Latest / How To Love Yourself No Matter What / 312. You Don’t Need More Self-Improvement

Transcript

312. You Don’t Need More Self-Improvement · How To Love Yourself No Matter What

• 0:00
  Hey,
• 0:00
  I'm
• 0:01
  Amanda
• 0:01
  Hess.
• 0:02
  I'm
• 0:02
  a
• 0:02
  certified
• 0:02
  life
• 0:03
  coach.
• 0:03
  But
• 0:04
  what
• 0:04
  you
• 0:04
  need
• 0:04
  to
• 0:04
  know
• 0:04
  is
• 0:05
  I'm
• 0:05
  a
• 0:05
  sensitive
• 0:06
  woman
• 0:06
  just
• 0:06
  like
• 0:07
  you,
• 0:07
  and
• 0:07
  I'm
• 0:08
  going
• 0:08
  to
• 0:08
  help
• 0:08
  you
• 0:09
  understand
• 0:09
  yourself
• 0:10
  better
• 0:10
  so
• 0:10
  that
• 0:11
  you
• 0:11
  can
• 0:11
  approach
• 0:11
  your
• 0:12
  life
• 0:12
  differently
• 0:13
  and
• 0:13
  feel
• 0:14
  really
• 0:15
  good
• 0:15
  about
• 0:15
  it.
• 0:16
  Let's
• 0:16
  go.
• 0:17
  Hey,
• 0:18
  my
• 0:18
  friend.
• 0:18
  Okay,
• 0:18
  today's
• 0:19
  episode
• 0:19
  is
• 0:19
  going
• 0:20
  to
• 0:20
  be
• 0:20
  short
• 0:20
  and
• 0:20
  to
• 0:20
  the
• 0:21
  point,
• 0:21
  but
• 0:22
  I
• 0:23
  have
• 0:24
  an
• 0:24
  analogy
• 0:24
  for
• 0:25
  you
• 0:25
  that
• 0:26
  I
• 0:26
  think
• 0:26
  when
• 0:26
  you
• 0:26
  hear,
• 0:27
  it
• 0:27
  will
• 0:27
  really
• 0:28
  change
• 0:28
  the
• 0:28
  way
• 0:29
  that
• 0:29
  you
• 0:29
  approach
• 0:29
  what's
• 0:30
  going
• 0:30
  on
• 0:30
  in
• 0:30
  your
• 0:30
  life.
• 0:31
  So
• 0:32
  it's
• 0:33
  spring,
• 0:34
  and
• 0:34
  if
• 0:35
  you're
• 0:35
  listening
• 0:35
  to
• 0:35
  this
• 0:35
  in
• 0:36
  real
• 0:36
  time,
• 0:36
  it's
• 0:36
  May,
• 0:37
  and
• 0:38
  we
• 0:38
  are
• 0:38
  all
• 0:39
  clearing
• 0:39
  out
• 0:39
  our
• 0:40
  gardens,
• 0:40
  right?
• 0:40
  If
• 0:40
  you
• 0:41
  have
• 0:41
  a
• 0:41
  yard,
• 0:41
  if
• 0:42
  you're
• 0:42
  a
• 0:42
  gardener,
• 0:42
  you've
• 0:43
  pulled
• 0:43
  all
• 0:43
  the
• 0:43
  dead
• 0:43
  things
• 0:44
  out
• 0:44
  of
• 0:44
  your
• 0:44
  garden.
• 0:44
  It's
• 0:44
  something
• 0:44
  that
• 0:45
  we
• 0:45
  do
• 0:45
  in
• 0:45
  spring.
• 0:46
  And
• 0:46
  then
• 0:46
  we
• 0:46
  also
• 0:48
  have
• 0:48
  a
• 0:48
  garden
• 0:49
  where
• 0:49
  if
• 0:49
  we
• 0:50
  pull
• 0:50
  out
• 0:50
  all
• 0:50
  the
• 0:50
  weeds
• 0:50
  and
• 0:51
  we
• 0:51
  pull
• 0:51
  out
• 0:51
  all
• 0:51
  the
• 0:51
  dead
• 0:51
  stuff,
• 0:52
  there's
• 0:52
  all
• 0:52
  this
• 0:52
  beautiful
• 0:53
  black
• 0:53
  dirt,
• 0:54
  right?
• 0:54
  And
• 0:54
  there
• 0:55
  might
• 0:55
  be
• 0:55
  some
• 0:55
  perennials
• 0:56
  in
• 0:56
  there
• 0:56
  that
• 0:56
  have
• 0:56
  been
• 0:57
  planted
• 0:57
  before
• 0:58
  and
• 0:58
  there
• 0:58
  might
• 0:58
  not
• 0:58
  be.
• 0:58
  But
• 1:00
  there's
• 1:00
  one
• 1:00
  thing
• 1:00
  that
• 1:01
  I
• 1:01
  know
• 1:01
  about
• 1:02
  planting
• 1:02
  a
• 1:02
  garden,
• 1:03
  and
• 1:03
  it's
• 1:04
  important.
• 1:05
  If
• 1:05
  you
• 1:05
  want
• 1:06
  flowers
• 1:06
  in
• 1:07
  your
• 1:07
  garden
• 1:07
  and
• 1:07
  not
• 1:08
  weeds,
• 1:08
  you
• 1:09
  need
• 1:09
  to
• 1:09
  plant
• 1:10
  flowers.
• 1:11
  This
• 1:11
  is
• 1:11
  always
• 1:11
  true.
• 1:12
  And
• 1:13
  if
• 1:13
  you
• 1:14
  don't
• 1:14
  plant
• 1:14
  flowers,
• 1:15
  what
• 1:15
  you're
• 1:16
  going
• 1:16
  to
• 1:16
  be
• 1:16
  doing
• 1:16
  is
• 1:16
  you're
• 1:16
  going
• 1:17
  to
• 1:17
  be
• 1:17
  perpetually
• 1:18
  weeding
• 1:19
  and
• 1:19
  you're
• 1:20
  not
• 1:20
  going
• 1:20
  to
• 1:20
  have
• 1:20
  any
• 1:21
  of
• 1:21
  the
• 1:21
  beautiful
• 1:21
  flowers
• 1:22
  that
• 1:22
  you
• 1:22
  want
• 1:22
  to
• 1:22
  have
• 1:23
  in
• 1:23
  your
• 1:23
  garden.
• 1:23
  And
• 1:23
  this
• 1:23
  is
• 1:24
  very
• 1:24
  true
• 1:25
  when
• 1:25
  it
• 1:25
  comes
• 1:26
  to
• 1:26
  your
• 1:26
  mind
• 1:26
  and
• 1:27
  your
• 1:27
  life
• 1:28
  to.
• 1:28
  Too
• 1:28
  often,
• 1:29
  what
• 1:29
  I
• 1:30
  see
• 1:30
  happening
• 1:31
  is
• 1:31
  people
• 1:32
  get
• 1:32
  involved
• 1:33
  in
• 1:33
  self
• 1:33
  help.
• 1:34
  People
• 1:34
  start
• 1:34
  going
• 1:35
  to
• 1:35
  therapy,
• 1:36
  they
• 1:36
  might
• 1:36
  start
• 1:37
  down
• 1:37
  the
• 1:37
  road
• 1:37
  of
• 1:37
  coaching.
• 1:38
  They
• 1:38
  are
• 1:39
  doing
• 1:39
  different
• 1:39
  things.
• 1:40
  But
• 1:40
  what
• 1:41
  happens
• 1:41
  is
• 1:42
  they
• 1:42
  start
• 1:42
  identifying
• 1:43
  all
• 1:43
  the
• 1:43
  things
• 1:44
  that
• 1:44
  are
• 1:44
  wrong
• 1:44
  with
• 1:44
  them,
• 1:45
  all
• 1:45
  the
• 1:45
  things
• 1:45
  that
• 1:46
  are
• 1:46
  wrong
• 1:46
  with
• 1:46
  their
• 1:46
  lives,
• 1:47
  all
• 1:47
  the
• 1:48
  things
• 1:48
  that
• 1:48
  are
• 1:48
  wrong
• 1:48
  with
• 1:48
  their
• 1:49
  partner,
• 1:49
  with
• 1:49
  their
• 1:49
  children,
• 1:50
  with
• 1:50
  their
• 1:50
  friendships,
• 1:51
  with
• 1:51
  their
• 1:51
  job.
• 1:52
  And
• 1:53
  inevitably,
• 1:55
  there
• 1:55
  are
• 1:55
  so
• 1:56
  many
• 1:56
  weeds.
• 1:57
  And
• 1:58
  what
• 1:59
  I
• 1:59
  see
• 2:00
  is
• 2:00
  so
• 2:01
  many
• 2:01
  people
• 2:01
  putting
• 2:02
  so
• 2:02
  much
• 2:02
  time
• 2:03
  and
• 2:03
  energy
• 2:04
  into
• 2:04
  pulling
• 2:05
  the
• 2:05
  weeds.
• 2:05
  And
• 2:06
  the
• 2:06
  way
• 2:06
  that
• 2:07
  I
• 2:07
  look
• 2:07
  at
• 2:07
  this
• 2:07
  differently
• 2:08
  is
• 2:09
  I
• 2:09
  think
• 2:09
  we
• 2:09
  have
• 2:10
  to
• 2:10
  spend
• 2:11
  way
• 2:11
  more
• 2:11
  time
• 2:12
  planting
• 2:12
  flowers.
• 2:13
  So
• 2:14
  when
• 2:14
  somebody
• 2:14
  says
• 2:14
  to
• 2:14
  me,
• 2:15
  amanda,
• 2:15
  what's
• 2:15
  the
• 2:15
  difference?
• 2:16
  What's
• 2:16
  the
• 2:17
  difference
• 2:17
  between
• 2:18
  therapy
• 2:18
  and
• 2:19
  coaching?
• 2:19
  I'm
• 2:19
  like,
• 2:20
  this
• 2:20
  is
• 2:20
  one
• 2:20
  of
• 2:21
  the
• 2:21
  big
• 2:21
  differences
• 2:22
  that
• 2:22
  I
• 2:22
  see
• 2:23
  with
• 2:23
  respect
• 2:24
  to
• 2:24
  what
• 2:24
  I
• 2:24
  do
• 2:25
  compared
• 2:25
  to
• 2:25
  what
• 2:26
  I
• 2:26
  see
• 2:26
  other
• 2:26
  people
• 2:27
  doing.
• 2:28
  Yes,
• 2:29
  we
• 2:29
  do
• 2:29
  need
• 2:30
  to
• 2:30
  pull
• 2:30
  weeds.
• 2:30
  That
• 2:31
  is
• 2:31
  required.
• 2:31
  If
• 2:31
  you
• 2:32
  have
• 2:32
  a
• 2:32
  garden
• 2:32
  full
• 2:32
  of
• 2:32
  weeds,
• 2:33
  you
• 2:33
  are
• 2:33
  going
• 2:33
  to
• 2:34
  have
• 2:34
  a
• 2:34
  hard
• 2:34
  time
• 2:34
  planting
• 2:34
  any
• 2:35
  flowers,
• 2:35
  there's
• 2:35
  no
• 2:35
  room
• 2:36
  for
• 2:36
  them.
• 2:36
  So
• 2:37
  chances
• 2:37
  are,
• 2:37
  if
• 2:38
  there
• 2:38
  are
• 2:38
  things
• 2:38
  circumstantially
• 2:39
  going
• 2:39
  on
• 2:39
  in
• 2:40
  your
• 2:40
  life
• 2:40
  that
• 2:40
  are
• 2:40
  very
• 2:41
  challenging
• 2:41
  or
• 2:42
  very
• 2:42
  difficult,
• 2:43
  100%,
• 2:44
  we
• 2:44
  need
• 2:44
  to
• 2:44
  address
• 2:45
  some
• 2:45
  of
• 2:45
  that.
• 2:46
  No
• 2:46
  doubt.
• 2:47
  But
• 2:47
  that
• 2:47
  doesn't
• 2:48
  mean
• 2:48
  that
• 2:48
  at
• 2:48
  the
• 2:48
  same
• 2:49
  time
• 2:49
  we're
• 2:49
  not
• 2:49
  planting
• 2:50
  flowers.
• 2:50
  Because
• 2:50
  if
• 2:50
  you
• 2:51
  think
• 2:51
  about
• 2:51
  it
• 2:51
  like
• 2:51
  if
• 2:51
  I
• 2:51
  think
• 2:52
  about
• 2:52
  my
• 2:52
  yard,
• 2:52
  right,
• 2:53
  I
• 2:53
  have
• 2:53
  multiple
• 2:54
  gardens,
• 2:54
  gardens,
• 2:54
  I
• 2:55
  have
• 2:55
  flower
• 2:55
  pots.
• 2:56
  If
• 2:56
  I
• 2:57
  only
• 2:57
  spend
• 2:58
  an
• 2:58
  hour
• 2:59
  a
• 2:59
  day
• 2:59
  weeding
• 3:00
  and
• 3:00
  I
• 3:01
  weed
• 3:01
  the
• 3:01
  weeds
• 3:02
  that
• 3:02
  are
• 3:02
  in
• 3:02
  those
• 3:02
  spaces
• 3:03
  and
• 3:03
  I
• 3:03
  never
• 3:03
  do
• 3:04
  any
• 3:04
  planting,
• 3:05
  I
• 3:05
  could
• 3:05
  spend
• 3:05
  my
• 3:06
  whole
• 3:06
  time
• 3:06
  weeding
• 3:07
  and
• 3:07
  never
• 3:07
  plant
• 3:07
  a
• 3:08
  single
• 3:08
  flower.
• 3:08
  And
• 3:09
  this
• 3:09
  is
• 3:09
  how
• 3:09
  I
• 3:09
  see
• 3:10
  this
• 3:10
  happening
• 3:10
  for
• 3:11
  the
• 3:12
  people
• 3:12
  that
• 3:13
  I
• 3:13
  help.
• 3:13
  Right?
• 3:15
  We
• 3:15
  want
• 3:16
  to
• 3:16
  start
• 3:16
  understanding
• 3:17
  how
• 3:17
  to
• 3:17
  plant
• 3:18
  flowers.
• 3:18
  Now.
• 3:18
  The
• 3:18
  cool
• 3:19
  thing
• 3:19
  about
• 3:19
  this
• 3:20
  is
• 3:20
  that
• 3:20
  this
• 3:20
  can
• 3:20
  look
• 3:21
  a
• 3:21
  lot
• 3:21
  of
• 3:21
  different
• 3:21
  ways.
• 3:22
  On
• 3:23
  one
• 3:23
  hand,
• 3:23
  it
• 3:23
  can
• 3:24
  look
• 3:24
  like
• 3:24
  your
• 3:24
  nervous
• 3:25
  system
• 3:25
  regulation.
• 3:25
  And
• 3:26
  you
• 3:26
  might
• 3:26
  say
• 3:26
  to
• 3:26
  me,
• 3:26
  well,
• 3:26
  Amanda,
• 3:27
  isn't
• 3:27
  that
• 3:27
  carrying
• 3:28
  a
• 3:28
  problem?
• 3:28
  And
• 3:28
  I'm
• 3:29
  going
• 3:29
  to
• 3:29
  tell
• 3:29
  you,
• 3:29
  not
• 3:30
  really.
• 3:31
  A
• 3:31
  lot
• 3:32
  of
• 3:32
  self
• 3:32
  help
• 3:33
  experts,
• 3:34
  psychologists,
• 3:35
  therapists,
• 3:35
  even
• 3:35
  coaches
• 3:36
  really
• 3:36
  believe
• 3:36
  in
• 3:37
  meditation.
• 3:37
  I
• 3:37
  think
• 3:37
  meditation
• 3:38
  is
• 3:38
  a
• 3:38
  fine
• 3:38
  tool,
• 3:39
  but
• 3:40
  I
• 3:40
  approach
• 3:41
  it
• 3:41
  differently.
• 3:42
  I
• 3:42
  approach
• 3:42
  it
• 3:43
  differently.
• 3:43
  It
• 3:43
  can
• 3:43
  be
• 3:44
  meditative.
• 3:45
  Taking
• 3:45
  a
• 3:46
  couple
• 3:46
  of
• 3:46
  deep
• 3:46
  breaths
• 3:47
  in
• 3:47
  your
• 3:48
  bathroom,
• 3:48
  looking
• 3:48
  at
• 3:49
  yourself
• 3:49
  in
• 3:49
  the
• 3:49
  eyes
• 3:49
  and
• 3:50
  going,
• 3:52
  we're
• 3:53
  safe,
• 3:53
  we're
• 3:53
  okay.
• 3:53
  We
• 3:54
  don't
• 3:54
  have
• 3:54
  to
• 3:54
  rush.
• 3:55
  That
• 3:55
  is
• 3:56
  meditative.
• 3:56
  That
• 3:57
  is
• 3:57
  mindfulness.
• 3:58
  Taking
• 3:59
  a
• 3:59
  deep
• 3:59
  cleansing
• 4:00
  breath
• 4:01
  just
• 4:01
  for
• 4:01
  the
• 4:02
  feeling
• 4:02
  of
• 4:02
  it
• 4:03
  is
• 4:04
  pleasurable.
• 4:05
  And
• 4:05
  what
• 4:06
  I
• 4:06
  really
• 4:06
  see
• 4:07
  is
• 4:07
  that
• 4:08
  so
• 4:08
  many
• 4:08
  of
• 4:08
  the
• 4:09
  women
• 4:09
  that
• 4:09
  I
• 4:09
  help
• 4:10
  are
• 4:10
  so
• 4:10
  overburdened,
• 4:12
  so
• 4:12
  over
• 4:12
  taxed,
• 4:13
  continuously
• 4:14
  taking
• 4:15
  care
• 4:15
  of
• 4:15
  everything
• 4:16
  and
• 4:16
  everyone
• 4:16
  all
• 4:17
  the
• 4:17
  time.
• 4:17
  They
• 4:17
  have
• 4:18
  a
• 4:18
  hundred
• 4:18
  plates
• 4:19
  spinning
• 4:19
  and
• 4:19
  they
• 4:19
  don't
• 4:20
  want
• 4:20
  to
• 4:20
  drop
• 4:20
  any
• 4:21
  of
• 4:21
  them.
• 4:22
  And
• 4:22
  they're
• 4:22
  so
• 4:23
  focused
• 4:24
  that
• 4:24
  their
• 4:24
  care
• 4:25
  and
• 4:25
  attention
• 4:25
  for
• 4:26
  themselves
• 4:26
  has
• 4:26
  completely
• 4:27
  disappeared.
• 4:28
  And
• 4:29
  the
• 4:29
  reality
• 4:29
  is
• 4:30
  that
• 4:30
  if
• 4:30
  we
• 4:30
  don't
• 4:31
  stop
• 4:31
  and
• 4:32
  take
• 4:32
  a
• 4:32
  beat
• 4:32
  and
• 4:33
  change
• 4:33
  how
• 4:33
  we
• 4:33
  do
• 4:33
  this,
• 4:34
  we
• 4:34
  are
• 4:34
  on
• 4:34
  a
• 4:35
  one
• 4:35
  way
• 4:35
  ticket
• 4:35
  to
• 4:35
  burnout,
• 4:37
  basically.
• 4:38
  A
• 4:38
  lot
• 4:38
  of
• 4:38
  times
• 4:38
  what
• 4:39
  I
• 4:39
  hear
• 4:39
  women
• 4:39
  saying
• 4:40
  is,
• 4:40
  how
• 4:40
  do
• 4:40
  I
• 4:41
  add
• 4:41
  more
• 4:41
  arms
• 4:41
  so
• 4:42
  I
• 4:42
  can
• 4:42
  hold
• 4:42
  more
• 4:42
  plates
• 4:43
  instead
• 4:43
  of
• 4:43
  going,
• 4:44
  how
• 4:44
  do
• 4:44
  I
• 4:44
  change
• 4:45
  how
• 4:45
  I
• 4:45
  do
• 4:45
  this?
• 4:46
  So
• 4:47
  even
• 4:47
  though
• 4:47
  I'm
• 4:47
  mixing
• 4:48
  analogies
• 4:48
  here,
• 4:48
  and
• 4:49
  I
• 4:49
  sometimes
• 4:50
  do
• 4:50
  that,
• 4:50
  I
• 4:51
  still
• 4:51
  want
• 4:51
  to
• 4:52
  go
• 4:52
  back
• 4:52
  to
• 4:52
  the
• 4:52
  garden
• 4:53
  because
• 4:55
  we
• 4:55
  want
• 4:56
  a
• 4:56
  beautiful,
• 4:57
  fulfilling,
• 4:58
  amazing
• 4:59
  life.
• 5:00
  So
• 5:00
  we
• 5:01
  don't
• 5:01
  want
• 5:01
  to
• 5:01
  be
• 5:01
  pulling
• 5:02
  weeds
• 5:02
  and
• 5:02
  we
• 5:02
  don't
• 5:03
  want
• 5:03
  to
• 5:03
  be
• 5:03
  adding
• 5:03
  more
• 5:03
  arms
• 5:04
  to
• 5:04
  spin
• 5:04
  more
• 5:05
  plates.
• 5:05
  We
• 5:05
  don't
• 5:06
  want
• 5:06
  that.
• 5:07
  Because
• 5:07
  that
• 5:07
  doesn't
• 5:08
  create
• 5:08
  beauty,
• 5:09
  that
• 5:09
  doesn't
• 5:09
  create
• 5:10
  pleasure,
• 5:10
  that
• 5:11
  doesn't
• 5:11
  create
• 5:11
  happiness,
• 5:12
  that
• 5:12
  doesn't
• 5:12
  create
• 5:13
  fulfillment.
• 5:14
  What
• 5:14
  does?
• 5:15
  Well,
• 5:16
  regulating
• 5:17
  your
• 5:17
  nervous
• 5:17
  system
• 5:18
  with
• 5:18
  very
• 5:19
  simple,
• 5:19
  pleasurable
• 5:20
  things
• 5:21
  is
• 5:22
  incredibly
• 5:23
  impactful
• 5:24
  because
• 5:24
  it
• 5:24
  compounds
• 5:25
  over
• 5:25
  time.
• 5:26
  I
• 5:26
  was
• 5:27
  reading
• 5:27
  a
• 5:28
  post
• 5:29
  I
• 5:29
  think
• 5:30
  she's
• 5:30
  called
• 5:30
  the
• 5:30
  New
• 5:30
  York
• 5:31
  Therapist
• 5:31
  or
• 5:31
  something
• 5:31
  like
• 5:32
  that.
• 5:32
  I
• 5:32
  love
• 5:32
  her
• 5:32
  account.
• 5:32
  I
• 5:33
  love
• 5:33
  what
• 5:33
  she
• 5:33
  posts.
• 5:34
  But
• 5:34
  she
• 5:34
  had
• 5:35
  posted
• 5:35
  on
• 5:35
  there
• 5:36
  asking
• 5:37
  what
• 5:37
  people
• 5:37
  do
• 5:38
  for
• 5:39
  mindfulness
• 5:40
  or
• 5:40
  nervous
• 5:40
  system
• 5:40
  regulation
• 5:41
  outside
• 5:41
  of
• 5:42
  just,
• 5:42
  you
• 5:42
  know,
• 5:42
  sort
• 5:42
  of
• 5:43
  what
• 5:43
  we
• 5:43
  think
• 5:43
  of.
• 5:44
  And
• 5:44
  I
• 5:44
  let
• 5:44
  her
• 5:44
  know
• 5:45
  that
• 5:45
  figure
• 5:45
  skating
• 5:45
  is
• 5:46
  one
• 5:46
  of
• 5:46
  my
• 5:46
  biggest
• 5:47
  regulators.
• 5:48
  Why?
• 5:49
  Because,
• 5:49
  for
• 5:49
  one
• 5:50
  thing,
• 5:50
  it's
• 5:50
  pleasurable.
• 5:51
  I
• 5:52
  enjoy
• 5:52
  it,
• 5:52
  I'm
• 5:52
  passionate
• 5:53
  about
• 5:53
  it.
• 5:54
  It's
• 5:54
  something
• 5:54
  that
• 5:55
  I
• 5:55
  can
• 5:55
  do
• 5:55
  that
• 5:56
  requires
• 5:56
  all
• 5:56
  of
• 5:57
  my
• 5:57
  brain.
• 5:58
  It's
• 5:58
  artistic,
• 5:59
  it's
• 5:59
  beautiful,
• 6:00
  it's
• 6:00
  difficult,
• 6:01
  it's
• 6:01
  technical,
• 6:02
  it's
• 6:03
  physical.
• 6:03
  It
• 6:03
  hits
• 6:04
  all
• 6:04
  of
• 6:05
  those
• 6:05
  spots.
• 6:06
  And
• 6:06
  because
• 6:06
  of
• 6:07
  that,
• 6:07
  it's
• 6:07
  a
• 6:07
  really
• 6:08
  powerful
• 6:09
  regulator.
• 6:11
  One
• 6:11
  of
• 6:11
  the
• 6:11
  things
• 6:11
  that
• 6:11
  I've
• 6:12
  talked
• 6:12
  about
• 6:12
  on
• 6:12
  this
• 6:12
  podcast
• 6:13
  before
• 6:13
  is
• 6:14
  the
• 6:14
  analogy
• 6:15
  of
• 6:15
  the
• 6:15
  teeter
• 6:15
  totter
• 6:16
  when
• 6:16
  it
• 6:16
  comes
• 6:16
  to
• 6:16
  nervous
• 6:17
  system
• 6:17
  regulation
• 6:17
  and
• 6:18
  how
• 6:18
  so
• 6:19
  many
• 6:19
  of
• 6:19
  us
• 6:19
  spend
• 6:20
  so
• 6:20
  much
• 6:20
  time
• 6:20
  trying
• 6:20
  to
• 6:21
  take
• 6:21
  the
• 6:21
  things
• 6:21
  off
• 6:21
  the
• 6:22
  bottom
• 6:22
  of
• 6:22
  the
• 6:22
  teeter
• 6:23
  totter.
• 6:23
  Heavy.
• 6:24
  And
• 6:24
  we
• 6:24
  don't
• 6:24
  spend
• 6:25
  enough
• 6:25
  time
• 6:25
  adding
• 6:27
  things
• 6:27
  and
• 6:28
  processes
• 6:28
  and
• 6:29
  experiences
• 6:30
  to
• 6:30
  the
• 6:30
  other
• 6:31
  side
• 6:31
  of
• 6:31
  the
• 6:31
  teeter
• 6:32
  totter
• 6:32
  to
• 6:32
  create
• 6:33
  balance.
• 6:35
  You
• 6:35
  can
• 6:35
  have
• 6:36
  a
• 6:36
  beautiful
• 6:36
  flowering
• 6:37
  garden
• 6:37
  and
• 6:38
  there
• 6:38
  can
• 6:38
  still
• 6:38
  be
• 6:38
  some
• 6:39
  weeds
• 6:39
  in
• 6:39
  it.
• 6:40
  In
• 6:41
  fact,
• 6:41
  I
• 6:41
  just
• 6:42
  can't
• 6:42
  help
• 6:42
  but
• 6:42
  think
• 6:42
  of
• 6:43
  my
• 6:43
  neighbor's
• 6:43
  garden,
• 6:44
  right?
• 6:44
  Because
• 6:45
  she's
• 6:45
  an
• 6:45
  expert
• 6:46
  landscaper.
• 6:46
  She
• 6:47
  does
• 6:47
  landscaping
• 6:47
  for
• 6:48
  our
• 6:48
  city,
• 6:48
  right.
• 6:49
  And
• 6:49
  she
• 6:50
  runs
• 6:50
  one
• 6:50
  of
• 6:50
  the
• 6:51
  departments
• 6:51
  there.
• 6:51
  And
• 6:52
  what
• 6:52
  I
• 6:52
  notice
• 6:53
  is
• 6:53
  she
• 6:53
  has
• 6:53
  so
• 6:53
  many
• 6:54
  perennials.
• 6:54
  She
• 6:54
  has
• 6:55
  so
• 6:55
  many
• 6:55
  perennials.
• 6:56
  And
• 6:56
  if
• 6:56
  you
• 6:57
  don't
• 6:57
  know
• 6:57
  what
• 6:57
  a
• 6:57
  perennial
• 6:57
  is
• 6:57
  because
• 6:58
  you're
• 6:58
  not
• 6:58
  a
• 6:58
  gardener,
• 6:58
  it's
• 6:59
  just
• 6:59
  a
• 6:59
  plant
• 6:59
  that
• 6:59
  comes
• 7:00
  back
• 7:00
  every
• 7:00
  year.
• 7:01
  She
• 7:01
  has
• 7:01
  so
• 7:02
  many
• 7:02
  perennials
• 7:03
  that
• 7:04
  she
• 7:04
  doesn't
• 7:05
  need
• 7:05
  to
• 7:05
  do
• 7:05
  a
• 7:05
  lot
• 7:06
  in
• 7:06
  that
• 7:06
  garden.
• 7:07
  She's
• 7:07
  planted
• 7:07
  these
• 7:08
  flowers
• 7:08
  really
• 7:09
  strategically,
• 7:10
  purposefully,
• 7:11
  so
• 7:12
  that
• 7:12
  when
• 7:12
  she
• 7:12
  weeds
• 7:13
  and
• 7:13
  the
• 7:14
  plants
• 7:14
  come
• 7:14
  in,
• 7:14
  the
• 7:15
  plants
• 7:15
  take
• 7:15
  up
• 7:15
  so
• 7:15
  much
• 7:16
  space
• 7:16
  that
• 7:16
  there's
• 7:17
  not
• 7:17
  enough.
• 7:17
  There's
• 7:18
  not
• 7:18
  a
• 7:18
  lot
• 7:18
  of
• 7:18
  room
• 7:18
  for
• 7:19
  weeds.
• 7:20
  So
• 7:20
  this
• 7:20
  happens
• 7:20
  already.
• 7:21
  Already
• 7:21
  her
• 7:22
  gardens
• 7:22
  are
• 7:22
  full.
• 7:22
  And
• 7:23
  Rob,
• 7:24
  your
• 7:24
  brain
• 7:25
  can
• 7:25
  be
• 7:25
  like
• 7:25
  that.
• 7:26
  But
• 7:26
  we
• 7:26
  have
• 7:26
  to
• 7:27
  learn
• 7:27
  how
• 7:27
  to
• 7:27
  plant
• 7:28
  flowers.
• 7:29
  So
• 7:29
  what
• 7:29
  are
• 7:29
  flowers?
• 7:30
  Well,
• 7:30
  nervous
• 7:31
  system
• 7:31
  regulation,
• 7:32
  pleasure
• 7:33
  going
• 7:34
  and
• 7:34
  really
• 7:35
  pleasing
• 7:35
  your
• 7:36
  senses,
• 7:36
  pleasing
• 7:37
  your
• 7:37
  soul,
• 7:37
  allowing
• 7:38
  yourself
• 7:38
  to
• 7:38
  rest,
• 7:39
  reset,
• 7:40
  ground.
• 7:40
  Those
• 7:41
  are
• 7:41
  flowers,
• 7:42
  right?
• 7:43
  When
• 7:43
  I
• 7:43
  look
• 7:44
  at
• 7:44
  flowers,
• 7:44
  I'm
• 7:44
  really
• 7:45
  looking
• 7:45
  at,
• 7:45
  what
• 7:45
  are
• 7:46
  you
• 7:46
  doing
• 7:46
  that's
• 7:46
  enjoyable?
• 7:47
  What
• 7:48
  are
• 7:48
  you
• 7:48
  doing
• 7:48
  that's
• 7:49
  pleasurable?
• 7:50
  What
• 7:50
  are
• 7:50
  you
• 7:50
  doing
• 7:50
  that
• 7:51
  you're
• 7:51
  passionate
• 7:51
  about?
• 7:52
  What
• 7:52
  are
• 7:52
  you
• 7:53
  doing
• 7:53
  just
• 7:53
  because
• 7:53
  it's
• 7:54
  feels
• 7:54
  good
• 7:54
  for
• 7:55
  you
• 7:55
  to
• 7:55
  do
• 7:55
  it.
• 7:57
  I
• 7:57
  was
• 7:58
  coaching
• 7:58
  one
• 7:58
  of
• 7:58
  my
• 7:58
  clients
• 7:59
  last
• 7:59
  week,
• 8:00
  and
• 8:01
  we
• 8:01
  were
• 8:01
  talking
• 8:01
  about
• 8:01
  their
• 8:02
  relationship,
• 8:03
  and
• 8:03
  I
• 8:03
  was
• 8:04
  talking
• 8:04
  to
• 8:04
  them
• 8:04
  about
• 8:05
  using
• 8:05
  love
• 8:06
  in
• 8:06
  their
• 8:06
  relationship,
• 8:07
  unconditional
• 8:08
  love,
• 8:08
  to
• 8:08
  drive
• 8:08
  change.
• 8:09
  Because
• 8:10
  the
• 8:10
  partner
• 8:10
  wasn't
• 8:11
  doing
• 8:11
  what
• 8:12
  my
• 8:12
  client
• 8:12
  wanted
• 8:13
  them
• 8:13
  to
• 8:13
  do.
• 8:14
  And
• 8:15
  this
• 8:15
  is
• 8:15
  so
• 8:15
  common.
• 8:16
  This
• 8:16
  happens
• 8:16
  in
• 8:16
  so
• 8:17
  many
• 8:17
  areas
• 8:17
  in
• 8:17
  our
• 8:18
  life
• 8:18
  that
• 8:18
  we're
• 8:19
  just
• 8:19
  so
• 8:19
  focused
• 8:19
  on
• 8:20
  what's
• 8:21
  not
• 8:21
  working.
• 8:22
  And
• 8:22
  what
• 8:22
  I
• 8:22
  suggested
• 8:23
  to
• 8:23
  them
• 8:23
  was,
• 8:24
  hey,
• 8:25
  you
• 8:25
  could
• 8:25
  just
• 8:26
  decide
• 8:26
  to
• 8:26
  unconditionally
• 8:27
  love
• 8:27
  your
• 8:27
  partner
• 8:28
  and
• 8:28
  you
• 8:29
  could
• 8:29
  look
• 8:29
  for
• 8:30
  ways
• 8:30
  to
• 8:30
  love
• 8:31
  them,
• 8:31
  and
• 8:32
  it
• 8:32
  will
• 8:32
  change
• 8:32
  everything.
• 8:33
  And
• 8:33
  you
• 8:33
  know
• 8:33
  what?
• 8:33
  Changed
• 8:35
  a
• 8:35
  lot.
• 8:36
  The
• 8:36
  partner
• 8:37
  was
• 8:37
  then
• 8:37
  able
• 8:37
  to
• 8:38
  show
• 8:38
  up
• 8:38
  and
• 8:38
  do
• 8:38
  things
• 8:38
  for
• 8:39
  my
• 8:39
  client
• 8:40
  without
• 8:40
  being
• 8:40
  asked.
• 8:42
  There
• 8:42
  was
• 8:42
  time
• 8:42
  spent
• 8:43
  together
• 8:43
  that
• 8:43
  was
• 8:44
  enjoyable
• 8:44
  just
• 8:44
  because
• 8:45
  there
• 8:45
  was
• 8:45
  a
• 8:45
  coming
• 8:46
  together.
• 8:47
  Why?
• 8:48
  Because
• 8:48
  we
• 8:48
  planted
• 8:49
  more
• 8:49
  flowers.
• 8:51
  It
• 8:51
  can
• 8:51
  be
• 8:52
  adding
• 8:52
  kindness.
• 8:55
  I
• 8:55
  was
• 8:55
  just
• 8:55
  listening
• 8:56
  to
• 8:56
  an
• 8:56
  audiobook
• 8:57
  where
• 8:57
  they
• 8:57
  were
• 8:58
  talking
• 8:58
  about
• 8:58
  how
• 8:59
  kindness
• 8:59
  actually
• 9:00
  creates
• 9:01
  serotonin
• 9:02
  in
• 9:02
  your
• 9:02
  brain.
• 9:03
  Not
• 9:04
  just
• 9:04
  receiving
• 9:05
  kindness,
• 9:05
  but
• 9:06
  actually
• 9:07
  giving
• 9:07
  kindness.
• 9:08
  And
• 9:08
  here's
• 9:08
  the
• 9:09
  extra
• 9:09
  thing
• 9:09
  that
• 9:10
  was
• 9:10
  so
• 9:10
  fascinating.
• 9:11
  Also,
• 9:12
  watching
• 9:12
  somebody
• 9:13
  else
• 9:13
  be
• 9:13
  kind
• 9:14
  lights
• 9:15
  up
• 9:15
  the
• 9:15
  same
• 9:15
  part
• 9:15
  of
• 9:16
  the
• 9:16
  brain
• 9:16
  creates
• 9:17
  serotonin.
• 9:18
  This
• 9:18
  is
• 9:18
  fascinating
• 9:19
  because
• 9:20
  what
• 9:20
  it
• 9:21
  tells
• 9:21
  you
• 9:22
  is
• 9:22
  that
• 9:22
  you
• 9:22
  can
• 9:23
  plant
• 9:23
  flowers
• 9:25
  just
• 9:25
  by
• 9:25
  being
• 9:25
  kind.
• 9:26
  Being
• 9:27
  kind
• 9:27
  to
• 9:27
  yourself,
• 9:28
  being
• 9:29
  kind
• 9:29
  to
• 9:29
  other
• 9:29
  people,
• 9:30
  letting
• 9:31
  other
• 9:31
  people
• 9:31
  experience
• 9:32
  it,
• 9:32
  letting
• 9:32
  other
• 9:33
  people
• 9:33
  witness
• 9:33
  it.
• 9:35
  The
• 9:35
  truth
• 9:36
  of
• 9:36
  the
• 9:36
  matter
• 9:36
  is
• 9:37
  that
• 9:37
  we
• 9:37
  spend
• 9:38
  too
• 9:38
  much
• 9:38
  time
• 9:39
  weeding
• 9:39
  and
• 9:40
  not
• 9:40
  enough
• 9:40
  time
• 9:41
  planting
• 9:41
  flowers.
• 9:41
  And
• 9:42
  when
• 9:42
  we
• 9:42
  do
• 9:42
  that,
• 9:43
  we
• 9:44
  inevitably
• 9:44
  create
• 9:45
  a
• 9:45
  lot
• 9:45
  of
• 9:46
  stuff
• 9:46
  we
• 9:46
  don't
• 9:46
  want.
• 9:47
  Not
• 9:47
  on
• 9:47
  purpose,
• 9:48
  but
• 9:49
  because
• 9:50
  the
• 9:50
  way
• 9:50
  that
• 9:51
  our
• 9:51
  brain
• 9:52
  just
• 9:52
  works.
• 9:53
  If
• 9:54
  we
• 9:54
  set
• 9:55
  our
• 9:55
  brain
• 9:55
  to
• 9:56
  the
• 9:56
  dial
• 9:57
  of
• 9:57
  look
• 9:58
  for
• 9:58
  what's
• 9:58
  wrong,
• 9:59
  it
• 10:00
  will
• 10:00
  find
• 10:00
  everything.
• 10:01
  It
• 10:02
  will
• 10:02
  find
• 10:02
  everything
• 10:03
  that's
• 10:03
  wrong,
• 10:03
  and
• 10:03
  it
• 10:04
  will
• 10:04
  just
• 10:04
  keep
• 10:04
  adding
• 10:04
  and
• 10:05
  another
• 10:05
  thing,
• 10:05
  and
• 10:06
  another
• 10:06
  thing,
• 10:06
  and
• 10:06
  this
• 10:06
  too.
• 10:07
  And
• 10:07
  don't
• 10:07
  forget
• 10:07
  about
• 10:08
  that.
• 10:08
  It's
• 10:09
  just
• 10:09
  the
• 10:09
  way
• 10:09
  that
• 10:09
  we
• 10:10
  work.
• 10:10
  It's
• 10:10
  our
• 10:10
  survival,
• 10:11
  brain
• 10:11
  in
• 10:12
  action.
• 10:13
  But
• 10:13
  that
• 10:13
  doesn't
• 10:14
  mean
• 10:14
  it
• 10:14
  has
• 10:14
  to
• 10:14
  stay
• 10:15
  like
• 10:15
  that.
• 10:15
  We
• 10:16
  have
• 10:16
  access
• 10:17
  to
• 10:17
  it.
• 10:18
  So
• 10:18
  even
• 10:18
  though
• 10:19
  you
• 10:19
  might
• 10:19
  feel
• 10:19
  like,
• 10:20
  I'm
• 10:20
  doing
• 10:20
  everything
• 10:21
  for
• 10:21
  everybody
• 10:22
  and
• 10:22
  nobody
• 10:22
  sees
• 10:22
  me
• 10:23
  and
• 10:23
  nobody
• 10:23
  cares
• 10:23
  about
• 10:24
  me,
• 10:24
  this
• 10:24
  isn't
• 10:25
  about
• 10:25
  doing
• 10:26
  okay.
• 10:27
  This
• 10:27
  is
• 10:27
  about
• 10:28
  planting
• 10:28
  more
• 10:28
  flowers.
• 10:29
  So
• 10:29
  if
• 10:29
  you
• 10:29
  feel
• 10:30
  overrun,
• 10:31
  it's
• 10:32
  time
• 10:32
  to
• 10:32
  do
• 10:32
  less.
• 10:33
  If
• 10:34
  you
• 10:34
  feel
• 10:34
  overrun,
• 10:35
  it's
• 10:35
  time
• 10:36
  to
• 10:36
  start
• 10:37
  adding
• 10:37
  things
• 10:37
  to
• 10:37
  your
• 10:38
  day
• 10:38
  that
• 10:38
  are
• 10:38
  pleasurable
• 10:39
  for
• 10:39
  you.
• 10:40
  Not
• 10:40
  believing
• 10:41
  your
• 10:41
  brain
• 10:41
  when
• 10:41
  it
• 10:42
  says,
• 10:42
  I
• 10:42
  don't
• 10:42
  have
• 10:42
  time,
• 10:42
  I'm
• 10:43
  too
• 10:43
  busy.
• 10:43
  It's
• 10:44
  not
• 10:44
  enough.
• 10:45
  Taking
• 10:45
  that
• 10:46
  five
• 10:47
  seconds
• 10:47
  to
• 10:48
  take
• 10:48
  three
• 10:48
  deep
• 10:49
  breaths,
• 10:50
  plant
• 10:50
  more
• 10:51
  flowers.
• 10:52
  Changing
• 10:53
  the
• 10:53
  way
• 10:53
  that
• 10:53
  you
• 10:54
  think
• 10:54
  about
• 10:54
  yourself,
• 10:55
  changing
• 10:56
  the
• 10:56
  way
• 10:56
  that
• 10:56
  you
• 10:56
  deal
• 10:57
  with
• 10:57
  yourself,
• 10:57
  changing
• 10:58
  the
• 10:58
  way
• 10:58
  that
• 10:58
  you
• 10:59
  regulate
• 10:59
  your
• 11:00
  nervous
• 11:00
  system,
• 11:00
  take
• 11:01
  care
• 11:01
  of
• 11:01
  your
• 11:02
  senses,
• 11:02
  take
• 11:03
  care
• 11:03
  of
• 11:03
  your
• 11:03
  people,
• 11:04
  allowing
• 11:05
  yourself
• 11:05
  to
• 11:06
  not
• 11:06
  perform,
• 11:06
  to
• 11:07
  constantly
• 11:07
  not
• 11:08
  be
• 11:08
  on.
• 11:09
  For
• 11:09
  everyone,
• 11:11
  this
• 11:11
  is
• 11:11
  the
• 11:12
  way
• 11:12
  forward.
• 11:13
  Plant
• 11:13
  more
• 11:13
  flowers.
• 11:14
  The
• 11:15
  more
• 11:15
  flowers
• 11:15
  you
• 11:16
  plant,
• 11:16
  the
• 11:17
  less
• 11:17
  weeds
• 11:17
  have
• 11:18
  time
• 11:18
  to
• 11:18
  grow.
• 11:20
  It's
• 11:20
  not
• 11:20
  that
• 11:20
  we
• 11:20
  don't
• 11:21
  weed.
• 11:21
  And
• 11:21
  I've
• 11:22
  spent
• 11:22
  a
• 11:22
  lot
• 11:22
  of
• 11:22
  time
• 11:22
  on
• 11:23
  this
• 11:23
  podcast
• 11:24
  giving
• 11:24
  you
• 11:24
  real
• 11:25
  tools
• 11:25
  to
• 11:26
  navigate
• 11:26
  what
• 11:26
  isn't
• 11:27
  working
• 11:27
  in
• 11:27
  your
• 11:27
  life.
• 11:28
  But
• 11:28
  what
• 11:28
  I
• 11:29
  will
• 11:29
  also
• 11:29
  tell
• 11:29
  you
• 11:30
  is
• 11:30
  that
• 11:30
  you
• 11:30
  need
• 11:30
  to
• 11:30
  spend
• 11:31
  an
• 11:31
  equal
• 11:31
  amount
• 11:32
  of
• 11:32
  time
• 11:32
  creating
• 11:33
  what
• 11:33
  you
• 11:33
  want.
• 11:34
  And
• 11:35
  to
• 11:35
  me,
• 11:35
  it's
• 11:36
  about
• 11:36
  planting
• 11:37
  that
• 11:37
  garden.
• 11:38
  Can
• 11:38
  we
• 11:38
  plant
• 11:38
  perennials
• 11:39
  like
• 11:39
  my
• 11:39
  neighbor?
• 11:39
  Absolutely
• 11:40
  yes.
• 11:41
  And
• 11:41
  we
• 11:41
  should.
• 11:42
  We
• 11:42
  do
• 11:42
  that
• 11:43
  through
• 11:43
  time
• 11:44
  and
• 11:44
  practice.
• 11:45
  When
• 11:45
  someone
• 11:45
  says
• 11:45
  to
• 11:46
  me,
• 11:46
  why
• 11:46
  is
• 11:46
  coaching
• 11:47
  effective?
• 11:48
  It's
• 11:48
  because
• 11:48
  we
• 11:49
  do
• 11:49
  plant
• 11:49
  the
• 11:50
  flowers
• 11:50
  and
• 11:51
  we
• 11:51
  water
• 11:51
  them
• 11:51
  and
• 11:52
  we
• 11:52
  nourish
• 11:52
  them
• 11:52
  and
• 11:53
  we
• 11:53
  take
• 11:53
  care
• 11:53
  of
• 11:53
  them
• 11:54
  and
• 11:54
  we
• 11:54
  let
• 11:54
  them
• 11:54
  grow.
• 11:55
  And
• 11:55
  we
• 11:56
  let
• 11:56
  them
• 11:56
  grow
• 11:56
  for
• 11:56
  long
• 11:57
  enough
• 11:57
  that
• 11:57
  you
• 11:57
  have
• 11:57
  a
• 11:57
  garden
• 11:58
  that
• 11:58
  is
• 11:59
  full
• 12:00
  of
• 12:00
  beautiful
• 12:01
  things,
• 12:01
  beautiful
• 12:02
  thoughts,
• 12:02
  beautiful
• 12:03
  people,
• 12:03
  beautiful
• 12:04
  experiences,
• 12:05
  and
• 12:05
  you
• 12:06
  have
• 12:06
  the
• 12:06
  ability
• 12:07
  to
• 12:07
  keep
• 12:07
  that
• 12:08
  and
• 12:08
  maintain
• 12:08
  that
• 12:09
  and
• 12:09
  know
• 12:09
  how
• 12:09
  to
• 12:09
  care
• 12:10
  for
• 12:10
  that.
• 12:10
  To
• 12:11
  me,
• 12:11
  that's
• 12:11
  what
• 12:11
  coaching
• 12:12
  in
• 12:12
  a
• 12:12
  nutshell
• 12:13
  is.
• 12:14
  Everybody
• 12:15
  needs
• 12:15
  this
• 12:15
  skill.
• 12:17
  If
• 12:17
  you
• 12:17
  don't
• 12:17
  know
• 12:17
  how
• 12:17
  to
• 12:18
  plant
• 12:18
  flowers,
• 12:18
  you
• 12:19
  need
• 12:19
  to
• 12:20
  really
• 12:20
  evaluate
• 12:21
  how
• 12:22
  important
• 12:22
  is
• 12:22
  it
• 12:23
  for
• 12:23
  me
• 12:23
  to
• 12:23
  learn
• 12:23
  how
• 12:24
  to
• 12:24
  do
• 12:24
  that.
• 12:25
  In
• 12:25
  my
• 12:25
  opinion,
• 12:26
  it's
• 12:26
  one
• 12:26
  of
• 12:26
  the
• 12:26
  most
• 12:27
  important
• 12:27
  things
• 12:27
  you
• 12:27
  can
• 12:27
  learn.
• 12:29
  Otherwise
• 12:30
  you
• 12:30
  are
• 12:30
  just
• 12:30
  going
• 12:30
  to
• 12:31
  be
• 12:31
  perpetually
• 12:32
  weeding
• 12:33
  and
• 12:33
  wondering
• 12:34
  where
• 12:34
  the
• 12:34
  flowers
• 12:34
  are.
• 12:35
  All
• 12:35
  right,
• 12:36
  my
• 12:36
  friends,
• 12:36
  so
• 12:36
  that's
• 12:37
  what
• 12:37
  I've
• 12:37
  got
• 12:37
  for
• 12:37
  you.
• 12:37
  Short
• 12:37
  episode.
• 12:39
  If
• 12:39
  you
• 12:39
  want
• 12:39
  to
• 12:39
  talk
• 12:39
  to
• 12:40
  me,
• 12:40
  if
• 12:40
  you
• 12:40
  want
• 12:41
  to
• 12:41
  talk
• 12:41
  about
• 12:41
  this,
• 12:41
  if
• 12:42
  you
• 12:42
  want
• 12:42
  to
• 12:42
  really
• 12:42
  see
• 12:43
  how
• 12:43
  this
• 12:43
  could
• 12:44
  really
• 12:44
  deeply
• 12:44
  impact
• 12:45
  your
• 12:45
  life
• 12:45
  and
• 12:46
  create
• 12:46
  a
• 12:46
  life
• 12:46
  where
• 12:46
  you
• 12:47
  feel
• 12:47
  free
• 12:47
  and
• 12:48
  expansive
• 12:48
  and
• 12:49
  happy
• 12:49
  and
• 12:49
  joyful
• 12:50
  and
• 12:50
  ready,
• 12:51
  then
• 12:52
  book
• 12:52
  a
• 12:52
  call.
• 12:53
  Book
• 12:53
  a
• 12:54
  discovery
• 12:54
  call.
• 12:54
  Just
• 12:54
  go
• 12:55
  to
• 12:55
  amandahest
• 12:57
  ca
• 12:58
  bookacall
• 12:58
  and
• 12:59
  we
• 12:59
  can
• 12:59
  talk
• 12:59
  about
• 12:59
  it.
• 13:00
  Otherwise,
• 13:01
  that's
• 13:01
  what
• 13:01
  I
• 13:01
  got.
• 13:02
  I'll
• 13:02
  see
• 13:02
  you
• 13:02
  next
• 13:02
  week.
• 13:03
  Bye
• 13:03
  for
• 13:03
  now.
• 13:06
  Thanks
• 13:07
  so
• 13:07
  much
• 13:07
  for
• 13:07
  listening
• 13:08
  today.
• 13:08
  If
• 13:09
  this
• 13:09
  podcast
• 13:09
  is
• 13:09
  helping
• 13:10
  you,
• 13:10
  please
• 13:10
  follow
• 13:11
  wherever
• 13:11
  you
• 13:11
  listen
• 13:12
  and
• 13:12
  consider
• 13:13
  leaving
• 13:13
  a
• 13:13
  review.
• 13:14
  It
• 13:14
  truly
• 13:14
  helps
• 13:15
  this
• 13:15
  community
• 13:15
  grow
• 13:16
  and
• 13:16
  allows
• 13:16
  me
• 13:17
  to
• 13:17
  support
• 13:17
  more
• 13:18
  women
• 13:18
  like
• 13:19
  you.
• 13:20
  I'm
• 13:20
  excited
• 13:20
  to
• 13:21
  see
• 13:21
  you
• 13:21
  back
• 13:21
  here
• 13:21
  next
• 13:22
  week
• 13:22
  with
• 13:22
  a
• 13:22
  brand
• 13:22
  new
• 13:23
  episode.
• 13:24
  Until
• 13:24
  then,
• 13:25
  take
• 13:25
  care,
• 13:25
  friend.