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- 0:00Speaker 1: She's on the Money.
- 0:02Speaker 2: She's on the Money.
- 0:20Speaker 1: Hello, and welcome to She's on the Money, the podcast
- 0:22Speaker 1: for millennials who want to financial freedom. I'm one of
- 0:25Speaker 1: your co hosts, Annabel Lee. As you know, I'm a
- 0:27Speaker 1: law student and a millennial and a bit of a rookie
- 0:30Speaker 1: when it comes to money. But to change that, every week,
- 0:33Speaker 1: I picked the brains of my friend and money expert
- 0:35Speaker 1: Victoria Devine. Hi, Victoria, Hi, friends, Now how She's on
- 0:39Speaker 1: the Money. Facebook group has been super active this week
- 0:41Speaker 1: as always, And you and I have seen so many
- 0:44Speaker 1: impressive money wins, haven't we We have so many, so
- 0:47Speaker 1: I think we should share our favorites from the week.
- 0:49Speaker 1: What have you got for me? Victoria?
- 0:50Speaker 3: All right, so this one I really like because it's
- 0:53Speaker 3: about a little bit of hustle. So we have one
- 0:56Speaker 3: from me again, And she posted that nine years ago,
- 1:00Speaker 3: I reported my then employer to the ATO for not
- 1:03Speaker 3: paying my super. At the time, my employer didn't understand
- 1:06Speaker 3: while I was making such a fuss, as I was
- 1:08Speaker 3: eighteen and wouldn't be able to access the funds until
- 1:10Speaker 3: I was.
- 1:10Speaker 4: Over the age of sixty five.
- 1:12Speaker 3: Today, I received a message from the ATO letting me
- 1:15Speaker 3: know that I had won my case and the money
- 1:16Speaker 3: should arrive soon into my super account. I'd totally forgotten
- 1:19Speaker 3: about the case as it had taken so long.
- 1:21Speaker 4: How good is that?
- 1:22Speaker 1: That also is very dodgy on the employee's behalf.
- 1:24Speaker 3: Right, But it's so common. It is so common, especially
- 1:28Speaker 3: for people who are working in part time slash casual
- 1:30Speaker 3: roles companies who maybe don't pay their super or don't
- 1:34Speaker 3: keep up with what they're meant to be paying. So
- 1:37Speaker 3: it really pays to check your pay slips.
- 1:39Speaker 5: Yeah.
- 1:39Speaker 1: Actually, I'm pretty sure that might have happened to me
- 1:40Speaker 1: in the past.
- 1:41Speaker 4: Double chick, My.
- 1:42Speaker 1: Super is looking really grim right now.
- 1:43Speaker 4: Double check.
- 1:45Speaker 1: I've got one from Maddie. She said, money Win. Got
- 1:47Speaker 1: my hair done at my local tape yesterday for a
- 1:49Speaker 1: sweet forty dollars. She's looking fresh for her holiday next
- 1:52Speaker 1: week at less than a quarter of the price she
- 1:54Speaker 1: would have paid at most salons in her area.
- 1:56Speaker 4: How good is that?
- 1:57Speaker 1: But it finds me a lot of group on. Yeah,
- 2:00Speaker 1: not sponsor BA group On by the way, I mentioned
- 2:01Speaker 1: them way too much.
- 2:02Speaker 3: Yeah, I feel like they should like backtrack our sponsorship.
- 2:05Speaker 3: But I think that was really impressive, because she said
- 2:07Speaker 3: she got a half head of foils and from my experience,
- 2:10Speaker 3: not personal experience, but talking to friends, blonde is really expensive.
- 2:14Speaker 1: Yes, a lot of upkeep.
- 2:16Speaker 3: So forty dollars is impressive, very very nice money go
- 2:18Speaker 3: you now, Victoria.
- 2:20Speaker 1: Today on the show, we're talking about hidden money. Why
- 2:22Speaker 1: does it feel like our friends and the people we
- 2:24Speaker 1: follow on Instagram have more money than we do and
- 2:27Speaker 1: in the chance we inherit some money in our teens
- 2:29Speaker 1: or twenties, how should we approach that? But before we
- 2:32Speaker 1: get there, as always, it's time to share a money
- 2:34Speaker 1: win or a money confession from the week. How did
- 2:36Speaker 1: you go this week? Victoria?
- 2:37Speaker 3: I went really well. Actually I had a pretty quiet week.
- 2:41Speaker 3: I spent the week last week at a conference, which
- 2:43Speaker 3: was fun, but that means not much spending from my
- 2:46Speaker 3: end because everything's so internal. But my money win this
- 2:50Speaker 3: week is actually that I went out for dinner with
- 2:52Speaker 3: a girlfriend and she paid Yay winnings friend, Definitely a win.
- 2:58Speaker 1: I think I've got one confession.
- 3:00Speaker 4: Oh no, come on, Annabelle.
- 3:02Speaker 1: So I went shopping and I always gravitate towards like
- 3:05Speaker 1: the discount racks, so I went to like the below
- 3:07Speaker 1: twenty dollars rack. And I picked up this shirt that
- 3:09Speaker 1: I really liked. I went and tried it on, loved it.
- 3:11Speaker 1: I'm very picky, like when I try a shirt on,
- 3:13Speaker 1: it needs to look like I need to be really
- 3:15Speaker 1: really confident in it. Otherwise I'm like no, and I
- 3:17Speaker 1: weigh like the price, and if it's a good price
- 3:19Speaker 1: and I look, I think I look good, I'm like, Okay,
- 3:21Speaker 1: I'll get it. So I felt all of those things.
- 3:23Speaker 1: I went to the cash register and it was actually
- 3:26Speaker 1: a full price.
- 3:27Speaker 4: At me, it was like, no, I hate when that happened,
- 3:30Speaker 4: and I didn't.
- 3:30Speaker 1: Want to seem like a stinge. So I was just
- 3:31Speaker 1: like yep, okay, and I bought it, and now.
- 3:34Speaker 4: Did you return it?
- 3:35Speaker 1: No? I was because I was like, I like the top,
- 3:38Speaker 1: and I need to treat myself sometimes.
- 3:41Speaker 4: Yeah, I think that that's a good treat. But also
- 3:44Speaker 4: if it's.
- 3:44Speaker 3: Not in line with what you wanted to buy, perhaps
- 3:47Speaker 3: it's worth a reconsider.
- 3:48Speaker 1: I know, and I totally should have been like why
- 3:50Speaker 1: was this in the discount rack? But I just bought
- 3:51Speaker 1: it anyway because I didn't want to seem like cheapskate.
- 3:54Speaker 4: I think we've all been there, Yeah, totally.
- 3:56Speaker 1: Now, no matter what your bank account looks like. We
- 3:58Speaker 1: bet you've had a relationship with money before. How do
- 4:01Speaker 1: all your friends afford their luxurious lifestyles, and how on
- 4:04Speaker 1: earth are they affording to buy houses so young? Today?
- 4:07Speaker 1: We're covering it all, Victoria. The first place I want
- 4:10Speaker 1: to start is here. Do you think there's an inverse
- 4:13Speaker 1: correlation between looking like you have money on Instagram and
- 4:15Speaker 1: actually having money?
- 4:16Speaker 4: Absolutely?
- 4:17Speaker 3: I think it's a really interesting concept actually, because there's
- 4:20Speaker 3: a number of articles flying around the Internet at the
- 4:22Speaker 3: moment about Instagram influencers going into debt to keep up
- 4:26Speaker 3: with the lifestyle they think their followers expect of them.
- 4:30Speaker 1: And it's actually more popular these days to be more
- 4:31Speaker 1: transparent on Instagram, like you were saying last week with
- 4:35Speaker 1: travel how Olivi Molly Rodgers was talking about, like how
- 4:37Speaker 1: much work it took for her to save for that
- 4:39Speaker 1: trip she went on.
- 4:41Speaker 3: I would agree, but also disagree with that because they
- 4:43Speaker 3: think while some influences and some people in that sphere
- 4:46Speaker 3: are being transparent and we're really celebrating that, I think
- 4:50Speaker 3: there is a massive lack of transparency in that area
- 4:53Speaker 3: as well, and I can see it from the way
- 4:55Speaker 3: that people are just presenting themselves. Instagram is such a
- 4:59Speaker 3: platform where it's about putting your best life forward. You're
- 5:01Speaker 3: not going to post the bad times, and that's actually
- 5:04Speaker 3: not what the platform is for. But it means that
- 5:06Speaker 3: we only ever see the best part of other people's lives.
- 5:09Speaker 3: And I don't think everybody has caught up to being
- 5:12Speaker 3: transparent about their financial situations.
- 5:14Speaker 1: Yeah, definitely. Do you think we confuse money with materialism then,
- 5:17Speaker 1: because in most cases, the people who are financially secure
- 5:20Speaker 1: are probably not spending all their money on fancy bags
- 5:23Speaker 1: and shoes, right.
- 5:24Speaker 4: I think we do.
- 5:25Speaker 3: I think it goes back to that quote I said
- 5:27Speaker 3: a couple of podcasts ago.
- 5:28Speaker 4: If you live fake rich now, you'll live real poor later.
- 5:33Speaker 3: Now, I know, And I've seen it pop up aheave
- 5:35Speaker 3: of times on Instagram.
- 5:36Speaker 4: We keep getting tagged in it. I love it.
- 5:38Speaker 3: But I think that we keep seeing people purchase things
- 5:42Speaker 3: so that they look wealthy, and real wealth doesn't actually
- 5:45Speaker 3: look like that.
- 5:46Speaker 1: Yeah.
- 5:46Speaker 3: So I think, you know, even if you have designer bags,
- 5:49Speaker 3: designer shoes, and you look all decked out in the
- 5:51Speaker 3: latest gear, that actually could mean that you are in
- 5:54Speaker 3: a massive amount of debt and not potentially actually investing
- 5:59Speaker 3: and saving. Like you and I are both in a
- 6:01Speaker 3: situation where you know, we go into a shop and
- 6:03Speaker 3: we gravitate towards the discount rack because we know that
- 6:06Speaker 3: we'd prefer our money sitting in a bank account, whereas
- 6:08Speaker 3: not everybody is like that. I have friends and I
- 6:11Speaker 3: have people that I know that will save up incredibly
- 6:14Speaker 3: aggressively to afford a designer item that is actually outside
- 6:18Speaker 3: their salary bracket.
- 6:19Speaker 4: But that comes back to their values.
- 6:21Speaker 1: Okay, So what does real wealth look like to you? Then?
- 6:24Speaker 1: If you had to paint a picture.
- 6:25Speaker 3: For us, So, real wealth is actually hidden. So you know,
- 6:28Speaker 3: this episode is on hidden money, but real wealth is hidden.
- 6:31Speaker 4: You don't see it.
- 6:32Speaker 3: You don't buy glittery things. You don't buy things that
- 6:34Speaker 3: all show Offye you could be still driving a camera
- 6:37Speaker 3: that you bought as your first car when you turn seventeen.
- 6:40Speaker 3: I think that real wealth is something that people don't flaunt.
- 6:44Speaker 3: And I think that's the difference to me between being
- 6:47Speaker 3: rich and being wealthy. She's on the money sets out
- 6:50Speaker 3: to hopefully help people create wealth, and that wealth is
- 6:53Speaker 3: actually financial stability. Rich is something different. Rich is being
- 6:58Speaker 3: really obvious about your wealth. Rich is putting it out
- 7:01Speaker 3: there that you have a whole heap of materialistic items
- 7:04Speaker 3: that reflect your financial income or the way that you
- 7:07Speaker 3: spend money. So I think that it's really important to
- 7:10Speaker 3: realize that there's a massive difference and these things aren't
- 7:12Speaker 3: as transparent as we would like them to be.
- 7:15Speaker 1: So rich is kind of like not long term, it's
- 7:17Speaker 1: in the now. It's a bit frivolous.
- 7:19Speaker 3: Yeah, it's that friend who's always spending heaps of money
- 7:22Speaker 3: on espresso martinis and always has a new dress every
- 7:24Speaker 3: single weekend, whereas wealthy and creating wealth is a friend
- 7:28Speaker 3: who is going out budgeting their money and wearing the
- 7:30Speaker 3: same dress often because one they love that dress, but
- 7:33Speaker 3: two they know that their money is better spent or
- 7:36Speaker 3: saved in a different place.
- 7:38Speaker 1: Money company Credit Karma has found nearly forty percent of
- 7:41Speaker 1: young adults said they've spent money they didn't have to
- 7:43Speaker 1: keep up with their friends' lifestyles. Are you surprised by that?
- 7:46Speaker 3: I wish I was surprised by that. Unfortunately I'm not.
- 7:49Speaker 3: I see it all the time. I see it in
- 7:51Speaker 3: our Facebook group, people saying that they've gotten into debt
- 7:54Speaker 3: buying materialistic things. You see it in the reflection of
- 7:57Speaker 3: how much Australians spend on credit it. Having a credit
- 8:01Speaker 3: card is spending money that you do not have, and
- 8:04Speaker 3: most people can't turn around and say, hey, Vic Terrrea
- 8:06Speaker 3: got a credit card and I bought things that were
- 8:09Speaker 3: really good for creating wealth.
- 8:10Speaker 4: I've never heard that.
- 8:11Speaker 3: I've also never heard someone tell me that they've gotten
- 8:13Speaker 3: rich of credit card points, so interesting.
- 8:16Speaker 1: Yeah, no, but I definitely think I experienced that a
- 8:19Speaker 1: bit in high school, going to a private school when
- 8:21Speaker 1: everyone else I think their parents were a bit wealthy
- 8:23Speaker 1: than mine, feeling like I needed to keep up with
- 8:25Speaker 1: the things that my friends were doing. It's really common
- 8:28Speaker 1: with kids especially.
- 8:29Speaker 3: Yeah, I felt exactly the same thing. So I went
- 8:31Speaker 3: to a school that had a number of people who
- 8:33Speaker 3: were far more affluent than the family I grew up in.
- 8:36Speaker 4: Whilst that's not a negative thing.
- 8:37Speaker 3: It does taint the way you view the world when
- 8:40Speaker 3: for your seventeenth birthday you're asking for something that's relatively
- 8:43Speaker 3: small and then you see your friends getting beam double
- 8:46Speaker 3: users gifts. Yeah, I think that paints the world in
- 8:48Speaker 3: a little bit of a different light, or it definitely
- 8:51Speaker 3: did for me.
- 8:52Speaker 1: It's tricky because maybe your friends really are just more
- 8:54Speaker 1: wealthy than you. Maybe they can afford experiences in a
- 8:56Speaker 1: lifestyle beyond your own. Have you ever felt a sense
- 8:59Speaker 1: of money tension in your own life and relationship? Well,
- 9:02Speaker 1: have you seen it with your clients? Maybe?
- 9:03Speaker 3: I think this is a really interesting question, and money
- 9:06Speaker 3: tension is something that I have not struggled with. But
- 9:09Speaker 3: I've been in a situation where I've had a personal
- 9:11Speaker 3: loan before. I wouldn't say that I was silly or
- 9:14Speaker 3: frivolous by getting it. The personal loan that I took
- 9:16Speaker 3: out was so I could study overseas at a point
- 9:19Speaker 3: in time where I definitely couldn't have afforded that option.
- 9:22Speaker 3: So as much as I don't agree with personal debt,
- 9:25Speaker 3: I have been in that situation. And that's why I'm
- 9:27Speaker 3: so passionate about advocating to not be in that personal debt,
- 9:31Speaker 3: because I know how long it took me to get
- 9:33Speaker 3: out of that position. But it was also a little
- 9:36Speaker 3: bit about trying to keep up with a lifestyle, Like
- 9:38Speaker 3: I had my friends going on that trip and I
- 9:40Speaker 3: didn't want to miss out, and it felt like something
- 9:42Speaker 3: that could potentially, you know, be a life changing event.
- 9:45Speaker 3: And whilst it was a really great experience. It was
- 9:49Speaker 3: something that I didn't regret when I came home, but
- 9:52Speaker 3: the debt set me back into a place where I
- 9:54Speaker 3: wasn't able to achieve the goals that I wanted to
- 9:56Speaker 3: achieve once I got back because my priority was paying
- 9:59Speaker 3: off that debt.
- 10:00Speaker 1: So you would have done it a little bit differently
- 10:02Speaker 1: now in hindsight.
- 10:03Speaker 3: Oh absolutely, If I had the financial education and literacy
- 10:06Speaker 3: that I had now, I would have been in such
- 10:08Speaker 3: a better position now.
- 10:09Speaker 4: Whilst I'm not saying I'm in a negative.
- 10:11Speaker 3: One at all, I just now look back on things,
- 10:14Speaker 3: probably with a different view, purely because I know I
- 10:17Speaker 3: should never have been in that position, and I wish
- 10:19Speaker 3: that someone had told me, Victoria, don't do that, Just
- 10:21Speaker 3: wait a year.
- 10:22Speaker 4: You can do it later, just save for it.
- 10:24Speaker 1: We also had in our Facebook group someone with a
- 10:26Speaker 1: similar situation. Listener Michelle wrote, I don't want to come
- 10:29Speaker 1: across as though I'm not happy with other people's money wins. However,
- 10:32Speaker 1: due to my current circumstances, I have no income. I
- 10:35Speaker 1: just feel really down reading about how great other people
- 10:37Speaker 1: are doing because I feel so far behind and so stuck.
- 10:40Speaker 1: I'm thinking of temporarily leaving the group. Oh no, hope,
- 10:42Speaker 1: she's still here. She is still here for the record,
- 10:46Speaker 1: But I love the supportive atmosphere, and it's inspiring to
- 10:48Speaker 1: read people's money stories of how they pull themselves or
- 10:51Speaker 1: are pulling themselves out of debt and financial difficulty. I
- 10:54Speaker 1: just don't really know a way forward, Victoria. Do you
- 10:57Speaker 1: think that's a common feeling? How can people move passed
- 11:00Speaker 1: that aspect of competitiveness that comes with money.
- 11:03Speaker 3: When I saw that pop up, it actually really upset me.
- 11:05Speaker 3: It was something that I pondered on before letting it
- 11:07Speaker 3: go through to the group because I felt like I'd
- 11:10Speaker 3: potentially let some people down by having people in the
- 11:13Speaker 3: group that felt like that. And then on further reflection,
- 11:16Speaker 3: I realized it was probably a really common feeling. Comparison
- 11:19Speaker 3: is the worst thing we can do to each other
- 11:21Speaker 3: and do to ourselves, and I think that to have
- 11:24Speaker 3: a group where Michelle has felt comfortable enough to post
- 11:28Speaker 3: and share that with us is such a powerful thing.
- 11:31Speaker 3: So one, I'm super proud of our community, super proud
- 11:34Speaker 3: of all of the comments that were on that. They
- 11:36Speaker 3: were so supportive and everyone was so welcoming. But our
- 11:39Speaker 3: brains are programmed in a pattern that actually compares us
- 11:43Speaker 3: all the time, and it's a super hard cycle to break,
- 11:46Speaker 3: especially if you're constantly feeling like the people that are
- 11:48Speaker 3: surrounding you are always better off, It often can feel
- 11:52Speaker 3: like it's a little bit unfair. So I think it's
- 11:55Speaker 3: really important to go back to maybe our first episode
- 11:57Speaker 3: of the podcast and talk about our money stories and
- 12:00Speaker 3: realize we are all on different journeys. There is actually
- 12:03Speaker 3: no right and no wrong way to go through these things.
- 12:06Speaker 3: It's something that is incredibly unconstructive. So if we are
- 12:09Speaker 3: holding ourselves back by comparing our journey to the journey
- 12:12Speaker 3: of others, we aren't able to move forward on our own.
- 12:15Speaker 3: So I think it's something that we actually need to acknowledge,
- 12:18Speaker 3: pick up, and put to the side so that we
- 12:20Speaker 3: can move forward positively and actually create progress in our
- 12:23Speaker 3: own situation, whatever that looks like.
- 12:25Speaker 1: And I think having conversations like this and by Michelle
- 12:28Speaker 1: posting in the Facebook group is super productive. If we
- 12:31Speaker 1: talk about it, people will feel less competitive and will
- 12:33Speaker 1: feel more like we can share our own money stories.
- 12:36Speaker 3: Absolutely, and the journey of someone else's shouldn't impact your
- 12:39Speaker 3: journey at all. As much as we like to look
- 12:41Speaker 3: at other people's journeys. I think it's really important to
- 12:44Speaker 3: also look at it and go, all right, that's their journey.
- 12:46Speaker 4: I don't actually see all the negatives in their lives.
- 12:49Speaker 4: Like I know that that happens in.
- 12:51Speaker 3: The Facebook group a lot where people are posting their
- 12:53Speaker 3: money wins. People aren't posting their money wins and their
- 12:56Speaker 3: money confessions or the journey that they've been on. We
- 12:59Speaker 3: get to see such a small window of their experience,
- 13:02Speaker 3: and for that I'm incredibly grateful. But I also think
- 13:05Speaker 3: we need to reflect on that and remember that everybody
- 13:08Speaker 3: has been through so much that we are unaware of,
- 13:11Speaker 3: and it's not our place to judge them based on
- 13:14Speaker 3: one comment or one post.
- 13:16Speaker 1: Definitely, so do you think we could all be a
- 13:18Speaker 1: little more transparent with each other about our privilege? For example,
- 13:21Speaker 1: if your rent of a really nice apartment is being
- 13:23Speaker 1: paid for you by your parents, do you owe your
- 13:26Speaker 1: friends to tell them.
- 13:26Speaker 3: That you don't owe anybody anything? And I believe that
- 13:30Speaker 3: quite passionately. If that is something you're uncomfortable sharing, I
- 13:34Speaker 3: don't think you should have to. I think we actually
- 13:36Speaker 3: need to be a little bit kinder on ourselves and
- 13:38Speaker 3: realize that sometimes we don't know every part of someone
- 13:41Speaker 3: else's story. But if you're in a situation where sharing
- 13:44Speaker 3: that is going to be productive for the community around you,
- 13:47Speaker 3: or your friends or your family, and you're comfortable enough
- 13:50Speaker 3: sharing that, why not.
- 13:52Speaker 1: So while I totally think you're right, there's a part
- 13:55Speaker 1: of me that kind of still wants to know, as
- 13:58Speaker 1: like a self awareness thing. I want to know where
- 14:00Speaker 1: everyone started and how everyone's traveling, how they're getting there.
- 14:03Speaker 1: Even though I know I'm doing fun and I'm paying
- 14:05Speaker 1: my rent and paying my bills and whatever, it would
- 14:07Speaker 1: be nice to know.
- 14:09Speaker 3: I agree, and I think it's something that we all
- 14:11Speaker 3: go through right, Like Yeah, even as a financial advisor,
- 14:14Speaker 3: sometimes I see women posting in the group and I go, oh,
- 14:17Speaker 3: I wonder how they did that, Especially when people are
- 14:20Speaker 3: saying they saved really large lumps of money in short
- 14:23Speaker 3: periods of time.
- 14:24Speaker 4: I go, I couldn't do that.
- 14:25Speaker 1: How have you done that?
- 14:26Speaker 6: Like?
- 14:26Speaker 4: What have you compromised? What have you sacrificed?
- 14:29Speaker 3: So I get that nobody owes us anything, But at
- 14:32Speaker 3: the same time, I think the conversation around money should
- 14:35Speaker 3: open up and we should feel comfortable. But I think
- 14:38Speaker 3: there's a barrier currently because if people admit that they've
- 14:42Speaker 3: had help, they might feel judged, and I think that
- 14:45Speaker 3: that's then on us, and that's then on the people
- 14:47Speaker 3: who are asking those questions, Like if we knew that
- 14:50Speaker 3: someone had got a home deposit from their family, or
- 14:54Speaker 3: their mom pays their rent, or you know, they're getting
- 14:56Speaker 3: financial help in somewhere else, what's our answer to that
- 15:00Speaker 3: responding with or we responding with, oh, that's great, I'm
- 15:03Speaker 3: on my own journey, or are you responding with a
- 15:05Speaker 3: little bit more envy.
- 15:06Speaker 4: Than you had before?
- 15:07Speaker 3: So I think it's about checking ourselves as well and
- 15:10Speaker 3: realizing that, yes, people have privilege, but how do we
- 15:14Speaker 3: get through that.
- 15:15Speaker 4: On our own and how do we constructively.
- 15:17Speaker 3: Take that on board while not impacting our own journey
- 15:20Speaker 3: or our own egos.
- 15:21Speaker 1: Yeah, you're definitely right now. According to The Guardian, if
- 15:24Speaker 1: Australian parents were a bank, they would be the ninth
- 15:27Speaker 1: largest home loan lender in the country, bigger than the
- 15:30Speaker 1: Bank of Queensland and knocking on the door of Macquarie.
- 15:32Speaker 1: The truth is, the bank of Mom and Dad are
- 15:34Speaker 1: funding lots of our lifestyles. Do you think enough people
- 15:37Speaker 1: are talking about that? No, they are not the bank
- 15:40Speaker 1: of mom and dad. The bank of mom and dad
- 15:42Speaker 1: is something I talk about all the time.
- 15:45Speaker 3: As you guys know, I also have as a part
- 15:47Speaker 3: of my business and mortgage broking sector, so we talk
- 15:51Speaker 3: about home loans all the time, how to get them,
- 15:53Speaker 3: where to go, how to get them, and what your
- 15:56Speaker 3: journey looks like in that space. So I often see
- 15:59Speaker 3: people coming along with parents who are saying, yeah, we'll
- 16:01Speaker 3: guarantee your loan, or here we're going to give you
- 16:04Speaker 3: a lump sum so that you can use that as
- 16:06Speaker 3: your deposit, and a lot of these people don't actually
- 16:09Speaker 3: want to share that journey with their friends. I think
- 16:11Speaker 3: the same is for weddings, for lifestyle, for things that
- 16:15Speaker 3: are really big financial expenses in life. I think often
- 16:19Speaker 3: parents are chipping in. It does not mean in any way,
- 16:22Speaker 3: shape or form that parents should be chipping in. I
- 16:25Speaker 3: think it's incredibly lucky if you're in a position where
- 16:28Speaker 3: that's true for you. But I think that we should
- 16:30Speaker 3: be also acknowledging, Yeah, it's happening, but what does that
- 16:34Speaker 3: mean for me?
- 16:35Speaker 1: And you don't have to feel ashamed about it. If
- 16:36Speaker 1: you're given the opportunity to have help from your parents,
- 16:39Speaker 1: why not take it?
- 16:41Speaker 3: Absolutely and I'm incredibly lucky that my parents helped me
- 16:44Speaker 3: while I was going through university. There's absolutely no way
- 16:48Speaker 3: that I could have afforded the start of my journey
- 16:51Speaker 3: had they not, you know, helped me organize an apartment
- 16:54Speaker 3: in the city and set me up with some basics.
- 16:57Speaker 3: As much as I then went on to have three
- 16:59Speaker 3: jobs and work for time hour as well at Uni,
- 17:01Speaker 3: I also did have that kick start, and I would
- 17:04Speaker 3: not be where I was had they.
- 17:06Speaker 4: Not helped me.
- 17:07Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm just a part of your journey.
- 17:08Speaker 3: Exactly, and I'm quite transparent and thankful for that. But
- 17:12Speaker 3: I also think not a lot of people talk about that,
- 17:14Speaker 3: because I remember being quite open about that at university, like, oh,
- 17:18Speaker 3: mom and dad helped me do XYZ and I had
- 17:21Speaker 3: a couple of friends that I knew their parents were
- 17:23Speaker 3: paying their rent while they were it's your term, Yeah,
- 17:26Speaker 3: but they were. They were low key not joining in
- 17:28Speaker 3: on the conversation.
- 17:30Speaker 1: Let's talk about inheritance for a second. Do you think
- 17:32Speaker 1: we feel as a generation entitled to an inheritance. Do
- 17:35Speaker 1: you think we expect to fall into money that isn't
- 17:37Speaker 1: ours as we get older or is that an unfair assessment?
- 17:40Speaker 3: I think that's a pretty unfair statement on millennials because
- 17:43Speaker 3: I don't actually know anyone and haven't had any experience
- 17:47Speaker 3: where people are relying on an inheritance. But we also
- 17:51Speaker 3: need to be aware that millennials are actually going to
- 17:55Speaker 3: be inheriting thirty trillion dollars from.
- 17:59Speaker 4: Our previous ar generations.
- 18:01Speaker 3: That's that's massive, right, So thirty trillion dollars is going
- 18:05Speaker 3: to be inherited from the baby boomer generation into millennial
- 18:09Speaker 3: and Gen Z.
- 18:10Speaker 4: So it's not as though it's not there.
- 18:13Speaker 3: But I'm not sure if the statement that we are
- 18:15Speaker 3: entitled about it is true.
- 18:22Speaker 1: Hi, there, you've called the shoes on the Money Hotline.
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- 18:51Speaker 5: So I'm sitting on some inheritance in the form of
- 18:54Speaker 5: mainly property and some other things, and I know that
- 18:57Speaker 5: the privilege of Inheriting property can provide a lot of
- 19:00Speaker 5: financial freedom is responsibly dealt with. However, I've taging with
- 19:04Speaker 5: some advice on how best to handle it, as well
- 19:06Speaker 5: as a little information on what inheriting property can actually
- 19:10Speaker 5: help with financially.
- 19:12Speaker 1: Thanks interesting, Victoriously, what do you think she should do?
- 19:15Speaker 1: Should she do something with it right away?
- 19:17Speaker 3: I think it's a really interesting concept because when people
- 19:20Speaker 3: inherit money, it's often the largest asset they'll ever have
- 19:23Speaker 3: in their lives. So I think it's really important to
- 19:25Speaker 3: actually take your time and have a think about something
- 19:28Speaker 3: like this. If you've inherited property, fantastic property is an
- 19:31Speaker 3: asset that is going to hopefully help you create wealth
- 19:34Speaker 3: and generate an income.
- 19:35Speaker 4: But what you need to do right now is nothing
- 19:37Speaker 4: at all.
- 19:38Speaker 3: I think it's sit back, work out what you really want,
- 19:41Speaker 3: have a think about your goals for your life, put
- 19:43Speaker 3: the property to the side, and have a think about,
- 19:45Speaker 3: you know, what do you actually want out of life,
- 19:47Speaker 3: what do you want out.
- 19:48Speaker 4: Of your career, where are you going? How are you going?
- 19:50Speaker 3: And then have a think about how that property or
- 19:52Speaker 3: how that asset that you've inherited potentially plays into that.
- 19:56Speaker 3: I think one of the best things you can do
- 19:57Speaker 3: is have a chat to a financial advisor and see,
- 20:01Speaker 3: you know what you should be doing in that situation.
- 20:03Speaker 3: Maybe you want to keep owning that property and you
- 20:06Speaker 3: just want to rent it out and take the rental
- 20:07Speaker 3: income and invest that or spend that or do whatever
- 20:10Speaker 3: you would like. Or potentially you don't want to own
- 20:13Speaker 3: a property and that might be a responsibility that you
- 20:16Speaker 3: don't want right now or that you don't want on
- 20:18Speaker 3: your plate, so selling it could be on the cards
- 20:21Speaker 3: for you. I think the most important thing about getting
- 20:24Speaker 3: an inheritance or coming into any large sum of money
- 20:27Speaker 3: is not making a decision in the moment. I think
- 20:29Speaker 3: it's sitting back, having a think about how that impacts
- 20:32Speaker 3: you and getting some advice, but making sure that you're
- 20:34Speaker 3: getting advice from someone who cares about you and cares
- 20:38Speaker 3: about your situation. Because I know that there are a
- 20:41Speaker 3: lot of financial advisors that if you say, hey, I've
- 20:43Speaker 3: come into a house not sure if I really want
- 20:45Speaker 3: to sell it, that financial advisor might jump on the
- 20:47Speaker 3: idea that you want to sell it so that you
- 20:49Speaker 3: can invest with them and hurry you up through the process.
- 20:52Speaker 3: So I think if anyone at any point during this
- 20:55Speaker 3: journey of yours is speeding you up. Let them notice
- 20:58Speaker 3: low down, because there will always be another opportunity where
- 21:02Speaker 3: the one's being put on your plate today that you
- 21:05Speaker 3: know you can't miss. That's not actually the case. There
- 21:08Speaker 3: will always be another opportunity for you to invest in,
- 21:11Speaker 3: or save in, or you know, share in in the future.
- 21:14Speaker 3: We just need to make sure that that's the right
- 21:16Speaker 3: one for you.
- 21:17Speaker 1: So do you think when people inherit things then they
- 21:19Speaker 1: feel like a rush to do something with it right away?
- 21:22Speaker 3: Yes, I think that that's the case. There are a
- 21:24Speaker 3: heap of articles you guys can look up on what
- 21:26Speaker 3: people do with money when they inherit it and when
- 21:29Speaker 3: they win it. So there are whole heap of stats
- 21:32Speaker 3: that say people who win money are usually broke or
- 21:36Speaker 3: bankrupt five years into their journey because they haven't managed
- 21:40Speaker 3: it effectively. And the same thing often happens with inheritance.
- 21:45Speaker 3: People are very likely to go and blow it on
- 21:48Speaker 3: things that they think that they deserve. So if you
- 21:51Speaker 3: inherit a large sum of money, and I know we're
- 21:53Speaker 3: talking about property here, but it's often easier to talk
- 21:55Speaker 3: about cash because it's easier to blow people will inherit
- 21:58Speaker 3: the money and go all right, well, that's awesome. I
- 22:00Speaker 3: need a new car, my daughter needs a new car.
- 22:03Speaker 3: Or I want to buy a house.
- 22:05Speaker 4: And I'm going to use that for a deposit.
- 22:07Speaker 3: What people don't think is how much debt am I
- 22:10Speaker 3: taking on when I am getting this house.
- 22:12Speaker 4: So as much as you've got.
- 22:13Speaker 3: The deposit, can you actually afford the rest of the loan?
- 22:16Speaker 3: Are you actually ready to commit to a thirty year
- 22:18Speaker 3: repayment scheme? Is that something that you're well placed for?
- 22:22Speaker 3: Are you even ready for it?
- 22:23Speaker 1: So?
- 22:23Speaker 3: I think that people do definitely run into it. They
- 22:26Speaker 3: go on holidays, they buy cars, they buy shoes. I
- 22:29Speaker 3: see it all the time. I think we need to
- 22:31Speaker 3: just slow down and look at it with a little
- 22:33Speaker 3: bit more logic than hey, I've come into this large
- 22:36Speaker 3: sum of money.
- 22:37Speaker 4: That's wonderful.
- 22:43Speaker 1: And now for my favorite segment, our money diaries, let's
- 22:46Speaker 1: do this. Today's money diary is from twenty two and Proud,
- 22:54Speaker 1: a woman whose money story might make you feel more
- 22:57Speaker 1: than just a little envious.
- 22:59Speaker 6: Well, at the age of twenty one, my partner and
- 23:01Speaker 6: I we bought our first house together and it was
- 23:04Speaker 6: many years of saving and sacrificing and just working really
- 23:09Speaker 6: hard in order to do that and save up that deposit,
- 23:12Speaker 6: and it's something that people don't think is very achievable
- 23:15Speaker 6: for young people now, so we kind of feel like
- 23:19Speaker 6: we've kind of proven that wrong, that you can actually
- 23:21Speaker 6: buy a house at a young age, and that not
- 23:23Speaker 6: all young people are very frivolous with their money and
- 23:25Speaker 6: just throwing it away and buying smashed avo. My parents
- 23:29Speaker 6: are on a decent wage and they're very comfortable, but
- 23:32Speaker 6: they taught me that just because you have money, you
- 23:33Speaker 6: shouldn't just spend it however you like. You should put
- 23:37Speaker 6: it towards things you really want, and that money is freedom.
- 23:41Speaker 6: So when you have money, you're able to do things
- 23:44Speaker 6: you want, but that doesn't necessarily mean just going out
- 23:47Speaker 6: and spending it on things that you'll take for granted
- 23:50Speaker 6: and won't even appreciate. I think a lot of people
- 23:52Speaker 6: thought we were crazy buying a house so young and
- 23:55Speaker 6: choosing to save all our money rather than spend it
- 23:59Speaker 6: on like a holiday, all that kind of thing. But
- 24:01Speaker 6: for us it felt like the right decision because we
- 24:03Speaker 6: wanted to set ourselves up.
- 24:05Speaker 1: Okay, so how much does twenty two and Proud earn
- 24:07Speaker 1: and how much has she got saved?
- 24:09Speaker 6: I earn around forty five thousand. Well, my savings account
- 24:13Speaker 6: is a joint savings account with my partner and we
- 24:15Speaker 6: have about fifteen grand in there now. To be honest,
- 24:18Speaker 6: we had our settlement was four months, so we had
- 24:22Speaker 6: all this time to save up, and we've just we
- 24:24Speaker 6: could be putting it towards the mortgage, but we just kind.
- 24:26Speaker 4: Of like it to have it there.
- 24:28Speaker 1: So yeah, so we know what twenty two and Proud
- 24:30Speaker 1: gets paid, but what exactly happens to that money after
- 24:32Speaker 1: it's deposited into her account?
- 24:34Speaker 6: Well, when I get paid every week, I put majority
- 24:37Speaker 6: towards the joint savings account. So I get about seven
- 24:41Speaker 6: hundred and forty dollars a week. I save about two
- 24:44Speaker 6: hundred dollars of that in my own personal account and
- 24:47Speaker 6: I use that things like petrol, buying things for just myself,
- 24:51Speaker 6: and the rest gets transferred to a joint account, which
- 24:54Speaker 6: my partner does pretty much the exact same, keeps a
- 24:56Speaker 6: little bit for himself and then the rest goes into
- 24:59Speaker 6: our joint account.
- 25:00Speaker 1: How does twenty two and Proud go with investing?
- 25:01Speaker 6: Though, No, I don't invest to be honest. After listening
- 25:05Speaker 6: to this podcast, I really wanted to get into it,
- 25:07Speaker 6: but I've kind of weighed up whether I would rather
- 25:11Speaker 6: put that extra money into investments or put that extra
- 25:13Speaker 6: money towards mortgage repayments.
- 25:16Speaker 4: And I think at this.
- 25:17Speaker 6: Stage I would rather put the extra money towards the
- 25:20Speaker 6: mortgage so I could pay that off quicker.
- 25:22Speaker 1: And what about her debts?
- 25:23Speaker 6: So although I did a university degree, I don't have
- 25:26Speaker 6: a hex debt because I paid it upfront as the semester,
- 25:31Speaker 6: like every semester, I'd pay the UNI fees. And my
- 25:34Speaker 6: mortgage is four hundred and twenty thousand.
- 25:36Speaker 1: What are the good money habits that twenty two and
- 25:38Speaker 1: recommends other women take on board?
- 25:40Speaker 6: My best money habit would be being able to refrain
- 25:43Speaker 6: from making purchases on a whim, really asking myself do
- 25:47Speaker 6: I actually want this? And do I actually need this,
- 25:51Speaker 6: and just choosing to spend my money on things that
- 25:53Speaker 6: will help me out and will make me happy, not
- 25:56Speaker 6: just things yeah at random?
- 25:58Speaker 1: What about her worst money my worst money habit?
- 26:01Speaker 6: To be honest, since moving out, I feel like I'm
- 26:03Speaker 6: probably spending a little bit more because of things around
- 26:06Speaker 6: the house. I find myself at Bunnings every single weekend,
- 26:10Speaker 6: wanting to get more plants or wanting to do things
- 26:12Speaker 6: around the house. So that's probably my worst money habit
- 26:14Speaker 6: at the moment, but that's probably as far as it goes.
- 26:17Speaker 6: I don't really buy out much. I pack my lunches
- 26:21Speaker 6: for work, and I bought a coffee machine, which means
- 26:24Speaker 6: I save money on coffees don't have to buy anything
- 26:27Speaker 6: like that, so I think that definitely helps as well.
- 26:30Speaker 6: If I was to spend my money on things, I
- 26:31Speaker 6: would probably rather spend it going to brunch with my
- 26:34Speaker 6: partner or doing something nice on the weekend or a
- 26:38Speaker 6: weekend away.
- 26:39Speaker 1: So what's twenty two and proud actually saving for? What's
- 26:43Speaker 1: her big money goal?
- 26:44Speaker 6: My big savings goal is to go on a big
- 26:46Speaker 6: holiday next year, because we were saving so hard for
- 26:49Speaker 6: a deposit. In all the time that my partner and
- 26:51Speaker 6: I have been together, we haven't actually done any overseas
- 26:54Speaker 6: trips or like real long holidays. So next year we
- 26:58Speaker 6: plan to go to Canada and America next year, and yeah,
- 27:01Speaker 6: that should be quite expensive but fun.
- 27:04Speaker 1: So howard Today's money diarist rate her own relationship with
- 27:07Speaker 1: money if we forced her to give herself a grade.
- 27:09Speaker 6: I would probably give myself an age just because of
- 27:12Speaker 6: the position I'm in, and for my age especially, I
- 27:16Speaker 6: feel like not many people are at this age and
- 27:19Speaker 6: have their own house and are paying off a mortgage
- 27:21Speaker 6: and doing.
- 27:22Speaker 4: Quite well for themselves. There's always room for improvements, all.
- 27:26Speaker 1: Right, Victoria twenty two and proud. She's got a lot
- 27:28Speaker 1: to be proud about, doesn't she.
- 27:30Speaker 4: She absolutely does.
- 27:31Speaker 3: Imagine being that young and having saved nearly one hundred
- 27:34Speaker 3: thousand dollars from home.
- 27:36Speaker 1: To po my age makes feel very guilty for what
- 27:38Speaker 1: I'm doing. But honestly, Victoria, we have been crunching the
- 27:42Speaker 1: numbers these past few minutes because we were like, surely
- 27:44Speaker 1: that's impossible, and no, it's quite possible.
- 27:47Speaker 3: It is so I think that it's important to be
- 27:49Speaker 3: transparent when speaking about money. So we crunched the numbers,
- 27:52Speaker 3: and by saving five hundred dollars a week, that's saving
- 27:55Speaker 3: about twenty six thousand dollars a year. Times that by four,
- 27:58Speaker 3: which is the timeframe she saved for the house in
- 28:02Speaker 3: and she could have saved or should have saved one
- 28:04Speaker 3: hundred and four thousand dollars in that period of time,
- 28:06Speaker 3: which is so incredible. So for her to be able
- 28:09Speaker 3: to do that, I think that that's incredible, and it
- 28:11Speaker 3: obviously is something that she compromised a lot of other
- 28:14Speaker 3: things to achieve, so I think we need to recognize
- 28:17Speaker 3: that as well. She also was incredibly lucky to be
- 28:20Speaker 3: able to live at home and probably have a lot
- 28:22Speaker 3: less fixed costs than a lot of us who are
- 28:24Speaker 3: not living at home. So as much as this story
- 28:26Speaker 3: is absolutely fantastic, I'd hate for other people to listen
- 28:30Speaker 3: to this and feel a little bit flat that they're
- 28:32Speaker 3: the same age and haven't achieved the same things. Because
- 28:35Speaker 3: as much as this is an absolutely fantastic thing and honestly,
- 28:38Speaker 3: congratulations to her, I'm so impressed. It does take sacrifice
- 28:43Speaker 3: and planning to save money like this, and it also
- 28:47Speaker 3: takes a lot of diligence over the long period of time,
- 28:50Speaker 3: so it's not something that we are all able to
- 28:53Speaker 3: actually achieve. It's incredible, and for her to have already
- 28:56Speaker 3: paid off her hex as well, like that's a lot
- 28:58Speaker 3: of head down, bum up, But I think that it's
- 29:02Speaker 3: also really really great that, you know, we are able
- 29:04Speaker 3: to share stories like this and go, Wow, great for her,
- 29:08Speaker 3: I'm so impressed.
- 29:09Speaker 4: I can't do it, but that's okay.
- 29:11Speaker 1: Yeah, if you're not willing to sacrifice, that's totally okay.
- 29:14Speaker 1: It just might take a little longer, and that's fine too.
- 29:16Speaker 3: Yeah, And I don't even know if it's just about
- 29:18Speaker 3: being willing to sacrifice. Some of us are just not
- 29:20Speaker 3: in positions where that's not a thing we can do.
- 29:23Speaker 4: But it also might not be a.
- 29:25Speaker 3: Priority to us, like buying a house young fantastic, it
- 29:28Speaker 3: sounds really great, But I would never have been in
- 29:31Speaker 3: that position. And to be honest, if you'd said to
- 29:33Speaker 3: me whilst I was still at UNI, like do you
- 29:35Speaker 3: want to be saving this amount of money? It would
- 29:37Speaker 3: mean forgoing all of your social interactions, all of the
- 29:41Speaker 3: things that you want to do, I probably would have
- 29:43Speaker 3: said no. So I think it's worth having a look
- 29:45Speaker 3: at and going all right, that's fantastic for her, what
- 29:48Speaker 3: a gal. But also that's probably not in line with
- 29:51Speaker 3: my values. And that's the most important thing to take
- 29:54Speaker 3: away from this, people spending money in relation to their
- 29:57Speaker 3: values and beliefs.
- 29:58Speaker 1: But well done to her.
- 30:00Speaker 4: A plus, I reckon, I reckon A plus. That's a
- 30:02Speaker 4: plus plus for sure.
- 30:04Speaker 1: That's all we have time for today, Victoria, just before
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