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213. Are you open? · Your Enriched Self

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  Speaker 1: Hello, my friends from all across the globe, and welcome
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  Speaker 1: to the Your Enriched Self Podcast. I am your host,
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  Speaker 1: Maileen Noir. I am an emotional wellness and empowerment coach.
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  Speaker 1: It's so important in this life for you to manage
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  Speaker 1: your emotions and equally empower you to be where you
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  Speaker 1: need to be showing up as the best version of yourself.
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  Speaker 1: And so that's what this podcast is all about. I
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  Speaker 1: want to help you manage your thoughts. Your thoughts become
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  Speaker 1: the words you speak, and those words are so powerful
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  Speaker 1: because they then manifest in to the actions that you
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  Speaker 1: will take in your life. And I know if you're
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  Speaker 1: listening to this podcast, you want to show up as
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  Speaker 1: the best version of yourself. So if you're new to
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  Speaker 1: I believe that you were brought here on purpose, for
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  Speaker 1: want to thank you. Thank you, thank you for showing
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  Speaker 1: up yet again, for yourself showing up on this podcast
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  Speaker 1: each and every week. We have over two hundred episodes
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  Speaker 1: of podcasting over three years, and I want to thank
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  Speaker 1: you for being here. And doing what you can each
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  Speaker 1: week to become more of your enriched self. One thing
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  Speaker 1: that I do each week before we kick off the
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  Speaker 1: podcast is I make a deposit into the bank of you.
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  Speaker 1: I certainly don't want you going out into the world
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  Speaker 1: bankrupt and not having poured into your cup what you need.
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  Speaker 1: Otherwise you're waiting for the world to pour into you.
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  Speaker 1: So I pour into you as well. And I do
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  Speaker 1: that by way of affirmations. Affirmations are a great way
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  Speaker 1: to start your day and to command your morning. And
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  Speaker 1: this week's affirmation is I am open to what's next.
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  Speaker 1: I am open to what's next. I am open to
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  Speaker 1: what's next. Now, let's get ready for this week's episode
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  Speaker 1: of the Your Enriched Self Podcast. I had a conversation
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  Speaker 1: with a life coach some time ago, and she talked
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  Speaker 1: about how a lot of the clients she had talked
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  Speaker 1: to were in a space of fighting for their limitations
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  Speaker 1: and that sounds contrary to where we want to be
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  Speaker 1: as individuals and how we want to evolve and enrich
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  Speaker 1: our lives in different aspects. And she said, you know,
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  Speaker 1: if people spent the energy on fighting for what they want,
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  Speaker 1: fighting for their destiny, and fighting for the goals that
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  Speaker 1: they have and fighting for a move forward or change
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  Speaker 1: instead of fighting for their limitations, meaning making excuses for
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  Speaker 1: where they are and why they are and how they
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  Speaker 1: are where they are in the current situation, the current status.
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  Speaker 1: And that is something that I've kind of kept in
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  Speaker 1: the back of my mind when I'm having conversation with
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  Speaker 1: people or if I'm in disagreement, especially when I'm in
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  Speaker 1: disagreement with not just other people, but I'm having those
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  Speaker 1: internal battles with myself about a decision I want to
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  Speaker 1: make or why I am not pursuing or doing a
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  Speaker 1: certain thing. Is when I come back to myself, right
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  Speaker 1: because I'm having a self talk. Really this whole conversation,
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  Speaker 1: am I fighting or am I giving myself the path
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  Speaker 1: of Here's the reasons why I can't do it. Here's
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  Speaker 1: the reasons why it's not getting done. It's not because
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  Speaker 1: I don't want to, It's because of this, this and this,
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  Speaker 1: and so now I'm listening out all the things that
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  Speaker 1: limit me from being where I need to be in
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  Speaker 1: showing up for myself the way I need to show
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  Speaker 1: up for myself. What if I did it in reverse?
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  Speaker 1: Are you open? Are you open to take on such
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  Speaker 1: a challenge. Your mindset is key. This is something I'm
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  Speaker 1: not going to take credit for it, but the words
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  Speaker 1: you speak are a reflection of what is stored in
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  Speaker 1: your heart. And I'm going to give credit to the
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  Speaker 1: Bible Luke chapter six, verse forty five that talks about
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  Speaker 1: out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks
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  Speaker 1: what is stored in your heart? If the doors to
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  Speaker 1: your heart were open and there was a sale, what
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  Speaker 1: would be for sale? If the doors to your heart
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  Speaker 1: were open and people could see really what you're thinking
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  Speaker 1: and feeling, what would they see and how would they
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  Speaker 1: receive it? What would they feel? Oftentimes, you know, we
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  Speaker 1: move through life and we are protecting what we already know.
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  Speaker 1: And this week, as I asked the question are you open?
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  Speaker 1: I want to know As a matter of fact, I
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  Speaker 1: want to invite you to be in a space where
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  Speaker 1: you are open, because we tend to protect what we
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  Speaker 1: already know. What do you want to learn? What could
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  Speaker 1: you learn from this experience? Whatever that experience is. Your
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  Speaker 1: mindset is key because it's going to help you if
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  Speaker 1: you shift it, if you take the challenge to shift it,
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  Speaker 1: it will help you unlock the growth. It will help
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  Speaker 1: you find those oppertunities that you might be overlooking simply
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  Speaker 1: because you're protecting what you know. You're not curious enough
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  Speaker 1: to say, you know what, let me open my heart
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  Speaker 1: to hear this person, to hear this scenario, to be
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  Speaker 1: present in this moment. And so I'm asking you to
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  Speaker 1: choose curiosity over comfort. Fighting for that limitation is a comfort.
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  Speaker 1: Protecting what you know at all costs is fighting for
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  Speaker 1: your limitations, which essentially is keeping you in comfort. And
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  Speaker 1: we all know that if you stay in comfort, you
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  Speaker 1: won't experience the growth. Growth happens outside of the comfort zone.
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  Speaker 1: I've said that a thousand times, I'm sure on this podcast,
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  Speaker 1: and I'm sure you've heard it else where as well.
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  Speaker 1: If you're not uncomfortable where you are today, if you
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  Speaker 1: haven't felt discomfort, I'm not going to tell you you're
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  Speaker 1: doing it wrong. I'm just going to tell you there's
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  Speaker 1: another way to look at it, and that is opening
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  Speaker 1: your mindset. A lot of people walk around with a
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  Speaker 1: closed mindset, again, protecting what they know, and you're not
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  Speaker 1: giving space for opportunity. Here's a question I want you
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  Speaker 1: to ask yourself. There's a lot of questions in this
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  Speaker 1: episode Are you blocking growth by holding on too tightly
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  Speaker 1: to what you already know? I'll repeat that, are you
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  Speaker 1: blocking growth by holding too tightly to what you already know?
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  Speaker 1: When you have something that you already know, you put
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  Speaker 1: limits on yourself and you're not able to experience life fully.
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  Speaker 1: You're not able to walk and truly have that enriched
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  Speaker 1: experience that I know you want to have in this life.
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  Speaker 1: So that's your first challenge, is to challenge from a
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  Speaker 1: closed to an open mindset. What openness will do for
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  Speaker 1: you is will help you to build resilience. I was
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  Speaker 1: recently taking an online course about listening, and there are
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  Speaker 1: so many different frameworks and concepts about listening. One of
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  Speaker 1: the big takeaways that I'm sure many of you know
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  Speaker 1: about listening is that listening, oftentimes people listen to respond
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  Speaker 1: and not understand. That goes to that closed versus open mind,
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  Speaker 1: but it also goes to the inability to build resistance
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  Speaker 1: when you're closed. Because if you're closed and you hear something,
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  Speaker 1: you hear a perspective or a point of view that
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  Speaker 1: opposes your own, it goes against what you think. You're
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  Speaker 1: not able to build a resistance. You need to really
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  Speaker 1: hear that party out to understand their perspective, why they
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  Speaker 1: are coming from the angle in which they come from.
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  Speaker 1: Is it a value system, is it their integrity at practice?
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  Speaker 1: Is it their cultural or background, their experience, What is
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  Speaker 1: causing them to think or say or state the things
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  Speaker 1: they're thinking. As opposed to you simply just closing them off,
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  Speaker 1: you don't get to build a resilience. You need to
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  Speaker 1: better understand who this person is in front of you,
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  Speaker 1: who this person is that you're having this conversation with.
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  Speaker 1: And you see that every day in culture, where people
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  Speaker 1: can't have conversation because they're listening to be able to respond,
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  Speaker 1: they're coming to the conversation with an agenda in their heart,
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  Speaker 1: a closed agenda that doesn't allow for a new perspective,
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  Speaker 1: doesn't allow for the introduction of feedback to you to
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  Speaker 1: help you get better. Listen feedback. I say it on
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  Speaker 1: the podcast, it's a gift. It's free to give. And
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  Speaker 1: although some people don't like to open gifts like feedback,
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  Speaker 1: it's important to at least allow the hearing of it
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  Speaker 1: and the understanding of it without trying to respond. Before
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  Speaker 1: you get to that point, the resistance you need will
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  Speaker 1: help you create the balance and create a flow of information,
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  Speaker 1: a flow in your life, and everybody loves a good flow.
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  Speaker 1: Here's what I want you to do. I want you
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  Speaker 1: to be intentional about having daily openness practices. That doesn't
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  Speaker 1: mean that you will say yes to everything that comes
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  Speaker 1: your way. That simply means I want you to be
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  Speaker 1: curious about what you're hearing, what you curiencing in your life.
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  Speaker 1: Just be curious about it. I wonder why that is.
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  Speaker 1: I need to look into that. I'm interested to learn more.
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  Speaker 1: Those mental self talk moments allow you to begin to
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  Speaker 1: expand your thought process. It starts with a small action.
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  Speaker 1: I'm not asking you to boil the ocean. I'm not
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  Speaker 1: asking you to create a new stream of thought. I'm
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  Speaker 1: just inviting you to maybe ask a different question, maybe
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  Speaker 1: read something that is outside of your norm something that
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  Speaker 1: you would normally reject because it doesn't fit into your story,
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  Speaker 1: doesn't fit into your experience, it doesn't fit into what
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  Speaker 1: you're interested in. Connecting, maybe with someone you normally wouldn't
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  Speaker 1: for obvious reasons. Your backgrounds are different, your experiences are different,
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  Speaker 1: your walks in life are different, your knowledge is different,
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  Speaker 1: your gender is different. There's so many differences we have
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  Speaker 1: with each other. But if we connect and we practice
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  Speaker 1: daily by doing something that really ultimately is taking you
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  Speaker 1: out of your comfort zone, whether it's reading something or
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  Speaker 1: listening to a narrative that normally doesn't align with what
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  Speaker 1: you have, and just go into it with a different
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  Speaker 1: set of ears, a different heart space. You don't have
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  Speaker 1: to take everything in. There are things that you can
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  Speaker 1: do what you must to enrich your thinking, enrich your life,
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  Speaker 1: enrich your heart, and especially enrich from the abundance of
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  Speaker 1: your heart the words your mouth will speak. I hope
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