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Reduce Alcohol Hypnosis to Avoid the Pitfalls That Can Lead to Relapse · The Hypnotist

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Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing
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genuine. Issues.
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Brought to you by The Hypnotherapist, demanded by
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celebrities CE OS and even royalty Adam Cox, these
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recordings took place live from Evans Clinic in London's world
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famous Harley Street. So get yourself comfortable and
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enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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Hi, it's Adam here. Now if you've ever struggled
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with either reducing alcohol or quitting alcohol, I think you're
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going to get some value from this session because it uses 2
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metaphors that I really like and they're kind of gamification. 1
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is a board game, Snakes and Ladders, and the other is one of
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my favorite games Playing as a child was Super Mario Kart and
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occasionally the opponent in front would throw a banana skin
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and try and have you slip off the track.
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Now I was working with a client that made amazing progress,
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really reduced the amount of alcohol that they were drinking
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because they wanted to reduce the amount of alcohol.
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But there's a few things that triggered them into drinking and
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we can think of these has banana skins or snakes on the snakes
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and ladders board. And actually one of the key
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things here is to use that as reconnaissance and say, well,
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look, if the same thing happened, what would I do
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differently? And that's the whole premise of
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this hypnosis session is to learn from the past to empower
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you in the future. So I would say you're going to
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benefit most from this session if there is something that you
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want to reduce. Now, I use alcohol because
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that's what the client wanted. But for you, it might be snacks
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or it might be cigarettes, or it might be a recreational drug of
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some kind, Whatever you want to reduce more of.
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And before you listen to this session, it's worth thinking
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about. What are the banana skins for
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you? Now, quite often banana skins
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can be environments being with certain people.
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It might be locations, certain places.
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So for this lady it was the pub and certain friends that would
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visit with a bottle of wine. For you, it might be a different
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environment. It might be certain situations
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that feel very stressful, or it might be people that are using
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certain substances and then you feel that you know there's an
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obligation for you to kind of partake or get involved as well.
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The key thing is to think about your banana skins and these
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might be emotional, feeling bad or or other things, but think
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about those. And then this uses a snakes and
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ladders metaphor. And if you're not familiar with
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snakes and ladders, it's just a board game with 100 squares and
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you roll the dice. But a ladder is a shortcut and a
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snake makes you go back. And normally I've worked with
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many, many people, they will unconsciously be playing this
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game with snakes and ladders, particularly for weight loss.
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They'll say, you know, I was doing amazingly and then I had a
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slice of cake and then a biscuit, and then I went all the
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way back to square 1. And how demotivating would that
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feel if you genuinely felt that you could undo months of
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progress in one decision? And that's why snakes and
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ladders can be a disempowering metaphor if it's unconsciously
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sabotaging you, but it can also be very empowering because if
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you know where the snakes are, you can avoid them in the
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future. So if you want to make a change,
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reduce something or avoid something, you'll benefit from
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this, but you'll benefit even more if you are trying to reduce
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alcohol because that's the client that I was working with
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and their goal is it's going to be more direct for you.
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If you like the idea of working with me and you want something a
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bit more bespoke, entirely tailored to you, then I would
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encourage you to look in the description where there is a
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link where you can book a completely free consultation
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call. We can have a chat and you can
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see if I'm the right hypnotherapist to work with you.
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For now though, find a quiet, comfortable place where you're
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not going to be disturbed. Relax and enjoy the session.
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Take a deep breath in, and as you breathe in, breathe in that
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feeling of calm relaxation. And as you exhale, just release
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all tension in your eyelids and with your eyes closed, feel a
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release as you breathe in relaxation and exhale tension,
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each breath feeling like you're breathing in what your body
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needs and exhaling anything you've been holding onto that
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isn't needed here in this moment now.
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And maybe that's tension or stress or frustration or
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boredom, but just feel that you're letting go.
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And many emotions are stored in the body.
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Tension sometimes around the jaw or the neck or the shoulders.
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Restlessness or anxiety, sometimes deep in the gut.
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But I want you to imagine breathing in a warm feeling of
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relaxation that just melts away any of those sensations,
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enabling you to feel like you're drifting deeper and deeper.
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Relaxed breathing in what you need and exhaling what you
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don't. The deeper you breathe, the more
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relaxed you become. And the more relaxed you become,
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the deeper you breathe, each breath taking you deeper than
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the last. And I want you to think of a
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memory, maybe a long time ago, of either you playing a game or
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watching a game of Snakes and ladders.
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I want you to see that board with 100 squares, maybe see
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coloured counters, someone rolling a die.
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And I want you to get a sense that the premise is an easy game
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to follow. You have to make your way from
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square 1 all the way to square 100.
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The ladders become the shortcut and the snakes become the
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pitfalls, meaning you have to cover old ground.
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And sometimes life can feel like a game of snakes and ladders
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with one big difference. In the game of snakes and
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ladders, it's all random based on the roll of a dice.
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But in life, every snake you fall on means you know exactly
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what to avoid in the future. A nice way of thinking about it
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in life is like a game that you either win or you learn.
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And I want you to think of all the progress you've already
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made, and that's a win. And sometimes even doubting
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something you used to believe fully is a win.
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Questioning old thoughts, old ideas, even replaying things in
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your mind that you could do differently is a win.
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But I want you to think that sometimes it can feel like
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you've taking a few steps backward, that you've fallen on
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a snake. And whether you think of them as
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snakes or banana skins or pitfalls, your mind knows that
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they are things to be wary of. Weaknesses and Achilles heel
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What if you are wiser because of those times that you slipped on
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those banana skins or landed on a snake?
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So as you breathe in and breathe out, I want you to imagine that
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square 100 winning the game is having the kind of relationship
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with alcohol that you would want.
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And no, you are living that way, that your intentions and your
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actions are aligned and you're not quite there yet, but you're
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not at square one. You're perhaps halfway up the
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board because of all the progress you've already made,
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and you can feel proud of that progress, but still eager to
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avoid those future snakes that may take it longer to get to
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that future. The future where you have the
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ideal relationship with alcohol for you.
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I want you to think maybe in the last few weeks you may have
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landed on a snake or two and although it might be frustrating
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to take a few steps back, you are now wiser.
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This was not losing, it was reconnaissance, because you now
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know exactly what they are and where they are.
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And I want you to think that one of those snakes is hearing bad
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news of some kind. I want you to think back to a
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time when you heard bad news, and that bad news was
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justification to have a drink. But you're wiser now.
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So knowing what you now know, I want you to think back to that
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same bad news, only this time, do what you would like to do
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instead. And maybe that's going for a
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walk, or playing with your dogs or doing some exercise.
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But when you can see that version of you doing what you
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would have liked to have done instead, let me know by nodding
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your head and then place it from the past into the future,
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knowing that there will be bad news because there always is,
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only this time. Imagine getting a sense that
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when you hear bad news, alcohol is so far down the list it
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doesn't even appear because there's so many other things
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that would help better. And another snake might be
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different news. Good news, celebrations.
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I want you to think of a time when you heard good news, and
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that good news LED you to drink more than you wanted.
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And knowing what you now know, imagine seeing you like you're
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someone else. Deal with that same good news in
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a way that feels much more empowering to you.
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And maybe it was drinking, but just drinking a little.
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Or maybe it was drinking nothing at all and just celebrating with
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congratulations, a smile, a hug. Because there are many people in
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the world that don't drink, but that doesn't mean they don't
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celebrate. And I want you to feel that
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you're harnessing all of the strategies of the millions upon
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millions of people that don't drink alcohol, feeling like you
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can celebrate in the way they celebrate.
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And if you choose to drink, it's because you choose to, not
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because you feel obliged to. Then that's a sneaky snake
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because it doesn't feel like a trap until the next day.
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And it was. But I want you to think of
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social snakes. Your friends aren't snakes, but
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the situation can be. Many things in nature seem
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attractive, desirable on the surface, and it's only when it's
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too late do you realize it was a trap.
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Think of a family looking at a Venus flytrap.
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That pungent smell is delicious to a family, but the moment it
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figures out by touching that second hair in the trap, the
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trap is already closing and it's too late.
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I want you to get a feeling then Feeling an expectation, a social
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pressure, a feeling that it would be rude not to are all
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these sneaky snakes that can send you back back in a
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direction you don't want to go. But I want you to think that
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there are many ways to sidestep those snakes to avoid the banana
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skins. People are reasonable when
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you've got good reasons. So imagine seeing yourself.
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Whether it's friends coming over with a bottle of wine or going
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to a pub, or celebrating at a big obsession or occasion, I
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want you to see yourself armed with good reasons why you're
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drinking less or not at all. If you can see that version of
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you dealing with situations in your past in a way to sidestep
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those banana skins, let me know by nodding your head.
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But having good reasons isn't the only strategy.
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I want you to feel empowered whenever you have a delicious or
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desirable alternative. That could be a refreshing glass
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of water, a soft drink, a juice, a mocktail, or perhaps an
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alcohol free beer. These aren't poor quality
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substitutes. These are ways that you get to
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be involved, connect, socialize and have fun without the need to
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drink more than you want to. And some of these you can create
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yourself. Maybe imagine friends coming
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over, They gift you a bottle of wine, but you make them a
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delicious drink, a cocktail perhaps either low or no
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alcohol. It adds to the experience, with
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no need for awkwardness or rudeness.
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It enhances the experience, not detracting from it.
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I want you to get a sense. Then another snake is the day
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after. Imagine seeing yourself opening
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a fridge and seeing half a bottle 1/4 of a bottle of wine.
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In the past, this would have been a temptation, but I want
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you to see that version of you that is affirming a new
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identity. Because every time you simply
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tip away leftover wine down the sink or even better, down the
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toilet, you are voting to empower the version of you that
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will drink only when you decide it's worth it.
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Only in special occasions, and only at the amount that you
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decide it being leftover just isn't desirable enough for you.
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I want you to think of someone half eating some food.
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Would you eat someone's leftover food, not from the main dish,
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but from their plate? If there was leftover wine in
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someone else's glass, would you drink their wine?
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The fact that it's in a bottle doesn't mean it's different.
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It's just leftovers. And imagine yourself seeing that
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leftover wine and confidently, in an empowered way, tipping it
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away, feeling you don't want it, you don't need it.
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If you could imagine that, let me know by nodding your head.
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And then rewind it. Step into that version of you
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and imagine. Imagine a friend unexpectedly
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arrives at the door gifting you a bottle of wine and feel how
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you would feel if you politely declined, had an alternative,
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and even if there was some leftover the next day you felt
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empowered by tipping it away. And if you could imagine what
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this would feel like in your own body from that first person
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perspective, let me know by nodding your head.
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That's it. I want you to get a good feeling
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that you know where the banana skins are now, you know where
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the snakes are, you know where the pitfalls are, and therefore
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you can elegantly sidestep them, leap over them and avoid them.
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Meaning it's now quicker than ever before to get to that
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desirable future on square 100, where you have exactly the
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relationship with alcohol that you want.
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And even if there's a snake that you haven't identified yet, it's
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fine to fall on it the first time, to go back a few steps,
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because it's not a loss if you learn.
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If you can extract the wisdom, then falling down makes you rise
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up stronger. I want you to feel that whatever
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happens now, so long as you learn from the past, you'll get
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to where you want to get to quicker than ever before.
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And that doesn't mean a future with no alcohol, just alcohol on
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your terms. Not because you have to have it
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or need it, only because you want it on your terms.
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And let's go to that square 100 and imagine what that would feel
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like. Perhaps two months, six months,
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even a year from now. Feel what it would feel like to
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have the exact relationship with alcohol that you would want.
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Even if someone bought a round, put it on your table.
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You could politely say no, Offer it to someone else.
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Even if someone tops up your glass, you don't have to drink
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it. If someone gifts you, either for
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dinner party or a birthday present, there's no obligation
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to consume it. And when you feel that the
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future is viable and desirable, let me know by nodding your
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head. That's it, and I want you to
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awaken all of those future resources now, even before you
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get there and as you look back from that future, realise you
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didn't need to be perfect and the occasional slip up on a
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banana skin actually enhanced your ability to move forward.
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Setbacks aren't a problem so long as you learn from them.
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And with that in mind, it's time to leave this imaginary snakes
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and ladders board and feel like you're returning to the present,
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but with now a subconscious X-ray vision of knowing where
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the pit falls, the snakes and the banana skins are, and any
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that are invisible. You don't mind falling so long
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as you get up quick and learn how to mitigate and avoid them
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in the future. It's time to leave this place to
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take a deep breath in through your nose and out through your
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nose. Just wiggle your fingers, wiggle
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your toes, connect and calibrate into the here and the now as I
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now count from 1:00 to 10:00 to awaken you.
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Starting to count 123 waking up 456 more alert 7-8.
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Open your eyes, open your eyes, 910.
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Wide awake, wide awake, wide awake.
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