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Hypnosis to Choose to Change a Self Destructive or Time Wasting Habit · The Hypnotist

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  Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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  access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing genuine
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  issues. Brought to you by the
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  hypnotherapist, demanded by celebrities, CEOs and even
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  royalty. Adam Cox.
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  These recordings took place live from Adam's clinic in London's
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  world famous Harley Street. This podcast features powerful
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  hypnosis, so do not listen while driving or operating machinery.
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  This recording is not suitable for those with epilepsy or
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  severe mental health issues, so get yourself comfortable and
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  enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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  Hi, it's Adam here. And in this episode of The
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  Hypnotist, you're going to be listening to a hypnosis session
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  that is designed to change a time consuming habit.
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  And I was working with a client. Who?
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  Wasn't particularly infused about the work that they were
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  doing and and find themselves doing certain things that might
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  be scrolling too much on social media or spending too much time
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  watching videos and it would be a bit of a time drain.
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  And what they figured out is that when you added up that kind
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  of two hours a day over a certain period of time, it added
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  up to weeks and a really significant amount of time that.
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  Particular. If they're waking time so you
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  can't just divide it by 24 hours and say it was the this amount
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  of days because most people sleep for about 8 hours a day.
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  So of waking hours, it was more than a month that they were
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  wasting over a. Particular time.
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  Period. And therefore what this hypnosis
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  session does is enables them to explore two different time
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  frames. A time frame where over the next
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  seven or eight months they do what they have been doing and
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  effectively time gets wasted and their life doesn't really
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  improve. And then a different timeline
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  where that same time that they would have been doing this time
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  wasting habit, they then deploy on making their life better.
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  And that might be figuring out what they want to do.
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  It might be learning certain things, there were certain
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  skills they wanted to learn that could really give them a life of
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  freedom. But the real.
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  Kicker here. The real twist in this is that
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  they had shame attached to what they were currently doing.
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  So in one of the timelines they have to vainly attempt to
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  justify their behavior to their children, knowing that they
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  don't really believe it themselves.
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  And in the second one they get to justify their behavior.
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  That is really empowering and has enriched their life, having
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  broken the habit and introduced something new with that same
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  time to their children. And then that gets linked to a
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  feeling of pride, accomplishment, and being a good
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  role model. So there's a bit going on here.
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  What I would encourage you to do to make the most of this
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  hypnosis session is to think of something that you do currently
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  that is eroding your time because time is really a 0 sum
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  game. If you spend your time in one
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  thing, rarely do you have the ability to simultaneously use
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  that same time in something else.
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  And there are lots of other things that are synergistic and
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  you can dovetail, but time that requires.
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  Your. Attention can't be deployed in
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  two ways simultaneously. So think of that thing that is
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  draining your time right now. And also think, what could you
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  do with that same time that would actually enrich your life
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  so that as you're hearing the session that was creative for
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  someone else, you can map it across and make it more relevant
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  for you. And of course, if you do want it
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  completely relevant for you and just kind of created for you,
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  and we do a session together, check out the link in the show
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  notes where you can book a free 30 minute consultation call on
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  Zoom. We'll have a chat and maybe we
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  end up working together rather than you listening to sessions
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  that were created for other people.
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  So if that appeals, check it out.
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  But for now, find a quiet, comfortable place where you
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  won't be disturbed. Relax and enjoy the session.
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  Take a deep breath in, and as you breathe in, breathe in a
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  resourceful feeling of calm and relaxation.
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  And as you exhale, just allow your eyelids to close.
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  And as they close, position your body in a way where you feel
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  comfortable. Feel that you can relax.
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  Just notice that when you breathe in, you can breathe in
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  for slightly longer. And as you exhale, just allow
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  that outward breath to carry on just a few moments longer,
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  almost like you're breathing towards a candle that's maybe a
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  metre or two away. Continue to allow that outward
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  breath to allow that candle to flick out when your lungs are
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  empty. Becomes so much easier to take
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  an even deeper breath in. The deeper you breathe, the more
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  relaxed you become, and the more relaxed you become, the deeper
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  you breathe. I want you to use the power of
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  your imagination to imagine you 10 years from now.
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  I want you to imagine seeing yourself on a beach in Spain.
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  Observe as that version of you is conversing with locals.
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  You can see that you're in great physical shape.
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  There is a smile on your face as you get a sense.
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  Then whatever you're doing 10 years from now is giving you
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  satisfaction, joy, pride and accomplishment.
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  But as you observe that future version of you, you make the
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  evaluation that this isn't work time.
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  This is reflection and introspection time as you see
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  that version of you finding a secluded part of the beach, see
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  that version of you making themselves comfortable, perhaps
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  on a blanket or a lounger. They've got the time to just
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  relax whenever they choose to. And when you see that version of
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  you relaxing on that Spanish beach, clear waters and blue
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  skies, imagine what it would feel like to step into that
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  future version of you. So now you're on the beach,
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  you're feeling relaxed and notice that you breathe even
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  deeper, relax even more. There's blue skies, the sound of
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  waves gently breaking on the shore.
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  I want you to get a sense that here in this place, there's
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  nothing for you to do, just to be present with yourself.
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  So imagine positioning your body on the beach so you can feel
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  that relaxation. And very soon I will count down
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  from 12:50 and with each descending number you will feel
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  10% deeper and deeper relaxed. So scan your body for any clues
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  of tension and then 10, just release any tension in your
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  forehead. Just allow it to feel like it's
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  melting away. 9 Focus now on your jaw, the tiny muscles
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  around your mouth, breathing in relaxation, exhaling tension,
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  enabling you to drift even deeper.
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  And then 8, as you breathe in through your nose, feel like
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  you're breathing in distilled relaxation.
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  Feel that relaxation going into your lungs and imagine your
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  heart distributing that concentrated relaxation to every
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  cell in your body as you feel that breathing is becoming more
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  effortless. That's it.
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  And under your eyelids, just focus now on the top of your
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  head, almost like you're looking at the top of your skull from
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  within. Feel the tension in your eyes as
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  you allow your neck and shoulders to relax.
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  That's it. 8 becomes 7 and then six as you feel your arms
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  relaxing. Allow your eyelids to relax.
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  That's it taking you deeper and deeper.
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  Relax. Just imagine your arms feel
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  limp, loose and heavy, like the limbs of a puppet with no
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  strings. You're on that beach, feeling
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  relaxed, feeling in a good place.
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  No frustrations, no tension, just feeling relaxed.
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  And then five, allow your internal organs to relax too.
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  Imagine your heart, lungs, stomach all relaxing
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  simultaneously as you feel like you're drifting off towards a
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  dreamlike sleep. Everyone's fallen asleep once on
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  the beach, and sometimes they have fascinating dreams.
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  And then four, just focus on your gut, the bank account of
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  anxiety as you breathe in relaxation, just allow all the
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  muscles in your gut to relax. And then three, that relaxation
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  spreading down into your legs, two down into your calf muscles
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  and your feet, and then one from the tips of your toes to the top
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  of your head and then back down to your fingertips.
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  Feel that wave of relaxation. Imagine drifting off into that
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  dreamlike nap. And in that dreamlike nap, find
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  yourself on the same beach, this time at your current age, seeing
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  that older version of you in that dreamlike sleep there on
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  the beach. It's almost like you've gone
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  back in time to where you are now.
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  Walk down the beach and see a doorway that shouldn't be there
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  because it's not connected to a building.
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  Just a doorway on a beach. But this doorway is a portal to
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  your own private cinema. Stand in front of that door and
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  I'll countdown from 5:00 to 1:00 and you will imagine opening the
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  door and walking through 5. Just imagine putting your hand
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  on the handle 4 turning the handle, 3 opening the door, 2
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  walking through the door, and one closing the door behind you.
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  And just imagine walking now into your own private cinema, a
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  luxurious cinema. It's completely empty, but I
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  want you to find the most comfortable seat in this cinema.
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  And for some reason this cinema has two screens rather than one
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  screen on the left and a screen on the right.
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  And the screen on the left is about to show you what the next
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  seven months look like if habits remain the same.
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  So let's play that first film where you see yourself waking up
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  tomorrow. Maybe there is clues to feeling
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  of boredom, frustration. See yourself regularly checking
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  your phone, see that it is calling you in some way.
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  It is predictable, gives you a sense of guarantees that it can
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  make you feel not amazing but just distracted.
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  And I want you to see that timeline where for at least two
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  hours a day, you're spending time on your phone and doing
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  something that is gratifying but not pleasurable.
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  Perhaps it cures boredom but not really offers you stimulation or
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  excitement. This is the version of you
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  settling, figuring out a way to just get by, and I want you to
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  see day after day of you spending that two or more hours
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  a day doing what you consider to be wasting time.
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  The wasting time has a good intention, but it's taking more
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  than it's giving. I want you to CEO for the next 7
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  1/2 months that this version of you would be using over 460
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  hours of your time, the equivalent of two months of a
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  working day. I want you to get a sense that
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  that version of you doesn't seem happy, excited or motivated,
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  just getting through day after day.
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  But I want you to see that there are moments of joy, fulfilment
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  and accomplishment. It's just not coming from the
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  phone. See those moments when you feel
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  accomplished. It might be doing something
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  you're proud of in your work, achieving a new PB in the gym,
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  being present with your children.
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  The real moments of joy or accomplishment are not spent
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  scrolling on a phone looking for something to make you feel the
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  illusion of pleasure. So let's follow that timeline
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  all the way. Spring is gone, summer is gone
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  and autumn is there. And see that version of you.
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  And some random day in November, knowing that there is an autumn
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  and a winter of dark nights, grey skies and lots of rain and
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  very little to show for it. From all of that wasted time,
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  give yourself permission that this can be your future if you
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  desire it. Some people think it takes a lot
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  to change, but you can inverse that same idea as you come to
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  the conclusion that whatever you are not changing, you are
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  choosing. And if you choose not to change,
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  then you are choosing to keep things the same.
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  Either way, it's a choice. And if you get a sense that
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  knowing what you now know, knowing that that time will
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  pass, knowing that it could close doors rather than open
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  doors, that if you would choose that future, choose to waste all
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  of that time, let me know by nodding your head.
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  Or if there's a feeling that you would prefer a different
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  timeline, let me know. So breathe in and breathe out.
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  Just imagine those cinema curtains that are normally red
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  to close that first screen. You're now seeing the second
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  screen. And I want you to see a version
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  of you that understands that time will pass irrespective of
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  what you do with that time. I want you to see that version
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  of you in the second screen that has a new found sense of
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  clarity. And you can tell that from your
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  facial expression. There is a resolve, not the kind
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  of resolve that Peters out after a few weeks.
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  That kind of tenacity and resolve that gets stronger over
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  time. I want you to see that version
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  of you that has done certain things to create friction.
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  Maybe that certain sites have been blocked from your phone.
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  Maybe there's certain timers to alert you with certain
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  applications that automatically switch off.
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  Maybe they're set to two minutes or three minutes.
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  I want you to see. That there.
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  Are other things designed to make you think?
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  I want you to get a sense that this version of you has created
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  small barriers to do less of one thing and more of something
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  else. Maybe see that that version of
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  you is downloaded new applications or reactivated old
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  applications that needed to be updated.
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  The kind of applications where you could learn new things.
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  The kind of applications where you would get dopamine from
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  accomplishment rather than gratification.
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  And I want you to see that this version of you and this new
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  timeline is using those same two hours that were wasted to enrich
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  your life. This version of you is learning
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  new things and each time you learn something new who are
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  updating how you think your future will be.
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  This version of you seems to have a spring in their step or
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  enthusiasm for life. That every time they choose
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  something that enriches their life, they feel better, and
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  every time they choose not to do what they were doing before,
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  they feel like they are in control, masters of their own
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  destiny. And in the first few weeks,
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  nothing much changes. But over time, everything
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  changes. See this version of you?
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  That there's a new found level of confidence and self esteem.
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  That version of you is more present when spending time with
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  their children. That version of you seems to be
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  more focused, more determined when if they spend time in the
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  gym. I want you to see that this
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  version of you is the same you on a different trajectory.
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  A trajectory that takes your future to a much better place.
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  I want you to imagine two people standing standing in a field and
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  imagine one person walking in One Direction and the other
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  person walks in a roughly similar direction but just a few
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  degrees to a tangent. After a few hours, they end up
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  in entirely different places, even though they started in
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  exactly the same place. The version of you that
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  continues with habits that steal your time will be in a different
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  place seven months from now than a version of you that deploys
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  that time well. Clarity on goals.
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  Figuring out how you want your future to be.
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  Subtle changes at first, dramatic changes over time.
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  I want you to go back to that first film of that first future.
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  Imagine that random day in November and then step into that
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  version of you and maybe there's a feeling of frustration or
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  regret. But I want you to imagine that
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  you are asking your children to have a chat with you and I want
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  you to tell them what you did with that two hours every day.
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  Does it inspire them or make them feel uncomfortable or
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  ashamed? Imagine the words leaving your
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  mouth, what you did in that first future where all that time
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  went, and the harder you try to justify it, the more hollow it
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  sounds. See their facial expressions
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  making judgements about you and notice how that makes you feel.
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  And if it feels like this is a future you're choosing now to
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  avoid, let me know by nodding your head.
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  That's it. Anchor and amplify that feeling.
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  And then jump back and see the second film, the second
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  timeline. You doing something where for
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  two hours or more a day you were doing something to enrich your
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  life, learning new skills, accumulating more knowledge,
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  doing things that create momentum, intensity, and joy in
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  your life. It's still you.
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  You just get dopamine linked to actual accomplishment rather
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  than gratification. See that version of you 7 or 8
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  months from now with all the things that you're able to do,
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  and then imagine asking your children to have a chat with
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  you. Step into that version of you
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  and notice how your words feel different when you tell them
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  what you've been up to, things you couldn't do, and things you
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  now can. Maybe you can speak to them in a
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  different language. Show them something you've
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  created with an application or software that you've developed.
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  Maybe there's something physical that you can do seven months
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  from now that you wouldn't if you followed a different
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  trajectory. I want you to notice their
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  facial expressions is now different.
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  Maybe more inspiration, pride. Maybe you are planting seeds in
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  their mind that they too should not settle.
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  They should strive for an incredible life, not afraid to
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  do difficult things, not afraid to stick to things even when
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  things get difficult. And if this feels like a more
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  desirable future, let me know by nodding your head.
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  Just imagine giving your children a hug.
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  Tell them you're proud of them, but notice you're also proud of
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  yourself. In the past you've done
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  something that was more like self sabotage or something that.
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  At least a. Part of you was maybe ashamed
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  of, whereas this version of you has given a gift to yourself
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  consistently, day after day after day, and that is reflected
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  in all of the wonderful emotions you feel.
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  Some people say that the definition of self esteem is the
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  contrast between your current self and your ideal self.
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  And notice how easy it is to make the evaluation of which of
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  these two futures is closer to your ideal self.
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  It's time to leave this cinema. But you leave the cinema with a
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  sense of new found clarity, new connotations, knowing that you
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  can choose whatever you choose to choose, but knowing that
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  whatever you're not changing, you are choosing.
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  So as you leave that cinema, find yourself walking out of a
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  door, back onto a beach. And as you walk down the beach,
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  see that there is someone that looks like you 10 years from
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  now, looking healthy and happy in a dreamlike sleep.
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  Step into that version of you, your future version of you,
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  feeling that the choices you make now echo through time all
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  the way into your future. Now is your time.
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  So breathe in and breathe out and feel like it's time to
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  return to the here and now with these shifts ready to take
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  place. So take a deep breath in through
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  your nose and out through your nose.
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  Just wiggle your fingers and wiggle your toes.
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  Connect fully into the here and there now as I now count from
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  1:00 to 10:00 to awaken you. Starting to count. 123 waking up
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  456 more alert 7-8. Open your eyes.
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  Open your eyes. 910 Wide awake. Wide awake.
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