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Question Driven Living 2: Take Action Tuesday · Dr. Derek H. Suite MD - The SuiteSpot

• 0:06
  Speaker 1: All right, my friends, welcome, welcome back.
• 0:08
  Speaker 1: Welcome back to the Sweet Spot where we synthesize science and soul.
• 0:13
  Speaker 1: I'm Dr Derek Sweet.
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  Speaker 1: You are in Take Action Tuesday.
• 0:20
  Speaker 1: My friends, let's talk about something real.
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  Speaker 1: Have you ever made a decision you thought was the right move, only to look back and think what was I doing?
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  Speaker 1: What was I thinking?
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  Speaker 1: Maybe you jumped into a situation too fast, or maybe you hesitated too long and missed an opportunity.
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  Speaker 1: Either way, you weren't clear or you weren't decisive and you were just sort of reacting in a way.
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  Speaker 1: You see, that's what we're talking about this week.
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  Speaker 1: We're talking about what is the thinking that leads to the kinds of questions that we should be asking before we take action or make a move.
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  Speaker 1: Yesterday, on Making Moves Monday, we saw that it's about asking the right question, not just when should I move or how should I move, but what's the best move, what's the right move, what's the move that's going to get me what I want?
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  Speaker 1: We talked about that in some detail yesterday on Making Moves Monday.
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  Speaker 1: Today, in Take Action Tuesday, we're taking it a step further, because sometimes, when we have actions, we want to get to the solution so quickly that we just take the action quickly and you see, we're wired to look for answers, right, but sometimes the real power is in pausing and making sure that we're asking the right question before we take an action.
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  Speaker 1: So today's question is, literally what question is going to shape my next action?
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  Speaker 1: Right?
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  Speaker 1: What question should you be asking before you take that action that you want to take?
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  Speaker 1: Rapper Kendrick Lamar, he put it this way sit down, be humble.
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  Speaker 1: You know, honestly, that's the key.
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  Speaker 1: Before we act, before we take an action, we do need to sit down with our decision-making and we do need to have enough humility to get humble enough to question ourselves and question the action we want to take and make sure that we're not only moving in the right direction but that we're taking the right action.
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  Speaker 1: And science backs this up.
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  Speaker 1: Your brain is designed to act quickly.
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  Speaker 1: It loves quick decisions, but, as we know, fast decisions aren't always wise decisions.
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  Speaker 1: There's a part of your brain called the amygdala Remember that?
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  Speaker 1: The limbic system amygdala we talked about it the fear center that controls our fear and our reward responses.
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  Speaker 1: It pushes us to do something right now.
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  Speaker 1: It's trying to protect us.
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  Speaker 1: It's not a bad thing, it's just that it's fear-driven.
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  Speaker 1: Right now, it's trying to protect us.
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  Speaker 1: It's not a bad thing.
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  Speaker 1: It's just that it's fear-driven and impulsively.
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  Speaker 1: Sometimes it can either freeze us and stop us or push us into impulsive, quick actions.
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  Speaker 1: Now, the prefrontal cortex that we talked about yesterday, the brain CEO.
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  Speaker 1: Now that's where the wisdom lives and that's who you want to be making decisions before you take an action.
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  Speaker 1: Sometimes in a really rushed situation or you're feeling really bad or things are really coming at you, you're all amygdala, you're just reacting really quickly and the prefrontal cortex, the brain CEO, is just not getting a chance to step back, to think big picture and to make the right decision that will actually serve you in the long run.
• 3:45
  Speaker 1: And this is why we're spending this entire week focusing on asking the right question before we make a move or we take an action, because it's extremely powerful when you have this level of consciousness and awareness, to just slow down enough to ask a question.
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  Speaker 1: So, instead of just asking what should I do, we may ask something like why am I taking this action?
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  Speaker 1: Is it out of pressure, fear, or am I truly aligned with what I want to do?
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  Speaker 1: Or we might ask what do I really want?
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  Speaker 1: What do I really want?
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  Speaker 1: Am I just reacting or is this part of a bigger plan?
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  Speaker 1: Do I know what I really want, right?
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  Speaker 1: Or another one is is this the right time?
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  Speaker 1: A really great question to ask before you take an action.
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  Speaker 1: A really great question to ask before you take an action, because even the right move at the wrong time can set you back.
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  Speaker 1: Denzel Washington once said Just because you're doing a lot more and you're really being active doesn't mean you're getting a lot more done.
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  Speaker 1: Facts we confuse movement sometimes with progress.
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  Speaker 1: But you know, when you slow down and you ask the right question and you move with intention after you've asked that right question, that's when your answers come.
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  Speaker 1: That's when you level up, that's when you begin to understand that you have options.
• 5:37
  Speaker 1: Even ancient wisdom puts it this way.
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  Speaker 1: Proverbs 19.2 says this Desire without knowledge is not good.
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  Speaker 1: How much more will hasty feet miss the way?
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  Speaker 1: Desire without knowledge is not good.
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  Speaker 1: How much more will hasty feet miss the way?
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  Speaker 1: You know what that translates into.
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  Speaker 1: Just because you feel like doing something doesn't mean that you should do it.
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  Speaker 1: Always try to get clarity first.
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  Speaker 1: Just because you desire it, understand it before you take action on it.
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  Speaker 1: I know there's a message in there for somebody.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, now All right.
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  Speaker 1: So here's what I want you to do today, my friends Before making any decision whether it's sending that text, accepting this job, speaking to that individual that you want to speak to starting a new project I want you to pause, take 30 seconds and ask what's the right question.
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  Speaker 1: I need to ask myself before I take action, before I act.
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  Speaker 1: Maybe the question is am I doing this for me or for somebody else?
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  Speaker 1: That's always a great question.
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  Speaker 1: Am I trying to prove something, or is this really what I want?
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  Speaker 1: Another good question right, or does this align with who I am or who I'm becoming?
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  Speaker 1: Does this fit with who I am or who I'm becoming?
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  Speaker 1: Does this fit with me?
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  Speaker 1: Once you get the right question, you know what happens.
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  Speaker 1: The answer comes to you.
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  Speaker 1: You don't even have to seek it.
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  Speaker 1: It starts seeking you because you're asking the right question.
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  Speaker 1: It's shifting the tracks, you're in a different mindset, in a different place, and then the answer becomes clear.
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  Speaker 1: And sometimes the answer isn't to act, it's to wait until you know it's the right move.
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  Speaker 1: J Cole said don't save her.
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  Speaker 1: Her, she don't want to be saved.
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  Speaker 1: And that applies to decisions too.
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  Speaker 1: Some choices don't need to be made right now.
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  Speaker 1: Some moves just don't need to be rushed and some actions just don't need to be done today, and some questions need more time before you answer them.
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  Speaker 1: Never let somebody rush you into action and, worse, don't rush yourself into action.
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  Speaker 1: So, today, don't just move.
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  Speaker 1: Ask, don't just react, reflect and trust that the right action will come from the right question.
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  Speaker 1: I want you to keep questioning, I want you to keep growing, and I'll see you tomorrow for Wednesday, and you know what Wednesday is right.
• 8:37
  Speaker 1: It's not just any Wednesday, it's win it all Wednesday.
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  Speaker 1: Can't wait to see what questions we have flowing tomorrow.
• 8:45
  Speaker 1: All right, now, this is Dr Sweet.
• 8:47
  Speaker 1: Thank you so much for listening.
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  Speaker 1: I hope that you will walk around with the questions, that you would live the questions, breathe the questions, spend time with the questions, reshape the questions and ask more questions of yourself before you act.
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  Speaker 1: Love and blessings.
• 9:02
  Speaker 1: I'm on Instagram, I'm on Twitter, I'm on LinkedIn, I'm on threads as well.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, all right, take care, I'll see you tomorrow.
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  Speaker 1: We'll do it all Wednesday.
• 9:12
  Speaker 1: Talk soon.