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EP 31: Why Boundaries Are the Missing Piece of Organization · Healthy Boundaries for Moms| Christian Life Coach

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  Have you ever looked at your calendar and wondered why you feel so scattered?
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  Maybe you bought that cute planner or you downloaded the app. Maybe you created
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  the routine and color-coded the schedule. Yet somehow life just still feels
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  overwhelming. Here's a thought. What if the issue isn't organization at all?
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  What if the real problem is that too many things have access to your time, energy,
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  and attention? Today we're talking about how boundaries are the foundation of
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  organization and why no system can bring order to life that has no limits.
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  If you're tired of people-pleasing, caring too much, and wondering why peace still
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  feels so hard to hold on to, you're in the right place.
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  Hi, I'm Lori, mom, former people-pleaser, and your boundaries coach. Here we talk
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  about how to protect your peace, set healthier boundaries, and get clear on
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  what actually matters so that you can build a life that feels lighter, calmer,
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  and more satisfying. So let's stop the chaos for a minute, moms. Catch our breath
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  and get in to this next episode.
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  Welcome back to Healthy Boundaries for Moms. I'm your host, Lori Grimes, and if
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  you've ever felt like you're constantly trying to catch up, constantly
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  rearranging your schedule, or constantly wondering where the day went, you're not
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  alone, my friend. Many moms assume organization is about finding the right
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  app, the right tool, the right planner, and those things, don't get me wrong, they can
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  absolutely help. I love a good planner, but organization begins long before you
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  open a planner. It begins with deciding what deserves a place in your life, and
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  that's where boundaries come in. Look, most of us have been taught that
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  organization is about managing more efficiently, right? But efficiency isn't
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  always the solution. Sometimes the problem isn't that we're managing things
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  poorly. Sometimes we're simply just carrying too much. So think about a
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  closet, okay? If it's packed beyond capacity, this has been my closet for
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  sure, you're buying prettier hangers, but that's not going to solve the problem, is
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  it? At some point, something has to come out of that packed closet. Life works the
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  same way. No planner can create margin in an already overloaded schedule, and no
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  productivity hack that you find online or otherwise can compensate for those
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  saying yes to way, way too many things. So organization starts by determining
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  what belongs, so what's gonna stay, and what has to go. So let's take a look at
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  Proverbs 25, 28. Like a city whose walls are broken through is a person who lacks
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  self-control. So when Solomon wrote these words, everyone understood the value of a
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  city wall. Walls provided protection. Walls established boundaries. Walls
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  created security and order, and without them, anything could enter. The city
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  basically became vulnerable, and the same principle applies today. Without
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  boundaries, every request gets access to us and gets access to you. Every
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  opportunity gets consideration, and that also means that every need is starting
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  to feel urgent, and every expectation feels like you have to take on that
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  responsibility, and before long, life just starts feeling chaotic. Not because
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  you're incapable, and not because you're disorganized, but because there just
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  aren't enough walls protecting what matters most. So let's talk numbers for a
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  minute. Every single one of us gets 168 hours each week. That's incredible, right?
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  It doesn't feel like we get 168 hours each week. No one gets an extra hour,
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  right, and no one gets less. 168 period. So we have to start subtracting the
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  essentials, right? 56 hours for sleep, 40 hours for work. Generally, we need time
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  for meals, time for driving, there's got to be time to do some laundry, or some
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  grocery shopping. How about the housework? Suddenly, where do those 160
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  hours go? They don't seem as generous, right? So now consider this. Suppose you
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  agree to one, just one extra thing every day that only takes 10 minutes. Come on,
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  just 10 minutes. That can't be much, right? But over a year, 10 minutes times 365 days
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  is 3,650 minutes. That's more than 60 hours, and that's eight full days. So a
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  week of your life disappears. There's something that felt insignificant in the
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  moment. 10 minutes doesn't feel like much, but it adds up. And so do small
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  interruptions and small obligations. Every commitment occupies space on your
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  calendar, and even in your mind. So one reason boundaries help us become more
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  organized is because they eliminate the unnecessary decisions. When priorities
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  are clear, decision-making becomes simpler, we stop debating every
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  opportunity. You already know what is aligning with your values, and this is
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  also stopping that decision fatigue that we've talked about on previous podcast
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  episodes. So instead of reacting to every request, you already have a framework. A
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  boundary might sound like, well we don't schedule activities every evening, and we
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  leave one day open on the weekends. Or maybe we discuss commitments before we
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  say yes, we protect family dinner. So those boundaries become your filters, and
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  filters make life easier to manage. So here's where many moms are getting stuck.
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  The goal isn't fitting everything in. Okay, we're not trying to play a game of
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  Tetris here. The goal is making sure your time reflects your priorities. So if
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  faith is a priority, a pillar, does your schedule reflect that? If I was to look
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  at your schedule this week, do I see that faith is a priority? So in my own life, I
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  really was convicted about that. I go to church on Sundays, but I really needed
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  something else to fill in some of the needs I have in my faith journey. And so
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  I signed up for a Wednesday Bible study class. Now is it forever? No, it's a
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  five-week class. So it's just for the summer, but it's meeting that goal that I
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  wanted for the summer, is to build in more time in my faith. So is family a
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  priority? Does your calendar support that? Or how about health? If it's a priority,
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  is there room for your health? Are you making time to go for walks or strength
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  train or meal prep maybe? Boundaries help us close that gap between what matters
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  most to us and what's receiving the most attention. That's where organization
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  begins, not with the perfection and not with alignment. So without boundaries,
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  organization just becomes exhausting. I mean, can I get just an amen on that? It's
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  tiring. It's exhausting. We're constantly rearranging. We're constantly
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  reacting. And we're trying to squeeze just one more thing into a day that's
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  already full. And eventually, overwhelm shows up, right? So does resentment and
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  it's friend guilt. Because when everything feels important, it's
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  impossible to give your best to anything. You're getting pulled in five
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  million directions. So I want you to hear, healthy boundaries aren't selfish. They
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  are stewardship. We talk about that a lot on the podcast. They are stewardship. They
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  protect the resources that God has entrusted to you. Your time, your energy,
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  attention, relationships, and well-being. So this week, I want you to choose one
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  area of life that feels disorganized. Maybe it's your schedule. Maybe it's your
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  home. Maybe it's your commitment. And I want you to ask yourself, what boundary
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  is missing here? Not what cute planner you need and what app you need to
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  download, but what boundary would create more order and peace in your life? What
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  would you need to do to protect it? And what would you need to stop allowing? One
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  healthy boundary could change more than an entire new organizational system. So I
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  really want you to think about that. We're not needing to buy a new calendar,
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  new planner, find some fancy organization. We need to start with the basics and the
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  foundation, okay? And that is what's gonna move the needle forward for us. So friend,
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  organization isn't about controlling every minute of your day. I want us to
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  stop thinking like that. It's about protecting what matters most. And a
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  planner can hold all your priorities. And a calendar, yes, it can track your
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  commitments. But boundaries are what keep those priorities from getting crowded
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  out. Remember Proverbs 25-28, like a city whose walls are broken, through is a
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  person who lacks self-control. Walls weren't designed to make our life
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  smaller. They were designed to protect what we value most. And that is the same
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  of true healthy boundaries. They create order. They create margin. And they make
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  it possible to live with greater peace and intention. Friend, I want you to
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  really give this mindset shift a chance and see how it helps you to better
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  organize your priorities this week. Hey friend, I hope you enjoyed today's
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  is helping you. More importantly, it helps more women find this podcast. Now
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  go say no to something that's stealing your peace and say yes to something you
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  actually need. And I'll meet you back here in the next episode.