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Question Driven Living 5: Finish Strong Friday · Dr. Derek H. Suite MD - The SuiteSpot

• 0:06
  Speaker 1: Well, you did it.
• 0:07
  Speaker 1: You did it.
• 0:09
  Speaker 1: You made it to Friday.
• 0:12
  Speaker 1: Finish strong Friday as well.
• 0:15
  Speaker 1: This is the sweet spot, and I'm Dr Derek Sweet.
• 0:19
  Speaker 1: I'm your host.
• 0:20
  Speaker 1: For those of you who don't know me, I'm a board certified psychiatrist.
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  Speaker 1: I specialize in sports, psychiatry and high performance, but, as you know, I enjoy love, helping people attain the best life ever.
• 0:36
  Speaker 1: Live the life you love.
• 0:38
  Speaker 1: And this Fitness, strong Friday we're tackling.
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  Speaker 1: This entire week we've been tackling actually living with the right question, living a question-driven life, as opposed to just looking for answers or being constrained by the tyranny of having to have an answer right now.
• 0:59
  Speaker 1: We've been doing the opposite.
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  Speaker 1: We've been saying if you can ask the right question, it can lead you to the right answer or open up pathways that may not have been available to you if you didn't ask the question.
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  Speaker 1: But let me ask you how are you finishing this week?
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  Speaker 1: Are you crawling to the weekend drained, just trying to survive, just happy to make it?
• 1:24
  Speaker 1: Weekend Drained, just trying to survive, just happy to make it.
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  Speaker 1: Or are you ending strong, vibrant, with clarity, energy and momentum?
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  Speaker 1: Look, many of us just treat Friday like a finish line TGIF.
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  Speaker 1: We just check out, but guess what?
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  Speaker 1: High performers, the elite athletes and high performers I work with, they see it as a launch pad and the key difference, it's the question they ask themselves before they close out the week.
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  Speaker 1: That's why today's question is what will you carry into the weekend?
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  Speaker 1: Kobe Bryant once said rest at the end, not in the middle.
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  Speaker 1: Now, that's Mamba mentality.
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  Speaker 1: You don't just coast because it's Friday.
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  Speaker 1: You use this moment to set up your next move and you have to be constantly thinking like that.
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  Speaker 1: And the best way to do that, ask yourself a better question.
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  Speaker 1: Before you step into the weekend, think about what questions you should be asking yourself.
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  Speaker 1: What questions do I want to even take into the weekend?
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  Speaker 1: We don't think like that because we're not taught to think about the questions we need to ask and to ask ourselves these questions.
• 2:42
  Speaker 1: And let's talk about how this works from a scientific perspective.
• 2:45
  Speaker 1: You know we love science here on the Sweet Spot.
• 2:47
  Speaker 1: Your brain loves closure.
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  Speaker 1: It wants to wrap things up and move on.
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  Speaker 1: It wants the finish line.
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  Speaker 1: But here's the trick If you close out your week with the right question, your subconscious keeps working on it, even when you're resting.
• 3:04
  Speaker 1: That's called the Zygarnik effect.
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  Speaker 1: I know many of you are like oh my god.
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  Speaker 1: Did he bring back the Zygarnik effect?
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  Speaker 1: Yes, the Zygarnik effect.
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  Speaker 1: Remember?
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  Speaker 1: We talked about that?
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  Speaker 1: That's the whole effect when psychologists found that our minds tend to hold on to unfinished business.
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  Speaker 1: That's why you randomly think of solutions while you're in the shower, you're on a walk, you're in the kitchen.
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  Speaker 1: Your brain just keeps processing on whatever it is that you've left open, and it'll keep processing until we get to the finish line.
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  Speaker 1: So instead of asking what didn't I finish or why was this week so stressful, I want you to flip the script, ask a different question, ask this question what question do I want to carry into the weekend?
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  Speaker 1: I know it sounds weird, it's awkward, it's clumsy.
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  Speaker 1: What question do I want to carry into the weekend?
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  Speaker 1: Because, let me tell you, you got to let go of certain things.
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  Speaker 1: You have to figure out which question you're going to take, because you are taking a question in.
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  Speaker 1: You just don't realize it until you slow down enough to realize that, hey, I am taking questions in.
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  Speaker 1: Buddhist wisdom teaches us something similar, right?
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  Speaker 1: There's a Zen saying let go or be dragged One of my favorite, favorite quotes of all time Let go or be dragged.
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  Speaker 1: This is good for relationships too.
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  Speaker 1: When we get to talking about relationships.
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  Speaker 1: We talk about this.
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  Speaker 1: Sometimes you've got to let go because you're being dragged, because you're not letting go right.
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  Speaker 1: But I digress Let go or be dragged.
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  Speaker 1: What does this mean for asking the right question?
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  Speaker 1: The meaning here is this If you don't choose what you're going to take with you into the weekend, your mind will drag all the unfinished thoughts, all the stress and all the doubts into your weekend.
• 5:03
  Speaker 1: It's just how it works, into your weekend.
• 5:05
  Speaker 1: It's just how it works.
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  Speaker 1: But if you consciously carry the right question, one that expands you, motivates you and gives you clarity, you set yourself up for growth.
• 5:23
  Speaker 1: How will I excel this weekend?
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  Speaker 1: How will I affirm myself this weekend?
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  Speaker 1: What things am I going to let go of so that I can have an awesome weekend?
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  Speaker 1: Where do I need to say no so that I can have a yes to my weekend?
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  Speaker 1: How will I access self-care this weekend?
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  Speaker 1: How will I slow down this weekend?
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  Speaker 1: Those are the kinds of questions I'm just giving you hints.
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  Speaker 1: But you've got to find the right question to take into your weekend so that your mind can work on that, as opposed to oh, my god, I didn't do this, I've got that to do.
• 5:59
  Speaker 1: Oh, this is never going to work that kind of thing.
• 6:03
  Speaker 1: And if you want a no BS take on this, go with David Goggins.
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  Speaker 1: That dude scares me, man.
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  Speaker 1: He's one of the toughest motivators I've ever listened to and his take is very straightforward you are in danger of living a life so comfortable if you don't get to what you have to do, and so soft that you can die without ever realizing your true potential.
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  Speaker 1: A little harsh, but that's what he said.
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  Speaker 1: That's why this moment matters.
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  Speaker 1: The way you finish this week determines how you're going to start the next one.
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  Speaker 1: It's all about what you have to let go.
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  Speaker 1: It's all about prioritizing yourself.
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  Speaker 1: It's all about asking you have to let go.
• 6:47
  Speaker 1: It's all about prioritizing yourself.
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  Speaker 1: It's all about asking yourself the right questions.
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  Speaker 1: So that's why I want you to take two minutes today, grab a piece of paper, write down one powerful question that you want to carry into your weekend on this Finish Strong Friday.
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  Speaker 1: I want you to carry this paper with you, carry the question with you.
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  Speaker 1: It could be look, what did I learn this week that I can apply next week?
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  Speaker 1: That's a great question that just sets your mind up to be in the right direction.
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  Speaker 1: What did I learn this week that I can apply next week?
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  Speaker 1: Or where am I resisting growth and how can I lean into it?
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  Speaker 1: Where am I resisting growth and how can I lean into it?
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  Speaker 1: Or am I proud of how I showed up this week?
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  Speaker 1: And if not, what am I going to change?
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  Speaker 1: These are just some questions.
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  Speaker 1: I'm just throwing them out to you, but you've got to figure out your questions and make sure you're not saying questions like why am I a mess up?
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  Speaker 1: Or why am I not doing?
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  Speaker 1: It's not about the negative, it's about thinking about growth and positivity.
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  Speaker 1: So pick one, let it sit in your mind.
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  Speaker 1: Don't rush for an answer.
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  Speaker 1: I just want you to live with the question for an answer.
• 8:06
  Speaker 1: I just want you to live with the question.
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  Speaker 1: Be with the question, even if it's what do I want?
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  Speaker 1: What do I want, what do I want this weekend?
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  Speaker 1: Okay, so this is how you finish strong.
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  Speaker 1: You're going to let the question guide you over the weekend and, trust me, by Monday you'll already be thinking differently.
• 8:26
  Speaker 1: This is Dr Sweet.
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  Speaker 1: Great things come from hard work and perseverance.
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  Speaker 1: No excuses, don't negotiate with yourself.
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  Speaker 1: This is Finish Strong Friday.
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  Speaker 1: So you're going to finish strong.
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  Speaker 1: You're not going to just grind.
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  Speaker 1: You're going to think different.
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  Speaker 1: You're going to take a question with you into the weekend and let that question shape your weekend and get you to the next level.
• 8:49
  Speaker 1: Until I see you tomorrow for Self-Care Saturday, keep questioning, keep growing and be amazing.
• 8:59
  Speaker 1: This is Dr Sweet.
• 9:00
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• 9:09
  Speaker 1: Take care.