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This Is the Year You Stop Negotiating With Yourself | EP 272 · Confident and Empowered Women

• 0:05
  Let
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  me
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  tell
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  you
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  something
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  that
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  might
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  sting
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  a
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  little,
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  but
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  in
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  a
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  healing
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  way.
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  If
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  you've
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  been
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  saying,
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  this
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  is
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  my
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  year
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  for
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  a
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  long
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  time,
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  and
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  your
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  life
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  keeps
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  looking
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  the
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  same,
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  it's
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  not
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  because
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  the
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  year
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  is
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  hating
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  on
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  you.
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  It's
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  because
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  you've
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  been
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  negotiating
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  with
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  yourself
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  instead
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  of
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  deciding.
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  And
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  today
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  that
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  pattern
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  ends.
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  Hey
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  friend,
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  if
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  you
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  are
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  new
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  here,
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  welcome
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  and
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  if
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  these
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  are
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  the
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  kind
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  of
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  conversations
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  that
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  feel
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  grounding
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  or
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  familiar
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  to
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  you,
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  that's
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  not
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  by
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  accident.
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  I
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  talk
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  a
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  lot
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  about
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  self-love
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  alignment
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  and
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  really
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  aligning
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  with
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  the
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  best
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  of
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  who
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  you
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  are
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  so
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  you
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  can
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  really
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  become
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  the
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  best
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  version
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  of
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  yourself
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  without
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  pressure
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  if
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  that
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  resonates.
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  Go
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  ahead
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  and
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  hit
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  subscribe
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  so
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  we
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  can
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  keep
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  having
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  these
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  kind
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  of
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  conversations
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  and
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  building
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  this
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  connection
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  together.
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  Hey,
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  hey,
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  hey.
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  Welcome
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  back
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  to
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  Confident
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  and
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  Empowered
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  Women
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  where
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  we
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  stop
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  playing
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  small
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  with
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  our
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  lives
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  and
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  start
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  showing
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  up
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  like
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  the
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  main
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  character.
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  We
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  already
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  know
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  we
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  are
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  two
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  snaps
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  and
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  a
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  swirl
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  man.
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  Sometimes
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  the
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  references
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  I
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  use
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  like
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  that
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  was
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  pure
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  in
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  living
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  color,
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  and
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  I
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  realized
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  how
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  my
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  references
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  really
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  do
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  date
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  me.
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  But
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  listen,
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  I
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  love
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  it
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  here
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  though.
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  And
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  this
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  is
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  the
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  year
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  you
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  stop
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  negotiating
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  with
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  yourself.
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  And
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  to
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  do
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  that,
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  we
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  are
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  really
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  getting
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  into
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  a
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  why
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  you
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  keep
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  self-sabotaging,
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  why
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  your
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  follow
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  through
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  isn't
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  going
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  through,
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  and
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  how
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  everything
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  shifts
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  when
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  you
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  stop
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  wishing
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  and
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  start
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  choosing.
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  Now
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  this
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  lesson
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  right
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  here,
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  it
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  isn't
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  theoretical
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  for
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  me.
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  It
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  was
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  lived.
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  Okay.
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  Story
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  time.
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  So
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  pull
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  up
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  your
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  chair
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  and
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  get
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  cozy
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  every
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  year.
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  And
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  I
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  mean,
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  every
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  single
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  year,
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  one
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  of
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  my
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  best
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  friends
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  and
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  I,
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  we
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  would
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  look
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  at
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  each
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  other
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  and
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  say,
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  this
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  is
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  our
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  year,
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  capital
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  T,
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  capital
• 2:21
  Y.
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  Okay.
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  Same
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  enthusiasm
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  and
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  victory
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  Dance
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  Vision
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  Board
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  on
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  lock.
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  Same
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  conviction,
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  hope,
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  conversations,
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  and
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  same
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  old
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  cycles
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  friend,
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  same
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  quiet
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  disappointment,
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  dressed
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  up
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  as
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  patience
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  and
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  the
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  wild
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  part.
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  Yes.
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  This
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  is
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  where
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  we
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  cue
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  Riri.
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  Go
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  ahead,
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  Riri
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  and
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  sing.
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  Wild,
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  wild,
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  wild.
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  Oh
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  my
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  gosh.
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  I'm
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  sorry
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  friend.
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  I'm
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  really
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  in
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  a
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  goofy
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  mood
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  right
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  now,
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  but
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  you
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  know
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  what?
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  We
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  have
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  to
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  have
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  fun
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  when
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  we
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  do
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  this
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  work.
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  Okay?
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  It
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  has
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  got
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  to
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  be
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  fun.
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  But
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  any
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  who,
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  getting
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  back
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  on
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  track.
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  The
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  wild
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  part
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  was,
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  you
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  know,
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  what
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  happened
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  next?
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  Yep.
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  You
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  guessed
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  it.
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  Nothing
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  changed.
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  Not
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  a
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  thing.
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  We
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  said
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  it
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  for
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  years.
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  Ooh.
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  And
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  I
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  mean,
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  heavy
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  on
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  the
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  years.
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  Same
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  habits,
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  same
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  comfort
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  zones,
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  same
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  cycles.
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  Dressed
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  up,
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  looking
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  all
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  fine
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  with
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  nowhere
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  to
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  go.
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  At
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  some
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  point
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  it
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  became.
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  Actually
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  pretty
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  funny.
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  Absolutely
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  comedy
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  even.
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  We'd
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  say
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  it
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  pause
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  and
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  then
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  laugh
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  because
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  at
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  that
• 3:42
  time
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  we
• 3:43
  knew
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  deep
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  down
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  there
• 3:45
  wasn't
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  nothing
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  gonna
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  change
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  until
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  I
• 3:50
  got
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  the
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  wild
• 3:51
  idea
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  to
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  change
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  me.
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  And
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  that's
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  when
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  it
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  hit
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  me.
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  The
• 3:56
  real
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  shift
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  was
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  never
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  about
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  the
• 3:58
  year
• 3:58
  changing.
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  It
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  was
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  about
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  me
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  changing.
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  Looking
• 4:02
  back,
• 4:02
  I
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  realize
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  we
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  weren't
• 4:04
  lying.
• 4:05
  We
• 4:05
  genuinely
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  wanted
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  more,
• 4:08
  but
• 4:08
  wanting
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  isn't
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  deciding
• 4:10
  or
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  doing
• 4:11
  for
• 4:11
  that
• 4:11
  matter.
• 4:12
  We
• 4:12
  were
• 4:13
  just
• 4:13
  negotiating
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  with
• 4:14
  ourselves.
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  This
• 4:15
  is
• 4:16
  our
• 4:16
  year,
• 4:16
  but
• 4:17
  after
• 4:17
  things
• 4:17
  calm
• 4:17
  down,
• 4:18
  this
• 4:18
  is
• 4:18
  our
• 4:19
  year.
• 4:19
  Once
• 4:19
  I
• 4:19
  feel
• 4:20
  more
• 4:20
  confident,
• 4:20
  once
• 4:21
  I
• 4:21
  know
• 4:21
  enough,
• 4:22
  once
• 4:22
  I
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  know
• 4:23
  every
• 4:23
  single
• 4:24
  step
• 4:24
  to
• 4:24
  the
• 4:24
  plan,
• 4:25
  That's
• 4:26
  when
• 4:26
  I'll
• 4:26
  move.
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  And
• 4:27
  this
• 4:27
  is
• 4:27
  our
• 4:28
  year
• 4:28
  when
• 4:28
  I'm
• 4:28
  finally
• 4:29
  in
• 4:29
  a
• 4:29
  relationship.
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  Listen,
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  I'm
• 4:31
  speaking
• 4:31
  for
• 4:31
  myself
• 4:32
  on
• 4:32
  that
• 4:32
  one
• 4:32
  because
• 4:33
  I
• 4:33
  was
• 4:34
  waiting
• 4:35
  on
• 4:35
  external
• 4:36
  circumstances,
• 4:37
  people,
• 4:37
  places,
• 4:38
  or
• 4:38
  things
• 4:39
  to
• 4:39
  change
• 4:40
  in
• 4:40
  order
• 4:41
  for
• 4:41
  things
• 4:41
  to
• 4:41
  actually
• 4:42
  be
• 4:42
  different.
• 4:43
  But
• 4:43
  that's
• 4:43
  not
• 4:44
  alignment.
• 4:45
  That's
• 4:45
  just
• 4:45
  internal
• 4:46
  bargaining.
• 4:47
  And
• 4:47
  bargaining
• 4:48
  feels
• 4:48
  safe
• 4:49
  because
• 4:49
  it
• 4:50
  lets
• 4:50
  you
• 4:50
  sound
• 4:51
  committed
• 4:51
  without
• 4:52
  actually
• 4:53
  risking
• 4:53
  change.
• 4:54
  Every
• 4:55
  time
• 4:55
  you
• 4:55
  bargain
• 4:56
  with
• 4:56
  yourself,
• 4:56
  you
• 4:56
  quietly
• 4:57
  teach
• 4:57
  yourself.
• 4:58
  My
• 4:59
  word
• 4:59
  doesn't
• 4:59
  mean
• 5:00
  much,
• 5:01
  and
• 5:01
  that
• 5:01
  is
• 5:01
  the
• 5:02
  real
• 5:02
  cost
• 5:03
  and
• 5:03
  it's
• 5:03
  way
• 5:04
  too
• 5:04
  expensive.
• 5:05
  The
• 5:06
  year
• 5:06
  my
• 5:06
  life
• 5:06
  started
• 5:07
  to
• 5:07
  blossom,
• 5:08
  it
• 5:08
  wasn't
• 5:08
  because
• 5:09
  I
• 5:09
  said
• 5:09
  it
• 5:09
  louder
• 5:10
  with
• 5:10
  more
• 5:10
  conviction.
• 5:12
  It
• 5:12
  wasn't
• 5:12
  because
• 5:12
  I
• 5:13
  wanted
• 5:13
  it
• 5:13
  more,
• 5:14
  prayed
• 5:14
  harder
• 5:15
  or
• 5:15
  even
• 5:15
  visualized
• 5:16
  longer.
• 5:17
  It
• 5:17
  was
• 5:17
  because
• 5:18
  I
• 5:18
  got
• 5:18
  tired
• 5:19
  of
• 5:19
  hearing
• 5:19
  myself
• 5:20
  say
• 5:20
  the
• 5:20
  same
• 5:21
  thing
• 5:22
  and
• 5:23
  watching
• 5:23
  my
• 5:23
  life
• 5:24
  stay
• 5:24
  the
• 5:25
  exact
• 5:25
  same.
• 5:26
  You
• 5:26
  ever
• 5:26
  just
• 5:26
  get
• 5:27
  so
• 5:27
  tired
• 5:27
  of
• 5:27
  your
• 5:28
  own
• 5:28
  BS
• 5:28
  and
• 5:29
  you
• 5:29
  finally
• 5:29
  call
• 5:29
  yourself
• 5:30
  out
• 5:30
  on
• 5:30
  it?
• 5:33
  Well,
• 5:33
  I
• 5:33
  definitely
• 5:34
  did,
• 5:34
  and
• 5:35
  from
• 5:35
  that
• 5:35
  same
• 5:36
  place
• 5:36
  in
• 5:37
  me,
• 5:37
  I
• 5:37
  decided
• 5:38
  I'm
• 5:39
  not
• 5:39
  doing
• 5:39
  this
• 5:39
  again.
• 5:40
  This
• 5:40
  time
• 5:41
  I'm
• 5:42
  doing
• 5:42
  something
• 5:42
  about
• 5:43
  it,
• 5:44
  not
• 5:44
  dramatically,
• 5:45
  not
• 5:46
  perfectly.
• 5:47
  Just
• 5:48
  honestly,
• 5:49
  I
• 5:49
  decided
• 5:50
  to
• 5:50
  do
• 5:50
  one
• 5:51
  thing
• 5:52
  different
• 5:52
  than
• 5:53
  another,
• 5:54
  than
• 5:54
  another,
• 5:54
  and
• 5:55
  that's
• 5:55
  when
• 5:56
  things
• 5:56
  started
• 5:57
  moving,
• 5:57
  not
• 5:58
  overnight,
• 5:59
  but
• 5:59
  I
• 5:59
  really
• 6:00
  wasn't
• 6:00
  even
• 6:00
  looking
• 6:01
  for
• 6:01
  overnight
• 6:01
  success
• 6:02
  at
• 6:02
  that
• 6:02
  point.
• 6:03
  I
• 6:03
  was
• 6:03
  looking
• 6:04
  for
• 6:04
  some
• 6:04
  kind
• 6:05
  of
• 6:05
  forward
• 6:06
  movement,
• 6:06
  anything
• 6:08
  that
• 6:08
  made
• 6:08
  me
• 6:08
  feel
• 6:09
  like
• 6:09
  I
• 6:09
  was
• 6:09
  no
• 6:10
  longer
• 6:10
  standing
• 6:11
  Still.
• 6:12
  Now
• 6:12
  here's
• 6:12
  the
• 6:12
  truth
• 6:13
  that
• 6:13
  most
• 6:14
  people
• 6:14
  don't
• 6:14
  want
• 6:14
  to
• 6:14
  hear,
• 6:15
  so
• 6:15
  I'm
• 6:15
  gonna
• 6:15
  hold
• 6:15
  your
• 6:15
  hand
• 6:16
  while
• 6:16
  I
• 6:16
  say
• 6:17
  this.
• 6:17
  You
• 6:18
  don't
• 6:18
  self-sabotage
• 6:19
  because
• 6:20
  you're
• 6:20
  broken
• 6:20
  or
• 6:20
  something's
• 6:21
  wrong
• 6:21
  with
• 6:21
  you.
• 6:22
  You
• 6:22
  self-sabotage
• 6:23
  because
• 6:24
  part
• 6:24
  of
• 6:24
  you
• 6:25
  is
• 6:25
  still
• 6:26
  negotiating.
• 6:27
  With
• 6:27
  your
• 6:28
  old
• 6:28
  identity.
• 6:30
  As
• 6:30
  soon
• 6:30
  as
• 6:30
  I
• 6:30
  realized
• 6:31
  I
• 6:31
  couldn't
• 6:32
  keep
• 6:32
  letting
• 6:33
  my
• 6:33
  mood
• 6:34
  decide
• 6:34
  my
• 6:35
  future,
• 6:36
  then
• 6:36
  suddenly
• 6:36
  things
• 6:37
  began
• 6:37
  to
• 6:37
  change
• 6:38
  and
• 6:38
  take
• 6:38
  new
• 6:38
  shape.
• 6:39
  Not
• 6:39
  because
• 6:40
  I
• 6:40
  wished
• 6:41
  harder,
• 6:41
  but
• 6:42
  because
• 6:42
  I
• 6:43
  moved.
• 6:44
  I
• 6:44
  chose
• 6:45
  differently.
• 6:46
  I
• 6:46
  acted
• 6:47
  differently.
• 6:48
  I
• 6:48
  showed
• 6:49
  up
• 6:49
  as
• 6:49
  the
• 6:49
  woman
• 6:50
  who
• 6:50
  believed
• 6:50
  her
• 6:51
  life
• 6:51
  could
• 6:51
  expand.
• 6:52
  I
• 6:52
  stopped
• 6:53
  waiting
• 6:54
  to
• 6:54
  feel
• 6:54
  ready.
• 6:55
  I
• 6:55
  stopped
• 6:55
  waiting
• 6:55
  on
• 6:56
  certainty
• 6:57
  and
• 6:57
  I
• 6:57
  stopped
• 6:58
  waiting
• 6:58
  for
• 6:58
  permission.
• 6:59
  I
• 6:59
  started
• 7:00
  acting
• 7:00
  like
• 7:00
  the
• 7:00
  woman
• 7:01
  who
• 7:01
  believed
• 7:02
  her
• 7:02
  dreams
• 7:03
  were
• 7:03
  just
• 7:03
  a
• 7:04
  blueprint
• 7:04
  to
• 7:04
  her
• 7:04
  destiny.
• 7:06
  Before
• 7:06
  my
• 7:07
  decisions,
• 7:08
  they
• 7:08
  were
• 7:08
  soft.
• 7:09
  I'll
• 7:09
  try.
• 7:10
  Ooh,
• 7:10
  that
• 7:10
  was
• 7:10
  my
• 7:11
  favorite.
• 7:11
  I'll
• 7:12
  see.
• 7:12
  Or
• 7:13
  I'll
• 7:13
  start
• 7:13
  eventually.
• 7:15
  But
• 7:15
  clean
• 7:16
  decisions
• 7:17
  sound
• 7:17
  different.
• 7:18
  Clean
• 7:18
  decisions
• 7:19
  sound
• 7:19
  like
• 7:20
  I'm
• 7:20
  doing
• 7:20
  this.
• 7:21
  Even
• 7:21
  if
• 7:21
  it
• 7:21
  scares
• 7:22
  me,
• 7:22
  I
• 7:22
  don't
• 7:23
  need
• 7:23
  to
• 7:23
  understand
• 7:24
  the
• 7:24
  whole
• 7:24
  path.
• 7:25
  I'm
• 7:25
  just
• 7:25
  moving.
• 7:26
  I
• 7:27
  trust
• 7:27
  myself
• 7:28
  enough
• 7:29
  to
• 7:29
  move
• 7:30
  because
• 7:30
  here's
• 7:30
  the
• 7:31
  truth.
• 7:31
  Self-sabotage
• 7:33
  ends
• 7:33
  when
• 7:34
  decisions
• 7:35
  get
• 7:35
  clean.
• 7:36
  I
• 7:36
  stopped
• 7:36
  asking,
• 7:37
  do
• 7:37
  I
• 7:37
  feel
• 7:38
  like
• 7:38
  it,
• 7:38
  and
• 7:39
  started
• 7:39
  asking,
• 7:40
  who
• 7:40
  am
• 7:40
  I
• 7:40
  being?
• 7:41
  When
• 7:41
  you
• 7:42
  act
• 7:42
  from
• 7:42
  identity,
• 7:43
  not
• 7:44
  mood,
• 7:44
  momentum
• 7:45
  becomes
• 7:46
  inevitable.
• 7:47
  Once
• 7:48
  the
• 7:48
  decision
• 7:48
  was
• 7:49
  clean,
• 7:49
  there
• 7:50
  was
• 7:50
  nothing
• 7:50
  left
• 7:51
  to
• 7:51
  negotiate.
• 7:52
  And
• 7:52
  really
• 7:52
  lean
• 7:53
  in
• 7:53
  and
• 7:54
  really
• 7:54
  hear
• 7:54
  me
• 7:55
  with
• 7:55
  your
• 7:55
  heart
• 7:55
  when
• 7:55
  I
• 7:56
  say
• 7:56
  this.
• 7:56
  Okay.
• 7:57
  Raising
• 7:58
  myself
• 7:59
  standard
• 7:59
  didn't
• 8:00
  mean
• 8:00
  becoming
• 8:01
  harder
• 8:01
  on
• 8:01
  myself.
• 8:03
  It
• 8:03
  meant
• 8:03
  becoming
• 8:04
  more
• 8:04
  honest
• 8:05
  with
• 8:05
  myself.
• 8:06
  So
• 8:07
  this
• 8:07
  is
• 8:07
  not
• 8:07
  about
• 8:08
  beating
• 8:08
  yourself
• 8:09
  up.
• 8:09
  This
• 8:10
  is
• 8:10
  not
• 8:10
  about
• 8:11
  blaming
• 8:11
  or
• 8:12
  shaming
• 8:12
  yourself.
• 8:13
  This
• 8:13
  isn't
• 8:14
  even
• 8:14
  about
• 8:15
  working
• 8:16
  harder.
• 8:17
  This
• 8:17
  is
• 8:17
  about
• 8:18
  really
• 8:18
  being
• 8:18
  more
• 8:19
  honest
• 8:20
  with
• 8:20
  yourself.
• 8:21
  I
• 8:21
  stopped
• 8:22
  letting
• 8:22
  my
• 8:22
  intentions,
• 8:23
  excuse
• 8:24
  my
• 8:24
  inaction.
• 8:25
  I
• 8:25
  stopped
• 8:26
  bonding
• 8:27
  with
• 8:27
  people
• 8:27
  over
• 8:28
  staying
• 8:28
  stuck
• 8:29
  or
• 8:29
  swirling
• 8:30
  in
• 8:30
  constant
• 8:31
  complaints.
• 8:32
  I
• 8:32
  stopped
• 8:33
  romanticizing
• 8:34
  potential
• 8:35
  and
• 8:35
  started
• 8:36
  paying
• 8:36
  attention
• 8:36
  to
• 8:36
  the
• 8:37
  preview
• 8:37
  they
• 8:38
  were
• 8:38
  giving
• 8:38
  me.
• 8:39
  I
• 8:39
  started
• 8:40
  keeping
• 8:40
  small
• 8:41
  promises
• 8:41
  to
• 8:42
  myself
• 8:42
  and
• 8:43
  self-trust.
• 8:44
  It
• 8:44
  grew
• 8:44
  fast.
• 8:45
  Your
• 8:46
  standards
• 8:47
  and
• 8:47
  boundaries
• 8:48
  are
• 8:48
  codes
• 8:49
  of
• 8:49
  conduct
• 8:50
  for
• 8:50
  the
• 8:50
  people
• 8:50
  in
• 8:51
  your
• 8:51
  life,
• 8:52
  but
• 8:53
  they
• 8:53
  are
• 8:53
  also
• 8:54
  beautiful
• 8:55
  guardrails
• 8:56
  to
• 8:56
  keep
• 8:56
  you
• 8:57
  in
• 8:57
  alignment
• 8:58
  with
• 8:59
  the
• 8:59
  best
• 8:59
  of
• 9:00
  who
• 9:00
  you
• 9:00
  are.
• 9:01
  That
• 9:02
  version
• 9:02
  of
• 9:02
  me,
• 9:03
  the
• 9:03
  one
• 9:03
  who
• 9:04
  talked
• 9:04
  a
• 9:04
  big
• 9:04
  game,
• 9:05
  but
• 9:05
  played
• 9:05
  small,
• 9:06
  I
• 9:06
  don't
• 9:06
  hate
• 9:06
  her.
• 9:07
  I
• 9:08
  thank
• 9:08
  her
• 9:09
  and
• 9:09
  I
• 9:09
  stopped
• 9:10
  letting
• 9:10
  her
• 9:11
  run
• 9:11
  the
• 9:11
  show.
• 9:12
  I
• 9:12
  became
• 9:13
  unavailable
• 9:14
  for
• 9:14
  talking
• 9:15
  myself
• 9:15
  out
• 9:15
  of
• 9:15
  opportunities,
• 9:17
  choosing
• 9:17
  comfort
• 9:18
  over
• 9:18
  expansion,
• 9:19
  saying
• 9:20
  this
• 9:20
  is
• 9:21
  my
• 9:21
  year
• 9:22
  without
• 9:22
  being
• 9:23
  different
• 9:23
  and
• 9:23
  backing
• 9:24
  it
• 9:24
  up
• 9:24
  by
• 9:25
  my
• 9:25
  actions.
• 9:26
  Growth
• 9:26
  doesn't
• 9:27
  require
• 9:28
  disrespecting
• 9:28
  your
• 9:28
  past,
• 9:29
  but
• 9:30
  it
• 9:30
  does
• 9:30
  require
• 9:31
  outgrowing
• 9:32
  it.
• 9:35
  Hey,
• 9:35
  friend.
• 9:36
  Sometimes
• 9:37
  a
• 9:37
  conversation
• 9:38
  like
• 9:38
  this
• 9:38
  brings
• 9:39
  relief
• 9:40
  and
• 9:40
  that
• 9:40
  relief
• 9:41
  matters,
• 9:43
  But
• 9:43
  what
• 9:43
  most
• 9:43
  women
• 9:44
  notice
• 9:44
  is
• 9:45
  that
• 9:45
  without
• 9:45
  something
• 9:46
  to
• 9:46
  return
• 9:47
  to,
• 9:47
  that
• 9:48
  clarity
• 9:48
  fades.
• 9:49
  Old
• 9:50
  habits
• 9:50
  come
• 9:51
  back.
• 9:51
  Self-doubt
• 9:52
  creeps
• 9:53
  in,
• 9:53
  and
• 9:54
  suddenly
• 9:54
  you're
• 9:54
  questioning
• 9:55
  yourself
• 9:56
  all
• 9:56
  over
• 9:57
  again.
• 9:57
  The
• 9:58
  Main
• 9:58
  Character
• 9:58
  Momentum
• 9:59
  Builder.
• 10:00
  It
• 10:00
  gives
• 10:00
  you
• 10:00
  a
• 10:01
  grounded
• 10:01
  way
• 10:02
  to
• 10:02
  stay
• 10:02
  connected
• 10:03
  to
• 10:03
  yourself
• 10:04
  between
• 10:04
  the
• 10:04
  moments
• 10:05
  of
• 10:05
  insight,
• 10:06
  it
• 10:06
  supports
• 10:07
  you
• 10:07
  in
• 10:07
  choosing
• 10:08
  from
• 10:08
  self-love
• 10:09
  consistently.
• 10:10
  So
• 10:10
  alignment
• 10:11
  becomes
• 10:12
  something
• 10:12
  you
• 10:12
  live,
• 10:13
  not
• 10:14
  something
• 10:14
  you
• 10:14
  keep
• 10:14
  trying
• 10:15
  harder
• 10:15
  to
• 10:15
  remember
• 10:17
  so
• 10:17
  grab
• 10:17
  yours
• 10:17
  below
• 10:18
  in
• 10:18
  the
• 10:18
  show
• 10:19
  notes.
• 10:21
  If
• 10:22
  you
• 10:22
  don't
• 10:22
  anchor
• 10:23
  the
• 10:23
  moment,
• 10:23
  old
• 10:24
  patterns
• 10:24
  take
• 10:25
  over.
• 10:26
  This
• 10:26
  is
• 10:26
  why
• 10:27
  I
• 10:27
  wanna
• 10:27
  give
• 10:27
  you
• 10:27
  something
• 10:28
  simple,
• 10:29
  just
• 10:29
  two
• 10:30
  grounded
• 10:31
  steps
• 10:31
  that
• 10:32
  can
• 10:32
  help
• 10:32
  you
• 10:32
  stop
• 10:33
  negotiating
• 10:33
  with
• 10:33
  yourself
• 10:34
  and
• 10:34
  start
• 10:35
  choosing
• 10:35
  yourself
• 10:36
  in
• 10:36
  real
• 10:37
  time.
• 10:38
  This
• 10:38
  self-love
• 10:39
  two
• 10:39
  step
• 10:39
  is
• 10:40
  from
• 10:40
  negotiating.
• 10:41
  To
• 10:41
  devotion,
• 10:42
  and
• 10:43
  these
• 10:43
  steps
• 10:43
  matter
• 10:44
  because
• 10:44
  they
• 10:45
  turn
• 10:45
  intention
• 10:46
  into
• 10:47
  action.
• 10:48
  Step
• 10:48
  one,
• 10:49
  radical
• 10:50
  self-honesty.
• 10:52
  Name
• 10:52
  it
• 10:53
  without
• 10:53
  shaming
• 10:54
  it
• 10:54
  heavy
• 10:55
  on
• 10:55
  the
• 10:55
  without
• 10:57
  shaming
• 10:57
  it.
• 10:57
  Friend.
• 10:58
  Okay.
• 11:00
  Ask,
• 11:00
  where
• 11:01
  am
• 11:01
  I
• 11:01
  saying
• 11:02
  I
• 11:02
  want
• 11:02
  more,
• 11:03
  but
• 11:04
  choosing
• 11:04
  comfort,
• 11:05
  chaos,
• 11:07
  or
• 11:07
  complacency.
• 11:09
  Where
• 11:09
  do
• 11:09
  my
• 11:09
  actions
• 11:10
  not
• 11:11
  match
• 11:11
  my
• 11:11
  words?
• 11:12
  Clarity
• 11:13
  is
• 11:13
  an
• 11:14
  act
• 11:14
  of
• 11:14
  self-love.
• 11:15
  Remember,
• 11:16
  no
• 11:16
  shade,
• 11:17
  no
• 11:17
  judgment,
• 11:18
  just
• 11:19
  kind
• 11:20
  awareness.
• 11:21
  Step
• 11:21
  two,
• 11:22
  devotional.
• 11:23
  Action.
• 11:24
  One.
• 11:25
  Aligned
• 11:25
  action.
• 11:26
  No
• 11:27
  drama,
• 11:27
  no
• 11:28
  delay.
• 11:28
  You
• 11:28
  don't
• 11:29
  need
• 11:29
  a
• 11:29
  full
• 11:30
  plan,
• 11:30
  okay?
• 11:31
  You
• 11:31
  need
• 11:31
  movement.
• 11:33
  Self-love
• 11:34
  isn't
• 11:34
  just
• 11:35
  how
• 11:35
  you
• 11:35
  talk
• 11:35
  to
• 11:35
  yourself,
• 11:36
  it's
• 11:36
  how
• 11:37
  you
• 11:37
  show
• 11:38
  up.
• 11:38
  For
• 11:39
  yourself
• 11:40
  because
• 11:40
  without
• 11:41
  action
• 11:42
  awareness
• 11:42
  stays
• 11:43
  a
• 11:43
  thought
• 11:44
  instead
• 11:44
  of
• 11:44
  a
• 11:44
  transformation,
• 11:46
  these
• 11:46
  steps
• 11:46
  matter
• 11:47
  because
• 11:47
  they
• 11:47
  help
• 11:48
  you
• 11:48
  build
• 11:48
  self-trust
• 11:49
  in
• 11:49
  real
• 11:50
  time,
• 11:50
  not
• 11:51
  someday
• 11:51
  they're
• 11:52
  how
• 11:52
  you
• 11:52
  stop
• 11:53
  simply
• 11:54
  inspiring
• 11:54
  yourself
• 11:55
  and
• 11:55
  start
• 11:56
  becoming
• 11:57
  her.
• 11:57
  Now
• 11:58
  lemme
• 11:58
  pour
• 11:59
  into
• 11:59
  you
• 11:59
  real
• 11:59
  quick
• 12:00
  because
• 12:01
  I
• 12:01
  know
• 12:01
  your
• 12:02
  heart
• 12:02
  needs
• 12:02
  to
• 12:02
  hear
• 12:02
  this.
• 12:03
  You
• 12:05
  are
• 12:05
  closer
• 12:05
  than
• 12:05
  you
• 12:05
  think.
• 12:06
  Not
• 12:06
  one
• 12:07
  day
• 12:07
  close.
• 12:08
  Not
• 12:08
  after
• 12:09
  I
• 12:09
  fix
• 12:09
  everything
• 12:10
  close.
• 12:11
  You
• 12:11
  are
• 12:12
  one
• 12:12
  decision
• 12:14
  away
• 12:14
  from
• 12:15
  a
• 12:15
  different
• 12:15
  life,
• 12:16
  and
• 12:16
  I
• 12:17
  don't
• 12:17
  mean
• 12:17
  loud,
• 12:18
  dramatic
• 12:19
  decision
• 12:19
  you
• 12:19
  announced
• 12:20
  to
• 12:20
  everybody.
• 12:21
  I
• 12:22
  mean,
• 12:22
  the
• 12:22
  quiet
• 12:23
  kind,
• 12:24
  the
• 12:24
  kind
• 12:25
  you
• 12:25
  make
• 12:25
  when
• 12:26
  no
• 12:26
  one
• 12:26
  is
• 12:26
  clapping.
• 12:27
  The
• 12:27
  kind
• 12:28
  where
• 12:28
  you
• 12:29
  finally
• 12:29
  stop
• 12:30
  asking
• 12:30
  yourself
• 12:30
  for
• 12:31
  permission
• 12:32
  to
• 12:32
  be
• 12:33
  who
• 12:33
  you
• 12:33
  already
• 12:34
  are.
• 12:34
  You
• 12:34
  don't
• 12:35
  need
• 12:35
  more
• 12:36
  signs,
• 12:37
  you
• 12:37
  don't
• 12:37
  need
• 12:38
  more
• 12:38
  confirmation.
• 12:39
  You
• 12:39
  don't
• 12:40
  need
• 12:40
  to
• 12:40
  wait
• 12:41
  until
• 12:41
  you
• 12:41
  feel
• 12:42
  fearless.
• 12:43
  You
• 12:44
  already
• 12:44
  survived
• 12:46
  some
• 12:46
  of
• 12:46
  the
• 12:46
  hardest
• 12:47
  seasons
• 12:48
  of
• 12:49
  your
• 12:49
  life.
• 12:50
  This
• 12:50
  season
• 12:51
  is
• 12:51
  about
• 12:51
  showing
• 12:52
  up.
• 12:52
  Not
• 12:53
  surviving.
• 12:54
  And
• 12:54
  listen,
• 12:55
  your
• 12:55
  future
• 12:56
  self
• 12:56
  is
• 12:56
  not
• 12:57
  asking
• 12:57
  you
• 12:57
  to
• 12:58
  be
• 12:58
  perfect.
• 12:59
  She's
• 12:59
  asking
• 13:00
  you
• 13:00
  to
• 13:00
  be
• 13:01
  available,
• 13:02
  available
• 13:03
  to
• 13:03
  choose
• 13:03
  courage
• 13:04
  over
• 13:04
  comfort,
• 13:05
  available
• 13:06
  to
• 13:06
  move
• 13:07
  even
• 13:07
  when.
• 13:08
  You
• 13:08
  are
• 13:09
  scared
• 13:09
  outta
• 13:10
  your
• 13:10
  mind
• 13:12
  available
• 13:13
  to
• 13:13
  stop
• 13:13
  negotiating
• 13:14
  with
• 13:14
  the
• 13:15
  version
• 13:15
  of
• 13:15
  you
• 13:16
  that's
• 13:16
  already
• 13:17
  expired.
• 13:18
  So
• 13:18
  if
• 13:18
  today
• 13:19
  feels
• 13:19
  like
• 13:20
  a
• 13:20
  turning
• 13:20
  point,
• 13:21
  that's
• 13:21
  because
• 13:22
  it
• 13:22
  is.
• 13:23
  Take
• 13:23
  the
• 13:23
  step,
• 13:24
  make
• 13:24
  the
• 13:24
  call,
• 13:24
  post
• 13:25
  the
• 13:25
  thing.
• 13:26
  Apply,
• 13:26
  leave
• 13:27
  begin.
• 13:28
  Whatever
• 13:29
  that
• 13:29
  step
• 13:29
  is
• 13:29
  for
• 13:29
  you,
• 13:30
  friend,
• 13:30
  do
• 13:31
  it
• 13:31
  for
• 13:31
  you.
• 13:32
  This
• 13:32
  is
• 13:32
  the
• 13:33
  moment
• 13:33
  you
• 13:33
  stop
• 13:34
  talking
• 13:34
  about
• 13:35
  becoming
• 13:35
  her
• 13:36
  and
• 13:36
  start
• 13:36
  acting
• 13:37
  like
• 13:38
  her.
• 13:38
  I
• 13:38
  promise
• 13:39
  you,
• 13:40
  your
• 13:40
  life
• 13:40
  is
• 13:40
  waiting
• 13:41
  on
• 13:41
  your
• 13:42
  decision
• 13:43
  and
• 13:43
  she
• 13:43
  is
• 13:44
  ready
• 13:44
  when
• 13:44
  you
• 13:45
  are.
• 13:45
  So
• 13:46
  now
• 13:46
  when
• 13:46
  my
• 13:46
  best
• 13:47
  friend
• 13:47
  and
• 13:47
  I
• 13:47
  say,
• 13:48
  this
• 13:48
  is
• 13:48
  our
• 13:48
  year,
• 13:49
  we
• 13:50
  don't
• 13:50
  laugh
• 13:50
  anymore.
• 13:51
  This
• 13:51
  time
• 13:52
  when
• 13:52
  we
• 13:52
  said
• 13:53
  it,
• 13:53
  it
• 13:53
  felt
• 13:54
  different
• 13:54
  because
• 13:55
  we
• 13:56
  are
• 13:56
  different,
• 13:57
  different
• 13:58
  versions
• 13:58
  of
• 13:59
  ourselves
• 14:00
  because
• 14:01
  we
• 14:01
  are
• 14:01
  being.
• 14:02
  Different.
• 14:03
  We
• 14:03
  are
• 14:03
  making
• 14:04
  aligned
• 14:05
  decisions.
• 14:05
  We
• 14:06
  are
• 14:06
  taking
• 14:06
  action
• 14:07
  even
• 14:08
  when
• 14:08
  it's
• 14:08
  uncomfortable,
• 14:09
  and
• 14:09
  that
• 14:10
  is
• 14:10
  why
• 14:11
  it
• 14:11
  actually
• 14:12
  becomes
• 14:13
  true.
• 14:14
  Everything
• 14:14
  changed
• 14:15
  when
• 14:16
  I
• 14:16
  stopped
• 14:16
  trying
• 14:16
  to
• 14:16
  change
• 14:17
  my
• 14:17
  circumstances
• 14:18
  and
• 14:19
  decided
• 14:19
  to
• 14:20
  change
• 14:20
  the
• 14:21
  woman
• 14:21
  showing
• 14:22
  up
• 14:22
  inside
• 14:23
  them.
• 14:24
  So
• 14:24
  let
• 14:24
  me
• 14:25
  ask
• 14:25
  you
• 14:25
  gently
• 14:26
  and
• 14:27
  honestly,
• 14:28
  what
• 14:28
  would
• 14:28
  change
• 14:29
  if
• 14:29
  you
• 14:29
  stopped
• 14:30
  negotiating
• 14:30
  with
• 14:31
  yourself?
• 14:32
  And
• 14:32
  started
• 14:32
  deciding
• 14:34
  what
• 14:34
  would
• 14:34
  change
• 14:35
  if
• 14:35
  you
• 14:35
  actually
• 14:36
  took
• 14:36
  action
• 14:37
  towards
• 14:38
  what
• 14:38
  it
• 14:38
  is
• 14:39
  that
• 14:39
  you
• 14:39
  say
• 14:39
  that
• 14:39
  you
• 14:40
  want,
• 14:40
  because
• 14:41
  the
• 14:41
  life
• 14:41
  you're
• 14:41
  dreaming
• 14:42
  of,
• 14:43
  it
• 14:43
  doesn't
• 14:43
  come
• 14:44
  from
• 14:44
  saying
• 14:44
  it
• 14:45
  louder.
• 14:46
  It
• 14:46
  comes
• 14:46
  from
• 14:46
  choosing
• 14:47
  differently
• 14:48
  and
• 14:49
  acting
• 14:49
  as
• 14:49
  the
• 14:49
  woman
• 14:50
  who
• 14:50
  believes
• 14:51
  her
• 14:51
  dreams
• 14:52
  are
• 14:52
  possible.
• 14:53
  So
• 14:54
  here's
• 14:54
  your
• 14:54
  invitation
• 14:55
  today,
• 14:56
  not
• 14:56
  tomorrow.
• 14:57
  Pick
• 14:58
  one
• 14:58
  area
• 14:59
  where
• 14:59
  you've
• 15:00
  been
• 15:00
  negotiating
• 15:01
  with
• 15:01
  yourself
• 15:01
  and
• 15:02
  instead
• 15:02
  of
• 15:02
  saying,
• 15:03
  I'll
• 15:03
  try,
• 15:04
  say
• 15:05
  I've
• 15:05
  decided,
• 15:07
  then
• 15:07
  take
• 15:08
  one
• 15:08
  brave
• 15:09
  devotional
• 15:10
  action
• 15:11
  of
• 15:11
  any
• 15:11
  size,
• 15:12
  Baby
• 15:13
  step,
• 15:13
  bold
• 15:13
  move,
• 15:14
  or
• 15:14
  somewhere
• 15:15
  in
• 15:15
  between,
• 15:17
  but
• 15:17
  take
• 15:17
  the
• 15:18
  step
• 15:19
  as
• 15:19
  the
• 15:19
  confident
• 15:20
  and
• 15:20
  empowered
• 15:21
  woman
• 15:21
  you
• 15:22
  are.
• 15:23
  Mm.
• 15:25
  If
• 15:25
  this
• 15:26
  episode
• 15:27
  hit
• 15:27
  for
• 15:27
  you,
• 15:27
  I
• 15:28
  want
• 15:28
  you
• 15:28
  to
• 15:28
  do
• 15:29
  two
• 15:29
  things.
• 15:29
  One,
• 15:30
  save
• 15:31
  it.
• 15:31
  This
• 15:32
  is
• 15:32
  a
• 15:32
  repeat.
• 15:32
  Listen
• 15:33
  kind
• 15:33
  of
• 15:33
  truth.
• 15:34
  Two,
• 15:35
  share
• 15:35
  it
• 15:36
  with
• 15:36
  a
• 15:36
  friend.
• 15:37
  You
• 15:37
  always
• 15:37
  say,
• 15:38
  this
• 15:38
  is
• 15:38
  our
• 15:38
  year.
• 15:42
  Share
• 15:42
  it
• 15:42
  with
• 15:42
  that
• 15:42
  friend.
• 15:43
  Okay.
• 15:45
  Let
• 15:45
  this
• 15:46
  be
• 15:46
  the
• 15:46
  year
• 15:46
  you
• 15:47
  stop
• 15:47
  laughing
• 15:48
  at
• 15:48
  your
• 15:48
  own
• 15:49
  BS
• 15:49
  and
• 15:49
  start
• 15:50
  living
• 15:50
  intentionally
• 15:52
  because
• 15:52
  the
• 15:52
  main
• 15:53
  character
• 15:53
  version
• 15:54
  of
• 15:54
  you,
• 15:54
  she
• 15:55
  doesn't
• 15:55
  negotiate
• 15:56
  with
• 15:56
  her
• 15:56
  destiny.
• 15:57
  She
• 15:58
  drives
• 15:59
  to
• 15:59
  it.
• 15:59
  I
• 16:00
  am
• 16:00
  sending
• 16:00
  you
• 16:01
  big
• 16:01
  virtual
• 16:02
  hugs.
• 16:03
  I
• 16:03
  love
• 16:03
  you
• 16:03
  so
• 16:03
  much.
• 16:04
  And
• 16:04
  remember
• 16:05
  around
• 16:05
  here,
• 16:06
  we
• 16:06
  don't
• 16:07
  settle.
• 16:07
  We
• 16:08
  shine
• 16:09
  all
• 16:09
  because
• 16:10
  together
• 16:10
  we
• 16:10
  can
• 16:11
  Encourage
• 16:12
  Over
• 16:13
  Everything.