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Hypnosis for Sleep Anxiety - Transforming Night-Time Worry into Calm and Clarity · The Hypnotist

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  Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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  access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing
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  genuine. Issues.
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  Brought to you by The Hypnotherapist, Demanded by
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  celebrities, CEOs and even royalty, Adam Cox.
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  These recordings took place live from Adam Smith in London's
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  world famous Harley Street. So get yourself comfortable and
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  enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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  Hi, it's Adam here and you're about to listen to a sleep
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  hypnosis session all about helping you have a sense of calm
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  and clarity. And it's designed to do 2
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  things. One, help you have a really good
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  night's sleep. And secondly, have suggestions
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  that make you feel that those things that you've been worrying
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  about, those what if questions about things going horribly
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  wrong actually instead gives you a feeling that whatever comes
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  up, you can handle it. And actually give you this
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  feeling of resilience and calm and optimism that even if life
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  throws some difficult things, you've got the resources to
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  manage it. And by the way, it's better to
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  believe that and be wrong than believe that things are going to
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  go horribly wrong and be right. So therefore, this is a much
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  better belief system, even if you believe that everything's
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  going to be fine. But the key caveat is that if
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  something happens, you have the resources to handle it.
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  And that's a very important suggestion because that is the
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  suggestion of resilience rather than what if this horrible thing
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  happens and you can't handle it is exactly the thought structure
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  of anxiety. So if you get anxious, if you
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  worry about things while you're sleeping, I think you're going
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  to get some value from this session.
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  And if you want something created just for you, check out
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  my website Adamcoxco UK. We'll have a look in the
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  descripcion for various links and resources that might help
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  you in a different way. But for now, find a quiet,
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  comfortable place where you won't be distracted or
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  disturbed. Relax and enjoy the session.
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  Take a deep breath in, and as you breathe in, breathe in that
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  wonderful feeling of calm and relaxation.
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  And as you exhale, just allow yourself to feel that you have
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  permission to feel whatever you feel.
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  There is no obligation to feel relaxed if you're not relaxed,
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  to try and create stress or anxiety if your body doesn't
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  need it. In the same way that you can't
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  change the seasons or change the weather, just imagine that
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  sometimes emotions come up and emotions go away, and not once
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  has any emotion been permanent. All emotions are temporary, and
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  you've experienced thousands of emotions, and not once has any
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  emotion been impossible to manage.
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  You managed every single one, and therefore all emotions are
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  temporary and all emotions are manageable.
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  And the more you think about that, the truer it becomes.
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  And sometimes the moment you evaluate something as manageable
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  and temporary, it has a very different connotation.
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  The big scary monster becomes the little mouse running away.
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  The thing that was haunting you now becomes as meaningless as a
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  shadow, knowing that it exists but has no power over you.
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  So as you breathe in and breathe out, I want you to imagine a
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  time when you fell asleep in a place where it might be more
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  challenging to fall asleep. Maybe an uncomfortable chair in
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  a public place. But I want you to imagine that
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  you are observing you. Rather than reliving the moment,
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  float back-to-back then and see yourself moments before you
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  drifted off. And maybe there were clues your
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  eyelids started getting heavier where you were blinking more
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  often, or the muscles in your neck just lost their ability to
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  keep your head up, and you nodded downwards, maybe more
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  than once. And as you observe that version
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  of you, you can't help but come to a conclusion that if you can
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  sleep there, you can sleep anywhere.
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  Because that wasn't the best place to sleep, and yet you were
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  falling asleep anyway. And that is because sometimes
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  the best way to fall asleep is not to try at all.
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  To just allow your body to do what your body is already
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  capable of doing. And when you see that version of
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  you nodding off into that deep sleep in the most inappropriate
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  of places, I want you to float into that version of you and
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  feel connected with the idea that you can drift off into deep
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  relaxation and inward space even if people are around.
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  But imagine you're having a dream.
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  A dream of being in the most comfortable bed that's ever been
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  created. Let's go from the worst place to
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  sleep to the very best place to sleep.
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  And I want you to imagine that your bed is in a quiet place,
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  the temperature just right, fresh air.
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  Imagine no loud sounds around. Imagine privacy even.
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  Imagine the materials conducive to making you feel safe and
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  relaxed. You might imagine Egyptian
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  cotton, silk sheets, soft duvets, A fragrance linked to
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  relaxation. And as I countdown from 5 to 1,
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  I want you to imagine a dream within a dream.
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  There you are, in that uncomfortable place, dreaming
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  that you're in a place that is perfect.
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  And then imagine 5 getting more relaxed, 4 eyelids heavier, 3
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  drifting deeper now two and one drifting in a dream deeper
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  still. And I want you to imagine that
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  in that dream you can allow any thoughts to come up that might
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  feel real or not real. But isn't it strange that when
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  you're dreaming, it all feels real, whether it makes sense or
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  not? It's only when you awake you
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  even have a clue that it was just a dream.
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  One of the strange things about sleep is that the harder someone
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  tries to make it happen, the further away it seems to drift.
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  And what if sleep is something that arrives when you make less
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  effort? And so for now, the goal is not
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  to sleep, it's just to imagine a dream within a dream based on
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  the idea of sleeping, giving yourself the simple permission
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  to just rest and relax. And there's been times in your
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  life that something was difficult because there was
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  pressure, and the same thing without this pressure became
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  easy. When you remove the pressure, it
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  changes everything to breathe in a feeling of relaxation, exhale
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  any tension. Dreaming within a dream within a
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  dream. How many people discover
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  something curious about anxiety that often it's not the anxiety
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  itself linked to something, it's the anxiety about the idea of
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  being anxious that creates the very anxiety you're looking to
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  avoid. Thoughts like what if I feel
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  anxious? What if I can't sleep?
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  What if tomorrow is ruined because I can't get to sleep?
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  And what if that prompts the mind to try to solve a problem
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  that hasn't actually happened yet?
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  And then not knowing if you can solve a problem that hasn't
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  happened creates more anxiety about what will happen if you
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  can't, which creates more tension, which creates more
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  awareness, which creates the very physiological reactions the
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  mind was trying to avoid. Like a loop.
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  You've seen it once or twice where a microphone gets too
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  close to a speaker and creates that horrible feedback loop.
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  Something feeding on something. Feeding on something creates a
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  horrible screech. Loops can be broken, and one of
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  the simplest ways is to stop fighting the experience.
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  Anxiety is not an enemy, it's just information, the signal, a
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  prompt, a messenger. Within that dream, within a
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  dream, I want you to imagine a giant pendulum swinging.
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  And on one side of the pendulum are the things you control, like
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  your breathing, your choices, your perspective.
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  And when it swings the other way, on the other side are all
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  those things you cannot control. Other people's thoughts, the
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  exact moment that sleep arrives, Tomorrow's outcomes that you
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  don't control. And sometimes anxiety appears
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  when the mind tries to control the side of the pendulum that
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  was never meant to be controlled.
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  Peace does not come from controlling everything.
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  Peace comes from knowing what doesn't require control.
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  If you can't control it, then accept it and focus your
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  attention on controlling those things that you can control.
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  And sleep is one of those things you can influence but never
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  quite control. Sleep comes when the body
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  realizes there is no problem left to solve, or that can be
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  solved right now, and when you accept that there's nothing that
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  needs to be done. Quite often the problem solving
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  part of the brain just drifts off to the very sleep that you
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  will be joining it. And I wonder if you can imagine,
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  just for a moment, that anxiety is not a problem.
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  Imagine instead that anxiety is simply a signpost, a quiet nudge
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  from the mind saying something here deserves attention.
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  Not panic, not alarm, just curiosity.
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  And when anxiety is treated as a signpost rather than a threat,
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  something positively unusual happens.
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  The emotional intensity reduces because the mind no longer needs
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  to shout. It can become more subtle.
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  And I wonder if it could have a new meaning.
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  Some of the most insightful people in the world developed
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  their understanding because they were sensitive, because they
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  noticed things, because they reflected deeply.
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  Anxiety often belongs to people who care, people who think,
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  people who imagine possibilities.
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  And what if those same abilities can be tamed and harnessed to
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  become strengths? The ability to notice emotions
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  creates empathy, and the ability to imagine outcomes creates
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  creativity. The ability to reflect creates
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  wisdom. Anxiety does not have to mean
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  suffering. It can mean awareness.
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  And awareness can become anything you choose it to be.
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  Awareness can be expression, freedom, curiosity, even
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  excitement or challenge. And what if anxiety became a
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  challenge to figure out a new way of thinking about the thing
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  itself? Where focus goes, energy flows.
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  What if anxiety becomes a puzzle?
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  All that signpost, all that challenge.
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  And sooner or later you will want to feel the anxiety because
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  when you respond to it, once you solve the puddle and that puzzle
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  is solved. But once you accomplish the
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  challenge or interpret the signpost, and that same anxiety
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  becomes elusive because you've already met the underlying need.
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  And you may remember that there are situations where calmness
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  comes naturally, moments where the mind feels capable.
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  Situations where you trust yourself.
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  I want you to think of times when you're helping others.
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  Maybe it's when you're mediating difficult conversations or doing
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  something social. When you feel relaxed, letting
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  loose, or resourceful. And those experiences aren't
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  just memories. They prove something
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  irrefutable, that the ability to remain calm, to give things a
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  meaning that works for you, already exists within.
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  It simply appears more easily when the mind believes it has
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  options, and the same options exist here.
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  You can rest, you can think, you can lie quietly, and you can
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  even detach from the anxiety, observing it like clouds in the
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  sky or leaves on a stream, and still be completely safe.
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  There's an old idea that pain is inevitable, but suffering is
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  optional. Pain is simply sensation, but
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  suffering is the story we attach to it.
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  And I want you to imagine that you will give new stories to
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  anxiety that mean that even if they come along, you consider
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  them temporary, manageable, and dare I say it, even useful to
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  help you grow, evolve, become more resilient.
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  Because when you know how to tame anxiety, to make it work
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  for you rather than against you, it becomes an ally rather than
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  an enemy. The next time anxiety appears,
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  set yourself the challenge to get as curious as possible.
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  And you know the sounds attached to curiosity.
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  You know the thinking noise is like.
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  And notice how difficult it is to feel curious and anxious at
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  the same time. The more curious you become, the
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  more elusive anxiety is. But you might catch the tale of
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  it before it goes to give it a new meaning or learn something
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  valuable to make it work for you.
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  And while you're there, in a dream within a dream within a
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  dream, you now have choices. Very soon I will count from 1:00
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  to 10:00, and if you desire to awake when I reach the number
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  10, you will awaken. But if you desire, because the
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  timing is right, to drift into an even deeper sleep, then when
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  I count from 1:00 to 10:00, it will give you permission to
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  transition into deep, rejuvenating, wonderful,
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  relaxing sleep. And you will only awake at the
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  appropriate time when you've got the sleep that you need.
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  Starting to count 123. 45. 6789 and 10.
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