I Spent Years Deciding Which Version of Me Belonged in the Room

Living Midlife In Color · Oct 15, 2026 · 24m · transcript

Have you ever changed pieces of yourself depending on who was in the room?

For years, I did exactly that.

I became so good at deciding which version of myself belonged in the room that eventually I had to ask myself a much harder question: Who am I when I'm not performing for anyone else?

In this episode of Living Midlife in Color, I'm sharing one of my most revealing Midlife Confessions yet. We’re talking about code-switching, identity, belonging, fear of rejection, and what can happen when adapting to different environments slowly turns into editing yourself.

I also share a personal story…