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247. Winning Season · Your Enriched Self

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  Speaker 1: I want to walk you through two different mindsets. One
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  Speaker 1: will keep you back, keep you stagnated, and it may
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  Speaker 1: even cost you. The other puts you in a position
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  Speaker 1: to win, to score points, and to progress on your journey.
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  Speaker 1: What I'm talking about is being offended versus putting up
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  Speaker 1: the points in the offense. Now, when you're offended, or
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  Speaker 1: you have offended in the legal term, you have put
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  Speaker 1: yourself and others perhaps in jeopardy. Let me give you
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  Speaker 1: an example. Say, for example, you're on your way to
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  Speaker 1: the grocery store or to a concert and you are
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  Speaker 1: pulled over by a police officer. One of the first
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  Speaker 1: things the police officer will ask you is for maybe
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  Speaker 1: your license and registration or something of the sort. Now, you,
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  Speaker 1: as a citizen, have to produce that document or those documents,
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  Speaker 1: and if you don't have those documents on you, you
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  Speaker 1: have offended the law. Right if you produce the documents
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  Speaker 1: and the officer has a right, maybe you had a
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  Speaker 1: US to tail light, or perhaps you were speeding, you
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  Speaker 1: once again have created an offense against the law. Right
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  Speaker 1: when the speed limit says you should be moving at
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  Speaker 1: this rate of speed and you're moving above that rate
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  Speaker 1: of speed and you're stopped. You've offended the law. And
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  Speaker 1: so what happens from that point on, if it's ever
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  Speaker 1: happened to you, it's happened to me, I'm sure it's
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  Speaker 1: happened to you, is that now you are delayed. So
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  Speaker 1: the very concert, the very appointment, the very thing you
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  Speaker 1: were intended to do, you now are unable to do
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  Speaker 1: it at the time that you wanted to do it.
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  Speaker 1: Now you're not going to be held up the entire time,
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  Speaker 1: depending on what's going on, but for the most part,
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  Speaker 1: it's a simple stop and that now you can't go
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  Speaker 1: anywhere until you get in instructions from the officer before
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  Speaker 1: you can proceed. So now you have to wait for
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  Speaker 1: him to do his checks and balances and call it
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  Speaker 1: in and phone it in and check it up and
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  Speaker 1: pull you up and find out if there are any
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  Speaker 1: other offenses out there. Maybe you have outstanding tickets right
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  Speaker 1: or maybe your license he found is expired. There are
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  Speaker 1: so many different offenses he can essentially research to find
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  Speaker 1: if you are in fact in the category of other
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  Speaker 1: offenses outside of what he or she has already found
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  Speaker 1: or stopped you as a result of. And you see
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  Speaker 1: that can continue to mount it can continue to build,
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  Speaker 1: and when that happens again, that could put you in
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  Speaker 1: a position where you've lost time, You've definitely exerted energy,
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  Speaker 1: you have missed an opportunity. It's been you're on your
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  Speaker 1: way to a job interview, and now that opportunity, that
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  Speaker 1: window has closed because you couldn't make it. You weren't
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  Speaker 1: where you were supposed to be when you were supposed
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  Speaker 1: to be there, because you were in this place of offense.
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  Speaker 1: So stagnation, limitation, elimination, and sometimes it's going to be
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  Speaker 1: a cost. So after you would have done all of
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  Speaker 1: these things and you've gone through all the processes with
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  Speaker 1: the officer, now you are maybe cited or you have
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  Speaker 1: a citation, and that citation comes by way of a ticket,
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  Speaker 1: and that ticket then requires you to maybe show up
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  Speaker 1: in court and pay a fee, or simply just pay
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  Speaker 1: a fee by mail, or show up in court and
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  Speaker 1: pay a fee. So once again, the inconveniences continue to
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  Speaker 1: stock up against you when you are in this space
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  Speaker 1: of offense, when you have offended some, it is now
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  Speaker 1: putting you in a position of lack and limitation. In
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  Speaker 1: that same spirit, say, for example, you've received feedback about
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  Speaker 1: something maybe from your a supervisor, or somebody in your family,
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  Speaker 1: a loved one, and that feedback, although it's attached with
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  Speaker 1: love and it comes with the intent to help you
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  Speaker 1: change a behavior or help you to see something about
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  Speaker 1: yourself or about a situation you find yourself in that
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  Speaker 1: is not desirable. It's not something you want to hear.
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  Speaker 1: No one wants to hear that they, you know, aren't
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  Speaker 1: doing well or did something that wasn't so great. No
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  Speaker 1: one wants to hear those truths. Let's be honest. But
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  Speaker 1: the reality is there are gonna be times in life
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  Speaker 1: where you get feedback and it may leave you you
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  Speaker 1: not inspired to do better, not excited to make a change,
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  Speaker 1: but in fact offended, upset in your feelings about what
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  Speaker 1: you were told. A few years ago, I remember having
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  Speaker 1: a conversation with a friend who at the time we
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  Speaker 1: were having radical candor conversations. We were sharing things that
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  Speaker 1: were very candor express candor, and it was radical, it
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  Speaker 1: was honest, truth right. And I had shared something with
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  Speaker 1: this person. It was about something they had been working on.
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  Speaker 1: I had given them some you know, real feedback because
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  Speaker 1: I had recently experienced, not with them, but with someone
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  Speaker 1: else a similar thing. And I share what I had
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  Speaker 1: learned to that person, thinking that that information would help
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  Speaker 1: them prevent the pitfalls that we just talked about, limitation, lack, cost, distrust,
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  Speaker 1: all the things that can come with being in an
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  Speaker 1: offensive space where you're not scoring points but you're actually
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  Speaker 1: taking away from And this person was and stayed offended.
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  Speaker 1: I woke up the next day after having a conversation
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  Speaker 1: with this person with a I don't know. It felt
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  Speaker 1: like three pages of text messages. Now, one thing I'm
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  Speaker 1: not gonna do is entertain and send out long essays
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  Speaker 1: in text messages. And that's what I got from this person.
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  Speaker 1: If I have all the things to say that this
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  Speaker 1: person had to say, it would probably make a better
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  Speaker 1: process to say it in person. But this person chose
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  Speaker 1: to send a very lengthy, very detailed message based on
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  Speaker 1: feedback I had provided, and I knew then that it
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  Speaker 1: was a spirit of offense. I knew then that at
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  Speaker 1: that point the process of what we were working on
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  Speaker 1: couldn't go any further because in order for us to
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  Speaker 1: work together, we would have to be in a space
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  Speaker 1: of radical candor. And that is something that that person
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  Speaker 1: showed me right then that they could not manage maintain
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  Speaker 1: or listen for. And so that is how being offended
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  Speaker 1: and being in a state of offense can put stops
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  Speaker 1: and pauses and limits on your journey. Now, I want
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  Speaker 1: to contrast that with a mindset of being in a
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  Speaker 1: place where you are the offensive player. So think about
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  Speaker 1: a game where you have an offense and a defense,
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  Speaker 1: and the defense is pretty much there to help stop
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  Speaker 1: the plays, right, so prevent the other team from scoring
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  Speaker 1: a win, scoring points, winning the game, winning the series.
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  Speaker 1: What have you whereby defense there, I'm sorry? Where by
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  Speaker 1: offense their job is to get points on the board.
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  Speaker 1: Their their job is to score, is to be in
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  Speaker 1: a position where opportunity is met, and they use talent
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  Speaker 1: to create that win, create that winning moment, and ultimately
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  Speaker 1: walk away with a prize, a trophy, recognition for their efforts.
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  Speaker 1: When you are in a season of putting points on
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  Speaker 1: the board, a season of being strateguic about what type
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  Speaker 1: of plays you need to make, that starts with the decisions.
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  Speaker 1: That starts with how you show up every day, not
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  Speaker 1: showing up the day of the game. But think about
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  Speaker 1: an athlete, right, It's not about the day of the game.
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  Speaker 1: It's about the countless hours that they put into practice,
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  Speaker 1: they put into their sport, they put into working with
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  Speaker 1: their teammates right to get that cohesiveness, to have that
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  Speaker 1: shared language that doesn't have to be spoken because they've
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  Speaker 1: done and run these plays so many times in so
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  Speaker 1: many ways that they know the rhythm of the game.
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  Speaker 1: They know how to produce that rhythm in an arena
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  Speaker 1: filled with onlookers and fans and haters and everybody else
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  Speaker 1: that's in there. They know what that pressure looks like.
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  Speaker 1: They know how to score under pressure. And so both
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  Speaker 1: situations require pressure, but one uses and looks for opportunity.
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  Speaker 1: But not just in the game, but the preparation leading
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  Speaker 1: up to the game is what scores the points. And
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  Speaker 1: I talk about that a lot on this podcast because
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  Speaker 1: there's so many times and I heard a I heard
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  Speaker 1: somebody talk about their recent success to an audience of
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  Speaker 1: people where they were brought on stage to talk about
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  Speaker 1: their recent success. And the one thing that this individual said,
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  Speaker 1: which is so true, is that you're watching me in
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  Speaker 1: my winning season right now, so it's easy for you
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  Speaker 1: or anyone to compare your now to mine now. However,
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  Speaker 1: you were not there for the seasons that I was
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  Speaker 1: losing the seasons that I took loss after loss, as
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  Speaker 1: some people say, Ell after l I took those seasons.
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  Speaker 1: No one saw those seasons because we don't talk about
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  Speaker 1: those losing seasons. And I think that's why some people's
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  Speaker 1: content hits home and gets real and is relatable because
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  Speaker 1: people that know how to share their losses without the
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  Speaker 1: pity right just with the lessons and with the ability
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  Speaker 1: to breed through it and come through it and realize
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  Speaker 1: that you can go through a tough season and come
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  Speaker 1: out with a lesson. Those people tend to have that
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  Speaker 1: authentic grassroots type people that tune in and people that
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  Speaker 1: follow and like and share because of that. But not
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  Speaker 1: everyone can be as authentic with the losses without the
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  Speaker 1: pity party and without you know, making it more about
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  Speaker 1: the losses and less about them and their gas growth
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  Speaker 1: and their journey. And so this person really focused the
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  Speaker 1: audience not on her winning now, but on all the
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  Speaker 1: things that happen underneath the surface before anyone can see
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  Speaker 1: the light of day of her current winning season, when
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  Speaker 1: it seems like everything she touches has turned to a
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  Speaker 1: win is turned to gold. As some people say, she
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  Speaker 1: has the golden touch. She's in everything she's in the media,
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  Speaker 1: she's in modeling now, she's doing different brand deals, she's everywhere,
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  Speaker 1: and it just looks like, WHOA, this person is just
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  Speaker 1: doing it. They're winning, they're winning, they're in the season
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  Speaker 1: where they're scoring the points. But there is a season
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  Speaker 1: of preparation. That season happens. Yeah when you're losing. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: when you take and a loss. Yeah, when this didn't
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  Speaker 1: work out. But you can go back to the drawing
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  Speaker 1: board and get better. You can go back to the
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  Speaker 1: strategy board and say, Okay, that strategy doesn't work for me,
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  Speaker 1: especially now, I need to use something different or I
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  Speaker 1: need to do something different because I'm working on being
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  Speaker 1: something different. And that's the formula of getting the points
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  Speaker 1: on the board. That's the mindset of someone who is limited,
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  Speaker 1: to someone who is finding limit less opportunities right to
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  Speaker 1: someone who is stagnant, to someone who now is finding
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  Speaker 1: opportunities where growth is the trajectory for them. And so
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  Speaker 1: that's what I really want you to think about the
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  Speaker 1: next time you get into a space where you're getting
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  Speaker 1: feedback and instead of using it to grow from it,
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  Speaker 1: you then create this world where you're limited because of it,
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  Speaker 1: this world that you feel the lack Because of it,
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  Speaker 1: you're not creating the mindset that I can use what
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  Speaker 1: I just learned from this person and that person. And
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  Speaker 1: sometimes this is how you know it's you. The feedback
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  Speaker 1: sounds the same, it's coming from different people. There's something
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  Speaker 1: there that you need to pay attention to. Don't take
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  Speaker 1: it as a fence. Take it as a signal of
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  Speaker 1: something that you need to start tuning into so that
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  Speaker 1: you can start scoring points. Listen, people say that winning
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  Speaker 1: leaves clues, Losing leaves clues too. Lessons leaves clues. Lessons
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  Speaker 1: expose things. They give you signals for what works and
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  Speaker 1: what doesn't work. This is your opportunity, no matter what
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  Speaker 1: you're given, no matter what you're handed, whether you're handed
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  Speaker 1: that ticket, you know the process of what it took
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  Speaker 1: to get it right, what you didn't have, what you
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  Speaker 1: did do, the process to get that thing out of
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  Speaker 1: your life right, to pay it off, to go to court,
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  Speaker 1: to set up the day, to take the time off
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  Speaker 1: from work. There's so much in the process of when
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  Speaker 1: you're in that space and there's process in this space,
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  Speaker 1: what process do you want to work? Because on one
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  Speaker 1: side of it, you're gonna stand to lose time, energy,
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  Speaker 1: all of the things. And in the other space, yes,
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  Speaker 1: you're gonna invest time in the preparation and in the practice.
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  Speaker 1: You're gonna invest time in working your skill and growing
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  Speaker 1: your skill and watering and nourishing that skill. But it's
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  Speaker 1: all gonna be worth it because one day, just it's
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  Speaker 1: like this person who sat in front of an audience
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  Speaker 1: of people. They are sharing their story in this winning season,
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  Speaker 1: and you can too. But it starts with a mindset,
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  Speaker 1: the preparation to win and the posture of what it
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  Speaker 1: looks like to win, to learn, to earn, and to grow.
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