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- Are you growing down? The concept of growing up has been something we've heard pretty much all of our lives, but a couple of weeks ago we started talking about growing down. It's important to use the period of growing down and view the period of growing down as a time in the waiting period. I know, we want to see the fruit of our labor. We want to see all the things accomplished at the surface. But in order to see and experience those things, there has to be some solid roots. And so I want you to not worry or wonder too much about how you need to conduct yourself, especially if you're in a season of waiting, especially if you are in a season where you are just heads down, meaning the results aren't showing yet. But I'm going to encourage you in that grow down season. Keep doing the work, keep showing up. The next version of you, the version you're growing up to, need you in this down season. So when you're down, don't think you're out. No that although you still have a ways to go, you choose each day to get up and go, and for you, that's going to help you get to the place of growth. Hello, my friends from all across the globe, and welcome to the Your Red Self Podcast. I am your host, Milee Noir. I am an emotional wellness and empowerment coach and your mindset advocate and all that means is in this world, I know that you are busy. I know there's a lot going on, but I've curated this space that each and every week i would help you walk it out and talk it out because I want you to become more of your enrich self and it's important to prioritize this time to invest in yourself. And so that's what this podcast is each and every week. It is an investment. And if this is your first time visiting the podcast, well you just made the best investment. And I want to welcome you to the podcast, and if you are a repeat listener, I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart. Because of you, we have been on this journey of empowerment and enrichment and we have been doing it now for one hundred and forty nine episodes. So I could not have done this without you, and I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart because we get to celebrate together our one hundred and fifty eight episode coming up next week, so stay tuned. For all the details now before we get into this week's if you Know you know, Each and every week, I make a deposit into the bank of you, and I do that by way of affirmations. Affirmations are a great way to start your day and to command your morning. And this week's affirmation is when life gets tough, I can always find peace within myself. When life gets tough, I can always find peace within myself. When life gets tough, I can always find peace within myself. Now, let's get ready for this week's episode of the Your Enriched Self podcast. Left you hanging last week when we talked about the reasons why you aren't prioritizing you, and I have to say, it's a very dangerous place to be in in the state of your life, to not prioritize yourself, to not have learned these lessons. I want to make sure that you walk away understanding, as you did last week, why you haven't prioritized yourself. But now it's time to get back on your priority list. And that's what this week's episode is all about, is how do you begin to prioritize you again? Yes, you, you matter most, and it's important to take this and begin to do something with it. You can no longer afford to be in the place. Not just the place you are in now, but for some of you, you've been in this place time and time again, year after year, and you keep finding yourself at burnout. You keep finding yourself hurt and disappointed because you keep doing outside of you and you have nothing left for you. One of the first things I'm going to say, and I've talked about this before. I'm sure you've heard it, and it's a great reminder, is you need to establish boundaries when you start to prioritize you again. You need to have boundaries in place. And if you have boundaries, make sure you maintain those boundaries. Right. You want to be the person that keeps the walls up when needed. Right. I don't want you to lock yourself away from the world, but I want you to be able to understand what you need in each season of your life, because that's going to be different. So that's one of the things that you need to do to begin to prioritize you again. The other thing is hit the pause button. The pause button. And I know when we think of how life life is going and the things that we have to do from day to day. It's hard to even conceive the idea of pausing, of taking a break from the activity, from the life that you are living. But when you do so, it allows you to look for alternative ways to get things done, to move and flow in your life. This is another way of taking a breather. And a lot of you aren't coming up for ear. If you're not coming up for ear, you are literally drowning. And so I need you to come up for ear. Take the short break, the short rest that you need. Allow yourself that moment to relax, allow yourself that moment to reflect. And one of the things the best things about the breather is or that buffer is the reflection time. It's the self assessment time. It's understanding where you are and pretend what you need in the season of where you are, and it's okay to do this. When you take a breather, I want you to think about your device. Many of you have a mobile device, a mobile phone, and there are times the device goes in what's called a standby mode, and that standby mode is when the device is going into a low powered state. It will be ready to resume whenever you need it, but it's going into a low power state to reduce the use of the energy. And so that is the season, or that is the mission behind hitting the pause button, is to kind of go into that low powered state where you're not really doing anything, but you're getting yourself ready. You're preparing your mind, you're preparing your space, You're preparing. Like I said, you're doing the reflection because you're need to come up at some point and I want you to be ready to take on the challenge or whatever is ahead. Right it might not even be a challenge. It may just be taking on the day and taking it on with confidence. But you're not going to be able to do that if you are barely breathing. And so that's why that piece of making and taking a pause is so crucial. The next thing I want you to think about is reevaluating your priorities. It's important to consider for you what is important. And I like to look at my life of seasons. I mean nature. She really has the blueprint of what and how it is and how life moves. Right. We see how these seasons change, and we see what happens when the seasons change. We dress differently, we manage our vehicles differently. We start to manage our homes differently. Right in the summertime, we're watering the grass, we're cutting the grass, whereby in the winter we're not cutting the grass or watering the grass. So we start to treat the environment outside and inside of our homes differently because of the seasons that we're in. And I want you to think about reevaluating your priorities and looking at your life in seasons. And those seasons don't have to just be four seasons. It can be the season at the beginning of the month and the season at the end of the month. It might be based on the four seasons. Whatever it is. You might be going through a season in life that requires you to be more work focused, and you may be in a season of life that requires you to be more home focused. I don't know what season you're in, but it's important for you to consider what's important in that particular season. You need to deliberate and reflect on what the current priorities are and what the future priorities are. You need to understand that that helps you to realign. You can better assess not just where you are, but the goals that you have Are those still hitting the mark? Are those goals daily goals? Are those still going to allow you to drive to the end of month goal? Is that going to allow you to drive to the end of summer goal or the end of year goal, or whatever it is that you have ahead of you. Are you still living your value system? Reprioritizing yourself again is also making sure your values are still intact. And some people, some of you, get influenced by the value system of the culture, the value system that the world is giving. That's a watch out moment. You got to reevaluate what's important for you. This is your expression, this is your personal your professional development and growth, and this is how you're going to make the meaningful changes that you've been planning to make that you've been dreaming about making. It's time to make it, and in order to make it, you've got to reevaluate your priorities. I've been talking about my fitness journey over the course of the last maybe two months, and it is definitely a place where I had to reevaluate my priorities. What got me started was understanding I valued and I value my health, and I wanted to make health changes, and so I joined this boot camp, and in joining this boot camp, I had to make and reevaluate how I was going to make this happen. I knew that I wanted to get to an end goal, and I'm still working towards that goal again. I'm still in that season of getting myself into and creating habits, creating a lifestyle because see, in the past, I've done this before, but I didn't create a lifestyle around it. I did it as a check the box exercise. And now I find myself in a season where this is a lifestyle. It's not something that I have to do, It's something I want to do. I want to do this, I want to be challenged. I want to increase my wellbeing. I want my fitness and my growth. These things are important for me because I understand why I started, why I need to keep going, and what it's going to take for me to do that. That fitness journey, that lifestyle journey, which is what it is now. It's a priority for me because it's part of me poting myself back on my priority list again. And the last thing I will say that needs to happen when you put yourself back in the rotation, back on track. To prioritize you again, is that you need to adjust the course. Adjusting the course is understanding that you may need to recalibrate the direction that you're going in. You may need to in fact change or correct course, correct the path that you are on to ensure that it is in alignment with where you want to go, your desires, the desired outcome you expect, the objectives you want to meet. I'll tell you this. I live in Atlanta, and one of the ways that I adjust the course as I travel throughout the city for work, for fun, for all the things, is I put on my GPS. I know what my destination is. I also know how to get there, but there is a constant recalibration of the course the path for me to get to my destination. I can use a tool like the navigation system, like the maps on my device, so that I can have the maps quickly recalibrate when there's a road closure. In some instances, I don't even have to recalibrate that. It just allows me to avoid it because it already has the GPS coordinates built into that mapping system that already knows this road is closed. I may not know this road is closed because again I live in Atlanta and there is a lot of construction going on, but the mapping system knows that, and so this is a season to adjust that course. Don't be afraid to use tools and resources to help you recalibrate. Again, I'm a big proponent for prayer. I believe in God, and I know prayer changes things. But I'm also a big proponent for having multiple facets and multiple places and resources you can go. So this may be a season when we talk about recalibration. You may need to go see a therapist. I don't know what you need, but I do know that you can go further faster with assistance. Oftentimes, one of the things that we do in the season of prioritization or trying to get ourselves back on our list of priorities, is we don't ask for help. And that's going to be the final thing I talk about here is you need to be willing to raise your hand, wave the white flag surrender so that you know that you need help to get to the next level. This is challenging, especially if this is something that you have made habit for such a long time. For some of you, this is how you've lived your life. I was just talking to a friend and she finally decided to do something for herself. And it was so interesting as she was talking through it and telling it so eloquently. But I can see that this was a life long struggle, a life long journey to break away from the expectations that others had of her. And when she finally started doing things for herself, aka getting herself back on the top of that list, or as a matter of fact, getting herself on her priority list, it was almost like she became a threat to the people who had access to her, unlimited access to her as a matter of fact. And I know it can be painful, especially in this case. This was her, These were her family members. These weren't strangers, This wasn't even a boss. These are people that love you, and you love, but that love shouldn't cost what it has cost some of you. And I'm not telling you to isolate your family, but I'm telling you, if you don't decide to bring yourself up in this season, to put yourself on your list, and if you are on that list, to put yourself at the top of that list, no one else will. And if you look at the track record for some of you, no one else has. That's your sign. It's you're signed to do something, to do something for yourself. It's not being selfish, it's being self full. Yeah. I know you probably never heard of self ful before, but that's what it is. Self full is, like I say all the time, bringing your cup, filling it up so that you can go out and do what you were brought here to do, which is to serve others. But there's no way you can serve if you're pouring from an empty cup. There's no way you can serve if you don't even have a cup, or if you have a broken cup. So that's why this is important. The endgame here isn't just for you to get on top and be on top and stay on top. We got to go back down and get to the other people. We have a responsibility to our friends, to our family, to our community, to this world, to poor, to be salt for this earth. And it starts with you. It starts with you taking this seriously and becoming self full. Yeah, this is a new word. I want new terminology. Hey, that's what we do on this podcast. I want to increase your vocabulary I want to increase your mindset. I want you to be elevated internally externally in all the ways needed so that you can become more of your rich self. It starts with you, because you are truly the common denominator to every part, every piece of your life, and you have everything you need to make your life the best that it can be. I hope you enjoyed this week's episode of the Urine Ritsub podcast. And the only way I'm gonna know this is if you leave me some feedback. Feedback is a gift and it is free to give, and I would like to hear from you. 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