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EP 242. From Loop to Leadership — Interrupt Overthinking & Build Confidence (Without the Spiral) · Confident and Empowered Women

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  your
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  mind
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  isn't
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  the
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  enemy,
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  it's
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  an
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  overeager
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  intern.
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  Have
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  you
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  ever
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  felt
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  like
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  your
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  brain
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  is
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  doing
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  the
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  most,
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  running
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  a
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  full
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  Olympic
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  relay
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  while
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  you're
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  just
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  trying
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  to
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  send
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  one
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  email?
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  Like,
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  can
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  you
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  see
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  every
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  angle?
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  And
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  yes,
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  this
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  is
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  a
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  gift,
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  but
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  then
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  you're
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  stuck
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  in
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  the
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  mental
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  treadmill,
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  sweating
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  exhausted
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  and
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  somehow.
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  Still
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  staring
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  at
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  the
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  same
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  wall.
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  Maybe
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  it's
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  the
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  seventh
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  rewrite
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  of
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  a
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  final
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  draft.
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  Maybe
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  it's
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  refreshing
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  a
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  text
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  like
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  it
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  owes
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  you
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  rent.
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  Maybe
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  it's
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  approval
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  math.
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  If
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  they
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  like
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  me,
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  then
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  I'm
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  safe.
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  And
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  every
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  time
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  you
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  pause
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  to
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  check
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  your
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  progress,
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  it's
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  the
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  same
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  tree,
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  the
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  same
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  thought
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  loop,
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  the
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  same
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  knot
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  in
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  your
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  chest.
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  You
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  wonder,
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  am
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  I
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  leading
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  my
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  life
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  or
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  is
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  this
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  loop
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  leading
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  me?
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  Queen.
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  I've
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  lived
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  there.
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  And
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  here's
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  the
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  truth,
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  straight
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  up,
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  no
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  chaser,
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  you
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  are
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  not
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  broken.
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  Your
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  mind
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  is
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  brilliant
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  and
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  overtrained
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  for
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  worry
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  today
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  we're
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  not
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  fighting
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  it.
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  We
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  are
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  leading
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  it.
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  Learn
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  how
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  to
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  catch
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  spiral
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  mid-sentence,
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  interrupt
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  in
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  two
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  minutes
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  and
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  replace
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  it
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  with
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  the
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  power
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  line
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  that
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  leads
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  so
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  you
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  can
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  move
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  with
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  calm,
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  clean
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  confidence.
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  Real
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  rewiring
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  comes
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  from
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  repetition
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  and
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  proof
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  stacking.
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  So
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  let's
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  get
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  into
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  it.
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  Ready
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  to
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  stop,
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  second
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  guessing
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  and
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  start
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  leading.
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  The
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  main
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  character
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  confidence
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  checklist
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  gives
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  you
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  simple
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  repeatable
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  steps
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  to
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  identify
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  your
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  confidence
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  leaks,
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  reframe
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  your
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  inner
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  dialogue
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  and
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  anchor
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  in
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  your
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  main
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  character
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  energy.
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  Think
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  power
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  lines,
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  proof
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  stacked
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  wins,
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  and
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  best
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  friend
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  self-talk
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  all
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  in
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  one
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  printable
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  and
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  it's
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  free
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  and
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  it
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  only
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  takes
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  a
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  few
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  minutes
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  to
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  set
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  up
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  your
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  day.
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  So
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  hit
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  the
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  link
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  in
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  the
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  show
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  notes
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  and
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  step
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  into
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  your
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  main
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  character
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  energy.
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  Okay.
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  Hey,
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  hey,
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  hey,
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  friend.
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  Not
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  to
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  just
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  put
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  myself
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  on
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  blast,
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  but
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  the
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  old
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  me,
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  a
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  classic
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  overthinker
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  trust.
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  I
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  could
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  see
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  every
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  angle
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  in
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  every
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  situation,
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  blessing
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  and
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  a
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  curse.
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  I'd
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  replay
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  conversations
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  like
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  game
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  tape,
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  zoom
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  in
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  on
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  commas
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  and
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  emails,
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  and
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  run
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  a
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  full
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  disaster
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  drill
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  before
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  a
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  first
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  date
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  or
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  project
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  kickoff.
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  Trust.
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  Honey,
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  the
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  the
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  struggle
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  was
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  real.
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  My
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  brain
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  meant
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  well
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  You
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  know,
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  scan
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  every
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  scenario
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  so
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  nothing
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  can
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  hurt
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  us.
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  But
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  that
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  gift
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  of
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  angles
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  became
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  analysis
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  paralysis.
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  I'd
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  stall
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  people
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  please
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  and
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  call
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  it
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  being
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  prepared.
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  inside
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  I
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  felt
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  like
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  I
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  was
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  living
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  with
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  a
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  loud
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  roommate
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  called
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  the
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  What
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  If
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  committee.
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  The
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  shift
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  wasn't
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  silencing
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  my
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  mind.
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  It
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  was
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  leading
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  it.
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  The
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  day
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  I
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  decided
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  to
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  stop
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  being
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  my
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  own
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  harshest
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  critic
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  and
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  start
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  being
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  my
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  own
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  built-in
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  bestie,
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  everything
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  changed.
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  I
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  see
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  every
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  angle.
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  I
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  just
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  don't
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  let
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  every
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  angle
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  drive
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  me.
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  Overthinking
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  isn't
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  a
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  personality
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  flaw,
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  it's
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  just
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  a
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  safety
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  strategy.
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  Your
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  brain's
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  number
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  one
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  job
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  is
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  prediction
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  and
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  protection,
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  so
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  when
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  stakes
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  feel
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  high,
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  like
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  visibility,
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  belonging,
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  and
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  performance,
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  it
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  opens
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  up
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  37
• 3:09
  tabs
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  to
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  hunt
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  for
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  certainty
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  and
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  perfectionism,
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  people
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  pleasing
• 3:14
  and
• 3:14
  empathy
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  overload.
• 3:16
  Your
• 3:16
  mind
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  starts
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  doing
• 3:17
  approval
• 3:18
  math.
• 3:18
  You
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  know
• 3:19
  what
• 3:19
  I'm
• 3:19
  talking
• 3:19
  about.
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  If
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  they
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  like
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  me,
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  I'm
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  safe,
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  or
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  catastrophic.
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  Forecasting,
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  like
• 3:25
  if
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  this
• 3:26
  goes
• 3:26
  wrong,
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  everything
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  collapses,
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  or
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  you've
• 3:29
  just
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  got
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  that
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  all
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  or
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  nothing
• 3:31
  thinking
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  where
• 3:32
  it's
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  either
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  perfect
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  or
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  pointless.
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  Biologically
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  that
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  signal
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  narrows
• 3:36
  attention
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  so
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  you
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  analyze
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  more,
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  decide
• 3:39
  less,
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  and
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  the
• 3:41
  cost
• 3:41
  of
• 3:41
  it
• 3:41
  all.
• 3:42
  Decision
• 3:42
  fatigue,
• 3:43
  delay,
• 3:44
  and
• 3:44
  diluted
• 3:45
  presence.
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  But
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  it's
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  not
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  that
• 3:47
  you're
• 3:47
  broken,
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  It's
• 3:48
  that
• 3:48
  your
• 3:48
  brilliant
• 3:49
  brain
• 3:49
  is
• 3:50
  overtrained
• 3:50
  for
• 3:50
  danger
• 3:51
  and
• 3:51
  under
• 3:52
  practice
• 3:52
  at
• 3:53
  calm
• 3:53
  leadership.
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  Here's
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  how
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  it
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  quietly
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  builds
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  pathways
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  to
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  outcomes.
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  You
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  overthink
• 3:59
  it
• 3:59
  creates
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  neural
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  grooves,
• 4:01
  meaning
• 4:02
  every
• 4:02
  repeated
• 4:03
  thought
• 4:03
  is
• 4:03
  a
• 4:04
  rep
• 4:04
  Rumination
• 4:05
  lays
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  on
• 4:06
  a
• 4:07
  groove
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  like
• 4:07
  water
• 4:08
  carving
• 4:09
  stone.
• 4:09
  Your
• 4:10
  brain
• 4:10
  learns
• 4:11
  this
• 4:11
  lane
• 4:12
  matters,
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  so
• 4:13
  it
• 4:13
  fires
• 4:14
  faster
• 4:14
  there
• 4:15
  Next
• 4:15
  time.
• 4:15
  Hello.
• 4:16
  Default
• 4:17
  spiral.
• 4:17
  An
• 4:17
  attentional
• 4:18
  bias,
• 4:19
  your
• 4:19
  mind
• 4:20
  becomes
• 4:20
  a
• 4:21
  heat
• 4:21
  seeking
• 4:21
  missile
• 4:22
  for
• 4:22
  data
• 4:22
  that
• 4:23
  matches
• 4:23
  the
• 4:23
  worry.
• 4:24
  You
• 4:24
  know,
• 4:25
  hello
• 4:25
  confirmation
• 4:26
  bias.
• 4:27
  You
• 4:27
  miss
• 4:28
  natural
• 4:29
  or
• 4:29
  positive
• 4:29
  cues,
• 4:30
  and
• 4:31
  just
• 4:31
  strictly
• 4:32
  collect
• 4:32
  proof
• 4:33
  that
• 4:34
  the
• 4:34
  fear
• 4:34
  is
• 4:35
  true.
• 4:35
  And
• 4:35
  then
• 4:35
  your
• 4:36
  state
• 4:36
  becomes
• 4:36
  your
• 4:37
  behavior,
• 4:38
  meaning
• 4:38
  your
• 4:38
  anxious
• 4:39
  body
• 4:40
  equals
• 4:41
  cautious
• 4:41
  choices.
• 4:42
  Delay
• 4:43
  soften
• 4:44
  your
• 4:44
  Ask
• 4:45
  Overexplain.
• 4:46
  You
• 4:47
  know,
• 4:47
  those
• 4:47
  micro
• 4:47
  behaviors
• 4:48
  create
• 4:49
  the
• 4:49
  very
• 4:49
  outcomes
• 4:50
  you
• 4:50
  dread.
• 4:51
  That's
• 4:52
  why
• 4:52
  you
• 4:52
  get
• 4:52
  those
• 4:53
  slow
• 4:53
  replies
• 4:54
  or
• 4:54
  unclear
• 4:54
  decisions
• 4:55
  and
• 4:55
  missed
• 4:55
  chances.
• 4:56
  And
• 4:56
  then
• 4:57
  you
• 4:57
  start
• 4:57
  to
• 4:57
  experience
• 4:58
  expectation
• 4:59
  effects
• 4:59
  where
• 5:00
  people
• 5:00
  feel
• 5:01
  your
• 5:01
  tentative
• 5:02
  energy
• 5:02
  and
• 5:03
  communication
• 5:04
  lands
• 5:04
  muddled
• 5:05
  and
• 5:06
  leadership
• 5:06
  reads,
• 5:07
  unsure
• 5:07
  dating
• 5:08
  signals
• 5:08
  look
• 5:09
  anxious.
• 5:10
  So
• 5:10
  responses
• 5:11
  just
• 5:11
  mirror
• 5:12
  your
• 5:12
  expectation.
• 5:14
  And
• 5:14
  then
• 5:14
  there's
• 5:14
  memory
• 5:15
  skew
• 5:16
  you
• 5:16
  overs.
• 5:16
  Save
• 5:17
  evidence
• 5:17
  of
• 5:18
  misses
• 5:18
  and
• 5:19
  under
• 5:19
  save
• 5:19
  your
• 5:20
  wins.
• 5:21
  Tomorrow's
• 5:22
  brain
• 5:22
  pulls
• 5:23
  up
• 5:23
  yesterday's
• 5:23
  bias
• 5:24
  files
• 5:25
  and
• 5:25
  reruns
• 5:26
  the
• 5:26
  loop.
• 5:26
  So
• 5:27
  for
• 5:27
  the
• 5:27
  high
• 5:27
  performing
• 5:28
  heart
• 5:28
  led
• 5:28
  woman
• 5:29
  like
• 5:29
  yourself,
• 5:30
  the
• 5:30
  loop
• 5:30
  gets
• 5:31
  louder
• 5:32
  because
• 5:32
  responsibility
• 5:33
  and
• 5:33
  care
• 5:34
  run
• 5:34
  deep.
• 5:35
  You
• 5:35
  see
• 5:35
  every
• 5:36
  angle,
• 5:36
  which
• 5:36
  is
• 5:37
  a
• 5:37
  strength,
• 5:38
  but
• 5:38
  then
• 5:38
  you
• 5:38
  feel
• 5:38
  responsible
• 5:39
  for
• 5:40
  the
• 5:40
  right
• 5:40
  one,
• 5:41
  which
• 5:41
  causes.
• 5:42
  Pressure
• 5:42
  you've
• 5:43
  been
• 5:43
  rewarded
• 5:44
  for
• 5:44
  scanning
• 5:44
  and
• 5:45
  fixing
• 5:45
  and
• 5:45
  anticipating,
• 5:46
  so
• 5:47
  your
• 5:47
  mind
• 5:47
  just
• 5:47
  keeps
• 5:48
  doubling
• 5:48
  down.
• 5:49
  And
• 5:49
  when
• 5:49
  the
• 5:49
  cost
• 5:50
  is
• 5:50
  clarity,
• 5:50
  presence,
• 5:51
  and
• 5:51
  momentum,
• 5:52
  hmm,
• 5:53
  it
• 5:53
  is
• 5:54
  too
• 5:54
  expensive,
• 5:54
  honey.
• 5:55
  But
• 5:56
  the
• 5:56
  key
• 5:56
  is
• 5:57
  to
• 5:57
  not
• 5:57
  silence
• 5:58
  thoughts,
• 5:59
  but
• 6:00
  to
• 6:00
  lead
• 6:00
  them.
• 6:01
  Name
• 6:01
  the
• 6:02
  loop
• 6:02
  So
• 6:03
  that
• 6:03
  you
• 6:03
  know
• 6:03
  what
• 6:03
  safety
• 6:04
  need
• 6:04
  it
• 6:04
  is
• 6:05
  that
• 6:05
  you're
• 6:05
  chasing?
• 6:06
  Is
• 6:06
  it
• 6:06
  certainty,
• 6:07
  control,
• 6:07
  approval,
• 6:08
  or
• 6:08
  protection?
• 6:09
  So
• 6:09
  you
• 6:09
  can
• 6:09
  then
• 6:10
  regulate
• 6:10
  your
• 6:10
  body
• 6:11
  and
• 6:11
  place
• 6:12
  a
• 6:12
  believable
• 6:12
  identity
• 6:13
  anchored
• 6:14
  power
• 6:14
  line,
• 6:15
  which
• 6:15
  is
• 6:15
  when
• 6:15
  the
• 6:15
  nervous
• 6:16
  system
• 6:16
  feels
• 6:17
  safe.
• 6:18
  So
• 6:18
  your
• 6:18
  cognition
• 6:19
  widens
• 6:20
  decisions,
• 6:20
  amplify,
• 6:21
  and
• 6:21
  actions
• 6:22
  become
• 6:22
  clean.
• 6:24
  So
• 6:24
  in
• 6:24
  other
• 6:24
  words,
• 6:25
  overthinking
• 6:26
  trains
• 6:27
  your
• 6:27
  nervous
• 6:27
  system
• 6:28
  and
• 6:28
  your
• 6:28
  environment
• 6:29
  to
• 6:29
  deliver
• 6:30
  just
• 6:31
  more
• 6:31
  of
• 6:31
  the
• 6:31
  same.
• 6:32
  So
• 6:32
  I'll
• 6:33
  introduce
• 6:33
  you
• 6:33
  to
• 6:34
  the
• 6:34
  nice
• 6:35
  method,
• 6:35
  which
• 6:36
  is
• 6:36
  a
• 6:36
  quick,
• 6:37
  compassionate
• 6:37
  way
• 6:38
  to
• 6:38
  lead
• 6:38
  your
• 6:38
  mind
• 6:39
  to
• 6:39
  name
• 6:40
  and
• 6:40
  notice
• 6:40
  the
• 6:40
  loop
• 6:41
  to
• 6:42
  interrupt
• 6:42
  it.
• 6:43
  Craft
• 6:44
  up
• 6:44
  your
• 6:44
  power
• 6:44
  line
• 6:45
  and
• 6:45
  evolve
• 6:46
  your
• 6:46
  language
• 6:47
  and
• 6:47
  self-expression
• 6:48
  so
• 6:48
  when
• 6:48
  the
• 6:49
  spiral
• 6:49
  starts,
• 6:50
  be
• 6:50
  nice
• 6:51
  to
• 6:51
  yourself.
• 6:52
  Label
• 6:53
  it
• 6:53
  with
• 6:53
  love,
• 6:54
  breathe,
• 6:55
  place
• 6:55
  a
• 6:56
  believable
• 6:56
  line,
• 6:57
  and
• 6:57
  let
• 6:57
  your
• 6:57
  actions
• 6:58
  mirror
• 6:59
  who
• 7:00
  it
• 7:00
  is
• 7:00
  you
• 7:01
  are
• 7:01
  becoming.
• 7:02
  Now
• 7:02
  let
• 7:03
  me
• 7:03
  paint
• 7:03
  the
• 7:03
  big
• 7:04
  picture,
• 7:04
  because
• 7:05
  self-talk
• 7:06
  isn't
• 7:06
  fluff,
• 7:07
  it's
• 7:07
  function.
• 7:08
  Let's
• 7:09
  go
• 7:09
  over
• 7:10
  the
• 7:10
  loop.
• 7:11
  Your
• 7:11
  nervous
• 7:11
  system
• 7:12
  follows
• 7:13
  your
• 7:13
  narrator
• 7:14
  when
• 7:14
  your
• 7:15
  inner
• 7:15
  voice.
• 7:16
  Shames
• 7:17
  that
• 7:17
  harsh
• 7:17
  inner
• 7:18
  self-talk
• 7:19
  keeps
• 7:19
  your
• 7:19
  body
• 7:20
  braced
• 7:21
  for
• 7:21
  fight
• 7:21
  or
• 7:21
  flight,
• 7:22
  and
• 7:22
  that
• 7:23
  just
• 7:23
  narrows
• 7:23
  clarity
• 7:24
  and
• 7:24
  focus.
• 7:25
  That
• 7:26
  means
• 7:26
  that
• 7:26
  your
• 7:26
  creativity
• 7:27
  drops
• 7:28
  and
• 7:28
  then
• 7:28
  you
• 7:28
  drop
• 7:29
  into
• 7:29
  the
• 7:30
  default
• 7:30
  loops
• 7:31
  that
• 7:31
  you've
• 7:31
  been
• 7:32
  fueling.
• 7:33
  When
• 7:33
  your
• 7:33
  inner
• 7:33
  voice
• 7:34
  respects
• 7:34
  you,
• 7:35
  your
• 7:35
  body
• 7:36
  downshifts
• 7:37
  into
• 7:37
  safety.
• 7:38
  Yes,
• 7:39
  hello,
• 7:40
  clean
• 7:40
  decisions
• 7:41
  and
• 7:41
  confident.
• 7:42
  Follow
• 7:42
  through.
• 7:43
  Loving,
• 7:44
  respectful
• 7:44
  language,
• 7:45
  signal
• 7:46
  safety,
• 7:47
  which
• 7:47
  leads
• 7:48
  to
• 7:48
  a
• 7:48
  wider
• 7:49
  perspective
• 7:50
  and
• 7:50
  cleaner
• 7:50
  decisions.
• 7:52
  That
• 7:52
  bestie
• 7:52
  style
• 7:53
  self-talk
• 7:54
  isn't
• 7:54
  fluffed,
• 7:55
  it's
• 7:55
  regulation
• 7:56
  and
• 7:56
  leadership.
• 7:58
  Why?
• 7:58
  Because
• 7:59
  attention
• 8:00
  trains
• 8:01
  reality.
• 8:02
  What
• 8:03
  you
• 8:03
  repeatedly
• 8:04
  say
• 8:04
  becomes
• 8:05
  what
• 8:05
  your
• 8:05
  brain
• 8:06
  prioritizes.
• 8:07
  Yes,
• 8:08
  this
• 8:08
  is
• 8:08
  confirmation
• 8:09
  bias
• 8:09
  at
• 8:10
  its
• 8:10
  finest.
• 8:11
  Kind
• 8:11
  cues.
• 8:12
  Teach
• 8:12
  your
• 8:12
  mind
• 8:13
  what
• 8:13
  to
• 8:13
  look
• 8:13
  for.
• 8:14
  Clarity,
• 8:15
  solution
• 8:16
  support,
• 8:17
  because
• 8:17
  identity
• 8:18
  drives
• 8:18
  behavior.
• 8:19
  When
• 8:20
  your
• 8:20
  words
• 8:20
  mirror
• 8:21
  who
• 8:21
  you're
• 8:21
  becoming
• 8:22
  as
• 8:22
  a
• 8:22
  clear,
• 8:23
  calm
• 8:23
  leader,
• 8:24
  your
• 8:24
  actions
• 8:25
  align
• 8:26
  faster
• 8:27
  than
• 8:27
  when
• 8:27
  you
• 8:27
  try
• 8:27
  to
• 8:28
  bully
• 8:28
  yourself.
• 8:29
  I
• 8:30
  know
• 8:30
  there
• 8:30
  are
• 8:30
  so
• 8:30
  many
• 8:31
  people
• 8:31
  who
• 8:31
  think
• 8:32
  giving
• 8:32
  themselves
• 8:33
  tough
• 8:33
  love
• 8:34
  or
• 8:34
  being
• 8:34
  harder
• 8:35
  on
• 8:35
  themselves
• 8:36
  is
• 8:36
  what
• 8:36
  motivates
• 8:37
  them.
• 8:38
  But
• 8:38
  really
• 8:39
  shame
• 8:39
  stalls,
• 8:40
  respect
• 8:41
  restores
• 8:42
  agency.
• 8:42
  You
• 8:43
  know,
• 8:44
  Shea
• 8:44
  may
• 8:44
  spark
• 8:45
  some
• 8:45
  short
• 8:46
  burst
• 8:46
  of
• 8:46
  actions,
• 8:47
  but.
• 8:48
  It
• 8:48
  erodes
• 8:49
  your
• 8:49
  self
• 8:50
  trust,
• 8:51
  respectful
• 8:51
  self-talk,
• 8:52
  sustains
• 8:53
  momentum
• 8:54
  without
• 8:54
  the
• 8:54
  crash.
• 8:55
  And
• 8:55
  just
• 8:56
  like
• 8:56
  anything
• 8:56
  else,
• 8:57
  you
• 8:57
  gotta
• 8:57
  put
• 8:58
  in
• 8:58
  the
• 8:58
  reps.
• 8:59
  And
• 8:59
  that's
• 8:59
  how
• 8:59
  rewiring
• 9:00
  works.
• 9:01
  Each
• 9:01
  compassionate
• 9:02
  line
• 9:03
  and
• 9:04
  adding
• 9:04
  up
• 9:04
  your
• 9:04
  wins
• 9:05
  is
• 9:05
  a
• 9:05
  neutral
• 9:06
  rep.
• 9:07
  You're
• 9:07
  not
• 9:07
  faking
• 9:08
  it.
• 9:08
  You're
• 9:08
  training
• 9:09
  it.
• 9:09
  This
• 9:10
  is
• 9:10
  your
• 9:10
  brain
• 9:11
  walking
• 9:11
  itself
• 9:12
  home.
• 9:12
  Every
• 9:13
  day,
• 9:14
  just
• 9:14
  like
• 9:14
  how
• 9:14
  you
• 9:15
  drive
• 9:15
  yourself
• 9:15
  home.
• 9:16
  And
• 9:17
  sometimes
• 9:17
  you
• 9:17
  don't
• 9:18
  always
• 9:18
  remember
• 9:19
  the
• 9:19
  way,
• 9:19
  but
• 9:19
  your
• 9:20
  brain
• 9:20
  just
• 9:20
  naturally
• 9:21
  knows
• 9:22
  how
• 9:22
  to
• 9:22
  get
• 9:22
  you
• 9:22
  there
• 9:23
  because
• 9:23
  you've
• 9:23
  done
• 9:24
  it
• 9:24
  so
• 9:24
  many
• 9:24
  times.
• 9:25
  It's
• 9:25
  the
• 9:25
  same
• 9:26
  with
• 9:26
  overthinking.
• 9:27
  You've
• 9:28
  done
• 9:28
  it
• 9:28
  so
• 9:29
  many
• 9:29
  times,
• 9:30
  it's
• 9:30
  paved
• 9:31
  a
• 9:31
  pathway
• 9:31
  for
• 9:32
  your
• 9:32
  brain
• 9:32
  to
• 9:32
  travel
• 9:33
  on
• 9:33
  autopilot,
• 9:34
  so
• 9:34
  your
• 9:35
  thoughts
• 9:35
  don't
• 9:35
  have
• 9:36
  to
• 9:36
  be
• 9:36
  something
• 9:37
  that
• 9:37
  drives
• 9:37
  you.
• 9:38
  You
• 9:39
  get
• 9:39
  to
• 9:39
  drive
• 9:40
  your
• 9:40
  thoughts.
• 9:41
  The
• 9:41
  more
• 9:42
  you
• 9:42
  practice
• 9:43
  driving
• 9:43
  this
• 9:43
  way
• 9:44
  home,
• 9:44
  the
• 9:45
  more
• 9:45
  you
• 9:45
  create
• 9:45
  a
• 9:45
  pathway
• 9:46
  to
• 9:46
  drive
• 9:47
  this
• 9:47
  way
• 9:47
  every
• 9:48
  day.
• 9:49
  And
• 9:49
  before
• 9:49
  you
• 9:50
  know
• 9:50
  it,
• 9:50
  you'll
• 9:51
  be
• 9:51
  talking
• 9:51
  to
• 9:51
  yourself
• 9:52
  like
• 9:52
  your
• 9:52
  own.
• 9:53
  Built-in
• 9:53
  bestie
• 9:54
  on
• 9:54
  autopilot.
• 9:55
  And
• 9:55
  this
• 9:55
  is
• 9:56
  one
• 9:56
  of
• 9:56
  those
• 9:56
  main
• 9:56
  character
• 9:57
  truth
• 9:57
  bombs.
• 9:58
  So
• 9:58
  if
• 9:58
  you
• 9:58
  can
• 9:59
  write
• 9:59
  this
• 9:59
  down,
• 10:00
  we
• 10:01
  act
• 10:01
  like
• 10:01
  who
• 10:02
  we
• 10:02
  believe
• 10:03
  we
• 10:03
  are.
• 10:04
  Identity
• 10:05
  is
• 10:05
  greater
• 10:05
  than
• 10:06
  willpower.
• 10:06
  Every
• 10:07
  time
• 10:08
  shame
• 10:08
  can
• 10:09
  spark
• 10:09
  a
• 10:09
  sprint,
• 10:10
  but
• 10:11
  it's
• 10:11
  not
• 10:11
  gonna
• 10:11
  fuel
• 10:12
  the
• 10:12
  marathon.
• 10:13
  Speaking
• 10:13
  to
• 10:13
  yourself
• 10:14
  as
• 10:14
  a
• 10:14
  trusted,
• 10:15
  capable
• 10:16
  woman.
• 10:17
  Aligns
• 10:17
  your
• 10:18
  actions
• 10:18
  faster
• 10:19
  than
• 10:19
  pushing
• 10:20
  through
• 10:20
  the
• 10:20
  shame.
• 10:21
  Your
• 10:21
  bestie
• 10:22
  voice
• 10:23
  is
• 10:24
  your
• 10:24
  identity
• 10:25
  rehearsal.
• 10:26
  That's
• 10:27
  what
• 10:27
  shifts
• 10:27
  behavior.
• 10:28
  Respectful
• 10:29
  inner
• 10:30
  dialogue
• 10:30
  keeps
• 10:31
  you
• 10:31
  resourced.
• 10:32
  So
• 10:32
  you
• 10:32
  can
• 10:33
  show
• 10:33
  up
• 10:33
  consistently
• 10:34
  for
• 10:34
  work,
• 10:35
  love,
• 10:36
  and
• 10:36
  yourself
• 10:37
  without
• 10:38
  the
• 10:38
  burnout
• 10:39
  and
• 10:39
  the
• 10:39
  rumination
• 10:40
  cycle.
• 10:40
  Here's
• 10:41
  a
• 10:41
  BF,
• 10:41
  F
• 10:41
  check
• 10:42
  that
• 10:42
  you
• 10:42
  can
• 10:42
  do
• 10:42
  with
• 10:43
  yourself
• 10:43
  in
• 10:43
  real
• 10:44
  time.
• 10:44
  So
• 10:45
  cue
• 10:45
  up
• 10:46
  awareness,
• 10:46
  honey,
• 10:47
  because
• 10:47
  when
• 10:48
  you
• 10:48
  notice
• 10:48
  the
• 10:48
  loop,
• 10:49
  what's
• 10:49
  happening?
• 10:50
  Is
• 10:50
  your
• 10:51
  chest
• 10:51
  tight?
• 10:52
  Are
• 10:52
  you
• 10:52
  refreshing
• 10:53
  your
• 10:53
  text
• 10:54
  messages?
• 10:55
  Are
• 10:55
  you
• 10:55
  rewriting
• 10:56
  that
• 10:56
  email
• 10:56
  for
• 10:57
  the
• 10:57
  umpteenth
• 10:57
  time?
• 10:59
  And
• 11:00
  ask
• 11:00
  yourself,
• 11:01
  if
• 11:01
  my
• 11:02
  best
• 11:02
  friend
• 11:02
  were
• 11:03
  here,
• 11:03
  how
• 11:03
  would
• 11:04
  I
• 11:04
  talk
• 11:04
  to
• 11:04
  her?
• 11:05
  When
• 11:05
  your
• 11:05
  inner
• 11:06
  critic
• 11:06
  would
• 11:06
  say
• 11:06
  something
• 11:07
  like,
• 11:07
  why
• 11:08
  can't
• 11:08
  you
• 11:08
  just
• 11:08
  get
• 11:08
  it
• 11:08
  together?
• 11:09
  This
• 11:10
  is
• 11:10
  your
• 11:10
  opportunity
• 11:11
  to
• 11:11
  be
• 11:12
  your
• 11:12
  own
• 11:12
  bestie
• 11:13
  and
• 11:13
  say,
• 11:14
  you
• 11:14
  care
• 11:15
  deeply.
• 11:16
  That's
• 11:16
  why
• 11:16
  you're
• 11:16
  spinning.
• 11:17
  Let's
• 11:18
  pick
• 11:18
  one
• 11:19
  next
• 11:20
  step,
• 11:20
  so
• 11:21
  when
• 11:21
  that
• 11:21
  inner
• 11:21
  critic
• 11:22
  pops
• 11:22
  up,
• 11:23
  your
• 11:23
  positive
• 11:24
  self
• 11:24
  companion.
• 11:25
  Has
• 11:26
  to
• 11:26
  show
• 11:26
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• 11:26
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• 11:27
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• 11:27
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• 11:27
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• 11:27
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• 11:28
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• 11:28
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• 11:29
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• 11:29
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• 11:30
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• 11:30
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• 11:31
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• 11:31
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• 11:31
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• 11:31
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• 11:31
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• 11:32
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• 11:32
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• 11:32
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• 11:33
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• 11:33
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• 11:34
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• 11:35
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• 11:35
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• 11:36
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• 11:36
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• 11:37
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• 11:38
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• 11:38
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• 11:39
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• 11:39
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• 11:40
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• 11:40
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• 11:40
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• 11:41
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• 11:41
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• 11:42
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• 11:43
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• 11:43
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• 11:44
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• 11:44
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• 11:44
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• 11:45
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• 11:45
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• 11:45
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• 11:45
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• 11:45
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• 11:46
  boundaries
• 11:47
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• 11:47
  yourself
• 11:48
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• 11:49
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• 11:49
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• 11:49
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• 11:49
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• 11:49
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• 11:50
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• 11:50
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• 11:51
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• 11:51
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• 11:51
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• 11:52
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• 11:53
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• 11:54
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• 11:54
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• 11:55
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• 11:55
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• 11:55
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• 11:56
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• 11:57
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• 11:57
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• 11:57
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• 11:58
  yourself.
• 11:59
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• 11:59
  bullies
• 11:59
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• 12:00
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• 12:00
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• 12:01
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• 12:02
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• 12:02
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• 12:02
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• 12:02
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• 12:03
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• 12:03
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• 12:03
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• 12:04
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• 12:04
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• 12:04
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• 12:05
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• 12:05
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• 12:05
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• 12:06
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• 12:06
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• 12:07
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• 12:07
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• 12:07
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• 12:08
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• 12:08
  with
• 12:09
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• 12:10
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• 12:10
  themselves.
• 12:12
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• 12:12
  really
• 12:13
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• 12:13
  start
• 12:13
  inside.
• 12:14
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• 12:14
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• 12:15
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• 12:15
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• 12:15
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• 12:15
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• 12:16
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• 12:16
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• 12:17
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• 12:18
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• 12:18
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• 12:19
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• 12:19
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• 12:19
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• 12:20
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• 12:20
  people.
• 12:21
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• 12:21
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• 12:22
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• 12:23
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• 12:23
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• 12:24
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• 12:24
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• 12:24
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• 12:25
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• 12:25
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• 12:25
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• 12:26
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• 12:26
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• 12:27
  And
• 12:27
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• 12:28
  me,
• 12:28
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• 12:28
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• 12:29
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• 12:29
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• 12:30
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• 12:30
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• 12:31
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• 12:31
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• 12:32
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• 12:32
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• 12:32
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• 12:33
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• 12:33
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• 12:34
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• 12:34
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• 12:35
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• 12:35
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• 12:35
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• 12:36
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• 12:37
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• 12:37
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• 12:38
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• 12:38
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• 12:38
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• 12:38
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• 12:40
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• 12:40
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• 12:41
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• 12:42
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• 12:43
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• 12:44
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• 12:45
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• 12:46
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• 12:49
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• 12:50
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• 12:50
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• 12:51
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• 12:52
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• 12:53
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• 12:53
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• 12:54
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• 12:54
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• 12:55
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• 12:55
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• 12:56
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• 12:57
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• 12:57
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• 12:57
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• 12:57
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• 12:58
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• 12:58
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• 12:58
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• 12:58
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• 12:59
  you
• 13:00
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• 13:00
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• 13:01
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• 13:01
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• 13:02
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• 13:02
  isn't
• 13:03
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• 13:03
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• 13:03
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• 13:04
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• 13:04
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• 13:04
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• 13:05
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• 13:06
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• 13:06
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• 13:07
  me
• 13:07
  show
• 13:07
  you
• 13:07
  how
• 13:07
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• 13:08
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• 13:08
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• 13:08
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• 13:09
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• 13:10
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• 13:10
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• 13:10
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• 13:11
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• 13:11
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• 13:12
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• 13:12
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• 13:13
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• 13:14
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• 13:14
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• 13:14
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• 13:14
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• 13:15
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• 13:15
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• 13:15
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• 13:16
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• 13:16
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• 13:17
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• 13:17
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• 13:18
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• 13:18
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• 13:18
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• 13:20
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• 13:20
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• 13:21
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• 13:21
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• 13:21
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• 13:22
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• 13:23
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• 13:23
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• 13:23
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• 13:24
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• 13:24
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• 13:24
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• 13:25
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• 13:25
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• 13:26
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• 13:28
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• 13:28
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• 13:33
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• 13:35
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• 13:36
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• 13:36
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• 13:37
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• 13:38
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• 13:38
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• 13:39
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• 13:39
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• 13:39
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• 13:39
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• 13:40
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• 13:40
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• 13:42
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• 13:42
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• 13:45
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• 13:46
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• 13:47
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• 13:49
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• 13:50
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• 13:50
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• 13:50
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• 13:51
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• 13:52
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• 13:52
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• 13:55
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• 13:56
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• 13:56
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• 13:57
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• 13:57
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• 13:58
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• 14:00
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• 14:00
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• 14:01
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• 14:02
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• 14:04
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• 14:04
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• 14:05
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• 14:06
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• 14:06
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• 14:07
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• 14:07
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• 14:08
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• 14:08
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• 14:09
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• 14:10
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• 14:10
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• 14:11
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• 14:12
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• 14:14
  it
• 14:14
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• 14:15
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• 14:15
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• 14:15
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• 14:16
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• 14:16
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• 14:16
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• 14:17
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• 14:18
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• 14:18
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• 14:18
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• 14:18
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• 14:19
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• 14:19
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• 14:20
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• 14:21
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• 14:22
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• 14:22
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• 14:23
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• 14:23
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• 14:24
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• 14:24
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• 14:24
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• 14:25
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• 14:26
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• 14:27
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• 14:29
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• 14:29
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• 14:29
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• 14:30
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• 14:30
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• 14:30
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• 14:31
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• 14:31
  much
• 14:32
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• 14:33
  it
• 14:33
  really
• 14:33
  gives
• 14:34
  you
• 14:34
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• 14:34
  place
• 14:35
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• 14:35
  you
• 14:35
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• 14:35
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• 14:36
  your
• 14:36
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• 14:37
  thoughts,
• 14:37
  your
• 14:38
  self
• 14:38
  rejection
• 14:39
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• 14:39
  abandonment
• 14:41
  so
• 14:41
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• 14:41
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• 14:41
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• 14:41
  carrying
• 14:42
  around
• 14:42
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• 14:43
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• 14:43
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• 14:43
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• 14:43
  all
• 14:43
  the
• 14:43
  time.
• 14:44
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• 14:44
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• 14:45
  a
• 14:45
  great
• 14:45
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• 14:46
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• 14:46
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• 14:46
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• 14:47
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• 14:47
  of
• 14:48
  all
• 14:48
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• 14:48
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• 14:48
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• 14:49
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• 14:49
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• 14:50
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• 14:50
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• 14:50
  a
• 14:50
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• 14:50
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• 14:51
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• 14:51
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• 14:52
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• 14:52
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• 14:52
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• 14:52
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• 14:52
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• 14:53
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• 14:53
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• 14:54
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• 14:54
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• 14:55
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• 14:55
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• 14:55
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• 14:55
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• 14:56
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• 14:56
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• 14:56
  calling
• 14:56
  in.
• 14:57
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• 14:57
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• 14:58
  notice
• 14:58
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• 14:58
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• 14:59
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• 14:59
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• 14:59
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• 15:00
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• 15:00
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• 15:00
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• 15:01
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• 15:01
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• 15:02
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• 15:02
  a
• 15:02
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• 15:02
  check.
• 15:03
  Where
• 15:03
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• 15:03
  I
• 15:04
  feel
• 15:04
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• 15:04
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• 15:04
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• 15:04
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• 15:05
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• 15:05
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• 15:05
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• 15:06
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• 15:06
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• 15:06
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• 15:06
  Is
• 15:07
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• 15:07
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• 15:07
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• 15:08
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• 15:08
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• 15:09
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• 15:09
  this
• 15:10
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• 15:10
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• 15:11
  math,
• 15:11
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• 15:12
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• 15:12
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• 15:12
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• 15:12
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• 15:12
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• 15:13
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• 15:13
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• 15:13
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• 15:14
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• 15:14
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• 15:16
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• 15:16
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• 15:16
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• 15:16
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• 15:17
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• 15:17
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• 15:18
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• 15:18
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• 15:18
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• 15:18
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• 15:19
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• 15:19
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• 15:19
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• 15:20
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• 15:20
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• 15:21
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• 15:21
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• 15:22
  you
• 15:22
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• 15:23
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• 15:23
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• 15:24
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• 15:24
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• 15:24
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• 15:25
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• 15:25
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• 15:25
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• 15:26
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• 15:26
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• 15:27
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• 15:28
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• 15:29
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• 15:30
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• 15:31
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• 15:31
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• 15:32
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• 15:32
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• 15:32
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• 15:33
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• 15:33
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• 15:33
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• 15:33
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• 15:34
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• 15:34
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• 15:35
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• 15:36
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• 15:36
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• 15:39
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• 15:39
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• 15:40
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• 15:40
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• 15:41
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• 15:41
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• 15:42
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• 15:42
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• 15:43
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• 15:43
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• 15:43
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• 15:43
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• 15:44
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• 15:44
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• 15:44
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• 15:45
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• 15:46
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• 15:46
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• 15:47
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• 15:47
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• 15:48
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• 15:48
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• 15:48
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• 15:49
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• 15:49
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• 15:50
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• 15:51
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• 15:52
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• 15:52
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• 15:52
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• 15:53
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• 15:53
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• 15:53
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• 15:54
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• 15:54
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• 15:54
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• 15:54
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• 15:55
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• 15:56
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• 15:56
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• 15:56
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• 15:57
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• 15:58
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• 15:59
  You
• 15:59
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• 15:59
  teaching
• 16:00
  safety
• 16:01
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• 16:01
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• 16:02
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• 16:02
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• 16:03
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• 16:03
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• 16:03
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• 16:03
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• 16:04
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• 16:04
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• 16:04
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• 16:05
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• 16:05
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• 16:06
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• 16:07
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• 16:07
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• 16:08
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• 16:08
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• 16:08
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• 16:08
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• 16:09
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• 16:09
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• 16:09
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• 16:09
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• 16:10
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• 16:11
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• 16:11
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• 16:12
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• 16:13
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• 16:13
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• 16:14
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• 16:15
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• 16:16
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• 16:16
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• 16:16
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• 16:17
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• 16:17
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• 16:17
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• 16:18
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• 16:18
  Thank
• 16:19
  you
• 16:19
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• 16:19
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• 16:19
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• 16:20
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• 16:20
  I'm
• 16:20
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• 16:21
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• 16:21
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• 16:21
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• 16:21
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• 16:22
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• 16:22
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• 16:22
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• 16:22
  can
• 16:23
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• 16:23
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• 16:23
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• 16:24
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• 16:24
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• 16:25
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• 16:25
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• 16:25
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• 16:25
  where
• 16:26
  you
• 16:26
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• 16:26
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• 16:27
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• 16:27
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• 16:27
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• 16:27
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• 16:28
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• 16:28
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• 16:29
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• 16:29
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• 16:30
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• 16:30
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• 16:31
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• 16:31
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• 16:32
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• 16:32
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• 16:33
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• 16:33
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• 16:34
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• 16:35
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• 16:35
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• 16:36
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• 16:36
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• 16:36
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• 16:37
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• 16:37
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• 16:37
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• 16:37
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• 16:38
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• 16:38
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• 16:39
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• 16:39
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• 16:39
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• 16:39
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• 16:39
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• 16:40
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• 16:41
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• 16:41
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• 16:41
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• 16:42
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• 16:43
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• 16:43
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• 16:44
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• 16:44
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• 16:44
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• 16:44
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• 16:45
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• 16:45
  your
• 16:45
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• 16:46
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• 16:46
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• 16:47
  Trust
• 16:47
  me,
• 16:47
  friend,
• 16:48
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• 16:49
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• 16:49
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• 16:50
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• 16:50
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• 16:51
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• 16:51
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• 16:52
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• 16:53
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• 16:53
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• 16:54
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• 16:54
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• 16:55
  shape.
• 16:55
  Create
• 16:56
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• 16:56
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• 16:56
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• 16:57
  line
• 16:57
  with
• 16:57
  this
• 16:58
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• 16:59
  Start
• 16:59
  with
• 17:00
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• 17:00
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• 17:00
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• 17:01
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• 17:01
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• 17:02
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• 17:02
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• 17:03
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• 17:05
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• 17:06
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• 17:06
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• 17:07
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• 17:07
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• 17:08
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• 17:08
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• 17:08
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• 17:09
  What
• 17:10
  is
• 17:10
  it
• 17:10
  that
• 17:10
  you
• 17:10
  choose?
• 17:11
  Is
• 17:11
  it
• 17:11
  choosing
• 17:12
  to
• 17:13
  love
• 17:13
  yourself
• 17:14
  more?
• 17:14
  Is
• 17:14
  it
• 17:15
  allowing
• 17:15
  your
• 17:15
  voice
• 17:16
  to
• 17:16
  be
• 17:16
  heard?
• 17:17
  Insert
• 17:18
  that
• 17:18
  behavior
• 17:19
  that
• 17:19
  you're
• 17:19
  going
• 17:19
  to
• 17:20
  do.
• 17:20
  It
• 17:20
  can
• 17:20
  even
• 17:21
  be
• 17:21
  as
• 17:21
  simple
• 17:21
  as
• 17:22
  I
• 17:22
  decide
• 17:23
  once
• 17:24
  because
• 17:24
  I
• 17:25
  value
• 17:25
  and
• 17:25
  then
• 17:26
  put
• 17:26
  in
• 17:26
  your
• 17:26
  standard.
• 17:27
  One
• 17:27
  of
• 17:27
  my
• 17:28
  favorites
• 17:28
  is
• 17:29
  as
• 17:29
  a
• 17:29
  woman
• 17:30
  who
• 17:30
  honors
• 17:30
  her
• 17:31
  peace,
• 17:32
  I
• 17:32
  decide
• 17:32
  once
• 17:33
  and
• 17:33
  move
• 17:34
  because
• 17:35
  I
• 17:35
  value
• 17:36
  clarity
• 17:36
  over
• 17:37
  perfection.
• 17:38
  And
• 17:38
  here's
• 17:39
  the
• 17:39
  thing
• 17:39
  about
• 17:40
  power
• 17:40
  lines.
• 17:41
  It's
• 17:42
  another
• 17:42
  way
• 17:42
  of
• 17:43
  even
• 17:43
  saying
• 17:44
  affirmations
• 17:45
  or
• 17:45
  mantras,
• 17:46
  and
• 17:46
  I
• 17:46
  know
• 17:46
  that
• 17:47
  this
• 17:47
  is
• 17:47
  something
• 17:47
  that
• 17:47
  people
• 17:48
  struggle
• 17:48
  with
• 17:48
  sometimes
• 17:49
  because
• 17:49
  it
• 17:49
  doesn't
• 17:50
  feel
• 17:50
  believable.
• 17:51
  And
• 17:52
  if
• 17:52
  it
• 17:52
  doesn't
• 17:52
  feel
• 17:53
  believable,
• 17:54
  then
• 17:54
  you
• 17:54
  feel
• 17:55
  like
• 17:55
  you're
• 17:55
  lying
• 17:55
  to
• 17:56
  yourself.
• 17:56
  So
• 17:57
  just
• 17:57
  do
• 17:57
  a
• 17:57
  little
• 17:58
  believability
• 17:59
  check-in
• 17:59
  and
• 17:59
  see
• 18:00
  where
• 18:00
  you
• 18:00
  are
• 18:01
  on
• 18:01
  a.
• 18:01
  Scale
• 18:01
  of
• 18:01
  one
• 18:02
  to
• 18:02
  10,
• 18:02
  how
• 18:02
  believable
• 18:04
  is
• 18:04
  your
• 18:04
  statement
• 18:05
  to
• 18:05
  you?
• 18:05
  Now,
• 18:06
  if
• 18:06
  the
• 18:07
  believability
• 18:08
  is
• 18:09
  not
• 18:10
  a
• 18:10
  seven
• 18:10
  or
• 18:10
  above,
• 18:11
  then
• 18:12
  it's
• 18:12
  just
• 18:12
  a
• 18:12
  sign
• 18:13
  that
• 18:14
  there's
• 18:14
  something
• 18:14
  that
• 18:15
  needs
• 18:15
  to
• 18:15
  shift.
• 18:16
  So
• 18:17
  maybe
• 18:17
  you
• 18:17
  shrink
• 18:18
  your
• 18:18
  claim
• 18:19
  or
• 18:19
  shrink
• 18:19
  the
• 18:19
  timeframe.
• 18:21
  So
• 18:21
  maybe
• 18:22
  instead
• 18:22
  of
• 18:23
  just
• 18:23
  saying
• 18:24
  it
• 18:24
  as
• 18:24
  an
• 18:24
  open-ended.
• 18:25
  Statement
• 18:26
  you
• 18:27
  actually
• 18:27
  say
• 18:28
  for
• 18:28
  the
• 18:28
  next
• 18:28
  15
• 18:29
  minutes.
• 18:30
  I
• 18:30
  am
• 18:30
  a
• 18:30
  woman
• 18:30
  who
• 18:31
  honors
• 18:31
  her
• 18:32
  peace.
• 18:33
  I
• 18:33
  decide
• 18:33
  once
• 18:34
  and
• 18:34
  move
• 18:34
  because
• 18:35
  I
• 18:35
  value
• 18:35
  clarity
• 18:36
  over
• 18:36
  perfection.
• 18:37
  It's
• 18:37
  all
• 18:37
  about
• 18:38
  that
• 18:39
  statement
• 18:40
  resonating
• 18:41
  with
• 18:41
  you.
• 18:42
  It's
• 18:42
  not
• 18:42
  a
• 18:42
  power
• 18:43
  line
• 18:43
  if
• 18:43
  it's
• 18:44
  not
• 18:44
  powerful
• 18:44
  for
• 18:45
  you.
• 18:45
  So
• 18:46
  if
• 18:46
  something
• 18:47
  isn't
• 18:47
  feeling
• 18:47
  aligned,
• 18:48
  it's
• 18:49
  just
• 18:49
  an
• 18:49
  invitation
• 18:50
  for
• 18:50
  you
• 18:51
  to
• 18:51
  write
• 18:51
  your
• 18:51
  script.
• 18:52
  And
• 18:52
  now
• 18:52
  the
• 18:53
  E
• 18:53
  is
• 18:53
  for
• 18:53
  evolve
• 18:54
  your
• 18:54
  language
• 18:55
  and
• 18:55
  self
• 18:55
  expression
• 18:57
  because
• 18:57
  instead
• 18:58
  of
• 18:58
  battling
• 18:58
  with
• 18:59
  your
• 18:59
  inner
• 18:59
  critic,
• 19:00
  just
• 19:01
  simply
• 19:01
  teach
• 19:02
  her
• 19:02
  new
• 19:03
  a
• 19:03
  language.
• 19:03
  Keep
• 19:04
  your
• 19:04
  words
• 19:04
  and
• 19:04
  actions
• 19:05
  in
• 19:05
  loving
• 19:06
  sync.
• 19:07
  Start
• 19:07
  replacing
• 19:08
  those
• 19:09
  critical
• 19:09
  lines
• 19:09
  with
• 19:10
  bestie
• 19:10
  lines
• 19:11
  on
• 19:11
  site,
• 19:12
  and
• 19:13
  even
• 19:13
  write
• 19:13
  them
• 19:14
  down.
• 19:14
  Put
• 19:14
  'em
• 19:14
  in
• 19:14
  your
• 19:14
  notes
• 19:15
  app
• 19:15
  or
• 19:16
  set
• 19:17
  a
• 19:17
  reminder
• 19:17
  of
• 19:17
  them
• 19:18
  on
• 19:18
  your
• 19:18
  phone
• 19:18
  or
• 19:19
  make
• 19:19
  it
• 19:19
  a
• 19:19
  lock
• 19:19
  screen
• 19:20
  on
• 19:20
  your
• 19:20
  phone
• 19:21
  when
• 19:21
  you
• 19:21
  speak
• 19:21
  and
• 19:22
  act
• 19:22
  in
• 19:22
  alignment.
• 19:23
  It
• 19:23
  gives
• 19:24
  you
• 19:24
  proof.
• 19:25
  And
• 19:25
  that's
• 19:25
  the
• 19:25
  type
• 19:26
  of
• 19:26
  expression
• 19:26
  that
• 19:27
  you
• 19:27
  can
• 19:27
  count
• 19:27
  towards
• 19:28
  your
• 19:28
  daily
• 19:28
  winds
• 19:29
  when
• 19:29
  you
• 19:29
  live
• 19:30
  those
• 19:30
  lines
• 19:31
  And
• 19:31
  feel
• 19:32
  free
• 19:32
  to
• 19:32
  iterate
• 19:33
  because
• 19:33
  believability
• 19:35
  is
• 19:35
  everything.
• 19:37
  If
• 19:37
  you
• 19:37
  evolve
• 19:38
  the
• 19:38
  wording
• 19:39
  or
• 19:39
  shorten
• 19:40
  the
• 19:40
  timeframe
• 19:41
  on
• 19:41
  the
• 19:41
  horizon.
• 19:42
  That's
• 19:43
  how
• 19:43
  it
• 19:43
  feels.
• 19:43
  Real
• 19:44
  and
• 19:44
  authentic,
• 19:45
  designed
• 19:46
  specifically
• 19:47
  for
• 19:47
  you.
• 19:48
  So
• 19:49
  even
• 19:49
  make
• 19:50
  it
• 19:50
  a
• 19:50
  weekly
• 19:50
  practice
• 19:51
  to
• 19:51
  revisit
• 19:51
  your
• 19:51
  power
• 19:52
  lines
• 19:52
  so
• 19:52
  that
• 19:53
  they
• 19:53
  feel
• 19:53
  more
• 19:54
  you
• 19:55
  as
• 19:55
  your
• 19:55
  capacity
• 19:56
  grows.
• 19:57
  And
• 19:57
  when
• 19:57
  you
• 19:57
  get
• 19:57
  ready
• 19:58
  to
• 19:58
  capture
• 19:58
  your
• 19:58
  wins,
• 19:59
  at
• 19:59
  the
• 19:59
  end
• 20:00
  of
• 20:00
  the
• 20:00
  day,
• 20:01
  you
• 20:01
  can
• 20:01
  put
• 20:01
  your
• 20:01
  hand
• 20:02
  on
• 20:02
  your
• 20:02
  heart
• 20:02
  and
• 20:02
  know
• 20:03
  that's
• 20:04
  me
• 20:05
  being
• 20:05
  her.
• 20:06
  Because
• 20:06
  ultimately
• 20:08
  overthinking
• 20:08
  is
• 20:09
  a
• 20:09
  rehearsal.
• 20:10
  So
• 20:10
  change
• 20:11
  the
• 20:11
  script.
• 20:12
  Change
• 20:12
  the
• 20:13
  scene.
• 20:13
  Your
• 20:14
  reps
• 20:14
  create
• 20:15
  the
• 20:15
  road.
• 20:16
  So
• 20:16
  let
• 20:16
  your
• 20:16
  power
• 20:17
  lines
• 20:17
  pave
• 20:18
  the
• 20:18
  way.
• 20:19
  friend,
• 20:19
  I
• 20:19
  need
• 20:19
  to
• 20:20
  say
• 20:20
  this
• 20:20
  to
• 20:20
  you.
• 20:20
  So
• 20:21
  trust
• 20:21
  me
• 20:22
  when
• 20:22
  I
• 20:22
  say
• 20:22
  that,
• 20:23
  I'm
• 20:23
  saying
• 20:23
  this
• 20:23
  with
• 20:24
  so
• 20:24
  much
• 20:24
  love.
• 20:25
  Overthinking
• 20:26
  is
• 20:26
  what
• 20:26
  you
• 20:26
  did
• 20:27
  when
• 20:27
  your
• 20:27
  mind
• 20:27
  was
• 20:28
  running
• 20:28
  on
• 20:28
  autopilot
• 20:29
  and
• 20:29
  calling
• 20:30
  it
• 20:30
  protection.
• 20:30
  You
• 20:31
  weren't
• 20:31
  broken,
• 20:32
  you
• 20:32
  were
• 20:33
  brilliant.
• 20:33
  And
• 20:34
  unled.
• 20:35
  Now
• 20:36
  you're
• 20:36
  awake
• 20:37
  to
• 20:37
  your
• 20:37
  thoughts
• 20:38
  and
• 20:38
  that
• 20:38
  changes
• 20:39
  everything.
• 20:40
  You
• 20:40
  can
• 20:41
  notice
• 20:41
  the
• 20:41
  spin.
• 20:42
  Take
• 20:42
  a
• 20:43
  breath
• 20:43
  and
• 20:44
  choose
• 20:44
  language
• 20:45
  that
• 20:45
  loves
• 20:46
  you
• 20:46
  back.
• 20:47
  This
• 20:48
  is
• 20:48
  self-love
• 20:48
  in
• 20:49
  action.
• 20:49
  Speaking
• 20:50
  to
• 20:50
  yourself
• 20:51
  with
• 20:51
  compassion
• 20:52
  and
• 20:52
  grace,
• 20:53
  giving
• 20:53
  your
• 20:54
  mind
• 20:54
  a
• 20:54
  better
• 20:55
  job
• 20:56
  and
• 20:56
  taking
• 20:57
  one
• 20:57
  aligned.
• 20:58
  Step
• 20:59
  that
• 20:59
  matches
• 21:00
  who
• 21:00
  you're
• 21:00
  becoming.
• 21:01
  You
• 21:01
  don't
• 21:01
  have
• 21:02
  to
• 21:02
  bully
• 21:02
  yourself
• 21:03
  into
• 21:03
  progress.
• 21:04
  You
• 21:04
  can
• 21:05
  guide
• 21:05
  yourself
• 21:06
  there
• 21:06
  with
• 21:06
  grace,
• 21:07
  and
• 21:07
  every
• 21:08
  time
• 21:08
  you
• 21:08
  do,
• 21:09
  you
• 21:09
  stack
• 21:10
  another
• 21:10
  receipt
• 21:11
  in
• 21:11
  your
• 21:11
  confidence
• 21:12
  account.
• 21:13
  Overthinking
• 21:13
  was
• 21:14
  a
• 21:14
  strategy
• 21:14
  your
• 21:15
  brain
• 21:15
  used
• 21:16
  when
• 21:16
  you
• 21:16
  weren't
• 21:17
  conscious
• 21:17
  of
• 21:17
  your
• 21:18
  thoughts.
• 21:18
  It
• 21:18
  was
• 21:18
  a
• 21:19
  safety
• 21:19
  habit,
• 21:20
  not
• 21:20
  an
• 21:20
  identity.
• 21:21
  As
• 21:21
  of
• 21:21
  now,
• 21:22
  we
• 21:23
  are
• 21:23
  intentional.
• 21:24
  We
• 21:24
  notice
• 21:25
  we
• 21:25
  name
• 21:26
  and
• 21:26
  now
• 21:27
  interrupt
• 21:27
  the
• 21:28
  loop,
• 21:28
  we
• 21:28
  create
• 21:29
  power
• 21:29
  lines
• 21:30
  and
• 21:30
  evolve
• 21:31
  how
• 21:31
  we
• 21:31
  speak
• 21:31
  to
• 21:31
  ourselves.
• 21:33
  And
• 21:33
  that's
• 21:33
  not
• 21:33
  just
• 21:33
  cute
• 21:34
  talk.
• 21:34
  That's
• 21:35
  nervous
• 21:35
  system
• 21:36
  leadership.
• 21:37
  Now,
• 21:37
  let
• 21:37
  me
• 21:38
  pour
• 21:38
  into
• 21:38
  you
• 21:38
  real
• 21:38
  quick
• 21:39
  because
• 21:39
  in
• 21:40
  real
• 21:40
  life
• 21:41
  I
• 21:41
  need
• 21:41
  to
• 21:41
  speak
• 21:42
  to
• 21:42
  the
• 21:42
  main
• 21:42
  character
• 21:43
  in
• 21:43
  you.
• 21:44
  Yes,
• 21:45
  you,
• 21:45
  the
• 21:46
  woman
• 21:46
  who's
• 21:46
  done
• 21:47
  performing
• 21:47
  for
• 21:48
  approval
• 21:48
  and
• 21:49
  ready
• 21:49
  to
• 21:49
  lead
• 21:49
  her
• 21:50
  mind
• 21:51
  like
• 21:51
  she
• 21:51
  leads
• 21:51
  her
• 21:52
  life,
• 21:52
  I
• 21:52
  see
• 21:53
  you
• 21:53
  noticing
• 21:54
  the
• 21:54
  spin
• 21:55
  Place
• 21:55
  a
• 21:55
  hand
• 21:56
  over
• 21:56
  your
• 21:56
  heart
• 21:57
  and
• 21:57
  choose
• 21:57
  language
• 21:58
  that
• 21:58
  loves
• 21:58
  you
• 21:59
  back.
• 22:00
  You
• 22:00
  are
• 22:00
  not
• 22:01
  an
• 22:01
  overthinker.
• 22:01
  You
• 22:02
  are
• 22:02
  a
• 22:02
  leader.
• 22:03
  You
• 22:03
  don't
• 22:04
  chase
• 22:04
  certainty.
• 22:05
  You
• 22:06
  become
• 22:06
  it.
• 22:07
  You
• 22:07
  direct
• 22:07
  your
• 22:08
  thoughts
• 22:08
  like
• 22:08
  a
• 22:08
  Captain
• 22:09
  on
• 22:09
  deck,
• 22:10
  calm
• 22:11
  voice.
• 22:11
  Clear
• 22:12
  orders,
• 22:12
  compassionate
• 22:13
  power,
• 22:14
  your
• 22:14
  world
• 22:15
  responds
• 22:16
  in
• 22:16
  your
• 22:17
  life.
• 22:18
  You
• 22:18
  stop
• 22:18
  giving
• 22:19
  away
• 22:19
  your
• 22:19
  peace.
• 22:20
  You
• 22:20
  take
• 22:21
  one
• 22:21
  clean
• 22:22
  step
• 22:22
  instead
• 22:23
  of
• 22:23
  10
• 22:23
  anxious
• 22:24
  ones.
• 22:24
  Whether
• 22:25
  it's
• 22:25
  tiny
• 22:26
  wins
• 22:26
  that
• 22:26
  stack
• 22:27
  your
• 22:27
  receipts
• 22:28
  or
• 22:28
  major
• 22:28
  power
• 22:29
  moves
• 22:30
  your
• 22:30
  confidence
• 22:31
  account
• 22:31
  overflows.
• 22:32
  Mornings
• 22:33
  feel
• 22:34
  intentional,
• 22:35
  evenings
• 22:35
  feel
• 22:36
  earned,
• 22:36
  and
• 22:37
  your
• 22:37
  self-trust
• 22:38
  is
• 22:38
  the
• 22:38
  soundtrack
• 22:39
  Underneath
• 22:40
  it
• 22:40
  all.
• 22:41
  In
• 22:41
  love,
• 22:42
  you
• 22:42
  ask
• 22:43
  directly
• 22:44
  and
• 22:44
  let
• 22:44
  actions
• 22:45
  tell
• 22:45
  the
• 22:46
  truth.
• 22:46
  No
• 22:47
  more
• 22:47
  auditioning,
• 22:48
  no
• 22:48
  more
• 22:48
  approval
• 22:49
  math.
• 22:50
  You
• 22:50
  set
• 22:50
  a
• 22:51
  warm
• 22:51
  standard,
• 22:52
  soft
• 22:53
  heart,
• 22:53
  strong
• 22:54
  spine.
• 22:55
  Your
• 22:55
  presence
• 22:56
  is
• 22:56
  safety
• 22:57
  first
• 22:58
  for
• 22:58
  you.
• 22:59
  Then
• 22:59
  for
• 22:59
  the
• 23:00
  connections
• 23:00
  you
• 23:00
  are
• 23:01
  building
• 23:01
  in
• 23:02
  your
• 23:02
  relationships,
• 23:03
  you
• 23:03
  bring
• 23:04
  your
• 23:04
  best
• 23:05
  friend
• 23:05
  energy
• 23:06
  to
• 23:06
  yourself.
• 23:07
  And
• 23:08
  your
• 23:08
  best
• 23:09
  quality
• 23:09
  energy
• 23:10
  to
• 23:10
  others.
• 23:11
  You
• 23:11
  say
• 23:12
  what
• 23:12
  you
• 23:12
  mean,
• 23:13
  you
• 23:13
  hear
• 23:14
  what
• 23:14
  is,
• 23:15
  and
• 23:15
  you
• 23:15
  choose
• 23:16
  what's
• 23:16
  aligned.
• 23:17
  Boundaries
• 23:18
  aren't
• 23:18
  walls.
• 23:19
  They
• 23:19
  are
• 23:19
  lanes
• 23:20
  that
• 23:20
  keep
• 23:21
  love
• 23:21
  moving.
• 23:23
  In
• 23:23
  your
• 23:23
  career,
• 23:24
  you
• 23:24
  decide
• 23:25
  once
• 23:25
  and
• 23:26
  move
• 23:27
  you
• 23:27
  send
• 23:28
  the
• 23:28
  email
• 23:29
  ship
• 23:29
  the
• 23:29
  draft,
• 23:30
  speak
• 23:30
  with
• 23:30
  clarity.
• 23:31
  Your
• 23:32
  steadiness
• 23:32
  becomes
• 23:33
  the
• 23:33
  atmosphere
• 23:35
  you
• 23:35
  don't
• 23:35
  need
• 23:35
  perfect.
• 23:36
  You
• 23:37
  need
• 23:37
  honest
• 23:38
  on
• 23:38
  time
• 23:39
  and
• 23:39
  in
• 23:39
  integrity.
• 23:41
  And
• 23:42
  you
• 23:42
  deliver.
• 23:43
  This
• 23:43
  is
• 23:43
  main
• 23:44
  character
• 23:45
  energy,
• 23:45
  a
• 23:46
  woman
• 23:46
  in
• 23:46
  her
• 23:46
  wholeness,
• 23:48
  not
• 23:48
  hustling
• 23:49
  for
• 23:49
  worth,
• 23:49
  or
• 23:50
  negotiating
• 23:50
  with
• 23:51
  scarcity.
• 23:52
  You
• 23:52
  are
• 23:53
  the
• 23:53
  thermostat,
• 23:54
  not
• 23:54
  the
• 23:54
  weather.
• 23:55
  You
• 23:55
  write
• 23:56
  the
• 23:56
  line,
• 23:57
  you
• 23:57
  live
• 23:58
  the
• 23:58
  line,
• 23:58
  you
• 23:59
  evolve
• 24:00
  the
• 24:00
  line
• 24:01
  today,
• 24:02
  your
• 24:02
  mind
• 24:03
  listens
• 24:03
  to
• 24:03
  you.
• 24:04
  The
• 24:04
  loving,
• 24:05
  honest
• 24:05
  narrator
• 24:06
  who
• 24:06
  says,
• 24:07
  I'm
• 24:08
  proud
• 24:08
  of
• 24:08
  you,
• 24:09
  you
• 24:09
  are
• 24:10
  prepared.
• 24:11
  We
• 24:12
  will
• 24:12
  iterate.
• 24:13
  And
• 24:13
  then
• 24:13
  you
• 24:13
  do
• 24:14
  it.
• 24:14
  Decide
• 24:15
  once.
• 24:16
  Move
• 24:17
  and
• 24:17
  be
• 24:17
  the
• 24:17
  certainty
• 24:18
  you
• 24:18
  crave.
• 24:19
  Walk
• 24:20
  like
• 24:21
  a
• 24:21
  promise
• 24:22
  kept.
• 24:23
  Yes,
• 24:24
  friend.
• 24:25
  This
• 24:26
  is
• 24:26
  self-love
• 24:26
  in
• 24:27
  action.
• 24:28
  Choosing
• 24:28
  language
• 24:29
  that
• 24:29
  respects
• 24:30
  you,
• 24:31
  behavior
• 24:31
  that
• 24:32
  backs
• 24:32
  you,
• 24:33
  and
• 24:33
  proof
• 24:34
  that
• 24:34
  trains
• 24:34
  your
• 24:35
  body
• 24:35
  to
• 24:35
  trust
• 24:36
  you.
• 24:37
  Confidence
• 24:37
  isn't
• 24:38
  a
• 24:38
  lightning
• 24:38
  strike.
• 24:39
  It's
• 24:39
  a
• 24:40
  ledger
• 24:40
  every
• 24:41
  time
• 24:41
  you
• 24:41
  state
• 24:42
  a
• 24:42
  believable
• 24:43
  power
• 24:43
  line
• 24:44
  and
• 24:44
  take
• 24:44
  one
• 24:45
  congruent
• 24:45
  action,
• 24:46
  you
• 24:47
  deposit
• 24:48
  a
• 24:48
  vote
• 24:48
  for
• 24:48
  the
• 24:48
  woman
• 24:49
  you
• 24:49
  are
• 24:49
  becoming
• 24:50
  and
• 24:50
  those
• 24:51
  votes
• 24:51
  add
• 24:51
  up.
• 24:52
  This
• 24:53
  is
• 24:53
  how
• 24:53
  Confidence
• 24:54
  is
• 24:54
  built.
• 24:55
  Rep
• 24:55
  by
• 24:56
  rep,
• 24:56
  brick
• 24:57
  by
• 24:57
  brick.
• 24:58
  Confidence
• 24:59
  isn't
• 24:59
  a
• 24:59
  mood.
• 25:00
  It's
• 25:00
  evidence.
• 25:02
  It's
• 25:02
  the
• 25:02
  byproduct
• 25:03
  of
• 25:03
  small
• 25:04
  moves,
• 25:05
  power
• 25:05
  moves,
• 25:06
  respectful
• 25:07
  choices
• 25:07
  repeated
• 25:08
  until
• 25:09
  your
• 25:09
  body
• 25:10
  believes
• 25:10
  you.
• 25:11
  So
• 25:11
  when
• 25:11
  the
• 25:11
  What
• 25:12
  If
• 25:12
  Committee
• 25:12
  shows
• 25:13
  up.
• 25:13
  Smile
• 25:14
  and
• 25:14
  say,
• 25:15
  I've
• 25:15
  got
• 25:16
  this.
• 25:17
  You
• 25:17
  are
• 25:17
  not
• 25:17
  an
• 25:18
  overthinker
• 25:18
  anymore.
• 25:19
  You
• 25:20
  are
• 25:20
  the
• 25:20
  woman
• 25:21
  leading
• 25:21
  her
• 25:21
  mind
• 25:22
  home.
• 25:23
  Being
• 25:24
  your
• 25:24
  own
• 25:24
  built-in
• 25:25
  bestie
• 25:26
  means
• 25:26
  you
• 25:27
  stop
• 25:27
  talking
• 25:27
  to
• 25:27
  yourself
• 25:28
  like
• 25:28
  a
• 25:28
  project
• 25:29
  to
• 25:29
  fix
• 25:30
  and
• 25:30
  start
• 25:30
  talking
• 25:31
  to
• 25:31
  yourself
• 25:31
  like
• 25:32
  a
• 25:32
  person
• 25:32
  you
• 25:33
  love.
• 25:34
  It's
• 25:34
  the
• 25:34
  moment
• 25:35
  you
• 25:35
  catch
• 25:36
  the
• 25:36
  spiral
• 25:37
  and
• 25:37
  choose
• 25:38
  a
• 25:38
  softer
• 25:38
  voice,
• 25:39
  one
• 25:39
  that
• 25:40
  tells
• 25:40
  the
• 25:40
  truth
• 25:41
  without
• 25:41
  tearing
• 25:42
  you
• 25:42
  down.
• 25:43
  You
• 25:43
  don't
• 25:43
  need
• 25:44
  coddling.
• 25:45
  You
• 25:46
  coach
• 25:46
  yourself
• 25:47
  with
• 25:47
  compassion.
• 25:49
  You
• 25:49
  say,
• 25:50
  Hey,
• 25:50
  love,
• 25:51
  I
• 25:51
  see
• 25:51
  you
• 25:52
  trying
• 25:52
  so
• 25:52
  hard.
• 25:53
  Let's
• 25:53
  breathe
• 25:54
  what
• 25:55
  matters
• 25:55
  most
• 25:55
  right
• 25:56
  now,
• 25:57
  and
• 25:57
  let's
• 25:57
  take
• 25:57
  that
• 25:58
  one
• 25:58
  step
• 25:58
  your
• 25:58
  body
• 25:59
  listens.
• 26:00
  Shoulders
• 26:00
  drop
• 26:01
  options
• 26:02
  appear.
• 26:03
  The
• 26:03
  next
• 26:04
  right
• 26:04
  move
• 26:05
  gets
• 26:05
  clear.
• 26:06
  Bestie
• 26:07
  energy
• 26:07
  sets
• 26:08
  the
• 26:08
  tone
• 26:08
  for
• 26:09
  everything
• 26:10
  else.
• 26:11
  When
• 26:11
  your
• 26:11
  inner
• 26:11
  world
• 26:12
  is
• 26:12
  kind,
• 26:13
  your
• 26:13
  boundaries
• 26:14
  get
• 26:14
  cleaner.
• 26:15
  Every
• 26:15
  time
• 26:16
  you
• 26:16
  ask
• 26:16
  for
• 26:16
  what
• 26:17
  you
• 26:17
  need,
• 26:17
  it
• 26:17
  becomes
• 26:18
  more
• 26:18
  clear
• 26:19
  and
• 26:19
  your
• 26:19
  presence
• 26:20
  lands
• 26:21
  steadier.
• 26:22
  You
• 26:22
  stop
• 26:23
  performing
• 26:23
  for
• 26:24
  approval
• 26:24
  and
• 26:25
  start
• 26:25
  leading
• 26:26
  from
• 26:26
  self
• 26:26
  respect.
• 26:27
  That's
• 26:28
  not
• 26:28
  fluff.
• 26:28
  It's
• 26:29
  functional.
• 26:30
  Your
• 26:31
  nervous
• 26:31
  system
• 26:32
  follows
• 26:32
  your
• 26:33
  narrator.
• 26:34
  And
• 26:34
  when
• 26:34
  the
• 26:34
  narrator
• 26:35
  is
• 26:35
  loving
• 26:36
  and
• 26:36
  honest,
• 26:37
  confidence
• 26:37
  starts
• 26:38
  compounding
• 26:39
  in
• 26:39
  the
• 26:39
  background.
• 26:40
  Little
• 26:41
  by
• 26:41
  little
• 26:42
  you
• 26:42
  become
• 26:42
  more
• 26:43
  of
• 26:43
  the
• 26:43
  woman.
• 26:43
  Your
• 26:44
  words
• 26:44
  describe.
• 26:45
  If
• 26:45
  you
• 26:46
  want
• 26:46
  lines
• 26:46
  to
• 26:46
  borrow,
• 26:47
  just
• 26:48
  try.
• 26:48
  You're
• 26:48
  safe
• 26:49
  to
• 26:49
  move.
• 26:50
  You
• 26:50
  are
• 26:50
  prepared.
• 26:51
  We
• 26:52
  will
• 26:52
  iterate.
• 26:53
  I'm
• 26:53
  proud
• 26:53
  of
• 26:54
  you
• 26:54
  for
• 26:54
  taking
• 26:55
  action.
• 26:56
  Say
• 26:56
  it
• 26:56
  out
• 26:57
  loud,
• 26:57
  them
• 26:57
  land
• 26:58
  because
• 26:58
  the
• 26:58
  world
• 26:59
  will
• 26:59
  mirror
• 27:00
  how
• 27:00
  you
• 27:00
  treat
• 27:01
  you,
• 27:02
  and
• 27:02
  you
• 27:02
  just
• 27:02
  decided
• 27:03
  to
• 27:03
  be
• 27:03
  the
• 27:04
  bestest,
• 27:04
  best
• 27:05
  friend
• 27:05
  you've
• 27:06
  ever
• 27:06
  had.
• 27:07
  Love
• 27:07
  yourself
• 27:08
  a
• 27:08
  little
• 27:08
  extra
• 27:09
  as
• 27:09
  you
• 27:10
  practice
• 27:11
  condition
• 27:12
  and
• 27:12
  train
• 27:12
  your
• 27:13
  mind
• 27:13
  to
• 27:14
  work.
• 27:14
  For
• 27:15
  you
• 27:15
  and
• 27:15
  not
• 27:16
  against
• 27:16
  you.
• 27:17
  The
• 27:17
  old
• 27:17
  overthinker,
• 27:18
  the
• 27:18
  harsh
• 27:19
  self
• 27:19
  critic.
• 27:20
  She's
• 27:20
  retired
• 27:21
  and
• 27:21
  her
• 27:22
  jersey
• 27:22
  is
• 27:22
  now
• 27:23
  in
• 27:23
  the
• 27:23
  rafters.
• 27:24
  Okay?
• 27:24
  So
• 27:25
  name
• 27:25
  it
• 27:26
  and
• 27:26
  breathe.
• 27:27
  Say
• 27:28
  one
• 27:28
  power
• 27:29
  line
• 27:29
  you
• 27:29
  believe
• 27:30
  in
• 27:30
  with
• 27:30
  confidence
• 27:31
  and
• 27:32
  take
• 27:32
  one
• 27:33
  aligned
• 27:34
  action.
• 27:35
  Do
• 27:35
  it
• 27:35
  in
• 27:35
  the
• 27:35
  next
• 27:36
  five
• 27:36
  minutes.
• 27:37
  Log
• 27:37
  your
• 27:37
  wins
• 27:38
  tonight.
• 27:38
  That's
• 27:39
  how
• 27:39
  you
• 27:39
  become
• 27:40
  the
• 27:40
  certainty
• 27:41
  you
• 27:41
  used
• 27:42
  to
• 27:42
  chase.
• 27:42
  Friend,
• 27:43
  I
• 27:43
  am
• 27:44
  loving
• 27:45
  this
• 27:46
  woman.
• 27:46
  You
• 27:47
  are
• 27:47
  being,
• 27:48
  'cause
• 27:48
  you're
• 27:48
  doing
• 27:49
  more
• 27:49
  than
• 27:50
  trying.
• 27:51
  You
• 27:51
  are
• 27:52
  doing
• 27:52
  it.
• 27:52
  And
• 27:53
  with
• 27:53
  every
• 27:53
  episode
• 27:54
  you
• 27:54
  are
• 27:55
  showing
• 27:55
  pure,
• 27:56
  main
• 27:57
  character,
• 27:57
  energy
• 27:57
  in
• 27:58
  action.
• 27:58
  Friend.
• 27:59
  Here's
• 27:59
  to
• 27:59
  the
• 28:00
  bestest,
• 28:00
  built
• 28:01
  in
• 28:01
  bestie
• 28:01
  ever.
• 28:02
  I
• 28:02
  love
• 28:03
  you
• 28:03
  friend.
• 28:05
  Hey,
• 28:05
  lovely.
• 28:06
  If
• 28:06
  this
• 28:06
  episode
• 28:07
  helped
• 28:07
  you
• 28:08
  interrupt
• 28:08
  the
• 28:09
  spiral
• 28:09
  and
• 28:09
  step
• 28:10
  into
• 28:10
  your
• 28:10
  power
• 28:11
  lines,
• 28:11
  share
• 28:12
  it
• 28:12
  with
• 28:12
  one
• 28:13
  friend
• 28:13
  who
• 28:14
  needs
• 28:14
  a
• 28:14
  reminder.
• 28:15
  Make
• 28:15
  sure
• 28:15
  you
• 28:16
  follow
• 28:16
  and
• 28:16
  subscribe
• 28:17
  to
• 28:17
  Confident
• 28:18
  and
• 28:18
  Empowered
• 28:18
  Women,
• 28:19
  so
• 28:19
  you
• 28:20
  never
• 28:20
  miss
• 28:21
  an
• 28:21
  episode.
• 28:22
  And
• 28:22
  if
• 28:22
  you're
• 28:22
  feeling
• 28:23
  generous,
• 28:23
  leave
• 28:24
  a
• 28:24
  quick
• 28:24
  five
• 28:25
  star
• 28:25
  review
• 28:25
  with
• 28:26
  a
• 28:26
  one
• 28:26
  sentence
• 28:27
  about
• 28:27
  your
• 28:27
  biggest
• 28:28
  takeaway.
• 28:29
  It
• 28:29
  helps
• 28:29
  the
• 28:29
  show
• 28:30
  reach
• 28:30
  more
• 28:30
  high
• 28:31
  achieving
• 28:31
  heart
• 28:32
  led
• 28:32
  women
• 28:32
  just
• 28:33
  like
• 28:33
  you.
• 28:35
  I
• 28:36
  appreciate
• 28:37
  you.
• 28:37
  Decide
• 28:38
  once,
• 28:39
  move
• 28:40
  because
• 28:41
  that's
• 28:41
  the
• 28:41
  new
• 28:41
  you,
• 28:42
  and
• 28:42
  I'll
• 28:42
  see
• 28:43
  you
• 28:43
  in
• 28:43
  the
• 28:43
  next
• 28:44
  episode.
• 28:44
  Yes,
• 28:46
  and
• 28:46
  I'll
• 28:46
  see
• 28:47
  you
• 28:47
  in
• 28:47
  the
• 28:47
  next
• 28:48
  episode.