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130. Will it Bring you Joy · Your Enriched Self

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  Hey, friends, It's Thursday, which means a couple things. Number One,
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  it's another episode of the Urine Retail Podcasts. But I'm also doing a
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  little gratitude check in with you. I want to start with you doing some
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  pop ups. You know, remember back in the day when you're in school
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  and you have those pop up quizzes. Well, we're gonna start doing pop
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  up gratitude checks and today I just want to check in with you to make
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  sure that you're making room in your life for gratitude. It is a formula
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  that I have used to really shift my mindset and shift how I see and
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  perceive the world around me. And I think it's so important to be grateful,
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  but it's most important to be grateful in the times when everything isn't beautiful,
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  everything isn't perfect, things don't work out the way you planned it,
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  and sometimes there's a bit of a disaster happening. And I was reminded recently
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  the importance of may room, especially in those difficult times. I recently had
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  an opportunity that I was looking forward to in many ways just pass me by.
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  But I'm grateful. You know why, I am grateful because I know
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  that there is a reason why that opportunity didn't come to me. It probably
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  belonged to someone else. And sometimes when we ask for opportunity, we may
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  not be as ready as we think we are. We may not have all
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  the things that we need to have, because you don't want the opportunity or
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  the blessing to turn into a burden. And so I'm gonna encourage you.
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  I don't know what walk you're on, I don't know where you plan to
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  go or what you're thinking about, but I want you to practice gratitude and
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  do it in the moments where it's not the norm. I promise you you're
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  going to walk away from that moment feeling better about yourself. You're going to
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  walk away from that moment feeling full full of more insight, more understanding,
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  and more willingness to just allow. The art of allowing is just being in
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  a great flow and trusting the plan that God has for your life. Hello,
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  my friends from all across the globe and welcome to the Your Enriched Self
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  Podcast. I am your host, my Lee Noir, and I'm a mindset
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  coach and your mindset advocate. And what that means in this world, in
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  your world is I am being very intentional each and every week to curate conversations
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  discussions for you to participate in so that you are mindful to being more of
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  your and rich self. So the formula is, each week we get on
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  here and I walk it out with you. We talk it out. We
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  talk about mindset, fusion topics, self care, soul care, We talk
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  about intentional thinking. Because here's the thing. Your thoughts inspire your words,
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  and those words become the action and the activity that you take in the world
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  that you live in. And I know if you're listening to this podcast,
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  you want to show up as your best self in this world. And I'm
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  just here to help facilitate that. Listen, you have the secret sauce,
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  you have the magic sauce. I just want to make sure that you're mixing
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  that thing up every day because sometimes we get busy and bogged down. And
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  so that's why I'm intentional about this conversation. Now, if you are new
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  to this podcast, I want to first welcome you and thank you for showing
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  up here for yourself. And if you're a repeat listener, thank you for
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  coming back, thank you for coming home each and every week. We are
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  now what one hundred and thirty episodes, and I could not have done this
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  without you, So lots of gratitude extended from me to you for being here
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  each and every week. And before we get started this week, if you
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  know you know, each week I make a deposit into the bank of you,
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  and I do so by way of affirmations. Affirmations are a great way
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  to start your day and to command your morning. And this week's affirmation is
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  any challenge I face is within my ability to handle. Any challenge I face
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  is within my ability to handle. Any challenge I face is within my ability
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  to handle. Now, let's get ready for this week's episode of the Your
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  Enriched Self podcast. I recently heard a SoundBite from a political candidate about raising
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  the retirement age from sixty five to seventy, or deciding that the retirement age
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  needs to be increased from sixty five because of the life expectancy. And I
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  personally haven't looked at the life expectancy. I know it's a lot longer than
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  it was in the past for many reasons. I don't know all the details
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  of this political candidate stance or why they would, you know, generate that
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  level of thinking. But what I do know is so many people look at
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  the stanzas of society, such as retirement, age, or whatever the case
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  might be, and they base their lives. They base their decisions around these
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  moments and time that will allow them time and opportunity to do things. And
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  I started thinking about how many of us postpone the moments in our lives,
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  the things that we want to do, because we're waiting for the right timing.
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  And I say timing in air quotes because it could be at the end
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  of this year, or after the kids graduate, or whatever it is.
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  And I just want to remind you that you must be intentional about your time.
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  And so that had me thinking about how important it is to right now,
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  today and every day, every day, you should be looking for joy
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  moments. You should be evaluating what you will do, what you will participate
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  in partake in, based on will it bring you joy? I need at
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  every turn of the road, at every turn of the space that you're in,
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  I need you to be very intentional about asking yourself, will this moment
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  will that next moment bring me joy? I think it's a fair question to
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  ask, and I think you should ask yourself that question, because if you're
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  holding off for a particular moment or a particular thing to show up to give
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  you permission, I say take that permission. Now. Someone in the political
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  sphere, someone in a seat of authority, is making a decision, a
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  potential decision that will determine how in society you should be able to live.
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  The good news is this, You get to decide every day, in your
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  own home, in your own space, in your own mind, how you
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  want to live, how you will choose to live in that day. And
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  it starts with defining will that bring me joy? I heard this political commentary
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  and I thought, wow, if someone was out there waiting for this retirement
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  age, and not that anything's changing overnight or that this candidate is going to
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  be in a position to make those changes. But the whole idea is that
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  every day in and around us, there are people in positions that are making
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  decisions that could impact us. My question to you is why not make decisions
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  intentionally about your own life that will impact you in the way you desire.
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  This is not waiting until somebody takes seat, or waiting until several votes go
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  to yay or nay for you to see this thing come to manifestation. This
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  is saying, right now, you can decide for you how you want things
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  to go, but it starts with being intentional and asking yourself the question,
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  will this bring me joy? I was inspired also because it's winter, and
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  if you are anywhere USA or beyond, you are experiencing some very frigid,
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  icy winter conditions. And it makes me think about all the days, all
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  the early mornings that I would intentionally chase sunrise and the late evenings that I
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  would chase sunset, and it would be for such time like this. I
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  was going to the gym on this past weekend and it was sixteen degrees.
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  I know, I want to cry. It was sixteen degrees in Atlanta,
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  and it was so frigid and icy cold, And in that moment, I
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  thought of all the multitude of joy moments I had deposited into the bank of
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  me intentionally, purposefully because I wanted to experience that joy. And as much
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  as that sixteen degrees was hurtful to my it wasn't hurtful to me physically.
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  That sixteen degrees was hurt It hurt my feelings, okay, because I still
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  want to be active, but it hurts my feelings that I have to be
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  active in sixteen degree temps. I had a sense of wow, I was
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  able to fill up my bank would so much sunrise and sunset moments, which
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  in fact were my joy moments. I was able to say yes to that,
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  And that would mean that I would have to say no to staying up
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  later because I wanted to get up earlier to chase at sunrise. And so
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  it's intentionality. I really want you to embrace that question, will this bring
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  me joy? So I was also inspired by a conversation I was having with
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  a friend. She's getting ready to go through a transition, as we all
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  are going through many transitions in life, and she was conflicted about decisions and
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  positions and situations that she would find herself in. And she thought, you
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  know, I don't know what decision to make. I don't know if I
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  should turn left or turn right, if I should look north or if I
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  should look east. I don't know where I should be in this season.
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  I feel conflicted. I feel arrested by these thoughts. And before I could
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  even think about it, I said, well, what would bring you joy?
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  The good news is she had so many options, She had so many
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  different turns and takes that she could have for her own life. But she
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  was conflicted because the reality is we spend so much of our lives trying to
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  cater to. I think about the many times when I went on vacation years
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  ago my kids were little, But on that vacation, I found myself catering
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  to my kids. So here's what that would mean the entire trip. That
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  would mean my kids were conveniently and properly cater to. And I understand that
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  when you have little kids, they can't do a whole lot for themselves,
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  so you do have to do the handholding and the food cutting and all the
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  things. But never in that vacation did I intentionally say that I would gift
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  myself or give myself an activity, a moment, a thing that would be
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  my thing that I could say is mine on this trip, that I could
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  bring my kids along for my joy moment. I was so busy giving them,
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  gifting them, ensuring that they would have multiple joy moments in a day,
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  that I neglected my own. And so this is learned behavior. This
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  is a muscle we must exercise intentionally, and it starts with asking yourself the
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  question, if I were to go back of those moments when I was taking
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  vacation with my kids, I would ask myself before I took that trip,
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  while I was on that trip, at least once twice a few times,
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  what would give me joy today? What would give me joy in this hour?
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  And then I would have to have my family work around that experience so
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  I can have that moment, because it matters. Your experience in this life
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  matters. You can go through your whole life waiting to experience this, waiting
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  for a political moment or a vote to tell you that this is when you
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  can and this is when you should and this is how it should be.
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  Or you can start deciding now. You can start voting now by simply asking
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  yourself, will this bring me joy? And when I ask my friend and
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  the question, the simple, very simple question, will it bring you joy?
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  It was so beautiful to watch her peel back the layers and quickly identify
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  that, in fact, that thing would not bring her joy, or that
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  thing in fact would bring her joy. And then I said, well,
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  spend your time doing that, spend your time pursuing that, spend your time
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  going in that direction, because again, contrary to that, we go in
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  the direction makes everybody feel comfortable and makes everything feel and go smooth for everyone
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  else. But what about you? Your needs have to be met and you
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  need to understand what those needs are. And that's while you have to ask
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  yourself the question. So I know that this is the month where we are
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  planning the year, and we're planning our season, and we're looking ahead.
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  I don't want you to go too far ahead without just asking yourself simple questions.
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  What would bring me joy today? What would be bring me joy this
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  weekend? So many people wait till the end of the week to get to
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  the weekend to only run errands and do things that they have to do.
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  Those things aren't necessarily bringing you joy, but those are the things that you
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  need to do. Those are the things that you must do so that you
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  can live your life and you can get things done. But what will bring
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  you joy this weekend? I'll give you an example, me talking about going
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  to the gym. I wasn't getting any joy about going to the gym.
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  I would get joy when the workout was complete, when I knew that I
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  committed to something that I wanted to do. Yes, I wanted to get
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  up and go to the gym. In sixteen degree temperature. Yes, I
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  did. I wanted that for myself, but I knew in the end I
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  would feel good and that would be the moment of joy that I was waiting
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  on, that I was intentionally planning for. And that's where I want you
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  to be. And I'm learning to embrace this myself. Like I said,
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  these scenarios, having a conversation with my friend, hearing this political banter and
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  chatter, and also recognizing the fact that, you know what, I really
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  made deposits of joy in my account last year, and I planned to do
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  more of the same this year. I plan to ensure that I have more
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  deposits of joy in my bank of you in twenty twenty four. And I'm
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  encouraging you to have more deposit in the bank of you when it comes to
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  your joy account in twenty twenty four. And it starts with this very simple
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  question, will this bring you joy? And you know what's really cool about
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  that question? Will it bring you joy? It is a very direct question.
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  There is no explanation. It is a yes or no, will this
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  bring you joy? Yes or no? You ask will this thing? Think
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  about anything you're being asked to do, anything, you're being invited to go
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  to this year. It has to be as simple as will it bring you
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  joy? And if the answer is yes, I say, pursue it,
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  like I told my friend. But if it doesn't, if it's gonna tear
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  you apart, tear you away from what it is as much most important to
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  you, then let it go. We cannot afford to wait. You cannot
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  afford to wait for you to guarantee that you can get to seventy and you
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  can get to the end of the year. We don't know the day or
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  the hour. We don't know what is on the other side of tomorrow.
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  But today we get to live, and we get to choose, and we
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  get to be intentional, and we get to ask ourselves a simple question,
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  will it bring me joy? And whether it's a yes or a no,
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  you know what to do and your choice it matters. I hope you enjoyed
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