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Unfiltered: The Truth About Gym Confidence, Dating, and Etiquette with Melissa & Jen |339 · Bomb Life

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[SPEAKER_01]: Hey everyone, welcome to the BAM Live podcast.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm Elizabeth at your host, and today we have my co-host, Gin Corté, Jim.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Hi.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Hi.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Why?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Because we're going to be talking about the Jim.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Just keep this on.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We're going to keep this on Jim Corté.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's going to be great.
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[SPEAKER_01]: OK, what's up, Jim?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Oh, my God.
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[SPEAKER_01]: We were just saying, Jim, over and over again, talking about all of our content.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Oh, Judd.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Jim Quartet.
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[SPEAKER_01]: That's a good one.
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[SPEAKER_01]: That's funny.
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[SPEAKER_01]: That's really funny.
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[SPEAKER_01]: This episode.
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[SPEAKER_01]: You're Jim.
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[SPEAKER_01]: It's going to kill you that.
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[SPEAKER_01]: That works.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Wow.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I think I'll worst things in my life.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Right, especially Jim.
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[SPEAKER_01]: That was too funny.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Okay, guys.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So today we're talking all about Vadim, not Jim.
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[SPEAKER_01]: We're talking about the gym.
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[SPEAKER_01]: We're going to dive into like dating stuff, etiquette, creepy shit that's happened to me and Jen at the gym.
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[SPEAKER_01]: We're going to dive into all of this because we have so many stories like there's been so many times I've been a gym working out.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And then I'm like, oh my god, Jen, you're never going to believe what just happened to me.
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[SPEAKER_01]: all the time.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So we're weird.
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[SPEAKER_01]: We're no shit.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yes, and like what's okay?
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[SPEAKER_01]: What's not okay?
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[SPEAKER_01]: And I know there's people listening because I've had several people come up to me recently at the gym and they're like, are you most of vocal?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Like the bomb life podcast?
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[SPEAKER_01]: And I'm like, yes.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And they're like, oh my god, I heard you're up to some new and Jen, like we love it.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And I'm like, awesome, right?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Rock on.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm like, I know who you are.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So I know you guys are listening.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And I'm sure
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[SPEAKER_01]: I hit on a girl at the gym like how do I do it?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Like I don't want to be a creep, but I really want to get to know this girl or vice versa, so we're going to talk about that too.
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[SPEAKER_01]: But first, we have to dive in.
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[SPEAKER_01]: We have the back to school, back to you, fit body method coming.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Jen, I'm really excited about this one.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Me too.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Me too.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm aside for the new workouts.
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[SPEAKER_01]: my God, the new workouts are so good.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And this time, we are only doing 14 days.
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[SPEAKER_01]: That's it.
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[SPEAKER_01]: It's a reset.
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[SPEAKER_01]: It's like I need to kick in the ass.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I need to get going.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And then after that, you can decide, like, was this enough?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Do you need coaching?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Do you need to be part of a group?
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[SPEAKER_01]: But if you have done a boot camper anything with me before, this is all new.
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[SPEAKER_01]: All new and we're setting up macros in the app.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So everyone's going to get my app nice new workouts macros will be calculated in there.
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[SPEAKER_01]: A new nutritional protocol like I'm excited about this one.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's good.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, no sounds really good.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Make it up a little bit in all the good way.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I know and I tested out the like day last week.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Holy shit.
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[SPEAKER_01]: both of us say and it's good too because I always do everything that you can do at the gym or at home.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm very clear of like if you are at the gym, you could do this, but if you're at home, you can use resistance bands or dumbbells for this.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Everything is very interchangeable.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So nice.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, because sometimes that does hold people back and that's another thing we're going to talk about today is a little bit of gym etiquette so that people when they do walk through those doors have a
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[SPEAKER_00]: What should I do?
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[SPEAKER_00]: What shouldn't I do?
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[SPEAKER_00]: What can I do?
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[SPEAKER_00]: What's right?
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[SPEAKER_00]: What's wrong?
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's just a little bit more comfortable going to the gym.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And I think to having that plan in place like in your hand is so helpful because I know a lot of people go there and they're like, I don't know what to do.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And they're like YouTube and shit, they're trying to figure things out and yeah, I'm like,
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[SPEAKER_01]: Let me be your virtual personal trainer.
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[SPEAKER_01]: You will have a plan.
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[SPEAKER_01]: You will look like you know what you're doing.
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[SPEAKER_01]: There's a button to play, hit a video.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I will show you how to do it.
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[SPEAKER_01]: But that plan and just knowing, and who cares if you take a second to look around and be like, okay, this is on my app.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm looking for this.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Oh, this is over there.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Okay, you guys, remember to, at the gym, because I know this is a really big thing for people.
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[SPEAKER_01]: You think people care more than they do.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But you think everybody's watching you and more often than not, they're totally not.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Even sometimes I totally catch myself and I'm like, you know, in a zone and I'm looking in somebody's direction and I'm like, oh shit, they probably thought that I was like totally sharing out them.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I know.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And you're not.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You're in your own head, you're counting, you're doing all the things.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So, I mean, yeah, of course, it's still a little nerve-wracking but this is definitely gonna give you the confidence to be able to walk in there.
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[SPEAKER_00]: No way you're doing.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Right.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_01]: You have a plan.
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[SPEAKER_01]: There's there's no guessing.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And I mean say that some like I don't want you going to the gym.
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[SPEAKER_01]: It's like taking pasta and throwing it at the wall and just hoping it sticks.
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[SPEAKER_01]: You don't have to hope anything sticks.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Like the plan I'm giving you to follow for the next 14 days.
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[SPEAKER_01]: It's killer.
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[SPEAKER_01]: It's exactly what you need.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And I get a lot of questions people are like, but you really think you can see a difference in 14 days.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Absolutely.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Oh, absolutely.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Two three pounds a week.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And you're going to fill it to like you'll fill that in your energy in your mood and Oh sex drives like everything you can hear everything going you have so much more confidence even if things aren't changing completely on the outside as much as they will later.
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[SPEAKER_00]: They're still you just you get like all that swag back here.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I don't.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_01]: You totally do and I say this all this time progress equals motivation.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So if you're someone who's like struggling to even feel that motivation know that you just need to make a little bit of progress and that motivation is it just lights it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: up down whatever you're trying to do.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Right?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yep.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So go to the show notes.
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[SPEAKER_01]: The link is in there.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Click join.
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[SPEAKER_01]: We start next Monday.
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[SPEAKER_01]: August 31st and then we hit September hard, which I can't believe it's even going to be September.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Like, what is happening?
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[SPEAKER_00]: And this for men and women.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Folks.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So like, if you're a guy listening to this, totally, totally sign up.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You know,
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[SPEAKER_00]: And the length that we're using, you will literally go to the page, put in a couple steps of information, pay, done, boom, like, easiest thing.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And then you just need to show up and show it for yourself.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And our end.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, and get a friend like it's always fun to do.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We have to do your friend right when I started working out with your program, you know, over a year ago and doing stuff, I had my oldest son do it with me.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So we could have each other accountable.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And guess what, we're still hitting the gym five, six days a week.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You know, I love it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Getting in our steps, doing all the things and it's totally changed him.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And me, you know, and and he's like finally out there like dating again and back out there and getting this group back
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, but see, the progress created the motivation.
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[SPEAKER_00]: All right, we got you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We got you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Let's do this.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's so funny.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I love it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I love it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_00]: He's doing really good wasn't so good.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And it it's really good for his mental health too.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So everything.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Every.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So you don't have to do it.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Well, you don't have to do it alone.
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[SPEAKER_01]: You need a quick Swiss kick in the ass.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I got you.
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[SPEAKER_01]: It's there.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Let's go to the show now.
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[SPEAKER_01]: But gyms are so weird.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Just so it does say that like going there, it's such a weird environment because, and I love it.
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[SPEAKER_01]: It's such a good environment, too, because where else will you be around that many people that are there for one thing, right.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Right.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Right.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And that yeah, that you guys all have like the same interest you're all there for like the same purpose, you know, the same goal.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So you're.
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[SPEAKER_00]: you're going to be able to meet people whether that's friendship, relationship, whatever, hook up, whatever you want to do, you know that you guys are, you can get them all on the same path, you know, and I think that's super important.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I never used to think it was important until it was important to me and then I'm like, there's no way I could date somebody outside of the gym, you know, no, but it's so weird
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[SPEAKER_01]: saying all that you know like I love it and I love I do love being around other people that are working out, but when I go there too, that's when I shut off like I must have the biggest like resting bitch face their gen like and many times I wear a hat and I have my headphones like or my head like all you can see is this is a little part of my face and I just must I must just walk around with the biggest RBFF ever.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, I know.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I totally do without even meaning.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I know it's like sometimes I'm definitely more in that social mood, you know, like where I'm more outgoing and I more like, hey, how's it going?
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[SPEAKER_00]: You know, even if it's just small talk, whatever, because, you know, yeah, we don't even know half these people's names.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We see them, their faces, whatever we get in this routine, but I don't know the majority of the names.
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[SPEAKER_01]: That's what I mean, it's like so weird.
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[SPEAKER_01]: We got to know the one like, oh, yeah, I know them.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I see them all the time.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Like, what's her first name?
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[SPEAKER_01]: No fucking clue.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, no idea, but you know, you are able to go there and I think it just depends on your mood really because sometimes yeah I'm totally social totally open to people approaching me.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And then other days, I'm literally like nobody even fucking say hello like series.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Just like just ignore me.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm not here.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I know.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And then that's when you have the weirdos.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I swear.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, it's like, do they not read the room, read the energy, do men not know how to read energy of how to approach a woman or win to approach a woman?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Right.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I don't think they do.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I don't know.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And you know, I hate saying this, but I know it, I feel like it always comes back on the woman and someone saying something like, well, if you didn't want them looking, you should know more that outfit.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Well, you're the one with a scrunch button, the shorts going up your ass and we can see everything, you know, so.
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[SPEAKER_01]: What that gives permission to come up and be like in creep or go get me the whole time.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Right.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I do that like I think, but like go on my ass.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And I have like the sports bra where the back is like four strings that cross and like come across the back.
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[SPEAKER_01]: But for me, I like shit out of the way.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I don't want to wear something baggy when I train.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So I want shorts.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I want them out of the way.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I want to see my leg muscle ripping when I'm doing this.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I want to see the shape of your back.
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[SPEAKER_01]: going back day.
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[SPEAKER_01]: That is the day that I will wear a crossback.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Open thing to be able to see and to watch and I don't want to I don't want to feel anything either.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So it I don't know that's my you know behind it but then also like I want to look good.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I want to feel good and like Jim Frank that they're designed for female bodies.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_01]: The one thing in the gym design for female bodies, um, I don't know that like keeps everything in place and like I don't have to worry about like my rules because, you know, shorts come up a little bit higher and they like are compression and I think it's important to feel cute going into the gym too.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Like I think you need to feel cute.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Like I just got home from the gym.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I did put on my little mesh hoodie.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I got my sports bra underneath, Harry, you know.
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[SPEAKER_00]: here.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So my little on-brain, my little on-brain booty shorts.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But you know, it's it's just kind of like don't say that we're asking for it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's like saying we're asking for a lot of things when we're out dressed nice.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We dress nice for ourselves.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And sure,
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[SPEAKER_00]: men are going to look.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We look at men, but it's about the appropriate behavior that comes along with that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yes, and they're gawking at my vagina.
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[SPEAKER_00]: not appropriate, just like it would be bad for us to got kittens penis.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So, you know, and any sometimes, yeah, it's like right there in your face, you know, they're doing hip thrust, you're doing hip thrust, okay, we get it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We get it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes I don't know why my gym, it's like literally your hip thrusting and and showing your entire, you know, two, two to the entire world, right?
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[SPEAKER_00]: You know, it's like facing out to the gym and you're like,
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[SPEAKER_00]: But you get used to it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I guess that's my point.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And you know, and then the other point to it is a lot of guys say that because women can plain about this kind of stuff, they're afraid to approach you in the gym.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And it's like, no, no, no, you shouldn't be afraid.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You should learn the appropriate way and the appropriate time to approach somebody in the gym.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And unfortunately, I feel like that might be a little different for each woman.
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[SPEAKER_01]: But what
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, what's the best way to approach you in the gym?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Like, got like, what would this perfect scenario or situation be for you?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Mostly approaching me in any space, whether it's on social media, whether it's, I'm on a walk at the gym is pretty much the same.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I don't like when dudes come heavy and strong right out the gate, may neither.
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[SPEAKER_00]: In any way, like they jump in your DM,
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[SPEAKER_00]: Or they try and you know start a conversation that's right to hate you want to go out sometime You want to go to coffee.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Do you want to go to dinner or whatever?
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's like straight out the gate and it's like why why are you asking me out?
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[SPEAKER_00]: You don't know my name.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You don't know.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I mean, it's social media.
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[SPEAKER_00]: They do but you know you don't know anything past that You know that I come to this gym
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[SPEAKER_00]: whatever.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So for me, it's small talk and like learning, you know, little, little things like you got to have the warm up just like you do with your exercise.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You literally got to warm up a little bit.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Hey, you know, even if you just randomly talking about.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Wow, it's hot in here today or you know, it's this at or look, you know, that equipment's not working or they just say that or here you can be using this or I like your shoes like something that's not a sexual compliment topic and straight out the gate.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It is small talk, you know, it's just a simple, hey, a simple high.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And then go from there and work into.
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[SPEAKER_00]: more conversation over time.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You have to build up to that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Like let's somebody know that you're open to talking to them, but you don't jump right in and be like, hey, you want to go to dinner?
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[SPEAKER_00]: No, what are you doing after this?
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[SPEAKER_01]: No, I remember last week, I think I told you that a guy who literally came out to me and told me, did he say I would look good on his arm?
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[SPEAKER_01]: God, right.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Hey, you know what would look good on my arm you or something.
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[SPEAKER_00]: He's the icing.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, don't do cheesy lines What and I think he thought he was so fucking funny He just thought he was like hilarious and I literally and I started laughing because I was laughing at him like not with him
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[SPEAKER_00]: You're such a fucking loser laughing type thing, it's like, yeah, you know, no, those kinds of lines are super duper cheesy and most women that I know of personally not going to go for that.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Oh, not in I got it all, but I completely agree.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I think like the slow like every time you go there, say hi, like every time, you know, and then I've heard a guy say before, but how do you know you're going to see her again?
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[SPEAKER_01]: You know, got to like seize the day.
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[SPEAKER_01]: They feel like they got to like seize the moment because they're never going to see you again.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Well, buddy, if we don't see each other again, then it wasn't meant to be.
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[SPEAKER_01]: But, right, hey, what's your name one time?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Hey, good to see you again.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And introduce yourself, just super simple.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, how long have you been coming here?
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[SPEAKER_01]: And then like, yeah, because then you're going to like intrude on my work out and I want to get back to my set, you know, it should on our space and then it's going to get awkward, you know, yeah.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I think it's the same like I, I've talked to Ben too, because I, you can tell like there's sometimes a vibe like from men where they're like you can tell that they're like,
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[SPEAKER_00]: Like, I'm not looking at you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm not even looking in your direction.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Don't get mad at me.
16:36
[SPEAKER_00]: They're like totally scared, you know?
16:38
[SPEAKER_00]: And so I'll just make like a little, you know, whatever.
16:41
[SPEAKER_00]: I usually, my, my goal go to thing is shoes.
16:44
[SPEAKER_00]: I love shoes.
16:45
[SPEAKER_00]: So I usually, and I'm not going to date a guy that's got ugly shoes on anyways.
16:50
[SPEAKER_00]: It's got to have fly shoes like it just has to be it's like a requirement so funny you know they say a lot of people you know like my my eyes are up here and it's like no I'm looking at your fucking shoes like because it's all about the shoes are they you know how just how dingy are they what kind are they what color are they I'm all about the aesthetics with the shoes and all the things with the shoes it can make a break in a passing.
17:15
[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, I could I wouldn't even oh you weren't your ring shoes.
17:19
[SPEAKER_01]: Oh, oh, that's nice.
17:20
[SPEAKER_01]: That's a good bonus I like I don't even pay attention.
17:22
[SPEAKER_01]: Oh, no.
17:23
[SPEAKER_00]: It's all about the shoes and I don't know I just have found that like men that care about their shoes tend to care about just how they look in general And just have a sense of style that I need because I'm not going out with some like
17:38
[SPEAKER_00]: Oracle like in Motherfucker, you know, while I'm dressed, right, super nice, and all these outfits that I have and have this guy that doesn't know how to dress, right?
17:47
[SPEAKER_00]: So I always compliment on the shoes.
17:49
[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
17:50
[SPEAKER_00]: You know, and then they're usually impressed because I'm into the shoes.
17:54
[SPEAKER_00]: So because of the have nice shoes on, they're in tomb too.
17:58
[SPEAKER_00]: So that's usually my little warm-up thing.
18:00
[SPEAKER_01]: But, and I don't think I don't think it's wrong.
18:04
[SPEAKER_01]: And I do think the
18:06
[SPEAKER_01]: man should be like the one to approach in the chase.
18:09
[SPEAKER_01]: Sure.
18:09
[SPEAKER_01]: But like, you know, we've both been in the dating world and the single world and all of that.
18:15
[SPEAKER_01]: And it's like, I don't know.
18:17
[SPEAKER_01]: I don't think it's wrong to go up and say something to a man either.
18:20
[SPEAKER_01]: I let him know that you're approachable.
18:23
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
18:23
[SPEAKER_01]: Hey, and say your name or like, hey, are you using that or like say hi or smile to let him know?
18:29
[SPEAKER_01]: It's kind of like, you remember the story back in the day how we moved
18:33
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, yeah, yeah, that's story.
18:35
[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, like yeah, we're walking around.
18:37
[SPEAKER_01]: They drop it.
18:37
[SPEAKER_01]: And that was to let the guy know that they were interested in them.
18:41
[SPEAKER_00]: Like there's right on the drop in your gym towel, you know, what kind of like have you ever gone to parties where they have solo cups that are like different colors.
18:49
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, yeah, so like based on what you're open to, you know, like your straight gazing goal, open to it.
18:56
[SPEAKER_00]: Like whatever it is that you want to do whatever you're there for.
18:58
[SPEAKER_00]: I think that they should implement this in the gym somehow.
19:02
[SPEAKER_00]: That was so funny.
19:04
[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, it's called a wedding ring, Jen, but you know, that doesn't even fit anyone.
19:08
[SPEAKER_01]: But yeah, they don't, and then don't even wear them in the gym a lot of the times, you know, so I've had people come up to me and say, I don't see a ring on your finger and I'm like, I wouldn't wear it to the gym anyways, even when I wasn't married, I didn't wear it.
19:21
[SPEAKER_01]: Right.
19:22
[SPEAKER_00]: You never wore like a silicone one?
19:24
[SPEAKER_00]: No.
19:25
[SPEAKER_00]: I mean, I'm getting gotten one.
19:27
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm going to go on one and then I just didn't wear it anymore.
19:30
[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, but yeah, so I don't know, but a system would would be nice, you know, I thought I think it would help.
19:37
[SPEAKER_01]: They should have had like, um, mingle hour or like social hour at the gym, like on Friday, nine to 10, like, coming hang out on the turf.
19:46
[SPEAKER_01]: I don't know.
19:47
[SPEAKER_01]: I just thought of it.
19:47
[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, I know.
19:48
[SPEAKER_00]: I mean, and they're literally saying that like people are replacing going to the bars and like going to clubs and things like that with going to the gym and meeting people and
19:58
[SPEAKER_00]: going there.
19:59
[SPEAKER_00]: They're progressively like getting busy or on Friday and Saturday nights.
20:03
[SPEAKER_00]: It's like a later and later.
20:05
[SPEAKER_00]: You should be able to go to the gym like 10 p.m.
20:08
[SPEAKER_00]: It was dead because people were out and doing things.
20:11
[SPEAKER_00]: And now it's becoming busier busier later and I don't know.
20:14
[SPEAKER_00]: That's true.
20:15
[SPEAKER_01]: Oh, my God.
20:15
[SPEAKER_01]: And even, yeah, like Thursday, Friday, if I go to the gym like past seven, it's packed.
20:21
[SPEAKER_01]: But the problem is is that it's bro hour.
20:26
[SPEAKER_00]: I think that's going to get their pump on.
20:28
[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, yes, and arms ready for the weekend.
20:31
[SPEAKER_01]: And I think that's something important to bring up, too, is if you ever just stop, like I do this often now, and I bring up to my girls' attention, too, and you just kind of look around, we, women in the gym are such a minority.
20:45
[SPEAKER_01]: There are times where I'm looking down the road, the benches and the dumbbells, and I'm like, I am the only woman around right now,
20:56
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, and I prefer those over.
20:59
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm like, there machines need to be someone.
21:02
[SPEAKER_01]: And I'll look and I'll look and then I'll finally see a woman.
21:05
[SPEAKER_01]: But it's crazy how much of a man's world it truly is.
21:11
[SPEAKER_01]: and we are the minority.
21:13
[SPEAKER_01]: So if you're a woman and you're going to the gym, good for you.
21:17
[SPEAKER_01]: Keep going even if you feel like it's intimidating.
21:21
[SPEAKER_01]: If you've had issues like just keep going because we deserve to take up space there too, you know, for sure.
21:28
[SPEAKER_00]: Oh yeah, absolutely.
21:29
[SPEAKER_01]: I was just talking with
21:32
[SPEAKER_01]: I was talking with a client this morning and she had brought up how she's like, do you ever just feel like the equipment and she's like your body just doesn't match and I'm like, oh, all the time, the gym equipment is not designed for a female body.
21:46
[SPEAKER_00]: Especially like that's why I don't really get on the machines.
21:49
[SPEAKER_00]: I feel like a little, you know, like little fairy over there trying to like reach everything, get everything down, like this is no
21:55
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, five foot three.
21:56
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm like, I'm just over there swinging around.
21:59
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm like, I'm in and out.
22:00
[SPEAKER_00]: This isn't working for me.
22:01
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
22:02
[SPEAKER_00]: So yeah, it is made for men.
22:04
[SPEAKER_01]: It is.
22:05
[SPEAKER_01]: I mean, yeah, just the preacher curl alone, you know, like,
22:10
[SPEAKER_01]: I can never line myself up right now it's hard we have boobs, you know, at any time I've worked out with a guy he'd be like, you're too low, what do you know, I'm like, I got tips you have to talk them under and then put your armpit in the pad and that's how we curl and I see women sticking their nose like up on the pad and like over.
22:29
[SPEAKER_01]: What do you do it?
22:29
[SPEAKER_01]: No, no, no, no, no, talk those puppies down.
22:31
[SPEAKER_01]: And they don't know.
22:32
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, there they go.
22:33
[SPEAKER_00]: I know I would watch my x workout You know what I mean like all the time fuck boy, and I'm just like how's he lining himself up right now?
22:42
[SPEAKER_00]: You know like he makes it look so easy because it's like, oh, he just sits and he just goes forward and then it's like boom and then it's just like
22:49
[SPEAKER_00]: What?
22:50
[SPEAKER_00]: Like, you know, I can never get myself right.
22:52
[SPEAKER_00]: Me and Chris are always struggling with that.
22:54
[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, he's because he's like five foot five, you know, we're always struggling with that.
22:59
[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
22:59
[SPEAKER_01]: And just this, this Smith machine.
23:01
[SPEAKER_01]: It's like, if you're on the shorter side, you don't have enough room to like, yeah, you hit the stoppers on the ground because you're so short.
23:09
[SPEAKER_00]: You know, right, there's not enough range of motion there.
23:12
[SPEAKER_00]: And the cables don't go low enough or they go up too high or like,
23:17
[SPEAKER_00]: little too high, which it should be, so you could hang, but there's all these little things that are just like, I know that design is a female body and no, no, and then it becomes awkward and then you're like, oh, Lord, what do I look like, you know, but hey, you know, we do what we do.
23:34
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
23:36
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, no.
23:36
[SPEAKER_00]: I know.
23:37
[SPEAKER_01]: Need for other seats.
23:38
[SPEAKER_01]: So lessons to be taken away from this guys, girls, if you're going to go up in a
23:47
[SPEAKER_01]: Start very, very slow.
23:49
[SPEAKER_01]: Say hi.
23:50
[SPEAKER_01]: And remember, if you don't see them again, then the love of your life didn't just get lost.
23:54
[SPEAKER_01]: They were there.
23:56
[SPEAKER_00]: So it's a very consistent at the times that you go to the gym.
24:01
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, we're often not you're going to see them again.
24:04
[SPEAKER_01]: You, you will see them again.
24:06
[SPEAKER_01]: Okay, we got to talk about creepy shit.
24:08
[SPEAKER_01]: That's happened to us at the gym.
24:10
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, you don't do.
24:12
[SPEAKER_00]: Don't do this side's pain like hey, you look at on my arm like hit the fuck out of here or When they're lifting and they're making the grunking noises and looking at you purposefully like they're fucking you And then you start kind of wondering yeah, I've had a couple of those like where they're get a little Graphic and it's like I'm loud at the gym, but yeah, mine is like
24:42
[SPEAKER_01]: to, you know, like I'm counting or I'm like, ugh, I'm like mother fucker.
24:48
[SPEAKER_01]: You know, like, I just screaming or moaning loud.
24:53
[SPEAKER_01]: I mean, you're like, ugh.
24:55
[SPEAKER_01]: You know, that's what I know.
24:57
[SPEAKER_00]: Not doing that.
24:58
[SPEAKER_00]: No, but men's sounds do sound very sexual time.
25:03
[SPEAKER_01]: It's really, really is actual.
25:05
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
25:06
[SPEAKER_00]: And I'm like, okay, I need to tear in my music a little bit more.
25:09
[SPEAKER_00]: This is getting ridiculous.
25:10
[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
25:10
[SPEAKER_01]: And that's probably a problem for me, too, because I have the noise canceling headphones.
25:14
[SPEAKER_01]: So I don't really know how loud I am.
25:16
[SPEAKER_01]: But yeah.
25:19
[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, whatever.
25:20
[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, I, I, I just think.
25:22
[SPEAKER_01]: Girl in their load, I know.
25:23
[SPEAKER_01]: And you should be, did I ever tell you the story about how I got, I guess I got fired.
25:28
[SPEAKER_01]: Let go.
25:29
[SPEAKER_01]: I left.
25:29
[SPEAKER_01]: I don't know from a gym because of the noises I made.
25:35
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm not even joking.
25:36
[SPEAKER_01]: What a fuck.
25:37
[SPEAKER_00]: It was probably two or three gyms ago.
25:40
[SPEAKER_01]: So I know they were out for me.
25:42
[SPEAKER_01]: God, I hope some of those old members are listening right now or like the manager or something.
25:47
[SPEAKER_01]: Cause you have mother fuckers.
25:49
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm telling that story.
25:49
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm calling them out.
25:51
[SPEAKER_01]: So that was Jim and my classes were huge.
25:56
[SPEAKER_01]: I had the biggest classes, everyone came and I just felt like they were like wanted me to be out eventually.
26:03
[SPEAKER_01]: She'd like say things and I always did something wrong like my music was too loud.
26:08
[SPEAKER_01]: I didn't use the mic.
26:09
[SPEAKER_01]: I used the mic.
26:10
[SPEAKER_01]: It was like something and then I got the women we all eventually started doing my class and then we'd go round and everyone would live.
26:18
[SPEAKER_01]: If I didn't train them, we just
26:20
[SPEAKER_01]: the herd went down and we all lifted, you know, and stuff and it was really cool.
26:24
[SPEAKER_01]: And then I got pulled over to the side and they're like, well, you know, you don't train here.
26:28
[SPEAKER_01]: So it looks bad that you're working out with the members.
26:31
[SPEAKER_01]: And I'm like, I'm, you don't want the instructor to lift with the member.
26:37
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm like, I'm not coaching.
26:39
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm, I'm lifting.
26:40
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm doing this myself and I get it looks bad because you're not a trainer here.
26:43
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm like,
26:44
[SPEAKER_01]: Wouldn't be a fucking trainer there anyways because you literally pay like $10 an hour get fucked right and it was just like little things.
26:51
[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, the owner saw you down there again.
26:53
[SPEAKER_01]: They don't want you to I don't like
26:55
[SPEAKER_01]: I just trained my kids are in daycare for another hour.
26:57
[SPEAKER_01]: Like, I just thought, what do you want me to do?
26:59
[SPEAKER_01]: Leave and come back.
27:00
[SPEAKER_01]: Like, I can't control these people.
27:04
[SPEAKER_01]: And it was a very, the ceilings were low, you know, sometimes there was no one in there, sometimes it was busy or whatever.
27:11
[SPEAKER_01]: And again, I always had like headphones on and stuff.
27:14
[SPEAKER_01]: And they pulled me into the office one day, they said that they had members complaining about the noises I was making.
27:21
[SPEAKER_00]: get out.
27:23
[SPEAKER_00]: It's a fucking gym.
27:24
[SPEAKER_00]: Are you kidding me?
27:26
[SPEAKER_00]: And again, everybody's making noise.
27:29
[SPEAKER_00]: You should be.
27:29
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, if you're not, you're not doing it right.
27:33
[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, my golden rules is like, it's like being silent during sex.
27:37
[SPEAKER_01]: Like seriously, it's impossible.
27:39
[SPEAKER_00]: If your girl is silent during sex, she ain't doing it right.
27:42
[SPEAKER_00]: And if you're working out, you're not making noises.
27:44
[SPEAKER_00]: You are not
27:50
[SPEAKER_01]: Oh my god, we need to put that on the center seriously and they yeah, they told me I Had they had complaints that I was making noises in the gym and I'm like I've never been like Overly sexual or loud.
28:01
[SPEAKER_01]: It's just noises when you're lifting heavy and you're like right my God Fuck my life.
28:05
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm working to failure
28:07
[SPEAKER_01]: And then they just said, it's probably best that you don't work here anymore.
28:11
[SPEAKER_01]: And I'm like, I've been teaching here for like 10 years or something like that.
28:15
[SPEAKER_01]: And I'm like, all right, peace out.
28:16
[SPEAKER_01]: I've been dying to get out of here anyways, the whole aerobic program shut down.
28:29
[SPEAKER_01]: It I don't think you need to be silent in a gym and you should have had headphones on anyways and you should not be twice to and be too busy to complain about someone else making noise like yeah the gym is an outlet do I think it's an outlet in a replacement for therapy known I probably mentioned that before it is not the same thing is therapy wait there be
28:50
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, yeah, there's people that literally are like I don't eat therapy because they go to the gym gyms my therapy.
28:55
[SPEAKER_00]: And it's like no, no gym is an outlet going and working out is an outlet.
29:01
[SPEAKER_00]: It is not therapy.
29:03
[SPEAKER_00]: It may feel therapeutic.
29:05
[SPEAKER_00]: Absolutely, it's good for you mentally, physically, but it is not going to replace your therapist, but I mean, although to the gym, I'm noisy sometimes I cry, like not full on crying, but sometimes I've definitely cried, things come out, you get emotional, you're processing things, you're working through things, you've had an emotional, something's going on in your life, a certain song comes on, you're in it and you're like, damn, you know, a shit just hits you.
29:35
[SPEAKER_00]: Kind of energetically cleanse yourself after you go to the gym even if it's just like a very minimal way with like crystals.
29:42
[SPEAKER_00]: I mean, I have to like completely smudge yourself, say yourself, but that the gym is a very heavy energetic place.
29:50
[SPEAKER_00]: I believe it.
29:50
[SPEAKER_00]: And if you're not careful about protecting yourself from it in an energetic way, you will carry out a lot of shit from other people.
29:57
[SPEAKER_00]: If you're definitely, if you're like empathic, especially, but people are in there working out.
30:04
[SPEAKER_00]: their frustrations and so much of their shit that's going on in their life, anger, sadness, yeah, kind of shit's going on, yeah.
30:13
[SPEAKER_00]: You know, so that's a heavy space.
30:15
[SPEAKER_00]: If you really think about it, that it really is, and you never know what someone's going through, but
30:20
[SPEAKER_01]: I think overall like Jim etiquette totally okay to make noise.
30:25
[SPEAKER_01]: I think you should be, but excessively screaming and slamming the weights.
30:30
[SPEAKER_01]: Come on people.
30:31
[SPEAKER_01]: My god, we're like dropping them.
30:32
[SPEAKER_01]: Just yeah, and then just like, yeah, like okay, taking it too far.
30:38
[SPEAKER_01]: Have you ever had people come up and take the weights that you were using?
30:42
[SPEAKER_00]: Yes.
30:44
[SPEAKER_00]: And it's like, hello, they're literally right there.
30:46
[SPEAKER_00]: My right there.
30:47
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm not done yet, you know, and I don't even take my phone in the gym.
30:51
[SPEAKER_00]: So I'm not the person that's sitting on the bench, like scrolling on their phone, and you think that they're doing nothing.
31:00
[SPEAKER_00]: Like, I'm not that person.
31:01
[SPEAKER_00]: I take my watch, my watch has, you know, the cellular on it.
31:06
[SPEAKER_00]: So if I do get a phone call like an answer, it's got my music on it, it's got my text.
31:10
[SPEAKER_00]: I leave my phone in the fucking car.
31:14
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm not in there to do anything else other than workout.
31:16
[SPEAKER_00]: And I really, it limits me in what I'll do to.
31:19
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
31:20
[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, okay.
31:20
[SPEAKER_00]: If I have like full blown phone, like I'll have a longer conversation on text.
31:24
[SPEAKER_00]: If I have just my watch, it's just I'm saying it real quick.
31:28
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm done.
31:28
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm over with.
31:29
[SPEAKER_00]: Okay.
31:29
[SPEAKER_00]: So put it later.
31:30
[SPEAKER_00]: You're there to workout, right?
31:33
[SPEAKER_00]: So yeah, it's bizarre to me that I'm sitting there just resting, you know, in between sets and somebody comes and takes your fucking shit.
31:40
[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, funny, funny story just happened last week.
31:45
[SPEAKER_01]: I texted my accountability group like you guys never going to believe what happened just now.
31:48
[SPEAKER_01]: I was doing like bench press or something and I went to put the 25s down and I was like, I'm going to go to 30 because I hit like a good number of reps, like I'm going to go up to 30.
31:59
[SPEAKER_01]: So I put the 25s down.
32:00
[SPEAKER_01]: And I literally turned to grab the 30 and a guy came up and grabbed him and he looked at me and he's like, you're not really going to use those anyways.
32:07
[SPEAKER_00]: Excuse the fuck out of me, sir.
32:08
[SPEAKER_00]: I absolutely am.
32:10
[SPEAKER_01]: I was like this bitch, and they like waddled his way down and sat down next to the bench and like this motherfucker.
32:17
[SPEAKER_01]: I grabbed the 35s.
32:18
[SPEAKER_00]: And I went, I'm still in that I've touched the 35s.
32:22
[SPEAKER_01]: Like I'm talking to do in this weather.
32:23
[SPEAKER_01]: This kills me and it was fine.
32:25
[SPEAKER_01]: And he was next to me.
32:26
[SPEAKER_01]: And I got done.
32:26
[SPEAKER_01]: I like took him back and I'm like, who wasn't for you.
32:29
[SPEAKER_01]: I wouldn't know when up and wait.
32:31
[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, what a dumb ass.
32:33
[SPEAKER_01]: Just happened to me.
32:35
[SPEAKER_01]: Like,
32:37
[SPEAKER_01]: I couldn't literally write a book yet.
32:39
[SPEAKER_01]: Like the shit that people have said to me, I've had men come up when I, cause I was walking my flip-flops, I've had a guy come up and literally was like, can I take a picture of your feet?
32:49
[SPEAKER_01]: Fucking gross.
32:50
[SPEAKER_01]: No.
32:51
[SPEAKER_01]: Never do that.
32:52
[SPEAKER_01]: I literally go in and I put my shoes and socks on like immediately.
32:56
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm like, because we're California, we live in flip-flops, you know, but yeah, I'm like that is so inappropriate.
33:01
[SPEAKER_01]: He's like, you have the most beautiful feet.
33:03
[SPEAKER_01]: Like, can I just take a picture?
33:04
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm like, no, go find me a feed finder, bitch.
33:06
[SPEAKER_01]: Like, get the fuck.
33:07
[SPEAKER_00]: Right, be like, how much are you going to fucking pay me right?
33:11
[SPEAKER_00]: I would have literally been like, go up to the front, pay my membership for a year, and you can take the fuck up pictures.
33:17
[SPEAKER_00]: You know, I never go into the gym barefoot.
33:19
[SPEAKER_00]: I like walk right in in my shoes, but you know, like, my workout shoes like ready to go.
33:24
[SPEAKER_01]: But no, like, that's like that are not okay.
33:29
[SPEAKER_00]: but a lot of times they walk to the gym too, so I'm not in flip-flops, but yeah, yeah, that's it.
33:34
[SPEAKER_00]: But yeah, don't do that.
33:36
[SPEAKER_00]: Like it's cool.
33:36
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm not like hating on dudes that have like a foot thing.
33:39
[SPEAKER_00]: Like at all, you know, you have pretty feet.
33:40
[SPEAKER_00]: I have pretty feet.
33:41
[SPEAKER_00]: We get compliments on it, but don't fucking do it in the gym.
33:43
[SPEAKER_00]: And definitely don't, oh, what could ask to take a picture?
33:46
[SPEAKER_00]: I mean, at least, I mean, I guess at least the ass.
33:49
[SPEAKER_00]: There's probably men, like the one guy that was just like recording you and wasn't even saying anything.
33:54
[SPEAKER_00]: And I've had that shit happen too.
33:56
[SPEAKER_00]: You're like doing squats and shit like that.
33:58
[SPEAKER_00]: Your asses out in the air, step up, like whatever, and you turn around.
34:02
[SPEAKER_00]: You got somebody videotape me you.
34:04
[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, don't fucking do that.
34:05
[SPEAKER_01]: And you know, really made me sad, was that like the people came up after Jimmy.
34:11
[SPEAKER_01]: And was like, oh, I saw that, oh my God.
34:14
[SPEAKER_01]: And I'm like, where were you?
34:16
[SPEAKER_01]: Why didn't you say anything to me?
34:17
[SPEAKER_01]: Or why didn't you stop them?
34:20
[SPEAKER_01]: Right.
34:20
[SPEAKER_01]: Good.
34:21
[SPEAKER_00]: Everybody's back.
34:22
[SPEAKER_00]: Right.
34:23
[SPEAKER_00]: Everybody always talks about it like after the fact they don't interject as if for the one lady, the one time that story I told you about.
34:29
[SPEAKER_00]: That should count my back, which was totally crazy.
34:33
[SPEAKER_00]: I was, so I was working out my normal time.
34:36
[SPEAKER_00]: I'd seen this guy in there like a couple of times.
34:38
[SPEAKER_00]: We'd said, hi, you know, this small talk to warm up whatever I want to have been completely freaked out.
34:43
[SPEAKER_00]: Um, at him approaching me at that point, you know, I'd seen him around for probably about a month, maybe even a little longer than that.
34:52
[SPEAKER_00]: But the guy is like, big, huge guy.
34:55
[SPEAKER_00]: Like, I don't even want to try and guess his weight because I'm really bad at weight, but I mean, I'd say he's easily like 65, 66.
35:02
[SPEAKER_00]: No, he's okay.
35:11
[SPEAKER_00]: so I'm like walking out of the gym and he's like comes right behind me and approaches me and all of a sudden this lady come running out and she's like hey are you ready to go come on let's go she was like you know older than me she's like are you ready to leave and I was like yeah yeah I'm ready to go and he's like oh I'll let you go you know it's okay he's like we can talk another time
35:34
[SPEAKER_00]: And she walked me out and was like, where are you parked?
35:37
[SPEAKER_00]: Where are you parked?
35:38
[SPEAKER_00]: And she was like, are you okay?
35:39
[SPEAKER_00]: Who's that guy?
35:40
[SPEAKER_00]: Did you know him?
35:41
[SPEAKER_00]: But didn't seem like you knew him.
35:42
[SPEAKER_00]: She was like, I was like, right inside the doors.
35:44
[SPEAKER_00]: And she said, I saw him beeline after you out the door.
35:47
[SPEAKER_00]: And she's like, it scared me.
35:49
[SPEAKER_00]: And so she totally had my back.
35:51
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm like, damn, you know, she cockboxed me a little bit.
35:55
[SPEAKER_00]: But I totally was like, wow, you know, that's amazing that there are still people out there.
36:01
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
36:02
[SPEAKER_00]: Especially women that like have your back and watch for you like what's going on this.
36:07
[SPEAKER_00]: Because she was paying attention.
36:08
[SPEAKER_00]: Because I'm totally that type of woman.
36:10
[SPEAKER_01]: I totally
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[SPEAKER_00]: And what they're doing and what men around them are doing because sometimes we don't see what other people see from different views and the gym and you're like, oh damn, that's fucking creepy.
36:25
[SPEAKER_00]: That guy was just recording her or that guy was like following her like or like the guy that's all you do just a fucking bathroom.
36:32
[SPEAKER_00]: Like, what is wrong with men?
36:34
[SPEAKER_00]: Do not approach women in that way.
36:36
[SPEAKER_00]: Do not get stuck or else, don't ask them.
36:38
[SPEAKER_00]: Pictures don't videotape.
36:40
[SPEAKER_00]: Like, don't do any of those things.
36:42
[SPEAKER_00]: None of those things.
36:43
[SPEAKER_01]: If you go to two locations, the same as us, okay, probably three, we notice.
36:49
[SPEAKER_01]: Like, that's not the way to get my attention.
36:51
[SPEAKER_01]: Now, I just think you're a fucking weirdo, following the area.
36:53
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, exactly.
36:54
[SPEAKER_00]: Do not follow us all over the gym.
36:56
[SPEAKER_00]: If we go, you know,
36:58
[SPEAKER_00]: My god did I tell you that I had the guy that like chased me to the stair stepper like and and was trying to beat me to get on it before I'm like, oh, okay, okay, princess, you know, what's this, you know,
37:11
[SPEAKER_01]: Jesus, Lord.
37:12
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, it's unbelievable.
37:14
[SPEAKER_00]: So yeah, there's definitely weird, but I think two, one bit of advice that I could give people like if they're nervous about going into the gym because I was to go there when you know it's definitely going to be slower if you can.
37:28
[SPEAKER_00]: Yes, the slower times and then ease into going at the, you know, a better, more appropriate time for you or avoid the weekends, you know, certain times.
37:41
[SPEAKER_01]: and if there's no spots, I'm like, it's so, yeah.
37:44
[SPEAKER_00]: At mine, there's, oh God, there's so many times that there's not slots in the parking lot at bosses, huge.
37:50
[SPEAKER_00]: Like huge shares with like a couple other things, like counting so on and everything like that.
37:55
[SPEAKER_00]: And there's so many times, that's another reason I like to walk because then I have to worry about that, right?
38:00
[SPEAKER_00]: But, you know, I,
38:04
[SPEAKER_00]: You can ask the people up front and they'll tell you what the trend is for that specific gym like when you sign up so that you can go there or, you know, sign up with Melissa so that you could do some coaching stuff and, you know,
38:18
[SPEAKER_00]: Face timer, maybe, you know, those things like when, you know, so that you have somebody that is with you or you can have a call with Melissa right before you go in get totally out, you know, check out what they're when you leave stuff like that.
38:33
[SPEAKER_00]: I think having people accountable is.
38:35
[SPEAKER_00]: huge.
38:36
[SPEAKER_00]: Well, that's another thing too.
38:37
[SPEAKER_01]: That's a good point of like knowing what you're doing before you're going in is huge.
38:42
[SPEAKER_01]: Yes.
38:42
[SPEAKER_01]: It helps take for sure.
38:43
[SPEAKER_01]: You take away some like the anxiety around it.
38:46
[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
38:46
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm not like looking at your workout for the very first time as you're starting to do it.
38:50
[SPEAKER_00]: Right.
38:51
[SPEAKER_00]: Or just go in and get on the stair supper.
38:54
[SPEAKER_00]: or the treadmill, you know, whatever your preference is is for like cardio and just going in warm up, going get used to warming up, going get on, you know, the turf, the mats, whatever you have at your gym, depending on if you're eosphosa, whatever.
39:08
[SPEAKER_00]: I go to both, I just avoid one at certain times because that's where the X is, but I like to go to both because I like to, you know, widen my territory.
39:17
[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, that gym time like I completely agree like I know exactly the like the rush hours and when I need to be out of there by because I've gone and I've done my own research and, you know, figure it out.
39:29
[SPEAKER_01]: There are people I know listening that they get out of work at five, they don't have that flexibility to be flexible when they go, they like have to go rush hour because they are that that person right I just want to remind everyone to that like it's all a mindset like john said like when you're going in if there's things that you can do to set yourself up for first success do it because it really is all mindset if you're driving up there and you're like, God, it's going to be so fucking busy all the equipment's going to be taken and not going to be anything.
39:55
[SPEAKER_01]: Don't, I just want to leave like you're right.
39:57
[SPEAKER_01]: You're right.
39:58
[SPEAKER_01]: Your body is going to listen.
39:59
[SPEAKER_01]: It's going to be all of tight.
40:01
[SPEAKER_01]: It's not going to work with you.
40:02
[SPEAKER_01]: You're not going to hit, you know, the PRs that you want to hit and do everything.
40:06
[SPEAKER_01]: It's listening.
40:06
[SPEAKER_01]: So, but if you're like, I'm going to do the best I can.
40:09
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm going to be flexible.
40:10
[SPEAKER_01]: If I can't follow Melissa's routine exactly what I get there.
40:14
[SPEAKER_01]: I'll shift it around and do something else with all a mindset because there are times where I have to go at seven o'clock at night.
40:21
[SPEAKER_01]: worse time ever and I'm like I'm going to do this.
40:24
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm going to do the best I can.
40:25
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm not going to let the outside shit and the outside factors stop me.
40:30
[SPEAKER_01]: Like I'm right.
40:32
[SPEAKER_01]: What that hit me hitting my goals.
40:34
[SPEAKER_01]: Fuck.
40:35
[SPEAKER_01]: No.
40:35
[SPEAKER_01]: No.
40:36
[SPEAKER_01]: No.
40:37
[SPEAKER_01]: I am way too important.
40:38
[SPEAKER_01]: My goals are way too important.
40:39
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm not going to let other people dictate whether or not I have a successful workout today.
40:43
[SPEAKER_01]: Nope.
40:44
[SPEAKER_01]: Not going to do it.
40:45
[SPEAKER_00]: No.
40:45
[SPEAKER_00]: No.
40:46
[SPEAKER_00]: Or yeah, just or your vibe around that workout.
40:48
[SPEAKER_00]: Like don't let them, you know, still I am constantly in there like your bad bit.
40:53
[SPEAKER_00]: I am constantly self-talking.
40:55
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm a bad bitch, you got this, you're good.
40:58
[SPEAKER_00]: You know, because there are a lot of days that you are like, I don't want to fucking go to the gym.
41:03
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't want to go on the walk.
41:05
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't want to do the things.
41:07
[SPEAKER_00]: But I promise you're going to feel better about going than not going because once you get to that point, you hold yourself accountable and you're literally going to be like, okay, you're lazy ass.
41:19
[SPEAKER_00]: You didn't go to the gym.
41:20
[SPEAKER_00]: You know, and you're literally going to regret it.
41:22
[SPEAKER_00]: all day.
41:23
[SPEAKER_00]: And you regret even not starting.
41:25
[SPEAKER_00]: You know, I know I was locked in like after the first week, and I was certainly locked in after like 30 days.
41:31
[SPEAKER_00]: Like, you know, sure I'll give myself a week off here and there, time off here and there, we should all do that.
41:37
[SPEAKER_00]: But when you get it started, it's like, you get to a point where it's so hard not.
41:43
[SPEAKER_00]: to go.
41:44
[SPEAKER_01]: Right.
41:45
[SPEAKER_01]: And what's cool, too, is like during those two weeks, you're not figuring it out alone.
41:50
[SPEAKER_01]: No, you have helped to be like, what this work?
41:52
[SPEAKER_01]: Well, what do you think about this?
41:54
[SPEAKER_01]: I didn't show up yesterday.
41:54
[SPEAKER_01]: Can you please help make sure I show up tomorrow?
41:57
[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
41:57
[SPEAKER_00]: And then you have so many options of what to do and how to keep that going with you.
42:03
[SPEAKER_00]: Anything from your app to your at home programs to the group to one on one yeah like seriously there's so many ways to like get going that out fit.
42:14
[SPEAKER_00]: You your schedule everything that's happening everything that you need to keep yourself going literally be like why did I do the sooner.
42:23
[SPEAKER_00]: You know, like, why didn't I do this in her.
42:25
[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, always always speaking of timing with like the gym and stuff.
42:30
[SPEAKER_01]: I just had to bring this up.
42:31
[SPEAKER_01]: And this is one of the reasons why for females.
42:34
[SPEAKER_01]: It is so important to know your cycle.
42:38
[SPEAKER_01]: and have an understanding of where you're at if you're still menstruating, but even if you're pre and post, like metopause and stuff, you know, you still, we are not still linear with our hormones.
42:49
[SPEAKER_01]: There are still ups and downs and ups and flows, and I can't tell you how many women I still have a conversation with, and they don't understand their cycle.
42:56
[SPEAKER_01]: They don't know when their power time starts.
43:00
[SPEAKER_01]: And when they're like, you know what, just chill on the weights, do a little bit more yoga.
43:04
[SPEAKER_01]: I mean, still lift and stuff.
43:05
[SPEAKER_01]: But this is not to tell you a couple of stuff.
43:07
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, you're okay.
43:09
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, just go and show up because there are some days where I'm like, why is this so heavy today.
43:15
[SPEAKER_00]: Yes.
43:15
[SPEAKER_01]: Good.
43:18
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, what's happening?
43:19
[SPEAKER_00]: Right.
43:19
[SPEAKER_00]: Why do I have no energy?
43:21
[SPEAKER_00]: Why did I not hit that as hard as I was able to do before?
43:25
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, it's not slipping back.
43:27
[SPEAKER_00]: It's literally so much different moments.
43:31
[SPEAKER_01]: We, we are so up and down and up and down and then.
43:35
[SPEAKER_01]: When we are in the down and we don't know like, oh shit, I'm on day 21, duh, this makes sense.
43:41
[SPEAKER_01]: We get frustrated and we're like, see, why am I even doing this?
43:44
[SPEAKER_01]: Why am I even showing up?
43:45
[SPEAKER_01]: Like, I was good last week and now I'm not, and they're not going away.
43:50
[SPEAKER_01]: It's not my fault.
43:51
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm not stupid.
43:53
[SPEAKER_00]: My body's not broken.
43:54
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm not doing something wrong.
43:55
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm a female.
43:57
[SPEAKER_01]: Right.
43:57
[SPEAKER_01]: It's going on, you know, and it's important for guys to have an understanding of this too, and if you can really understand how a woman works in a hormones work, you know, want to be like, let's go.
44:07
[SPEAKER_01]: I got you like, and then other times we're like, do you need chocolate?
44:10
[SPEAKER_01]: Like, how can I just love you?
44:12
[SPEAKER_01]: Get you a
44:13
[SPEAKER_01]: If they need that ready, please can we say that if you are standing there and you need the machine that I'm on, you standing there staring at me will not make me go faster.
44:25
[SPEAKER_00]: No, it's like the people that like are sitting there waiting for the parking spot.
44:30
[SPEAKER_00]: I will literally fucking sit here, even longer.
44:34
[SPEAKER_00]: Like, I am that fucking petty going today.
44:37
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm going to hit a PR.
44:38
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm going to be on this motherfucker machine and I'm going to do more sets and more fucking reps, you know, I hate that.
44:44
[SPEAKER_00]: I get the like, or like, or people that want to like tap in like in between your sets when it's busy and they're like, you know, in between your downtime and it's like, bro.
44:55
[SPEAKER_00]: No, it is not the fucking busy you go somewhere else and wait you don't I mean go do something else come back here like seriously I have never asked anybody how many sets do you have left no longer are you gonna be or sat there and fucking waited for him I go do something else It's bad to say like hey how many sets you got left like I think that's fine, but then it's not standing there Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, they're like standing there like they're
45:20
[SPEAKER_00]: they're like, I'm next.
45:21
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't like the people again in the parking lot that's just fucking sit there behind you.
45:26
[SPEAKER_00]: No, no, I'm sitting here now.
45:28
[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, I think that's totally poor Jim etiquette.
45:31
[SPEAKER_01]: And honestly, it's not going to make me speed up like because you're standing there.
45:34
[SPEAKER_01]: I will go slower.
45:35
[SPEAKER_01]: Guess what?
45:35
[SPEAKER_01]: Now I got to do single leg and then double leg.
45:39
[SPEAKER_00]: What about the locker room selfies because there's always a little stickers that are like no selfies in the locker room and then everybody's inside of their taking taking selfies.
45:48
[SPEAKER_01]: It's the best lighting.
45:49
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm like, why are you telling people not to do the selfies when you literally have like the wind mirrors and it's like the most glorious lighting ever.
45:57
[SPEAKER_01]: Right.
45:58
[SPEAKER_00]: I think that's why they're building those other rooms so that you can like pose and like take the pictures and all that kind of stuff so that you're not inside the locker rooms because because they're afraid you're gonna get and I have seen people in the background of people's pictures that are not fully dressed and it's like oh shit.
46:13
[SPEAKER_01]: I know.
46:14
[SPEAKER_01]: You know, well, but yeah, you guys, I hope you learned a lot from our gym etiquette dating slash story telling episode of, yeah, and just get in there.
46:24
[SPEAKER_01]: And if you have questions or concerns or anything right into the show, it's Melissa Vogel at gmail.com, DM me, it's Melissa Vogel.
46:32
[SPEAKER_01]: Jen, what is your Instagram so you can get hold of you?
46:35
[SPEAKER_00]: Hey Jen Quartet or just like me up on Facebook because seriously like I'm totally open to dudes like writing me insane What's the better way to do this like learn from us like learn from us yeah
46:47
[SPEAKER_01]: anything.
46:48
[SPEAKER_00]: So fine, maximalist of the fitness stuff asked me the dating stuff.
46:53
[SPEAKER_00]: Don't ask me the dating stuff.
46:55
[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
46:56
[SPEAKER_00]: I will ask you along.
46:57
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
46:58
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
46:58
[SPEAKER_00]: I'll all send you to Melissa and she'll send you to me.
47:00
[SPEAKER_01]: So yes.
47:02
[SPEAKER_01]: And as always, check out the show notes.
47:04
[SPEAKER_01]: Well, we have really good links in there and check out the link for the back to school back to you
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[SPEAKER_00]: So yeah Monday, thanks for coming up on Monday.
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