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Cervical Climax: The Deepest Orgasm of Your Life with Jamie Thompson · Libido Lounge

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  Welcome to the libido lounge, where we focus on all things love, lust, and libido.
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  We believe that fabulous sex is important to health as exercise and good food.
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  Welcome back to another episode of the libido lounge.
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  I am your host, doctor Diane, the libido doc, and I'm really excited about introducing you to
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  holistic sex coach Jamie Thompson.
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  I met Jamie many years ago at a really beautiful s factor type sensual dance type
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  practice.
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  And one of the things that was instantly so striking to me about Jamie is how deeply she is
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  embodied in her feminine, in her pleasure, in her caption.
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  And it's really, really a pleasure for me to introduce you all to her today.
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  She has so many practices where she helped women in so many ways around working with
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  pleasure, finding, organizing, bliss, and so much more.
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  We're gonna talk about so many juicy details for you guys today.
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  So welcome, Jamie.
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  I'm so excited to spend some time with you today.
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  Yes.
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  It's such a pleasure to be here, Diane.
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  Thank you, and I love remembering those sensual dance days.
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  It's like forever ago in in so many ways.
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  Yeah.
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  Well, tell us a little bit about just your your path and how you got inspired to develop the
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  work that you do and, you know, why you're so passionate about working with women in the way
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  you are, and then we're gonna get into some really, you know, really fun and juicy
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  conversations today.
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  Yes.
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  Absolutely.
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  Yes.
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  I primarily at this time, I used to work with couples at this time.
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  I'm more working with groups of women online and in retreats.
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  And it's centered around sexuality, pleasure, embodying our femaleness and feminine potency
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  and really falling back in love with our bodies.
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  And for me, I grew up in exactly the opposite of that, and I I started out in a very
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  repressed religious kind of household.
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  Everything was very contained and rigid.
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  I was always feeling like I was being controlled.
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  And as I grew up later in life, I rebelled against that, and I went through this whole
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  sexual liberation phase.
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  And and in in that time, I wasn't really creating experiences that were the most deeply
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  fulfilling and heart centered for myself.
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  I also went through a phase of experiencing sexuality as what I call very utilitarian.
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  And I I think that's a phase where a lot of us end up in where it's like a utility, where I
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  would find myself with my vibrator at lunchtime in, like, a ten second climax, and it was like
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  a three minute total experience.
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  And I wasn't even actually touching myself or really connecting with my body.
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  And I always had this feeling of, like, there was something more in sexuality.
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  There was something more in this erotic energy, in this life force.
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  I I felt it and I wanted it, and it was not being found inside of my vibrator.
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  That's for sure.
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  Or inside of the relationships that I had at that time.
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  There was there was also a time where I almost married a man that we didn't we we didn't even
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  have a great sexual connection.
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  It it was like it was like I had gotten to the point where I just wanted it to be loved so
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  much that I chose a man who was wonderful and and loved me very much, and it was
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  unconditional.
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  But, like, our passion and our spark and our aliveness was missing.
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  So I've really ran the gamut of what I know a lot of people experience in sexuality and
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  intimacy and pleasure.
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  And I was in this place where I started studying sacred sexuality, and I started
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  studying more mystical, erotic, feminine arts and temple arts and tantra and these different
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  lineages that celebrate sexual energy as life force and as our creative healing
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  transformational capacity, of course, pleasure, but also this ecstatic experience of being
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  connected with all of life, with ourselves, with our partner.
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  And so I had a an erratic awakening, and it was a cervical orgasm.
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  So that's one of the reasons why I am so passionate about cervical orgasm specifically,
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  which we can talk more about.
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  But I I had an awakening while making love one day, and I was I was like, whatever just
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  happened is not what I was doing before.
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  Like, this is something very different, and it was so fulfilling.
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  And it felt like the cells in my body lit up and turned on, and I felt a new radiance.
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  And I you know, walking down the street with my head held high, I was just like, wow.
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  Whatever just happened was incredible.
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  And I I started researching and discovering that cervical orgasm is real even though not
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  all doctors are saying that still.
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  It's still understudied in many ways, but it became this path and this and this journey that
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  I was so interested in in learning more at.
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  And so that really brings me, into this present moment where I've I've just been for the last
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  six years holding groups and retreats for women to support them in these areas as well.
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  There's so much of what you just said that I feel like is so relatable, and I know we could
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  really go off on about a bazillion different topics based upon what you just shared.
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  But I think let's start because I I know a lot of the listeners and and myself included have,
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  you know, background that they can really relate to around a certain upbringing that
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  really puts this culture and this mindset on, like, what sex could be and what it should not
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  be.
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  And and one of the things I know in your work that's related to this is that topic of good
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  girl mentality.
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  Right?
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  So can you talk a little bit about that and how that plays into our sexuality, our desire, our
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  pleasure, and the programming around that?
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  Yes.
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  Absolutely.
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  So purity culture is comes from a religious doctrine and dogma that says that you are only
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  a pure and holy woman if you are not sexually active outside of marriage.
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  Right?
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  It even goes so far as to say that the that Mary was a virgin when she had Jesus.
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  Right?
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  So so purity culture is this, like, incredibly dense program that has been woven in through
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  our culture, whether you're religious or not, because the founding of our culture was
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  actually religious.
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  So this this, perspective that a woman, particularly a woman, is demonized or thought
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  of as less than or cheap if she's embodied in her sexuality, even ends up being for women who
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  are really integrated and connected with their sensuality and their sexuality, but they're
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  they're not out of integrity with it, and and they still hold their dignity.
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  There's this there's this idea in good girl programming that in order to be valued and
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  loved and chosen and trusted as a woman in the career place or for, you know, to a partner
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  choosing you, that you need to be pure.
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  Like, you need to be without sin and sex is connected to sin.
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  So whether we are aware of this or not, like, the ways that that purity culture and Google
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  program play out is, like, women don't actually speak up and use their voice.
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  Women don't ask for what they want in the workplace or in the bedroom.
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  Women aren't even connected to, like, what we most deeply desire.
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  So concerned with everyone else's needs.
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  And and so there's a and and then and that's not even to go into pleasure.
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  Right?
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  Where there's really the the pleasure becomes about someone else and and not really about
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  ourselves and really resting in in, like, what is the most pleasurable, juicy, erotic
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  experience that we could have, and how can I create that?
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  Like, how many women are actually feeling that when they connect with their partner or with
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  themselves?
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  Or how much of it is, like, utilitarian or or or just, like, a to do list item or stress
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  relief or for some or to make someone else happy and and to please someone.
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  And so this journey back into finding the embodiment of what our sensuality and desire
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  and pleasure really is is a is, like, kind of the entry step into it's talking about
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  something like cervical cervical orgasm.
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  Right?
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  It's, like, first of, like, what do you really love?
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  How does that sensation feel in your body?
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  How are you at asking for it?
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  Yeah.
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  I really like that term purity culture.
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  I think there's, you know, there's other terms out there like Madonna horror complex or, like,
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  women basically being almost reduced down to one of two things.
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  You You either have to be completely pure or completely turned off from your sexuality.
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  And if you do, if you are interested in not, quote, unquote, being pure, then you are
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  essentially get the poor label, that sort of thing.
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  And it's I think it's so important to really reclaim this, especially with what we're seeing
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  through the levels of, like, the religious programming or other programming as well as
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  what we've even seen in medicine with the hysteria movement that if you guys haven't
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  listened to some of my previous podcast episodes, we've talked about that in other
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  episodes.
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  So definitely go check some of those out.
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  I think we should go further into this.
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  You brought up this, you know, the cervical organisms a couple times.
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  So let's talk about that.
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  Let's talk about cervical organisms.
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  I know some women that are listening have heard of cervical orgasm.
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  I know we have other women that have not.
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  So maybe let's go into that and talk also about this concept that you you brought up around,
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  okay, not even knowing what we want and and the concept of who is responsible innately for
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  determining our own pleasure and and making sure that we are having the types of pleasure
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  and orgasms and and interrelational passion that we really want.
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  Can you talk about all of that?
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  Yes.
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  Absolutely.
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  I'll I'll start I'll start with that part of of just really looking at where our turn on comes
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  from.
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  And because as a woman, it's so easy to walk around and think that it's our husband or
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  partner or whatever man, prince charming that we're going to meet, it's going to be his job
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  to turn me on.
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  It's so easy to have that perspective because our turn on has been outsourced.
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  Like, we've been programmed to believe that it comes from somewhere outside of us, and we have
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  forgotten that it actually is a well that lives within.
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  And I believe that really reconnecting with our cervix is a journey into finding the deepest
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  place of that connection.
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  Because the cervix is at the very top of the vaginal canal.
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  It's the deepest part inside of the female body.
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  It's the the place that opens that welcomes life from the other world into this world.
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  I mean, it's truly a magical, tiny, little, cone shaped, just a couple centimeters big, but
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  it's this incredible organ that can orgasm and actually has the it has three nerves that
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  connect into the uterus.
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  It has the greatest, capacity for female orgasm.
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  Far greater than the the clitoris, but to really connect with your cervix and experience
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  this cervical awakening and cervical orgasm, you have to also be connected with your heart.
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  You have to be able to
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  feel inside of your body, and you actually have to map it back into your brain.
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  Because many people, if in this moment, we just pause and do a little experiment and I say,
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  feel your clitoris, we can, like, tune in and be like, oh, yeah.
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  I I know where my clitoris is.
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  I can feel that.
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  But for many women, if I say, feel your cervix, they might not be able to feel that yet.
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  Everyone can.
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  But it it hasn't been mapped in much like you wouldn't be able to feel your liver if if if
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  you tried to feel your liver unless you have intentionally created the neural pathways to
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  reignite and activate that.
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  And for many women, instead of orgasmic waves, when something touches their cervix, they feel
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  nauseous, they feel pain, they feel like sandpaper, they clench because that has been
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  our, that's been the habit that many women have created through not knowing how to really slow
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  down and open and relax and even de armor the tissues.
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  So if you imagine, you know, you haven't gotten a massage in in ten years on your shoulders,
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  like, what are, you know, what are the knots gonna be like?
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  Like, what's the tension gonna be like?
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  Like, there's actual tension to, relieve in in that space.
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  And so when you practice something like cervical de armoring or cervical awakening,
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  you're releasing the tension that is in the way of orgasm.
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  I I believe that that the only thing in the way of orgasm is, a closed mind, a closed, you
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  know, a a closed armored body, and actual physical tension that is on the cervix and in
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  the vaginal canal that has us, clench and and not open.
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  And so one one thing that everyone can practice right away that's actionable is to practice
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  next time you are working with a wand or or with your partner, practice slowing all the way
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  down and bringing the tip of the the penis or the wand right to your cervix and breathing and
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  exhaling with a sigh and practicing the experience of opening instead of clenching.
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  And the more you can practice this, the more you can start to generate awareness of your
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  cervix and your capacity to open instead of close and and breathe instead of clench.
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  Thank you.
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  There's there's a couple of comments I have.
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  One is it's it's very I feel like it's very important disconnection you're making with the
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  heart.
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  And what I wanna comment for our listeners here is, like, even in Chinese medicine with my
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  background, there is, like, this direct relationship energetically where there it's the
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  it's its own spectral energetic channel, right, that connects the heart and the uterus and and,
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  therefore, our cervix.
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  So, you know, what you're saying, I think, is so important and so spot on there.
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  And I'm also curious, you know, because I I've done my own practices with wands where you're
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  doing things like even finding, like, numbness on the cervix and being like, okay, breathing
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  into the numbness.
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  And recently, I got an IUD out, and one of the things that I really experienced with removing
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  my IUD was my capacity for cervical orgasm seemed to almost instantaneously go through the
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  roof.
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  So I'm curious from that standpoint, like, what you've seen around, like, you know, IUDs or
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  perhaps anything else that could be some sort of blockage energetically there.
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  And, you know, what you've seen in your work with that impacting women, both from a
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  standpoint of pleasure as well as perhaps from, like, holding and trauma.
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  And in those instances, are there any other actionable steps that you would guide women?
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  Yes.
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  Well, I, you know, I not being a doctor, I can't ever advise someone to take out an IUD.
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  And I have seen this happen many times where someone has a a hard time even connecting
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  really even connecting with their pussy or really even, like, being very orgasmic, and
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  then they take out their IUD and that connection increases, the energy flow
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  increases.
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  I mean, I remember I had a belly button ring at one point, and I went to Chinese medicine
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  doctor, and they were like, you're just blocking the middle of your channel.
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  I'm like, but I like it.
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  But I I took it out because it was like, okay.
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  This is actually blocking energy.
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  And and having a, you know, copper I mean, I know there's different kinds, but having some
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  kind of object in your cervix definitely blocks the flow of energy into your cervix.
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  And so I have I've seen that over and over again because a lot of cervical orgasm also is
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  energetic.
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  You're really toning your vagus nerve and and allowing the the the tension and the the tone
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  of the vagus nerve to start to expand.
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  And as that happens, you start to feel more sensation throughout your body.
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  So cervical orgasm is an access to full body orgasm also where it's not just a localized
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  clitoral experience.
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  But if you have a block in there and this block, I mean, this block can be an, you know,
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  an actual object, like an IUD, or it can be mental, or it can be a a physical tension, but
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  any kind of block is going to get in the way of the full expression of the orgasmic energy to
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  be able to travel through your whole body.
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  And I also just wanna comment on the heart because another thing that starts to happen
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  that I see so often in women, a question I get a lot is, is it okay to cry during sex?
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  You know, women women have this experience of, like, they're supposed to just be, like, sexy
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  and porny and, like, doing all the things in in in their erotic experience.
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  And a woman in her deepest, most powerful orgasm sounds more like she's giving birth than
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  a porn.
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  Like, it is, like, guttural and deep and they're shaking and sometimes there's tears and
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  there's growling and moaning.
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  And and it's it's an experience of raw feminine power coming through.
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  And when you are connected to your heart, often if you're not connected to your heart and it's
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  closed down and you're afraid to cry.
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  Right.
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  Like that's just releasing.
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  Like that's healing.
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  Like feeling is healing.
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  We welcome feeling all day long around here.
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  And it I would say that eight out of 10 cervical orgasms I have, I cry during.
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  Like, there's there's such a connection to the heart.
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  There's such an opening, and it it's it's it's both a spiritual opening and a heart and a
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  heart based opening.
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  And so to really remember that, like, this doesn't just happen, you can't just make your
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  cervix orgasm the way you can make your clitoris orgasm.
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  And it's one of the ways that I think that the cervix is is a a truth teller because it's not
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  it's not just, something that you can make happen.
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  It's really like, are you open?
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  Is your body open?
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  Is your heart open?
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  Is your spirit open?
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  Are you available?
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  Yeah.
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  Yeah.
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  I really appreciate that, and I think it's gonna raise a lot of interest for people
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  because it's not something we've actually talked a ton about on this podcast yet.
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  It's the cervical orgasm.
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  And we are about out of time, but I wanna make sure that as we, you know, pique people's
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  interest on this, we let them know how to get ahold of you.
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  I know you have a giveaway for our guests.
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  So if you wanna talk a little bit about that giveaway, we'll have that, you guys, in the
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  show notes for today.
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  And then, also, if you have any final, like, wrap up, remember this, action item type of
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  thing, we would love to leave our listeners with that as well.
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  Amazing.
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  Yes.
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  So what I would love to offer your listeners is a three part series that is an entry into
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  awakening your most juicy, alive, potent experience of your pussy and your orgasm and
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  this magical capacity that we're talking about here today.
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  And it's a series called Gush, and it's about gushing.
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  I talk about gushing.
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  I could talk about a lot of different kinds of orgasm and and really how to de armor what is
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  in the way and open to cervical orgasm.
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  So this is really the entry into that.
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  And then I have a deeper program called pussy portal, which is a six week guided journey into
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  awakening your cervical orgasm through de armoring.
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  And we work with a wand, and I guide you through the process.
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  But Gush is a great way to just, like if if you want more of what we've talked about today, I
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  go into a lot more depth with a lot of things, and and I also lead, three really powerful
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  rituals inside of inside of that.
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  So there's you'll be much more connected to your your pussy.
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  And one thing I also wanna say with this is a lot of women are starting from a place of, like
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  you said earlier, numbness, pain, disconnection, shame, all of that is welcome.
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  Like, you can really start this from wherever you are.
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  You don't need to be in your best shape, having your best day, living your best life to really
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  connect with your your pussy in a new way.
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  And I believe that the the pussy is the muse and the the oracle that can ultimately open you
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  to feeling more aliveness in your everyday life as well.
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  It's not just centered around sexuality or or sex.
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  So I will offer that.
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  We'll put that link in the show notes here.
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  It's just awakenwoman..life/gush.
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  And and then what what else?
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  Did you have another question?
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  Less actionable steps.
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  I mean, I think you already kind of covered that a little bit here with, like, remembering
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  that no matter where you are, you know, there's you can come in at any place, you know, whether
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  you're feeling shame or anything.
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  There's always a place.
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  So I think you covered some of that, but there's anything else that you wanna add as
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  just kind of a last takeaway.
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  Yes.
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  Absolutely.
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  So one one thing I do at the end of all of my work with women is is ask everyone to make one
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  tiny action.
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  I feel like sometimes this kind of transmission or talk can feel so big and, like, there's so
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  much.
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  And so I would like to ask all of your listeners to tune into what is one tiny action
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  that they can do tomorrow and the next day and the next day that would support them in what
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  they most deeply desire, something they heard here today.
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  And if you want a suggestion for one tiny action, one that I love to start women off with
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  is actually just placing their hand over their pussy, just like cupping their hand and asking,
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  what do you need?
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  What do you want?
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  What do you desire?
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  And just taking a few minutes to listen once a day and and see so you start to remap in the
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  relationship with your pussy as, like, a part of your body.
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  Sometimes there's this there's this way that, like, pussy is this thing that is, like, not
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  connected to our body.
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  Like, it's not included.
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  And so to really start to include it back in into your body and and map it back in, that
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  could be a great way to work with that.
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  I love it.
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  I love it.
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  And there's so much capacity there with reconnecting their neurological system there as
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  well and finding that connection again.
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  So great way of wrapping up.
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  Thank you so much for spending time with me today.
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  It's really great to connect with you after all of these years.
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  And remember, listeners, as always, just wrapping up here at the libido lounge, your
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  final reminder to stay sexy, stay classy, and always remember to stay a little badass y.
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  We'll see you next time.
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