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Question Driven Living 3: Win It All Wednesday · Dr. Derek H. Suite MD - The SuiteSpot

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  Speaker 1: all right, champions.
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  Speaker 1: Wow, you did it.
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  Speaker 1: It's win it all.
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  Speaker 1: Wednesday and you're here at the sweet spot.
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  Speaker 1: I'm dr derek sweet, I'm your host.
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  Speaker 1: I'm a board certified psychiatrist and I specialize in high performance and sports psychiatry.
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  Speaker 1: But you know what I love more than all of that?
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  Speaker 1: I love helping people live the best life they can possibly live, living a life they love, and I enjoy seeing people win at life.
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  Speaker 1: So this week, we've been talking all about this whole nature concept here, and the concept is, well you know, do we have the right question in mind?
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  Speaker 1: Are we asking the right questions?
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  Speaker 1: Are we just looking for solutions and answers, or are we asking questions?
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  Speaker 1: And our premise this entire week has been you need to ask more questions, and this has been it all Wednesday.
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  Speaker 1: So let's talk about winning.
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  Speaker 1: Not just winning a game, a deal or a competition, but winning consistently, because I know many of you out there are winners.
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  Speaker 1: I know that.
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  Speaker 1: But here's the truth Winning isn't just about talent, hard work or even luck.
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  Speaker 1: It's about mindset.
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  Speaker 1: It's about the questions you ask yourself every single day.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, my goodness, when things aren't going great, the question is what's not working?
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  Speaker 1: How do I not fail at this?
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  Speaker 1: What's wrong?
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  Speaker 1: Right.
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  Speaker 1: And then, when things are going great, the question is how do I keep this momentum up?
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  Speaker 1: So look, lebron James put it best you can't be afraid to fail.
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  Speaker 1: The only way you succeed is to fail.
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  Speaker 1: And if you listen to the greats, they all have that in common they're not afraid of failure.
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  Speaker 1: And they don't just look for the answers, they ask the right questions that keep them locked in and ready to go to the next level.
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  Speaker 1: They ask themselves what do I have to do to win the next time?
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  Speaker 1: And that's a huge part of the winning formula is to ask the right question.
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  Speaker 1: Don't just wallow in an answer, or don't just wallow in what's wrong, because the brain is always listening.
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  Speaker 1: So let's break this down with some science.
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  Speaker 1: If we want to win consistently, we need to understand a part of the brain called the prefrontal cortex.
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  Speaker 1: Remember that, the CEO of the brain I talk about it almost every day the prefrontal cortex, that's your decision maker, that's your judgment seat, that's what allows you to think rationally, and it's always in competition with the amygdala on the other side of saying oh my God, something might go wrong.
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  Speaker 1: Something might go wrong.
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  Speaker 1: Well, this prefrontal cortex has a special section in it, called the dorsolateral section of the prefrontal cortex, called the dorsolateral section of the prefrontal cortex, the dorsolateral prefrontal cortex.
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  Speaker 1: This is the area, my friend, that controls self-discipline, focus and sustained effort over time.
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  Speaker 1: And here's the key.
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  Speaker 1: Here's the key.
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  Speaker 1: Why am I talking to you with the dorsolateral prefrontal cortex?
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  Speaker 1: Not because I want you to go and talk to anybody about this.
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  Speaker 1: No, I want you to understand that your brain is a huge part of why you win or you lose, or you have any kind of success or lack of success.
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  Speaker 1: When you ask, why do I always mess up?
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  Speaker 1: What do you think is happening?
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  Speaker 1: Why do I always mess up?
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  Speaker 1: What do you think is happening?
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  Speaker 1: Your brain will literally search for evidence to confirm that belief.
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  Speaker 1: But when you ask what's making me a winner right now, you're activating a completely different neural pathway in the brain and your brain starts scanning for proof of why you are a success and it reinforces the confidence and the resilience that you have inside of you.
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  Speaker 1: Think about Tom Brady After losing Super Bowl 52 to the Eagles.
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  Speaker 1: He didn't just sit there and brood, okay.
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  Speaker 1: He didn't just sit there asking why did we fail?
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  Speaker 1: No, he asked a different question what will it take to get back and win the next one.
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  Speaker 1: Boy.
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  Speaker 1: Just changing the question from why did we fail?
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  Speaker 1: To what will it take for us to get back here and win the next one?
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  Speaker 1: Completely different pathways open up in the brain and then completely different options become available to you when you do that, and sure enough, the next year, homeboy did come back and he did win his sixth ring.
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  Speaker 1: And look, this is backed up in ancient wisdom.
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  Speaker 1: This is backed up in Proverbs 23, 7.
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  Speaker 1: It says literally as a man thinks in his heart, and a woman too, okay, as a man.
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  Speaker 1: This is about men and women.
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  Speaker 1: As anyone thinks in their heart, so are they.
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  Speaker 1: So is he, so is she?
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  Speaker 1: Because your thoughts shape your reality, your questions shape your mindset, and your mindset actually shapes whether you're going to stay a winner or get stuck in a losing mentality, and Buddhist wisdom also echoes this.
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  Speaker 1: In Buddhist wisdom there's a saying your worst enemy cannot harm you as much as your own thoughts, unguarded, can harm you.
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  Speaker 1: Your worst enemy can't harm you as much as your thoughts, especially the unguarded thoughts.
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  Speaker 1: You know what that means.
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  Speaker 1: It means that if you don't guard your mind and man, this is a spiritual truth Guard your mind, guard your heart.
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  Speaker 1: If you let doubt, fear or negative questions run wild, guess what you defeat yourself before you even step onto the field, onto the pitch, into the ring, into the boardroom, into the dining room, wherever you're going to be functioning.
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  Speaker 1: Winning starts inside.
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  Speaker 1: It's an inside job, my friends.
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  Speaker 1: Winning starts inside, before it ever shows up on the scoreboard, and not just the scoreboard at the game, the scoreboard of life.
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  Speaker 1: So here's your challenge today on Win it All Wednesday.
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  Speaker 1: I want you to take five minutes and ask yourself questions.
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  Speaker 1: Question one what am I thinking or doing right now that makes me a winner?
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  Speaker 1: Look in the mirror when you ask that question, if you can.
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  Speaker 1: What am I thinking or doing right now that makes me a winner?
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  Speaker 1: Question two how do I keep a winning mindset even when things aren't going my way?
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  Speaker 1: How do I keep a winning mindset even when things don't go my way?
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  Speaker 1: And question three what's my personal winning formula and how do I stick to it?
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  Speaker 1: Personal winning formula and how do I stick to it?
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  Speaker 1: You'd be surprised that if you asked these questions, just ask the questions and live with the questions, move with the questions, hang out with the questions.
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  Speaker 1: What will come to you?
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  Speaker 1: What kinds of answers will come to you.
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  Speaker 1: Serena Williams.
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  Speaker 1: She said I've grown most not from victories, but setbacks.
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  Speaker 1: You know why I like that quote?
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  Speaker 1: Because it tells us that winning isn't just about results.
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  Speaker 1: It's about the ability to keep thinking like a winner, no matter what.
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  Speaker 1: To keep thinking like a winner no matter what.
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  Speaker 1: You see.
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  Speaker 1: She said she grows.
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  Speaker 1: That's growth mindset, right there.
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  Speaker 1: And she said not from victories, but from the setbacks.
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  Speaker 1: So she's thinking like a winner no matter what.
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  Speaker 1: So today you do the same thing.
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  Speaker 1: You ask yourself am I thinking, acting and showing up like a winner today?
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  Speaker 1: Because the truth is, winning isn't just something you do, it's something you are.
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  Speaker 1: I love it.
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  Speaker 1: Right, it's something we are.
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  Speaker 1: We are winners.
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  Speaker 1: I woke up a winner.
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  Speaker 1: This, it's something we are.
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  Speaker 1: We are winners.
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  Speaker 1: I woke up a winner this morning.
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  Speaker 1: So did you Remember?
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  Speaker 1: We talked about this last week, that that sperm and egg thing?
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  Speaker 1: Before we even got into the birth canal and we were walking around here, we already won.
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  Speaker 1: We beat out a lot of potential would-be human beings in the genetic world before we even got here.
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  Speaker 1: So you are already a winner.
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  Speaker 1: You have a purpose.
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  Speaker 1: So keep questioning my friends, keep refining your mindset, keep asking yourself the question and I will see you tomorrow for Trust Yourself Thursday.
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  Speaker 1: I can't wait, I'm excited and I'm looking forward to seeing you.
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  Speaker 1: I'm looking forward to hearing your comments.
• 9:48
  Speaker 1: Thank you for some of the comments you've shared with me.
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  Speaker 1: They really keep me uplifted and I feel so great because it's kind of cool to know that we can all connect.
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