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#205: How Do You Define a Hotmom? · The Hotmomz Lifestyle Podcast

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  SPEAKER_00: KC here.
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  SPEAKER_00: Welcome.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you're new to my content, I am the creator of Hot Mom's Lifestyle with a Z.
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  SPEAKER_00: Don't look it up with an S.
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  SPEAKER_00: You will get adult sites.
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  SPEAKER_00: Not that's a bad thing.
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  SPEAKER_00: Just there's that.
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  SPEAKER_00: I think they're illegal in some states.
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  SPEAKER_00: Anyway, I created Hot Mom's Lifestyle in 2018.
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  SPEAKER_00: I've been in fitness.
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  SPEAKER_00: I've been a life coach, fitness, trauma-informed gal for 17 years.
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  SPEAKER_00: But I created Hot Mom's Lifestyle after having back-to-back pregnancies and going from being uh not a mom to a mom and being a business-stelling mom with that.
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  SPEAKER_00: Those of you who have a vision, who's building a career, very driven, you got stand, it's a whole new thing, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: To build a body or a business when you've got an apartment or a house and a cat, not even married, or maybe you're married, but no kids, it's a different ballgame.
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  SPEAKER_00: Throwing kids on there, throwing extra responsibility, and then you add more fucking lived experience and you get older, kind of cold streak from me at 33, all these things.
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  SPEAKER_00: You get to a certain age and it's like you go to these identity shakeups, these identity crisis moments, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: But 2018 to 2023, we had a great run with Hot Moms.
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  SPEAKER_00: We really did.
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  SPEAKER_00: We took it to millions of dollars.
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  SPEAKER_00: Hot moms was it was the fucking vibe.
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  SPEAKER_00: Women, lots of lives were changed, including mine, however.
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  SPEAKER_00: I got really good at looking back, hard six 2020, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: I got really good at telling women what was wrong with them.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it built up and I got really resentful.
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  SPEAKER_00: And those that were with me in my inner circle, they knew this.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I was like, I'm so tired of this.
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  SPEAKER_00: I was so tired of weight loss and fitness, which is weird because that's who I am.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like I've my identity is literally a hot lums, which and I want to know what your what you define a hot mom as.
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  SPEAKER_00: I would love to know this actually, what you define as a hot mom.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if you're watching this, I need you to comment below this video, whether it's a replay or not, but comment below this video.
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  SPEAKER_00: And or you can DM if you're embarrassed to comment.
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  SPEAKER_00: I want to know how you identify a hot lum.
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  SPEAKER_00: How do you define a hot mom?
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  SPEAKER_00: So I got really good at telling women what was wrong with them.
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  SPEAKER_00: Here's you got thyroid problems, here's adrenal issues, you got mommy issues, you got daddy ones, you got this, that, and the other.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: But what I didn't do is what I didn't do was understand what each of my clients' desired identity was.
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  SPEAKER_00: It was like, okay, Christy said competence is a hot mom.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I agree with Christy fully.
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  SPEAKER_00: I would I agree fully because most women are not competitive.
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  SPEAKER_00: I've even I even struggled with it, man.
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  SPEAKER_00: I didn't struggle.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I have tools now that help me with that.
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  SPEAKER_00: What makes a woman feel confident by being a hot mom for one?
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  SPEAKER_00: It is that it's the confidence.
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  SPEAKER_00: What makes her confident?
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's the things that we focus on.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's where that's what originally I created this for is I wanted to inspire women.
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  SPEAKER_00: I wanted to, I hate the word empower, but really that's what it was about.
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  SPEAKER_00: My goal was to inspire women, empower women.
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  SPEAKER_00: And we were kind of like in the gym, girls that lived and all this shit.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it was about that confidence in the gym.
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  SPEAKER_00: It was about looking hot.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know what I'm saying?
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  SPEAKER_00: And it was a fucking vibe, man.
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  SPEAKER_00: We had a Facebook group.
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  SPEAKER_00: Who remembers that shit?
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  SPEAKER_00: Who remembers in the days of good Facebook communities?
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  SPEAKER_00: Anyone?
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  SPEAKER_00: Does anybody remember that?
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  SPEAKER_00: Oh my god, seriously.
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  SPEAKER_00: It was the best Facebook group.
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  SPEAKER_00: It was like, it was true connection.
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  SPEAKER_00: I wasn't talking at people so much.
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  SPEAKER_00: It was like we were all in there together, and I missed that so much.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so I got really, I got really resentful, really burnt out in late 2020.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I thought I needed to switch up the offers and go feminine, go spiritual, go all this stuff.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it was great.
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  SPEAKER_00: But now what happened was it showed me what I want and what I don't want.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I just realized what happened was that we need to bring it back.
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  SPEAKER_00: We need to bring it back.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's it.
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  SPEAKER_00: We need to bring it back to not here's what's wrong with you, here's all the shit that's wrong with you, and let's fix it.
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  SPEAKER_00: It instead, let's just go to fucking like being fucking hot, confident, mindset, take it on the fucking world, fuck shame, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Whatever we're ashamed of.
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  SPEAKER_00: Just moving forward, just like this.
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  SPEAKER_00: It feels like a very youthful energy.
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  SPEAKER_00: It feels like a not an older woman thing, not a midlife thing, high five and wine and then wine and stuff like that.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's different.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's we're in the fucking gym, we're focused on our bodies, we're building our lives, we're creating intentionally, we're building our confidence, our mindset.
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  SPEAKER_00: And we're all in there together.
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  SPEAKER_00: The community solid.
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  SPEAKER_00: Anybody miss that in Facebook?
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  SPEAKER_00: Who who remembers when Facebook groups actually felt like a community?
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  SPEAKER_00: And I'm curious to know for those of you watching, where are you getting that now?
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  SPEAKER_00: Be honest.
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  SPEAKER_00: The only place I can remotely get it is my mastermind.
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  SPEAKER_00: But it's in school, it's in our app platform.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's about or this when we go live, but I have to catch certain people to go live.
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  SPEAKER_00: Is this Jesse?
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm thinking Jessica from Florida.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let me know.
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  SPEAKER_00: Were you in the hot moms group?
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  SPEAKER_00: Were you in the hot moms 2020?
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  SPEAKER_00: Let me know.
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  SPEAKER_00: Who was in who remembers the Facebook groups when it was like fire?
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  SPEAKER_00: You know what I'm saying?
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  SPEAKER_00: Who remembers that?
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  SPEAKER_00: So it's one of them.
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  SPEAKER_00: So Jesse, tell me.
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  SPEAKER_00: Tell me.
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  SPEAKER_00: 2020.
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  SPEAKER_00: That was like hot mom like green era.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's right before we went got married.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's why I don't recognize you last night.
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  SPEAKER_00: So the 2020, so you fucking remember this shit.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, because I was thinking you came in 2021.
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  SPEAKER_00: All right.
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  SPEAKER_00: So would you agree?
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  SPEAKER_00: Stop fucking fire because we were all into our bodies, like all into our bodies, all into the gym.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yes, we yes, we covered hormones and we covered things like that, but it was more on the confidence, the fire, the and it wasn't hype.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's the thing.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like it wasn't hype.
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  SPEAKER_00: It was just the word help me.
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  SPEAKER_00: What's the word?
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  SPEAKER_00: It just felt better.
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  SPEAKER_00: It just fucking felt better.
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  SPEAKER_00: She said yes.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like it just felt better.
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  SPEAKER_00: I don't know if you're saying yes to that.
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  SPEAKER_00: But where are you getting that now, Jesse?
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  SPEAKER_00: Like Jessica, where are you getting this now?
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm curious.
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  SPEAKER_00: I even asked a Gen Z yesterday, and I was like, where do y'all have community?
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  SPEAKER_00: Like when you purchase coaching or something like where's the community?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because other places that I've purchased and stuff like that, it's been in this weird group.
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  SPEAKER_00: The group feels weird.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like, I'm missing fucking Facebook groups.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like literally, I'm I miss that shit.
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  SPEAKER_00: So we're bringing it back.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're fucking bringing it back.
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  SPEAKER_00: Hot moms is coming back.
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  SPEAKER_00: Brand new look though, because what happened was now I wear this.
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  SPEAKER_00: We have new it's new offers, clearly.
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  SPEAKER_00: We've been working our asses off.
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  SPEAKER_00: Literally, working our asses off.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're bringing it back with a new app, just new everything, honestly.
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  SPEAKER_00: But the same core fire.
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  SPEAKER_00: Coach, what did it say?
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  SPEAKER_00: Coach Sam.
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  SPEAKER_00: You right?
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  SPEAKER_00: You gotta say it.
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  SPEAKER_00: So you're a coach, you feel the swing too, and I'm bringing it back, baby.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm bringing it back.
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  SPEAKER_00: Facebook group, we're gonna do it.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm not gonna, I'm not gonna offer y'all shit tonight.
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  SPEAKER_00: Not here to offer you shit and give you leads.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm just saying, those of you who follow me in hot moms, we're bringing it back.
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  SPEAKER_00: She's gonna look different.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're gonna start seeing some different name changes around here.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because hot moms have been real, I've been doing this 17 years.
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  SPEAKER_00: Hot moms came on the scene in 2017, 18.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because 2017, it was the long-you maintenance program.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then it turned into hot moms, and we took that motherfucker to millions, and women were just like, we were hashtagging everywhere.
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  SPEAKER_00: It was a fucking vibe.
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  SPEAKER_00: And we're bringing it back.
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  SPEAKER_00: I need it, you need it, we all need it.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, what I want to know today though, through is what how do you define a hot mom?
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  SPEAKER_00: How do you find a hot mom?
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  SPEAKER_00: Christy said confidence.
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  SPEAKER_00: How I define a hot mom is I like the way adult stars look, to be honest.
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  SPEAKER_00: I used to get inspired by watching the girls next door, Playboy models, Maxim, and stuff like that.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm like Dolly Porter.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know how Dolly said she thought the tramp was pretty?
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm kind of like that too.
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  SPEAKER_00: I thought the adult porn stars were looked really good and I wanted to look like that.
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  SPEAKER_00: So to me, I still won't like that.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know?
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  SPEAKER_00: But for me, a hot mom is of course confident, okay?
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  SPEAKER_00: Of course confident.
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  SPEAKER_00: She's got energy, and it's not fake.
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  SPEAKER_00: She's not it's not fake energy.
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  SPEAKER_00: She's not all we don't need even caffeine anymore.
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  SPEAKER_00: Literally, y'all.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm training without caffeine.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's crazy.
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  SPEAKER_00: But definitely confident.
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  SPEAKER_00: I want to know what welcome.
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  SPEAKER_00: I need to know how you define a hot mom, please.
• 7:19
  SPEAKER_00: And sure, we did call putting out.
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  SPEAKER_00: We could go there.
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  SPEAKER_00: We could go to the libido.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's fine.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe she's got some boo to wear sheetson.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe she's doing some photo sheets, fine.
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  SPEAKER_00: But definitely a hot mom is one view.
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  SPEAKER_00: Just chooses herself and the time with herself, alone time, her journal time, her spiritual time, her gym time.
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  SPEAKER_00: She values having a nice body.
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  SPEAKER_00: She wants to eat well.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's a hot mom.
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  SPEAKER_00: She cares about how she looks, she respects herself.
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  SPEAKER_00: Other people respect her.
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  SPEAKER_00: She's head turning.
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  SPEAKER_00: Men look at her, men notice her, women notice her.
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  SPEAKER_00: She's light.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know what I'm saying?
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  SPEAKER_00: People like her.
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  SPEAKER_00: She's doing things.
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  SPEAKER_00: To me, that's a hot mom.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's a hot one who and she goes for it.
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  SPEAKER_00: She's very brave.
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  SPEAKER_00: Hot mom's very brave, very courageous.
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  SPEAKER_00: And she's just hot.
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  SPEAKER_00: Period.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I would love to know how you define a hotlow.
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  SPEAKER_00: I want to know.
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  SPEAKER_00: I want to know right now.
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  SPEAKER_00: And if you're on the replay, let me know.
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  SPEAKER_00: And did I miss anything here?
• 8:14
  SPEAKER_00: Let me look and see if I miss anything here.
• 8:16
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
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  SPEAKER_00: The notes here say I'm finally showing up as myself.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I will say, I told my mastermind BFs earlier.
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  SPEAKER_00: I said it feels like I got on some ride.
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  SPEAKER_00: It feels like the Barbie journey.
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  SPEAKER_00: It feels like I went on some weird spiritual journey that said, Hey, I want to become this thing.
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  SPEAKER_00: I want to inspire women.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're going to build this thing, and I see it, and it's going to change how women approach their bodies.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: I just want to inspire people to do other things.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I started in 2009.
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  SPEAKER_00: All right.
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  SPEAKER_00: We fast forward, fast forward.
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  SPEAKER_00: 2017, we created hotlums.
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  SPEAKER_00: We took that to$2 million per year.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then I was like, I don't like this.
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  SPEAKER_00: I wanted to change some things.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so now we're back and we've changed the things.
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  SPEAKER_00: But that was 10 years.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's almost like I took this medicine or something.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I went through a decade of change and just like a movie or something.
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  SPEAKER_00: I went through a hero giant, literally.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then when I'm done and I'm back back, something spit me out, puked me up, and I'm right back to where I was at.
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  SPEAKER_00: But with all this knowledge and wisdom is crazy, is all I could say.
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  SPEAKER_00: It feels really good.
• 9:21
  SPEAKER_00: It feels really good.
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  SPEAKER_00: I went to the dark, came back, and brought back some light.
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  SPEAKER_00: So it's like, it's almost like I said yes, I wanted this thing, but I it was unearned wisdom.
• 9:30
  SPEAKER_00: It was like who I was supposed to be for you, for me, for we.
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  SPEAKER_00: I had to become her, right?
• 9:35
  SPEAKER_00: And so this new rebrand of Hot Moms, it's more than just some cool new colors and logos and app.
• 9:42
  SPEAKER_00: It's I feel like this time it's definitely gonna be more of the movement.
• 9:45
  SPEAKER_00: So if you've been feeling something started in you, yes, it's gonna be a lot of fitness, it's gonna be a lot of food, fun, fuckery, and all of that.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's all I'm gonna say.
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  SPEAKER_00: So keep your eyes peeled.
• 9:55
  SPEAKER_00: You're gonna just start seeing a lot of the changes around here.
• 9:57
  SPEAKER_00: We've got some lives coming up.
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  SPEAKER_00: I've got some things to share with you.
• 10:00
  SPEAKER_00: I can't share today.
• 10:01
  SPEAKER_00: I think we're dropping it on Friday.
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  SPEAKER_00: We are releasing some of the things if you're on my email list.
• 10:05
  SPEAKER_00: And if you want the like pre-pre-launch, you can just DM me and say, give me the dates.
• 10:10
  SPEAKER_00: Whatever.
• 10:11
  SPEAKER_00: This says I miss the accountability of that group.
• 10:13
  SPEAKER_00: Your videos back then really slacked.
• 10:15
  SPEAKER_00: It was everything I needed at the time.
• 10:17
  SPEAKER_00: Back to filing this new chapter.
• 10:19
  SPEAKER_00: Jessica, I love you.
• 10:20
  SPEAKER_00: I loved when you were helping us run coaching calls.
• 10:23
  SPEAKER_00: So many things.
• 10:23
  SPEAKER_00: I'm gonna share with y'all.
• 10:25
  SPEAKER_00: You don't even know.
• 10:26
  SPEAKER_00: It's like I went on a fucking sabbatical and I brought y'all back shirts and stuff and stories to tell.
• 10:33
  SPEAKER_00: And the shit's better.
• 10:34
  SPEAKER_00: The shit's so much better than it was.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay, so there's that.
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  SPEAKER_00: Define what you think.
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  SPEAKER_00: What is a hot mom to you?
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  SPEAKER_00: I need to know.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because if you don't know, become one.
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  SPEAKER_00: So what in your mind what is a hot mom?
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  SPEAKER_00: I want to hear about it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Put it in the comments.
• 10:48
  SPEAKER_00: And if you're watching this on replay, I would love to hear.
• 10:50
  SPEAKER_00: And you were there in the Facebook groups back in the 2020 and 2021 the sweet.
• 10:55
  SPEAKER_00: 2021 was my favorite.
• 10:56
  SPEAKER_00: 2020 was my fing favorite year.
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  SPEAKER_00: And what's crazy about 2021, I wasn't even a millionaire yet.
• 11:03
  SPEAKER_00: Seriously.
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  SPEAKER_00: I think I made my first 90k month in December.
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  SPEAKER_00: But the fucking everything before then, oh my god, 2021 had and it had nothing to do with money.
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  SPEAKER_00: That it had it was great.
• 11:12
  SPEAKER_00: 2021, 2021, I was so connected to the work.
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  SPEAKER_00: We were doing so much new training.
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  SPEAKER_00: We were fucking motivated.
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  SPEAKER_00: Everybody was like hitting their fucking body goals.
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  SPEAKER_00: And we were doing in it, we were doing it in a way with no cardio.
• 11:24
  SPEAKER_00: We were like, no fuck cardio.
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  SPEAKER_00: We were all all top of our fucking nutrition shit.
• 11:27
  SPEAKER_00: And it was just fucking easy.
• 11:29
  SPEAKER_00: And that's how it gets to go.
• 11:30
  SPEAKER_00: All right, I could just stay on here until it's chill forever.
• 11:32
  SPEAKER_00: But I'm not.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm gonna go in there and I need to watch something on and chill with my fam.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I'm excited.
• 11:38
  SPEAKER_00: You're excited.
• 11:39
  SPEAKER_00: We're excited.
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  SPEAKER_00: Happy that you're back, happy that we're back.
• 11:41
  SPEAKER_00: Keep your eyes peeled.
• 11:42
  SPEAKER_00: DM me if you want the early access info.
• 11:44
  SPEAKER_00: But I need you, your only job is to just define what a hot mom is.
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  SPEAKER_00: I need to know that.
• 11:48
  SPEAKER_00: Give me a DM too if you don't want to comment because I need to know.
• 11:51
  SPEAKER_00: I literally, we need to know what we're gonna use your words in some of this new branding of what a hot mom is.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: Bye.