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Hypnosis to Make Anxious Motorway Driving Boring and Automatic · The Hypnotist

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  Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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  access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing
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  genuine. Issues.
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  Brought to you by The Hypnotherapist, demanded by
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  celebrities CE OS and even royalty Adam Cox, these
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  recordings took place live from Evans Clinic in London's world
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  famous Harley Street. So get yourself comfortable and
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  enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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  Hi, it's Adam here. Now, if you've ever had anxiety
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  on a busy road or a motorway or a freeway, this session may be
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  of use because I was working with a client who for most of
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  their life was a very confident, relaxed driver.
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  But they had a couple of incidents on a major motorway
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  and that had them questioning if they were going to feel that way
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  again. And a lot of anxiety is anxiety
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  feeding anxiety. Because if you.
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  Feel anxious and then you're worrying about feeling anxious
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  while driving. You get more anxiety and the
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  spiral continues. So how we defeat this is to
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  introduce resource States and all of the ingredients that
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  almost kind of fuel the anxiety. We want to replace that with
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  what fuels confidence and relaxation.
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  So this is a session where actually the hypnosis starts
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  with them imagining their worst case scenario on the roads and
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  still feeling relaxed and calm and confident.
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  Are you resourceful in that context?
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  And then transitions to a local Rd. that's still challenging for
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  them and then we. Have that on.
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  Repeat until the idea of being on that road doesn't feel
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  confident, doesn't feel exciting or enthusiastic.
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  It feels boring, it feels mundane.
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  It feels kind of when can this be over rather than I can't do
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  this. And that's a big change because
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  the ideal way to break a phobia is to give the client an
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  experience of feeling the exact opposite of anxiety.
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  And for a lot of people, the opposite of anxiety isn't
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  confidence, it's just it's neutral, it's ambivalent, it's
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  boring. And that's why this strategy is
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  used for this particular client. So if you have a fear of driving
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  on motorways or. Busy.
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  Traffic. I remember when I first moved to
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  London, I felt driving in central London very daunting
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  because I hadn't had any experience of doing that.
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  Now I wouldn't think twice about doing that, but it did feel for
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  a while outside of the comfort zone.
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  So if there's any driving that feels beyond your comfort zone,
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  you might get some value from this session.
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  Just remember though, that this session was created for an
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  individual. Some of those suggestions might
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  be perfect for them and not quite right for you, so bear
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  that in mind as you listen to this.
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  And if you do like the idea of working with me directly to have
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  a bespoke session, then check out my website adamcox.co.uk or
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  look in the description of this podcast and you'll see links
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  there to book a free consultation call.
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  But for now, you might really get some value from this session
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  anyway. So find a quiet, comfortable
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  place, ideally in an environment where you're not going to be
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  distracted or disturbed. Relax and enjoy the session.
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  Take a deep breath in, and as you breathe in, breathe in a
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  feeling of quiet confidence. And as you exhale, build a sense
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  of release of any tension, any stress, any worries.
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  And as you breathe in, imagine breathing in a pure feeling of
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  resourcefulness. And then scan your body for
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  wherever worry or anxiety is hiding.
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  And sometimes it's the head or the chest or the gut.
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  And just allow yourself to give permission for that to be
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  released. Each breath takes you deeper and
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  deeper, relaxed. As your body relaxes, your
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  imagination awakens. And I want you to go back to a
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  memory of a new car. And maybe you picked up that new
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  car from a dealership or maybe maybe it was somewhere else.
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  And I wonder if you can reconnect without feeling of
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  excitement or enthusiasm, a moment where you couldn't wait
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  to drive. And maybe you can remember what
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  the keys look like. Maybe you remember that smell of
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  getting into that car. But I wonder if you can rekindle
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  that feeling, rekindle the feeling of wanting to drive, not
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  because you have to, but because you wanted to.
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  You were choosing to. And maybe you can think of a
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  time that you wanted to drive at least an hour or more.
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  Maybe it was to see someone or get to somewhere or do something
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  important. Driving wasn't the point.
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  Driving was a means to an end. And sometimes you've driven
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  where it didn't even feel like driving.
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  It just felt like something automatic, effortless.
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  There would have been times when you were driving when your mind
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  needed to solve a problem and you were so focused on that
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  driving was almost something that barely registered on your
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  radar. I want you to connect with
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  feelings of exciting driving, fun driving, enthusiastic
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  driving, but also mundane, pragmatic driving.
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  Autopilot. Driving.
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  Imagine yourself behind the steering wheel during that
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  pragmatic, mundane, dare I say it, boring driving.
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  And just imagine while you're in that state, the driving doesn't
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  need effort or too much concentration or focus.
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  Just imagine you see a slip Rd. still connect without feeling of
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  not enthusiastic confidence, but that pragmatic confidence.
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  You just know how to do this, enjoying the slip Rd. that feeds
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  into a motorway. And I want you to imagine this
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  motorway is fast moving traffic and that's fine.
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  And when you? Feel comfortable driving on the.
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  Motorway of this fast moving traffic, let me know by nodding
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  your head. That's it.
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  And then just imagine the traffic continues at the same
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  speed, it just gets busier. And you've had that many times.
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  Stretches of Rd. that were empty and then certain junctions at
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  certain times of the day make things busier.
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  It's still fast moving. So imagine feeling that
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  pragmatic confidence as this motorway is fast moving and
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  busy. And just imagine the weather
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  changes as it often does. Blue skies turn cloudy, cloud
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  howdy turns rainy. Just imagine feeling that
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  boring, mundane confidence of driving on a busy motorway
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  surrounded by cars but perhaps big lorries.
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  Imagine the windscreen wipers going back and forward and
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  you're more interested on what music is playing, what you're
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  going to do when you get to your destination.
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  That even if there is traffic and lorries and rain, you're in
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  a dialogue. It's like, So what?
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  I can handle this just like I have done so many times before.
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  And then you imagine it gets windier, really windy, so windy
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  you see those lorries swaying a bit.
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  And it doesn't bother you because you evaluate just how
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  much space there is between the vehicles.
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  Even if they sway, who cares? There's more than enough space
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  on this motorway for everyone. Imagine seeing that there's a
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  stretch without a hard shoulder. And just imagine thinking that
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  even if you needed to pull over, the lack of a hard shoulder
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  doesn't make it that much more challenging.
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  Because in. Spaces on motorways without a
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  hard shoulder. The cameras are constantly
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  checked if someone breaks down there.
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  On a space, on a motorway, without a hard shoulder, there
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  is instant assistance provided. Not that you would need to, but
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  even if something happened, you are minutes away from help.
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  You choose the speed that you travel, the lane you travel in,
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  the music you listen to, but more importantly, what you focus
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  on. Where focus goes, energy flows.
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  Imagine feeling the looseness of your hands on the steering
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  wheel, sending a message to yourself.
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  You can be relaxed when driving. Imagine tapping your feet on the
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  fingers on the steering wheel to the rhythm of whatever music is
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  playing, sending a message to yourself.
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  The driving is a low stakes activity.
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  The fact that you're driving alone just means that you can
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  have the music on as loud as you want.
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  You can play whatever music you want without thinking of other
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  tastes in the same car. And when you can connect that
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  feeling of empowered choices on that busy motorway in the wind
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  and the rain and the fast moving track traffic, just let me know
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  by nodding your head. That's it.
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  I want you to get a sense that I'm feeling confident, calm, and
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  that pragmatic, mundane confidence.
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  In the worst conditions, your brain feels like you are
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  recalibrating what it takes to make driving challenging.
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  Imagine staying on that same motorway, seeing the motorways
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  merge into one, seeing a contraflow.
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  And I want you to think of so many areas of your life where
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  anything that becomes more challenging makes it more fun
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  and more interesting. Connect to that thing that if
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  it's too easy, it feels too boring.
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  This isn't about anxiety, it's about stimulation.
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  And maybe play a game with yourself when your focus is on
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  something else. Your emotion reflects it.
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  If you look for bad weather conditions, if you look for
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  confining traffic, your body will react if you look for open
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  spaces, if you look for unusual cars, strange colours, if you
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  think of those childhood games used to play in a car.
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  Perhaps you can recall that time was distorted.
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  The game of I Spy meant that that one hour journey felt
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  shorter. And then just imagine the
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  conditions improve. The dark clouds make everything
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  lighter by going away. The rain stops, just imagine the
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  traffic gets lighter, still fast moving and just feel that sense
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  of freedom, liberation and choice on the open Rd.
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  And then just imagine. You see a sign.
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  This motorway you're imagining just in your imagination has a
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  slip Rd. a junction that joins a local dual carriageway close to
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  you. This may not happen in reality.
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  It doesn't have to. You get to decide how you think
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  of it. And going from that fast moving
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  motorway to that dual carriageway.
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  Notice how relaxed you feel. This feels like a walk in the
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  park. This feels well within your
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  comfort zone. This feels manageable, doable.
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  It feels almost too easy. And I want you to imagine
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  setting yourself the challenge of going up this dual carriage
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  way to a particular junction and then turning around and going
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  back in the opposite direction, up and down.
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  And maybe it's two junctions or 4 junctions or more.
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  And I want you to imagine you set yourself the challenge to
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  keep driving up and down that dual carriage way.
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  Not until you feel confident, accomplished, or proud, but
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  until you feel bored and frustrated.
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  You've gone up and down this dual carriage way so many times.
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  With no reason to do it other than to get this feeling of
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  boredom. And I want you to imagine maybe
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  it's five times up and down, or 7 or 9 or 11 or 20.
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  Just imagine all different conditions, weather, traffic up
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  and down this dual carriageway. You know the one.
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  Imagine driving alone and I wonder how many times you would
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  have to imagine doing that until you're bored and just want to
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  return home. So keep on imagining doing that
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  until that feeling of driving, that stretch feels boring and
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  pointless. That's the finishing line.
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  That's when that House of Cards really starts crumbling down and
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  when you can imagine feeling bored, frustrated, a feeling of
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  I don't need to do this anymore, that you face down, that
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  nemesis, it's lost all power over you.
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  When that feeling comes up, let me know by nodding your head
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  and you can distort time in your imagination.
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  A 15 minute stretch of Rd. can be 15 seconds.
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  Keep on. Imagine going up and down,
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  seeing those familiar signposts, landmarks, sign.
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  That's it. Feel that boredom.
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  Embrace the boredom. That's what success feels like.
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  And then imagine it's the following day and you need to go
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  down that stretch of Rd. Notice how it feels not just
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  slightly within your comfort zone, but well within it.
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  Imagine 234 weeks go by and imagine a journey that requires
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  that and you don't even think about the driving part.
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  It almost feels like you've teleported to your destination
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  because the driving was done on autopilot.
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  No stress, no anxiety, no worries, just doing what your
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  brain already knows how to do. I want you to feel that every
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  journey that you do is either reminding yourself that you can
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  do it or recalibrating your comfort zone.
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  You can claim your wins, and even if there are echoes of
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  anxiety, that simply desensitizes you to the same
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  thing so that the next time is easier than the last.
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  Whatever happens, the trajectory is moving towards a future when
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  nothing phases you. That's it.
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  So connect to that feeling and then imagine leaving that
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  stretch of that dual carriageway while feeling bored and driving
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  back to your home. Just imagine that as you hear
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  the sound of that car door closing, when you put the keys
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  in the location you put them, notice how good it feels to feel
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  like you're on the other side of that barrier.
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  What once was the resistance now becomes the foundation.
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  It's time to return to the present, taking all of these new
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  thoughts, ideas, and. Associations with you.
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  So take a deep breath in through your nose and out through your
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  nose. Just wiggle your fingers, wiggle
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  your toes, connect and calibrate into the here and the now as I
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  now count from 1:00 to 10:00 to awaken you.
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  Starting to count 123 waking up 456 more alert 7-8.
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  Open your eyes, open your eyes, 910.
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  Wide awake, wide awake, wide awake.
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