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Hypnosis for Grief and Misplaced Guilt for the Passing of a Pet · The Hypnotist

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  Hi, it's Adam here. And if you've ever lost a pet,
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  particularly. A pet.
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  That you just spent a lot of time with and was there in a
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  time of need and companionship. Then this hypnosis session you
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  will certainly be able to relate to.
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  I was working with a client who had a pet cat.
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  The cat's name was Felix and Felix died and the cat died
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  during a period of time where the client that I was working
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  with was very, very busy completing a project and they
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  had feelings of. Clearly grief.
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  But also regret and perhaps even guilt connected to Could they
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  have done more? Should they have done more?
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  And this became a ruminating thought, which wasn't fair.
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  You know, all of the feedback that they'd had from the likes
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  of the vet and an analysis of what happened told them that
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  this was a cat dying of natural causes.
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  But part of their mind was wondering, ruminating, could
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  they have done more? And that's really the essence of
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  this hypnosis session. Partly it's a grief hypnosis
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  session, but more than that, it's a way of reframing how they
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  were thinking about their cat. To think of.
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  How else do they also think in this way of could they have done
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  more? Should they have done more?
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  Are they responsible for the actions of other people?
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  And they could relate to that. They could find different parts
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  of their life where they held themselves to blame even though
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  it had really nothing to do with them.
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  And that's the essence of this. It's turning that internal witch
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  tribe, all this witch hunt that was taking place in their head,
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  into something much more useful. Also, this particular client
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  could think of someone that had high standards.
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  Really did. Learn from experiences to
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  become. More.
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  Competent and more proficient, but without blaming and shaming
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  and carrying around guilt. So we actually harnessed this as
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  an internal role model and access that part, that archetype
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  within themselves so that they could move forward without
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  feeling like they have to hold onto the baggage of the past.
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  This is a grief and almost internal ruminating, intrusive
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  thought hypnosis session, but it's also more than that.
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  It's a way of letting go of those things that don't serve
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  you and moving on from an identity that is actually may
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  have good intentions, but actually holding you back.
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  The session itself was created for an individual.
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  It's unlikely that you have a recently deceased cat called
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  Felix, for example, but the essence of the hypnosis session
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  I think would apply to many more people than just that unique
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  circumstance. That said, if you do like the
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  idea of a bespoke session working directly with me, have a
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  look in the description for a link.
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  That will take. You to a place where you can
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  book a free consultation call. For now, though, find a quiet,
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  comfortable place where you won't be disturbed.
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  Relax and enjoy the session. Take a deep breath in, and as
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  you breathe in, breathe in that slow, long, relaxing breath of
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  relaxation. And as you exhale, that's it.
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  Just allow your eyelids to close.
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  And as they close, feel the heaviness of those eyelids
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  giving you a sense of release, releasing tension, stress, and
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  any worries. And when you breathe in, allow
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  yourself to breathe in just a little bit deeper than the
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  breath before. As you start to activate your
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  diaphragm, not just breathing from the chest, but breathing
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  deeper down. And the deeper you breathe, the
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  more breath you have in your lungs, so that as you exhale,
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  that outward breath will also be longer, Elongate the outward
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  breath. I don't want you to imagine a
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  candle maybe 2 meters in front of you as you breathe out.
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  Just imagine breathing out towards that candle until you
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  can imagine it flickering, until your lungs are completely empty,
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  nothing else left. And only then taking the next
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  breath in, but a breath of pure distilled concentrated
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  relaxation. Breathing in that relaxation and
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  exhaling any tension. And you can consider the process
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  of breathing like an emotional transfusion, breathing in the
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  resources you need and exhaling those heavy emotions you've been
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  holding onto. Any guilt, any shame, any
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  stress, any sadness. Just allow those emotions to
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  feel like they're leaving your body in that outward breath.
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  And the deeper you breathe, the more relaxed you become.
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  And the more relaxed you become, the deeper you breathe.
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  And I want you to imagine a particular couch.
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  And on that couch, I want you to see a familiar face, a furry
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  face. I want you to see that cat of
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  yours there relaxing on the couch.
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  But this is just your imagination.
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  And in your imagination, things that aren't possible in reality
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  are certainly possible within the infinite possibilities of
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  your unconscious. And I want you to imagine how it
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  would feel to sit there on the couch, to imagine the sensation
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  of feeling the fur as you stroke, perhaps starting at the
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  top of the head downwards. That gentle caress, that
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  soothing motion. And maybe you can imagine
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  hearing some purring. The purrs of satisfaction,
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  complete trust and relaxation. That's it.
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  And the sound of the purrs, the breathing, takes you even
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  deeper, relaxed. I want you to imagine that this
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  isn't your cat. It's your unconscious
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  representation of your cat. And let's give your cat a voice
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  so that you could imagine you can communicate and your cat can
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  respond. I want you to start with sharing
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  all of the wonderful ways in which your cat Felix made you
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  feel happy, grateful, the impact that Felix had in your life.
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  Just imagine as you stroke Felix sharing these feelings.
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  Maybe Felix was a companion there in difficult times.
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  Maybe Felix did funny things that made you smile.
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  I want you to share deeply all the ways that you can be
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  grateful that Felix positively influenced your life.
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  And once you've done that, let me know by nodding your head.
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  And then I want you to imagine Felix reciprocates.
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  I want you to imagine Felix start sharing with you all the
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  ways in which you enriched Felix's life.
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  Imagine the voice that if Felix had a voice, would talk in BB.
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  Felix is talking about the love you shared, affection,
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  thoughtfulness. But when you needed Felix was
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  there for you, and when Felix needed you were there for Felix.
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  This was a relationship was mutually beneficial, so imagine
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  hearing directly from Felix all the ways in which Felix was
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  grateful for you. And when Felix has shared those
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  thoughts, let me know by nodding your head.
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  And I want you to share something.
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  If there was any regrets, any feelings that you could have
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  done more, I want you to articulate that to Felix now.
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  And maybe, maybe it's that you wish you could have give a bit
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  more attention and consideration in those last days when Felix
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  was alive. But I want you to imagine, Felix
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  responds with a different perspective.
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  Hear the words from Felix, perhaps telling you he had more
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  than enough water and was sleepy because he wasn't very well.
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  Felix is telling you then there's nothing you could have
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  done differently that would have changed things, or that Felix
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  was just happy then you were around.
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  And with every word I want you to feel, then any sadness or
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  guilt is leaving your body just melting away.
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  I want you to imagine Felix now climbs up, just sits on your
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  lap, sits on your laps and purrs, letting you know that the
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  love, the trust, is implicit. Felix felt comfortable, and
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  there was no other place that Felix wanted to be.
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  And I want you to think while Felix is sleeping on your lap,
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  about a courtroom. Just imagine an official
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  courtroom with a judge, a jury, a witness stand.
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  And I want you to see how you've put yourself on trial for a
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  crime you didn't commit. And I want you to see that you
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  yourself are on trial, but also you yourself are the
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  prosecution. And I want you to see that there
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  is an absence of any defence. And when someone is put on trial
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  and that trial has no defence and the person on trial is going
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  to be found guilty no matter what evidence is submitted,
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  quite often that is known as a sham trial or a a witch hunt,
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  that whatever happens they will be found guilty.
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  And I want you to get a sense then.
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  Just because you felt sad at the losing of a precious pet doesn't
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  mean someone needs to be found guilty.
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  Sometimes there can just be gratitude and acceptance.
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  I want you to imagine we change the courtroom into a panel of
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  investigation. I want you to imagine a vet is
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  there, the Felix is there. I want you to imagine that all
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  the evidence is there and the purpose is not to find blame,
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  not for repercussions or punishment, but just to extract
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  wisdom. And maybe that wisdom is to
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  appreciate the things you love even more.
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  Or maybe that wisdom is to have more balance.
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  Or maybe it's something else. But allow your unconscious mind
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  to extract the wisdom, the insights, knowing all the
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  information. I want you to think less about
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  the past and more about the future.
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  Allow your unconscious mind to be looking to extract wisdom
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  like Nuggets of gold surrounded by soil and pebbles.
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  It's the wisdom that has the value, and wisdom is only useful
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  if it changes the future. Future decisions, future
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  behaviour, the future priorities, and when you feel
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  that you have extracted the value from what really happened.
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  No witch hunt, no blame game, just extracting wisdom.
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  When you've extracted that wisdom, let me know by nodding
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  your head. That's it.
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  And I want you to feel that an open loop has now closed.
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  No need to spend time in the past.
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  You are now looking forward. What will you do with this new
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  wisdom? What will you do to enrich the
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  quality of your life? And what if the real wisdom
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  isn't about Felix at all? The real wisdom is that you are
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  worthy. The real wisdom is that just
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  because something could have been different doesn't mean that
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  you're to blame. No need for punishment, no need
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  for guilt. Just extracting wisdom.
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  Just gathering experience. And I want you to feel that the
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  more experience you gather, the more formidable and aligned and
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  balanced you become. I want you to imagine you're no
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  longer there in that investigation room.
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  I want you to imagine that you're going back in time to see
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  someone that you truly admired and respected.
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  Someone that was willing to learn from the past but not live
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  in it. I want you to see someone that
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  was willing to evolve. To refine their approach but not
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  punish themselves. They were more focused on moving
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  forward. No need to be a martyr, No need
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  to self flagellate. I want you to see a person that
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  would take their wins and learn their lessons, but they were
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  focused on moving forward. When you can see that person
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  from your past, let me know by nodding your head.
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  I want you to imagine that this is an archetype.
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  Someone with beliefs and strategies that may be useful
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  for you. I want you to imagine stepping
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  into their body by thinking about something recent that
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  caused intrusive or ruminating thoughts.
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  But think about that same thing from this perspective of this
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  person that you admire deeply. Someone that would focus on the
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  future, not dwell in the past and through the lens of their
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  perception get a sense of how much more motivated.
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  But rather than holding you back and tiring you out, the same
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  situation could be a catalyst for more motivation, more focus,
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  inspiration to do things differently.
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  Because it isn't what happens, it's the meaning that you give
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  the thing that happens. And some people will look at a
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  thing that happens and take full blame and responsibility even if
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  there is none to be found, while others will look at the same
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  thing and it will be a springboard into a more
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  empowered future. I want you to feel that you have
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  a choice, that you can choose to continue your life where you're
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  always at fault, always at blame and need to punish yourself, to
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  have a sense of justice. Or you can go forwards where if
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  you need to be responsible, you'll take ownership.
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  True ownership is not punishing yourself for the past, it's
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  improving who you are in the future.
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  And if this feels like a more desirable pathway, then allow
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  your subconscious mind to activate all the neural pathways
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  and beliefs necessary to feel that sometimes things just
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  happen. Sometimes it just is what it is.
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  Sometimes an investigation isn't even necessary.
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  Onwards and upwards, another day, another page.
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  Keep moving forward. And if your unconscious is
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  willing to lean into this way of thinking that you can let go of
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  all of that heaviness of your past, all of that blame and
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  shame, let that go and step into a new version of you.
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  You're not being someone else. You're just being a version of
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  you that is accountable, takes responsibility.
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  But in doing so pays things forward.
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  You're focused on making changes into your future, not ruminating
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  about the past. And if you're willing to step
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  into that future, then let me know by nodding your head.
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  That's it. No more witch hunts.
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  No more blame games. You either win, or you learn the
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  purpose of a ruminating thought is only to extract the wisdom.
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  Not to punish yourself, not to find blame, just to extract
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  wisdom. And the moment you extract the
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  wisdom and have an idea of how it will change the future, those
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  open loops will close and the need for any ruminating thought
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  will melt away. I want you to imagine being back
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  on that couch, Felix there on your lap.
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  And I want you to say goodbye, that you will be grateful for
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  the time you had together. But by saying goodbye, you are
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  releasing yourself the guilt and blame that was never yours to
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  hold. Felix was never going to be an
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  immortal cat, and therefore you can be grateful for the time you
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  had together, but with no need to punish yourself anymore.
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  And as you say goodbye to Felix, hear the words from Felix.
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  Felix is saying you don't need to be forgiven because you did
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  nothing wrong. Hear that Felix wants you to be
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  happy, and Felix wants you to have happy memories, not sad and
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  not blame. And then imagine seeing Felix
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  hop off your lap and walk away, maybe into a portal of glowing
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  light, or maybe through an open door.
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  Whatever comes into your mind is exactly how it should be.
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  And allow the sadness to be the fertile ground in which
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  gratitude will grow. It's now time to leave this
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  place. But you leave with this new
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  version of you where your focus is now forward.
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  So take a deep breath in through your nose and out through your
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  nose. Just wiggle your fingers and
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  wiggle your toes. Connect and calibrate into the
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  here and the now. That's it as I now count from
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  1:00 to 10:00 to awaken you starting to count 123 Waking up
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  456, more alert 7-8. Open your eyes.
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  Open your eyes. 910. Wide awake, Wide awake, wide
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  awake.