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Hypnosis to Quit Smoking with Parts Therapy and Raised Standards · The Hypnotist

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  Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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  access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing
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  genuine. Issues.
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  Brought to you by The Hypnotherapist, demanded by
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  celebrities, CEOs and even royalty, Adam Cox.
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  These recordings took place live from Adam's clinic in London's
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  world famous Harley Street. So get yourself comfortable and
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  enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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  Hi, it's Adam here. And you're about to listen to a
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  smoking cessation hypnosis session with a difference.
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  And normally I do timeline work and creating emotional leverage,
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  but this was slightly different because the client told me that
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  they had a voice that comes up that almost pesters and controls
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  them to smoke at a particular time of the day.
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  And the way that that part was communicating, I could tell it
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  was a disassociated part. And it's disassociated because
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  it says things like you can't get rid of me, not you can't get
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  rid of I, you know, or myself. It was me.
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  So therefore it's disassociated. And she described this part as
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  looking like like a weird worm with a top hat and quite
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  arrogant and smug in how it's communicating.
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  So we do parts integration therapy, but also parts
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  submodality shifts by giving this part the opportunity to
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  become more influential and more integrated, but only if it meets
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  the same intention in a more elegant and empowering way.
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  This client would quite often have a cigarette at the end of
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  the day as a tree as a way of escaping, relaxing and just
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  ending the day. But what they wanted to do is to
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  replace that with something indulgent but in an empowering
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  way. And they wanted high quality
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  chocolates to be that catalyst. So they could imagine that if
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  they had, you know, a busy day, a stressful day or an
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  accomplished day, they could end it with a high quality
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  chocolate. And in doing so, that is an
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  indulgent and yet empowering way.
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  Chocolate's only a bad thing if you eat a lot of poor quality
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  chocolate, just the occasional one or two chocolates a day.
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  If they have high amounts of coca solids, it's actually quite
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  good, helps release serotonin and if it's linked to
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  accomplishment, even dopamine, because then it becomes a
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  sensory anchor to feeling good and accomplished and grateful,
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  all of these wonderful things. So there's a bit going on here.
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  Now, it is unlikely that you have exactly the same dynamics
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  going on as the client that I was working with.
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  You may have a conflicted part that's trying to influence you
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  to smoke. Maybe your habit is different
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  from smoking and and not that. And maybe nature is not your
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  place where you feel relaxed and maybe chocolate isn't the thing
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  that you want to do instead of smoking at the end of the day.
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  But I would encourage you to listen to this if you are a
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  smoker and want to quit because there will be elements of this
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  that you get benefit from. But if you do want a customized
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  bespoke session just for you, then I'll put a link in the
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  description. If you click more in more about
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  the show or more information or description, you can expand
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  that. There'll be lots of different
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  links. There's lots of free stuff in
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  there like free courses, free downloads, but there is also a
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  way that you can book a free 30 minute Zoom consultation call.
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  We'll have a chat and we could end up working together.
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  For now though, find a quiet, comfortable place where you
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  won't be disturbed. Relax and enjoy the session.
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  Take a deep breath in, and as you breathe in, breathe in that
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  wonderful feeling of calm and relaxation.
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  And as you exhale, feel that feeling of release, as if any
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  tension, stress or worries start to leave your body in your
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  outward breath. Each breath taking you deeper
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  and deeper, relaxed as you scan your body for any clues of
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  tension, maybe your jaw, your forehead and neck of your
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  shoulders. And every time you breathe out,
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  consider it release valve tension is being released and
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  just imagine how relaxed you can make that jaw.
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  Imagine feeling your tongue in your mouth feel relaxed, but
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  when you breathe in, it comes from the diaphragm, not your
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  chest or your nose. Almost like your body's doing
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  the breathing for you, and the deeper you breathe, the more
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  relaxed you feel. And the more relaxed you feel,
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  the deeper you breathe. A wonderful cycle of ever
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  increasing relaxation. Not that you need to be relaxed
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  to experience hypnosis, because you already know what hypnosis
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  feels like. You've already been following
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  suggestions from a part of you that didn't deserve the
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  influence to suggest you know what it's like to do a behaviour
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  that feels right in the moment, even if it doesn't fit with who
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  you are right now. But as your body relaxes, your
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  imagination awakens, and I wonder if you could imagine what
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  it would be like to be in beautiful nature.
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  Maybe it's trees and woodland, meadows and grass, and you get
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  to decide when in the year you're in that environment.
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  Spring day, sounds of birds, a summer's day, bright green
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  leaves or an autumn day with all of those wonderful colours of
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  the leaves. And just allow your unconscious
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  to imagine you in that nature. Feeling of oneness, feeling
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  connected, feeling that you are you and don't need to be anyone
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  else. You don't need to be better than
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  or worse than you are simply you.
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  And notice when you have that full acceptance, that natural
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  mindfulness, there is no desire to choose substitutes because
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  they're not needed. And I want you to get a feeling
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  that for a while now, almost everything is aligned, but there
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  is just one echo of your past which doesn't quite fit.
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  I want you to get a feeling then there was a time when the act of
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  smoking did fit who you were. Maybe that was in your teenage
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  years or early 20s, and that was fine for that time, but there
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  was a time when you were one or two years old that you would
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  have a dummy or suck your thumb and you don't do those anymore.
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  And yet you are still you. I want you to get a feeling that
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  smoking is just an echo of who you used to be, not who you are
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  anymore. And wouldn't it be good to still
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  be you, rather than an echo of you?
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  I want you to imagine, as you explore that nature, finding a
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  very comfortable chair, the kind of chair that definitely does
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  not belong around trees. And yet there, in your
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  imagination, it is. And just imagine sinking into
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  that chair, feeling even more deeply relaxed.
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  And as I countdown from 5 to 1, I want you to imagine sinking
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  deeply into the chair full of pure relaxation. 5 imagining a
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  yawn. 4 arms heavier, 3, just feeling all of your internal
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  organs relax down into your guard, and then two legs feeling
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  heavier so your arms and legs are like the limbs of a puppet
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  with no strings. And then one, from the tips of
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  your toes to the top of your head all the way down to your
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  fingertips, feel a ripple of relaxation.
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  And imagine sinking into that comfortable chair out in nature,
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  breathing in fresh air, and start to imagine a new ritual, a
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  new relationship, a new standard with yourself.
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  But before we set that standard, I want you to bring forth a part
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  that's always had a good intention, But the way that it
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  delivered, it was almost like a parasite taking from you,
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  controlling you, forcing you, coercing you.
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  And I want you to imagine that part, whichever form it takes.
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  And maybe, maybe it's wearing a hat, maybe it has a tone of
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  voice, maybe there's certain things that you never really
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  realise. But if this part was another
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  human, every time they tried to influence you, it would make you
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  want to do the opposite. I want you to look at all these
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  things that make you feel Then in its current form, the more it
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  tries to influence you, the more defiant, stubborn you become to
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  do the very opposite. And I want you to imagine
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  yourself perhaps late afternoon, early evening.
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  And that part appears almost with an entitled, arrogant tone.
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  I'm here. You're not going to get rid of
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  me. You will do as I say, and only
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  then I will go away. But now it feels different.
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  It feels like the more it tries to coerce you, the more defiant
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  you become. And I want you to imagine this
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  part looking that way, sounding that way, being more tenacious
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  than ever. And it simply creates the
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  opposite state in you. A refusal, a sense of defiance.
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  You will do what you want to do, not what this part is coercing
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  you to do. And if you can reach that point
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  where enough is enough, that they've lost all of their power
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  and nothing they say or do can make you want to smoke, let me
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  know by nodding your head, and maybe you can see an expression
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  of defeat or confusion. It's lost its power.
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  And there might be a part that says, well, I'll just come back
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  tomorrow. But I want you to let that part
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  know that under no circumstances will you respond while it talks
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  to you in that way. I want you to ask what its
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  positive intention has always been for you.
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  Just check if it's to protect, to keep you safe.
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  And if it is, let me know about nodding your head.
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  And I think it's been trying to keep you safe by keeping you
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  small, holding you back. Many people believe that they
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  shouldn't put their head above the parapet.
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  It's not safe to be that tall poppy in case someone chops you
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  down to size. But I want you to communicate
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  with that part and say that you're grateful for the
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  intention, but you no longer accept the way in which they're
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  helping. They want to keep you connected
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  to your past, fine, but there's so many things that are
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  wonderful from your past that you do want to maintain in your
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  future. And I want you to ask that part
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  to make a choice to either be banished or to be promoted, that
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  if it insists on taking its current form, current tonality,
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  current objective, it's no longer welcome.
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  But if it's willing to have more responsibility to evolve into a
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  new form, well, then it gets to be part part of the pack, part
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  of the tribe. It gets to be an insider rather
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  than an outsider. And if it's receptive to this
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  shift, let me know by nodding your head.
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  And I want you to say that the new role, the new role is to
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  empower you with high standards. The new role is to keep you safe
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  through excellent decision making and also to remind you to
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  have humility that no matter how successful you become, you will
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  never forget where you're from. And if this part is willing to
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  take those responsibilities on a probation basis, let me know
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  about nodding your head and then ask it ask it to take that form.
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  And when it shifts and changes, how it looks, how it sounds, how
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  it encourages you rather than belittles you, how it wants you
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  to Strive to do more, have more, be more.
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  It is how this part wants you to end the day with something
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  indulgent and yet empowering. And I want you to think.
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  Think about what it would be like on a day where you've done
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  things that make you proud, feel accomplished, you've worked
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  hard. And I want you to imagine what
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  it would be like to have some luxurious, high quality
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  chocolates. To have one at a point of quiet
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  reflection, a respite. Just time with yourself to think
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  over the day, to maybe reminisce from your past.
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  Not because you have to, but you may find yourself doing that.
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  And I want you to see if that evolved part feels that this
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  does what smoking was trying to do, but better.
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  And if it agrees, let me know about nodding your head.
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  And I want you to ask that part. It is welcome, if you deserve it
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  to prompt you, not you to do this kind of empowering
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  indulgence. You feel deserving, mindful.
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  The whole world does not exist in that moment.
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  You escape everything and yet it enhances your life.
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  It doesn't diminish, it doesn't hold you back, doesn't give you
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  any regrets, no shame. And if that part agrees that it
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  will help you to feel. Even more worthy, even more
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  capable, even more proud of what you do and how you do it.
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  Then it's past the interview and gets the promotion.
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  But be clear with that part. If it ever goes back to its
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  previous form, previous way of trying to be coercive, it loses
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  everything and you will banish it by sending it hundreds of
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  miles away, knowing it will take months before it can even get
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  close to you. And if it returns in that old
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  form, it will be banished again, and it's only welcome in its
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  evolved form. And then I want you to ask all
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  the other parts within you to vote if they're willing to allow
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  this part to be integrated rather than an outsider.
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  Let me know by nodding your head.
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  And that is on the condition that it it does its
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  responsibilities well. If it relapses back into its old
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  ways, sending it hundreds of miles away is evidence of
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  banishment that it is no longer welcome and would have to earn
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  its way back into the tribe, into the pack again.
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  Since this new relationship with yourself, these parts, is
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  established, I want you to think about yourself in the days that
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  follow. I want you to see how that old
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  habit loses all of its appeal. Smoking just means that that
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  parasitic part is winning. And I want you to get a feeling
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  that every time you refuse, you are voting on your own growth,
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  your own evolution, your own progress.
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  And I want you to see a new ritual, frictionless, quick and
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  yet deeply empowering. See yourself doing that
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  indulgent thing and yet it enhances your life.
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  I want you to get a thing that sometimes everything is improved
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  by something being added to it, and sometimes things are taken.
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  The parasite takes, but something synergistic adds.
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  And if you feel that this new ritual adds to your life rather
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  than takes, then it's evidence that it's the right thing.
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  But anything that adds to your health, your well-being,
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  feelings of gratitude and pride, accomplishment and reflection
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  could be that thing. But I want you to get a sense
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  that you get to decide and your emotions will tell you if you do
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  the thing and think about it after it's happened and you
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  still feel good, it's the right thing.
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  But if you do the thing and afterwards you feel regret,
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  shame or just unpleasantness, then it isn't the right thing.
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  Your own emotions and intuition will tell you everything you
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  need to know once you're convinced that future version of
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  you has this new identity without the echo of the past.
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  Imagine yourself 2 years from now on a busy, stressful day,
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  and see how you end the day in a way that is empowering and
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  indulgent, giving you a glimpse of wonderful changes yet to
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  come. But it's time to leave this
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  place. Find yourself back there in that
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  chair in nature. Leave the chair walking through
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  woodland, and then allow yourself to float all the way
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  back to the present, taking these new changes with you.
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  So take a deep breath in through your nose and out through your
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  nose. Just wiggle your fingers, wiggle
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  your toes, connect and calibrate into the here and the now as I
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  now count from 1:00 to 10:00 to awaken you.
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  Starting to count 123 waking up 456 more alert 7-8.
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  Open your eyes, open your eyes, 910.
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  Wide awake, wide awake, wide awake.
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