: You know, we, we're aware that some kids just need
- 9:57Speaker 3: that bowel rest and a little bit of aid. until
- 10:01Speaker 3: they learn how to use those muscles a bit better. So, yeah,
- 10:06Speaker 3: so that's the plan of it. I've just realized I'm
- 10:10Speaker 3: going to have to stop for a second. I just
- 10:11Speaker 3: realized my phone is about to die.
- 10:14Speaker 2: So give me one second and I'm just going to
- 10:17Speaker 2: grab my chart ducks.
- 10:21Speaker 1: But yeah, I mean, that sounds like quite a story
- 10:27Speaker 1: so far. So, I mean, that's been quite a journey
- 10:32Speaker 1: so far and obviously not straightforward. There's a couple of
- 10:37Speaker 1: things in there that I have come across before and
- 10:41Speaker 1: heard before. There's a couple of things that I haven't
- 10:45Speaker 1: heard too much about.
- 10:46Speaker 3: One....
- 10:48Speaker 1: Being the ASD and the VSD, the heart complications, which
- 10:55Speaker 1: I have heard before about Hirschsprung's people. That happened to me.
- 11:01Speaker 1: But yeah, could you explain just a little bit more
- 11:04Speaker 1: about what they are? Because I don't think I've come
- 11:07Speaker 1: across those before.
- 11:08Speaker 2: Yeah, absolutely.
- 11:09Speaker 3: So an ASD and a VSD are essentially holes within
- 11:14Speaker 3: the heart. The VSD is, the one that passes in
- 11:20Speaker 3: the lower chambers, but it passes the deoxygenated blood and
- 11:26Speaker 3: oxygenated blood back and forth where they shouldn't be allowed to.
- 11:29Speaker 3: So it can cause further complications. Luckily enough, Arlo's are
- 11:34Speaker 3: quite small. So we're sitting in a watch and wait
- 11:37Speaker 3: and see if they heal themselves, which is great. One
- 11:41Speaker 3: less thing for us to stress about.
- 11:43Speaker 2: Yeah.
- 11:44Speaker 1: Okay. Thanks to that, because I hadn't really... I hadn't
- 11:48Speaker 1: really come across that before, but I have come across
- 11:50Speaker 1: things like holes in hearts and whatnot. So, yeah, something
- 11:54Speaker 1: sort of very similar. But something I have come across
- 11:57Speaker 1: before is when you talk about feeding. And I've had
- 12:04Speaker 1: people on both sides where nurses have said, oh, X, Y,
- 12:10Speaker 1: Z has happened because the child's breastfed. Oh, X, Y,
- 12:14Speaker 1: and Z has happened because the child's formula fed. And
- 12:18Speaker 1: for some parents, I can remember one story very vividly
- 12:22Speaker 1: on this podcast where the child was formula fed and
- 12:25Speaker 1: that was the excuse for everything. It was, oh, formula fed.
- 12:29Speaker 1: That's why this, oh, formula fed. That's why this has happened. Yeah.
- 12:33Speaker 3: Well, we, that's kind of where we, when we sat
- 12:35Speaker 3: in ED and said, we want answers. It was, it
- 12:38Speaker 3: was basically around that because we had said, they kept
- 12:42Speaker 3: saying he's formula, he's, he's breastfed. This can happen. And
- 12:46Speaker 3: I had actually suffered from an infection after the C-section.
- 12:50Speaker 3: So I actually lost my breast milk supply quite quickly
- 12:53Speaker 3: and had to work hard to build it back up.
- 12:56Speaker 3: But in that time, we did have to supplement through formula.
- 12:58Speaker 3: So I put my foot down and said, no, he's
- 13:02Speaker 3: not just a breastfed baby. This is not the answer
- 13:04Speaker 3: for breastfeeding. He's been supplemented. So we know that that's
- 13:08Speaker 3: not it.
- 13:09Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah. I mean, but it's good that you have
- 13:14Speaker 1: obviously have experience of having other children as well so
- 13:18Speaker 1: that you can sort of compare. I don't know whether
- 13:21Speaker 1: that's the right word.
- 13:21Speaker 2: Yeah, no, it's so true. It's so true.
- 13:24Speaker 3: I think if he had been our first, I probably
- 13:28Speaker 3: would have just taken their answers like, oh, okay, yep,
- 13:31Speaker 3: and thought it's just me. I'm just a new mum
- 13:33Speaker 3: that doesn't really understand it, you know. But, yeah, it
- 13:37Speaker 3: was nice to kind of have some reassurance there that
- 13:40Speaker 3: you're right, yeah.
- 13:42Speaker 1: But you kind of go to compare and go, actually,
- 13:45Speaker 1: I'm sure this isn't supposed to happen. You know, you go, well,
- 13:51Speaker 1: this didn't happen with, and obviously, I presume there's no
- 13:56Speaker 1: sort of family history or anything.
- 13:59Speaker 2: No, no family history at all. No, we'd never ever
- 14:02Speaker 2: heard of it.
- 14:03Speaker 1: No, no. So, so in terms of her sprungs, you
- 14:05Speaker 1: had nothing to compare it to, but in terms of
- 14:07Speaker 1: having other children, you can kind of go, well, this,
- 14:09Speaker 1: this actually isn't right. And I mean, I've, lost count
- 14:13Speaker 1: of the amount of parents that I've spoken to that
- 14:17Speaker 1: have had very similar feelings at that time and gone
- 14:22Speaker 1: well I don't know what's wrong and obviously you because
- 14:27Speaker 1: you never heard of Hirschsprungs you can't go well I'm
- 14:30Speaker 1: sure it's Hirschsprungs but because you didn't you didn't know
- 14:32Speaker 1: what was wrong but you knew something was wrong yeah
- 14:35Speaker 1: and I think that's a really really important message that I'll,
- 14:40Speaker 1: you know, forever have on this podcast that will be,
- 14:43Speaker 1: you know, if you, you know, if you feel something's wrong.
- 14:49Speaker 2: Trust your gut. Exactly.
- 14:51Speaker 1: It's an odd thing to say with Hirschsprungs, with trusting our,
- 14:55Speaker 1: that's the last thing we should be trusting. But I
- 14:57Speaker 1: know what you mean. But, but yeah, if you just
- 15:05Speaker 1: trust those instincts and, and because you, so, so many
- 15:10Speaker 1: people have gone out, I think something's wrong, I'm sure
- 15:13Speaker 1: something is, and it's turned out to be, let's see
- 15:16Speaker 1: why they're here, it had to be Hirschbrach. So, it's
- 15:21Speaker 1: something that, but like you said, if you were perhaps
- 15:25Speaker 1: a first-time mum, you'd have gone, oh, okay, fine, oh,
- 15:29Speaker 1: maybe it's just, oh, yeah, maybe that's normal, you know, whatever,
- 15:34Speaker 1: and wouldn't necessarily have had the same instincts. So, I guess,
- 15:40Speaker 1: and also as well, it's something that fascinates me as well.
- 15:44Speaker 1: When people have children without Hirschsprungs and children with Hirschsprungs,
- 15:50Speaker 1: we're very similar in my family. I have three brothers.
- 15:53Speaker 1: They don't have Hirschsprungs. I do. I was second born.
- 15:56Speaker 1: I don't know if that makes a difference, you know,
- 15:58Speaker 1: but sometimes it's the first born and doesn't pass down.
- 16:03Speaker 1: Sometimes third born, sometimes second born. It doesn't seem to
- 16:07Speaker 1: be a kind of, I don't think.
- 16:10Speaker 2: I don't think there is, is there? Yeah.
- 16:14Speaker 1: No, it just doesn't seem to be a kind of...
- 16:16Speaker 1: I mean, obviously, the genes are there. So it's possible
- 16:25Speaker 1: that any child that you have bought could develop Hirschsprung
- 16:32Speaker 1: if the genes are there. But yeah, there doesn't seem
- 16:36Speaker 1: to be a pattern and nobody... has ever been able
- 16:39Speaker 1: to explain it. I don't know if anybody, that kind
- 16:42Speaker 1: of question has ever crossed your mind at all.
- 16:46Speaker 2: Yeah, definitely.
- 16:46Speaker 3: So we've had that conversation with our team. And one
- 16:50Speaker 3: thing that they're really looking at at the moment, because
- 16:52Speaker 3: we've gone down that genetic path now, and they're actually
- 16:57Speaker 3: looking more around the heart, the holes in the heart
- 17:01Speaker 3: and looking at what time of the pregnancy did that
- 17:04Speaker 3: occur and Because it would have been around the same
- 17:06Speaker 3: sort of time that those nerves that should have grown
- 17:10Speaker 3: haven't grown.
- 17:12Speaker 2: So they're looking more around the genetic.
- 17:14Speaker 3: Side of the heart rather than the Hirschbrand side because
- 17:17Speaker 3: ours comes back that he has no genetic markers for Hirschbrands.
- 17:23Speaker 1: That's another thing that sort of, The amount of people
- 17:27Speaker 1: I talk to and they go through the genetic testing
- 17:29Speaker 1: and you think, right, okay, I'm going to get some answers.
- 17:32Speaker 1: It says it's genetic testing and it's going to work
- 17:34Speaker 1: and then nothing. And I don't know whether that leaves
- 17:40Speaker 1: you more confused or less confused.
- 17:42Speaker 3: I think it's much more confused. And I think it's just,
- 17:46Speaker 3: you know, genetics is such a new thing. area of
- 17:50Speaker 3: education so I think you know in years to come
- 17:53Speaker 3: we're definitely going to have more understanding around the genetic
- 17:55Speaker 3: side of Hirschbrands but right now they're still in that
- 17:58Speaker 3: basic stages where they can really only detect those basic
- 18:03Speaker 3: abnormalities at the moment you know.
- 18:05Speaker 1: Yeah I do I think again this hasn't come from
- 18:10Speaker 1: my own thoughts it's come from people I've spoken to
- 18:13Speaker 1: doctors nurses etc that the next 10 years will be
- 18:16Speaker 1: really really interesting.
- 18:18Speaker 2: Yes, Jess, I think so.
- 18:20Speaker 1: Really interesting. So, yeah, I think by the time Arlo's 10,
- 18:25Speaker 1: I think we might. I mean, it's a long time away, granted,
- 18:28Speaker 1: but we might know an awful lot more about how
- 18:36Speaker 1: and why and et cetera. But who knows? Who knows?
- 18:40Speaker 1: Another point you made as well was sort of the
- 18:44Speaker 1: post-surgery complications. And the Botox as well. Is it like
- 18:51Speaker 1: you said, five rounds?
- 18:53Speaker 2: Yes, we've just done our fifth round of Botox now.
- 18:56Speaker 3: So we did this one as an emergency round because
- 18:59Speaker 3: the previous one, we didn't even make the two month
- 19:02Speaker 3: mark before we were back doing irrigations again. So we
- 19:07Speaker 3: did an emergency Botox this time around to buy us
- 19:10Speaker 3: some time to do some planning around what the next
- 19:13Speaker 3: steps are going to look like because obviously going back
- 19:16Speaker 3: every two months to do it is not feasible right
- 19:19Speaker 3: now for us it doesn't give us the quality of
- 19:22Speaker 3: life that we need as a family so.
- 19:25Speaker 1: Yeah yeah yeah and I've spoken to many people who've
- 19:29Speaker 1: had some similar experiences where it's I don't know if
- 19:33Speaker 1: it was explained to you that this was sort of
- 19:35Speaker 1: like a one or thinking it was going to be
- 19:37Speaker 1: a one and done thing or whether it was explained
- 19:39Speaker 1: that this was going to take multiple tries No, so
- 19:42Speaker 1: it really.
- 19:42Speaker 3: Took until probably about the third round of Botox.
- 19:46Speaker 2: We were like, you know, we were told post pull through,
- 19:49Speaker 2: he'll be fine. He'll be pooing. We won't have any trouble. We'll,
- 19:52Speaker 2: you know, they said the first year of the life is,
- 19:54Speaker 2: is pretty rough, but you'll get through it.
- 19:57Speaker 3: You know? Um, and unfortunately, I mean, that's not, And
- 20:01Speaker 3: it wasn't until, I think, yeah, it would have been
- 20:03Speaker 3: around our third round of Botox. And we saw, when
- 20:07Speaker 3: I saw one of the gastroenterologists and he said, you know, it's,
- 20:12Speaker 3: I think the one thing that we all get wrong
- 20:14Speaker 3: is that we talk to you, we talk to the
- 20:17Speaker 3: parents about it being cured, basically. And, you know, and
- 20:22Speaker 3: that's the thing. Herf runs, it isn't a cure to
- 20:26Speaker 3: have the pull-through procedure. It's life-saving to have it, but
- 20:30Speaker 3: it doesn't cure the dysmotility that goes on.
- 20:33Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I mean, if anyone does find the cure,
- 20:37Speaker 1: that'd be great. I've been waiting in 31 years. So
- 20:40Speaker 1: if anyone finds the cure, brilliant, bring it along. But yeah,
- 20:45Speaker 1: it is right because I think the language around even
- 20:50Speaker 1: in a medical setting, is something that does need looking at.
- 20:55Speaker 1: Because like you say, I think there are, especially if
- 21:00Speaker 1: you're going into this, you know, having just heard about
- 21:05Speaker 1: the condition, like so many parents have, there's not many
- 21:09Speaker 1: that I've spoken to that know what it is pre-diagnosis.
- 21:16Speaker 1: You're going into this the first time, You don't know
- 21:18Speaker 1: if it's a cure, not a cure. You take medication
- 21:22Speaker 1: for it. You don't take medication.
- 21:24Speaker 3: Yeah.
- 21:26Speaker 1: Because, again, there's so many different variables. And if you
- 21:29Speaker 1: hear the word, are we going to do this all through?
- 21:32Speaker 1: And then, you know, away you go. Why would you
- 21:36Speaker 1: not assume that it would be a cure, quote, unquote?
- 21:41Speaker 1: So I think that language is really, really important.
- 21:45Speaker 3: I think so, too.
- 21:46Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah. And it's just, it's just making people aware that, well,
- 21:52Speaker 1: I guess it's a, it's a managed management condition, I guess.
- 21:55Speaker 2: Yes, absolutely.
- 21:57Speaker 1: Yeah. And the important thing to say as well is everybody's,
- 22:02Speaker 1: everybody's different. I mean, there's so many different types.
- 22:05Speaker 3: And I think that's the biggest thing that will come
- 22:07Speaker 3: into like with the research is it makes it really
- 22:09Speaker 3: difficult because our gut microbe is so messed up by
- 22:14Speaker 3: so many different factors.
- 22:16Speaker 2: It's so hard to see how is.
- 22:18Speaker 3: That impacting Hirschbron's or is it just this solo case
- 22:22Speaker 3: or is it because this person eats this and things.
- 22:25Speaker 2: You know, it's going to be so difficult to.
- 22:28Speaker 3: Actually find some stability around the research when the research
- 22:34Speaker 3: has so many factors that come into play.
- 22:36Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah. I mean, that's, I mean, I guess the
- 22:39Speaker 1: one good thing with that is it keeps me in
- 22:41Speaker 1: a podcast. It means every story is different. It'd be
- 22:44Speaker 1: a bit boring if everyone was the same. But it's
- 22:47Speaker 1: not great for everyone else. But it's, yeah, it's like
- 22:51Speaker 1: you say, everybody is different. And, I mean, it's not
- 22:55Speaker 1: just the different types as well. I know we talked
- 22:59Speaker 1: a little bit about long segment, but obviously there's short,
- 23:02Speaker 1: there's total ganglionosis, there's several, six different types. But within
- 23:09Speaker 1: those different types are so many other different factors that
- 23:13Speaker 1: it becomes really, really difficult to... even look at one
- 23:17Speaker 1: person's story and go, oh, well, that will be the
- 23:20Speaker 1: way my story goes.
- 23:22Speaker 3: So at our hospital currently, we've got, there's three different
- 23:27Speaker 3: Hirschbron patients and we're all on very different journeys. We're
- 23:30Speaker 3: all around very, very similar ages. We're all in that
- 23:34Speaker 3: first kind of year, year to two years, but all
- 23:38Speaker 3: on very different journeys, have all had very different outcomes.
- 23:42Speaker 3: And yeah, and it's just interesting in itself just to
- 23:45Speaker 3: see the people we've met that, how different it can
- 23:48Speaker 3: be from one kid to the next.
- 23:50Speaker 1: It is. It's hugely different. Hugely different. And it's not
- 23:54Speaker 1: just the physical signs as well. It can kind of...
- 24:01Speaker 1: But things like diet, you know, some things may agree
- 24:04Speaker 1: with you, some things may not.
- 24:06Speaker 2: Yeah, and then the other kid, they're going to agree
- 24:09Speaker 2: with them. Yeah, exactly.
- 24:11Speaker 1: Have you found that can possibly not just from diet,
- 24:16Speaker 1: but from other parts, that sort of, I guess, trial
- 24:19Speaker 1: and error method.
- 24:21Speaker 3: Yeah, look, I mean, it's definitely a trial and error
- 24:23Speaker 3: for everything. Even when we look at like the medication
- 24:26Speaker 3: side of things, it's very much a trial and error.
- 24:29Speaker 3: We're still very much in the thick of that trial
- 24:32Speaker 3: and error stage with his laxatives. Arlo, unfortunately, is taking
- 24:37Speaker 3: like the highest dose laxatives that we can possibly give,
- 24:41Speaker 3: well above what he should be having for his age
- 24:44Speaker 3: at the moment. And, you know, we find even just
- 24:49Speaker 3: with the feeding side of things, because we struggle with
- 24:53Speaker 3: his feeding, getting him to have more water in his
- 24:59Speaker 3: bowels is the hardest thing possible. You know, that's the
- 25:02Speaker 3: first thing that goes. Yeah.
- 25:04Speaker 2: As soon as we see the feeding drop, we.
- 25:07Speaker 3: All know, oh gosh, the laxatives need to jump up
- 25:10Speaker 3: or we're going to run into issues here and there.
- 25:12Speaker 3: And unfortunately for Arlo, with the amount of viruses that
- 25:15Speaker 3: he's caught, the amount of dehydration that he gets, which
- 25:19Speaker 3: automatically impacts his bowels straight away, is just probably the
- 25:24Speaker 3: hardest thing that we're battling.
- 25:26Speaker 2: At the moment.
- 25:27Speaker 3: Yeah.
- 25:28Speaker 1: Yeah, and that's, I think dehydration is one of the
- 25:33Speaker 1: biggest things. But I think that goes across all ages
- 25:39Speaker 1: and all types. I think that that's really one of the,
- 25:42Speaker 1: certainly from what I've seen, that's one of the things
- 25:45Speaker 1: that stays fairly consistent with all Hirschsprung's people because we
- 25:50Speaker 1: are missing a part of the bowel. So we are missing,
- 25:53Speaker 1: no matter what type you have, you will be missing
- 25:55Speaker 1: something if you've had to pull through. So you are
- 26:00Speaker 1: going to not absorb as much water as as you
- 26:05Speaker 1: should be so it's it's something that that again I
- 26:09Speaker 1: mean I think I struggle with and I think a
- 26:11Speaker 1: lot of others with Hirschsprung's struggle with that you know
- 26:15Speaker 1: that dehydration and especially as you get older remembering because
- 26:20Speaker 1: you get so busy remembering to oh actually I'd probably
- 26:24Speaker 1: need to I haven't drunk anything for ages I probably
- 26:26Speaker 1: should do that Yeah, that's it.
- 26:28Speaker 3: For, you know, for me, if I go a day
- 26:30Speaker 3: without drinking that much water, it really isn't that big
- 26:33Speaker 3: of an impact. But to Hirshburn's people, it unfortunately can
- 26:38Speaker 3: be really impactful.
- 26:40Speaker 1: And I imagine the younger you are as well, it's
- 26:43Speaker 1: going to be also really, really important because I can
- 26:47Speaker 1: imagine as soon as that water level starts to drop
- 26:52Speaker 1: and dehydration starts to set in, it then messes with
- 26:56Speaker 1: everything else.
- 26:57Speaker 2: It sure does.
- 26:59Speaker 1: Which then becomes increasingly more complicated, I guess.
- 27:09Speaker 2: Yes, it definitely does.
- 27:10Speaker 1: Yeah, it's a tough one. It's a tough one. But again,
- 27:13Speaker 1: there's probably a lot of things that have happened in
- 27:17Speaker 1: the last 15 months, 14 months that you thought you'd
- 27:24Speaker 1: probably never have to do in your life.
- 27:28Speaker 2: You know, it's really funny.
- 27:29Speaker 3: So I actually was in a profession prior to this
- 27:35Speaker 3: where I actually helped quadriplegics and paraplegics. So I dealt
- 27:39Speaker 3: with lots of stomas prior to this and lots of
- 27:43Speaker 3: bowel irrigations and manual disinfections and things like that. So
- 27:48Speaker 3: for me, it was daunting because it was my own child.
- 27:52Speaker 3: But I often say I was blessed to have this
- 27:56Speaker 3: kid because of what I already knew to keep him alive,
- 27:59Speaker 3: if that makes sense.
- 28:00Speaker 1: Absolutely. I mean, that's got to be a huge plus,
- 28:06Speaker 1: I guess, having to, again, but something you probably never
- 28:10Speaker 1: thought you'd have to deal with personally.
- 28:13Speaker 2: No, no, absolutely not.
- 28:15Speaker 1: But I guess that's really handy, having to deal, having
- 28:21Speaker 1: to deal with stomas and I presume stoma bags and
- 28:24Speaker 1: all of that stuff.
- 28:26Speaker 2: All of that.
- 28:27Speaker 3: And even just like the manual disinfections and stuff like that,
- 28:31Speaker 3: like I was already doing that. So, you know, when
- 28:34Speaker 3: we were in that space of the unknown and they
- 28:38Speaker 3: had said we need to do some sort of digital stimulation,
- 28:41Speaker 3: I was like, actually, I have done this before with adults.
- 28:45Speaker 2: I actually know what I need to do.
- 28:47Speaker 3: And I think that kind of gave us a bit
- 28:49Speaker 3: of grace and, it probably hindered us in terms of
- 28:52Speaker 3: getting a diagnosis sooner because we were managing to empty
- 28:56Speaker 3: his bowels in some.
- 28:58Speaker 2: Way versus if we were first-timers and.
- 29:01Speaker 3: I didn't have that background, how would we.
- 29:04Speaker 2: Be getting this out as easy, you know? Yeah.
- 29:09Speaker 1: No, yeah, I guess how it can be a bit
- 29:11Speaker 1: of a double-edged sword in the sense that you knew
- 29:14Speaker 1: what you were doing, but then by helping, it was then....
- 29:20Speaker 2: Not looking as severe. Yeah.
- 29:23Speaker 1: Yeah. Whereas if you'd sort of left, it would have
- 29:25Speaker 1: looked more severe and they'd have probably done something a
- 29:27Speaker 1: lot sooner. But you say, I think diagnosis was that
- 29:31Speaker 1: around sort of eight weeks?
- 29:33Speaker 2: It was around eight weeks.
- 29:35Speaker 3: So I think we went in around the six week
- 29:37Speaker 3: mark um and by eight weeks we had our diagnosis.
- 29:43Speaker 1: Yeah yeah i mean that again that that is that
- 29:47Speaker 1: is a really long time to to wait for especially
- 29:51Speaker 1: long segment as well.
- 29:53Speaker 3: Yeah and we um and we look at back at
- 29:56Speaker 3: it now and we're like there were so many signs
- 29:59Speaker 3: So many signs that we probably should have pushed harder sooner.
- 30:06Speaker 3: But we just thought, oh, we'll just see. Hopefully he'll
- 30:09Speaker 3: start pooing soon.
- 30:11Speaker 2: And also, I guess we didn't really understand the disease.
- 30:13Speaker 3: We didn't know the disease then to know what severity
- 30:17Speaker 3: could happen if he wasn't.
- 30:21Speaker 2: Like wasn't able to stall, you know, we just assumed
- 30:25Speaker 2: we'd get it out eventually.
- 30:26Speaker 3: We never really thought about what the repercussions of him
- 30:29Speaker 3: not getting it.
- 30:29Speaker 2: Out would be.
- 30:31Speaker 1: Yeah, I guess that's probably similar for a lot of people.
- 30:35Speaker 1: They look back and go, oh, well, how did we
- 30:38Speaker 1: miss all of that? Well, you missed it because you
- 30:40Speaker 1: didn't know what it was. Yeah, absolutely.
- 30:42Speaker 3: Well, we even look at like when he was grunting
- 30:44Speaker 3: for that first 20 hours, to this day, that noise
- 30:48Speaker 3: he makes is, when he is trying to stool. He
- 30:52Speaker 3: still makes that noise now, and we look at it
- 30:54Speaker 3: all the time and think, that's what he was doing.
- 30:56Speaker 3: He was trying to pass his stool the whole time.
- 30:59Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah. But again, how would you know that? You know,
- 31:07Speaker 1: it becomes, yeah, of course, you know, people are going
- 31:11Speaker 1: to look back on stuff and go, yeah, well, how
- 31:14Speaker 1: did we miss this? And how did we miss that? Well, because...
- 31:17Speaker 1: I mean, you're massively in the thick of not just
- 31:21Speaker 1: having given birth, because that's the other thing with Hirschsprung.
- 31:24Speaker 1: It's because it's present so early on in most, if
- 31:31Speaker 1: not all, cases that I've seen. I have spoken to
- 31:36Speaker 1: people who've been diagnosed a lot later in life, but
- 31:40Speaker 1: in majority, high majority of cases, it's present from the
- 31:47Speaker 1: very beginning so you're going through everything that you go
- 31:53Speaker 1: through having just given birth so to then think well
- 31:58Speaker 1: i've also got to look out for signs for this
- 32:01Speaker 1: condition i've never heard of when you do you sort
- 32:04Speaker 1: of think like that you know well.
- 32:08Speaker 3: How did i miss these about like even making decisions
- 32:11Speaker 3: around like having the pull through surgery and things like
- 32:13Speaker 3: that um or what our options are prior to pull through,
- 32:17Speaker 3: you know, we're still in that brain fog of pregnancy
- 32:20Speaker 3: where we're sleep deprived and we're still trying to adapt and,
- 32:23Speaker 3: you know, and it was our third child. So, you know,
- 32:25Speaker 3: trying to fit the third child into the mix of
- 32:27Speaker 3: it all. Yeah, it definitely made it hard to kind
- 32:32Speaker 3: of make the right decisions. So we kind of just
- 32:35Speaker 3: had to trust in our surgical team and they had
- 32:38Speaker 3: a lot of experience. It wasn't their first time coming
- 32:41Speaker 3: across this case. We did have the option to move
- 32:44Speaker 3: to the children's hospital to have it done there. But
- 32:48Speaker 3: we'd grown to know this team well before that surgical.
- 32:53Speaker 3: So we'd already built a trust and they knew Arlo.
- 32:56Speaker 3: So we just felt comfortable to stay with where we
- 32:58Speaker 3: were at the time.
- 33:00Speaker 1: That's the thing. I think that's really important as well,
- 33:04Speaker 1: having that trust. And yeah, like you say, you could
- 33:07Speaker 1: have moved to a different hospital. But if that hospital...
- 33:12Speaker 1: knows your child they know what they you know they've
- 33:15Speaker 1: seen it before then i guess upheaval for the sake
- 33:19Speaker 1: of upheaval's sake is no no real point no well
- 33:25Speaker 1: i think there's another point you made as well about
- 33:28Speaker 1: um your older daughter when you talked about um having
- 33:33Speaker 1: her involved in the the sort of um medical side
- 33:38Speaker 1: as well because i think it can sometimes be a
- 33:42Speaker 1: bit tricky for siblings if especially because you now have
- 33:49Speaker 1: a child that needs a lot more attention um care
- 33:53Speaker 1: and suddenly there's all these medical equipment that they may
- 33:56Speaker 1: have never seen before why is that all in the
- 33:59Speaker 1: house now yes so.
- 34:02Speaker 2: Why are they nurses coming and going like yes there's yes.
- 34:05Speaker 1: Yeah i guess that can be really really confusing for
- 34:08Speaker 1: for siblings um so i guess having Making a decision
- 34:13Speaker 1: to have her involved, I think is, yeah, I guess
- 34:18Speaker 1: a really important one.
- 34:19Speaker 3: Yeah, it was definitely something we thought quite long and
- 34:22Speaker 3: hard about. But we just found like, what if I
- 34:26Speaker 3: fell ill? Dad works 12 hour days. So, you know,
- 34:30Speaker 3: we were in that stage where we were doing bowel
- 34:32Speaker 3: washouts every like six hours. So I really needed that assistance.
- 34:37Speaker 3: It's not something we, you know, and we have family
- 34:39Speaker 3: that had said they'll step in and they'll happily help.
- 34:42Speaker 3: It's much easier having the kid that's in the home
- 34:45Speaker 3: with us assist. And she's always been really interested in, like,
- 34:49Speaker 3: being the mother hen to the babies anyway.
- 34:53Speaker 2: So for her, it was actually no.
- 34:55Speaker 3: We realised when we were at the hospital doing a
- 34:58Speaker 3: bowel irrigation with her in the room with us, and
- 35:02Speaker 3: the dinner plate had come into the hospital room, and
- 35:06Speaker 3: she was like, well, there's a smell of poo everywhere.
- 35:10Speaker 2: It's disgusting. It's gross. And she's there saying, is.
- 35:12Speaker 3: Anyone going to eat that fish? And I turned to
- 35:16Speaker 3: my partner and I said, yep, she's going to be
- 35:18Speaker 3: the right person to help us. Like, you can just
- 35:20Speaker 3: tell it's nonchalant. It didn't bother her at.
- 35:23Speaker 1: All to, yeah. Well, I think they're going to have
- 35:28Speaker 1: a little.
- 35:28Speaker 3: Nurse or surgeon out of her. She's very much into
- 35:31Speaker 3: the whole medical side of things now. Amazing.
- 35:34Speaker 1: To eat at a time like that as well.
- 35:36Speaker 2: Yeah, I know, right? That's exactly what we said. As
- 35:39Speaker 2: soon as she said that, we were all looking at
- 35:41Speaker 2: the room like, She's the right person, yeah.
- 35:44Speaker 1: That's an important point, actually, I think. When the sort
- 35:49Speaker 1: of time comes and how you explain to older siblings
- 35:54Speaker 1: or possibly younger siblings, you know, what's going on, what
- 35:58Speaker 1: happens and why is there all this medical equipment around
- 36:01Speaker 1: and all of that stuff. I think, like you say,
- 36:06Speaker 1: important to take on board the child themselves and can
- 36:11Speaker 1: they comprehend, can they, because some children will go, oh, okay, cool.
- 36:18Speaker 1: And it won't bother them in the slightest. And some
- 36:20Speaker 1: will want to know absolutely everything. Exactly. Exactly.
- 36:24Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah.
- 36:25Speaker 3: I think with our second child, if she was older
- 36:28Speaker 3: and we were using her, I think it'd be a
- 36:30Speaker 3: very different story because she's much more in, wants to
- 36:34Speaker 3: know more about it rather than just, I'm here to help.
- 36:39Speaker 1: Yeah, and I think that's, yeah, that's an important point
- 36:42Speaker 1: to make as well. And I also, just finally on that,
- 36:47Speaker 1: I don't think there's a right or wrong answer.
- 36:49Speaker 2: I don't think so either.
- 36:50Speaker 3: And I mean, it was always, we never made it
- 36:54Speaker 3: like a chore for her that she had to assist us.
- 36:57Speaker 3: It was always, would you be able to help today?
- 37:01Speaker 3: If she would say no, you know, we would call
- 37:03Speaker 3: on a family friend and we would work around it.
- 37:06Speaker 2: But....
- 37:09Speaker 3: We knew we needed her help and I think it
- 37:12Speaker 3: was probably the easiest way for her.
- 37:14Speaker 2: To adapt to what our new life looks like as well.
- 37:19Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, I guess if they can see it firsthand
- 37:22Speaker 1: and then it's not a mystery anymore.
- 37:26Speaker 2: Yeah, exactly.
- 37:28Speaker 1: Cool. Yeah. No, absolutely. So if we look at kind
- 37:34Speaker 1: of moving forward, I know you talked a little bit
- 37:38Speaker 1: about the stoma and how that's going to sort of
- 37:42Speaker 1: play out. And we talked about the Botox and the
- 37:46Speaker 1: five rounds and you just had one just very recently.
- 37:50Speaker 2: Yeah, we're at the peak phase of it at the moment.
- 37:54Speaker 3: So he's basically paralysed and it's just coming out, which
- 37:57Speaker 3: is great.
- 37:58Speaker 1: Well, at least he's coming out. That's the good thing.
- 38:02Speaker 2: Exactly. That's it.
- 38:04Speaker 1: But moving forward, what do you plan for or hope
- 38:09Speaker 1: is going to happen?
- 38:11Speaker 3: I mean, we hope that Arlo will go on to
- 38:13Speaker 3: live a relatively normal life. We know that we're still
- 38:18Speaker 3: going to battle some hurdles, but we're hoping, you know,
- 38:21Speaker 3: by the time he gets to the age five or six,
- 38:24Speaker 3: he'll have a bit more autonomously be able to make
- 38:27Speaker 3: those decisions for himself around what that care will look like,
- 38:31Speaker 3: you know, You know, we can also look at things
- 38:34Speaker 3: like pelvic floor therapy and things like that, but really
- 38:37Speaker 3: can't do any of that until they're a bit older
- 38:39Speaker 3: and they have a bit more understanding about how their
- 38:41Speaker 3: bodies work. And also, you know, we're really interested to
- 38:46Speaker 3: see what potty training is going to be like. We're
- 38:50Speaker 3: not rushing into that in any way at all, but
- 38:53Speaker 3: definitely know it's going to be a bit more of
- 38:55Speaker 3: a struggle than what it has been with our previous kids.
- 38:58Speaker 2: Yeah.
- 38:59Speaker 1: Yeah, I think it's, from people I've spoken to, I
- 39:02Speaker 1: think it definitely looks different.
- 39:06Speaker 2: Yes, from what we've heard, it's, yeah, it's a bit
- 39:08Speaker 2: of a battle.
- 39:10Speaker 1: I hope, obviously, that all goes sort of as smoothly
- 39:15Speaker 1: as it possibly can.
- 39:17Speaker 3: I mean, look, toilet training anyone is a tough challenge,
- 39:20Speaker 3: so we'll see what happens.
- 39:23Speaker 1: Absolutely, absolutely. Noah, thank you so much for doing this
- 39:27Speaker 1: this morning. I bet you. it's been really, really interesting
- 39:31Speaker 1: to hear Arlo's story. And I wish all of you,
- 39:36Speaker 1: Arlo and yourself and everybody included, all the very best
- 39:40Speaker 1: of luck for body trading and the very best of
- 39:44Speaker 1: luck for any procedures and anything. Yeah, moving forward. Thanks
- 39:48Speaker 1: so much for coming on.
- 39:50Speaker 2: Thank you so much for the time there, Tom.
- 39:56Speaker 1: Thank you for listening and being part of this growing community.
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