Covert Narcissist Abuse: Why You Keep Defending Someone Who's Hurting You

The Advisor with Stacey Chillemi · Jun 1, 2026 · 51m

You find yourself explaining his behavior to your friends. Making excuses to your family. Convincing yourself it wasn't that bad — again. Covert narcissist abuse doesn't look like abuse from the outside, and that's exactly what makes it so dangerous. There are no visible bruises. Just a slow, systematic erosion of your reality until you genuinely can't tell anymore whether the problem is him or you. Sammie DeMarco lived inside that confusion, found her way out, and became a certified divorce recovery coach specifically to reach the women still trapped in it. If you've ever caught yourself…