When She Wants It More: The Desire Gap Nobody Talks About | Ep. 196

Taboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50 · Aug 21, 2026 · 8m

Everyone pictures the same scene when they think about mismatched desire: he's reaching, she's pulling away. I want you to picture the opposite couple today, the ones where she's the one lying in bed hoping and he's the one already half asleep.

That reversal comes with a specific kind of shame nobody names out loud. She starts wondering if she's too much. He starts wondering if something is wrong with his masculinity. Neither one chose that script, and neither one did anything wrong by living inside it.

I'm walking through why the old idea that men are simply wired to want more sex doesn't…