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Why your values are like fingerprints: The key to unlocking true purpose with the LegendaryDr John Demartini · Hardiness with Dr Paul Taylor

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  Speaker 1: Doctor John DeMartini. Welcome to the podcast.
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  Speaker 2: Well, thank you for having me.
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  Speaker 1: Firstly, before we get into the podcast, is it true
• 0:20
  Speaker 1: that you live on a ship.
• 0:23
  Speaker 2: I do live on a ship. I'm right now in Simpedro,
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  Speaker 2: which is part of Los Angeles. We just came into
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  Speaker 2: the port here and I've been here for a couple
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  Speaker 2: of days. We're sailing out tonight. And yes, I've been
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  Speaker 2: living in the ship since two thousand. Well I bought
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  Speaker 2: in two thousand and one and I've been, you know,
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  Speaker 2: living on a ship for twenty five years almost. Wow.
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  Speaker 1: So this is one of these big, massive cruise ships
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  Speaker 1: that just continues sailing around the world, and you've got
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  Speaker 1: a cabin, part slice apartment on it.
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  Speaker 2: Is that correct? Well, it's a residential ship. It's not
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  Speaker 2: a cruise ship, okay, but it goes around the world.
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  Speaker 2: There's one hundred of us that own it. And so
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  Speaker 2: we decide where we go, and we really where we go,
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  Speaker 2: and we decide where are the owners. So we we
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  Speaker 2: we we we're on the show here.
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  Speaker 3: That's pretty cold, and so what's the.
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  Speaker 2: Thing takes care of everything and we've got we voted
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  Speaker 2: where we go in the teneraries and we have a
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  Speaker 2: town hall for everybody to make big decisions by. But
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  Speaker 2: it's it's the best address I've been able to find
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  Speaker 2: and it allows me to see the world. And so
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  Speaker 2: wherever there's water we go.
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  Speaker 3: That is really it's really quite cool. Does it Does
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  Speaker 3: it get boring?
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  Speaker 2: No?
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  Speaker 3: I know me because because you're constantly.
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  Speaker 4: What a great year we had today? What some people
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  Speaker 4: get to do in a year, we get to do
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  Speaker 4: data that is pretty cool. Who's the who's the longest
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  Speaker 4: running resident? You're talking to him, it's about to say,
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  Speaker 4: you've got to be up there, right and anybody.
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  Speaker 1: So this is not a podcast about living ownership, but
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  Speaker 1: I find this quite interesting. Does anybody kind of use
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  Speaker 1: the their home on there as a kind of a
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  Speaker 1: time share and have friends come in and stay for
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  Speaker 1: periods of time?
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  Speaker 2: It's not a time share, but people do have guests
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  Speaker 2: over and friends over, and I'm having I had two
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  Speaker 2: friends last night over, friends and on board that I
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  Speaker 2: hadn't seen well. I lived in a tent with fifty
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  Speaker 2: five years ago on the North Shore where we were served,
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  Speaker 2: and so you know, they came by there. Happened to
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  Speaker 2: be in Los Angeles. They came by and so I
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  Speaker 2: had them over for dinner and have chat catch up.
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  Speaker 2: But we have guests that come on, and we have
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  Speaker 2: friends and family that come on, and yeah, but it's
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  Speaker 2: just a private ship, private ownership. It's fantastic. Not a
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  Speaker 2: crowded ship where there's thousands you can get people. We
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  Speaker 2: have three hundred and nine staff, so we got a
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  Speaker 2: very high ratio of staff and we just we just
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  Speaker 2: came through from We went from Antarctica's to Ushuai, to
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  Speaker 2: the Chilean Fjords, Bella Paracia, out to Robinson Crusoe Island,
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  Speaker 2: out to the Easter Island, over to Barbora and eventually
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  Speaker 2: over to the French Polynesia and to Tahiti and then
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  Speaker 2: over to more French Polynesia and then over to Hawaii.
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  Speaker 2: And then we came into en Sonata and in San
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  Speaker 2: Diego and now La. Now we leave tonight for another
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  Speaker 2: little place and then we go to San Francisco on Friday.
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  Speaker 2: So we spend anywhere from one to five days in
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  Speaker 2: various locations. All weird to see.
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  Speaker 3: That is bloody fantastic. Like even that trip that you
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  Speaker 3: just rattled off is amazing. And that's one little part.
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  Speaker 3: Last question, I promise.
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  Speaker 1: On the ship what's the shittiest weather you've ever had
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  Speaker 1: to endure on the ship?
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  Speaker 2: Probably the roughest weather is a semi blizzard in Antarctica
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  Speaker 2: quite a few years back. We had about ninety mile
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  Speaker 2: an hour winds that were sideways and it was pretty
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  Speaker 2: cold out and it didn't really affect anybody on the
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  Speaker 2: ship really, but people had to tie a few chairs
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  Speaker 2: and tables at the balconies and things. But it was
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  Speaker 2: just sideward blizzard and it was amazing to see, thank
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  Speaker 2: god I was inside, but amazing to see and here.
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  Speaker 2: So that was pretty good. And we caught a little
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  Speaker 2: bit of a cyclone out in the Indian Ocean. We
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  Speaker 2: caught a little bit of a cyclone and we had
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  Speaker 2: to you know, tighten it shipped down and find import
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  Speaker 2: and go in. It's kind of unexpected, but there's none
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  Speaker 2: of that. No, we don't. We try to go wherever
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  Speaker 2: the weather is really nice.
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  Speaker 1: That that's a brilliant strategy. I like it so John,
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  Speaker 1: That this has been a rather long intro. But to
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  Speaker 1: introduce you, you're a chiropractice by Tree, but you're way
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  Speaker 1: more than that, right, You're a human behavior specialist. You're
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  Speaker 1: an author of at least four books that I know
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  Speaker 1: of anyway, and you're an integrative health practitioner and you've
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  Speaker 1: presented in over one hundred countries, which is pretty bloody awesome.
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  Speaker 1: And I'm going to start with the thing that I
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  Speaker 1: probably took away the most from when I saw you,
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  Speaker 1: it would have been ten or fifteen years ago, And
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  Speaker 1: it's talking about values, because right out of the gate.
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  Speaker 3: I wanted to bring that up. And why are values important?
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  Speaker 3: Getting clear on your values? Why is that important for people?
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  Speaker 3: And then we'll talk.
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  Speaker 1: About how they go about getting clear about their values.
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  Speaker 2: In nineteen seventy eight, I asked myself a question, why
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  Speaker 2: do some people walk their talk and some people in
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  Speaker 2: their life? Why does some people do what they say
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  Speaker 2: and others don't. Why does some people flourish others flounder?
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  Speaker 2: And that led me to exploring what drives human beings,
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  Speaker 2: both intrinsic and extrinsic motivation, And I realized that every
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  Speaker 2: human being has a set of priorities, a set of
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  Speaker 2: values that they run their life by. And this set
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  Speaker 2: of values is fingerprint specific, it's literally unique to them.
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  Speaker 2: They arrive from the voids all the misperceptions and judgments
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  Speaker 2: that they've accumulated in their journey, and multigenerational epigenetics, gestational
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  Speaker 2: like pigenetics and postpartment epigenetics. All the judgments they've accumulated
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  Speaker 2: that they've been too proud or too humble to admit
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  Speaker 2: that they see in others inside themselves drive the values,
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  Speaker 2: and those values impact the way you perceive, to side
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  Speaker 2: and act. So your perception is filtered through your values,
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  Speaker 2: through the pulvinar nuclear of the Thalmas. Your decisions are
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  Speaker 2: bates on those values, what supports and advantages over disadvantage
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  Speaker 2: to the mid Land hippo campus and governed by the
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  Speaker 2: executive center of the media prefunal cortex. And then your actions,
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  Speaker 2: the spontaneous actions or whatever's highest on your value, and
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  Speaker 2: you need external motivation to do things low on your values.
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  Speaker 2: So your whole character, your behavior, your habits are all
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  Speaker 2: filtered through those values. So the higharch of your values
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  Speaker 2: dictates you're really your destiny. And as the values are evolving,
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  Speaker 2: so your destiny is changing. And the summation of your
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  Speaker 2: destinies is your life's journey. And there's different trajectories that
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  Speaker 2: you take at for periods, and then there may be
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  Speaker 2: a modification or there may be one consistent trajectory, but
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  Speaker 2: the higharchy of one's values dictates their destiny and how
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  Speaker 2: they perceived a side. And that so I don't really
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  Speaker 2: know anything in human behavior that is not impacted by values.
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  Speaker 2: That's why I've spent so much time emphasizing that on
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  Speaker 2: all the books, Almost every book that I've written, it's
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  Speaker 2: actually forty six paperbacks, they have all had something on
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  Speaker 2: values in there, and they've all they've almost there. You
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  Speaker 2: won't find a book that's not mentioning values. And I
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  Speaker 2: started writing books at age twenty three, So right at
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  Speaker 2: that point, I started writing a lot of books.
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  Speaker 3: Wow, you started writing books at twenty three.
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  Speaker 1: And so I think a lot of people, traditionally, I'm
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  Speaker 1: not talking today, but traditionally a lot of people would
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  Speaker 1: have kind of had their values handed to them if
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  Speaker 1: they were religious. And you know, I think religion, any religion,
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  Speaker 1: whatever religion it is, tends to have these sets of
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  Speaker 1: group values that are imparted to people through whatever sermon
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  Speaker 1: or or beliefs of these sorts of things. And there's
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  Speaker 1: been obviously a big break down in religion. And I'm
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  Speaker 1: not advocating for religion. I'm personally a recovering Catholic, but
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  Speaker 1: absince that how do people you know if they have
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  Speaker 1: that void of values or a bit of an existential crisis.
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  Speaker 1: What would you say is the first step or is
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  Speaker 1: there a clearly defined process that you take people through
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  Speaker 1: for getting clear on what's important to them.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, I'm glad you brought that up. That's a very
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  Speaker 2: important question. Again. At twenty three, in the pursuit of
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  Speaker 2: identifying what values were, there was only twelve textbooks at
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  Speaker 2: the time that I was able to find in English
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  Speaker 2: on the study of axiology, which is a study of
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  Speaker 2: value and worth. Most of them were influenced as how
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  Speaker 2: we should be. Most of the books were written about
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  Speaker 2: how humans should be in society. And there was David Hume,
• 10:01
  Speaker 2: who is a Scottish philosopher. Now he talked to me,
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  Speaker 2: is verse ought how you actually are first, how you're
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  Speaker 2: supposed to be, how you ought to be? And I
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  Speaker 2: when I was looking at Schwartz and heartlands and modalities
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  Speaker 2: identifying values at the time, I did not feel satisfied
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  Speaker 2: that they were really doing an assessment of values. They
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  Speaker 2: were doing assessment of what people thought they ought to be.
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  Speaker 2: And I, because of that, I decided to create my
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  Speaker 2: own set of value determinants back when I was twenty three,
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  Speaker 2: and I've tweaked them ever so slightly since, but I
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  Speaker 2: found them very valuable and now millions of people have
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  Speaker 2: used them. And so I'll go through those value determinants
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  Speaker 2: because I'm not interested in what you ought to be.
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  Speaker 2: I'm interested in what you are. Because even though we
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  Speaker 2: have a normative ethics, a tradition, and conventional maraise that
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  Speaker 2: were to live by according to society, yeah, in order
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  Speaker 2: to do it, there's going to be a repression of
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  Speaker 2: your own true set of values, and that repression gets
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  Speaker 2: expressed on You can repress and repress and repress, and
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  Speaker 2: then it explodes into expression. And whatever we repress collectively
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  Speaker 2: in society, a selective group of people will express and
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  Speaker 2: become the villains, and not in order for us to
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  Speaker 2: be the heroes of conformity. So I looked at what
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  Speaker 2: were the value determinants that were most accurate, the most objective,
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  Speaker 2: and not about what you ought to be, but what
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  Speaker 2: your life demonstrates. So I'll go through those. The first
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  Speaker 2: one is space. You have what they call a study
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  Speaker 2: of space called prox semics, and whatever is highest on
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  Speaker 2: your value goes into the most intimate space. You have
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  Speaker 2: what is called intimate space, which about eighteen inches around you,
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  Speaker 2: and only very special people get in there. The average
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  Speaker 2: person walking down the street is not allowed in that
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  Speaker 2: space eighteen inches from you.
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  Speaker 1: You say, so, when you say eighteen inches, do you
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  Speaker 1: mean do you mean physically or do you.
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  Speaker 2: Mean eighteen inches within your body? You don't let everybody in,
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  Speaker 2: but you're changing.
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  Speaker 3: Is this linked to the amygdala? John?
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  Speaker 1: And you know when you get too to someone you're activating,
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  Speaker 1: the will see you.
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  Speaker 2: As prey or predator. So if it sees you as prey,
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  Speaker 2: it's going to one to get close to you. If
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  Speaker 2: it's EESI as predator, it's going to want to get
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  Speaker 2: away from you. So the most intimate space means that
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  Speaker 2: you're high on their values. Then you have individual space,
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  Speaker 2: which is about eighteen inches to about four feet. Then
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  Speaker 2: you have what is called social space, which is about
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  Speaker 2: eighteen about four feet to twelve feet, and then anything
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  Speaker 2: over twelve feet is public space. So friends and loved
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  Speaker 2: ones you let in your intimate space, then friends, then
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  Speaker 2: social meetings. People you meet can go from four to
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  Speaker 2: twelve feet, but people that you don't like you keep
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  Speaker 2: outside the twelve footmark, you avoid them. So if I
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  Speaker 2: look at what you fill your space with, and what
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  Speaker 2: items or what individuals you fill your space with, and
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  Speaker 2: particularly the intimate space, that tells you what you value most. Now,
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  Speaker 2: in my case, I use my example. I am spending
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  Speaker 2: most of my day in front of a computer, and
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  Speaker 2: I'm right now eighteen inches away from the camera. Even
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  Speaker 2: though the camera's right here, I'm kind of looking at
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  Speaker 2: you to make sure I'm looking at you, yeah, but
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  Speaker 2: I'm eighteen inches away. I'm also engaged in motor activity
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  Speaker 2: because I'm typing on it, and sensory responses because I'm
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  Speaker 2: looking at screens. So I'm engaged in some item this
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  Speaker 2: case of computer that's within eighteen inches of me. Anything
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  Speaker 2: that's really important to me gets in there, but anything
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  Speaker 2: that's not doesn't get in there. Now, there's also some
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  Speaker 2: accessories to this computer, like a microphone and lights and thing,
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  Speaker 2: and that's an extension the computer. But really the computer
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  Speaker 2: is a very valuable item. But if I look at
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  Speaker 2: what the item is, it doesn't tell me what's really important.
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  Speaker 2: But it's a vehicle. So I ask, what exactly is
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  Speaker 2: that item used for? What is the most common use
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  Speaker 2: of this, and in my case unquestionably, it's teaching. I
• 14:30
  Speaker 2: filmed for a new movie today in two and a
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  Speaker 2: half hours. This morning on it, I did a podcast
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  Speaker 2: I'm doing now another podcast. I have another one later
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  Speaker 2: this evening. I spend most of my day either teaching
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  Speaker 2: or second most researching and writing. So if I look
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  Speaker 2: at what that item is that I keep most close
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  Speaker 2: to me, it gives me an indication of what is
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  Speaker 2: important to me. And my highest value is teaching. I'm
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  Speaker 2: doing that every single day of my life, and researching
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  Speaker 2: and writing. The second item is my cell phone. I'm
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  Speaker 2: looking this up, and I don't many people use a
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  Speaker 2: cell phone to talk to people. I don't talk to
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  Speaker 2: people that much. I'm researching stuff while I'm waiting for food,
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  Speaker 2: or I'm going somewhere. I'm researching, So my phone is
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  Speaker 2: the second most item that it's always going with me,
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  Speaker 2: keeps right next to me. So if I look at
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  Speaker 2: the two items most significantly, it's my computer and my phone.
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  Speaker 2: The third item is books. Right now, there's three encyclopedia
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  Speaker 2: volumes and another volume sitting underneath my computer, and I
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  Speaker 2: lift my computer, pull out the volume, read ten pages,
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  Speaker 2: put it back throughout the day because I love to
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  Speaker 2: feed my mind ideas and great ideas from great people.
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  Speaker 2: So if I look at what my space reveals, teaching,
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  Speaker 2: researching is extremely important to me. Now because I've traveled
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  Speaker 2: a lot. I've traveled twenty one million miles on flights
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  Speaker 2: and over a million miles sailing. Traveling is also extremely important.
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  Speaker 2: So I'm literally within my space here, I'm having a
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  Speaker 2: view of my travels at all times. So if I
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  Speaker 2: look carefully at what I'm my life is demonstrating just
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  Speaker 2: in space, it tells me what's valuable to me, because
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  Speaker 2: you make the time to fill your space with things
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  Speaker 2: that are valuable to So that's number one, and I
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  Speaker 2: act the top three answers, so I get the ABC's
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  Speaker 2: not the xyzs a priority. What is the three items
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  Speaker 2: you fill your intimate space with most consistently. You imagine
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  Speaker 2: a drone looking over you and watching you twenty four
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  Speaker 2: hours a day for a three month period. What would
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  Speaker 2: be in your intimate space most consistently. That way, you're
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  Speaker 2: not subjectively wishing, writing down what you wish you would
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  Speaker 2: be or what you think it ought to be, but
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  Speaker 2: what is actually the fact? Objectively in your life. I'm
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  Speaker 2: interested in what the fact is, not the hope, the fantasy.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, and before we taking any further, you said that's
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  Speaker 1: the first thing. What does it say about society?
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  Speaker 2: Now?
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  Speaker 1: Were you mentioned that stuff within eighteen inchries? You mentioned
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  Speaker 1: your computer, you mentioned your phone and what you do
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  Speaker 1: on your phone? What does it say about the direction
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  Speaker 1: that our society is taken that for most people their phone,
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  Speaker 1: it would be absolutely one of those things. But the
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  Speaker 1: amount of time that they're spending on their phone, they're
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  Speaker 1: not teaching and researching like you would, but they're actually
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  Speaker 1: being entertained or interacting on social media, like watching others
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  Speaker 1: being I call them consumers of life rather than active participants.
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  Speaker 1: What does that actually say about where we're going as
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  Speaker 1: a society And how much of an impact do you
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  Speaker 1: think that that has on on were, on individuals health
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  Speaker 1: and well being?
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  Speaker 3: On purposing?
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  Speaker 2: The technology is neutral. Technology is neither good nor evil,
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  Speaker 2: either advantage. Addition, it's simply a technology. The human being
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  Speaker 2: in its use of that technology, reveals what's priority to them.
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  Speaker 2: So if I look very carefully at somebody that's spending
• 18:23
  Speaker 2: hours a day on social media, for instance, I would
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  Speaker 2: immediately ask what is the most common denominator that you're
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  Speaker 2: looking at, what's grabbing your eye. That's still value driven.
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  Speaker 2: Because if I look on social media on Instagram, for instance,
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  Speaker 2: i may go through twenty different things and then I'll
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  Speaker 2: see a Warren Buffett quote or a little interview by him,
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  Speaker 2: or I'll see something by Jeff Bezos and I'll see
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  Speaker 2: that or something on human behavior, and I'll notice that
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  Speaker 2: and I'll not notice the rest, and I can be
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  Speaker 2: on there for twenty minutes maybe and go through an
• 19:00
  Speaker 2: extract notes and ideas from people and the quotes and
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  Speaker 2: watch videos and things. So the first thing I do
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  Speaker 2: when you're doing to social media is what is the
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  Speaker 2: common thread and what grabs your attention?
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  Speaker 1: Because they're still want to state and what is the
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  Speaker 1: algorithm serving you? Up right, Because I'm not on social media.
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  Speaker 2: Much, but the stuff I keep going based on what
• 19:20
  Speaker 2: you keep looking at. But that's still value driven. Now, yeah, yeah,
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  Speaker 2: I agree you.
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  Speaker 3: That's what I'm saying.
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  Speaker 2: They are experts out there that are doing everything they
• 19:28
  Speaker 2: can to grab your attention. And sometimes if you're not
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  Speaker 2: filling your day with high priority actions that inspire you
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  Speaker 2: and using the social media purposely, then you'll be more
• 19:39
  Speaker 2: apt to have instincts and impulses distract you on social media.
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  Speaker 2: But still, even in those distractions, there's still something that's
• 19:47
  Speaker 2: grabbing your attention, and finding that out is crucial. For instance,
• 19:52
  Speaker 2: I had a woman that contacted me and she said,
• 19:55
  Speaker 2: I've got a twenty three year old son. You need
• 19:58
  Speaker 2: to talk to him, You need to do concert with him.
• 20:00
  Speaker 2: He just sits in front of the TV all day
• 20:03
  Speaker 2: long watching TV. He doesn't work, he doesn't do this
• 20:07
  Speaker 2: something else. And I explained to her, I said, as
• 20:09
  Speaker 2: long as you keep rescuing him and paying for everything,
• 20:12
  Speaker 2: he's got no drive, and let's go find out what
• 20:17
  Speaker 2: he's looking at. So I met with a boy, the
• 20:20
  Speaker 2: twenty free year old, which is a young man. I
• 20:23
  Speaker 2: guess when you're seventy two, that's still a boy. But
• 20:26
  Speaker 2: I asked him what is the most common thing you
• 20:29
  Speaker 2: look at? And it was CSI and it was crime solving.
• 20:34
  Speaker 2: And I asked him, I said, so that is the
• 20:36
  Speaker 2: most common thing you do? He says yes. I said,
• 20:39
  Speaker 2: is that meaningful to you? He says absolutely. I'm always
• 20:42
  Speaker 2: trying to anticipate and figure out in advance what the
• 20:44
  Speaker 2: crime solution is going to be. And what it's going
• 20:47
  Speaker 2: to lead to. I said, is that something that you
• 20:50
  Speaker 2: would love to do in life? And he goes, That's
• 20:52
  Speaker 2: what I really want to do in life, but I'm
• 20:53
  Speaker 2: having to go to school. And he just gets by
• 20:56
  Speaker 2: and gets seized just to get by to make sure
• 20:58
  Speaker 2: he doesn't get booted out of school and doesn't lose
• 21:01
  Speaker 2: the opportunity to do it. But he's watching the CSI.
• 21:04
  Speaker 2: I said, have you ever looked online to see what
• 21:06
  Speaker 2: is the curriculum in order to be a forensic specialist
• 21:09
  Speaker 2: solving crimes? He said, I said, let's go look online.
• 21:13
  Speaker 2: Let's see what we can find out. What kind of education.
• 21:15
  Speaker 2: There's some through the police department, there's some through universities.
• 21:18
  Speaker 2: They're specialist. Anyway, we went down the path and identified
• 21:22
  Speaker 2: two or three different alternative ways of getting the education
• 21:26
  Speaker 2: he wanted there and then went to his mom and
• 21:29
  Speaker 2: she says, well, did you talk some sent into him?
• 21:32
  Speaker 2: I said, well, sort of. We identified what he really
• 21:36
  Speaker 2: really wants to do, and he would like to go
• 21:38
  Speaker 2: to education, not on generics but on very specifics about
• 21:43
  Speaker 2: what he wants to do. And his mom said, what
• 21:45
  Speaker 2: do you want to do? And he says, I want
• 21:47
  Speaker 2: to be involved in solving crimes. He says that while
• 21:49
  Speaker 2: you're on that TV watching those darn TV shows all day,
• 21:52
  Speaker 2: want says, mom, that's my dream, and he literally got
• 21:56
  Speaker 2: teary eyed, and she got it in that moment. That's
• 22:00
  Speaker 2: what he was called to do, that's what his love is.
• 22:04
  Speaker 2: So she thought he was wasting time. So people with
• 22:07
  Speaker 2: a different set of values project their values onto us
• 22:11
  Speaker 2: and then expect us to live in their values and
• 22:13
  Speaker 2: think we're wasting time if it's not important to them.
• 22:16
  Speaker 2: But the truth was it was important to him and
• 22:19
  Speaker 2: he went on to pursue that, and so he was
• 22:21
  Speaker 2: in love with what he wanted to do. So social
• 22:24
  Speaker 2: media can be productive or unproductive if you're using it
• 22:29
  Speaker 2: with priority or not. And even if it's not, there's
• 22:33
  Speaker 2: still a thread in there that we can use to
• 22:35
  Speaker 2: extract what's important because there's something that grabs your attention,
• 22:39
  Speaker 2: and not everything grabs your attention. You can't get my
• 22:42
  Speaker 2: attention on cars or cooking or recipes, but you can
• 22:46
  Speaker 2: get my attention on anything to do with human behavior
• 22:48
  Speaker 2: on the social media. But then I'm using it because
• 22:52
  Speaker 2: I want information it might be useful to help people.
• 22:56
  Speaker 2: So the first thing is your space. The second thing
• 23:01
  Speaker 2: is time. You may time, you find time, and you
• 23:05
  Speaker 2: spend time on things that are really valuable to you.
• 23:08
  Speaker 2: And if somebody asks you to do something and it's
• 23:10
  Speaker 2: not important to you, so I don't have the time
• 23:13
  Speaker 2: to do that. I've got this schedule. It's busy, but
• 23:15
  Speaker 2: if it's something really valuable, you'll reroute your schedule to
• 23:18
  Speaker 2: make it happen. Yeah, So your time tells you also
• 23:24
  Speaker 2: what you value. I spend sometimes fourteen hours a day
• 23:29
  Speaker 2: doing presentations, and if i'm between that, I'm researching. So
• 23:33
  Speaker 2: if I look carefully, I'm teaching, you know. I mean
• 23:36
  Speaker 2: I've done one hundred and thirty nine presentations so far
• 23:40
  Speaker 2: this year, and I'm on track for about three hundred
• 23:42
  Speaker 2: and fifteen, and so that's you know, I do three
• 23:46
  Speaker 2: hundred presentations a year for since last fifty four years almost,
• 23:51
  Speaker 2: So I think Jehovah. Yeah. So if I look at
• 23:54
  Speaker 2: what I'd spend my time doing, that's my greatest love,
• 23:58
  Speaker 2: sharing information that makes a differ in people's lives. So
• 24:03
  Speaker 2: you look at what you fill your space with, and
• 24:05
  Speaker 2: you look at what you feel your time with and
• 24:07
  Speaker 2: the three items that stand out most, and you got
• 24:10
  Speaker 2: to be honest. You imagine a drone looking over you
• 24:12
  Speaker 2: and filming you for twenty four hours a day. What
• 24:14
  Speaker 2: did you spend most of your time? Second most and
• 24:16
  Speaker 2: third most on your time? If you're sleeping four to
• 24:19
  Speaker 2: seven hours, what's the daylight doing or night time whatever
• 24:24
  Speaker 2: you're awake? What does your day consist of? Time wise?
• 24:27
  Speaker 2: And in my case, teach, research, right, and travel. That's
• 24:31
  Speaker 2: what's true. I can make up stuff. And by the way,
• 24:35
  Speaker 2: you're not wrong or right for your values. And whenever
• 24:39
  Speaker 2: you live according to them, you maximize your wellness quotient.
• 24:43
  Speaker 2: And whenever you try to inject the values of outer
• 24:46
  Speaker 2: authorities that you subordinate to, you create an illness quotient.
• 24:50
  Speaker 2: Your illness clod can go that your wellness quotient goes down.
• 24:53
  Speaker 1: I do, I do want to come back to that,
• 24:56
  Speaker 1: and particularly what you talked about in terms of value
• 25:00
  Speaker 1: and other people and relationships. But let's just park that
• 25:03
  Speaker 1: for a second, because I want to come back to
• 25:06
  Speaker 1: the space and time thing. And I as you're talking,
• 25:10
  Speaker 1: I'm thinking about what my space is filled with where
• 25:13
  Speaker 1: I spend my time, and it's very similar to you.
• 25:15
  Speaker 3: It's around teaching, researching.
• 25:19
  Speaker 1: And but there will be other people whose space and
• 25:23
  Speaker 1: time is filled with social media stuff. And for me,
• 25:30
  Speaker 1: as you were talking, I can see how there can
• 25:33
  Speaker 1: be that productive use of space and time, but there's
• 25:38
  Speaker 1: also kind of dysfunctional. There's people who are just you know,
• 25:44
  Speaker 1: sitting watching shit TV or watching mindless stuff on social media, and.
• 25:51
  Speaker 2: Well anytime, anytime, they're not anytime, they're not aware of
• 25:56
  Speaker 2: which priority to them, and they're not cognitively intentively intentionally
• 26:02
  Speaker 2: focusing on it. The blood glucoson auction goes from the
• 26:06
  Speaker 2: media prefrontal cortex into the amigla, and the amigula will
• 26:10
  Speaker 2: then be impulsive and instinctual. It will seek and avoid
• 26:13
  Speaker 2: things according to those values, but it's still value driven.
• 26:17
  Speaker 2: But what happens, it's only mindless when we haven't found
• 26:20
  Speaker 2: the mindfulness that tidden within it.
• 26:23
  Speaker 1: This is kind of what I'm getting at right because
• 26:26
  Speaker 1: we all know that dopamine is a very very strong
• 26:30
  Speaker 1: driver of behavior.
• 26:31
  Speaker 3: I don't need to tell you that.
• 26:33
  Speaker 1: And what I'm talking about here is it getting hijacked
• 26:38
  Speaker 1: and therefore sucking up our attention and filling our space
• 26:43
  Speaker 1: and time with stuff that's really not intentional, that we're
• 26:47
  Speaker 1: not doing deliberately, that we've just sucked in because maybe
• 26:50
  Speaker 1: there is a little bit of a vortex, or maybe
• 26:53
  Speaker 1: because people are just you know, they're tired, they're stressed,
• 26:57
  Speaker 1: and they just want to relax and they turn the
• 27:00
  Speaker 1: TV on or switch on to social media, and then
• 27:02
  Speaker 1: they get sucked into this thing that isn't really fulfilling
• 27:07
  Speaker 1: or building them up.
• 27:08
  Speaker 2: So, well, what's the difference what's happening is And I'll
• 27:12
  Speaker 2: just make a statement and hope this sinks into everybody
• 27:15
  Speaker 2: that's listening. If you don't fill your day with high
• 27:19
  Speaker 2: priority actions that are deeply meaningful and inspiring, your day
• 27:23
  Speaker 2: is designed to fill up with low priority distractions that
• 27:28
  Speaker 2: don't and the person that frustrate you self depreciate you,
• 27:34
  Speaker 2: distract you until you realize you're not honoring what is
• 27:39
  Speaker 2: valuable to you consciously. And the key is to stop
• 27:44
  Speaker 2: do the value determination process, which is free on my
• 27:47
  Speaker 2: website for anybody, and to actually get clear about what
• 27:51
  Speaker 2: is important and to start prioritizing your life. If you're
• 27:54
  Speaker 2: not prioritizing how you feel your time, you're not prioritizing
• 27:58
  Speaker 2: what you're filling your space with ansciously, not prioritizing what
• 28:02
  Speaker 2: you're spending your money on who you're associating with, what
• 28:04
  Speaker 2: you're feeding your mind, what you're reading, what you're eating.
• 28:07
  Speaker 2: If you're not prioritizing it towards some objective, you're going
• 28:12
  Speaker 2: to be vulnerable to the external world that loves to
• 28:15
  Speaker 2: sell you distractions.
• 28:17
  Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, cool.
• 28:17
  Speaker 1: So what did you call that that's on your web
• 28:19
  Speaker 1: Because this is the crux of what I'm getting at
• 28:22
  Speaker 1: is that when people aren't clear about what's important to them,
• 28:26
  Speaker 1: or that they don't have a strong sense of meaning
• 28:28
  Speaker 1: and purpose in life, that they can get sucked into
• 28:32
  Speaker 1: this vortex.
• 28:32
  Speaker 3: So what did you call that process on your website?
• 28:35
  Speaker 1: Because that's what I'm really trying to focus on.
• 28:40
  Speaker 2: Well, the website, doctor dmartiniu dot com has a value
• 28:45
  Speaker 2: determination process on there for years on value determination process,
• 28:49
  Speaker 2: and millions of people have used it. Corporations us that
• 28:52
  Speaker 2: governments have used it, and every client that I work
• 28:57
  Speaker 2: with I ask them to do that because I want
• 28:59
  Speaker 2: to make sure that I'm communicating what I value in
• 29:03
  Speaker 2: terms of those values to maximize the dialogue and to
• 29:06
  Speaker 2: receptivity of the information that I present. So if you
• 29:10
  Speaker 2: go on doctor Demarchi dot com, look for determine your
• 29:13
  Speaker 2: values or value determination, it'll pull up a little spot
• 29:17
  Speaker 2: you can easily find it hit that it'll take thirty
• 29:20
  Speaker 2: minutes of your time to answer these thirteen questions. But
• 29:24
  Speaker 2: if you answer them as honestly as you can, you'll
• 29:27
  Speaker 2: see that there's a reiterated pattern that emerges in the
• 29:31
  Speaker 2: answers if you're honest, and it'll be self evident when
• 29:35
  Speaker 2: you're done. What's really important to you. But you want
• 29:38
  Speaker 2: to get really concise, Like when I say teaching, that's
• 29:42
  Speaker 2: a bit vague. But if I don't teach about how
• 29:45
  Speaker 2: to make candlesticks, I don't teach about how to cook
• 29:49
  Speaker 2: CD soup. My teaching is primarily on how to maximize
• 29:55
  Speaker 2: human awareness of potential, the evolvement of human consciousness, self
• 29:59
  Speaker 2: actual is, and self mastery. That's it. So if I
• 30:04
  Speaker 2: look at what I want to teach and get really
• 30:06
  Speaker 2: tight on it, it'll bring a tear of inspiration, a
• 30:10
  Speaker 2: confirmation of authenticity when you nail it. Because when you do,
• 30:14
  Speaker 2: your highest value is your tellos, it's your purpose. Your
• 30:20
  Speaker 2: teleological purpose revolves around your highest value. Your onto logical
• 30:26
  Speaker 2: identity revolves around your highest value, and your epistemological area
• 30:30
  Speaker 2: of expertise. The area where you're going to shine the
• 30:33
  Speaker 2: most knowledge and core competence. It's going to be around
• 30:35
  Speaker 2: the highest value. So knowing that, knowing thyself, being thyself,
• 30:41
  Speaker 2: loving thyself, as the Delphic Oracle said, it starts with
• 30:44
  Speaker 2: those values. The third value determination process. Third value determinant
• 30:50
  Speaker 2: is energy. Anytime you're doing something to tie on your value,
• 30:55
  Speaker 2: the blood glucose noction goes into the forebrain. The fore
• 30:58
  Speaker 2: brain has a medial prefer cortex in there. When you
• 31:02
  Speaker 2: are congruent with what you value most, there is what
• 31:05
  Speaker 2: they call spontaneous action potentials, and the mitochondria increase in
• 31:12
  Speaker 2: number and in quantity box data fossilization. The ATP levels
• 31:16
  Speaker 2: go up, so you spontaneously raise your energy your vitality
• 31:21
  Speaker 2: in life in direct proportion to how congruent you are
• 31:24
  Speaker 2: with what you value most. Anytime you're doing the highest
• 31:26
  Speaker 2: priority value in your life, your energy maximizes and you're
• 31:31
  Speaker 2: engaged and you spontaneously want to act and do it.
• 31:34
  Speaker 2: That's for your most effective and efficient and in the flow,
• 31:38
  Speaker 2: so your energy levels the third value to terminate. If
• 31:41
  Speaker 2: you look carefully, your rearticular activating system wakes up when
• 31:44
  Speaker 2: you're doing higher value things and shuts down when you're
• 31:46
  Speaker 2: not your thalamus, and it's filtering mechanism of the pulvinar
• 31:52
  Speaker 2: nucleus filters in information. You go conscious awareness if it's
• 31:55
  Speaker 2: high on values, and filters it out if it's low.
• 31:58
  Speaker 2: So you're maximizing your aware fareness and your energy levels
• 32:01
  Speaker 2: and potential the moment you're congrowing with what you value most,
• 32:05
  Speaker 2: so your energy level, the top three things that energize
• 32:08
  Speaker 2: you most, that you always have energy for, and that
• 32:10
  Speaker 2: when you do, you have more energy at the end
• 32:12
  Speaker 2: than when you started. That's an indicator of what you
• 32:15
  Speaker 2: value the fourth thing. The fourth thing is money. You
• 32:21
  Speaker 2: find money, make money, spend money on things that are
• 32:23
  Speaker 2: really valuable to you. But you don't want to spend
• 32:26
  Speaker 2: money or find money for things that don't. When a
• 32:28
  Speaker 2: husband and wife goes to a mall, he thinks she's
• 32:32
  Speaker 2: wasting money on things that are not important. She thinks
• 32:35
  Speaker 2: she's wasting money on things that aren't important because they
• 32:37
  Speaker 2: have two different set of value systems. Now, what's important
• 32:41
  Speaker 2: to them may not be what's important to the mate,
• 32:44
  Speaker 2: as I've said, because there's a unique set of values
• 32:46
  Speaker 2: fingerprints specific So, but whatever is highest on your value.
• 32:51
  Speaker 2: You will find money and make sure you have money
• 32:53
  Speaker 2: for fulfilling whatever that is. In my case, I love traveling.
• 32:57
  Speaker 2: I can spend at least a half a million dollars
• 32:59
  Speaker 2: a year on try. I have a high value on investing.
• 33:03
  Speaker 2: I can put at least a million dollars in investments
• 33:05
  Speaker 2: every year. And so I am constantly finding ways of
• 33:08
  Speaker 2: getting my money to go into the direction where I go.
• 33:11
  Speaker 2: But something that's not valuable to me, somebody's trying to
• 33:14
  Speaker 2: sell me something that's not valuable. Thank you, but no,
• 33:16
  Speaker 2: thank you, not going anywhere. You can't sell me something
• 33:19
  Speaker 2: that I'm not interested in, and I have foresight of
• 33:21
  Speaker 2: what it is. I already know what I'm going to buy.
• 33:23
  Speaker 2: You can't sell me something I'm not interested in buying.
• 33:26
  Speaker 2: But somebody that doesn't know what they're wanting is more
• 33:30
  Speaker 2: vulnerable to impulse buying and in instinct buying, avoiding pain,
• 33:34
  Speaker 2: seeking pleasure. And so you look at how you spend
• 33:38
  Speaker 2: your money, where's your money going first most, second most,
• 33:41
  Speaker 2: and third most. And somebody say, well, I've got to
• 33:44
  Speaker 2: pay bills. They got to pay for a house. Well, no,
• 33:48
  Speaker 2: you've chosen because you value having a house. I don't
• 33:52
  Speaker 2: have a home. I have a ship, but I don't have
• 33:54
  Speaker 2: a home. I don't value home. I don't need a
• 33:57
  Speaker 2: house on a piece of land somewhere. So people that do,
• 34:01
  Speaker 2: they find money for it. People that don't, they find
• 34:04
  Speaker 2: money for things that are valuable for them. So look
• 34:07
  Speaker 2: at what your money is spent on and that'll tell
• 34:09
  Speaker 2: you what you're valuing. The fifth one is where you're
• 34:13
  Speaker 2: most ordered and organized. As you go up in the
• 34:17
  Speaker 2: area of values the hierarchariy values, your level of order
• 34:20
  Speaker 2: goes up, and as you go down, the level of
• 34:22
  Speaker 2: disorder goes up. Why is because of pulvinar nuclei filters
• 34:27
  Speaker 2: information into conscious awareness. If it's high in value and
• 34:30
  Speaker 2: therefore your most aware there, you have the highest awareness there,
• 34:34
  Speaker 2: the most knowledge there, and therefore the most order. Claud
• 34:38
  Speaker 2: Shannon and information theory from MIT says that disorder is
• 34:42
  Speaker 2: missing information and order is reclaiming information. So when you
• 34:46
  Speaker 2: have something low in your values, you filter it out
• 34:48
  Speaker 2: of your awareness, and if it's high in your values,
• 34:51
  Speaker 2: you allow it into your awareness. So you have most
• 34:54
  Speaker 2: order in your highest value and most disorder and your
• 34:56
  Speaker 2: lower values. So where do you have the most order
• 34:59
  Speaker 2: in organisization? Well, my case, when I'm teaching, I'm articulating
• 35:04
  Speaker 2: information in a clear and concise manner that's ordered. My
• 35:07
  Speaker 2: research and my writing is all organized. I know exactly
• 35:10
  Speaker 2: where everything goes and where I get it. And in
• 35:13
  Speaker 2: my travels it's organized, and in my investments it's fully organized.
• 35:17
  Speaker 2: For forty almost forty four years, I've been very methodical
• 35:20
  Speaker 2: in doing the same investments over and over again every
• 35:22
  Speaker 2: single week, consistently buying assets. So there's higher order and
• 35:27
  Speaker 2: organization and what's high in your value, and there's low
• 35:29
  Speaker 2: organization and disorder, and it's difficult to make decisions on
• 35:34
  Speaker 2: lower values because you don't have the information. You're hesitant,
• 35:37
  Speaker 2: you procrastinate, you frustrate, But what's high in your value,
• 35:40
  Speaker 2: you're very organized and ordered.
• 35:43
  Speaker 3: The next one try just to jump in there.
• 35:46
  Speaker 1: And it's funny that you're saying that, because I am
• 35:49
  Speaker 1: very ordered around my research and also around traveling.
• 35:54
  Speaker 3: But I'm absolutely shit ice at admin. So it's just
• 35:59
  Speaker 3: in you said, if you.
• 36:01
  Speaker 2: Had to do administration, you'd be bored and burned out
• 36:04
  Speaker 2: pretty quickly.
• 36:06
  Speaker 3: Complete completely Okay, if.
• 36:09
  Speaker 2: You're not delegating lower party things and dedicating to higher
• 36:13
  Speaker 2: priority things, there's no way to have fulfillment in life.
• 36:18
  Speaker 2: And I wanted to ask, say, large prioritization.
• 36:22
  Speaker 1: I wanted to come back to that point around energy,
• 36:25
  Speaker 1: which was the third one. And and I can see
• 36:27
  Speaker 1: how these are all connected. But I think it's pretty clear.
• 36:30
  Speaker 1: You know, you talked about when you're doing something that
• 36:33
  Speaker 1: that's you know, aligned with your higher values or or
• 36:37
  Speaker 1: that's purposeful. I mean, and I would guarantee, given that
• 36:41
  Speaker 1: you've read thirty thousand books, I would guarantee that you've
• 36:44
  Speaker 1: read Man Search for Meaning by Victor Frankel. But but this,
• 36:48
  Speaker 1: this whole idea that people can do extraordinary things whenever
• 36:53
  Speaker 1: they have that strong sense of meaning and purpose or
• 36:55
  Speaker 1: as you would say, link with their energy with their values,
• 36:58
  Speaker 1: and they have energy for those things. But conversely, I
• 37:02
  Speaker 1: think this then works the other way around.
• 37:06
  Speaker 3: Clearly in a.
• 37:09
  Speaker 1: Meaningless purpose low values, or if you're working in an
• 37:14
  Speaker 1: organization that is incongrate with your values, or if you're
• 37:18
  Speaker 1: in a relationship where there's incongruence with the values, that
• 37:22
  Speaker 1: can become hugely stressful and to your point, an energy drainer, right,
• 37:28
  Speaker 1: Because we know that stress, particular psychological stress, affects the
• 37:34
  Speaker 1: mitochondria affects mitochondrial energy, you know, to the electron transport.
• 37:39
  Speaker 3: Chain, all of that stuff.
• 37:40
  Speaker 2: Right, So what's interesting is anytime you do lower, lower
• 37:48
  Speaker 2: priority activities and you activate your amigla, your migla is
• 37:53
  Speaker 2: trying to seek pleasure and avoid pain, seek prey, avoid predators,
• 37:56
  Speaker 2: seek ease, void difficulty, and it's trying to separate the
• 38:00
  Speaker 2: two polls of the magnet call pleasure and pain. And
• 38:04
  Speaker 2: anytime it does that, it then makes you gives you
• 38:08
  Speaker 2: the impression you can experience a pleasure without a pain,
• 38:11
  Speaker 2: or a pain without a pleasure, which does not occur,
• 38:14
  Speaker 2: but people think that does. As Kipling says that two
• 38:17
  Speaker 2: impostors are the illusions of the separation of pain and pleasure.
• 38:22
  Speaker 2: So if you look carefully, anytime you have a pleasureful experience,
• 38:26
  Speaker 2: you fear the loss of it. Anytime you have a
• 38:28
  Speaker 2: painful experience, you fear the gain of it. Where there's
• 38:31
  Speaker 2: only two forms of stress known, the perception of loss
• 38:34
  Speaker 2: of something you seek and can't obtain, and the perception
• 38:38
  Speaker 2: of something you avoid and can escape. Those are every
• 38:41
  Speaker 2: single stress you'll ever have in your life fall into
• 38:44
  Speaker 2: one of those two categories. So anytime we're not living
• 38:47
  Speaker 2: by priority. Our stress levels are our feedback mechanisms to
• 38:51
  Speaker 2: let us know we are not prioritized, and so our
• 38:57
  Speaker 2: cell danger responses and our mitochondra regressions are symptoms of
• 39:03
  Speaker 2: not living by priority and not being authentic because your
• 39:07
  Speaker 2: higher identity. Remember, your ontological denta revolves around your highest value.
• 39:11
  Speaker 2: So anytime you move away from higher values, your wellness quotient,
• 39:14
  Speaker 2: which is a reflective awareness between others and yourself. The
• 39:18
  Speaker 2: we wellness and say that I illness, I'm separate from others,
• 39:22
  Speaker 2: I'm judging others. The second we do that, our wellness
• 39:26
  Speaker 2: quotient goes down. When we start to go into our
• 39:28
  Speaker 2: amigla and we go into polarity and vicissitudes and volatilities
• 39:32
  Speaker 2: and instabilities and uncertainties, and we create autonomic dysregulation and
• 39:37
  Speaker 2: epigenetic methylations and the silation imbalances, and we create physiological
• 39:42
  Speaker 2: symptoms to let us know we are not being authentic,
• 39:46
  Speaker 2: we're not being poised and present.
• 39:49
  Speaker 1: So John, before we come back to this hierarchy around values, right,
• 39:55
  Speaker 1: if somebody is listening to this and going, oh shit,
• 40:01
  Speaker 1: I'm living a life that is not congruent with my values.
• 40:07
  Speaker 1: I'm spending my time on these little value things. I'm
• 40:11
  Speaker 1: feeling what John is actually talking about? What's the process?
• 40:16
  Speaker 1: How do they get out of the funk.
• 40:19
  Speaker 2: Well, what's interesting is no human being can sustain living
• 40:25
  Speaker 2: outside their hurricu values, their highest values, without creating symptomatology.
• 40:32
  Speaker 2: Symptomatology is not an enemy. Symptomatology is a feedback, a
• 40:37
  Speaker 2: friendly feedback to let you know you're inauthentic in your expression. Now,
• 40:42
  Speaker 2: what's happening is very simple. If you meet let's say
• 40:46
  Speaker 2: you're a guy and you meet this beautiful girl and
• 40:49
  Speaker 2: you're enamored and you're infatuated, and you're a little intimidated,
• 40:55
  Speaker 2: and you're too humble to admit what you see in
• 40:57
  Speaker 2: her inside yourself, and you put her up on a
• 41:00
  Speaker 2: pedestal and minimize yourself. You now have the fear of
• 41:05
  Speaker 2: loss of it because you're seeking it, and as a
• 41:08
  Speaker 2: result of it, you'll sacrifice things that are important to
• 41:10
  Speaker 2: you in order to hold on to her. And so
• 41:14
  Speaker 2: anytime you put some of you above you and make
• 41:17
  Speaker 2: them your authority, you will inject the values of those
• 41:20
  Speaker 2: you make authorities. And every time you inject the value
• 41:24
  Speaker 2: of an authority, you cloud the clarity of your own
• 41:27
  Speaker 2: tellos your own highest value, and you try attempt nonsustainably
• 41:33
  Speaker 2: to live in those people's values, but eventually you build
• 41:37
  Speaker 2: up enough resentment because you want to be loved to
• 41:39
  Speaker 2: appreciate for who you are, which is your own highest value,
• 41:42
  Speaker 2: and so that WANs over time. You start out being infatuated,
• 41:46
  Speaker 2: and within days or weeks, within months, for sure, you
• 41:48
  Speaker 2: break that infatuation. You start building up resentments in order
• 41:51
  Speaker 2: to break the infatuation, and you say, I want my
• 41:54
  Speaker 2: life back. When you go back, you can't sustain living
• 41:57
  Speaker 2: in other people's values, but you can then go up
• 42:00
  Speaker 2: and meet another person you're now infatuated with. And so
• 42:03
  Speaker 2: if you're constantly meeting people that you put on pedestals
• 42:07
  Speaker 2: and constantly injecting values of other people, you'll be trying
• 42:11
  Speaker 2: to live by how you ought to be in being
• 42:13
  Speaker 2: and imitating other people and sitting in the shadows of
• 42:17
  Speaker 2: others and trying to be second of being somebody else
• 42:19
  Speaker 2: instead of being it yourself. And then you'll judge yourself
• 42:22
  Speaker 2: as making a mistake, thinking I should be doing this,
• 42:25
  Speaker 2: but I keep doing this, and you'll think you're sabotaging,
• 42:28
  Speaker 2: but you're defaulting back to what is valuable, but you're
• 42:31
  Speaker 2: not honoring it because you're comparing yourself to other people
• 42:34
  Speaker 2: and minimizing you relative to other people. That's where most
• 42:37
  Speaker 2: people falter. They are comparing themselves to others instead of
• 42:41
  Speaker 2: comparing your daily actions each moment to what they value most.
• 42:45
  Speaker 2: How congruent are you moment by moment to what is
• 42:48
  Speaker 2: truly valuable to?
• 42:51
  Speaker 3: And so what are people? What's the process? What do
• 42:54
  Speaker 3: people do to get.
• 42:56
  Speaker 2: To sellers to have them define their values? Yeah, that's
• 43:00
  Speaker 2: that first, that's the starting point. That's why I have
• 43:02
  Speaker 2: it free on my website. Millions of people do it,
• 43:05
  Speaker 2: and I've tried to say start there, start there by
• 43:09
  Speaker 2: identifying what they are first. Then it's wise to ask
• 43:14
  Speaker 2: seven questions. These seven questions. Now that I know what
• 43:20
  Speaker 2: I value most and what I'm really inspired to do
• 43:22
  Speaker 2: and would love to do, what is it that I
• 43:26
  Speaker 2: would actually love to do, Let's define that clearly. What
• 43:29
  Speaker 2: is that that allows me to fulfill that highest value? So,
• 43:33
  Speaker 2: if it's teaching, what is it I would love to teach.
• 43:36
  Speaker 2: If it's researching, what is it I would love to research.
• 43:39
  Speaker 2: If it's raising children, what is it to how many children?
• 43:43
  Speaker 2: What children do I would love to have if it's
• 43:46
  Speaker 2: doing some spiritual ritual? What spiritual ritual do I love?
• 43:49
  Speaker 2: Defining it and being honest about it and defining it.
• 43:53
  Speaker 2: What is that I'd aptually love to do? How do
• 43:55
  Speaker 2: I get handsomely and beautifully paid to do it? Is
• 43:58
  Speaker 2: number two? Because you've got a vacation, vocation, separation, you
• 44:03
  Speaker 2: got a schizolnic lives. I do what I love and
• 44:06
  Speaker 2: I've been handsomely paid to do it. And that's only
• 44:10
  Speaker 2: because I asked that question. Most people ask how can
• 44:13
  Speaker 2: I afford to do what I love? Because they're so
• 44:14
  Speaker 2: accustomed to doing something they don't want to do and
• 44:16
  Speaker 2: then escaping it with a vacation to spend money on it,
• 44:20
  Speaker 2: So they've got those things backwards. Instead of doing what
• 44:23
  Speaker 2: they love and getting paid for it, they're doing what
• 44:25
  Speaker 2: they love and having to pay for it, and they're
• 44:27
  Speaker 2: doing what they don't love in order to get paid.
• 44:30
  Speaker 2: And that schizoid life creates a quiet life of desperation
• 44:34
  Speaker 2: instead of a life of inspiration. So once we have that,
• 44:38
  Speaker 2: we ask, what are the highest priority action steps I
• 44:40
  Speaker 2: can do today to make that happen? And that's not
• 44:44
  Speaker 2: really rocket science I've taken people of all ages through
• 44:48
  Speaker 2: that and all of a sudden directed them. The fourth
• 44:51
  Speaker 2: question is what obstacles might I run into and how
• 44:54
  Speaker 2: do I solve them in advance? The fifth question is
• 44:58
  Speaker 2: what worked and what didn't work today? As I'm doing
• 45:01
  Speaker 2: these action steps. The next one is how do I
• 45:04
  Speaker 2: do it more effectively and efficiently tomorrow? How do I
• 45:07
  Speaker 2: refine it? And Matt make it more masthful and refined.
• 45:11
  Speaker 2: I just had a video sent to me for my
• 45:14
  Speaker 2: daughter last night, and my granddaughter just got the golden
• 45:19
  Speaker 2: buzzard on America's Got Talent. Wow. It was a tear jerking,
• 45:25
  Speaker 2: heart opening watching her perform. It was off the chart,
• 45:30
  Speaker 2: it was amazing. And so she has identified what she
• 45:36
  Speaker 2: wants to do polished and refined, and how to how
• 45:39
  Speaker 2: do I do it more effectively and efficiently. She's following
• 45:41
  Speaker 2: these questions and the last question that's why she got it.
• 45:46
  Speaker 2: And then the last question is how did no matter
• 45:49
  Speaker 2: what happened to me today, how did he get me
• 45:51
  Speaker 2: one step closer to my objective? So that means no
• 45:55
  Speaker 2: matter what happens, it's it's you're learning to not see
• 45:59
  Speaker 2: it as a mistake, seeing it as a seed. M.
• 46:03
  Speaker 2: If you ask those seven questions, you'll increase the probability
• 46:06
  Speaker 2: of doing what you love and loving what you're doing
• 46:09
  Speaker 2: getting paid.
• 46:09
  Speaker 3: For it, which to me, now that's pretty cool. And
• 46:14
  Speaker 3: I do like, I do like the process that you've
• 46:16
  Speaker 3: got there.
• 46:16
  Speaker 1: And it actually it kind of reminds me of of
• 46:19
  Speaker 1: Japanese psychology, which which my wife is a practitioner of.
• 46:23
  Speaker 1: And and they say and in Japanese psychology that that
• 46:27
  Speaker 1: we get in trouble when we live a life that
• 46:29
  Speaker 1: is dictated by our feelings and emotions and and and
• 46:33
  Speaker 1: the goal of Japanese psychology, particularly Marita therapy, is to
• 46:37
  Speaker 1: live a life of action that is aligned with your values,
• 46:40
  Speaker 1: which is exactly what you're talking about.
• 46:43
  Speaker 2: Aristotle said, there's tellos, and there's the affections and passions
• 46:48
  Speaker 2: that distract you. Yes, and those all he's talking about
• 46:52
  Speaker 2: is the executive center, the media, priefund cortex, and the amigla.
• 46:56
  Speaker 2: Our neuroscience has quit a neural correlation to what has
• 46:59
  Speaker 2: been described for the centuries. So that's why prioritization is
• 47:04
  Speaker 2: such a crucial thing. I have a program that I
• 47:07
  Speaker 2: teach called Priority Code, the Priority Code where I try
• 47:10
  Speaker 2: to train people in four hours on very practical action
• 47:14
  Speaker 2: steps to maximize their self actualized pathway. And it's not
• 47:18
  Speaker 2: rocket science. There's nothing anybody can't do. It's just they're
• 47:22
  Speaker 2: not aware of it and they don't have yet the
• 47:24
  Speaker 2: developed discipline to go and do it. But when you really, really,
• 47:28
  Speaker 2: really have a value on doing something, you'll do it anyway.
• 47:32
  Speaker 2: The next question is what are you most disciplined, reliable
• 47:36
  Speaker 2: and focused on. You know you can count on me
• 47:39
  Speaker 2: to be teaching, researching, and writing and traveling. Anybody that
• 47:43
  Speaker 2: really knows me doesn't ask me what are you up to?
• 47:46
  Speaker 2: They say where are you teaching today? What are you
• 47:51
  Speaker 2: researching today? Where are you today? They don't ask how's
• 47:58
  Speaker 2: your cars? I don't even have a car. I haven't
• 48:00
  Speaker 2: driven a car in thirty six years. Because anybody that
• 48:03
  Speaker 2: knows me knows my values and knows not to waste
• 48:05
  Speaker 2: your time asking other questions. But I ain't doing it.
• 48:09
  Speaker 2: I've delegated everything off my plate and I only do
• 48:12
  Speaker 2: four basic things teach, research, right, and travel. Everything is delegated,
• 48:17
  Speaker 2: and kiss my girlfriend and everything is off the plate.
• 48:21
  Speaker 2: So all the lower party things, which is the source
• 48:23
  Speaker 2: of stress, is most people don't delegate, and therefore they
• 48:27
  Speaker 2: have a stress full life. A distress not a youth stress,
• 48:32
  Speaker 2: but pursuing challenges that you love. Is you stress? Which
• 48:36
  Speaker 2: is wellness promoting? Yeah?
• 48:37
  Speaker 3: Yeah?
• 48:38
  Speaker 2: And so where are your most disciplined, reliable, and focused.
• 48:42
  Speaker 2: You can count on me to teach, research, right, and travel.
• 48:46
  Speaker 2: You can't count on me to do anything else. I'm
• 48:47
  Speaker 2: going to betray you. See, Betrayal is not what somebody
• 48:50
  Speaker 2: does to you. Betrayals what you do to you. When
• 48:53
  Speaker 2: you expect somebody to live outside their values and to
• 48:55
  Speaker 2: live in yours, they're not going to do it. I
• 49:00
  Speaker 2: expect my girlfriend to not be working out, you know,
• 49:06
  Speaker 2: I'm going to be betrayed because she's going to work
• 49:07
  Speaker 2: out every day. She does it every single day. She's
• 49:09
  Speaker 2: in perfect thing. So I can't expect her to live
• 49:13
  Speaker 2: outside her values and in mind. And that's one of
• 49:15
  Speaker 2: the big delusions. People are expected to live in other
• 49:18
  Speaker 2: people's values that they put on pedestals and try to
• 49:21
  Speaker 2: be like and imitate them, which is futile, non sustainable,
• 49:25
  Speaker 2: Or they're trying to get other people to live in
• 49:26
  Speaker 2: their values. We don't make mistakes in our own values.
• 49:30
  Speaker 2: We only make mistakes we think we make mistakes when
• 49:33
  Speaker 2: we compare our actions to somebody else's values we put
• 49:35
  Speaker 2: above us that we've injected, and we only think other
• 49:39
  Speaker 2: people make mistakes when we project our values onto them
• 49:41
  Speaker 2: and think they should be living in our values. But
• 49:44
  Speaker 2: the mistakes don'tccur inside their own individual values because that's
• 49:47
  Speaker 2: what's making the decisions they're making, but they're not honoring
• 49:50
  Speaker 2: it because they're thinking they should be doing something else.
• 49:52
  Speaker 2: That's why I'm not interested in the Oughts. I'm interested
• 49:54
  Speaker 2: in what they are.
• 49:57
  Speaker 3: Yeah, there's a tyranny of the tyranny of the Shulds
• 50:00
  Speaker 3: and the tyranny of the Oughts.
• 50:01
  Speaker 2: Right.
• 50:02
  Speaker 1: But I wanted to come back then, to bring this
• 50:07
  Speaker 1: back to Aristotle and when you talked about that tell
• 50:11
  Speaker 1: Us and the passions, because the ancient Greeks talked a
• 50:15
  Speaker 1: lot about the passions and that the passions are basically
• 50:19
  Speaker 1: a distraction and particular and I think this is kind
• 50:24
  Speaker 1: of fundamental to what's happening today.
• 50:26
  Speaker 2: Right.
• 50:26
  Speaker 1: So there's this existential crisis that a lot of people
• 50:29
  Speaker 1: are having. They don't have tell Us, they don't have
• 50:31
  Speaker 1: a clear sense of meaning and purpose in their life,
• 50:34
  Speaker 1: and then the passions are going to distract them massively.
• 50:38
  Speaker 1: And the problem, I think John, is that that you know,
• 50:41
  Speaker 1: if you spend your mind, put your mind back thirty
• 50:44
  Speaker 1: years ago the passions to then versus the passions now.
• 50:49
  Speaker 1: I mean, you just need to look at food and
• 50:51
  Speaker 1: the ultra processed food and just how much more of
• 50:55
  Speaker 1: a pool that is in terms of dopamine and driving
• 50:59
  Speaker 1: addictive behavior. We talked about social media and all of
• 51:02
  Speaker 1: those entertainment things that are all designed to hijack your attention,
• 51:06
  Speaker 1: but fundamentally it is really coming back to this whole
• 51:10
  Speaker 1: idea of an absence of tell us those passions are
• 51:14
  Speaker 1: going to distract you, and nowadays because they are nuclear
• 51:19
  Speaker 1: passions that they're not just distracting people, they're just consuming
• 51:23
  Speaker 1: their lives, right, And then they're doing these behaviors that
• 51:26
  Speaker 1: are incongruent with what they think they should do. And
• 51:30
  Speaker 1: then they get more stressed and they're comforted or drink
• 51:33
  Speaker 1: more alcohol or whatever, and they feel they're not sleeping well.
• 51:36
  Speaker 3: And the whole thing on Revels.
• 51:39
  Speaker 2: You nailed it. Immediate gratifying, impulsive, compulsive, addictive behaviors are
• 51:46
  Speaker 2: compensations for unfulfilled high values, and thatism that includes eating
• 51:55
  Speaker 2: you know. There's when I ask people about eating disorders,
• 52:00
  Speaker 2: and because I've worked with that for forty something years
• 52:03
  Speaker 2: and and I have people, I ask them, when you
• 52:07
  Speaker 2: get distressed, how many of you overeat? And hands go up?
• 52:11
  Speaker 2: How many of the under eight hands go up? I said,
• 52:15
  Speaker 2: I want you to go to a moment when you
• 52:16
  Speaker 2: over ate, when you were stressed. Everybody, go to that
• 52:19
  Speaker 2: moment right down where it was, when it was and
• 52:22
  Speaker 2: what was the stress. And now go to moment when
• 52:25
  Speaker 2: there was under eating. Where was it, when was it?
• 52:28
  Speaker 2: What was the stress. I hadn't really pin it down.
• 52:31
  Speaker 2: I said, there's only two forms of stress. The perception
• 52:35
  Speaker 2: of loss or non obtainings of what you seek, which
• 52:39
  Speaker 2: stimulates graylin, which automatically makes you eat more because you're
• 52:45
  Speaker 2: It's like, imagine this. Imagine we're going to a restaurant
• 52:49
  Speaker 2: and we order a food that we like, and we
• 52:52
  Speaker 2: expect that food to be there within fifteen minutes, and
• 52:56
  Speaker 2: it's now thirty. Our hunger goes up because we're notting
• 53:00
  Speaker 2: what we want. Then they come and after they finally
• 53:04
  Speaker 2: deliver it, it's the wrong thing, and you just have
• 53:06
  Speaker 2: to send it back. Now you're starved, and now you
• 53:10
  Speaker 2: want to eat, so your grayling goes up. Anytime the
• 53:15
  Speaker 2: thing you seek escapes you, or the thing you seek
• 53:18
  Speaker 2: you can't obtain, or the fear of loss fit somebody's
• 53:22
  Speaker 2: taking away from you, grayling goes up, so you overeat
• 53:25
  Speaker 2: during that. And when somebody's doing something you don't want
• 53:29
  Speaker 2: and you can't escape, that leftin goes up, so graylen
• 53:34
  Speaker 2: and leptin and insulin and glucagon are basically mechanisms to
• 53:40
  Speaker 2: let you know when something is supporting or challenging your
• 53:43
  Speaker 2: values and will cause you to overeat or underreat. It's
• 53:46
  Speaker 2: not random, it's not a bochemical imbalance because of a
• 53:49
  Speaker 2: lack of drug. It is primarily because of these things.
• 53:53
  Speaker 2: And when I ask people, I get one hundred percent
• 53:56
  Speaker 2: going WHOA. I never knew that, never thought about that.
• 54:00
  Speaker 2: That was the stress that I was overeating that I
• 54:02
  Speaker 2: was facing was I'm not getting what I want or
• 54:05
  Speaker 2: I'm afraid I'm going to lose it, or I'm getting
• 54:07
  Speaker 2: what I don't want and I'm afraid i can't escape it.
• 54:09
  Speaker 2: So those are basic mechanisms that the amigla assigned to
• 54:13
  Speaker 2: the nuclears, circumbents and up into the thalamus to let
• 54:16
  Speaker 2: the responses because everything that we have a stress is
• 54:20
  Speaker 2: basically somehow the fear of loss of prey and the
• 54:23
  Speaker 2: fear of gain a predator. And when we're under predator,
• 54:26
  Speaker 2: we don't eat. When we're in the prey, we want
• 54:27
  Speaker 2: to eat. So our disorders are not random, they're very precise.
• 54:32
  Speaker 2: And if we know how I asked the question to
• 54:35
  Speaker 2: transform the ratios of perceptions, these disorders are so simple
• 54:39
  Speaker 2: to neutralize, it's ridiculous.
• 54:42
  Speaker 1: I actually think a lot of the disorders, particularly the
• 54:45
  Speaker 1: milder psychological disorders, should all be rebranded under one and
• 54:51
  Speaker 1: I call it MLD Modern lifestyle disorder.
• 54:55
  Speaker 2: I think that reitization disorder.
• 54:58
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 55:00
  Speaker 1: Interesting, you talked about leftin and grelling there because and
• 55:04
  Speaker 1: just a close the loop on that is that when
• 55:07
  Speaker 1: people are overeating or doing this stuff, or they're having stress,
• 55:12
  Speaker 1: stress we know interferes with sleep. And we know Nai
• 55:16
  Speaker 1: as you will well know, John, that if you have
• 55:18
  Speaker 1: poor sleep number one year level of stress, hormones are
• 55:21
  Speaker 1: higher the next day. Grelling is high on the next
• 55:23
  Speaker 1: day because of the poor sleep, which means you're going
• 55:25
  Speaker 1: to eat more.
• 55:26
  Speaker 3: And because cord is all is high. You want sugary, fatty,
• 55:28
  Speaker 3: salty food.
• 55:29
  Speaker 1: Leptin, as you rightly said, is reduced, and that governs
• 55:32
  Speaker 1: voluntary physical activity and cessation of eating. So you'll over eat,
• 55:36
  Speaker 1: You're much less likely to exercise. Then you're less able
• 55:40
  Speaker 1: to handle the stress of the day's events. Then you're
• 55:43
  Speaker 1: more likely to go home in the evening stressed and
• 55:45
  Speaker 1: soothe your stress with either alcohol or shit food and
• 55:49
  Speaker 1: then bang, rinse and repeat.
• 55:50
  Speaker 2: Right. Yeah, now, let me address something because I'm probably
• 55:56
  Speaker 2: going to challenge some people with this statement. But there's
• 55:59
  Speaker 2: no nothing out there that's stress. There's no stress out there.
• 56:04
  Speaker 1: You got stress perception, perception, public's out there.
• 56:09
  Speaker 2: Yeah, Because I take people who swear they got a stress,
• 56:13
  Speaker 2: ask them a series of questions, make them conscious of
• 56:16
  Speaker 2: what they were unconscious of, dissolve the perception of stress,
• 56:20
  Speaker 2: the stress, the thing that was out there hasn't changed,
• 56:23
  Speaker 2: but their perceptions have it changed. So the races of
• 56:26
  Speaker 2: your perception are what we call stress. And if we
• 56:29
  Speaker 2: have a ratio of more negatives and pauses, we get
• 56:32
  Speaker 2: a sympathetic response, a fight or flight response, if we
• 56:36
  Speaker 2: have the other, which is left in stimulating. If we
• 56:38
  Speaker 2: have the other and we get more pauses and negatives,
• 56:41
  Speaker 2: we get a pair of sympathetic response, which is now
• 56:44
  Speaker 2: seeking food, rest and to jest. So one's excitatory, one's
• 56:48
  Speaker 2: inhibitory to the brain. So if you look, these are
• 56:52
  Speaker 2: not random. They can be narrowed down very precise and
• 56:56
  Speaker 2: neutralized and addressed. And anytime you're infatuto with something and
• 57:03
  Speaker 2: see way more positives and negativism and conscious of the upsides,
• 57:06
  Speaker 2: unconscious of the downsides, you're going to have a fantasy
• 57:08
  Speaker 2: at night and have insomnia and you won't be able
• 57:10
  Speaker 2: to sleep. You can be fantasizing about what you're going
• 57:13
  Speaker 2: to do with a wet dream, excuse my expression. And
• 57:16
  Speaker 2: if you have a nightmare and you have resentment to somebody,
• 57:19
  Speaker 2: you're going to have a dry dream. I'm making these
• 57:21
  Speaker 2: words out there, You're going to have a nightmare. Having
• 57:26
  Speaker 2: to deal with avoidance mechanisms. So each one of those
• 57:31
  Speaker 2: RASI as a perception, support over challenge, positive over negative,
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  Speaker 2: pleasure over pain. Insomnia is a feedback mechanism to let
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  Speaker 2: you know that you're imbalanced in your RACI as a
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  Speaker 2: perception and are polarized with your amigla and are blind
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  Speaker 2: with your unconscious to one side or the other. And
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  Speaker 2: the second I ask you questions, Identify what the stress is,
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  Speaker 2: Identify what the thing you're seeking or avoiding. Ask the
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  Speaker 2: right questions, bounce. I can allow them to be going
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  Speaker 2: to sleep, probably in fifteen to thirty minutes. If I
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  Speaker 2: asked a questioning it.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, there's there's stoic undertones in that, obviously, isn't there.
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  Speaker 2: It's not events important purpose was, and they understood the passions.
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  Speaker 2: The word passion comes from patti and passio, which means
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  Speaker 2: to suffer. That's what the passions. People go around today
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  Speaker 2: a new age movement saying, well, find my passion always
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  Speaker 2: so passionate. They don't realize that that word means to suffer.
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  Speaker 2: Compassion means to suffer with somebody. I'm not interested in
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  Speaker 2: the passions zero interest and compassion and passion. Those are
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  Speaker 2: for people that don't know how to master their life.
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  Speaker 2: I'm interested in an individual on how to live a
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  Speaker 2: life with mission, how to have meaning, how to be inspired.
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  Speaker 2: Not polarized perception synthesized callings where you're you're seeing both
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  Speaker 2: sides wisely objectively, simultaneously, untouched by the eu usions of
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  Speaker 2: one sided perceptions that distract you, which cause the amigola
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  Speaker 2: is doing and This is what happens when you're living
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  Speaker 2: by priority. When you live by priority, you more reasonable,
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  Speaker 2: more objective, more stable, less volatile, more missionful, less passionfle.
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  Speaker 1: Mm hmm, John, We do need to stop it there
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  Speaker 1: because I have to run. But this has been this
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  Speaker 1: has been awesome, And I think the priority we're finishing
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  Speaker 1: on priorities. I think the priority for people if they
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  Speaker 1: they want to live a life that that is aligned
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  Speaker 1: with their values. I think the first step is to
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  Speaker 1: go to your website, doctor John.
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  Speaker 3: Is it doctor John Martini dot com?
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  Speaker 2: Just doctor d Martini de Martinez a word.
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  Speaker 1: Doctor de Martini and it's d E Yeah, doctor d
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  Speaker 1: Martini dot dot com. Do that values determination process? Because
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  Speaker 1: I am completely aligned with you. We've got to get
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  Speaker 1: clear on our values and and that that tell losses
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  Speaker 1: is absolutely critical.
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  Speaker 3: I think I think.
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  Speaker 1: They You are basically taking what the agent Greeks talked
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  Speaker 1: about and adding a shitload of science and experience over
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  Speaker 1: thirty years, forty years, fifty years interacting with people.
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  Speaker 3: To actually give them a clear process. So John, on
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  Speaker 3: behalf of the human race.
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  Speaker 2: One last thing? Can I say one last thing?
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  Speaker 3: Because you can't the tellos.
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  Speaker 2: In Aristotle's tournament end in mind. There you go final,
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  Speaker 2: cause you're transcending causality, which the Bododhs called the karmic wheel,
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  Speaker 2: and you're now in the dharmic path. It also is
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  Speaker 2: the telencephalon, the end of the brain, So the telencephalon,
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  Speaker 2: the media prefund cortex is the telencephalon, and the teleomers,
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  Speaker 2: the tips of the genes are extended the moment you
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  Speaker 2: live with your tellos in your telencephalon. While because the
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  Speaker 2: space and time horizons of individuals expand every time they're
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  Speaker 2: living by their tellos, and they shrink for immediate gratification
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  Speaker 2: and shorten their life span every time they don't. So
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  Speaker 2: if you want to live longer, you want to live
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  Speaker 2: with more order and resonance, prioritize your life and delegate
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  Speaker 2: lower party things. Pardon me for going an extra second.
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  Speaker 2: I just wanted to say that.
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  Speaker 3: Now, all good. It's a very nice way to cap
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  Speaker 3: it off.
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  Speaker 1: So John, thank you very much for all that you do,
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  Speaker 1: and yeah, continue that awesome journey.
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  Speaker 2: Thank you. Appreciate you give me time on your website,
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  Speaker 2: thank you, and your podcast