Are You Choosing Them… or Waiting to Be Chosen? Laura Berman

Language of Love with Dr. Laura Berman · Aug 31, 2026 · 8m

There’s a subtle moment in dating when everything can start to change.

At first, you’re paying attention to them. Do I like this person? Do I feel good around them? Are they kind? Interesting? Emotionally available? Do I want to see them again?

Then you start to really like them, and suddenly the focus flips.

Do they like me?

Now you’re checking your phone. Analyzing texts. Wondering why they took three hours to respond. Replaying the date and looking for clues. And without even realizing it, you’ve stopped deciding whether you want them and started trying to figure out how to make sure they…