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It sucks, but it will heal your Nervous System (trust me) · Bye Bye Panic

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  [SPEAKER_00]: There is one thing that will heal your nervous system and nobody wants to talk about it.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It's not a supplement, it's not some breathing protocol, it's not a somatic practice, what heals your nervous system kind of sucks.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But I guarantee if you do this one thing, you will overcome these symptoms in recover.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I know this because this is the exact thing we teach thousands of people in our recovery program to heal from anxiety and a sensitized nervous system.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You ready?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Here it is.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Do the things that you've been avoiding and while you do those things don't try to feel better in the moment.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Now, I know that's easier said than done, but you also have to acknowledge that everything you've done up until this point has been to try to feel better and feeling better and recovery are two different things.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So in this video I want to give you practical examples of what this looks like and what are some principles and frameworks you can use to make this journey more simpler and heal even faster.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So here's the first part.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Do the thing your nervous system is screaming at you not to do.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Chances are, if you're dealing with these symptoms, it's limited your life in some capacity, whether it's avoiding work, avoiding travel, not driving your car, maybe it's avoiding a sensation, a feeling, maybe it's fighting something, whatever you're dealing with, it has limited your life in some capacity.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Now, what your nervous system has learned is that these sensations
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  [SPEAKER_00]: that's why you avoid them.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And in many ways, you probably believe this as well.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You might feel that this sensation is dangerous, that the symptoms just sucks, and that you want to do anything and everything to not feel it.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But here's what's happening.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Whenever you're resisting that feeling, those alarms in your nervous system will fire more.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It will say, Sean is avoiding something, so these symptoms and sensations are dangerous.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So in order to heal from this, what you want to do is to live your life with these symptoms there side by side.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You don't want to pretend that the symptoms aren't there, the symptoms are obviously there.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But instead of reacting in fear, you allow this sensation to be there.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: That means driving even while you have a panic attack, going on that vacation, giving that presentation, living your life with the symptoms side by side.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Now, I know this is hard, because you're being asked to stop protecting yourself from the only thing that's ever felt like real danger to you.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: with no proven advance that you'll be okay.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And so if this is just very scary for you and you're just not sure how to approach this, I've created a nervous system assessment that breaks down how sensitize your nervous system is.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: What's keeping your nervous system in that sensitization mode?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And what are some of the habits and behaviors that you're reinforcing without acknowledging or recognizing it?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You can take that free assessment down below the link is in the description.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Now, the second part is equally as important and it's one of the reasons why people might allow their sensations, but they don't make any progress.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And that is, they're trying to still feel better in the moment.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So they might have learned this concept of allowing and accepting.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And so what happens is they develop an expectation.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Okay, if I just live my life and let the symptoms be there, they should go away.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Is the symptom there?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Is it not?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Oh, it's still there.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Am I not alarming correctly?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Am I not allowing my sensations to be there?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Am I not doing this whole process correctly?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: What's happened is that people begin using allowing and accepting as a sophisticated form of making this go away.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So here's how I would approach it if I was on the healing journey.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: The first thing is to stop waiting for a good day.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: What that means is that many people will wait to feel a certain way and then do the thing.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: The things that they've been avoiding, the things that have been limiting their life, that they know they have to do, but they just don't feel ready.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: What I say is don't wait for a good day to come.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Because in the healing journey, a lot of people think that they need to feel better first and then do the thing.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: but healing is actually reverse.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It's focusing on the action.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: As you begin implementing these things, as you begin allowing and accepting the sensations to be there and living your life, regardless of whether the symptoms are there or not, you begin re-teaching a nervous system.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: As you focus on that action, the consequence, which is feeling okay, comes on its own.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But again, the trap happens that people expect to feel okay.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: If I just do this, I should feel better.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: They're still chasing a feeling.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Now this leads me to the second point, which is drop the goal of trying to do this perfectly, or do this well.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Whenever people begin their healing journey, they often say, am I doing this correctly?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Am I allowing this sensations to be there?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Am I doing this right?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And the reason why they're asking is because they might be doing things by allowing and accepting, but their sensations are still there.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And deep down, they still have this expectation that, hey, I thought I was allowing.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: If I was allowing, shouldn't these symptoms go away?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And so this is the second trap, which is they're trying to do this correctly.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Recognize that there is no right or wrong here.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: All you have to do is just allow the sensations to be there, the best you can.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: The focus is on intent.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It's not about how you feel.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: What happens is people make their measurement of success based on how they feel.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So they allow an accept and then they check the monitor and say, hey, my symptoms are there.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So I must not be doing this correctly.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: otherwise my symptoms should be gone.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: They have an expectation.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And this is why this sucks.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Because you can't make your feelings the metric or your north star.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You can't look at your symptoms and say am I heading the right direction or the wrong direction?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: This is why people get stuck in the cycle.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: The main focus is on how well am I responding in the moment.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Am I responding the best I can?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: That's it.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Not was I responding better yesterday or hey before when I was feeling good responding was a lot easier.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Now it's a lot harder.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It doesn't work like that.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: All you want to do is respond right now in the moment.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: The moment you start grading yourself based on how you feel, you're back into that reassurance
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Now, as you're doing the thing, your nervous system is screaming at you not to do, without trying to feel better in the moment, you have to make peace with the fact that you're going to feel worse before you feel better.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Your nervous system will get louder as you begin accommodating life more, as you go back to living, as you stop trying to fix this.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Your nervous system falsely thinks that what you're experiencing is dangerous.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So it's going to try to get your attention in every way it can.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It will have certain symptoms magnify.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It might even have certain symptoms change.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It will do everything it can to make you think that somehow this is different.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Because it wants your attention.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Your nervous system will say, Hey, you used to respond like this.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Now you're not responding like this.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Why?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Even that subtle change you recognize that your nervous system is beginning to adjust.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It's watching you and saying, Hey, Sean is still living his life.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Yes, he's obviously not enjoying this.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: The symptoms are intense.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But he's not running away and fear anymore.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: He's allowing this sensation to be there.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: He's not fighting it, he's not resisting it.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Maybe these are false alarms because Sean is still alive.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And so all we need to do is just turn the volume down a little bit.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: This is how your nervous system begins to recognize that what it's dealing with is a false alarm.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: As you begin doing this, the nervous system begins de-sensitized.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You will see that the symptoms begin to fade on their own.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But whenever you have that expectation that, hey, I'm allowing the symptoms should be going away, your nervous system gets that hint.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And it recognizes that you're just allowing an accepting as another sophisticated form of avoiding this.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So the key here is to recognize to make life more important than your sensations.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Focus on what kind of life do you want, what are your values, what are your goals, and start working towards that.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Not waiting for a good day to come first, but recognize that good days come as you begin responding and living your life.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Now, as you do this, it will be difficult on some days.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Some days might be easier, but you will notice over time that the symptoms over time do begin to subside.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You might have some spikes.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You might have some moments where the symptoms come back full force.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And you'll begin to question everything.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But, as long as you stay the course, and you still do the things that your nervous system is screaming at you not to do, without trying to feel better in the moment, when you make that your Nordstar.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Recovery isn't just possible.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Recovery is inevitable.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Thanks for watching.