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Gratitude Unlocked 4/7: Stop Second-Guessing. Your Past Has Receipts. #TrustYourselfThursday · Dr. Derek H. Suite MD - The SuiteSpot

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  SPEAKER_00: Welcome back, welcome back, sweet spotters.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're back and it's Thursday.
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  SPEAKER_00: Amen.
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  SPEAKER_00: Wow, you did it.
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  SPEAKER_00: So look, you can't trust yourself when you're trapped in fear, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: And you can't find calm when you forget what's already worked in your life.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's what today is all about.
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  SPEAKER_00: Learning how gratitude and trust walk hand in hand.
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  SPEAKER_00: Welcome, welcome to the sweet spot, my friends.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm Dr.
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  SPEAKER_00: Derek Sweet.
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  SPEAKER_00: As you know, I'm a board certified psychiatrist.
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  SPEAKER_00: Some call me a performance strategist, but more than anything, I'm a lifelong student of the intersection of science, soul, and success.
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  SPEAKER_00: I've been really pushing this nexus, this connection of like how does science connect to the soul and how do they come together to bring success?
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  SPEAKER_00: And gratitude is showing me the way.
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  SPEAKER_00: Do you know that every faith, every wisdom tradition, every culture has tied gratitude to trust?
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  SPEAKER_00: And I'm not just saying that because it's trust yourself Thursday, really, real talk.
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  SPEAKER_00: The Hebrews they sang, give thanks, trust him at all times.
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  SPEAKER_00: The Stoics taught gratitude is a power for the present moment and proof that the universe is not against you.
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  SPEAKER_00: In Buddhist teaching, gratitude dissolves grasping.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's how you stop fighting reality and start flowing with it instead of clinging to it.
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  SPEAKER_00: And even in indigenous traditions, giving thanks in the morning to the rain for the harvest, all of that wasn't just a ceremony.
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  SPEAKER_00: It was those traditions finding alignment with the universe.
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  SPEAKER_00: What it was saying is I can trust the rhythm of life.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
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  SPEAKER_00: Trust and gratitude have always been connected across the universe, across the timeline.
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  SPEAKER_00: Melody Beattie, one of my favorite authors, as I've been saying to you and talking to you about her amazing poem on gratitude, she said this: gratitude turns denial into acceptance.
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  SPEAKER_00: And the scriptures, the ancient wisdom, says the same thing in its own language.
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  SPEAKER_00: In Psalm 28:7, it says this the Lord is my strength and my shield.
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  SPEAKER_00: My heart trusts in him, and he helps me.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you know what?
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  SPEAKER_00: My heart leaps for joy.
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  SPEAKER_00: And with song, I praise him.
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  SPEAKER_00: Do you see the pattern?
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  SPEAKER_00: The trust begins when you remember where your help really comes from.
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  SPEAKER_00: And the gratitude is the natural response once you recognize that help has already arrived.
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  SPEAKER_00: So that verse that I just told you, the Lord is my strength and my shield, my heart trusts in him and he helps me.
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  SPEAKER_00: And my heart leaps for joy, and I praise him with song.
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  SPEAKER_00: That verse moves like a heartbeat.
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  SPEAKER_00: Trust, strength, gratitude expressed.
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  SPEAKER_00: I trust in something, I derive strength from it, and then I express it.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's the rhythm we're training today.
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  SPEAKER_00: And look, the apostle Paul takes it one step further in 1 Thessalonians.
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  SPEAKER_00: The verse goes like this: Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances, for this is God's will for you in Christ Jesus.
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  SPEAKER_00: So Paul is reminding us that gratitude isn't just a reaction to good times.
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  SPEAKER_00: I think that's where we kind of all get off the bus and feel like we're good.
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  SPEAKER_00: But it's not that.
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  SPEAKER_00: Paul is reminding us that gratitude isn't just a reaction for good times, it's a way of staying spiritually and mentally aligned through every circumstance.
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  SPEAKER_00: And this is very important because, as you know, life will throw a whole lot of challenges, obstacles, disappointments, problems, and issues at you.
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  SPEAKER_00: So this verse about rejoicing always, praying continually, giving thanks in every circumstance, that's not just fluff.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's real talk.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's how you stay spiritually and mentally aligned.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's how gratitude gives you the balance and the power in every circumstance.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because you see, to give thanks in all things is to trust that something redemptive is already at work, even when the outcome isn't visible yet.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you know, our ancestors, our parents, our aunties, our uncles, man, do they understand this.
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  SPEAKER_00: The older folks got this, they really get it.
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  SPEAKER_00: So these Bible verses they paint the full picture.
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  SPEAKER_00: Gratitude anchors your heart in what's true.
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  SPEAKER_00: Trust moves you forward with peace.
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  SPEAKER_00: One steadies your faith, the other fuels your courage.
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  SPEAKER_00: And when they work together, gratitude and trust, when they start working together, you start bracing for what could go wrong and you start believing in what's already right.
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  SPEAKER_00: I've been telling you about this star player, like his word is believe, and it's belief.
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  SPEAKER_00: Not even belief, it's believe.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you know, he plays like somebody who understands gratitude and trust.
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  SPEAKER_00: He plays like somebody who believes.
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  SPEAKER_00: He doesn't brace for what could go wrong, he believes in what's already right, and that gives him confidence.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if you're an athlete, you're a high performer, understand that gratitude builds trust in the grind.
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  SPEAKER_00: Remember every practice, every rep that once felt impossible has now made you stronger.
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  SPEAKER_00: When you push yourself to that limit and passed it.
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  SPEAKER_00: For a leader, you know what gratitude does?
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  SPEAKER_00: It builds trust in judgment.
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  SPEAKER_00: Remember the choices that scared you but turned out to shape your path?
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe you're a parent, maybe you're a caregiver.
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  SPEAKER_00: Remember that gratitude will build your trust every time you bounce back.
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  SPEAKER_00: Gratitude builds your trust and resilience.
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  SPEAKER_00: Every night you thought you had nothing left.
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  SPEAKER_00: Every time you crawl into bed, tired, exhausted, just a bag of bones, okay?
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  SPEAKER_00: Just trying to figure it out.
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  SPEAKER_00: Somehow you showed up the next morning.
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  SPEAKER_00: And we thank you for that.
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  SPEAKER_00: Every caregiver out there that's doing that, we thank you.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're a real hero.
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  SPEAKER_00: And we know the gratitude is what's fueling you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Anyone walking through pain right now, anyone dealing with stress, with change, with gratitude is building trust and and and it's building trust in the healing process.
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  SPEAKER_00: Know that when you practice gratitude, you're seeing a light, you're feeling a power, you're finding something to be thankful for, and it's granting you peace in the middle of the storm.
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  SPEAKER_00: Realizing through gratitude that what tried to break you built you instead.
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  SPEAKER_00: And here's what's happening underneath it all, my friend.
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  SPEAKER_00: When you focus on what's steady, your body is listening.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your brain, the CEO, the prefrontal cortex.
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  SPEAKER_00: I know I keep saying it, it's listening.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your amygdala, the fear center, it starts to chill when you start moving in gratitude.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your breath begins to slow down, your heart rate begins to even out as your vagal tone, your vagus nerve begins to take over.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your nervous system receives a message from gratitude, and you know what the message is?
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  SPEAKER_00: Hey, she's thankful, something must be safe around here.
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  SPEAKER_00: Hey, he's walking in gratitude, it must be safe.
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  SPEAKER_00: The sense of safety, that sense of safety, that's the soil where trust grows.
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  SPEAKER_00: Bong bong, as they say.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, it's trust yourself Thursday.
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  SPEAKER_00: So that's where this all makes sense.
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  SPEAKER_00: That gratitude and trust go together.
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  SPEAKER_00: You don't need to control every outcome.
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  SPEAKER_00: God knows I wish I could, but you can't.
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  SPEAKER_00: You just need to remember that the times that you couldn't control things, something carried you through the chaos.
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  SPEAKER_00: That memory, my friend, that memory of the times that you got through and you didn't even know how that medicine, that memory is medicine.
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  SPEAKER_00: Take a breath with me.
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  SPEAKER_00: Inhale.
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  SPEAKER_00: Think of one time life surprised you with mercy, a favor, the unexpected positive surprise.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then exhale and say thank you.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is not a ritual, this is a mental rehearsal, an exercise you could do every single day.
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  SPEAKER_00: Take a breath in and think of something that you're thankful for and breathe out.
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  SPEAKER_00: Every breath like that teaches your body to trust the moment you're in.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's automatic.
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  SPEAKER_00: I once asked a player going through a very rough stretch.
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  SPEAKER_00: What keep what kept what keeps you grounded, my guy?
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  SPEAKER_00: He said, duh, I just keep thanking God for the doors I didn't plan to walk through.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that stuck with me.
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  SPEAKER_00: I just kept thanking God for the doors I didn't plan to walk through.
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  SPEAKER_00: Wow.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's gratitude evolving into trust.
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  SPEAKER_00: Seeing that what didn't go your way still got you where you needed to be.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, my friend, that's the move for today.
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  SPEAKER_00: Before you make your next decision, before you question your path, before you worry yourself to death, pause and whisper.
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  SPEAKER_00: Thank you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Thank you for bringing me this far.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let that sentence be your proof.
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  SPEAKER_00: Proof that you've already survived, you've adapted, you've grown, you've got this.
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  SPEAKER_00: Proof that you can trust yourself for what's next.
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  SPEAKER_00: You've done it before, I know you have.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because gratitude doesn't erase uncertainty, it replaces your panic with proof.
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  SPEAKER_00: Remember those times and be grateful and watch it help you even now.
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  SPEAKER_00: So wherever you are right now, locker room, boardroom, hospital floor, on the job, at home, kitchen.
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  SPEAKER_00: Breathe, trust, and remember.
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  SPEAKER_00: You've already earned the right to believe in yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let me put it another way.
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  SPEAKER_00: There's a saying in the word that he prepares a table before me in the presence of my enemies.
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  unknown: Wow.
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  SPEAKER_00: So much to be grateful for.
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  SPEAKER_00: Things are gonna work out.
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  SPEAKER_00: Keep trusting, keep believing, keep going.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let's do this all right now.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay, hey, thank you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Thank you for listening.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is Dr.
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  SPEAKER_00: Derek Sweet.
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  SPEAKER_00: It is Trust Yourself Thursday on the sweet spot.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you liked this, if it spoke to you, if you felt something positive, please share it with someone who might need it today.
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  SPEAKER_00: You never know when people need something, they need to hear a message, something a little different.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I'm trusting you to make the right move.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'll see you tomorrow.
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  SPEAKER_00: Tomorrow is Friday, but not just any Friday, my friend.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know what time it is.
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  SPEAKER_00: Oh, yes, indeed.
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  SPEAKER_00: It is finished strong Friday.
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  SPEAKER_00: So you know what we got to do.
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  SPEAKER_00: Alright, amen now.
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  SPEAKER_00: Talk to you soon.