Latest / Age Like a Badass Mother / Ep. 71: Style Icon at 80: Lynne Bowman on Looking Hot and Living Healthfully
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- 0:00Dear God, please let me be as sexy, stylish and fun as Lynn Bowman when I'm 80 years old or even now.
- 0:08That'd be good.
- 0:10Oh my gosh, this is a good conversation and stay till the end.
- 0:12You're not going to believe the famous person that Lynn dated in the 1960s.
- 0:17This might be one that you actually want to watch on YouTube so you can see her.
- 0:21And please subscribe while you're over there.
- 0:24So you might know by now that I reversed my heart disease and lost 20 pounds by eating a whole food plant based diet.
- 0:30I made a free cookbook with my favorite recipes for you.
- 0:34So after the show, head over to, well, elephant.com to grab it.
- 0:38And if you're really ready to take control of your health in reverse disease like I did, check out my online class Ace Plant Based Eating.
- 0:47Okay, here is Lynn Bowman.
- 0:51Hi friend, are you looking to age healthfully, confidently and vibrantly?
- 0:55Then this podcast is for you.
- 0:57Smart, slightly salty, irreverent, and thought provoking.
- 1:02I'm Lauren Bernick and this is age.
- 1:04Like a badass mother.
- 1:08Author of Amazon Best selling Brownies for breakfast Lynn has been featured at Women's Expos across the country, teaming up with actress Deidre Hall to write and publish Deidre Hall's Kitchen Close Up and Deidre Hall's How Does She Do It?
- 1:23She's won national awards as a creative director for Silicon Valley companies, was creative director at Ian Jay Gallo Winery, advertising manager at Red laboratories and freelance for advertising agencies in San Jose, Los Angeles and New York.
- 1:40She has also worked as an actress, makeup artist, screenwriter, illustrator, legal journalist and possibly the worst television weather person in the history of broadcasting.
- 1:52You can get in touch with her at Lynn bowman.com L, Y and E both Wmaz woman.
- 2:00Welcome this fabulous badass lady Lynn Bowman.
- 2:06Welcome.
- 2:07First of all, how much do I love the fact that badass is right there in your title?
- 2:11I mean, yes, in the name.
- 2:14Let's do this, girls.
- 2:15Yeah.
- 2:16I mean, oh my gosh, I don't even know where to start with you because you've had such like an a crazy illustrious career.
- 2:22But just tell me some of the highlights and, and how you got to where you are.
- 2:27And you just shared with me that you are in your 80th year.
- 2:30If you guys you have to look at this on YouTube.
- 2:33Oh my God, this woman is gorgeous.
- 2:37And and how much do we always love to hear that?
- 2:39But I also come from a time before the dawn of time.
- 2:46Because I'm this old when we do things very differently and we thought differently, and what was in front of us as women was so different.
- 2:56And I love talking about that long because, you know, the young'uns and I'm happy to say I have some wonderful youngins in my life, both my own kids and some friends who are 20, 23, 25.
- 3:10You know, they are coming into a very, very different world than I did.
- 3:15And so, you know, when you read my resume and believe me, that's just a chopped, very, very edited version.
- 3:22Ten but back in the day, you know, we did whatever there was to do.
- 3:29We lied, we cheated.
- 3:31We, you know, borrowed things to make it look like we could do a thing because it there was just so little available except teaching, nursing, you know, as you all know.
- 3:43Yeah. Yeah. Tried.
- 3:45Why think.
- 3:46But what did you want to be like?
- 3:49What?
- 3:49What put you on this trajectory for all these creative things?
- 3:52We always just a creative entity.
- 3:55The what I wanted to be, I think as I, as I really work hard to think back before the dawn of time, what I wanted to be was a fashion illustrator.
- 4:08I loved clothes and, you know, costume.
- 4:13And I was always doing art, and that just seemed like the and that was the thing that didn't bother anybody.
- 4:19That was a just fine thing for a girl to do.
- 4:23Yeah.
- 4:23And so I was able to go ahead and do that and, you know, then things kind of change as you grow up.
- 4:33Big moment in my life was when my mother died when I was 18.
- 4:38So. And she had been ill for a long time, chronic disease, which actually goes to our other, conversation that we're going to have pretty soon.
- 4:50And so I, at the age of 1920, I forget exactly one way ticket to Europe, to Paris, you know, no phone, no money.
- 5:03I had a passport and, guts.
- 5:08No, I wasn't too smart, so.
- 5:11Oh, that's not true.
- 5:13Well, but you know what I'm saying? I.
- 5:15What were you going there to do?
- 5:17I was going there to be a fashion illustrator of that.
- 5:20Okay, so you were still just.
- 5:21You know.
- 5:22That was my cover coming up.
- 5:24I was going there because I had just always thought, okay, Paris, Paris.
- 5:28That's where I'm going to go.
- 5:30Because it was everything that I thought was wonderful and cool.
- 5:33I'd been at UCLA for three semesters.
- 5:37Boring. It was just, you know.
- 5:40Yeah, I can remember sitting in a geology class with 500 other overprivileged, bored people in the dark going at the why?
- 5:52Why am I here?
- 5:54You know, I've just had this horrible my mom was gone, but also my dog was gone.
- 5:58My house was gone.
- 5:58My dad had gone on to a different life.
- 6:01My siblings were gone, so all my tethers were cut.
- 6:06And it was 1966 was 64 when I graduated from high school.
- 6:12And those, if you've got any sense at all of the history of civil rights or anything, those are very seminal years.
- 6:20You know, the world was on fire, it was changing.
- 6:24And we didn't know what was going to happen.
- 6:26Kind of like now in a ways.
- 6:29But, I just thought, okay, I'm going to Paris.
- 6:34That's that.
- 6:34And so were you.
- 6:35A fashion illustrator there?
- 6:37I did some, and it was pretty decent.
- 6:39There's one one kind of up behind me.
- 6:43But I didn't have that burning thing that that was going to be, you know, my life.
- 6:49I just thought, well, this is fun, you know?
- 6:51And, and so.
- 6:53And I ended up going to Bordeaux nannying, staying friend.
- 6:59I went to University of California at Bordeaux for a few weeks something, and then went to Paris and met up with friends and, you know, we we didn't plan everything out back in the day.
- 7:14I mean, there might have been an unusual.
- 7:16Maybe you were one of those who thought, okay, I don't care.
- 7:18I'm going to be a doctor, you know, or a lawyer, you know, a great author or something.
- 7:24But it didn't seem to me like there was much point in planning, because what was that going to look like?
- 7:32I mean, I didn't even know I always wanted to be a mom.
- 7:35I wanted to have a family, want to have a home because mine was gone, I think.
- 7:39And and that felt like it would be grounding and wonderful.
- 7:43But that also seemed remote in many ways.
- 7:47So, you know, I with the thing I knew how to work.
- 7:50I had worked since I was 12, 13 and I liked working, you know, whether it was nannying or, or, you know, helping set up tables or whatever it was.
- 8:00I was fine with that.
- 8:02And, so when I got back to the United States, I don't work, by the way, it wasn't as difficult in that time.
- 8:11And I couldn't write, which I didn't even think was a thing, you know? But, yeah, I could put a sentence together and put a paragraph together, and, I went to work for it, Cannon Electric in LA.
- 8:28And I'm going to tell that story because I hadn't been there very long.
- 8:33And one of the vice presidents came down to the basement where I was in the publications department, and took me aside after a little conference with my boss and said, you know, we really can't dress this way here.
- 8:49You need to dress more professionally.
- 8:51I had on a mini skirt I had on.
- 8:53I can still remember the dress.
- 8:55It was a little yellow number.
- 8:57Very short and cute and little puffy sleeves.
- 9:00And, you know, I had just come back from London and Paris, and so, of course, I was trying hard to look like Twiggy, you know, and and not doing a bad job of that.
- 9:10But in corporate America, it was just, who is the girl downstairs in publications, you know, get her out of it.
- 9:18Dressed in her cute mini skirt.
- 9:20Yeah.
- 9:20Which, you know, also, I don't know how different your background is in it, but I got fired a fair amount of times.
- 9:29Oh, yeah.
- 9:30I think that's hugely forming.
- 9:34I mean, I think that's a big, fat part of being badass in a way, because.
- 9:38Fired sign. Yeah. See you. Okay. Bye bye.
- 9:41Moving on. Yeah.
- 9:44What was.
- 9:45So what were some of the things that you did?
- 9:47And how did you end up, like, being a creative director and writing these books with Deirdre Hall and.
- 9:53Well, the story goes on with the yellow mini dress.
- 9:57I mean, I actually, I probably was there for a few more weeks, but then a guy came in, was talking to my boss, and he came over and talking to me, and he said, you know, I, I am working for this company out in the Valley.
- 10:10That's a great cosmetic company.
- 10:12They're new. They're interesting, they're doing a thing.
- 10:14So funny thing, I found myself out there applying for work at Redken Laboratories, which was at that time privately held, rather small in Venice.
- 10:27And the president was a woman named Paula Kent.
- 10:31And I was there about three weeks, and I went in on a Monday morning, and everyone but me had been fired in the advertising department.
- 10:43Well, so guess what I said I'll handle it.
- 10:48It's I mean, you know, I'm like, 21 years old and just full of myself and loved Paula Kent and loved the job.
- 10:56And I was surrounded by all these wonderful men, these gay men who were in the beauty business and so fun and different than the guys I've been working with at it.
- 11:06Can electric.
- 11:07So I told her I would work my butts off and do everything to pull it.
- 11:11And by golly, I did.
- 11:13For the next 3 or 4 years, and I asked all my vendors to teach me everything they knew.
- 11:19So the job also ended up being this graduate course in printing and paper reproduction and, you know, advertising, media, buying all of it.
- 11:30These people who were selling to me were more than happy to teach me how to buy from them.
- 11:37So I loved it.
- 11:39I mean, it was all swell.
- 11:43And, had a great little apartment on Coldwater Canyon and rode my bike to work, which she made me park in the back because she thought it was tacky to have bicycles in the front of the office.
- 11:55So, you know, times change.
- 11:58So exactly. That's cool.
- 12:01But I love the job.
- 12:02And then I suddenly woke up one day, and I can't even completely remember what my thinking was.
- 12:10Except I am going to be 45 years old and single, and, my life will be gone and I will have been here in this company the whole time.
- 12:22So, you know, pretty soon there I was off for Europe again.
- 12:27And instead of taking a hiatus or, you know, whatever, I just kissed them all goodbye and thanked them and left.
- 12:34And, what did I do next?
- 12:38And how old were you at that point?
- 12:41I think I was 25.
- 12:44So you stayed there a few years.
- 12:45And so I did her freelance stuff, and then.
- 12:49Oh, then I went to North Carolina to see my brother, who was doing some work back there, had a development, and I met a guy on a horse show.
- 12:59How many stories start? Like, I.
- 13:02I met a guy at a horse.
- 13:03Show that a guy had a horse show horse.
- 13:06And we got to talking and he said, what do you do?
- 13:09And I don't know, I made up some shit.
- 13:11And he said, well, we're looking for someone at the NBC affiliate here in Wilmington, North Carolina.
- 13:19You want to send me a real ID?
- 13:21So guess what I did, Laura.
- 13:23You made a real animal. Were real.
- 13:26And incredibly, he hired me.
- 13:29And so I packed up my stuff and talking about Deidre and what we did together.
- 13:36One of my earliest memories of her, I met her, actually.
- 13:38She was a hair model.
- 13:40She was a model, like, just freshly minted.
- 13:42So she was on, soap opera. Right.
- 13:45Well, exhaustion.
- 13:47Days of our lives. Okay, she's.
- 13:49Still on the air, and it is going to continue to be on the air.
- 13:53Don't you bet.
- 13:54Oh, wow.
- 13:55Yeah, yeah.
- 13:56I didn't realize that. This is 50 years.
- 14:00She's still in it.
- 14:01Yes, she is, doctor Malina Evans, the wise and sexy, and beautiful, psychiatrist.
- 14:12And, you know, person who.
- 14:14Oh, my. Gosh. Wait. So how'd you meet her?
- 14:17So she was a model, and I hired her to be a hair model at Redken.
- 14:22But the way we've already talked about.
- 14:25She walked in the door.
- 14:26I had seen this beautiful head sheet of this glamorous blond, you know, and I thought, wow, she's looks like, you know, the American.
- 14:34And she's just, you know, hair. And so.
- 14:36Okay. She's perfect.
- 14:37She walks in the door and she's very skinny and freckly, and she looks at me and I look at her, and we just fell madly in love.
- 14:46I mean, you know, I, you know, when that second.
- 14:49Okay. You're my people. Yes. Yes.
- 14:51You just know.
- 14:52She was faking it. I was faking it.
- 14:55But we were both making it.
- 14:56Faking it, you know? It was. Okay.
- 14:58You weren't faking it. You were.
- 14:58You were making it.
- 15:01Well, so.
- 15:01Okay, so then you're in North Korea.
- 15:03So I was in North Carolina, and I was about to have my I had, married a fella, and I was about to have my first baby, and she came back to stay with me.
- 15:16And then she got this offer from Days of Our Lives.
- 15:19And so she had to leave before the baby actually was born.
- 15:22And he is going to be 50 in a week.
- 15:25That baby.
- 15:26Gosh.
- 15:26And she's been on Days of Our Lives for 50 years.
- 15:29That's incredible.
- 15:30And so is this where you were the worst weather person?
- 15:34Yes, in Wilmington, North Carolina.
- 15:37And what why were you the worst weather person back there?
- 15:44With my fabulous wardrobe and attitude and everything.
- 15:47And they he had to explain to me that, they were going to start me on whether it's like, wait, I was going to do news.
- 15:56No, you're going to do weather.
- 15:58Okay.
- 16:01Of course, I did not know dep about whether.
- 16:04I mean, I grew up in LA, I was born in Hollywood.
- 16:07It's sunny, sunny day every day in weather.
- 16:10I had never seen any, so it was awkward to say the least.
- 16:16And I'm sure they had had a storm.
- 16:18They'd had a 100 years and it was just it went downhill from there.
- 16:22And it ended the way many jobs for young women.
- 16:26And, I don't need to tell the whole story, but, I was out of there, I read in part of your autobiography or your biography that you and Deidre Hall, wrote this book and it's, you know, what is what beauty is and why it matters.
- 16:46they include never shop for clothes or accessories with a child, a dog or a head.
- 16:50Is there a sexual man?
- 16:53I love it and then know which stores or brands offer clothes whose fit models match you.
- 16:59And I think that's so important because I know that there are stores where I can't shop because I'm like, this is for tall people, or this is.
- 17:07But tell me some of those things that went into this book, how this book came about.
- 17:11These things are so interesting to me because I think style and the way you present yourself matters a lot.
- 17:19We are soul sisters, my darling.
- 17:22You know, this is a thing that people feel a little awkward about sometimes.
- 17:29We seem to have separated style and costume into the very wealthy ones who can afford stuff that we wouldn't if we could.
- 17:43You know, where it's all about the money.
- 17:45And then the rest of us, poor little schmooze, who have to buy stuff at regular retail and and that's an artificial obviously thing.
- 17:53But but still, we seem to be buying the story that if you're not wearing Jimmy Choos or, you know, Manolo Blahnik or whatever, you're just not cool that if you're not wearing good jeans, you're you're not okay.
- 18:14And there couldn't be anything further from the truth.
- 18:19And I, I'm having so many thoughts about this right now for a number of reasons.
- 18:23One, I watched an incredible, well, I will say incredible a fascinating it was credible and it was fascinating documentary last night about the fashion industry and how behind behind cars and airplanes, I think it was fashion is the biggest waster and user of fossil fuels on the planet, and the biggest creator of plastic waste on the planet and fast fashion. Yeah.
- 18:56Let that sink in for yes. Yes.
- 19:00You know, and so number one, ladies, we're not in the 70s anymore.
- 19:05We're not in the 60s. 50s anymore.
- 19:08This is a new time when we need to really think deeply about where our costumes, our clothes come from and how often we think we need to replace them.
- 19:21And as of last night, I'm never been anything again.
- 19:25I'm done.
- 19:26You can buy them at thrift stores.
- 19:27I buy a lot at vintage or thrift stores.
- 19:30I really do.
- 19:30Ever since I heard about that.
- 19:33Solutely and my daughter and I both love fixing old things for ourselves and putting appliques on them and adding a pocket and so on.
- 19:40I thought I was a little odd that way, but and the young ones are really into vintage shopping.
- 19:46I'm thrilled to hear that.
- 19:48But what are some things that women should be?
- 19:51What are some things we should have in our wardrobe?
- 19:54Talk about the fit model thing, because I don't think people realize that about their body types and.
- 20:01Well, yeah, it it seems almost, kind of, I don't know, old fashion now, but there are definitely.
- 20:10I'll give you 1 or 2 examples.
- 20:12Eileen Fisher is definitely me because that's a common one.
- 20:16We've all seen Eileen Fisher.
- 20:18If we haven't bought Eileen Fisher, we've seen it in the magazines and in the malls.
- 20:22And that is definitely for, a woman of, you know, sort of mid to larger stature, you know, someone who who doesn't want a waistline emphasized, someone who, wants to be a little bit hidden by their clothes.
- 20:41And Eileen Fisher does a great job of making those comfortable but sort of chic things for people who don't want something fitted.
- 20:50None of it is. Can you fit it?
- 20:53Can you get that at, Nordstrom Rack?
- 20:55I feel like I've seen that at Nordstrom or Nordstrom Rack.
- 20:58I think you can probably and then a TJ Max probably too.
- 21:02And even discounters are probably carrying Eileen Fisher. Yeah.
- 21:05At this point.
- 21:06But yeah that's the one that I would suggest people are really familiar with.
- 21:12And then there are some let me because I'm typically not shopping in this size zero zero.
- 21:19Section like these are.
- 21:21More.
- 21:22But I would say gap as another common one goes from mid-sized to much smaller, but from size 12 up you're probably going to be in trouble there.
- 21:38And the fit model idea is do you have broad shoulders?
- 21:44Do you have a tiny waist?
- 21:46You're going to have to find the brand that cuts for broad shoulders, or a tiny waist, or a not so tiny waist, and there are so many of them out there that it's a little hard.
- 21:59I've always loved shopping when I've shopped at the TJ Max's of the world, because all the pants are on one rack, and you can pick up ten pairs of pants and take a ton. Of.
- 22:12Fitting room and go, okay, this brand and work this brand and work this brand, and okay, here's a brand that works.
- 22:18And then when you go back to the rack, you can pull more of that fit model from that brand in that size then.
- 22:26And they'll they'll work for you.
- 22:28I was talking about, the brand that I absolutely no, I cannot wear is an Taylor loft.
- 22:34They used to have one at my mall, and that's for, I think, tall women.
- 22:37Like, I'm kind of petite.
- 22:39I'm like five foot three, but I was like, this is not.
- 22:42Nothing has ever looked good on me in that store.
- 22:45So if you're tall, that might be a good store for you.
- 22:48But what are like some basics we should have in our wardrobe that can like so we don't go out looking all swampy every day in our yoga pants.
- 22:55And I mean, you can even cued up your yoga pants, I think, with like, boots and stuff.
- 22:59But tell tell us some.
- 23:02What would we do without yoga pants?
- 23:04I know I live in them, but yeah, tell us some some things that, you know, women should have in their wardrobe or some.
- 23:12Some style tips.
- 23:15Well, okay.
- 23:16But I'll also start with if you do a little something with your hair.
- 23:22And I think I can illustrate that on camera here, I do nothing with my hair.
- 23:27I pull it back in a little knot and, and and I and it still doesn't work quite right.
- 23:33And I slick it back.
- 23:34But I've obviously made an effort and it's not in my face and not in my way.
- 23:40Now, if I had your hair.
- 23:42I was going to say, mine's in my way and in my face.
- 23:44Should I be like, I probably should.
- 23:46I would just go out in the hair, I wouldn't, I wouldn't need to wear anything else.
- 23:50That's all I would need.
- 23:52But so start with the attitude that whatever you have on is working.
- 23:59It's right.
- 23:59So comb your hair.
- 24:00You know, put some lip glue on.
- 24:03And, I mean, I'm still wearing stretchy black things all the time, and there are a lot of people who say, oh, black, black.
- 24:13I'm so sick of black.
- 24:14Well, I wear black and white sometimes I wear black and hot pink sometimes.
- 24:21Yes. But, you know, we all want comfort now.
- 24:27And as well, we should, How do I prescribe this?
- 24:34It's a whole kind of a bigger question because it's about you.
- 24:40It's about what you want to project, what you look like.
- 24:45And when I'm teaching the young ones about it, what I always say is dress the way you want to be treated.
- 24:52And so in my case, I try and dress like deposed royalty.
- 24:59I love it, I love it.
- 25:00That's not for everyone, but it can work, you know, if you want to see it on a bus or whatever, it's, I mean, if you have a couple of cute jackets.
- 25:142 or 3.
- 25:15My favorite trick.
- 25:16And this is not exclusive to me in any way.
- 25:19And, something you see reusing is when you have a few three, 4 or 5, whatever.
- 25:27Pretty nice jackets that fit that are the right cut for you, that are your colors.
- 25:35You're you're kind of set because underneath that stretchy black thing, pair of jeans, white t shirt, you know, it doesn't take much if you're if your pants fit reasonably well or if they're meant to be loose.
- 25:51But you have that jacket and then you have scarf and, you know, a little bracelet and you're good to go.
- 25:59I think that's good, I think, and, you know, you can those those are some of the things that maybe you want to spend a little more on because it's something that's going to be like a staple that you keep in your wardrobe.
- 26:10And maybe you go to a department store where somebody can actually help you, not like TJ Max, but you can pick up.
- 26:18I'm not saying you can't get something at TJ Max, but that might be something where you go to an actual department store and have somebody really who might understand body types and, you know, help you get something that looks really good on you.
- 26:31Grab your gay best friend and go to TJ Max.
- 26:35Well that's true. Or just your girlfriend who really gets it, who will be honest with you.
- 26:42And you know, there's no it doesn't.
- 26:43Just tell you it looks good.
- 26:45Your girlfriend's saying, well, you know, I like it in the front, but when you turn around, I mean, the butt's just not working.
- 26:51Right?
- 26:51You need somebody else's honest face on you.
- 26:55I think if you're shopping, seriously, shopping.
- 26:59And you don't need to pay a ton for a good jacket, but it does need to fit.
- 27:04And it does need to be in your colors and it needs to be in a not crazy right now style.
- 27:13I mean, I'm think more classic and is sort of, unfortunately, Ralph Lauren's my fit model.
- 27:23Okay, but that's good.
- 27:25Never for retail.
- 27:27You never, never.
- 27:28I mean, you know, but that's that's the look that seems to work for me.
- 27:33And, and so I will, of course, look for rip offs of that, but it's for me, it's a, it's a pretty tailored, pretty conservative kind of, jacket and things to go with it.
- 27:48That's, that's really good.
- 27:50I feel like we should move on and talk about your book.
- 27:54Brownies for breakfast.
- 27:56What?
- 27:57How how did this book, get birthed?
- 27:59And what brought this on?
- 28:02You mean this one that I just happened to have?
- 28:04This one.
- 28:06Just happened. Have.
- 28:07It's a beautiful book.
- 28:09This got birthed.
- 28:11How? I'm diabetic, and, I'm type two diabetic, and I have been since my 40s.
- 28:20And because there was very little good information available and the doctors were not helpful, I have been teaching myself for decades how to stay healthy and what that involves.
- 28:35And I also know mother, single mother, for most of it of three kids.
- 28:41And I was also, as we've already discussed, working all the time.
- 28:46So I learned how to eat very healthy and feed my children in a healthy way, but I had to be able to put it on the table in 15 minutes after we got home, and it had to be cheap.
- 29:02So that's what this book is, is how and why.
- 29:07You know, I do some explanation here, but no sort of cellular biology bullshit.
- 29:12I just wanted somebody to tell me, what do you eat?
- 29:15What do you do?
- 29:15Tell me what to what I should do.
- 29:19And and I don't want, you know, 200 pages of explanation.
- 29:23Physics. You know, all of it.
- 29:25I just don't have time for that.
- 29:27So I did that book for you.
- 29:29For anybody who wants to know what to do to get to eat very old and crusty, and, healthy.
- 29:39And still healthy.
- 29:40Well, so is this book whole food plant based?
- 29:46Seasonal?
- 29:46Whole food.
- 29:47Is this book whole food plant based?
- 29:50It absolutely is.
- 29:51It's real food.
- 29:54Whole food plant forward, plant based.
- 29:59But I include the hacks for everybody.
- 30:02If you want to eat fish, great.
- 30:02Here's how.
- 30:04If you want to eat some meat, here's what.
- 30:06Here's how.
- 30:07If you want to be vegetarian, good.
- 30:09Just do this.
- 30:10If you're vegan, here's a hack for that because it's not really very different.
- 30:16The main thing that I talk about that is so hard for people to, you know, even now, knowing what everybody knows is you have to quit sugar.
- 30:28And I don't mean slow down or be careful or manage it.
- 30:33I mean, can I be potty mouth here? Is it.
- 30:36Okay? Yeah, of course you can say whatever the hell you.
- 30:38Want and I say fucking quit. Yes.
- 30:41You can say. It because after you quit, your chemistry will change.
- 30:48In three weeks, your saliva will change, will be different.
- 30:52Your food will taste different, your skin will already look different.
- 30:58And so it's a very rewarding thing actually to do.
- 31:02Unlike a lot of dieting, you don't have to wait six months.
- 31:05You know, you will see this and feel this, but so many people, I mean, it's emotional, right?
- 31:12It's deeply psychological.
- 31:15People don't want you to take their nannies away.
- 31:18Their treats, you know?
- 31:20But what I offer for you are treats that are better than the ones you're eating more beautiful.
- 31:26Way healthier and easier to make, but you just make them with different stuff?
- 31:32Start spilling of how you get to be eight years old and look the way you look.
- 31:37Tell.
- 31:38Let's, like, let's get to the meat of the the situation here.
- 31:41Lynn, what do you do?
- 31:44What do I do to look the way I look?
- 31:46Yes, to look so gorgeous.
- 31:49I mean, you really do.
- 31:50You're so youthful.
- 31:52And, I mean, not that we want that to be the goal.
- 31:54Maybe that's. I'm not saying this right, but I mean, you do.
- 31:57You just look absolutely stylish and extraordinary and just chill.
- 32:01Aside from eating well, what do you do to take care of yourself?
- 32:04Oh, I'm going to have.
- 32:04To play this over and over again so I can hear it.
- 32:10In every moment of the day, what I do is I eat well.
- 32:14And that's why I'm here, talking to you.
- 32:17And anyone who will listen.
- 32:19How to make your skin look good.
- 32:19Eat well.
- 32:22No crap.
- 32:23Stop stop, stop, stop eating crap right now.
- 32:27That's number one.
- 32:29Absolutely.
- 32:30And same for energy.
- 32:33You know, you cannot have energy if you don't put it in. And.
- 32:39And if you are eating fast food, if you're eating out of a bag or a box, you're eating crap.
- 32:45For the most part.
- 32:45You don't know what's in that food.
- 32:47I know it's fast.
- 32:48I know it might taste kind of good in a way, but no, you can't, and you cannot be 80 and happy if you're not healthy for the most part.
- 33:02Maybe there are people who are unhealthy at 80 who managed to find a way to be happy.
- 33:07But I think your chances are way, way better if you are healthy and you're not depending on someone else to take care of you at that moment.
- 33:20What do you do for exercise?
- 33:22Okay. Good point.
- 33:23I was going to go there because I am not alone in this.
- 33:28Lots of information, lots of studies coming out about how weight training, resistance training is essential for us.
- 33:38And as it happens, we have a wonderful little local gym, with a wonderful trainer, Tiago, who, is great with all of us women of a certain age because he's trained, I mention that physical therapy trained because if you are of a certain age, you need to be careful not to be working with a trainer or in a gym where you can get hurt.
- 34:06You want to be sure you get guidance, especially because if, like me, you had never done a lot of weight training or upper body kind of stuff.
- 34:15I mean, we were doing the Jane Fonda thing in our dancing or doing, you know, the salsa stuff, which are good.
- 34:26But when you start weight training and, my, my high so far has been a deadlift of 90 pounds, which sounds like a lot, but if you know how to use your body to do that, you can do it.
- 34:42I just I needed to be taught.
- 34:44Most of us do need to be taught how to manage that kind of weight.
- 34:49another really, really important thing is to eat your last food no later than five, four in the afternoon.
- 35:00Stop eating so you can.
- 35:03You know. What?
- 35:03I'm not doing a good job of that.
- 35:06Not very few of us are.
- 35:07And of course, it's a luxury if you've got kids to feed and you know, you got that thing that happens when everybody comes home at six, 7:00, maybe they don't get home from practice till eight, whatever, that's a problem.
- 35:19But for you, if you are the one managing all that and yourself and your sleep, first of all know that you cannot heal.
- 35:27None of us can heal our cells, can't heal unless we are in deep REM sleep.
- 35:35Did you know that? Yes.
- 35:37So many people I think don't know that have never heard that.
- 35:41Well, I talked to experts about sleeping all the time, so yes, I do.
- 35:44I did know that.
- 35:45And if you listen to this podcast with any regularity, you've probably definitely heard that idea.
- 35:50But I have not heard to stop eating by 4 or 5:00.
- 35:54And why is that?
- 35:55So you can digest and then tell me why autophagy.
- 36:00Doctor Greger did talk about that on the podcast.
- 36:03He was a pioneer.
- 36:04And a lot more people, a lot more people are on that boat now.
- 36:08But it's the it's the process by which your cells renew themselves and get rid of the bad cells that aren't working anymore.
- 36:17It's a cleansing process that can only take place when you stop shoveling food in.
- 36:24And so you need to leave a minimum of 14.
- 36:30Better yet, 1516 even more hours between your last bite and your next bite.
- 36:37And it's only when you kind of do the math and go, okay, well, if I've eaten it five, then, my next meal is not until maybe 8 or 9.
- 36:49The next morning.
- 36:52That's that's plenty of time.
- 36:53Yeah, that's plenty of time.
- 36:56Well, so what you're you're kind of talking about intermittent fasting then.
- 37:00And I guess what for me, like I would probably what I do is a little bit different because I finished eating by like 7:00 at night, but then I don't eat till later the next day, maybe 10:00 in the morning.
- 37:15So I kind of am doing the same thing.
- 37:17But, you are ten, 11: 00.
- 37:20But, you are ten, 11: Okay, but I'm just on a different schedule because I cannot.
- 37:24But, you are ten, 11: Yeah, I need to do it a different way.
- 37:26But, you are ten, 11: To improve the quality of your sleep, to scooch it a little earlier and see if you don't have a better sleep pattern by leaving more time between your last meal and when you turn the lights out.
- 37:41But, you are ten, 11: But I go to bed late, which I know is not good either, but I go to.
- 37:46But, you are ten, 11: I mean, I probably don't go to bed till midnight, so.
- 37:49And sleep till like 8: 00.
- 37:51And sleep till like 8: I mean, I'm on it, I'm on it.
- 37:52And sleep till like 8: I'm on the summer schedule.
- 37:54And sleep till like 8: I don't know what to tell you about life, but that's about.
- 37:56I sleep like, midnight to 8: 00 generally.
- 37:59I sleep like, midnight to 8: So you're making a face.
- 38:03I sleep like, midnight to 8: I mean, look, this is this is just in my life.
- 38:06I sleep like, midnight to 8: I don't know what to tell you.
- 38:07I sleep like, midnight to 8: I've tried different things, but my husband stays up till, like, 3 or 4:00 in the morning.
- 38:12I sleep like, midnight to 8: We're not. We're not doing.
- 38:13I sleep like, midnight to 8: I know, I know, I'm not. Look, I can't even start to touch his schedule because that's what he does.
- 38:19I sleep like, midnight to 8: But he sleeps later.
- 38:21I sleep like, midnight to 8: But, I, you know, I just go to bed later.
- 38:25I sleep like, midnight to 8: That's just how it is at my house.
- 38:28I sleep like, midnight to 8: If that's what you got to do, that's what you got to do.
- 38:30I sleep like, midnight to 8: But if you're having trouble sleeping a thing, you can try.
- 38:35I sleep like, midnight to 8: Any of y'all listening to this is leave more time between your last meal and when you turn the lights out.
- 38:44I sleep like, midnight to 8: And in almost every case, you'll find that you have deeper, longer, better sleep with an empty stomach.
- 38:51I sleep like, midnight to 8: you have a favorite health or beauty product.
- 38:53I sleep like, midnight to 8: I love bioidentical topically applied hormones.
- 39:02I sleep like, midnight to 8: That's.
- 39:03I sleep like, midnight to 8: Yeah.
- 39:04I sleep like, midnight to 8: Okay.
- 39:04I sleep like, midnight to 8: It's definitely a beauty product.
- 39:07I sleep like, midnight to 8: They're compounded by someone I know.
- 39:10I sleep like, midnight to 8: And if you buy them, they'll be compounded by someone you know. And, they're not particularly expensive when you compare.
- 39:19I sleep like, midnight to 8: I can't believe what people are paying for cosmetics now.
- 39:23I sleep like, midnight to 8: I mean, where do you is.
- 39:25I sleep like, midnight to 8: This is this something?
- 39:25I sleep like, midnight to 8: So this is what I was telling you.
- 39:28I sleep like, midnight to 8: I was the director of advertising for a compounding, journal that went to compounding pharmacies for 25 years.
- 39:34I sleep like, midnight to 8: So, yeah, I've read up a lot about it.
- 39:36I sleep like, midnight to 8: I, I think that that's a interesting way to go.
- 39:38I sleep like, midnight to 8: Do you what kind, do you get and where do you apply it?
- 39:42I sleep like, midnight to 8: On your body or the does it have like, estrogen to testosterone?
- 39:47I sleep like, midnight to 8: You just don't go.
- 39:49I sleep like, midnight to 8: And I'm using progesterone and I'm use them on my face.
- 39:53I sleep like, midnight to 8: They supposedly are to go kind of around your eyes and and then you run.
- 39:58I sleep like, midnight to 8: You do this with the progesterone until it soaks into your hands.
- 40:02I sleep like, midnight to 8: And she's rubbing her hands together for people who are just listening, okay.
- 40:05I sleep like, midnight to 8: Rubbing my hands together.
- 40:07I sleep like, midnight to 8: And, I use them twice a day, morning and night.
- 40:11I sleep like, midnight to 8: And, you know, the question was.
- 40:15I sleep like, midnight to 8: I think I just asked you what your favorite health and beauty product was.
- 40:19I sleep like, midnight to 8: What else did I ask you?
- 40:21I sleep like, midnight to 8: Oh, I.
- 40:22I sleep like, midnight to 8: Asked where you apply it, what it is and where you apply it.
- 40:25I sleep like, midnight to 8: Okay, so I didn't know if that was.
- 40:28I sleep like, midnight to 8: I apply the estradiol all over my face.
- 40:31I sleep like, midnight to 8: I did, and I could do that.
- 40:32I sleep like, midnight to 8: And I do that because the doctor who prescribed them for me, a friend, Doctor Selma Rasheed, look her up.
- 40:40I sleep like, midnight to 8: She's got a great book out.
- 40:41I sleep like, midnight to 8: She said it's the best night cream you'll ever use.
- 40:47I sleep like, midnight to 8: You know, it's not it's not made to be a night cream, but, I think she's right.
- 40:54I sleep like, midnight to 8: And again, you know, the the cost of these creams and potions that I'm seeing now.
- 41:00I sleep like, midnight to 8: And yes, I have occasionally found myself in Sephora.
- 41:04I sleep like, midnight to 8: My excuse is I have a granddaughter who is 17, so, yeah, sometimes, you know, you'll accidentally fall in the door.
- 41:14I sleep like, midnight to 8: So what. Happened?
- 41:15I sleep like, midnight to 8: I woke up and I was in Sephora.
- 41:17I sleep like, midnight to 8: Yes, I I've had that.
- 41:19I sleep like, midnight to 8: Crazy, you know, and I came out with these samples, right?
- 41:22I sleep like, midnight to 8: Yes, I know, I love it. Well.
- 41:25I sleep like, midnight to 8: Oh, what's your I love it, I know that, what's your favorite concert you've ever been to back in the day when I hung out at the Palomino Club in North Hollywood, which you wouldn't know because you're a young chick.
- 41:41I sleep like, midnight to 8: I don't know, but a lot of the biggest acts in country music came through there.
- 41:48I sleep like, midnight to 8: But there were only maybe 50, 60 people in the room in the audience.
- 41:52I sleep like, midnight to 8: So I got to meet them all and, and, enjoyed it thoroughly.
- 41:58I sleep like, midnight to 8: And then when people like the stones or the Beatles came to California, that's where they hung out, because they wanted to meet the people they admired, you know, Buck Owens and and, Oh, yeah, Waylon Jennings in The Crazy Guys, Charley Pride.
- 42:16I sleep like, midnight to 8: So. Charley Pride was my first concert.
- 42:19I sleep like, midnight to 8: I was at, at the Houston Livestock Show and Rodeo when I was like ten years old.
- 42:23I sleep like, midnight to 8: That was the first person I ever saw was Charley Pride.
- 42:27I sleep like, midnight to 8: Well, he and I sat in the back of the Palomino Club, and he played his songs that he was writing for me.
- 42:33I sleep like, midnight to 8: Oh, I mean, he played them for me.
- 42:35I sleep like, midnight to 8: He wasn't writing them from.
- 42:36I sleep like, midnight to 8: Right, but he was darling.
- 42:38I sleep like, midnight to 8: And, And I've always been mad for musicians.
- 42:41I sleep like, midnight to 8: I love hearing them and talking to them and understanding their process.
- 42:45I sleep like, midnight to 8: And, so I feel really privileged to have done that.
- 42:50I sleep like, midnight to 8: Oh, concert.
- 42:50I sleep like, midnight to 8: You know who I, I, I went to Las Vegas to see Elvis.
- 42:55I sleep like, midnight to 8: I actually.
- 42:55I sleep like, midnight to 8: Oh, wow.
- 42:56I sleep like, midnight to 8: Okay. That's a big one you forgot there.
- 42:58I sleep like, midnight to 8: Hello.
- 42:59I sleep like, midnight to 8: Well, it's just that, you know, the the musicians have been a big part of my life, but I never thought about it being concerts.
- 43:06I sleep like, midnight to 8: And I think he was one of the few that I actually paid you know, retail to, to be there at the same time that there was a convention of operating room nurses who, believe me, when he came out and he was in his glory, he was slender and just coming back for his big comeback.
- 43:27I sleep like, midnight to 8: And that wonderful music would would play, you know, for him to come out.
- 43:31I sleep like, midnight to 8: And those women were throwing their wigs on the stage.
- 43:35I sleep like, midnight to 8: I mean, did you not?
- 43:36I sleep like, midnight to 8: They were out of their minds.
- 43:38I sleep like, midnight to 8: It was, oh, I believe it.
- 43:40I sleep like, midnight to 8: And the lounge, the, the free lounge act was Tina Turner.
- 43:46I sleep like, midnight to 8: I can take what I know. Wow.
- 43:51I sleep like, midnight to 8: Okay. Well, so you did.
- 43:52I sleep like, midnight to 8: I knew you had something. That's got. Me.
- 43:54I sleep like, midnight to 8: You had a story in you.
- 43:58I sleep like, midnight to 8: What a, have you ever dated or anybody famous.
- 44:04I sleep like, midnight to 8: Why do I feel like you have.
- 44:07I sleep like, midnight to 8: I didn't hear that. Can you repeat that.
- 44:09I sleep like, midnight to 8: Did you ever date anybody famous?
- 44:14I sleep like, midnight to 8: Yeah.
- 44:15I sleep like, midnight to 8: Who is that? Do you want to share?
- 44:18I sleep like, midnight to 8: Let's hear it.
- 44:19I sleep like, midnight to 8: Actually, it's it's kind of a sweet story if you've got some more time.
- 44:24I sleep like, midnight to 8: Yeah. Tell me.
- 44:25I sleep like, midnight to 8: I just had a feeling you dated somebody.
- 44:27I sleep like, midnight to 8: I don't know why.
- 44:29I sleep like, midnight to 8: Well, there was more than one, but, I mean, I was in LA, you know, but the story that that I think is, is the most fun for me to remember is that I went to my 20th high school reunion, broke ass, divorced, you know, kind of a mess.
- 44:51I sleep like, midnight to 8: And as many of us are at that point, it's kind of a rough time of your life.
- 44:57I sleep like, midnight to 8: And my girlfriend Dee gave me the clothes, just me all up, and sent me off to the.
- 45:04I sleep like, midnight to 8: I think it was the Hilton in Pasadena.
- 45:07I sleep like, midnight to 8: And, one of my acquaintances got to me and said, Lynn Parmenter, aren't you?
- 45:15I sleep like, midnight to 8: You're the one in the book.
- 45:18I sleep like, midnight to 8: And I went, what book?
- 45:21I sleep like, midnight to 8: And he said, oh, didn't you know, the Kareem Abdul-Jabbar just came out with, an autobiography and you're in it.
- 45:35I sleep like, midnight to 8: And, what my first thought was it was the 60s.
- 45:39I sleep like, midnight to 8: Hey, but so, of course, I went out immediately, as soon as I could get out of there and found a copy of it because it was just hitting the stands.
- 45:51I sleep like, midnight to 8: And there it was, a number of pages about how I had just disappeared from his life and gone away.
- 46:01I sleep like, midnight to 8: And, and I had no clue more that I was his first big crush.
- 46:09I sleep like, midnight to 8: He was a year behind me at UCLA, and he was in my English class, and I had told him that I really enjoyed what he was writing and, you know, thought it was brilliant.
- 46:22I sleep like, midnight to 8: And so we would sit under the trees the way you do when you're in college.
- 46:26I sleep like, midnight to 8: And he would bring me a book of poetry and we'd read it and we talk about Ferlinghetti and all those things, you know, brilliant, smart things that you do in college.
- 46:34I sleep like, midnight to 8: And I really, really like enormously brilliant, bright, bright guy and living a difficult life.
- 46:44I sleep like, midnight to 8: I mean, here he what I didn't know deep about basketball, never went to the games, couldn't care less.
- 46:51I sleep like, midnight to 8: And he was such a remarkable looking person.
- 46:54I sleep like, midnight to 8: You know, he was so tall and black and, you know, not the usual kind of guy that you would see, wandering the halls of UCLA just for his size.
- 47:07I sleep like, midnight to 8: And, and so he couldn't escape, you know, here was someone who was so marked by the way he looked and then his fame.
- 47:15I sleep like, midnight to 8: I mean, he he was.
- 47:17I sleep like, midnight to 8: Was he already famous? Yes.
- 47:20I sleep like, midnight to 8: As a freshman at UCLA, he was everywhere, but not in the places that I was seen.
- 47:26I sleep like, midnight to 8: I mean, because I didn't watch TV and I, you know, I didn't I wasn't in that world.
- 47:30I sleep like, midnight to 8: So he didn't realize, I've already told you, I left UCLA after three semesters, I, I went to France.
- 47:40I sleep like, midnight to 8: I never said goodbye.
- 47:41I sleep like, midnight to 8: I never thought I needed to say goodbye, you know? Wow.
- 47:45I sleep like, midnight to 8: And then you end up in the book.
- 47:47I sleep like, midnight to 8: And he broke his heart and.
- 47:48I sleep like, midnight to 8: Opened the book.
- 47:49I sleep like, midnight to 8: And so I went back to work at an advertising agency in San Jose, a day or two later and, called his office and said, you know, just tell him thank you that I read it and thank you.
- 48:03I sleep like, midnight to 8: It was really sweet.
- 48:04I sleep like, midnight to 8: And then my office phone rang about a half an hour later, and it was him.
- 48:11I sleep like, midnight to 8: And so we were able to get together a few times, you know, quite a bit for a while.
- 48:17I sleep like, midnight to 8: But he lived in L.A..
- 48:18I sleep like, midnight to 8: I lived in San Jose, you know, I had three little kids.
- 48:23I sleep like, midnight to 8: He had a family.
- 48:24I sleep like, midnight to 8: We were both between marriages.
- 48:29I sleep like, midnight to 8: And, I love him.
- 48:32I sleep like, midnight to 8: Always.
- 48:32I sleep like, midnight to 8: Will always have, you know, but, it just it wasn't a thing that could happen.
- 48:38I sleep like, midnight to 8: And I have to say, I don't know how women who have lives and careers and so how you make a good life with someone in athletics, professional athletics, you become that there is no room for anything with that in your life.
- 48:59I sleep like, midnight to 8: Yeah, I think there's some reality shows about that.
- 49:02I sleep like, midnight to 8: I think you're absolutely right.
- 49:04I sleep like, midnight to 8: He he's an extraordinary person.
- 49:06I sleep like, midnight to 8: I mean, just, from the movie airplane, like he was so funny in that movie.
- 49:14I sleep like, midnight to 8: Like, how long ago was that movie?
- 49:15I sleep like, midnight to 8: And I still remember his performance, and I still remember he was in it.
- 49:18I sleep like, midnight to 8: He was so that, genuine and funny.
- 49:22I sleep like, midnight to 8: And you could tell everything just. Yeah.
- 49:22I sleep like, midnight to 8: Yeah.
- 49:25I sleep like, midnight to 8: And he's a, he's a lot of guy in there, you know, there's just so much going on.
- 49:29I sleep like, midnight to 8: He has a Substack, by the way.
- 49:29I sleep like, midnight to 8: I recommend for every.
- 49:31I sleep like, midnight to 8: Oh he does. Yes.
- 49:33I sleep like, midnight to 8: And so does Lin everybody Lin has a Substack as well.
- 49:36I sleep like, midnight to 8: And interesting I appreciate connecting that way with y'all.
- 49:40I sleep like, midnight to 8: Anybody who wants to connect, I try to answer anybody who talks to me on Substack.
- 49:45I sleep like, midnight to 8: And, I haven't been good about doing it every three days or every five days or whatever.
- 49:50I sleep like, midnight to 8: I'm a little erratic, but who cares?
- 49:52I sleep like, midnight to 8: The previous doesn't matter.
- 49:54I sleep like, midnight to 8: You would enjoy reading his take on, things, I think.
- 49:57I sleep like, midnight to 8: Yeah. Super smart. Good.
- 50:00I sleep like, midnight to 8: Well, Lin, thank you for sharing everything with us.
- 50:03I sleep like, midnight to 8: You're just.
- 50:04I sleep like, midnight to 8: A. Wonderful human.
- 50:05I sleep like, midnight to 8: And I loved getting to know you.
- 50:07I sleep like, midnight to 8: Thank you so much.
- 50:09I sleep like, midnight to 8: Thank you. And let's do it again.
- 50:12I sleep like, midnight to 8: Yes, let's do it again.
- 50:14I sleep like, midnight to 8: Thanks for listening, friend.
- 50:16I sleep like, midnight to 8: From my heart to yours.
- 50:17I sleep like, midnight to 8: Be well. Until we meet again.