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Living in Alignment 4/7: Listening to Inner Signals — Why Your Body Decides First, and How to Trust What You Feel #TrustYourselfThursday · Dr. Derek H. Suite MD - The SuiteSpot

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  SPEAKER_00: Okay now, you've done it.
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  SPEAKER_00: You have made it to Thursday.
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  SPEAKER_00: But this is not just any Thursday.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is Trust Yourself Thursday.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you're listening to The Sweet Spot.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm Dr.
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  SPEAKER_00: Derek Sweet.
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  SPEAKER_00: I am your host.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm a board certified psychiatrist.
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  SPEAKER_00: I work with high-performance individuals, and at the same time, I enjoy sitting across the coffee table with you, discussing the mystery we call life, as we seek and search the planet, the universe, the meta world for a life we love.
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  SPEAKER_00: How's that for a beginning?
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  SPEAKER_00: Ah, beautiful souls, it's good to be back.
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  SPEAKER_00: We've been in a series here on the sweet spot called Living in Alignment.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yes, beautiful souls, let's talk about it.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's Trust Yourself Thursday.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're talking about trust in a way that doesn't really have to talk about bravado hype or all of that stuff.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're talking about the quiet kind of trust today, the steady kind.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay?
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  SPEAKER_00: The kind that doesn't need to announce itself.
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  SPEAKER_00: So here's the truth that most people miss about trust.
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  SPEAKER_00: You don't trust yourself in your mind first.
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  SPEAKER_00: You trust yourself actually in your body first.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because self-trust isn't a thought, it's a sense.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's something you feel, it's a felt sense, it's the feeling of safety in your decisions, the sense of calm in your direction.
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  SPEAKER_00: The absence of an inner argument, that's trust.
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  SPEAKER_00: The lack of constant second guessing, that's trust.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's in your physiology, not necessarily your personality.
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  SPEAKER_00: There's a part of your brain called the insula, I-N-S-U-L-A.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's the system that helps you feel what's happening inside of you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your breath, your tension, your calm, your gut reactions, your inner signals, your sense of this feels right or this feels off.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's called your interoceptive system.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your interoceptive system, your inner awareness.
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  SPEAKER_00: Athletes have this, they have an awareness of their bodies.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's how your body talks to your mind.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it's this insular system in the brain that gets active when we trust our bodies, when we trust what's going on.
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  SPEAKER_00: And when your life is aligned, your body sends clear signals, you feel grounded, steady, you feel centered, and you feel very present.
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  SPEAKER_00: But when your life is misaligned, your body sends distractions, it sends noisy signals, tension, restlessness, anxiety, unease, dis-ease, sneaky suspicions, tightness, discomfort you can't explain, an edginess, a weirdness.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's not weakness, my friend.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's information.
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  SPEAKER_00: And your body often knows before your mind does.
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  SPEAKER_00: One of my favorite lines from Spider-Man is my spidey senses are tingling.
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  SPEAKER_00: That sort of captures it.
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  SPEAKER_00: The body kind of feels it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Here's what breaks trust.
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  SPEAKER_00: Living in ways your body doesn't feel safe in.
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  SPEAKER_00: Saying yes when your system is saying no.
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  SPEAKER_00: Pushing when your body is telling you to slow down.
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  SPEAKER_00: Staying in situations where you feel unsettled.
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  SPEAKER_00: Ignoring what feels wrong.
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  SPEAKER_00: And sticking it out because it feels convenient.
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  SPEAKER_00: Silencing your own signals so that you can keep the peace.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know what happens when you do that?
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  SPEAKER_00: Over time, your body learns to stop speaking clearly.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you just stop trusting yourself, not because you're lost, but because you've been disconnected from your own signals, and it happens slowly.
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  SPEAKER_00: So Trust Yourself Thursday is not about believing in yourself, it's about listening to yourself, it's about learning to read your own system again because you see, my friend, self-trust grows when your body feels safe in your choices.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your nervous system has to feel like it's regulated.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your actions have to be honest, they have to feel honest so that your life can feel coherent.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so you have a direction and a direction that feels steady.
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  SPEAKER_00: Safe in your choices, a regulated nervous system, honest actions, a life that feels coherent, cohesive, and a direction that feels steady.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's trust built through alignment, not just affirmations.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is where ancient wisdom lines up with the neuroscience, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Across traditions, intuition was never mystical.
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  SPEAKER_00: It was an attunement, a way of listening, a way of being present, a way of having discernment, of inner knowing, of an embodied awareness.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's not some spooky mystical stuff.
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  SPEAKER_00: I just said listening, presence, discernment, inner knowing, and embodied awareness.
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  SPEAKER_00: There ain't nothing spooky about that.
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  SPEAKER_00: Those are skills that we need.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's not magic, it's not fantasy, it's a kind of a sensitivity to the truth that lives inside of us.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's trust.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
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  SPEAKER_00: So when we're aligned with our divine purpose, with our divine maker, with our divine self, we can really trust the self.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because we're aligned and we're sensitive to that.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it's a guide, it gives us discernment.
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  SPEAKER_00: So trust yourself Thursday isn't about making big decisions today, my friend.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's about restoring your ability to listen to your internal signals.
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  SPEAKER_00: Learning to feel your yes again.
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  SPEAKER_00: Learning to feel your no again.
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  SPEAKER_00: Learning to feel your tension, to learning to feel your calm, just checking in with you, learning to notice your signals instead of overriding them to please somebody else, to get the job done, not checking in with you, no interceptive awareness, not good.
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  SPEAKER_00: No emotionality, not good.
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  SPEAKER_00: So here's today's move.
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  SPEAKER_00: Nothing dramatic, nothing symbolic, nothing performative, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Just one but one body check practice.
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  SPEAKER_00: Before you make one decision today, I want you to pause for 10 seconds and ask Does this feel settled or unsettled in my body?
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  SPEAKER_00: Not my mind.
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  SPEAKER_00: How's my body feel about this?
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  SPEAKER_00: What are my spiny senses saying?
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  SPEAKER_00: Not logical, not strategic, it's not nothing to be all um uh dramatic about.
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  SPEAKER_00: Just notice how you're breathing.
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  SPEAKER_00: Notice if your shoulders are hunched up, if your jaw is tight.
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  SPEAKER_00: Notice if your foot's going a mile a minute under the table.
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  SPEAKER_00: Notice if your stomach is feeling tight, if your chest feels like it's not expanding.
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  SPEAKER_00: Not to judge yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: I just want you to tune in, to listen, to find the calmest signal inside of yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because that's where self-trust is built.
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  SPEAKER_00: You see, self-trust comes when your mind stops overriding your body.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like when your choices stop fighting your nervous system, you have trust.
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  SPEAKER_00: When your life feels internally consistent, we talked about consistency yesterday.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's alignment at the deepest level.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm not talking about thought alignment or belief alignment or goal alignment.
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  SPEAKER_00: Those are all separate kinds of alignment.
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  SPEAKER_00: Today I'm talking about your nervous system, your body's alignment, that kind of deep trust.
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  SPEAKER_00: So it's not about being fearless, it's about being tuned in to you, being attuned to you, being more aware of you, the body.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because when you can feel your own signals, you don't need external validation to tell you what to do or how to move.
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  SPEAKER_00: You don't need permission to decide what to do.
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  SPEAKER_00: You don't need constant, constant reassurance.
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  SPEAKER_00: You don't have to quadruple check everything.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because greater is that which is in you than what's in the world, and your system can become your guide once it's aligned.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's trust yourself Thursday.
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  SPEAKER_00: Not about confidence, but about coherence.
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  SPEAKER_00: Are you coherent?
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  SPEAKER_00: Is this cohesive for you?
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  SPEAKER_00: Alright?
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  SPEAKER_00: So, where in your life have you been overriding your body signals?
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  SPEAKER_00: And what would it look like today to listen instead of overriding and pushing?
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  SPEAKER_00: Huh.
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  SPEAKER_00: You've been listening to this sweet spot.
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  SPEAKER_00: Thank you for your time, your attention.
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  SPEAKER_00: This has been extraordinary and amazing to spend this time with you.
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• 10:31
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  SPEAKER_00: And if you know someone who could benefit from this message on trust, on embodying their trust, share it with them.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'll see you tomorrow, beautiful souls.
• 10:54
  SPEAKER_00: You know what tomorrow is?
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  SPEAKER_00: Oh yes, tomorrow is Finish Strong Friday.
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  SPEAKER_00: Absolutely looking forward to it.
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  SPEAKER_00: You see, look, we did uh the ACC on Monday, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: The uh we did the PFC on Tuesday, we did the Basil Gangly on Wednesday, we did uh the Insula, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Uh on Trust Yourself Thursday today, and tomorrow, haha, we have yet another neural anchor to discuss, but I'm not gonna tell you what it is.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're gonna have to tune in tomorrow to see which brain section we're gonna weave in to this discussion on living in alignment.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm Dr.
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  SPEAKER_00: Sweet.
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  SPEAKER_00: Uh, thank you for this uh time and uh looking forward to exploring the psychophysiological arc with you tomorrow.
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  SPEAKER_00: But I'll get scientific there for a minute.
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  SPEAKER_00: Peace.