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Episode 593: 7 Reasons Why Your Ex Contacted You & Then Disappeared · The Art of Love With Lucia

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  Hi. This is the cheer with the art
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  of love. I'm a dating and relationship.
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  Experts specializing in helping you get your ex back or to get
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  over your ex this week. I want to talk about the seven
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  reasons why your ex contacts you and then disappear.
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  Is there anything more frustrating?
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  You were just starting to get over them.
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  You were doing well in no contact.
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  You were thinking, maybe you'll move on, and then boom all
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  suddenly pop up, then you respond, and then they
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  disappear. What is going on?
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  Well, I I will explain exactly what's going on.
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  But first, I want to welcome back my beautiful, no contact
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  Store. So listen here to let and I'll
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  to that is under every video and every podcast.
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  Okay? So I had actually previously
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  done a video on this topic about five years ago, and I'll put the
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  link up here at the top and I thought was time to revisit it
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  because I did say something in that video that I no longer
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  agree with. And if you're a long, Listen
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  early, you'll know what it is. Basically at that point, I was
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  saying that you could respond when you hear from your ex and
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  then if they disappear, then you don't respond until they say
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  something significant. But now I've changed my stance
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  and that is that you do not respond to breadcrumbs.
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  You only respond if they say something significant that way,
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  if you don't respond, then they can't disappear again.
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  Because since you never engage with them, then you haven't
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  broken no contact and Therefore, they didn't disappear again
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  because you never responded but that is not the only reason I
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  wanted to redo this video about why an ex would contact you in
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  the end of the pier. I have a bunch of reasons why
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  someone would do that. And I know a lot of you are
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  confused because I've seen the comments and under that video.
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  So, okay, here we go. One reason is that they're
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  trying to get you to Chase. And by the way, this is also why
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  some people ghost sometimes Will they don't have the power or the
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  trying to gain more power and in you going radio silent or no
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  contact, they may have changed their minds and they don't want
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  to just come out and say hello to change my mind.
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  I'm gonna mistake nobody wants to admit they made a mistake.
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  So instead they try to bait you another, okay, I'm going to
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  reach out talk for a few days and then disappear.
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  And their hope is that especially if you were needy and
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  their Ship. Especially if you were begging
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  and pleading after the breakup, they hope that you will start
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  chasing them and then it'll make it seem like they came back
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  because you chase them and you convince them.
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  Meanwhile, they want to come back.
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  Another reason is they want reassurance that you're still
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  interested again with no contact if you were needy.
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  Even if you weren't, they thought for sure, that you would
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  try to get them back and the see as time goes by, you're living
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  your life. They might be watching on social
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  media and looks like you're not going to be reaching out and
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  they're having doubts so they just want reassurance.
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  In case they want to come back. Not necessarily they want you,
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  but just in case they just want to make sure You're still
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  sitting there waiting for them. Again, a great reason not to
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  respond to breadcrumbs. The third reason, is ego.
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  So again, our friend, no contact causes this because again they
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  thought you were going to chase. They may not even want you back
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  but it's like what your name? Not even going to try to get me
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  back. I thought you were still in, to
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  me. You're so in love with me.
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  So they just want the ego reassurance that you do want
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  them back and so they see by your conversation by the things
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  you say by how quickly you respond and then they disappear.
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  And they want to see if you're going to keep trying to keep the
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  conversation going and that's all just ego-based.
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  Doesn't mean they want you back? Again, a great reason to not
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  respond to breadcrumbs. Another reason it's just
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  curiosity again. Same reason, you've disappeared
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  your quiet. It's pretty much all the same
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  reason and they're just wondering it's like what is
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  going on? I thought he was so into me, I
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  thought she was so into me. I thought he couldn't live
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  without me. What is going on?
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  So they're just trying to see. You know, it's for she they want
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  to see if maybe you're dating someone and that's why I was
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  sudden, they're not important to you anymore.
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  So curiosity. And then the next reason is
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  anxiety. They may have an anxious
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  attachment style or they're just anxious about this particular
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  situation. Again, they thought they would
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  hear from you again. You said no contact, you, listen
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  to me. And so they reach out.
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  And if you didn't know about not responding to breadcrumbs, Then
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  you'll respond and now, you've appease their anxiety and now
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  they disappear. The next reason is because in
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  that moment they were missing you something triggered them
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  that reminded them of you or the relationship of good times in
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  the relationship and they just felt like having a connection
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  again, not necessarily get back together.
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  They just want to feel that connection that they once had
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  with you, it felt good. And so they text you and then
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  you text back, hopefully not. But anyways, if they meant to
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  have a conversation with you, now, they get their hit of
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  dopamine of feeling good. Now, Like yeah, okay, I'm good.
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  I don't miss them anymore. So by then they disappear cruel
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  thing to do. I know, but they're not thinking
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  of you. And that moment, they're
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  thinking of themselves. And then finally, a final reason
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  is that they're seeing someone else and they're either losing
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  interest in that person or they had a fight.
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  And so they reached out to you to make sure again that you're
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  still available and still interested and if you engage
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  then they know, okay, good. If it doesn't work out with this
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  rebound, then I can always go. Go back to my ex.
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  So, these are all great reasons should not respond.
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  If someone does not say something significant because if
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  they want to get back together they will say something
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  significant. One of my clients heard from her
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  ex after eight months, eight long months.
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  And his message was very significant.
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  So we're going to wait and see how it all plays out now, and
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  then I'll do a video on that. But I do To read his text in
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  that video, not in this one because it was very, very, very
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  significant. Okay.
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  So, I'll just go over the reasons again, why your ex would
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  contact you and disappear. One is to get you to chase to
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  reassure them. You're still interested three
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  ego. Reasons for curiosity five
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  anxiety, six, missing you and seven.
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  They're seeing someone else and all is not well in that
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  relationship. So now, I want to hear from Um,
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  you have you heard from your ex and then they disappeared.
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  What did you do? I know it's like, oh my God, you
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  opened a wound. It was closing.
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  And now you appeared again, and then you disappeared as almost
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  like being rejected again. So, this is why you don't want
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  to respond unless it's something significant.
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  And if we would like my help personally to get your ex back,
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  contact me at the art of love dotnet and we will send you the
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