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Stop Making Your Hormones The Villain · A Life Without Struggle

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Speaker 1: My name is Aaron Lindauer, and you're listening to a
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Speaker 1: Life Without Struggle. I'm a wife, a mother of two
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Speaker 1: wonderful children, a two time best selling author, and a
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Speaker 1: highly driven and successful entrepreneur. In my seventeen plus year
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Speaker 1: career as a mindset and health expert, I know what
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Speaker 1: holds women back from a life you only dream about,
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Speaker 1: whether you're a CEO, a businesswoman, or executive. I started
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Speaker 1: this podcast because I have.
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Speaker 2: Been where you are, and I know you want and
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Speaker 2: deserve more out of your life. I believe women are limitless.
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Speaker 2: We just get lost along the way. The process to
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Speaker 2: get you there is the topic and purpose of this podcast.
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Speaker 2: When you understand what you want, you can truly step
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Speaker 2: into a life without struggle.
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Speaker 3: Welcome, and I'm so thankful you're here.
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Speaker 1: Welcome back to another episode of Life Without Struggle. My
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Speaker 1: name is Aaron Lindauer, and today we're going to talk
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Speaker 1: about stop making your hormones the villain. Okay, your hormones matter,
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Speaker 1: but they don't get to become the reason you give
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Speaker 1: up on your body. Okay, So what if one of
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Speaker 1: the things that was keeping you stuck is the belief
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Speaker 1: that your hormones are the reason you can't get results.
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Speaker 1: I hear this constantly. My cortisol must be high. That's
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Speaker 1: why I can't lose weight. Okay, my estrogen is tanked,
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Speaker 1: my progesterone is low, my metabolism is broken. It's menopause erin.
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Speaker 1: I cannot lose weight. And listen, I am the last
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Speaker 1: person who is going to tell you that your hormones
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Speaker 1: don't matter, because they absolutely do matter. My whole coaching
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Speaker 1: program is around balancing your hormones naturally and then helping
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Speaker 1: you if you actually need some support with the right strategy.
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Speaker 1: But there's a huge difference between understanding your hormones and
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Speaker 1: becoming powerless because of them. So your hormones are part
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Speaker 1: of your physiology. They are not your identity, and they
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Speaker 1: are not your destiny either as to why you can
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Speaker 1: or can't lose weight. Okay, but here's where I want
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Speaker 1: to I want you to know that I understand. Okay,
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Speaker 1: your body can absolutely feel so different, so foreign. In
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Speaker 1: this perimenopause and into menopause space of life. You will
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Speaker 1: notice changes in your menstrual cycles or they stop. You
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Speaker 1: see the changes in your sleep. I talk about sleep
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Speaker 1: all day long with my clients. You see your body
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Speaker 1: completely change from a recomposition. You know, you have fat
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Speaker 1: in places that you just never had fat before. You
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Speaker 1: see yourself not recovering like.
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Speaker 3: You used to.
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Speaker 1: Your mood is all over the place, then our hunger
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Speaker 1: and our appetite is everywhere. Then you just tell me
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Speaker 1: all the time, I have no energy. Like honestly, some
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Speaker 1: women come to me and they're like, yeah, if I
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Speaker 1: lost weight, cool, but like, I just want to have
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Speaker 1: more energy. Libido hands down. We talk about this all
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Speaker 1: the time in my coaching program because even myself, my
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Speaker 1: libido had tanked and I didn't realize like how deep
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Speaker 1: it had tanked. I thought it was fine until I realized, like,
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Speaker 1: oh crap, what I was feeling was not fine, okay,
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Speaker 1: And then your fat distribution will change where all of
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Speaker 1: a sudden a woman will tell me I have fat
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Speaker 1: on my stomach air and I never ever have had
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Speaker 1: this before, Like this is weird. My clothes absolutely don't fit.
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Speaker 1: And it's incredibly frustrating when you're doing the same things
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Speaker 1: that you've done for years and it's always worked in
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Speaker 1: the past. And this is why you can't just tell
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Speaker 1: women while eat less, you know, exercise more that is
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Speaker 1: a super super dismissive statement. And there's another extreme that's
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Speaker 1: equally unhelpful, and it's well, you're just in perimenopause. It's
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Speaker 1: your hormones. They're gonna fluctuate. I mean, how many of
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Speaker 1: you have been in and out of your doctor's office.
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Speaker 1: This is not to slam there are really really great
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Speaker 1: providers out there, but did you ever think that your
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Speaker 1: current provider maybe they just don't understand hormones the way
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Speaker 1: that you want them to. And in with respect, there's
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Speaker 1: some docs that won't even touch hormones because they are
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Speaker 1: so complex. This is something that I have had to
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Speaker 1: learn woman after woman. Myself included where I got super
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Speaker 1: dismissed going in and out of doctor's offices. I got
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Speaker 1: accused of doctor shopping. That was like an interesting one,
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Speaker 1: and then I got tapped on the button given a
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Speaker 1: script for an antidepressant and they just told me I
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Speaker 1: was stressed, when in reality, my hormones were changing and
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Speaker 1: I'm super super in tune with my body and so
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Speaker 1: when it started to not feel right, Okay, Now, for
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Speaker 1: some women, like they have no clue, like life is
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Speaker 1: so crazy, they're so into all these other things. But
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Speaker 1: I was very very in tune with my body, and
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Speaker 1: I was very into I'm very in tune with my
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Speaker 1: body anyways, and I think a lot of you that
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Speaker 1: listen to this are as well. But I after I
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Speaker 1: had our kids. I remember after having our daughter, and
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Speaker 1: I was so scared to struggle because I struggled so
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Speaker 1: much post Leo's birth, and I was so scared to struggle.
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Speaker 1: But I felt so euphoric, and I was just like,
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Speaker 1: oh my god, is this what this is like? Is
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Speaker 1: this what you know most women feel? And here's just
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Speaker 1: what I learned is I went super hyper thyroid to
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Speaker 1: then crash really really hard into hype o thyroidism, and
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Speaker 1: neither is a good thing. Okay, So while post our daughter,
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Speaker 1: I lost like twenty pounds like it was nothing. My
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Speaker 1: hair was falling out. I was so anxious. I was
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Speaker 1: freezing cold all the time, and then boom, I got
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Speaker 1: hit like a ton of bricks and went straight to
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Speaker 1: hypeo and Hair's in defense to all my providers around
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Speaker 1: me at that time is I don't even think they
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Speaker 1: were trained to even run the labs to understand, like dang,
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Speaker 1: Aaron's thyroid is like a hot mess right now and
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Speaker 1: part of it was from her birth. It was also
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Speaker 1: part of it was from breastfeeding.
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Speaker 3: And you know, I.
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Speaker 1: Just it took me a hot second post her birth
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Speaker 1: to really figure out what was going on. And we
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Speaker 1: also had a fair amount of stress in that time
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Speaker 1: and space. We had built a custom house, had to
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Speaker 1: sell our house back to the builder, almost went bankrupt
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Speaker 1: in the process. So there are just the littlest little stress.
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Speaker 1: You know, you got three kids or three kids, We
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Speaker 1: got two kids under two, and I was just like
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Speaker 1: building a custom house, running a business, no big deal, right,
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Speaker 1: But you have the same version of that story. And
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Speaker 1: this is where I'm going to tell you that so
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Speaker 1: many women were looking to our doctor. Okay, I see
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Speaker 1: women do this all the time. They look at their
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Speaker 1: doctor for advice on weight loss. Okay, Now with the
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Speaker 1: rise of the GLPS, okay, we have to go to
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Speaker 1: our doctor, right because they have to prescribe it. But
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Speaker 1: your doctor doesn't understand how to coach you up on nutrition.
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Speaker 1: Your doctor certainly doesn't know how to teach you how
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Speaker 1: to progressively resistance train with proper overload. And so we're
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Speaker 1: going almost to the wrong people trying to figure this
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Speaker 1: all out. And here's The worst thing that happens is
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Speaker 1: a lot of women will go on a GLP because
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Speaker 1: their doctor prescribed it. Now they start losing a bunch
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Speaker 1: of weight. And I mean I talked to woman after
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Speaker 1: woman after woman, and Aaron I lost eighty pounds, but
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Speaker 1: I put it all back on and then some Aaron
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Speaker 1: I lost thirty pounds, but now I'm up forty. Aaron like,
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Speaker 1: I lost all my weight, but I don't like how
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Speaker 1: I look, Like, what do I have to do?
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Speaker 2: So?
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Speaker 1: Your hormones are messengers, Okay, not the villain, and so
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Speaker 1: I want to explain this simply. Hormones are chemical messengers
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Speaker 1: involved in regulating countless processes throughout the whole body. Okay,
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Speaker 1: hormones are impacted everything. Everything gets impacted, and they don't
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Speaker 1: here's what I want to call out. Your hormones don't
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Speaker 1: just wake up one day and decide, let's put fifteen
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Speaker 1: pounds on Susan. That would be fun. Okay, No, they
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Speaker 1: don't do that. They're part of a much much larger system.
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Speaker 1: And like your sleep impacts your physiology, your nutrition affects
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Speaker 1: your physiology. Your energy balance actually matters muscle. Oh my gosh,
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Speaker 1: And we're going to talk more on muscle. Muscle matters
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Speaker 1: to your hormones. Your activity, how much you're doing or
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Speaker 1: not doing, absolutely matters your stress, your recovery, that all matters,
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Speaker 1: your age, your genetics. Those play a huge impact with hormones.
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Speaker 1: I'm constantly asking women, do you know when your mom
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Speaker 1: went into menopause? You know, these are things that sometimes
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Speaker 1: our moms talked about it, sometimes they didn't, and mine
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Speaker 1: did not. And so I've had to really really learn
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Speaker 1: about my body on my own because we're very, very
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Speaker 1: different women. But some days I'm like, man, it would
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Speaker 1: just be nice if she could, you know, clue me
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Speaker 1: into some of this stuff. Okay, your reproductive hormones are
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Speaker 1: changing during this phase, and our body is a system,
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Speaker 1: and so when we're trying to blame everything on a hormone,
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Speaker 1: we often a bigger picture. And so this is where
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Speaker 1: I had to learn more about hormones. I put myself
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Speaker 1: through additional coursework. It was very complex, it was a
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Speaker 1: lot to understand, but I started to really understand that
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Speaker 1: our hormones are they have to work in almost like
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Speaker 1: an orchestra. So you've got your strings, you've got your wins,
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Speaker 1: you've got like you've got everybody trying to play together,
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Speaker 1: and if everybody's playing a different song, well guess what,
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Speaker 1: it's not going to sound very good. Okay, but everybody
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Speaker 1: has to work together. And this is where so many
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Speaker 1: women just want to chalk it up like oh, I'm screwed,
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Speaker 1: it's my hormones. Where I'm like, you're the one that's
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Speaker 1: actually in control of the hormones. When I understood how
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Speaker 1: much I was in control of my hormones, the script
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Speaker 1: changed and I realized really quickly, like, wow, I can
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Speaker 1: actually feel pretty good most days, and I can also
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Speaker 1: have the body that I want because I understand how
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Speaker 1: this all works together. And this is where I want
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Speaker 1: to talk about how dangerous it is for women to
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Speaker 1: use language such as my broken hormones. Okay, because this
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Speaker 1: is a story you're telling yourself.
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Speaker 3: It's not a fact.
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Speaker 1: Okay, you're telling yourself a story, and you're giving a
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Speaker 1: lot of power to something you're actually in control of.
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Speaker 3: Okay.
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Speaker 1: So I want to talk heavy into the mindset, and
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Speaker 1: this is what I coach more than anything. Yes, nuts
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Speaker 1: and bolts when it comes to nutrition and working out
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Speaker 1: in my program, but we have to dig deeper into
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Speaker 1: the mental side. Of this because I want you to change.
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Speaker 3: And never go back.
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Speaker 1: Okay, imagine with me waking up every morning believing my
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Speaker 1: body is broken. What kind of emotion does that create?
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Speaker 1: It creates this hopelessness, this frustration. You've got fear then okay,
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Speaker 1: if we feel those things, then what behavior follows?
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Speaker 3: Why bother? Nothing works?
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Speaker 1: Anyways, I've tried everything. I wait, I'm just gonna wait
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Speaker 1: until my hormones get fixed. Now you're unknowingly handed your
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Speaker 1: power away. So instead of my hormones won't let me
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Speaker 1: lose weight. I want you to try this one on.
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Speaker 1: My physiology has changed, so let's understand what needs to
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Speaker 1: change with it. Okay, this is where we go from
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Speaker 1: being a victim to someone that's curious. And this is
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Speaker 1: one thing that you know. You hear the saying curiosity
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Speaker 1: killed the cat right, Well, last time I checked, those
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Speaker 1: little suckers have like nine lives. And you're kind of like, man,
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Speaker 1: I grew up. This was so funny. We grew up
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Speaker 1: out on four acres and I remember when my parents
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Speaker 1: bought this house. I think I was like in elementary
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Speaker 1: school still. Anyways, they bought this house and it had
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Speaker 1: four acres, big barn and then it had this cat
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Speaker 1: shed and it was full of cats. So we acquired
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Speaker 1: all of these cats. Okay, and cats, oh my god,
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Speaker 1: totally different than dogs. So for all my cat people,
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Speaker 1: like sorry, cats are just very interesting beasts, and I
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Speaker 1: mean they flow with a different curiosity.
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Speaker 3: But we can learn something from that. And so it's important.
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Speaker 1: To be curious. Be curious about your body and what
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Speaker 1: works now, you know. I remember when we were buying
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Speaker 1: our very very first building where we were starting our
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Speaker 1: personal training facility. And this was back circa oh, two
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Speaker 1: thousand and six seven, and I think that was right
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Speaker 1: when there was getting ready to be the recession or whatever.
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Speaker 1: But I remember being a first time home buyer. Okay,
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Speaker 1: actually worked out in our favor, but I remember losing
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Speaker 1: financing on the day of closing. So you're all prepared.
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Speaker 1: I had taken the day off of work. You were
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Speaker 1: all prepared to close on this property. And I remember
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Speaker 1: just having the wind sucked out of my sales like
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Speaker 1: we had already started our business. We were renting the
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Speaker 1: property just two doors down, Like, how the hell can
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Speaker 1: this just happen? Well it did, but here's what I did,
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Speaker 1: unknowing to this curiosity. But I was like, well, I'm
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Speaker 1: gonna have to call every flip and lender I can
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Speaker 1: until I get this figured out, because check this out.
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Speaker 1: Every day that we didn't close on this property, the
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Speaker 1: builder charged us a fee.
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Speaker 3: And that it added up.
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Speaker 1: Okay, but the curiosity of okay, how can I get
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Speaker 1: this figured out? And part of me is like, I'm
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Speaker 1: just tenacious. I won't give up. You know, maybe a
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Speaker 1: little hard headed, but this is where I want you
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Speaker 1: to be with your body is stay curious of you
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Speaker 1: know what, man, I have literally tried everything, but maybe
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Speaker 1: there is one more solution. And this is the kind
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Speaker 1: of mindset not to make you jump to jump to jump, right,
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Speaker 1: Sometimes we need to see something through. But I want
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Speaker 1: you to stay curious because I want you to get
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Speaker 1: away from being a victim. Oh, it's just perimenopause, menopause,
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Speaker 1: and I want you to go into this.
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Speaker 3: Damn. I don't know what works.
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Speaker 1: With my body at this phase of life. And man,
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Speaker 1: this check over here, she seems to have it pretty
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Speaker 1: much together.
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Speaker 3: And I do.
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Speaker 1: I do because I had to figure it out for
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Speaker 1: myself when my body completely changed, when I had weight
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Speaker 1: on my body and for the first time in my life,
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Speaker 1: I was sitting here going what the hell happened?
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Speaker 3: Okay? And I had to figure it out.
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Speaker 1: And this is why I coach and teach the way
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Speaker 1: I do today, because I'm not a twenty something. Okay,
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Speaker 1: I'm not thirty. I'm in my forties now, and I've
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Speaker 1: seen my own body change hard. At thirty eight, I
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Speaker 1: was also taking birth control, I was in a self
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Speaker 1: induced menopause, no libido, night sweats, and I had a
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Speaker 1: good thirty pounds on my body that I wasn't pregnant. Okay,
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Speaker 1: So let's dive deeper into some talk around muscle. So
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Speaker 1: this is a huge section that I want to speak
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Speaker 1: into because this is hands down my wheelhouse. This is
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Speaker 1: what I went to school for. I have an exercise
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Speaker 1: science degree exercise physiologist here, and as women age, maintaining
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Speaker 1: our muscle becomes so critically important. But so many women
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Speaker 1: overlook this, okay, And muscle isn't simply just looking toned.
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Speaker 3: Okay.
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Speaker 1: This is another big misconception, as I've seen a lot
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Speaker 1: of women get on a GOP that maybe didn't have
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Speaker 1: a ton of weight to lose, okay, and now they're
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Speaker 1: just skin and bones. You've got this whole Demi Moore
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Speaker 1: look that I'm like, is this a thing? And I've
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Speaker 1: been looking around the landscape, even in my own city,
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Speaker 1: and I'm like, ooh, that's that's not good. Okay, it's
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Speaker 1: not good to just be skin and bones. And the
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Speaker 1: only reason you look toned is because you're so lean.
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Speaker 1: But I'll tell you what, if the wind blew too hard,
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Speaker 1: you're probably gonna fall over. Okay, now hear me out.
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Speaker 1: We just need to put muscle on your body in
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Speaker 1: an appropriate fashion.
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Speaker 3: Okay.
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Speaker 1: As women age, maintaining muscle becomes increasingly important. And muscle
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Speaker 1: isn't simply about just looking toned. This is about your
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Speaker 1: strength and physical function.
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Speaker 3: Okay.
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Speaker 1: Now, there's a huge running joke with all of my clients.
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Speaker 1: You know, don't get too strong because then your husband
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Speaker 1: starts asking you to help with projects, which full disclosure,
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Speaker 1: my husband like loves doing projects. And I'll be honest,
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Speaker 1: I'm I'm here for most of them, right. I love
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Speaker 1: home improvement and just making things nicer. But OMG, when
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Speaker 1: you put a patio in together in every paver is
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Speaker 1: one hundred more than twenty pounds. That one that one
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Speaker 1: about didisen? Okay, bout didisin? The other one that about
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Speaker 1: didisen was when we decided to paint our fence around
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Speaker 1: our entire property black. Okay, and it's not just one side, right,
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Speaker 1: you gotta paint inside and outside. Oh and then guess
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Speaker 1: what every year or so, you're.
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Speaker 3: Gonna have to repaint this sucker.
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Speaker 1: Now, it looks really cool, so I'm gonna give him that.
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Speaker 1: But I remember when I was painting this blessed fence
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Speaker 1: the first time, which was terrible, but I remember people
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Speaker 1: walking by, okay, and this was the best. So we
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Speaker 1: have a bunch of people that walk their dogs and
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Speaker 1: come by and it's, you know, really great. But I
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Speaker 1: remember a couple people were like, you're gonna paint the
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Speaker 1: whole fence, and I just wanted to be like, no,
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Speaker 1: We're just gonna paint part of it black. Like yes,
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Speaker 1: we're gonna paint the whole damn fence, and it's gonna
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Speaker 1: take me freaking forever and it's gonna look great. But
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Speaker 1: be careful getting too strong, because your husband's gonna sign
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Speaker 1: you up for different projects. Some other really cool things
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Speaker 1: that happen when you support your muscle is your glucose
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Speaker 1: disposal and your insulin sensitivity. Okay, This is why some
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Speaker 1: of these glps work so so well, because it's impacting
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Speaker 1: your insulin and it's a good thing, especially if we
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Speaker 1: have been overweight for a while and maybe we don't
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Speaker 1: have muscle on our body. Listen, this is where it
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Speaker 1: can absolutely be helpful to use a GOLP the right way.
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Speaker 1: But for all my women who are actually metabolically in
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Speaker 1: a really, really good spot, but you're just like, damn,
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Speaker 1: I can't get these last pesky pounds. You can use
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Speaker 1: a GOLP just for a little bit and get the
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Speaker 1: rest off. Okay, So I don't want to make this
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Speaker 1: conversation about glps. I just hate how like these have
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Speaker 1: gotten so skewed in so many different ways. Also, with muscle,
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Speaker 1: your bone health chain in a good way. Okay, we've
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Speaker 1: pulled clients out of osteopena, which is the precursor to osteoporosis.
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Speaker 1: Your metabolic health is way better when you have muscle
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Speaker 1: on your body. I mean, I run labs on my
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Speaker 1: clients and I've seen women in metabolic dysfunction and I'm like, girlfriend,
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Speaker 1: you have to put muscle on your body. You have
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Speaker 1: to fall in love with lifting appropriately. Also, I know
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Speaker 1: we don't think about this here in our forties and fifties.
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Speaker 1: But we have to think about our independence as we age.
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Speaker 1: So you know, for some of us it's total vain
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Speaker 1: and I'm here for it whatever, But you need to
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Speaker 1: think about what you do in your forties, fifties, sixties
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Speaker 1: is going to depict what happens in your seventies and eighties.
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Speaker 1: And you want to age well, okay, and to do
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Speaker 1: that you have to maintain good muscle and good strength.
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Speaker 1: And then a last one that I'll highlight is you
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Speaker 1: want to stay in a good body composition. This is
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Speaker 1: where most women really really struggle because they're carrying too
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Speaker 1: much fat on their body.
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Speaker 3: They don't have any.
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Speaker 1: Muscle, okay, and like you wonder why you're so tired
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Speaker 1: all the time, Well, muscle helps with that. So when
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Speaker 1: women respond to weight gain by doing more cardio and
21:26
Speaker 1: eating less, they can potentially work against another important goal,
21:32
Speaker 1: which is preserving your lean mass. And again, not to
21:36
Speaker 1: mention the GLP one more time, but I appreciate the
21:38
Speaker 1: conversation because now for the first time, everybody's like, oh,
21:41
Speaker 1: I need to protect my lean tissue. Oh I need
21:44
Speaker 1: to put muscle on. Oh I got to eat protein.
21:46
Speaker 1: It's like, okay, cool, I'm glad everybody's talking about this now.
21:49
Speaker 1: So I don't want you to just feel lighter. I
21:53
Speaker 1: want you to be metabolically healthier, physically and stronger. Okay,
21:58
Speaker 1: that's a completely different goal. So there's four levers you
22:05
Speaker 1: can still control. Okay, again, going back to your hormones
22:08
Speaker 1: are not.
22:09
Speaker 3: The villain is.
22:11
Speaker 1: I really want you to think about these four pillars
22:15
Speaker 1: or four levers that you are in control of. You're
22:19
Speaker 1: in control of your strength, so progressive resistance training with
22:23
Speaker 1: appropriate recovery. You're in control of your nutrition, so adequate protein, overall,
22:30
Speaker 1: good nutrient density, and appropriate energy intake for whatever your
22:36
Speaker 1: goal is.
22:37
Speaker 3: Then sleep.
22:38
Speaker 1: I cannot talk enough about sleep. And this is where
22:41
Speaker 1: a lot of women just kind of like chalk this up,
22:43
Speaker 1: like whatever is not because when you sleep you just
22:47
Speaker 1: magically burn fat, but because sleep influences recovery, It influences
22:52
Speaker 1: your growth hormone.
22:54
Speaker 3: Okay, it.
22:56
Speaker 1: Absolutely impacts your appetite, your energy, you're training, your decision making. Okay,
23:01
Speaker 1: Notice anytime that you don't have a good night of sleep,
23:05
Speaker 1: Notice how hungry you are that whole day, how many
23:08
Speaker 1: times you crave carbs, you crave something not so good,
23:12
Speaker 1: and that's grellin and leptin got messed up because you
23:16
Speaker 1: didn't sleep very well. Okay, but what if you were
23:19
Speaker 1: empowered to know? Damn, I didn't sleep well. But you
23:22
Speaker 1: know what, I can still control what I put in
23:25
Speaker 1: my body because this is just the woman that I
23:27
Speaker 1: am now. Okay, your stress and stress and recovery. We
23:33
Speaker 1: cannot eliminate stress, okay, as much as I would love
23:36
Speaker 1: everybody to live kumbayah, No big deal, right, It's just
23:39
Speaker 1: we can't, okay, But you can become better at managing
23:44
Speaker 1: your response to stress and building recovery okay into your life.
23:53
Speaker 1: So we've got to stop spending ninety percent of our
23:56
Speaker 1: mental energy worrying about the things that you can't control,
24:01
Speaker 1: while ignoring the incredibly powerful things you can.
24:05
Speaker 3: Okay.
24:05
Speaker 1: So many women give control to the news, for example,
24:10
Speaker 1: give control to politics, okay, and listen, I can be
24:14
Speaker 1: in that whole rabbit hole too. Or you can give
24:17
Speaker 1: power to your family and oh my gosh, my family
24:22
Speaker 1: said X Y and Z, Oh my gosh, my mom
24:24
Speaker 1: blah blah blah blah blah blah, my parents are aging
24:27
Speaker 1: this that the other, And listen, all of this.
24:29
Speaker 3: Is your choice.
24:31
Speaker 1: It's your choice to respond how you want to respond
24:35
Speaker 1: and listen. I can only speak on this stuff because
24:38
Speaker 1: I have been very, very trained in the mental side
24:43
Speaker 1: of this thing called life. So let's dive deeper into
24:48
Speaker 1: where hormone replacement therapy GLPS, labs, supplements, How do these
24:53
Speaker 1: all fit? Okay, because this is where I am different.
24:57
Speaker 1: I am extremely educated in all of this stuff. We
25:01
Speaker 1: can use labs to help, they are tools. We can
25:06
Speaker 1: use HRT if appropriate. We can use a GOLP if appropriate.
25:10
Speaker 1: We can use supplements again if they are appropriate. But
25:14
Speaker 1: these things will not be the sole reason you lose weight.
25:18
Speaker 3: Okay.
25:19
Speaker 1: HRT will absolutely not make you lose weight. GOLP will
25:22
Speaker 1: make you lose weight. But full disclosure, I have a
25:24
Speaker 1: lot of clients get on and guess what. They're not
25:27
Speaker 1: losing weight? Well, guess what. We still got to get
25:29
Speaker 1: the nutrition piece figured out.
25:32
Speaker 3: Hands down.
25:32
Speaker 1: Supplements will not make you lose weight.
25:35
Speaker 3: Okay.
25:36
Speaker 1: If anything, I pull women off supplements because they're taking
25:39
Speaker 1: so many dang things hoping and praying for a different outcome. Okay,
25:44
Speaker 1: So don't make any of them good or bad. Okay,
25:47
Speaker 1: you maybe feel one way or about a GOLP, but listen,
25:50
Speaker 1: they're tools. Everything is a tool. HRT can be appropriate
25:55
Speaker 1: for a woman after individually evaluating her lapse okay, and
26:03
Speaker 1: understanding her symptoms and connecting her to a medical wellness provider.
26:09
Speaker 1: This is what we do in my coaching program. So
26:12
Speaker 1: I got so frustrated with so many women being gas
26:15
Speaker 1: lit that I sought out and invested in Okay, this
26:19
Speaker 1: actually cost me a fair amount of money to invest
26:23
Speaker 1: in a medical wellness provider that I felt strongly about
26:28
Speaker 1: their ethics, their values, and how we could serve women better.
26:32
Speaker 3: Okay.
26:32
Speaker 1: This was out of my own personal search trying to
26:35
Speaker 1: find a solution for myself, and I saw such a
26:39
Speaker 1: huge gap in the marketplace where women were paying an
26:43
Speaker 1: insane amount of money on a GLP. Then they were
26:46
Speaker 1: getting signed up for some of these MLMs, the LAMD
26:51
Speaker 1: and had the whole MIDI health and all of this,
26:54
Speaker 1: and they were charging women insane amounts of money, let
26:58
Speaker 1: alone this whole insurance game, which don't even get me
27:00
Speaker 1: started there. I've been self employed for twenty years, I
27:03
Speaker 1: haven't had health insurance, so I.
27:05
Speaker 3: Won't even go down that rabbit hole.
27:07
Speaker 1: I've paid literally cash for berths for colonoscopies. I can't
27:12
Speaker 1: wait to see what my husband's lung surgery is gonna
27:15
Speaker 1: cost us.
27:15
Speaker 3: But we'll figure it out.
27:17
Speaker 1: Okay, But everything I'm listing here is a tool. HRT
27:22
Speaker 1: is a tool. GLP can be used appropriately for certain women, Okay,
27:28
Speaker 1: and men labs absolutely can be helpful. We encourage labs.
27:34
Speaker 1: We encourage comprehensive labs in understanding what's optimal for you personally.
27:40
Speaker 1: Perimenopause isn't just this, like, here's your diagnosis. It is
27:44
Speaker 1: a time and space. So many women get so confused.
27:47
Speaker 1: You're like, oh my god, my doctor told me I
27:49
Speaker 1: was in perimenopause.
27:50
Speaker 3: I go cool, me too.
27:52
Speaker 1: All perimenopause means is you are in this fluctuating space
27:57
Speaker 1: of life. For most women, it starts right around. For me,
28:01
Speaker 1: it hit at thirty eight. I've had other clients that
28:03
Speaker 1: hit at thirty five, thirty six, but it's really towards
28:06
Speaker 1: forty that we feel it. And then we do not
28:09
Speaker 1: hit menopause until we have seized our mensies for an
28:14
Speaker 1: entire year. Okay, So saddle up. This is going to
28:19
Speaker 1: be a second and this is where we need to
28:21
Speaker 1: validate the symptoms and things that we're feeling, but are
28:25
Speaker 1: you doing all the things?
28:27
Speaker 3: Okay, So if you are.
28:29
Speaker 1: Going to go down the rabbit hole of HRT, and
28:32
Speaker 1: I'm going to say it this way, is you need
28:34
Speaker 1: a provider that is going to look at your labs
28:37
Speaker 1: preferably every ninety days, and you're going to have to
28:41
Speaker 1: evaluate how did I respond? Do I need to change
28:44
Speaker 1: in dose? You know, even for myself, I have been
28:47
Speaker 1: checking my labs for these last two years, and for
28:50
Speaker 1: the first time I saw my trends going down to
28:53
Speaker 1: where I needed some support with testosterone. And it actually
28:57
Speaker 1: makes a lot of sense because I wasn't feeling a
28:59
Speaker 1: whole lot of of symptoms, but I was trying to
29:02
Speaker 1: put muscle mass on and I'm like, man, what is
29:04
Speaker 1: going on? Like it just feels like I'm having to
29:06
Speaker 1: work harder to put it on. And so it can
29:10
Speaker 1: be helpful, but full disclosure, you've got to keep doing
29:13
Speaker 1: your labs to understand am I good? Am I not good?
29:16
Speaker 1: Is it shooting it through the roof?
29:17
Speaker 3: Is it too much?
29:19
Speaker 1: And you need to constantly make adjustments. This is hands
29:22
Speaker 1: down why most doctors choose not to do a hormone
29:26
Speaker 1: replacement therapy. Because it's a lot and it takes a
29:29
Speaker 1: lot to manage. Okay, but there can be some really,
29:33
Speaker 1: really great providers out there who have really taken the
29:35
Speaker 1: time and have clinical experience that is priceless. So your
29:40
Speaker 1: supplements they're going to fill a specific need. We prefer
29:44
Speaker 1: that you supplement what you're deficient in that you're not
29:47
Speaker 1: getting from real food. Okay, it doesn't mask not eating well,
29:54
Speaker 1: we're not exercising, okay, but none of these eliminate the
29:59
Speaker 1: need for having muscle on our body, for having really
30:03
Speaker 1: good nutrition most of the time, sleep recovery, and a
30:07
Speaker 1: sustainable habit behavior. So a tool can support our strategy.
30:12
Speaker 1: A tool should never become the entire strategy. Doctors should never,
30:17
Speaker 1: ever ever prescribe a GLP without someone having proper coaching
30:22
Speaker 1: and support around muscle nutrition and progressive resistance training. It
30:27
Speaker 1: just shouldn't be allowed. But there's so much money to
30:29
Speaker 1: be had that it's never going to change. So we've
30:34
Speaker 1: got to stop chasing our symptoms because women will tell
30:37
Speaker 1: me all the time, I have belly fat, It must
30:40
Speaker 1: be my cortisol. Oh, it's my cortisol, belly un listen.
30:42
Speaker 1: I freaking hate the internet for all the confusion. Also,
30:46
Speaker 1: to anyone can say they're an expert in this industry,
30:50
Speaker 1: you need to know that they have a degree in this,
30:53
Speaker 1: they're highly educated in this, and their certifications weren't just
30:57
Speaker 1: some weekend certification.
30:59
Speaker 3: Right.
31:00
Speaker 1: Anyone can say they're a nutritionist. So this is a
31:03
Speaker 1: term that gets thrown around all the time. I have
31:05
Speaker 1: women tell me, oh, I have a nutritionist through my insurance,
31:09
Speaker 1: and I'm like, cool, how's that working?
31:10
Speaker 3: Whoa not seeing any results? Cool?
31:13
Speaker 1: That person doesn't have to have any credentials at all.
31:17
Speaker 1: So another thing that I hear is aaron, I'm just tired.
31:21
Speaker 1: It has to be my estrogen. I can't lose weight,
31:24
Speaker 1: must be my thyroid? Maybe okay, But symptoms can have
31:29
Speaker 1: multiple causes. So instead of diagnosing yourself from Instagram, become curious.
31:36
Speaker 1: Ask what does my sleep look like? Is it really
31:39
Speaker 1: that good or is it pretty rough? What does my
31:42
Speaker 1: nutrition actually look like? Am I eating whole real foods?
31:47
Speaker 3: You know? Do I need to lose some weight? Okay?
31:49
Speaker 1: Do I know how to actually partner the right foods
31:52
Speaker 1: to do that? Am I progressively strength training? Do you
31:56
Speaker 1: understand what overloads should look like? How much should you
32:01
Speaker 1: move your body. How am I recovering? This is a
32:04
Speaker 1: big one that most women miss because you're a driver.
32:07
Speaker 1: You're going to get after it, and by god, we're
32:10
Speaker 1: going to run the marathon. Okay, love you any of
32:12
Speaker 1: my clients that are training for a marathon right now.
32:15
Speaker 3: That was not a slam.
32:16
Speaker 1: But I give women a hard time just because I'm
32:19
Speaker 1: a recovering runner and running is just hands down not
32:23
Speaker 1: positive in this perimenopausal menopausal space of life because we
32:28
Speaker 1: can overtrain. Then, especially if you're trying to lose weight,
32:32
Speaker 1: then it's like, you know, you're you're creating a calorie
32:35
Speaker 1: deficit that's so deep that like you're going to eat
32:38
Speaker 1: your arm, and then we typically do because it's so
32:41
Speaker 1: hard when you've trained and you need more calories. So
32:45
Speaker 1: I tell my clients like, get to the goal, hey,
32:48
Speaker 1: then we can add this back in or you know
32:50
Speaker 1: the whole deal with high rocks and all that stuff now,
32:53
Speaker 1: which hands down, I would love this stuff. Now, personally,
32:56
Speaker 1: I'm not going to go do it because I want
32:57
Speaker 1: to put more muscle on my body and it's just
32:59
Speaker 1: counter productive. Or you have to really be okay with
33:04
Speaker 1: what your nutrition needs to look like, and you have
33:06
Speaker 1: to get through. So for all my women that want
33:08
Speaker 1: to do all this fun stuff, I'm with you. Get
33:11
Speaker 1: your body in a really, really good spot and then
33:14
Speaker 1: you can play with it. Okay, don't guess at a
33:17
Speaker 1: diagnosis when you could investigate the whole picture. This is
33:21
Speaker 1: where most women don't know how to put together the
33:23
Speaker 1: whole picture. So your body needs a new strategy, not punishment. Okay,
33:30
Speaker 1: this will be emotional. Maybe the strategy that worked for
33:34
Speaker 1: you at twenty seven isn't going to be the strategy
33:37
Speaker 1: here at forty seven. And it's okay. It doesn't mean
33:41
Speaker 1: you've failed. It means you have changed. Stop punishing your
33:46
Speaker 1: changing body by eating less, training harder, add in more
33:50
Speaker 1: cardio orange theory f forty five, all these crazy workouts
33:54
Speaker 1: like again, they would be fun CrossFit.
33:57
Speaker 3: We'll throw that in there.
33:59
Speaker 1: By and another supplement, please stop, save yourself some money.
34:03
Speaker 3: Okay, most of them, you're just yeah.
34:06
Speaker 1: Unless you order labs, there's no purpose to taking a supplement,
34:09
Speaker 1: and those supplements need to.
34:10
Speaker 3: Have rhyme and reason.
34:12
Speaker 1: What does this version of my body need from Mekay?
34:17
Speaker 1: This is a very very different relationship asking yourself what
34:20
Speaker 1: does this version? Okay, this new version of myself. What
34:24
Speaker 1: does it need? What does my body need from me?
34:29
Speaker 1: So I want you to stop waiting to be fixed, okay,
34:35
Speaker 1: Like I just need to get on HRT and that's
34:36
Speaker 1: going to solve all my life problems, okay, because for
34:39
Speaker 1: most women it doesn't. For most women, it does make
34:42
Speaker 1: you feel better, and that's very very important. I talk
34:44
Speaker 1: about that all the time. Or they'll get on a golp.
34:47
Speaker 1: And again, I'm a huge fan of golps. But you
34:50
Speaker 1: gotta do it the right way so you don't have
34:55
Speaker 1: to wait for perfect hormones, perfect labs, which I'm just
34:58
Speaker 1: going to tell you after doing my labs of a
35:00
Speaker 1: jillion times now, they're never going to be perfect, okay,
35:03
Speaker 1: Like even myself, like I seek perfection and I'm like,
35:07
Speaker 1: oh wow, my cholesterol is still off the charts. Cool,
35:10
Speaker 1: still trying to figure that one out. But for me,
35:12
Speaker 1: I've just stayed very very curious, and I run additional
35:15
Speaker 1: testing and I've had you know, the calcium score heart
35:18
Speaker 1: scans done, which I have a calcium score of zero,
35:21
Speaker 1: So okay, what gives right? And I'm still trying to
35:25
Speaker 1: figure out what hits that and what doesn't. So it
35:30
Speaker 1: doesn't need to be perfect hormones, perfect labs, perfect sleep,
35:33
Speaker 1: perfect motivation, or the perfect phase of your cycle before
35:39
Speaker 1: you start taking care of you. Okay, you can begin
35:43
Speaker 1: building this woman you want to become right now, and
35:49
Speaker 1: every workout, every meal, every bedtime, walk, boundary and recovery
35:54
Speaker 1: decision becomes your evidence. I am a woman who knows
35:58
Speaker 1: how to care for this body in this season of life. Okay,
36:03
Speaker 1: this is really important because your hormones matter, perimenopause matters,
36:08
Speaker 1: menopause matters, your symptoms deserve to be taken seriously, and
36:14
Speaker 1: sometimes medical treatment is absolutely needs to be.
36:17
Speaker 3: In this conversation.
36:19
Speaker 1: Okay, but I don't want to ever hear someone walking
36:23
Speaker 1: away believing this is happening to me. Therefore there's nothing
36:28
Speaker 1: I can do. There is so much you can influence
36:32
Speaker 1: your strength, nutrition, recovery, habits, environment, your mindset, your willingness
36:40
Speaker 1: to advocate for the appropriate medical care.
36:44
Speaker 3: When you need it.
36:46
Speaker 1: Okay, So I want you to stop making your hormones
36:49
Speaker 1: the villain, start understanding them, supporting your body, and taking
36:56
Speaker 1: ownership of everything that's within your power. For most women,
37:01
Speaker 1: I sincerely empower them on Hey, this is what your
37:05
Speaker 1: nutrition actually needs to look like for so many women,
37:09
Speaker 1: they're like, damn, I was overeating okay, And it's really
37:14
Speaker 1: helping a woman understand what's appropriate okay, and understanding what's
37:20
Speaker 1: an appropriate calorie deficit for how long? And again, it
37:24
Speaker 1: all has to work with your hormones. So you don't
37:30
Speaker 1: need to ask our body to fight harder. Maybe it's
37:37
Speaker 1: asking you to learn how to work with it. And
37:42
Speaker 1: this is what I coach and teach in my Infinite
37:44
Speaker 1: Women Coaching program. So if this is heading home, because
37:48
Speaker 1: I know it is, you're listening to this going damn,
37:50
Speaker 1: this girl is saying all the things that I have said,
37:53
Speaker 1: I want you to know that there's real help out there.
37:56
Speaker 3: I am a real person.
37:57
Speaker 1: I've been doing this for a hot minute. I've been
38:00
Speaker 1: in business for eighteen almost nineteen years, Okay, I'm not
38:04
Speaker 1: twenty thirty something. We're not going to just count cute macros,
38:08
Speaker 1: but we're going to lean into the right strategies that
38:12
Speaker 1: work with your body because we don't need to struggle.
38:15
Speaker 1: You don't need to struggle through this anymore. You need
38:17
Speaker 1: a life with a strategy