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Do You Always Over Explain? This Is For You · Beyond Limits With Olivia Marie

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  SPEAKER_00: Welcome back to another episode of the Live Well podcast.
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  SPEAKER_00: All right, we are diving in today all about the trauma response of overexplaining.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, this is something I'm seeing a lot.
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  SPEAKER_00: So we're gonna dive into it because it's so, so interesting.
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  SPEAKER_00: Once you can bring awareness to a behavior, that's the first step, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: So, do you feel the need to over-explain yourself?
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  SPEAKER_00: So that being said, thank you guys so much, and I will get back to the episode.
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  SPEAKER_00: Do you want to make other people feel more comfortable?
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  SPEAKER_00: Do you always overexplain to try to justify?
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  SPEAKER_00: Right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Overe-explaining is when you're basically unable to state things without going into great detail or going off giving a million reasons for something.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe you're late to an event or a meetup with a friend, and instead of saying, sorry, or I'm late, or thank you for being patient, you feel obligated to list all of these things that happened this morning.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, I had to walk the dog, and then she wouldn't eat her food, and then I was waiting for her to poop, and then she pooped in the house, and then this bill, and then whatever it is.
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  SPEAKER_00: Right?
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  SPEAKER_00: All these things that contribute to like you getting off schedule.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's over explaining.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe something upsets you instead of like just walking away from a situation or kindly and firmly communicating a boundary, stating your needs, you apologize for being upset and giving the circumstances about why it was upsetting to you, hoping that someone will understand and forgive you for being upset.
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  unknown: Right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Feeling like you have to overexplain to make sure someone believes you or accepts you is a learned behavior.
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  SPEAKER_00: Comes, it's a trauma response from your childhood where you essentially learn that love and acceptance is conditional upon being understood.
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  SPEAKER_00: There's also some other reasons we're gonna dive into this episode, but in the realm of nervous system responses, over-explaining is a fawn response.
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  SPEAKER_00: So we hear about fight, flight, freeze.
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  SPEAKER_00: There's also fawn, it's less talked about.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is the one where you're a people pleaser.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is the one where you're overthinking.
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  SPEAKER_00: I have an Instagram post with the four nervous system responses to be aware of.
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  SPEAKER_00: So we will link my Instagram down below so you can make sure you're following along there and go save that post.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is in the realm of fawn, less talked about, but honestly, I see this pretty much in almost every woman.
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  SPEAKER_00: I see this.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, like unless you're very aware and you do this kind of work, it fawn responses are quite common.
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  SPEAKER_00: So this fawn response is an attempt to essentially avoid conflict by trying to out nice or overly please, because that gives you the safety that you're not going to be abandoned, that you will be accepted, loved, understood, heard, etc.
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  SPEAKER_00: So your brain goes into, you know, your fight or flight response initially, which means your amygdala, which is responsible for processing fear, which is why we want to deactivate it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, I'm not sure when this episode's coming out, but I also have one coming out with cautious barking at the mailman, with the three things to do right now to start regulating your nervous system.
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  SPEAKER_00: Make sure you listen to that.
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  SPEAKER_00: So your amygdala, which is responsible for processing fear, hijacks your prefrontal cortex, which is the part of your brain that allows you to think rationally.
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  SPEAKER_00: So you react quickly and want to either run away or freeze like a deer caught in the headlights.
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  SPEAKER_00: Fawning comes into play after experiencing a fight or flight response too many times.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's kind of like a coping mechanism, if you will.
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  SPEAKER_00: So remember, overexplaining is a defense mechanism that allows you to people please and to avoid any confrontation.
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  SPEAKER_00: However, in the process of overexplaining yourself, you actually cause more trauma to yourself through self-abandonment, which we are going to dive into.
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  SPEAKER_00: And the thing is, children and as kids, we do this unconsciously when we're trying to exert control over a situation.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because when we are developing and when we are tiny humans, we rely on our instincts for survival and safety.
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  SPEAKER_00: As adults, we often do this to control our anxiety, but it backfires because we're actually not getting at the root of the problem.
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  SPEAKER_00: We need to find the thought root, the route that triggers the behavior for you to overexplain to heal our trauma.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you find yourself overexplaining a lot, you probably spend tons of mental energy managing your feelings, trying to decipher other people's impressions of you and trying to overexplain enough so that they don't get mad or think you're good or oh, whatever.
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  SPEAKER_00: This takes a toll, all right?
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  SPEAKER_00: As mental exhaustion, and then like you're just exhausted from the thought process of like making sure Sally doesn't think you're this or that because you because you were late or you forgot this or you whatever.
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  SPEAKER_00: All right.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I want to dive into kind of like more of the logic behind it because this is gonna, I know you guys love this stuff.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's like so juicy, and you're gonna have all these like aha moments, you're gonna be like, oh, Liv, that's me.
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  SPEAKER_00: I always get the DMs from you guys and be like, Liv, that was me.
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  SPEAKER_00: I feel like you were talking right to me.
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  SPEAKER_00: And hopefully you can see yourself in this.
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  SPEAKER_00: So remember, because overexplaining is a trauma response designed to avoid conflict, they are immensely taxing on our nervous systems.
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  SPEAKER_00: So being in this fawning, overexplaining response, so draining.
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  SPEAKER_00: So the body wants to protect itself, and that's also where we get physical symptoms, like especially with overexplaining, think gut issues, things, bloating, IBS, IBD, um, chronic constipation or chronic uh diarrhea, either of them, you can either be someone who holds or like it runs, you can go either way.
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  SPEAKER_00: So just think about we all know that the nervous system always has physical symptoms.
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  SPEAKER_00: I have tons of episodes on that if you want to go have a look.
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  SPEAKER_00: But with overexplaining, we're trying to control the narrative, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: We're trying to control how someone sees or thinks of us.
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  SPEAKER_00: Obviously, you don't want people like you don't want them thinking this, and then they tell so-and-so, even, but that's not even in your control, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: But that overexplaining, we want to defend and justify our actions or decisions because we don't want to be rejected and we want to protect ourselves, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: This is a very primal response.
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  SPEAKER_00: The primal response of women are love and connection.
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  SPEAKER_00: Men is passion and purpose.
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  SPEAKER_00: So primarily, our brains are wired to not be rejected from our tribe, from our community.
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  SPEAKER_00: We need to fit in.
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  SPEAKER_00: As women, if we do not fit in, we die.
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  SPEAKER_00: That is wired in our brains.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is why sisterhood wounding is so bad.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is why overexplaining comes into play, people pleasing, lack of boundaries, like this is why women struggle so much with it, versus men will just have a boundary, like not give a fuck.
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  SPEAKER_00: All right.
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  SPEAKER_00: So ultimately, the truth is people will do and think what they want, regardless of you telling them what's what.
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  SPEAKER_00: But in your brain, if you could explain everything and make them understand, you have that sense of safety, and then your nervous system goes, although it's false.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's like a false sense of safety, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because it's not actually safe.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's a control tactic.
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  SPEAKER_00: So by overexplaining, it's you trying to control how the circumstance will go, even though you can't control it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Hopefully, you're following me right now.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I want to dive into the reasons for overexplaining.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let me just take a sip of my delicious latte.
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  SPEAKER_00: It is so good.
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  SPEAKER_00: Oh, obsessed.
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  SPEAKER_00: All right.
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  SPEAKER_00: First thing, growing up, you're made to feel like everything was your fault, no matter what.
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  SPEAKER_00: This can lead to you needing to defend yourself in adulthood or needing to overexplain or justify things.
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  SPEAKER_00: You may feel like you are always blamed for things if you you can be an only child or it's like a sibling, but like maybe you always blame for the siblings something or whatever it was, or you always blame stuff was your fault and it wasn't.
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  SPEAKER_00: And chances are there are monumental times in your childhood where something wasn't your fault and you were punished or reprimanded and it really wasn't, and that forever shifted.
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  SPEAKER_00: So what your brain's gonna do is like, holy shit, I never want to go through this again.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm gonna develop the need to overexplain so that hopefully this doesn't happen again.
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  SPEAKER_00: Right?
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  SPEAKER_00: So it's also a typical trauma response for people walking on eggshells around their parents.
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  SPEAKER_00: They're so worried about doing or saying the wrong thing that it paralyzes you with fear.
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  SPEAKER_00: So people pleasing becomes the default behavior as a survival instinct to avoid perceived abandonment, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because as a child, as growing up, and just know like all your wounding really comes from basically childhood.
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  SPEAKER_00: I say perceived abandonment because your parents probably weren't going to abandon you, but all that makes sense in your head because it's a primal response, is that perceived abandonment.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because you need mom and dad or whoever caregivers to survive.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if they're a protect potentially going to abandon you, leave you, punish you, like that's bad.
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  SPEAKER_00: So you want to avoid that.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if you can just please mom and dad, you can walk into eggshells and think, if I just don't say the wrong thing or do the wrong thing, you'll be okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: Which leads me into the deep fear of abandonment and rejection because love was conditional.
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  SPEAKER_00: There's plenty of things that come from love being conditional, people pleasing, not setting boundaries, all of this stuff.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, I am not saying, and I feel like I say this every time we get into childhood trauma here on the show, I am not saying mom and dad didn't love you.
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  SPEAKER_00: I am not saying mom and dad didn't try their best.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm not saying, all I am saying is that there were instances where mom and dad conditionally showed you love.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you took that on as truth and decided that that was what it meant when you were very young.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, how often is like, I don't know, you go out for ice cream if you win the soccer game, you get your report card on the fridge if you get straight A's, or if you get A's, you get this, or if you got C's, you didn't get recognition, or you colored in the lines, you like there's so many little instances.
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  SPEAKER_00: The thing is, it doesn't have to be like a big T trauma.
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  SPEAKER_00: You just learning that makes you need to overexplain.
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  SPEAKER_00: Right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because you can over-explain, then you won't be abandoned and rejected.
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  SPEAKER_00: And honestly, it breaks my heart when I realize that we often overdo something or overexplain something because of this.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like when, like I said, when you're late and you automatically explain not only the main reason, but like the irrelevant information of everything that happened that morning to try to justify and explain and defend why you relate.
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  SPEAKER_00: So hopefully Sally isn't mad, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because you try to feed your rationalization to others in order for them to understand.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you explain, overexplain in order to fit in.
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  SPEAKER_00: One of the biggest reasons people have become overexplainers is because they were trained by their parents or loved ones that love was conditional and they had to work for it as a child.
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  SPEAKER_00: There were only always conditions to love.
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  SPEAKER_00: Right?
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  SPEAKER_00: So always know that if you're not fully aware of these, that's okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: A lot of people shut them out, or you think that they're small little things, and that you can't see my air quotations, my quote unquote little things, or that you had a quote unquote normal childhood, there's stuff in there.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you're an overexplainer, there's something in there.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if you felt like you could have been abandoned in some way, you will learn to overexplain so that others won't leave you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Which also leads to feeling you may don't belong, which is yet another reason why we overexplain.
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  SPEAKER_00: Overexplaining indicates that you don't feel as if you deserve to take up space in conversations or relationships.
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  SPEAKER_00: All right, so also look at this.
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  SPEAKER_00: I mean, the good news is that trauma healing can help.
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  SPEAKER_00: Since fawning is the result of trauma, we just get into the root, we dissolve it, and then it goes away.
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  unknown: Right?
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  SPEAKER_00: And you do all the embodiment work as well.
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  SPEAKER_00: So it can also develop as a result of being told to hide your emotions as a child.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you are hiding your emotions, if you are not allowed to cry or get upset or told to stop crying or stop snivelling or just someone walked away from you when you were having an emotional experience because they couldn't handle it.
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  SPEAKER_00: After hiding emotions for so long, they could become tricky to process.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if you have a difficult time with this, you're basically going to depersonalize emotions and develop fawning or overexplaining as a result.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so the other reason, kind of that piggybacks onto this, is due to feeling unheard.
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  SPEAKER_00: Right?
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  SPEAKER_00: When we didn't feel heard or made to feel, or we were made to feel at fault, kind of going back to the first one, not felt heard, made to feel at fault, either intentionally or unintentionally, a desire to not fault develops and manifests as people pleasing.
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  SPEAKER_00: People pleasing is overexplaining.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, I also want to add then that if you've experienced gaslighting, you can also get into a habit of overexplaining, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because if you overexplain, then the person can't distort your words, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: And we've all experienced gaslighting in the past.
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  SPEAKER_00: And depending on the type of trauma experience, sometimes we overexplain to avoid disappointing someone by giving them a reasoning.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if you are immediately defensive, if people try to distort your words, or you overexplain and you try to outsmart the other person, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: That shows that you have some trauma behind that needs to be cleared.
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  SPEAKER_00: And we often carry like all of this childhood like junk with us as adults, but releasing it gives so much freedom and relief.
• 16:47
  SPEAKER_00: Like clinging tightly and not going into these childhood experiences only hurts you in the end.
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  SPEAKER_00: Emotionally, definitely physically, when we think about gut health symptoms, hormones, fertility, skin, all of that.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you haven't yet released your past trauma, it's gonna manifest not only physically, but in things like overexplaining.
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  SPEAKER_00: Then the more you overexplain, the more you self-abandon, and the worse those also physical symptoms get.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, how to stop overexplaining?
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  SPEAKER_00: Recognizing that you overexplain, step number one.
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  SPEAKER_00: All right, and hopefully you're doing that now.
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  SPEAKER_00: But I also want you to really become aware of where you're doing it and who you're doing it with.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it's important to determine why you feel the need to overexplain.
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  unknown: Right.
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  SPEAKER_00: And from there, we're gonna take the proper steps to heal from the past trauma that have led to this response.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if overexplaining helped like ease your feelings of anxiety, you know, you can't just necessarily stop overexplaining without having either a new strategy, but also bringing awareness to the root.
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  SPEAKER_00: Right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because since overexplaining is self-abandonment, because you're abandoning yourself in favor of pleasing someone else, it's very important to overcome this.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because when we self-abandon, this leads to so many more issues, not only emotionally, but physical symptoms, skin, hormones, weight, autoimmune.
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  SPEAKER_00: I've said this before, but like that mailman was here for a long time.
• 18:08
  SPEAKER_00: I've said this before, but autoimmune, like your body's attacking itself.
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  SPEAKER_00: Why?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because you've rejected and abandoned yourself and you've attacked yourself for so long.
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  SPEAKER_00: There's a congruency there.
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  SPEAKER_00: So in order to stop overexplaining, determine why you feel the need to overexplain, like actually what's coming up.
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  SPEAKER_00: And slowing down is key.
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  SPEAKER_00: So slow down before you launch into overexplanation.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let's say the next time you're late, you're meeting up, I'm gonna use Sally, you're meeting up with Sally and you're gonna be late.
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  SPEAKER_00: Oh my gosh, blah, blah, blah.
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  SPEAKER_00: She's gonna think maybe I'm a bad friend or I'm this or I'm that.
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  SPEAKER_00: Oh, slow down.
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  SPEAKER_00: All right, before you launch into an overexplanation, pay attention and recognize how you're feeling.
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  SPEAKER_00: Anxious, afraid, stressed.
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  SPEAKER_00: Be patient with the process and trust that your feelings are not facts.
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  SPEAKER_00: Just because you are afraid doesn't mean that that was that is what's going to happen.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's just a survival mode based on what happened to you previously.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's your trauma response talking.
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  SPEAKER_00: It does not mean you're in imminent danger.
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  SPEAKER_00: It is your trauma response.
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  SPEAKER_00: So assess the situation, take a deep breath, and resist the urge to over-explain or compromise on your boundaries.
• 19:17
  SPEAKER_00: And then, of course, diving deeper into the root of this is like it's the bread and butter of what I've done for years.
• 19:24
  SPEAKER_00: I've been doing nervous system regulation with women for like forever now, and it's the root of so many things along with your physical symptoms.
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  SPEAKER_00: So jump into well-nourished if you're like, Liv, I have this, I've got all this stuff going on.
• 19:36
  SPEAKER_00: I got physical symptoms, people please are overexplainer, lack of boundaries, lack of self-love.
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  SPEAKER_00: We do it all.
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  SPEAKER_00: The truth is we do not need to defend our worth.
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  SPEAKER_00: We do not need to defend our truth.
• 19:47
  SPEAKER_00: And we don't actually need to apologize for our limits, our needs, our dreams, or even our desires.
• 19:52
  SPEAKER_00: Boundaries are your right, your reality and truth are always valid, and people project their own sense of self and unresolved pain onto other people, right?
• 20:02
  SPEAKER_00: Think about that the next time you find the need to overexplain.
• 20:04
  SPEAKER_00: Because people with high self-worth respect the needs of others because they respect their own needs.
• 20:09
  SPEAKER_00: So if anyone were to get upset, anyways, you would know that they just have unhealed stuff that they're projecting onto you.
• 20:16
  SPEAKER_00: I would never feel the need for someone to overexplain.
• 20:19
  SPEAKER_00: In fact, I actually I try to even bring them awareness whenever I find someone's overexplaining to me.
• 20:25
  SPEAKER_00: I just love like, hmm?
• 20:27
  SPEAKER_00: There's no need to overexplain.
• 20:29
  SPEAKER_00: And I try to provide like the safety to them to like let them know, like this is with you know, encounters in my day-to-day life.
• 20:36
  SPEAKER_00: Like, there's no need to overexplain so that they feel safe not to, but not necessarily everyone has a cognizant to do that.
• 20:42
  SPEAKER_00: So everyone in your life may not be doing that back to you.
• 20:44
  SPEAKER_00: So this is where I want you to really dive into this.
• 20:47
  SPEAKER_00: And of course, if I can support you in any way with this, there's well-nourished or there's one-on-one if you really crave an intimate space together where it's just you and me.
• 20:56
  SPEAKER_00: Reach out on Instagram for stuff about one-on-one, because depending on when you're listening to this, will depend if spots are open.
• 21:02
  SPEAKER_00: But I hope this explained why you're overexplaining, how to stop overexplaining, and really start putting this into practice because you will feel like a deeper fret.
• 21:12
  SPEAKER_00: And the last thing I want to say is like, no, is a full sentence.
• 21:15
  SPEAKER_00: Like, no, I'm sorry I'm late is a full sentence, or no, I can't make it as a full sentence.
• 21:20
  SPEAKER_00: I'll the other overexplained people I think do is explain why they can't make something.
• 21:25
  SPEAKER_00: I'll add this in.
• 21:26
  SPEAKER_00: Like, it doesn't matter, like, if you don't want to go out because you want to sit and watch selling sunset and eat pad thai.
• 21:33
  SPEAKER_00: You don't have to say, no, I'm not able to make it, you know, because I'm really tired of this week, and Joe, my boss, have been doing this, and then the kids have been no.
• 21:43
  SPEAKER_00: No, I'm unable to make it.
• 21:47
  SPEAKER_00: It's so interesting.
• 21:48
  SPEAKER_00: People say, I can't make it, but what do I say is the excuse of why I can't go?
• 21:52
  SPEAKER_00: You don't need an excuse.
• 21:55
  SPEAKER_00: No, I can't make it.
• 21:57
  SPEAKER_00: Clock where you're overexplaining.
• 21:59
  SPEAKER_00: Stop overexplaining.
• 22:00
  SPEAKER_00: Let's beat this trauma response together and let's get you feeling delicious in your life.
• 22:04
  SPEAKER_00: If this episode was helpful, please share it so that you can help other people not overexplain as well.
• 22:09
  SPEAKER_00: And we can continue to impact more beautiful women, heal their nervous systems, and get them from survival mode into thrival mode.
• 22:16
  SPEAKER_00: So, with that being said, I will see you guys in the next episode.
• 22:19
  SPEAKER_00: Love you.