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Is Your Ego Is Causing Wrecks in Your Marriage? · Doing Marriage Well

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  Doing Marriage Well for March 10, 2026 Is your ego causing wrecks in your marriage?
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  Another counterproductive behavior, using the same road I mentioned yesterday as an example.
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  Jim Bob is headed to town, but he's in no hurry.
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  He's been driving between 44 miles an hour and 53 miles an hour in a 60-mile-an-hour zone.
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  He has a dozen frustrated folks behind him.
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  Finally, they all reach that one short passing lane.
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  Jim Bob does pull over to the right, but as he does so, he speeds up.
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  He reaches the legal speed limit, or exceeds it.
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  If the first couple of drivers behind him are frustrated enough,
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  They floor it and zoom by at 75 miles an hour The passing lane ends And Jim
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  Bob resumes his leisurely pace Jim Bob has been being tailgated Since well before
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  the passing lane You would think he would look forward To the chance to end
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  that Why does he ensure he will be tailgated The rest of the way to town?
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  Highway experts say some of this is subconscious Passing lanes are wider And
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  usually straighter So we feel safer Many slow drivers speed up Without even
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  being aware of it But there's also ego and control If you feel challenged by
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  someone trying to pass you,
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  you speed up I've seen this escalate into tragedy Last year,
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  a guy who didn't manage to pass before the passing lane ended Decided to go
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  onto the right shoulder to pass He lost control getting back on the road and
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  swerved into oncoming traffic Creating a three-car accident that killed two
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  people and wounded the third The reckless driver was relatively unhurt and was arrested,
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  The 17-year-old girl who upset him died, along with an innocent bystander.
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  Speeding up to prevent passing can get you and others hurt or killed.
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  When we traveled by RV, I got in the habit of pulling into the right lane and
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  easing back on my speed a bit so as many cars as possible could pass.
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  It was kind to them and safer for us. My life is worth more than my ego.
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  So how are we applying this to marriage? Have you ever upped the stakes with
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  your spouse for no reason other than pride or control?
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  Rather than laying the pass, as it were You exerted dominance Or maybe you acted
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  passive-aggressively You did maintain your pride And you were in control But at what cost?
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  It's usually wiser and safer to pull over, slow down, and let them go.
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  Address it at a later time when you're both calm. Don't let your ego push you
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  into a horrible accident.
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  This is Paul, and pride never helps us do marriage well.