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Episode 78: Time Management - mindsets that will shift your perspective · The Habit Lab

• 1:08
  Speaker 1: We all have areas in our life we might feel stuck or overwhelmed.
• 1:12
  Speaker 1: So join me, jenna Zint, habit coach, teacher and follower of Jesus, as we go after little bits of better by building offensively small habits that create big impact.
• 1:23
  Speaker 1: This is the Habit Lab Podcast.
• 1:25
  Speaker 1: Hello, welcome to the Habit Lab.
• 1:33
  Speaker 1: I'm Jenna Zint.
• 1:34
  Speaker 1: This episode is about time management and, yes, it is purposely correlating with I'm about to start my six-week live course called Time Management for non-Type A people, which is me and lots of people out there.
• 1:51
  Speaker 1: Actually, one of the reasons I probably wouldn't have thought about teaching a course on time management a few years ago because I'm so very aware how many people out there who are wired differently personality and their brains work a little differently are just naturally strong and almost like an expert.
• 2:10
  Speaker 1: So I would have been like, oh, it's covered, people who are better at it can do it.
• 2:16
  Speaker 1: But then, as I have worked with more and more people and heard the feedback, it was, I think, my niche.
• 2:22
  Speaker 1: And then what I'm actually teaching is for those of us who can relate, who look like me, who going to type A people, or people who are naturally strong at it and it's their like, suit.
• 2:34
  Speaker 1: It suits who they are.
• 2:35
  Speaker 1: It's almost like incompatible, where a lot of people who are like, oh, if you could do it, then maybe I could do what you're doing versus.
• 2:43
  Speaker 1: It's almost like I don't know the difference of going to a class with an instructor who still has a mom bod, but you can tell they're strong and healthy versus going to a class with a 20 year old who has a six pack and has never had children and her job is to work out.
• 2:59
  Speaker 1: You're like our lives don't look the same and we're not wired the same, so I don't think we're going to get the same results ever.
• 3:05
  Speaker 1: So if you feel encouraged that I have a this analogy is funny a mom bod in the time management department, then that is why I'm teaching the course, because I think a lot of times I thought I had to have a whole new personality to get a better management of my time.
• 3:20
  Speaker 1: That being said, this podcast actually has a lot of thought adjustments behind my time management.
• 3:26
  Speaker 1: This is not.
• 3:27
  Speaker 1: This is actually full of information, whether you do my course or not.
• 3:30
  Speaker 1: I would be apprehensive if I were listening.
• 3:32
  Speaker 1: This is actually full of information, whether you do my course or not.
• 3:33
  Speaker 1: I would be apprehensive if I were listening to it, thinking like, is it just going to be a long plug without actually info?
• 3:36
  Speaker 1: But I actually wrote down a few mindset shifts that were super helpful for me in my time management that I think, regardless, if you take my course honestly, the value in the course is not is it's really simple habits, but it's the accountability to do it and notice why you have resistance and why it doesn't work versus a new strategy on how, like a new system or a strategy or a new app, that's not what I have.
• 4:00
  Speaker 1: There are other people out there that are better suited for it.
• 4:02
  Speaker 1: So really, I couldn't give away what the class is going to be helpful, wise on a podcast, because it's accountability and obviously you don't get that in a podcast.
• 4:13
  Speaker 1: But so, that being said, this is free.
• 4:16
  Speaker 1: We'll probably be diving into a lot of these concepts with the people who are taking my course, but I just wanted to hit some of the things that are big shifts for me and really helpful.
• 4:28
  Speaker 1: Whether you're type A or type not A, like myself, b, c, I'm not Z, z, present, maybe I'm type Z, personality Okay.
• 4:37
  Speaker 1: So one of the things I think is an obvious frustration with people, or what I hear the rebuttal that I hear a lot when people are like talking about their pain points with their time management is they use their phone calendar or they use their calendar.
• 4:49
  Speaker 1: Let's just say they have something, they have a calendar.
• 4:51
  Speaker 1: Most of us I would say like 90% of people seem to be like that's not it.
• 4:56
  Speaker 1: I do this, I do this thing, I use my calendar, I plug it in, but the reality is they're still late or they're still over committing every week, or they're still overwhelmed or they're feeling like they're drowning or they're stuck in survival, or you're missing appointments or you're feeling like they're drowning or they're stuck in survival, or you're missing appointments or you're running late or you're forgetting that thing or you're continuing to procrastinate.
• 5:17
  Speaker 1: So for me, the difference this is why I don't think when people's rebuttal is I use my calendar, I'm like that's great, but if it's not actually solving the problem, then it's not simply a tool issue.
• 5:32
  Speaker 1: There's that something deeper.
• 5:34
  Speaker 1: Gosh.
• 5:36
  Speaker 1: So, opening your phone calendar, if you have that great, Maybe you're not even there yet, no problem.
• 5:39
  Speaker 1: I would suggest starting there.
• 5:42
  Speaker 1: But I think people I'm surprised how often people don't realize there's a deeper shift that needs to happen rather than just use your phone calendar, but if that's you and you're I don't know if you're on either side of the camp, if you haven't like there was a season where I did not put anything in my phone and no wonder I was messing things.
• 6:01
  Speaker 1: Like that was missing things, forgetting things, gosh, constant, honestly, anxiousness I think that's the biggest fruit of that.
• 6:09
  Speaker 1: I remember when I didn't have my time management dialed so well is the anxiousness I think that's the biggest fruit of that.
• 6:12
  Speaker 1: I remember when I didn't have my time management dialed so well is the anxiousness of hoping I'm not forgetting something, like waiting for the shoe to drop the text that I'm supposed to be somewhere, the call of what I missed or deadline, or the email of the deadline and now the fee that comes with it.
• 6:27
  Speaker 1: So that's just shocked how much peace lives on the other side of managing your time.
• 6:33
  Speaker 1: It kind of reminds me like now I think of time management con like habits.
• 6:38
  Speaker 1: The concept I think of it is less like a calendar and more like a budget, Like when we're If you've ever experienced a time in your life which I think we ebb and flow out of this personally, jenna and Aaron do that when we have our budget dialed and we know where our money's going and we're in control.
• 6:55
  Speaker 1: Even if it's a limited budget, like if we don't have more time, there's this feeling of powerfulness and I'm telling my money what to do.
• 7:01
  Speaker 1: My money's working for me and I'm in control of the flow.
• 7:04
  Speaker 1: So, even if it's limited, I'm still managing where it's going.
• 7:08
  Speaker 1: And if it's limited, I'm still managing where it's going, and then I get to spend.
• 7:12
  Speaker 1: If there is any, any wiggle room, I'm getting to choose that.
• 7:16
  Speaker 1: So, even the limitations I'm choosing if that makes sense so that I can have this or because I'm paying down that.
• 7:18
  Speaker 1: And I actually think that was a big shift for me to see time management, like I jokingly call it, like my schedule or my habits around this, like my, almost like my time, because I had gotten that breakthrough perspective with our money, where now I'm like, okay, I actually can't invent more time, because a lot of times people think sometimes it's like they're lazy or not efficient, and there is a smidge of that like I've actually have become more efficient when I've been better at scheduling with my time.
• 7:46
  Speaker 1: So instead of like the impulsive, I want to go to Target now to get that thing.
• 7:54
  Speaker 1: Reality of like, oh, do you actually need it.
• 7:55
  Speaker 1: Oh no, you're just kind of feeling bored and you're looking for escape.
• 7:56
  Speaker 1: If you wait until tomorrow, after you drop Rosie off from piano, you'll have an odd 30 minutes anyways.
• 8:02
  Speaker 1: Link it to that, do some delayed gratification, and so there is some of that efficiency versus now urgent, it would feel good.
• 8:12
  Speaker 1: I'm looking for an escape.
• 8:14
  Speaker 1: There has been a bit of that adjustment for me with my time management, but mostly I would say it's this awareness of like I have a finite amount of hours I'm actually going to powerfully choose where they're going and then, even if there's this limitation, I don't feel like I'm failing, I'm lazy or overwhelmed.
• 8:32
  Speaker 1: It's like I'm choosing where my limited resource could go and I'm the boss of it versus it bossing me or feeling totally out of control or always behind.
• 8:43
  Speaker 1: I think even just like my time management has actually like being more, almost like knee deep in the nitty gritty of where my time is being spent and allocated and going.
• 8:53
  Speaker 1: I do almost think of it like the currency of our life, like how we spend.
• 8:57
  Speaker 1: There's this great quote by Annie Dillard that's like how you spend your minutes is how you spend your hours.
• 9:03
  Speaker 1: How you spend your hours is how you spend your days.
• 9:05
  Speaker 1: How you spend your days is how you spend your years, and how you spend your years is how you spend your life.
• 9:10
  Speaker 1: So on some level, I'm getting real deep here, but I promised there was more than just a plug to my course.
• 9:16
  Speaker 1: But I think this I really have come to think of like my time and my time budget as almost the currency of my life.
• 9:24
  Speaker 1: And then too, if you've been following me on Instagram, the Bible Habit group that we're doing we're reading the New Testament, we're in Corinthians right now and one of the scriptures we're, as a group, like kind of meditating on for September is the idea of let everything you do be motivated by love.
• 9:39
  Speaker 1: So this idea for me of like if how I spend my life comes down to some time management, the currency of my life, then how I show up in love is also really got to be tied to this.
• 9:51
  Speaker 1: There's like this almost like symbiotic relationship of when I'm on top of managing my time, not overwhelmed, not living reactionary, but purposely choosing and being okay with my limits and not constantly feeling like I'm failing because I'm like, hey, they're actually literally only 18 or less or more, no, 18 or less waking hours of the day, it is not Jenna failing.
• 10:17
  Speaker 1: He made us finite beings on purpose, where we have to literally rest our brain.
• 10:21
  Speaker 1: Tons of bodily functions and systems don't work as well if we.
• 10:26
  Speaker 1: You know, for people who are, what's darn it, what is it called when you can't sleep well, insomnia.
• 10:36
  Speaker 1: So we know that literally, our bodies were made to need rest and have to get rest, and there's so many implications that happen negatively if you don't get that.
• 10:39
  Speaker 1: So, that being said, he wired us to be finite.
• 10:42
  Speaker 1: So me being okay with finite, but then also noticing that the more I'm managing my time and on top of it and the steward of it versus it running me that the more I'm managing my time and on top of it and the steward of it versus it running me, the more I'm able to actually choose how I'm spending my life and therefore able to choose how I'm showing up in love.
• 10:58
  Speaker 1: It really feels like there's not been some big hack again, no crazy system or app or color coding process, but it's like I'm in way in front of the cart and deciding which direction we're going to go, versus like trying to chase behind it.
• 11:13
  Speaker 1: You know, like if a cart's going downhill what's that expression.
• 11:16
  Speaker 1: Are you pulling the cart?
• 11:17
  Speaker 1: Are you getting run over by the cart?
• 11:19
  Speaker 1: Nope man, I mix metaphor idioms all the time, but my point is like it has just felt like I'm not having more hours in the day.
• 11:25
  Speaker 1: I'm not crazy more efficient.
• 11:27
  Speaker 1: I don't have a magic app, but I actually feel like I'm being a good steward with the currency of my life, which is also, maybe, then, the currency of love.
• 11:35
  Speaker 1: Like, if I'm only given 10 minutes, you know, am I showing up in love?
• 11:39
  Speaker 1: That really comes down to how well you're stewarding your time and your schedule.
• 11:43
  Speaker 1: So it's become like pretty I wouldn't say high stakes, but so much more, probably like five years ago.
• 11:51
  Speaker 1: Five years ago, jenna would have thought of it as very practical, without deeper implications of who I am or who I'm becoming, but now I see it almost as like the foundational operating system for other habits.
• 12:06
  Speaker 1: If I don't have this more recently in writing some of the content for the course, I've been thinking a lot about it and doing a lot of posts on Instagram and I just kind of have come down to like I think your time management habits are the gatekeeper to your other habits, because if you don't have it dialed of when and where you're going to consistently and be able to tell yourself what to do and show up in that same way and follow a plan again.
• 12:29
  Speaker 1: Tell yourself what to do and show up in that same way and follow a plan Again.
• 12:32
  Speaker 1: Obvious caveat is not perfection, but just consistency is same in a long enough direction, in the same direction.
• 12:36
  Speaker 1: Then, if you can't do that, if you don't have your time management, how are you going to build other habits?
• 12:43
  Speaker 1: How are you going to be consistent with your Bible habit?
• 12:45
  Speaker 1: How are you going to be consistent with worship or investing in your marriage?
• 12:48
  Speaker 1: So to me I'm like, oh my gosh, this is just like 101.
• 12:52
  Speaker 1: We can't jump to algebra if we don't know how to do simple addition.
• 12:57
  Speaker 1: So I'm just, it's really shifted in the last five years, like, oh, this is kind of like the starting point and you can't really move on until you have this managed.
• 13:06
  Speaker 1: And then different seasons, like in the summer.
• 13:08
  Speaker 1: I'm less on top of my time management because my value for the summer is more connection with my kids and I take a Sabbath, so in that rest I am less on top of my time management habits.
• 13:21
  Speaker 1: But the interesting thing is now three years deep.
• 13:23
  Speaker 1: In doing that.
• 13:24
  Speaker 1: I actually think it doesn't serve me and I end up almost like wasting time with entertainment or different other avenues at how lax I've been.
• 13:35
  Speaker 1: So like maybe it doesn't need to be as rigid or intense of time management habits that I have like for the school year.
• 13:42
  Speaker 1: But I actually think I could do and would benefit for better rest which feels counterintuitive if I dialed a little bit more consistent with the same time management habits I use during the school year for my summer.
• 15:41
  Speaker 1: I'm just going into next year being like that's definitely going to be one of my edits, actually noticing how it even affects my rest.
• 15:48
  Speaker 1: I don't rest as well or with purpose or things that actually give life to my soul.
• 15:52
  Speaker 1: I just kind of spend it if I'm not on top of that.
• 15:56
  Speaker 1: And so, interestingly enough, really one of my biggest pivots and one of the things we're going to do in the class is physically writing out your week, because again, we all have it in our calendar.
• 16:06
  Speaker 1: And I've just been doing some research for the last year because when I notice trends or I'm noticing the benefit but I don't understand why, or I'm curious if it's just me and my sweet little energetic, neurodivergent brain.
• 16:18
  Speaker 1: I've just been doing a little digging and because the paper.
• 16:23
  Speaker 1: So I have everything in my calendar my phone, my apps.
• 16:26
  Speaker 1: I have an Apple Watch that alerts me.
• 16:28
  Speaker 1: Even one of my hacks for when I plug in my stuff to go because I have some time blindness I put the alert for when I need to leave instead of when it happens or just an hour before.
• 16:39
  Speaker 1: I'll actually do 15 or 30 minutes before because I need to physically have something that tells me I need to go like interrupts my internal brain or I'll just blindly, accidentally be late.
• 16:51
  Speaker 1: So if I put arbitrarily an hour alert before the next event, I know that I don't need to leave now, but I'll end up being late even though it's on my awareness.
• 17:00
  Speaker 1: So for me, a big hack has been to actually put the alert when I need to leave, versus right at or way in advance.
• 17:07
  Speaker 1: That being said, so I use my phone systems all the time, but there's something so different that happens when I write it on pen and paper.
• 17:14
  Speaker 1: I do this weekly, I do it with my and paper, I do this weekly, I do it with my month and then I do it daily as well.
• 17:18
  Speaker 1: So I was doing some digging and there's this whole concept about our phone.
• 17:22
  Speaker 1: There's more research, not on time management phone, you know, like versus paper, but for learning in school.
• 17:28
  Speaker 1: They've done a ton of research about how screens they call it they engage with your brain in a more passive learning, like anything on a screen Even.
• 17:38
  Speaker 1: Actually, one study I was showing was reading an e-book, the same book, an e-book versus another group of students had the same book in a physical copy.
• 17:46
  Speaker 1: And there's something we actually engage and there's higher rates of retention and comprehension, which retention means remembering.
• 17:53
  Speaker 1: Comprehension means understanding how it works together in the bigger picture.
• 17:57
  Speaker 1: So almost like the impact of things versus just reciting what you read.
• 18:02
  Speaker 1: And this is what I found to be true the analogy our phones have almost made us having that be our primary source of our time management, these passive relators to our time, versus an engaged learner.
• 18:14
  Speaker 1: And the analogy I was thinking, since most of the research about screens being more passive and writing is more of an engaged, comprehensive way to learn.
• 18:24
  Speaker 1: I was thinking about my son Wesley, and when we're doing some of his math homework he says he knows how to do something because the teacher showed him, but then when he tries to actually do it in his own, whether it's like a dish.
• 18:36
  Speaker 1: I think he's pretty much doing really simple addition right now Sorry, helping three children with their homework every night.
• 18:41
  Speaker 1: I'm like what math are we in with my six-year-old, anyways?
• 18:45
  Speaker 1: But when he tries to do it himself he can get stuck and it's not because he's dumb or he can't learn it, but because he was actually observing his teacher doing it versus learning.
• 18:55
  Speaker 1: So there's this idea of a passive observer of our schedules when it's simply on our phone versus active learning.
• 19:01
  Speaker 1: And for me that really helped dial in why I have to actually get almost in the nitty gritty by writing my schedule, because I become an active learner of what I have on my plate and where I'm spending the currency of my life, versus passively watching alerts happen on my phone.
• 19:19
  Speaker 1: And I think that really is kind of hits the nail on the head for why simply having our time management be our stuffs on our calendar on our phones is actually a passive way of relating to our calendars versus actively like becoming.
• 19:36
  Speaker 1: So this, like this concept, as I've been teasing this out and just pondering, I'm like, oh, the difference is I've become a student of my schedule versus a passive learner or an observer.
• 19:45
  Speaker 1: So my third point for this is are you an observer of your schedule and your time management or are you a student?
• 19:50
  Speaker 1: An observer logs things.
• 19:52
  Speaker 1: They get reminders, they put swipe alert, they put up swipe alerts.
• 19:55
  Speaker 1: It's passive.
• 19:57
  Speaker 1: A student studies their schedule, notices patterns, asks questions like is this too much?
• 20:03
  Speaker 1: Is this working?
• 20:03
  Speaker 1: Do I have enough rest?
• 20:04
  Speaker 1: Do I have enough connection?
• 20:06
  Speaker 1: Do I have enough family connection?
• 20:07
  Speaker 1: Do I have enough marital connection?
• 20:09
  Speaker 1: On my schedule, again, thinking of it like a time budget, like when I look at my week, I'm like, oh, I'm missing.
• 20:14
  Speaker 1: This is going to be a little friend heavy, so I'm going to save Saturday.
• 20:18
  Speaker 1: This is a real life example and I'm purposely not going to plan anything.
• 20:22
  Speaker 1: I'm going to leave that white space because that would be the balance that I need as I'm actively being a student of my schedule versus a passive learner.
• 20:30
  Speaker 1: I ask questions, we experiment, we reflect, we iterate, we make edits.
• 20:34
  Speaker 1: There's an active learning process and that's like.
• 20:36
  Speaker 1: My goal is to teach people how to be students of their schedule, versus like this passive observer mentality that we've kind of taken on as a culture, when we just plug and play into our phones Woo Y'all.
• 20:46
  Speaker 1: It's so funny sometimes, like when I feel the Holy Spirit on things.
• 20:50
  Speaker 1: I'm like it feels so silly or nuanced to be talking about, like how could the Holy Spirit show up or be excited about time management, like this sounds so trite, but I just honestly this is kind of like the life lesson because I had such a natural resistance of ponderings I've had with the Lord in the last year.
• 21:10
  Speaker 1: So it sounds very basic but it's been so many conversations of why I'm resistant or why is this keep popping up?
• 21:17
  Speaker 1: Or I'm like, wow, it all comes back to am I managing and stewarding my time or am I passively like watching it leave my bank account, you know?
• 21:27
  Speaker 1: So questions sometimes like the idea of an observer passive observer versus being a student of your schedule.
• 21:33
  Speaker 1: Questions to like ask yourself is why did last week unravel?
• 21:36
  Speaker 1: Or what actually made Monday flow better than Thursday?
• 21:40
  Speaker 1: Where am I constantly overcommitting?
• 21:43
  Speaker 1: And then even one more step deeper for me, why?
• 21:46
  Speaker 1: Because sometimes I won't overcommit personally, which I know I'm kind of unique in.
• 21:50
  Speaker 1: I won't necessarily overcommit to things with my kids, but I'll overcommit to friends when they have needs.
• 21:55
  Speaker 1: So if all my friends had babies and they happen, which they did actually I had so many friends have babies in a week and they asked me to do things, I'll say yes to them in a way that I'm overcommitted and then I leave other areas coming up short.
• 22:06
  Speaker 1: And again I think this awareness of every yes is a no somewhere else.
• 22:09
  Speaker 1: If I say yes to that friend, then it's a no to Aaron's date you know the hour date walk we have on Friday.
• 22:15
  Speaker 1: Or if I say it's just subtle, like when you come to terms with a finite currency, like time is your finite currency and you're not failing or missing something, it really makes you look at your schedule differently.
• 22:29
  Speaker 1: Sorry, one last before I transition to that next point about looking at your schedule and time management different.
• 22:35
  Speaker 1: Some of the brain science shows that passive learners and I had a stat with this and I don't remember it, I didn't write it down in my notes, sorry, but passive learning retains very little compared to active engagements and our schedule and how we interact with our time management habits is no different.
• 22:50
  Speaker 1: So my next point is this idea of being a CEO versus an employee mindset with your time.
• 22:56
  Speaker 1: Like, most people check their calendars like an employee.
• 22:58
  Speaker 1: Do I have a conflict?
• 23:00
  Speaker 1: Can I make it fit?
• 23:01
  Speaker 1: But that's like so surface level, basic thinking it's like plug and play, just clocking in and out.
• 23:06
  Speaker 1: The difference to me, as I was like pondering with the Lord, I was like the CEO mindset is this is more strategic.
• 23:12
  Speaker 1: Instead of asking do I fit, could I say yes, do I have a conflict?
• 23:16
  Speaker 1: It's like, oh, does this align with the word that I have for this season?
• 23:20
  Speaker 1: Is this me living out of my core value?
• 23:24
  Speaker 1: If so, how Is this the right focus for this season?
• 23:27
  Speaker 1: If I say yes here, where is it going to come from?
• 23:30
  Speaker 1: Again, being very, almost familiar and comfortable with finite versus I'm behind, I'm failing.
• 23:36
  Speaker 1: This is really really like my time the bet.
• 23:38
  Speaker 1: When I'm in seasons of having my time management dialed, I'm not suffocating under the pressure of I'm failing.
• 23:46
  Speaker 1: There's not enough time.
• 23:47
  Speaker 1: I'm behind because I see it's like I could take account almost of how I spent it.
• 23:52
  Speaker 1: I'm like, yeah, that's good, that was only 18 hours and you gave it intentionally in six different areas.
• 23:58
  Speaker 1: And you know what.
• 23:59
  Speaker 1: Those investments into your time, why they align with your season and your core value.
• 24:04
  Speaker 1: Yep, you're not failing or behind you just are finite.
• 24:07
  Speaker 1: No problem, you did a good job with what you had for today.
• 24:10
  Speaker 1: And then to just a CEO mindset reminds me to ask like is this going to move me closer to my goal or is it going to distract me from them?
• 24:18
  Speaker 1: And then, shifting from into a CEO mindset with your time management, it moves you from reacting to your schedule to actually leading it.
• 24:28
  Speaker 1: And for me too, like almost every season, when I know, when I'm thinking about my word for the season, what the Lord has for me, when I'm thinking of my core values, I will be looking for strategic pieces.
• 24:37
  Speaker 1: So, like in this season, we just said yes to a four-year discipleship group with me and a few other moms for Audrey, specifically our 10 and 11-year-olds, and it's going to be a twice-a-month commitment.
• 24:47
  Speaker 1: That's a big flipping commitment.
• 24:49
  Speaker 1: That's like I don't know, buying a half a million dollar house any of you in a culture where we feel scared to commit to big things.
• 24:57
  Speaker 1: But you know, what I've been doing is for the last year and a half two years, aaron and I have been looking for a solution and how we can really disciple Audrey at a deep level, not just like yes, spiritually, but then also manners and how to do friendship and communication like this deep.
• 25:13
  Speaker 1: I think we've actually been teasing it out and joking between him and I have.
• 25:15
  Speaker 1: We've been looking for this solution is like women's school, like how to be a beautiful woman who loves the Lord and shows up well in life.
• 25:23
  Speaker 1: So when this came up even though it was a big price tag with it, metaphorically for my time I was like, oh yeah, that actually is a solution to something that I've been looking for to solve in our lives, like it's a felt need.
• 25:36
  Speaker 1: So it's this leading like, yes, I'm willing to pay the price because I know that is something that has been on my heart.
• 25:42
  Speaker 1: The Lord's put it on my heart and I've been talking about it, so I will pay the price for it.
• 25:47
  Speaker 1: And then this flows into number the point number five.
• 25:50
  Speaker 1: It switches then from obligation when you look at your calendar.
• 25:54
  Speaker 1: This Sunday we have our I think our second women's school for Audrey and I have a lot going on and initially, when I was like planning my week and writing it out, I felt this bit of dread.
• 26:05
  Speaker 1: But then, when I remember why I said yes, because everything on my calendar now is tied to a yes, like it's a thoughtful, intentional yes as a CEO mindset.
• 26:14
  Speaker 1: It aligns.
• 26:15
  Speaker 1: It's a vote for who I want to become.
• 26:17
  Speaker 1: It's a vote for what it's shaping and, audrey, it shifts it from obligation, which was where dread and overwhelmed lives, to priorities, where I'm like, yes, that costs me something, but it's worth the cost because I could list to you what it's hitting.
• 26:30
  Speaker 1: So there's this moment of like instead of looking at your calendar as full of obligations and dread, it's like full of my priorities, everything on my calendar this week.
• 26:40
  Speaker 1: Yes, it's probably one of our fullest weeks of the whole year, for a few reasons Birthday obviously happens annual.
• 26:45
  Speaker 1: There's a talent show thing that happens annual, and each of my kids have a different act.
• 26:48
  Speaker 1: All the things happens.
• 26:50
  Speaker 1: It's the craziest week.
• 26:51
  Speaker 1: But instead of dread, I feel teary.
• 26:55
  Speaker 1: I almost feel full of purpose because I know I could tell you how everything on my calendar is a vote for the kind of mom I want to be, the kind of friend I want to be.
• 27:03
  Speaker 1: What we're shaping in, audrey?
• 27:04
  Speaker 1: What we're helping Wesley learn.
• 27:07
  Speaker 1: It's like, oh, this is not a tyrant that's ruling me or controlling my time.
• 27:11
  Speaker 1: This is a teacher.
• 27:13
  Speaker 1: Or this is evidence of the person I'm becoming and who we're becoming as a family, because this is the currency of my life, when your calendar is filled with your priorities and you're really anchored to how, each thing as a priority.
• 27:24
  Speaker 1: You open it and see your values reflected back at you your goals, your seasons, your yeses that you've chosen with intention.
• 27:31
  Speaker 1: And your calendar feels like a teacher and evidence of who you're becoming, versus control or limitations or tyrants or overwhelming.
• 27:39
  Speaker 1: And it's really shifted from dread to peace, even if it's a fuller week.
• 27:45
  Speaker 1: So, anyways, the reason these shifts have mattered and really helped me with my time management is, instead of just repeating the cycle new apps, new colors, same overwhelm it's really shifted like catching patterns of self-sabotage, whether it's too much rest in isolation that leads to feeling alone and disconnected from your purpose, or if it's overwhelming or you're constantly overcommitting because you value everybody else's, you know every yes that someone asks you you know, or requests you say yes to it's.
• 28:16
  Speaker 1: So it shifts you out of that of those self-sabotaging patterns when you get curious and ask deeper questions, when you become an actual student of your schedule, it helps you build rhythms that match your season.
• 28:26
  Speaker 1: It stops overloading with time your calendar, your schedule with simply obligations and then you shift to start filling it with priorities.
• 28:34
  Speaker 1: It makes you lead your schedule like a CEO instead of being bossed around by it like an employee.
• 28:43
  Speaker 1: So, honestly, these are like the mindset shifts of are the big things that I've been learning in my season and that's exactly why I created my time management.
• 28:52
  Speaker 1: For type non, type A people, registration is literally open for the next four days.
• 28:57
  Speaker 1: We start this Sunday.
• 28:59
  Speaker 1: We have two cohorts Sunday afternoon or Tuesday morning.
• 29:03
  Speaker 1: The website is in the show notes if you're interested.
• 29:05
  Speaker 1: We're not going to just fill in calendars together.
• 29:08
  Speaker 1: We're going to learn from them.
• 29:09
  Speaker 1: We're going to practice moving from being a passive observer of our schedules sorry, of our calendars to students of our schedules.
• 29:18
  Speaker 1: We're going to go from the employee mindset to a CEO, from being full of obligation when you open your calendar and feeling dread, to peace that you're investing in your priorities.
• 29:28
  Speaker 1: And if you've been feeling like, simply, your phone calendar isn't cutting it and you're ready to study your schedule with some strategy, then you should totally come join us.
• 29:36
  Speaker 1: I'd love to have you.
• 29:37
  Speaker 1: It's like 157.
• 29:38
  Speaker 1: It's about rough for six weeks of live group coaching.
• 29:43
  Speaker 1: At this point neither of the classes have more than 20 people.
• 29:46
  Speaker 1: So it'd be pretty good ROI for the cost compared to like doing a one-on-one coaching with me.
• 29:52
  Speaker 1: So I hope this helps.
• 29:53
  Speaker 1: I'd love to have you join.
• 29:54
  Speaker 1: Okay, bye, everybody.
• 29:56
  Speaker 1: Music.