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134: Shrugging Off Success and Internalizing Failures: Why Do We Do That?
"I LOVE your dress!"
"Thanks! It has pockets!"
vs
"I don't like that shirt on you."
"OMG I AM FAT AND UNWORTHY. I HATE MYSELF."
Why are we like this?
This is just one example of the way that we externalize success and compliments but internalize failures and shortcomings.
In fact, it's been proven that we need about 7 positive experiences just to negate the effects of one negative experience.
It's happened to me before: ONE person leaves of a negative comment on my social media and I'm sent into a tailspin about how I'm the worst, amidst dozens of positive comments.
We do this in so many…
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