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Ep 09 – Locktober, Chastity Cages, and Other Kinks with Larah Sky · The Kink Consultant

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  It's the King Consultant podcast where we're turning up the heat
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  on all things kink and dating, relationships and top culture.
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  So close the door, plug in your headphones and let's get down to
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  it. Hello and welcome to this week's
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  episode of The King Consultant. This week I'm joined by the very
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  intimidating and extremely sexy Lara Sky.
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  Welcome, Lara. Hello.
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  How are you doing? I'm.
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  Good. I'm excited to see where this
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  goes today. Me too.
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  So I'm going to give a brief introduction of how I came
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  across Lara. It was about a year and a half
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  ago. I was on TikTok and I just
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  started my own TikTok and I came across this fantastically
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  beautiful, intelligent and mind fucking girl on Instagram.
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  And that was Lara. And she unknowingly and
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  unwittingly became my mentor, whether she realizes it or not
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  on TikTok because I was getting in trouble and I was messaging
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  her. I was like, you don't know me,
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  you owe me nothing but can you please tell me what to do?
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  And Lara told me, she said, are you every violation you get,
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  fight for it, say this, this and this and got me out of many,
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  many violations on TikTok. And that is where it all
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  started. You know you always going to
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  fight them. People get mad.
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  They see you being hot and having fun online.
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  They get mad for no reason. And people get way angrier at
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  you. I feel for those who are new to
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  you. Lara, why don't you tell us a
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  little bit about the type of content you put out there on
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  TikTok? And we're going to get into your
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  other content. But what?
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  What's your? TikTok content.
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  So basically I just like to poke straight man, like angry
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  straight white man, you know, like there's not a purpose.
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  It didn't start that way. I started off making like, funny
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  kink jokes and whatever, and I used to get so many hate
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  comments. I used to get like thousands of
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  hate comments per video. Yeah, there's something so funny
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  to me. And you get such an adrenaline,
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  gosh, when you get all the comments and all the likes and
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  all the money's come in and you're like, Oh my God, I love
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  this. So I do things to annoy them.
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  And you do that really well, but like the other thing you do
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  really well is you fuck with people like.
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  A little bit, yeah. I would say you are top notch at
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  Mindfuck and that is my greatest area of interest.
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  So like, I think that's what first caught my eye with your
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  videos, especially the ones where you spit into a glass of
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  water or expel other liquid into a glass of water.
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  Whether that's just camera tricks or not, they are my
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  favorite videos. Oh, my goodness, yeah.
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  Are the ones where I spit off camera people like please spit.
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  Oh my goodness. You reminded me during lockdown,
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  I had a video go viral. I had so many stitches.
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  I'm like, you're thirsty. And then I spit in a glass of
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  water and everyone's stitching it as I hand it off.
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  People were trying to buy it from me.
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  People were like, can we do a pre-order?
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  Can we? Like I had thousands of people
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  messaging me being like, we want to buy your spit.
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  And I didn't know how to do it. I didn't know how to sell my
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  spit. I didn't know, like, how do you
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  do it? I don't know.
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  Well, didn't that girl sell all her bath water once?
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  But then she got the money taken from her, I think.
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  I think that PayPal closed her account but.
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  How would you do it? You'd have to set up a website,
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  pre-order all the bottles, spit for like days.
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  For days, yeah. I mean, I think if you chewed
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  gum it might like speed up the process, but.
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  But. I don't know, like I had so many
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  people. We can get into logistics later.
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  At this point I just want to make my first mention of Lara
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  LARH Sky sky.com for hopefully in one day bottles of spit for
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  purchase among many other exciting things you have there
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  right now I would love. Chastity cages?
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  I would love to have my own brand of chastity cage, but
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  that's not happening. Before anyone asks, it's too
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  difficult. No, no, Lara, you are so young.
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  I refuse to hear that. It's too difficult.
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  But I would. Not sell anything I wasn't happy
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  with and I don't really want to go through the design process of
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  measuring like thousands of men's penises.
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  I might volunteer as tribute. I'm not saying definitely, but
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  I've done worse things. OK, so chastity cages, perfect
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  segue. Can you tell me about the
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  significance of the month of October in the work you do?
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  Yes, it's locked October. Locked for the whole of October
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  in your chastity cage. Some people have started good in
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  October, October. But locked October is the big
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  one. You do the whole month in a cage
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  or maybe not caged, maybe you just now and again.
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  But why not changing your life? And actually I don't know if it
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  helps because last year I did a nice one and a mean one and a
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  nice one. I was like, oh, take it off when
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  you want. And the mean one I was like,
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  shut up, keep it on. And we had same failure rate so.
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  I love that you had a scientific approach and there was a failure
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  rate involved. But for those who don't know,
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  because I have a lot of listeners who are new to kink, a
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  chastity cage is it is a cage looks like one with a little
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  lock. And specifically in this
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  example, I think we're mostly talking about men putting this
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  cage on their penis and locking it up so they cannot get hard is
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  that and they can pee through this and everything, right?
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  Because that was my first question.
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  When I first heard of chastity, I was like, so he threw his.
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  Yeah, right. I often say it's nuanced.
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  It depends how deep you're going into it.
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  But yeah, you should have a cage that's comfortable to wear for
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  like hours at a time or days at a time.
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  With the whole I've not got one to show you which is strange for
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  me, but normally I just have them scattered around, just like
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  every time I have workmen come in I have to try and hide the
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  cages. I have that with implements.
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  I usually have something lying around and I'm like, yes,
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  something here doesn't belong to the normal eye.
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  It's OK. People can go look up chastity
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  cages or they can go to your website and see everything you
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  have on for where I've seen you display many an.
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  Important point for chastity cages.
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  Do not lie about your size. If you're getting one, measure
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  soft and don't get a big one because it will hurt.
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  It'll hurt. Yeah, because if you get half
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  hard, like if you get fully hard in it, OK, whatever.
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  But most people aren't gonna get hard in something as big.
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  So you're gonna have like 1/2 erection and it's gonna hurt
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  more than if you just can't get hard.
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  Oh, this is OK. I am learning so many things.
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  I personally have never put someone in a cage.
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  I've put someone in a humbler. Do you know what those are?
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  I don't know what the actual you can let you.
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  Just call it a humbler. Yeah, but never a cage.
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  OK. And the reason and Locktober is
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  big. I have a lot of people message
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  me about it, ask if I'm hosting anything.
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  And I do send them your way because I am not actually
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  hosting anything. But I've I have some questions
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  about Locktober and chastity in general.
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  My first one is do women take part in October?
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  Because women can wear chastity pages well.
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  Belts, obviously it's easier if you have a penis because it's
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  got something to hold onto, yes. So.
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  If you wear a chastity belt it obviously has to go around your
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  waist. Yes and between.
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  Although you do get male chastity wounds as well that are
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  kind. Of OK, yeah.
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  But no, normally like not as much.
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  I think people tend to do more like the mental chastity or like
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  not to mention no fat because it's a toxic little place.
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  But but they tend to do that. Wait, they tend to do what not
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  about Oh fat no, I do not. They should really like
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  dominatrixes but they hate us. I got fat from their Reddit
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  because I encourage somebody. So basically they're like
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  masturbation is evil. Like porn is evil.
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  Don't touch yourself you're going to die.
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  Sex is fine but don't touch yourself you're a loser.
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  And these people just go like hardcore no sex, no porn, no
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  touching. They're like I'm like 100 days
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  to porn. Wow.
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  It's like a toxic little like they hate women, they hate sex
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  workers, they hate porn. They always hate.
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  You know they should want caged. I know if anyone's going to stay
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  at they should want Caged to keep them in line, but I guess
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  that takes away from their amazing free will that makes
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  them so much better than everybody else.
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  How did you get banned? That's a very nice way to put
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  it. I'd have to go check it out for
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  myself, but how did you get? I said you're doing so well.
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  I kept comment on people's posts being like yes, have you tried
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  caging? And I'm like, not even I'm
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  selling anything, just going, you're doing so well.
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  I'm so happy for you. Were you the only woman in
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  there? Pretty much OK.
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  So maybe. We can all account those so I do
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  still comment on people's posts being like good luck.
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  No way. It's quite encouraging of you.
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  I think that's benevolent, really, to be so kind and.
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  Anything. I'm fully into it.
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  It's not just a gimmick, it is a genuine, you know, I think it
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  helps. What do you think it helps with?
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  OK. So the way I look at it, you're
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  moving from like short term gratification into like a long
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  term kind of like focus shift. So it's like having like sugar
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  or coffee or something or like anything, you know, it's like
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  you're changing from like that instant hit, that instant rush
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  to them being like, OK, maybe like tomorrow or maybe in a
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  week. So it's like going on a diet,
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  starting going to gym. But people find that it makes
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  all the other things easier, like planning becomes easier.
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  Going to the gym, you can make more and more kind of like
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  because you're changing one part of your life and putting focus
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  on that, everything else follows.
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  So it's like a mind shift. It's like, so you could just be
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  not having sex, but it's like the change between being like,
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  OK, I'm going to jerk off today and then you're like, actually,
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  no, maybe I'll do it like next week or maybe I'll plan
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  something with my partner, you know?
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  So it's not only the delayed gratification, but it's taking
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  away the temptation of something that kind of serves as a
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  distraction. Yeah.
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  Exactly, But on that note, if you have a masturbation
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  addiction, please do not do chastity hardcore because people
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  do like touch themselves like 20 times a day. 30 times a day and
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  if you suddenly go to nothing, you're going to have a mental
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  breakdown, which is not fun. Well, it's like going through
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  withdrawals. So if you go for nothing and you
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  put too much pressure, you're going to end up being really
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  upset. And if you do touch yourself,
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  you're going to feel the world crashing down.
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  This is what I love about you. Though you can appear quite
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  harsh, you are very gentle in your approach and actually very
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  encouraging because that's such an ethical way to go about it.
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  You're not like trying to get everyone on board.
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  You're like, listen, this isn't for everyone.
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  It's definitely not for you. If I guess you have masturbation
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  addiction, it's. Yeah, but you could do things to
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  make it for you. You know, you could be like, I
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  want to wear a cage for an hour. I talk about this in YouTube
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  sometimes. But like, I could have it on for
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  30 minutes. I could be like, OK, I normally
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  touch myself like four times a day, only once today, you know,
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  like. Yeah.
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  Off and on. So you can sort of like gently
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  get yourself into it. Yeah.
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  And also just if you do something, just be like, OK,
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  reflect on it. And I was like, reflect, think
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  about why you did it, what triggered you.
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  But basically, a lot of people don't really.
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  They know how to, like, reflect and how to, like, pause.
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  So it's like every day you take time to be like, was this
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  difficult? Was I tempted?
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  You know, like, how long have I managed to have it on?
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  Did I take it off? You know, So it's like spending
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  those 10 minutes to be like, right, let's see what happened.
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  But yeah, it happens in different kinks.
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  You probably know this, especially, like, feminization.
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  People will buy all the dresses, all the toys.
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  Yeah, something will happen and they'll just throw everything
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  out. It does happen in a ton of
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  kinks, and I talked about this on a recent podcast as well
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  about spanking, where people go out and buy a bunch of porn
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  around it. But then for Spankos, it's like
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  there's a shame aspect of it and you throw it all away and you're
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  like, I'm never doing this again.
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  But it's not how it works. One, if that's in you, it's
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  really hard to just throw it away and pretend that it's not
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  going to exist because it's going to come back.
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  It will do, and you're going to feel worse when you've thrown it
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  the same way. So I'm like, put it in a box,
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  put it away of a day or two, it's fine.
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  Do you have a lot of people come to you for advice like that?
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  I have people who think it's not going to happen to them, and
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  I'll say to them you are going to have a time that you have
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  like a wobble or you run away. I call it running away.
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  Some people call it purging, but I'm like, the best thing you can
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  do, it's just out of sight because you're going to feel so
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  much worse. Like don't delete your accounts.
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  Yeah, log out on your phone or whatever.
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  Don't go into them. But you're going to feel worse.
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  You're going to lose your community, You're going to lose
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  all of your stuff that you've got, and you're going to come
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  back and feel like the pressure from before.
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  So that's why I try and say don't wind yourself up about it.
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  Just chills. Yeah, that's actually such solid
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  advice. Do not wind yourself up about
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  it, because I think what's actually happening is a shame
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  spiral. They are trying to distance
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  themselves from something that it doesn't require distance from
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  in the way of throwing it out. It's just a break.
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  I think a lot of us suffer from this black and white thinking of
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  it's all or nothing and it doesn't need to be like that.
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  It can be a dabbling thing. It makes my job easier as well
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  if people are just more chill because I can tell when there's
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  spiraling, I can tell when they're having a meltdown.
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  I'm like just chill. Honestly, go, go away for a day,
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  which actually triggers some people.
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  So I have to be like, you're not banned, you're not being told
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  anything, but you're being told to go away and like just chill
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  for a day. Take a step back.
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  Yeah, people don't want to go back, or you sometimes have to.
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  As in like, take a step back and then come back, come back, do it
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  again. Actually, to go back to
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  feminization, but if you're somebody who's like bringing it
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  into your everyday life and I'll say like use lip balm to make
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  your lips nice, use perfume, someone smells your perfume and
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  go, oh, that smells like what I wear.
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  And in that something in your head like go back to just doing
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  it at home. You know you don't have to throw
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  everything out. I am realizing that feminization
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  I've done, I think like one video on it before.
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  For everyone who's new to it, can you kind of explain what
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  feminization looks like in practice and then anything
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  around the psychology of it? Feminization and a lot of people
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  get confused between like sissification.
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  So your feminization is becoming more feminine in the way that
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  you present because obviously masculine or feminine, not to do
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  with like gender or sexuality or anything, just the way you
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  present. So like your makeup, your hair,
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  your clothes, things around you, you know, like maybe you want
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  more flowers, more art, more candles because they're
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  typically quite feminine. Maybe you want to watch like
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  Bridget Jones, I don't know, you want to like listen to girl,
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  whatever. So feminization is that, but a
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  lot of people struggle with it because they have to feel like
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  super manly and masculine. So then there's kind of this
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  like hiding it, which also UPS kinkiness.
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  So there's that. So some people, this is where it
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  gets very New South. Even in like straight kink play,
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  there's like a slot or kind of a, you know, like a naughty
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  side. Yeah, you could be like three
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  years, you could be a bimbo, you could be whatever.
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  So sisification kind of goes into like that during a play
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  session. So like very slowly being used.
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  The more kinky side of it or sexualized side of it.
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  Yeah, definitely more sexualized tends to be a lot more like
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  having sex with men. It tends to be like men who are
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  dressing up in, I wouldn't even say as women, which also gets
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  confused because people will say, oh, you're making fun of
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  women. I'm like, no, they're like
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  bimbofying themselves. They're being overly sexual.
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  So that's like their thing, having sex like a very straight
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  man normally like a Big Bear, but yeah, so it tends to be like
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  that. But some people get very mad.
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  And then so I don't really talk about like trans people because
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  I feel like your play doesn't really line up with like your
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  gender and your sexual almost. I agree with that completely.
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  It's a totally different thing. And yeah.
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  But a lot of people, they start off with certification and then
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  realize that there are trans women because it's like giving
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  them that chance. They've known that they wanted
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  to do something. And then they're like, this
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  isn't for me. But I enjoy like the feminine
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  aspect. Yeah, it gives them an
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  opportunity to dip their toe in the water, maybe, and then they
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  realize more about themselves. It gets more confusing for
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  people who aren't in the scene when you could be a trans woman
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  who enjoys being a Sissy. You're like playing that role of
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  like a man dressed up as a woman and almost being embarrassed for
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  it. Yes.
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  There's like layers to it. So like, you're a woman now in
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  your everyday life, but you're playing back on that, being very
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  slutty, being like, yeah. Which, if you're doing it as a
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  woman, it really just falls under bimbothocation.
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  But you, because it's a Sissy, they're doing it more as like
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  they're a woman, but they're a man being a woman.
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  Than a woman, yes, I thought, it's like, I'm with you on this.
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  I'm just trying to also relate it to me.
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  I'm like. So what would that be for me if
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  I were trying to be? For.
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  Being, yeah, which is a lot of fun if you're in the mood for
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  it, but I find that mentally it can be quite taxing as well
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  because they're like, my point here is that I feel for the
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  people who go into a shame spiral because sometime I
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  understand how easy it is to go into that, even as a woman who
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  has done bibification. And I don't even think it's just
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  that. I think it's anything that
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  pushes you and you don't always realize until you've done it.
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  Yes, that is the catch 22 of many of the kinky things out
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  there. It's we don't even know what
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  we're doing until we do it. And then this is how sometimes
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  you develop or find new kinks that you have and then also
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  realize, oh, maybe I went just beyond where I'm comfortable
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  going. Yeah, that definitely had a few.
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  I can't even think about it, but there's sometimes you're doing
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  something in your life. Do you feel that as a Dom too,
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  where you're just like, sometimes it's like, Oh yeah,
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  loving this. Like, no, I'm not OK with this.
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  I mean, it depends what it is. Sometimes you'll kind of like go
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  into an area that you're like, you know, like when it becomes
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  very like hardcore king. Hardcore king, even I have that
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  like I have limits like anything to do with poop is a personal
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  limit of mine. Anything at all because I do
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  like to pretend that I'm like doesn't happen to me.
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  Not a pooper but like that's how away from it I am.
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  But like. I have the interest of thought
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  that I always ask on streams. Can you ask it here so.
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  I found out recently, as in like the past year, that like, toilet
• 17:34
  play is really common in real life sessions.
• 17:36
  Yes. Like, like, yeah.
• 17:38
  OK, so if you're a sub who's just eating a dominatrix's poop,
• 17:42
  what do you do afterwards? Like, do you go home?
• 17:44
  Do you go to work? Do you wash your mouth?
• 17:45
  Do you brush your teeth? Do you leave it?
• 17:47
  Now you're thinking. Now you're having the intrusive
• 17:49
  thoughts as well. Like, what do they do?
• 17:51
  Like I understand the session, but what do you do after?
• 17:53
  I don't know how you don't get E coli, but we're going to talk
• 17:56
  about poop now because every time I think about this, I
• 17:59
  remember one day I went to work at the dungeon and there were
• 18:03
  these two girls who were on shift and everyone's like, where
• 18:05
  are are they? Where are they?
• 18:06
  And they had done a brown. That's what we had called it.
• 18:08
  And in this brown, it got real messy apparently.
• 18:12
  And they were in there for hours cleaning up like because there
• 18:14
  were wooden floors and they had to like get stuff out of the,
• 18:17
  they couldn't even show up to work the next day because they
• 18:19
  were still so sick and disgusted from what had happened.
• 18:22
  And I was thinking, you guys didn't even eat it like somebody
• 18:24
  else ingested that. That one does gross math because
• 18:27
  I just don't think it's safe. Which leads me into my next
• 18:29
  thing. Have you heard of the Dubai
• 18:31
  Girls? Yeah, but I'm totally fine with
• 18:33
  that. I'm asking no somebody.
• 18:35
  Who's it's like, because I used to work in nightlife and stuff
• 18:37
  and go to weird parties and I'm like, that seems standard.
• 18:40
  Yeah, they're all going to fetish parties.
• 18:42
  Like, is somebody in the room doing that?
• 18:43
  Like if you're getting paid better.
• 18:45
  I question, I'm like, it's a personal ick, but I'm like, no,
• 18:49
  I'm not shaming anyone from it, but I do have concerns about the
• 18:51
  health aspect of it because I don't think it's totally
• 18:54
  healthily safe. But my thing is, could I do it
• 18:56
  for $1,000,000? And I don't know, I'm not a
• 18:58
  definite no. It depends if I had to eat it or
• 19:01
  if it just had to glow my. Mouth.
• 19:03
  Oh, you're like you're. Like, I could have it on me, I
• 19:06
  could have it on my whole body, but I'm like, could I swallow
• 19:08
  it? Oh, yeah.
• 19:09
  Well, something I always said in the line of work that I did
• 19:12
  happens. You just kind of get used to it.
• 19:15
  But could I have it in my mouth? No, I don't think so.
• 19:18
  That's a scary thought. The thing is like, I'll happily
• 19:20
  drink piss if somebody pays me enough money.
• 19:22
  I'm not against this. I'm.
• 19:24
  Probably not every so often and I'll be like somebody gives me a
• 19:27
  grand, I'll drink it right now and somebody.
• 19:31
  Maybe on my worst days, but I always used to really enjoy
• 19:34
  peeing in people's mouths. I thought it was something that
• 19:36
  was super fun to do and it's not something until I went to the
• 19:41
  dungeon I'd never even considered it.
• 19:42
  That place opened my mind and eyes in, but it's not something
• 19:46
  I do in my life. You're right, it's fun.
• 19:48
  See if you're at a bar and you take a pint glass, go to the
• 19:51
  toilet, fill it up and make the sub drink at the table.
• 19:54
  A lot of the girls used to do that in session and I just
• 19:57
  thought it was wild because I was so about consent and.
• 20:00
  And asking questions. And the truth is, men are so
• 20:03
  much more or so much less concerned with consent.
• 20:06
  I think they're so excited to be told what to do.
• 20:08
  I'm not saying it's right. I often take them aside.
• 20:11
  And I'm like, no, no, no. You need to like have boundaries
• 20:13
  and oh. Yeah, the danger for men is like
• 20:15
  some men are crazy with all honestly, they really are.
• 20:19
  They fear. They don't have No Fear that you
• 20:22
  should have with like giving a stranger access to your house
• 20:25
  while you're asleep. Yeah, you're not even
• 20:27
  exaggerating. I know that they don't have fear
• 20:29
  because they've been raised in a world where fear has not been
• 20:32
  bred into them from day one. And I think that's the
• 20:34
  difference. Women are taught not just to
• 20:37
  fear, but how to protect themselves at every stage.
• 20:39
  So we just see ways to protect ourselves everywhere.
• 20:41
  And some of those ways are literally like, no, you can't
• 20:44
  just come into my house until I have properly vetted you.
• 20:47
  On that note, do you find this as well?
• 20:49
  Because men are always like I'll come and clean your house.
• 20:51
  Do you not see how weird that is?
• 20:53
  I understand why they want to, but the man, a man online who
• 20:57
  are like, I really want to come to your house.
• 20:59
  That's true. There was a time in New York
• 21:01
  where I did get paid a lot to have men come clean my house.
• 21:05
  I'm thinking back on this now and I'm like, you know what?
• 21:08
  There was a time where I was less risk averse as well and did
• 21:11
  let people come over and clean. And I'm thinking, did I vet
• 21:14
  them? But This is why I teach vetting
• 21:16
  now, because I'm like, there were crazy things that I did.
• 21:19
  Honestly, I used to just be like, oh that sounds fun.
• 21:21
  Plus the place that I work, the foot place you should just put
• 21:24
  people in. Same as the dungeon.
• 21:26
  You, well, you come in and just do them.
• 21:28
  Yeah, and you'd be excited. A client shows you from your
• 21:31
  picture at the dungeon anyway. Yeah.
• 21:33
  Like, Oh my God, somebody is coming.
• 21:35
  And if not, you just sit on your phone.
• 21:37
  You're like, this is brilliant. Yeah, it was actually really
• 21:39
  good. I loved my time working.
• 21:41
  So wait, you did footwork? What was that like?
• 21:44
  Because I do not have beautiful feet, but I just have a feeling
• 21:47
  you have gorgeous feet. People look at my feet, you're
• 21:51
  into feet and they're like your feet are weird.
• 21:53
  So I have like size 8 UK, so size 10 US feet.
• 21:57
  So like bigger than their face, high arches.
• 22:00
  And I have spread out toes have very narrow, slim feet, right?
• 22:04
  And people like your feet aren't that nice.
• 22:06
  And I'm like, you don't like feet, but it's like the thing,
• 22:09
  it's like it covers your whole face.
• 22:10
  Like there's so much of them. I see.
• 22:13
  Well, you're tall too, so. I'm 5 foot tan which there's a
• 22:17
  running joke that I'm actually really.
• 22:19
  Short OK, but I do want to talk about feet a little bit more
• 22:22
  because I do have the honor of being on your close friends
• 22:26
  list. I don't know if that's a secret
• 22:28
  that you have a close friends list.
• 22:29
  So I have a. Close friends list, but I'm
• 22:31
  always like pretty much that sound as well, yeah, My brain
• 22:37
  makes when it doesn't know what to do.
• 22:40
  It's just like. If I see a Lara sky green circle
• 22:44
  on Instagram, that is the first story I'm going to because I'm
• 22:46
  like, oh, this is going to be real good.
• 22:48
  So I have seen your feet many times and I do know that they
• 22:51
  are beautiful and I just, I'm going to plug your website one
• 22:54
  more time because I'm sure there's somewhere that they can
• 22:56
  find a way to go. Larasky.com.
• 23:00
  Are more popular and I though than they used to be really I
• 23:03
  think yeah, like probably 2018 or something became quite
• 23:08
  mainstream. Oh, I could do that for years.
• 23:11
  But now it's just like, you know, when it starts off as a
• 23:13
  joke. This is when you know what's
• 23:14
  going mainstream. Like chastity is a joke right
• 23:16
  now it's going mainstream because people like ha ha ha you
• 23:18
  in a cage few years ago it was like you ever licked somebody's
• 23:21
  toes. Do you know like that kind?
• 23:22
  Oh. God, yeah, I remember.
• 23:24
  Like that kind of like jokey, like, oh, don't show the feet.
• 23:28
  I think you're spot on though about how you know something's
• 23:31
  going to be mainstream, and I think you are 100% right about
• 23:33
  chastity as well, especially based on how you've talked about
• 23:37
  it. It sounds like a type of
• 23:39
  meditation or, you know, it's a retreat almost.
• 23:41
  You know those silent retreats where people go be quiet for a
• 23:44
  while. It's a masturbation retreat
• 23:46
  where you go. It's not retreating for
• 23:49
  masturbating because can you pull that book up again?
• 23:52
  What is that 30? Days of chastity.
• 23:54
  So it's not well, it's on Etsy. It's the PDF version.
• 23:58
  This is a print. My proof?
• 24:00
  Can you still buy the print or you can only buy the PDF version
• 24:03
  I've. Not released a print yet because
• 24:05
  this is like my copy that I got sent before I sent it to
• 24:08
  publishers. But you can buy it online
• 24:10
  because originally it was for using on like an iPad or
• 24:13
  something so that you can reuse it.
• 24:15
  But I thought some people really like a physical copy.
• 24:17
  OK, I really like it. So what's it called?
• 24:20
  30 days of chastity. There is a chastity book getting
• 24:22
  written as well. But for some reason people who
• 24:25
  know me are like, oh it'll be like 10 pages.
• 24:27
  No, if you knew me, you knew it would be like 200.
• 24:30
  No, you're thorough, there's nothing you do half assed ever.
• 24:33
  So of course it is. So this is 30 days and they can
• 24:37
  technically I guess they should have bought it at the start of
• 24:39
  October, but really it's never too.
• 24:41
  Late to start time. To be honest.
• 24:43
  It's not October thing. That's why I didn't make it 31.
• 24:47
  OK, 31's an ugly number, but. OK, we can talk about so
• 24:51
  because. The way I'll see if I can find
• 24:54
  it, it messes up my little calendar.
• 24:57
  So this is like your chastity calendar and then stops is that
• 25:00
  you fill it in every day, your cage.
• 25:02
  But if you're caged for half a day, you just put half and you
• 25:05
  wouldn't have to do it at once. It's like it could take you a
• 25:07
  year to do 30 days. So it's like you fill it in as
• 25:10
  you go. And if I had an extra day, that
• 25:12
  would be. Terrible.
• 25:13
  Yeah. Yeah.
• 25:14
  Ruined everything. It would.
• 25:16
  I'm on board with this now, personally, because October 31st
• 25:19
  is my favorite day of the year, Halloween.
• 25:21
  But I understand you're keeping away from the Locktober thing.
• 25:25
  It's just 30 days. Could do it over a year.
• 25:28
  What's the longest you've ever had someone in?
• 25:30
  People ask me so personally off and on for about a year.
• 25:35
  When I had it in the. Arse and stuff, but online
• 25:37
  people will be caged for like 4 or five years.
• 25:39
  Like you hear them and they're like 10 years, 15 years.
• 25:42
  Not constantly. Yeah.
• 25:44
  I don't have the cage on most days.
• 25:46
  I feel like that is just an entirely different way of life
• 25:51
  that a lot of people would benefit from if they were
• 25:53
  willing to commit to it, like you said, yeah.
• 25:56
  That's the thing, it's like but you can also use chastity for
• 25:59
  play. But you should be touched on a
• 26:00
  little bit as well. But when you're making the
• 26:02
  lifestyle change, like you will miss wearing it.
• 26:04
  It's like if you have a ring or a watch that you wear, you take
• 26:07
  off and you're like, this is weird.
• 26:08
  Like you feel like something's missing that sort of like that
• 26:12
  weight that you're used to. I know.
• 26:13
  Yeah. Well, like when I wear rings, I
• 26:15
  like to play with them. I play with my necklace all the
• 26:17
  time. I think it's the antithesis of
• 26:19
  being locked to play with your cage.
• 26:21
  But yeah, it's probably like a comfort thing eventually.
• 26:24
  Yeah, I, I notice a lot of people say, yeah, I don't feel
• 26:27
  confident without the cage on. You know, they feel like it's
• 26:30
  exposed and like you like feeling strong and protected.
• 26:33
  That makes sense to me and I think that the way you've
• 26:36
  described it, of being more thoughtful about how they're
• 26:39
  going to approach their day when they are going to masturbate,
• 26:41
  and also just taking away that distraction of masturbating,
• 26:45
  allowing people to do more. I have distractions in my life.
• 26:48
  I wish they could cage them away, but they're more up here
• 26:50
  than physical. So there's no like physical way
• 26:53
  to stop it. So fair play to the people
• 26:56
  taking part in October. I have more questions now.
• 26:59
  I have a comparison question, OK, A lot of my clients or
• 27:03
  potential clients I have, they come to me and they talk about
• 27:05
  how they want to wear women's panties.
• 27:06
  These are men and they're like feeling a little bit ashamed
• 27:08
  about it or embarrassed. But the one thing I say is you
• 27:11
  truly do not understand how many people are into this or are out
• 27:14
  there wearing panties right now. There's nothing to be
• 27:17
  embarrassed about because it's actually quite common.
• 27:19
  And I tell a lot of people this. Sometimes I get women who call
• 27:22
  me because of their partners. They find out they're cross
• 27:24
  dressing and I'm like, this is very common.
• 27:25
  It doesn't mean anything sinister.
• 27:28
  It's just that they like wearing the clothing sometimes.
• 27:31
  But what's your experience been with that?
• 27:33
  Do you think it's more common than people realize?
• 27:35
  I have people come to you about it.
• 27:37
  All the time, all the time. It's always this kind of hidden
• 27:40
  thing. So the thing that I don't like
• 27:41
  is when they're using their partners underwear and toys
• 27:44
  because I'm like, firstly, hygiene.
• 27:45
  If you're using their toys, please don't, please get your
• 27:47
  own. Like get something that fits
• 27:49
  you, you know, like get your own stuff.
• 27:51
  I know part of it is like the secret, oh, I'm wearing them.
• 27:54
  But if you're going to wear them long term, but it's so hard to
• 27:56
  get in nice men's underwear, like I think that's part of it
• 27:59
  as well. Business idea after you set up
• 28:02
  your spit factory business. I know, I think it's called
• 28:05
  extras. They do like underwear that fits
• 28:09
  penises, but it's like fancy, it's got frills and it's lazy,
• 28:13
  some tricks extra. But yeah, it's so common.
• 28:16
  It's so incredibly common. But the amount of man her like,
• 28:19
  yeah, my girlfriend found it and I told her I was cheating.
• 28:22
  And I'm like, you've just ruined the relationship because you're
• 28:25
  terrified. That is so sad.
• 28:27
  I mean, it's, it's kind of funny that that is where they.
• 28:30
  But like also I think that if people started to talk more
• 28:33
  openly about it and understood how common it was, it would not
• 28:36
  be as much of a big deal. But yeah, it's a communication
• 28:39
  thing. And I always say I don't think
• 28:40
  you should be with someone that you can't talk to.
• 28:42
  I understand being apprehensive or scared or a bit worried about
• 28:46
  how they're going to react, but if you can't talk to them, what
• 28:48
  else are you not talking about? So.
• 28:50
  I have heard you say that so many times and it's still always
• 28:54
  such a mic drop because you're right.
• 28:55
  If like this doesn't stop a kink, it's there aren't people
• 28:58
  who are like, oh, I tell my wife every thing except this.
• 29:01
  I think it's because we're you automatically become used to
• 29:05
  filtering things or sugar coating things or telling only
• 29:08
  75% of the story. And I think that's easier to
• 29:11
  seep into other parts of your life too.
• 29:13
  But it's hard as well when there's a fear of judgment.
• 29:16
  So sometimes it's the balancing act going to say that's where I
• 29:18
  come in as a sex and relationship coach sometimes to
• 29:21
  sort of smooth that over and make that conversation happen a
• 29:24
  little bit easier. But ultimately I agree.
• 29:26
  You shouldn't be with someone who you can't talk to.
• 29:27
  It's. Just not a healthy way to be and
• 29:30
  especially if you're freshly in a relationship or looking for
• 29:33
  one and people say oh, how do I tell someone?
• 29:35
  And like maybe maybe not straight away, maybe not on the
• 29:38
  first date, but definitely before you start like properly
• 29:41
  dating I would say. I think so when I tell people
• 29:43
  about my kinks, I tell them on the first date or even
• 29:46
  beforehand. I try it.
• 29:47
  You know, like a little bit. Drop them in easy.
• 29:49
  Yeah, I have zero chill. But you're right, I do think
• 29:53
  that that is a great option. And I usually work with people
• 29:55
  to figure out where they are in their journey and whether or not
• 29:57
  it's something to bring up at 1st.
• 29:59
  And sometimes it is, sometimes it's not.
• 30:01
  It's kind of dependent on what it is.
• 30:02
  But yeah, you don't. You also don't want to come
• 30:04
  across as someone with A1 track mind with only an interest in
• 30:08
  whatever your kink is because that it's reductive of who you
• 30:11
  are as a person and how you show up in a relationship.
• 30:14
  Often just when I meet people and we're friendly, like if we
• 30:17
  really get on, we'll start talking about things Anyway,
• 30:20
  like you can tell there's like a kink sense that you have, isn't
• 30:23
  there? Like you just mentioned
• 30:25
  something and they're like, oh, yeah.
• 30:27
  And you're like, like, I just know.
• 30:29
  Or I was at a dinner and it was like, so my friend's daughter
• 30:33
  who's like a little bit younger than me, but anyway, her like,
• 30:36
  was it her boyfriend or her? They went like good boy or good
• 30:39
  girl when they passed over the plate.
• 30:41
  And I was like, and I was just like, Oh, my goodness, we know
• 30:44
  what's happened here. Sometimes just little things
• 30:48
  like that. Or you see people out shopping
• 30:50
  and the man's like walking five steps behind with all the bags.
• 30:54
  Yes. And you're like.
• 30:55
  Protocol it you do start noticing these things in and I,
• 30:59
  I almost have a Rolodex in my head of different things I've
• 31:02
  seen in my life that I've like clocked away that no one else
• 31:04
  has picked up on. But I'm like, no, that was
• 31:06
  definitely they are in a dynamic or something is happening right
• 31:09
  now. Or why do you have to explain to
• 31:11
  people no, that's a kink thing? Yeah.
• 31:14
  Especially on TikTok, that one, that was the series, which is
• 31:17
  like, is it a kink? And it's like, yeah.
• 31:19
  Any of those hack videos where it was just someone's feet being
• 31:22
  pushed into something or yeah, anything to do?
• 31:25
  With putting on the layers of clothes, that's a kink.
• 31:27
  I know about sweater horn, but what?
• 31:31
  That's one kind of. So basically it's like putting
• 31:33
  lots of layers on so that you're like in a ball and then you kind
• 31:37
  of roll about. Oh, OK, no, this.
• 31:39
  One is kind of niche. It's almost like inflation.
• 31:42
  It reminds me of like the balloon fetish where people like
• 31:45
  imagine yourself being blown out and expanded.
• 31:47
  I don't know if that's right word, but it's like layers.
• 31:49
  Because I used to get somebody bought a lot of customs from me.
• 31:52
  They liked watching people put on layers of clothes and then go
• 31:55
  on a duvet. So there was more layers.
• 31:58
  Oh, OK, that like none of that is.
• 31:59
  So innocent. So innocent and also it's just
• 32:02
  sort of like I'm like, yeah, that sounds.
• 32:04
  I could see how that would be I. Liked it?
• 32:06
  Yeah, I could get. I could get down with that, I
• 32:08
  guess. I hate asking this question, but
• 32:10
  now I'm curious. You've piqued my interest.
• 32:13
  Now what's the most interesting thing you've ever been asked for
• 32:16
  that you feel comfortable sharing?
• 32:18
  I. Don't know, like every so often
• 32:20
  I just have something I'm like, oh, that makes, it's so sad.
• 32:22
  Like I really love there's a guy.
• 32:25
  So I do Cam shows with him and he likes to imagine he's a
• 32:28
  spaceman and he's in a space suit and it's getting tighter
• 32:31
  and tighter and tighter and it's about to explode.
• 32:33
  I. Have to blow into.
• 32:34
  I have to go. Because you're blowing it up.
• 32:38
  You're the one. Up, but like the machine that
• 32:41
  gives him options malfunctioning and he's in space and he's about
• 32:44
  to explode. I love that, how does it?
• 32:47
  End tighter and he can't move his arms.
• 32:49
  I love it. Honestly.
• 32:50
  Every time he turns up, I'm like, he's you.
• 32:53
  There are those people who just really spark the imagination and
• 32:56
  you're like, OK, let's go. My favorite type is the one who
• 33:00
  we get to go on a journey together that's going on a
• 33:02
  journey. I mean, you're in space blowing
• 33:04
  their space suit up. I quite like the giant ones,
• 33:07
  they're always quite fun. I've been a giantess a lot.
• 33:11
  Have you seen the TikTok videos of, well like the squashing men
• 33:15
  ones? Those ones creep me out and I
• 33:17
  don't know what I think. It's because people draw on
• 33:19
  little cartoons and the sound is there and I'm like, of all the
• 33:23
  stuff they block and people get in trouble for posting.
• 33:27
  Honestly, my age is out of kink thing on YouTube.
• 33:30
  I got to G for giants. I've been busy with other
• 33:33
  things, but I filmed it and I kept going off on a tangent
• 33:35
  because I was like, there's so many different ways you can be a
• 33:37
  giant. Yeah, there are.
• 33:39
  I mean, I've been a giant in many ways myself, even at my
• 33:43
  short stature of 55. But you're an actual giant in
• 33:46
  5-10. I'm trying.
• 33:47
  To explain it though, because I was like, is it scary?
• 33:50
  Is it sexy? Like did you drink a potion?
• 33:53
  Is it just like an evil giant gonna crush the city?
• 33:56
  Yeah, there are many options. I've always just naturally been
• 34:00
  a giant, like when I show up as a giant.
• 34:02
  Are you like, are you just a tall person?
• 34:05
  Are you like 6 foot 6, which could happen and they're like 5
• 34:08
  foot tall or are you like 20 foot tall?
• 34:11
  I'm 20 feet tall. Yeah, that's that's my altar
• 34:13
  height is being 20 feet. Tall, How small are they?
• 34:17
  Like are they? Oh you keep them as a pet?
• 34:19
  Do you try and squish them? OK, squish.
• 34:21
  Them, but they can't die. Well I I'm not a squisher Dyer
• 34:24
  person. That's probably why I get
• 34:26
  creeped out by the TikTok videos personally because I'm like no,
• 34:31
  I spank them because that's my big fetish.
• 34:34
  Which remember? Do you remember Rammstein's
• 34:37
  video for? I don't remember the song, but
• 34:39
  it's Snow White and she's a giant and they're little dwarves
• 34:42
  and she spanks one of them. People upset me.
• 34:45
  That and being like this is where the kink started.
• 34:48
  But is it where it started, or is it where they discovered that
• 34:51
  they were into this? And like honey, I Shrunk the
• 34:54
  Kids is a really big one. That had never occurred to me.
• 34:57
  Because. What?
• 34:59
  The borrowers. The borrow.
• 35:00
  They run, they run around in a house and they're like stealing
• 35:03
  like little things. And they're little people,
• 35:06
  right? Yeah, they're little people and
• 35:08
  everyone's just normal sizes. I remember this, but I now I'm
• 35:12
  trying to think because I grew up in Ireland, I go, I
• 35:14
  experienced this a lot where people are like, oh, do you
• 35:16
  remember this? And I'm like, no, that was an
• 35:17
  American thing. I was in Ireland when this
• 35:19
  happened. I'm like, is the Borrower an
• 35:20
  English movie? The Borrower's an English movie.
• 35:22
  It might be. I don't because I'm like, I've
• 35:25
  never, I haven't heard anyone talk about that in years.
• 35:27
  But anyway, so that that turns people on.
• 35:30
  Are you Googling it for us? I am.
• 35:33
  Oh, it must be because it's got British actors in it.
• 35:35
  We're going to go for it's British.
• 35:36
  It doesn't say it's British, but I'm going for that.
• 35:39
  Yeah, I think it might be. But Honey I Shrunk the Kids is a
• 35:41
  big one. And like the cereal thing, I
• 35:45
  don't know if that's from Honey, I Shrunk the Kids, but being on
• 35:47
  the spoon. Yeah.
• 35:48
  Oh, I could see how that's popular.
• 35:50
  That match mixes a lot of things up.
• 35:53
  I'm obsessed with being tiny, but not not like that.
• 35:56
  I just like really giant things. And it is not a kink at all.
• 35:59
  I would like to create a room in a future house though, with
• 36:03
  oversized things like an oversized spoon and an oversized
• 36:06
  lamp. And who knows, maybe when I get
• 36:08
  into that setting, maybe a kink will up here.
• 36:11
  I mean, yeah. My friend's like the opposite.
• 36:14
  He's really tall, but he likes tiny miniature things, so he's
• 36:16
  got like tiny little frying pans and tiny little forks and
• 36:19
  things. Those things are really cute
• 36:21
  too, but I see that makes sense because he's really tall.
• 36:24
  Yes, he has little things, little dogs, little things.
• 36:28
  OK. We're sort of ramping up on time
• 36:30
  now and I have some questions. In your personal life, are you
• 36:34
  also a Dom? Do you hope to end up in a
• 36:37
  relationship where you in a female led relationship?
• 36:40
  So I'm a Princess. I'm like a switch technically,
• 36:44
  but I don't care as long as I'm a Princess.
• 36:46
  As long as you're doing things for me, I don't care if you're
• 36:48
  dominant or submissive. You're doing it for me like I am
• 36:51
  number one. I'm a Princess.
• 36:52
  I get this, I get that. I do nothing.
• 36:55
  Ah, this is where we relate your fellow royalty.
• 36:57
  Now I get I am also a Princess, and I can relate to that a lot.
• 37:03
  As long as you're doing something for me, that's just
• 37:05
  the natural order of things. You can be dominant, you can
• 37:08
  tell me what to wear, where to go.
• 37:09
  You can book everything or I can tell you to book everything,
• 37:13
  yes. These are your two options.
• 37:15
  Yeah, I like that. Okay, great.
• 37:18
  Are you seeing anybody? No, I'm not.
• 37:20
  Okay, so you are. Mainly because I work so much.
• 37:24
  You do work a lot. You are constantly just.
• 37:26
  I gather that from your Instagram, which if anyone isn't
• 37:31
  already also following on Instagram and TikTok.
• 37:33
  Lara, what's your your Instagrams and Tik Toks do have?
• 37:36
  To Sky 69. Lara Sky, 69 on both.
• 37:40
  Well, it was. Exactly.
• 37:44
  I have about a million different TikTok, so it's a bit hard to
• 37:47
  tell for scammers. Sometimes people like, how do I
• 37:49
  know? I'm like, I'm not going to
• 37:50
  message you. That's the best way to tell.
• 37:52
  You bring up a really solid point that I think we just need
• 37:55
  to take a minute to discuss. An online Dom who is serious is
• 37:59
  not going to spend her time proactively reaching out to you.
• 38:03
  Right Like. If like I struggle to keep up
• 38:07
  with my messages on my fan side, it's like, not to brag, but like
• 38:12
  I have a lot of messages, you know, like I could log in and
• 38:15
  have like 100 messages. So that's stressful enough and
• 38:18
  they're paying to talk to me. So like if you're trying to
• 38:22
  message me for free, well, for a start, I might answer you if you
• 38:26
  so if you're going to message me and you have a question, make it
• 38:28
  like, hi question. This is what I want.
• 38:31
  And that is the only way that you will ever get an answer is
• 38:33
  if it's very straightforward, not a high, simple, concise, can
• 38:38
  read it, not a big paragraph, just like a little little thing.
• 38:41
  And if I see it and I answer it fine.
• 38:43
  Yeah, you want a straightforward nugget question I'm.
• 38:46
  Not messaging people. I'm not being like, Oh my God,
• 38:49
  you follow me. You're the special chosen 1.
• 38:52
  I know. On Telegram, yeah.
• 38:56
  Or is it Zanji Zango? I don't, I think it is Zango,
• 39:00
  but I actually don't know. But I get Telegram a lot.
• 39:03
  Yes. I just think it's really
• 39:04
  important. I need to make a video about
• 39:06
  this because you've made videos about this.
• 39:08
  No one is proactively reaching out to you.
• 39:11
  And if they are, it's more than likely a scam.
• 39:14
  And it's not the person. There's one person on Instagram
• 39:17
  and he has been scammed multiple times by maybe the same woman
• 39:20
  and he's always sending me photos of her.
• 39:22
  And what gets me is this woman is at least 10 to 15 years older
• 39:25
  and she's Asian and I am not Asian and she is sending him
• 39:29
  photos saying it's me the king consultant and I'm like this is
• 39:34
  so obviously not me. Thank you for sharing.
• 39:36
  Please stop sending her money. I.
• 39:37
  Think some people like it, that's a whole other fetish that
• 39:40
  we go into. But the scammers are getting
• 39:42
  smarter. So what they'll do is they'll
• 39:44
  send it to a legitimate profile and say, this is my real
• 39:46
  Twitter, right? They send me my real profile, go
• 39:50
  to an 18 plus site or if I'm on a live stream, come and talk to
• 39:53
  me there. Yeah.
• 39:54
  Like verify in some way, shape or form.
• 39:57
  But you're right, I do think some it is a fetish or it's
• 40:00
  something that intrigues people being scammed a little bit.
• 40:03
  Because I think that the reason maybe this person keeps coming
• 40:06
  back and showing me is because he's excited.
• 40:08
  That he's almost rigmarole scammed more than.
• 40:11
  Once I think he likes it. Which is probably gonna have to
• 40:15
  be a discussion for another time.
• 40:17
  I have many stories like that of, yeah, if you're being
• 40:21
  scammed more than once, that might be a you thing and you're
• 40:23
  into it. Yeah.
• 40:25
  Me always working, but yeah, I don't have time.
• 40:28
  I don't know. People think I have a team and
• 40:30
  I'm like, I have an admin assistant who like work a few
• 40:33
  hours a week. Like she has her own life.
• 40:35
  Like she's not like she's just a friend who helps me.
• 40:38
  And because the work you do, it's not really like you can
• 40:40
  outsource it. You are the provider like.
• 40:43
  I can have someone upload videos, I can have someone help
• 40:47
  me edit maybe. Yeah, I can.
• 40:49
  You know, like that's fine. But at a certain point, you
• 40:53
  know, like nobody else can make the videos, nobody else can do
• 40:55
  the photos, nobody else can stream.
• 40:57
  So. Yeah, no, that's the thing.
• 40:59
  You can't put a. There's no figurehead.
• 41:01
  You are, and your mind is what's doing it, your body and mind.
• 41:05
  I just, you know, The thing is about dating somebody, I always
• 41:08
  think you get to the end of a work day and then the idea of
• 41:11
  having to go and be nice to somebody.
• 41:13
  I just, I was like, I couldn't. I was like, I would still be
• 41:16
  mean. I but like, maybe that's healthy
• 41:18
  for you. Yeah, You know, like I have
• 41:21
  friends and stuff. Obviously I go out and about,
• 41:23
  but like the idea of like organizing, it's like I'd rather
• 41:26
  just sleep. Well, you work so much, that's
• 41:28
  why you would rather sleep. But yeah, I think that there are
• 41:31
  certain people and there are people out there who love it.
• 41:33
  But yes, I know you are a well adjusted human who has friends
• 41:35
  and you have the ability. I feel like I always need to say
• 41:38
  that. I'm like I make a joke that I
• 41:39
  don't leave my house. I do leave my house.
• 41:42
  As loyal followers know, you leave your house and have a
• 41:44
  life. I just don't post photos outside
• 41:47
  of my house normally so people are just like you do, but that's
• 41:50
  the safety thing. I was going to say I need to be
• 41:53
  safer about that, too, because I'll be on a walk, on a walk
• 41:55
  that I do every single day. And I'll be like, hey, you know,
• 41:58
  like, if anyone really cared, they'd figure it out.
• 42:00
  But yeah, different worlds. OK.
• 42:03
  What advice, if any, do you have to give to someone who's
• 42:07
  interested in caging, feminization, sisification,
• 42:11
  exploring their kinks? I think first work out what
• 42:15
  you're into, doesn't have to be exact, but just write down a
• 42:18
  couple bullet points and then go and research it.
• 42:21
  And like, actually, like, there's so much information, you
• 42:24
  know, there's so many sites there.
• 42:26
  My YouTube, which isn't exhaustive.
• 42:28
  It's like my opinion, but Reddit's a really good place.
• 42:31
  It can be a little bit toxic, obviously, but there's so many
• 42:34
  different people there. So many like, different places.
• 42:37
  A lot of the websites as well will have their own blogs.
• 42:40
  Yeah. I think you just work out why
• 42:42
  you want to do it is probably more important.
• 42:44
  So work out, OK, I want to be caged.
• 42:46
  Why do I want to be caged? Like what do I want to do?
• 42:49
  I have a. Partner like do I want to take
• 42:52
  them on the caging journey, which I would recommend to do if
• 42:57
  you have a partner be like, hey, I'm interested in different
• 42:59
  kinks. Could we sit down and chat and
• 43:02
  you know, like I'm interested in this and if they're not, that's
• 43:05
  fine. I agree.
• 43:07
  I think doing something like that in secret is a recipe for
• 43:10
  disaster because then it becomes a shameful thing that you
• 43:13
  associate with keeping hidden, and you don't want to keep
• 43:16
  something hidden from your partner.
• 43:17
  I'm all about open and honest communication and authenticity,
• 43:20
  and I think one of the only ways to be authentic is to share that
• 43:23
  it's something you're doing. Yeah, and I think as well with
• 43:25
  your partner, you have to accept that they're not going to want
• 43:28
  everything you do and it's not going to be perfect because
• 43:30
  people have this fantasy like we're going to do this fetish
• 43:33
  and it's how I want in my hat. Like it's not going to happen.
• 43:35
  Exactly. If your partner doesn't like it,
• 43:38
  you should be having conversations like are you OK
• 43:40
  with me doing it on my own or with somebody else?
• 43:42
  And the same for them. Like they should be able to do
• 43:45
  things that they want. That is great advice.
• 43:48
  We're all sold a fantasy of you're going to find the perfect
• 43:51
  person, the soulmate who's interested in everything you're
• 43:53
  into and everything's going to work out.
• 43:55
  And that is not the reality or it's rarely the reality.
• 43:58
  So you have people who think, well, if it's not that, what am
• 44:00
  I waiting for? What am I trying to do?
• 44:02
  Or maybe it's wrong and that's not the case.
• 44:04
  You got to have the conversation.
• 44:06
  Well, Lara Sky, thank you so much.
• 44:09
  You can find lara.sky@larasky.com, LAR
• 44:12
  hsky.com and I encourage you to at minimum go to her site and go
• 44:19
  down the exciting rabbit hole that is larasky.com.
• 44:22
  Well, thank you so much for joining today.
• 44:24
  I'm really glad we could get this on the books.
• 44:26
  It has been such a pleasure and I hope to have you on again in
• 44:29
  the future. I hope so we can go in a little
• 44:32
  deep dive into something. Yeah, I would love that.
• 44:35
  All right, Thanks, everyone. Have a good one.
• 44:39
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• 44:44
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• 44:46
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• 44:49
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• 44:53
  Until next time, keep on kinking on.